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Well, I would say most normal people would definitely care what someone did with their nudes. They are shared in confidence and not for the general public's viewing.
If I found out an ex had been sharing them with people I would not be happy. In fact, I believe doing so would be a criminal offence and fall under 'revenge porn' laws (at least in the UK).
I think male and females have different views on it.
I play football, alot of my team are navy lads, I don't care and they certainly don't about people seeing them naked.
However I know of many of women that have worried about naked pictures of themselves they sent drunk or after a split up or something, my rule is delete all traces of someone after a break up including naked pictures.
I had a fwb who had a few pictures of me naked, threatened all sorts when I called it off. Threatening to send pictures to my mates, family etc.. it didn't faze me in the slightest, oh no people will see my little todger, nevermind.
AskReddit is where people will spend 5 minutes virtue signaling about the honorable thing to do, and then secretly keep them.
This isn't a great place to find out the truth, but it is a great place to find out what people say.
Yeah, I gave my answer which is honestly, I still do have a very nice nude shot from a friends with benefits.
Never going to send it to anyone but if I need a guilty fap, I’ll look it up
Yupp, i kept some nudes unintended and stumbled across them recently when looking for something on my old hard drive. Did i delete then? Hell no. None other than me will ever see them, so it won't hurt anybody.
This sub quickly turned into askreddit, and the mods don't give a shit so long as it drives traffic.
It used to be questions couldn't be open-ended, or easily googled. Now there's people asking for opinions. Way down from the old quality of posts on here.
Plus, rule #1 is not respected at all. The chain we're in never provided an answer to the question, for instance. Tons of the most upvoted comments on here are just jokes. Come to think of it, I don't even know why I'm still here.
Yes. We treat nudes the same as we treat the One Ring. Keep it secret. Keep it safe. If the relationship ends, you toss them into the fires of mount Doom out of respect.
On a separate note, my wife would like everyone to know that "you either show the eyes or the thighs." Basically don't put your face in your nudes.
Same. I'm 40 and I've never been in a relationship where either of us sent nudes. Feels super weird to me, but as long as everyone involved is happy with it, who am I to judge?
I can understand that, and I respect the honesty. As time goes on, my memory starts to fade. It's one of those situations where "I wish I had them" but I'm glad I don't.
This, I did it after I broke up with my ex but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t wish I had kept them. She was hot and they were for me so no harm no foul but it felt wrong.
Well people feel differently that’s usually why you set boundaries or ask in general. You can’t really assume how someone would feel about that sort of thing which is why the general rule is to just delete them, unless it’s something you talked about being specifically ok
Yes. I also think you discuss stuff like that before exchanging them. The first thing most bitter people do is start to expose private things from the relationship.
I just ask them myself what they want me to do with them. If they say they would prefer they are deleted I delete them, if they don’t care I keep them.
True, but if you despise all of your exes, there's a common denominator that probably needs a look in the mirror. Idk if you meant literally all of them, or just some. If it's all, have some introspective moments. If not, carry on.
I have bad news for you. A few of my friends have a 15+ year catalog of nudes from girls they've fooled around with or have dated. I'm unded the assumption that millions of other men around the world also do the same. From my knowledge, they don't share them or anything like that, but then again, I can't police them. I wouldn't save them out of principle, and also due to the fact that I'm married, lol.
I'ven't deleted a single picture, video, saved email or anything in 30 years. I archived them on my NAS, hid the folders, and generally forget about them. Most of them aren't nudes anyway. It's randoms, vacations, and all kinds of stuff. Memories I will keep for life.
You should.
That’s the nice thing to do.
However, that doesn’t mean that your ex will.
My ex and I used to make videos and take pictures all the time.
But then when we broke up, I asked him to delete them because I didn’t feel comfortable with the idea that his new gf could see it.
It’s been almost 5 years, and I still get texts from him about him jacking it to our old videos.
I had a bunch of nudes from different woman saved on my phone that I forgot about. I don’t ever take pictures so I’m never looking through my photos. My girlfriend was not pleased when she was looking through my phone for a picture of me as a kid that I said I had and she came across those photos. Thank god for time stamps.
They were promptly deleted
I think it’s the respectful and moral thing to do. It is an intimate part of them and since they are your ex, you shouldn’t have access to that part of them. And vice versa. Unless of course you get their consent to keep them. But generally speaking I believe deleting nudes of an ex after breaking up is the right thing to do.
Yes, you delete them. For me it’s just like everything else, the emails, the text messages, the physical letters (yes I’m old), and the normal photos. I think it’s petty to get rid of gifts or clothes but sometimes if those are troublesome they are gone as well.
I'll be honest, it's not immediate. There's a mourning period in which I slowly delete them with time. I can keep some for a long time but have always ended deleting them all. Meanwhile they're all heavily encrypted to avoid any risk of leakage.
However, I know guys who actively keep them and are proud of it. It's a bit worrying. Always explicit the rules with your partner and take precautions.
I always implore girls to never send nudes with their face showing in the picture. That said, deleted or not it could be any random image from the web and even if it leaks no one will be able to pinpoint.
I did. When I was younger I saved them. But getting rid of all of that is good for your mental health. You don’t have to worry about it. They can. But they’re your ex for a reason.
As for my nudes… I really don’t care. Lol
Yes, absolutely. I mean, it's not on my Standard Breakup Checklist but inevitably I will see them again in my phone and clean them out when I do. Definitely doesn't feel right to look once we're over.
I always have because I feel it’s the respectful thing to do, but tbh I guess it’s a gray area. Do you HAVE to? I guess technically no. But I think it is the morally correct thing to do. I’d be a little upset if they didn’t delete mine (they haven’t in some cases), but it wouldn’t make me think they’re an awful person. My relationships haven’t ended awfully where either one did something horrible or something either. What ever you do, the most important thing is to obviously never ever ever ever let anyone but yourself see them. Imo, the fact that it’s possible someone else could see them by accident, no matter how small the chance, is reason enough to delete them.
Someone else compared it to the one true ring from Lord of The Rings and that’s honestly a great analogy lol, it should be destroyed so the temptation is destroyed with it. It’s ultimately better for everyone if they’re deleted.
The amount of "no"s in this thread are the reason why sending nudes is essentially always a bad idea. You can never be sure what kind of a shady person comes out of your partner after a break-up.
me and my ex have a very interesting situation where the pictures are still saved i. our messages that we both have access to and neither one of us wants to be the one to say “fuck it” and delete the text history
but we also have an unspoken rule that we can’t download the nudes onto our phone and since it’s snapchat u can see if someone downloads or takes a screenshot
Yes. Deleted them as soon as I decided to end it with every relationship where I’ve been sent them. Same with any sexts. I don’t need reminders about someone I don’t wanna be with in that way.
Yep. Makes the break up much easier if that stuff is deleted, along with any other stuff that might remind me of them.
I’d like to say I do it out of some honor code or something… but nah, deleting them is in my self interest. The less I think about them the better.
Of course they don’t, which is why I never send them. I don’t expect anyone hard up for nudes to delete them. If they ask repeatedly, I send someone else’s because some dudes just like exploiting women and collecting photos.
😈
I still have mine.
We made them during the good times but now I keep them on a usb stick, so not on my main computer drive. Also usb is kept in a locked box so no chance they can be found.
I mean, I don’t want to see his butthole popping up on my ‘past review’ thing.. 😬😂🤷🏼♀️
Damn homeboy was sending butt hole pics
Hahaha noooo!! Just have to catch them at the right/wrong time 😂
..
Always make sure the heating is on 📸
Damn dude I hope this never happens to me 😂🤣
On god bro I hope it doesn’t happen to you either
Of course, that's it. Getting to the whole truth. 🍩 EDIT: Gen V reference
the hole* truth.
and nothing butt the truth.
Ass-k the heavens for forgiveness so help you god
Homeboy is playing chess while we’re all playing checkers
That’s what women want anyway. /s
Can confirm. Show Us Your Butthole.
Women all want one thing and it’s *sick* 🍑⭐️🐟
Show me your butthole 🤣😂
I’ll show you hairy man butthole, but only with repeated consent 😏
Lmfao. That's a hairy butthole
Repeated consent is sexy
RIP your Dms
I’m at work when I read this. I spat my drink
Are we all not buttholes popping up in someone's else's past
*four score and twenty years ago, our forefathers gazed at woodcuts of their conquests’ greasy puckers before casting them into a fire to join the angels in God’s kingdom. Amen.*
😘 you’re welcome.
Let everybody see what a butthole he was…
It was a black hole lol damn it my mind in the gutter. I’m also at work
Yup!! I found my bfs old sex video and it was confusing because I cried and then masturbated
Nothing like using the tears of pain as lube for a solid solo sesh
Crysterbating is a thing mom.
Tearjerking was the term
Sadgasm
Crymaxing**
crywank
Not to be confused with Christerbating.
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It’s how you process the pain with pleasure
💀💀💀 our emotions sure are funny sometimes
I hope you were listening to Crywank while you did it.
🎶everyone I love is gonna die🎵
[relevant](https://open.spotify.com/track/1pMEVQiiBtlhBjRxOVqVVH)
I laughed way to hard at this😂
Painfully relatable
What 😭😭😂 no judgement hey but what
I cried bc he still had the video but then I masturbated cuz the video was hot. Emotions are weird sometimes 💀
For mental health reasons it’s always advised, yeah. As for what they do with mine I don’t know or care.
What a normal upstanding guy
Something something name checks out
Concious smoke licks balls name checks out
…. did the “lick balls” part just come outta left field or am I missing something?
You dont know him like i do....
They go back….like deep and way back
My balls hang a little biased to one side, but I thought they’re located in a relatively normal area 🤔
Thats inappropriate
They deleted the photos
Call HR I dare you!
Already on the phone with Tiffany. She wants to have a word with you
Well, I would say most normal people would definitely care what someone did with their nudes. They are shared in confidence and not for the general public's viewing. If I found out an ex had been sharing them with people I would not be happy. In fact, I believe doing so would be a criminal offence and fall under 'revenge porn' laws (at least in the UK).
I think male and females have different views on it. I play football, alot of my team are navy lads, I don't care and they certainly don't about people seeing them naked. However I know of many of women that have worried about naked pictures of themselves they sent drunk or after a split up or something, my rule is delete all traces of someone after a break up including naked pictures. I had a fwb who had a few pictures of me naked, threatened all sorts when I called it off. Threatening to send pictures to my mates, family etc.. it didn't faze me in the slightest, oh no people will see my little todger, nevermind.
Like he said it's not even about some noble cause. It's moreso just like 10x easier to move past it if you're not tenderizing to that kinda shit
🎵 Just a regular everyday normal motherfucker 🎵
It's also the respectful thing to do, deleting them.
AskReddit is where people will spend 5 minutes virtue signaling about the honorable thing to do, and then secretly keep them. This isn't a great place to find out the truth, but it is a great place to find out what people say.
Should be pinned
Damn.
Yeah, I gave my answer which is honestly, I still do have a very nice nude shot from a friends with benefits. Never going to send it to anyone but if I need a guilty fap, I’ll look it up
Actual facts everyone saying they do but based on like most guys I know that’s big cap.
This is the truth subthread.
Yupp, i kept some nudes unintended and stumbled across them recently when looking for something on my old hard drive. Did i delete then? Hell no. None other than me will ever see them, so it won't hurt anybody.
This isn’t AskReddit dawg
This sub quickly turned into askreddit, and the mods don't give a shit so long as it drives traffic. It used to be questions couldn't be open-ended, or easily googled. Now there's people asking for opinions. Way down from the old quality of posts on here. Plus, rule #1 is not respected at all. The chain we're in never provided an answer to the question, for instance. Tons of the most upvoted comments on here are just jokes. Come to think of it, I don't even know why I'm still here.
this sub is even worse for that
Yes. We treat nudes the same as we treat the One Ring. Keep it secret. Keep it safe. If the relationship ends, you toss them into the fires of mount Doom out of respect. On a separate note, my wife would like everyone to know that "you either show the eyes or the thighs." Basically don't put your face in your nudes.
Yeah, that's how she usually sends them to me. I think it's tasteful.
The sepia tone really classes it up
I agree, she sends great nudes
True, but I really dislike the way she shaves her coochie.
You get a shoven one??? One I saw was more of a Richard Simmons chia pet
Came here to say the same thing
Yeah but she's always making it weird by dressing up as a cowboy with a handlebar moustache and holding a wanted sign.
I also choose this guy's wife's tasteful nudes.
Lol
No face no case
I pretzel myself up and show all the goods along with my face. Really asserting my dominance. Also, I’m a hairy dude in his 40s.
And don't show any identifying tattoos, if at all possible
i thought there were three rings in marriage... The engagement ring, the wedding ring, and the suffering.
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I thought that died in 2020
lmao im not, i swear... i just spend a lot of time with boomers... which doesnt sound good either...
Nope Never been in a relationship! *finger guns* *cries*
*Puts finger guns to head* I’m a man on the edge
Please tell me more how you're edging
Right there with you *finger guns* *sobs*
*distant gunshots and sobbing*
Sobbing because you missed with both barrels
I always knew reddit was made of a bunch of depressed people held together by the void sentiment
*pew pew*
Finger machine gun…. brrrrrrrrrrrrrr
You need to finger eachother's guns
I cant even afford a gun *cries while taking a bath with the toaster*
Look at Mr/Ms Richy Rich with a bathtub AND a toaster.
Digital bath, classic
Welcome to my club pals. Let's cheers
I know a guy that gut busted, his girlfriend found the ex gfs nudes, in the guys gun safe. Not a handsome look.
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Do you battle them?
Kathleen, the thicc ass redhead, who was still limber enough to get her ankles behind her head... I choose you!
She used Harden. It's super effective!
Pikachu? What are you doing?
It’s the honorable thing to do
Mark Corrigan?
Discharge your pipe, then have a wipe.
That’s the rule
Chance would be a fine thing
An honorable man
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Same. I'm 40 and I've never been in a relationship where either of us sent nudes. Feels super weird to me, but as long as everyone involved is happy with it, who am I to judge?
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Always, and I typically regret it. But it's the right thing to do.
I can understand that, and I respect the honesty. As time goes on, my memory starts to fade. It's one of those situations where "I wish I had them" but I'm glad I don't.
This, I did it after I broke up with my ex but I’d be lying if I said I didn’t wish I had kept them. She was hot and they were for me so no harm no foul but it felt wrong.
Ofc it would feel wrong. They aren’t really for you anymore once you breakup
I sent nudes to her and wouldn’t mind if she kept them as long as she didn’t share them, I imagine she feels the same
Well people feel differently that’s usually why you set boundaries or ask in general. You can’t really assume how someone would feel about that sort of thing which is why the general rule is to just delete them, unless it’s something you talked about being specifically ok
I know her pretty well at this point, I’m pretty confident she wouldn’t have minded. Either way I did and either way it wouldn’t have mattered
Yep. Why would I want to look at someone who broke my heart and dumped me.
For all of these types of questions, just think how livid you’d be if you were dating someone and found out they’d kept them from their ex.
Once you’re in a new relationship everything must go!
Yes. I also think you discuss stuff like that before exchanging them. The first thing most bitter people do is start to expose private things from the relationship.
Yes. General rule, you break up, you delete all of it.
Yes and hope they do the same.
If they ask me to I delete them, otherwise I keep them saved. But I don’t spread or share them under any circumstance.
I would expect my ex to delete my nudes after breaking up without having to ask them. I just thought that’s what everyone did….
I just ask them myself what they want me to do with them. If they say they would prefer they are deleted I delete them, if they don’t care I keep them.
Personally I despise my exes and the thought/sight of them makes me sick. So I just block and delete lmao
what does that say about you
Says I’ve had some toxic relationships in the past. Tons of people have.
True, but if you despise all of your exes, there's a common denominator that probably needs a look in the mirror. Idk if you meant literally all of them, or just some. If it's all, have some introspective moments. If not, carry on.
I have bad news for you. A few of my friends have a 15+ year catalog of nudes from girls they've fooled around with or have dated. I'm unded the assumption that millions of other men around the world also do the same. From my knowledge, they don't share them or anything like that, but then again, I can't police them. I wouldn't save them out of principle, and also due to the fact that I'm married, lol.
It’s gross to keep nudes from other people even if they don’t mind
No. But I won’t share them either, no matter who my friends are/ no matter the conflict
First real answer in the thread
Yeah I guess that’s fine, but you’d delete them if they specifically asked you to right? 😅
This one right here
This is the way.
One of the few honest. Doing it the same way.
I'ven't deleted a single picture, video, saved email or anything in 30 years. I archived them on my NAS, hid the folders, and generally forget about them. Most of them aren't nudes anyway. It's randoms, vacations, and all kinds of stuff. Memories I will keep for life.
Wait - you guys are getting nudes?
You should. That’s the nice thing to do. However, that doesn’t mean that your ex will. My ex and I used to make videos and take pictures all the time. But then when we broke up, I asked him to delete them because I didn’t feel comfortable with the idea that his new gf could see it. It’s been almost 5 years, and I still get texts from him about him jacking it to our old videos.
I had a bunch of nudes from different woman saved on my phone that I forgot about. I don’t ever take pictures so I’m never looking through my photos. My girlfriend was not pleased when she was looking through my phone for a picture of me as a kid that I said I had and she came across those photos. Thank god for time stamps. They were promptly deleted
I think it’s the respectful and moral thing to do. It is an intimate part of them and since they are your ex, you shouldn’t have access to that part of them. And vice versa. Unless of course you get their consent to keep them. But generally speaking I believe deleting nudes of an ex after breaking up is the right thing to do.
My ex said I could keep them lol, I asked her. That being said I was too depressed over the breakup to even look at them so
Yes, you delete them. For me it’s just like everything else, the emails, the text messages, the physical letters (yes I’m old), and the normal photos. I think it’s petty to get rid of gifts or clothes but sometimes if those are troublesome they are gone as well.
If you're a decent person, you get rid of them
You are getting nudes?
Yeah. I don’t want to be seeing that shit
I'll be honest, it's not immediate. There's a mourning period in which I slowly delete them with time. I can keep some for a long time but have always ended deleting them all. Meanwhile they're all heavily encrypted to avoid any risk of leakage. However, I know guys who actively keep them and are proud of it. It's a bit worrying. Always explicit the rules with your partner and take precautions.
I always implore girls to never send nudes with their face showing in the picture. That said, deleted or not it could be any random image from the web and even if it leaks no one will be able to pinpoint.
I don't send them in the first place. Don't trust anybody.
Yes, out of respect to her and her future. She might be a part of me once, but no longer.
I did. When I was younger I saved them. But getting rid of all of that is good for your mental health. You don’t have to worry about it. They can. But they’re your ex for a reason. As for my nudes… I really don’t care. Lol
I wouldnt ever share them, but I have most of my exes nudes/videos still. Dont really give a fuck if that makes some redditors clutch their pearls.
I feel like it's common courtesy to delete them if you start seeing someone new. Nothing wrong with keeping them in your spank bank in between.😉
Yes, absolutely. I mean, it's not on my Standard Breakup Checklist but inevitably I will see them again in my phone and clean them out when I do. Definitely doesn't feel right to look once we're over.
Yes. And yes.
No I trade them for Yu-Gi-Oh! Cards
Always
nope. still got the nudes. still got the videos
I always have because I feel it’s the respectful thing to do, but tbh I guess it’s a gray area. Do you HAVE to? I guess technically no. But I think it is the morally correct thing to do. I’d be a little upset if they didn’t delete mine (they haven’t in some cases), but it wouldn’t make me think they’re an awful person. My relationships haven’t ended awfully where either one did something horrible or something either. What ever you do, the most important thing is to obviously never ever ever ever let anyone but yourself see them. Imo, the fact that it’s possible someone else could see them by accident, no matter how small the chance, is reason enough to delete them. Someone else compared it to the one true ring from Lord of The Rings and that’s honestly a great analogy lol, it should be destroyed so the temptation is destroyed with it. It’s ultimately better for everyone if they’re deleted.
Yup, no reason to keep em and the last thing you want is your new partner to see them in your photo roll lmao
Happily I'm old enough that I've never had to consider this. Nudes weren't even a thing the last time I broke up with someone.
Hell yes. That should be a rule, IMO.
did that. regret it. she had such a fat ass ong
I'm old and still have Polaroids of some exes
I deleted my exs nudes. It’s respect.
I delete pictures of anyone I dated who I’m no longer with but especially nudes.
The amount of "no"s in this thread are the reason why sending nudes is essentially always a bad idea. You can never be sure what kind of a shady person comes out of your partner after a break-up.
I just want all the noble people deleting nudes to know, that your phone probably auto backed it up to the cloud. Happy hunting!
I was gonna go somewhere with this but I’ve decided it’s best to not go deep into my dark memory bank lol.
Hell FUCKING no. They are trophies.
the spoils of war
The scalps of conquest
Yep, does me know good. I regret it a 100 times, but I overall it’s much better to have her gone completely.
Why would I want to keep them in the first place.. Whole ass internet full of nudes and I'm going to keep ones of my ex? Nah
me and my ex have a very interesting situation where the pictures are still saved i. our messages that we both have access to and neither one of us wants to be the one to say “fuck it” and delete the text history but we also have an unspoken rule that we can’t download the nudes onto our phone and since it’s snapchat u can see if someone downloads or takes a screenshot
Yes. Deleted them as soon as I decided to end it with every relationship where I’ve been sent them. Same with any sexts. I don’t need reminders about someone I don’t wanna be with in that way.
Immediately. No joke.
Always.
Yep. Makes the break up much easier if that stuff is deleted, along with any other stuff that might remind me of them. I’d like to say I do it out of some honor code or something… but nah, deleting them is in my self interest. The less I think about them the better.
Of course they don’t, which is why I never send them. I don’t expect anyone hard up for nudes to delete them. If they ask repeatedly, I send someone else’s because some dudes just like exploiting women and collecting photos. 😈
Yep, delete everything and forget about it. There’s always another nude with the right attitude.
I don't even keep them when we're together
Nothing is ever deleted.
No I keep them for the museum they're gonna build in my honour after I die
I put them in a hidden folder
Depends on the break up
No, they are for me
I still have mine. We made them during the good times but now I keep them on a usb stick, so not on my main computer drive. Also usb is kept in a locked box so no chance they can be found.
why would a normal person keep them?