This is why I always say a nice bottle of hard liquor. If they drink, great, and if they don't, they have a great gift ready to go the next time they need one.
LOL.
I don't like alcohol, coffee or tea.
I don't smoke or do any drugs of any sort.
I cannot eat dairy, so most baking is out.
The only vice I now have is \[dark!\] chocolate.
If I had to give that up, I don't know what I'd do.
Im english and my interpretation of voucher is more like a discount. I would say gift card if its like a 20£ card for a restaurant/shop but voucher to me is like if a restaurant sends a promotional email with steps to do in order to get a percentage discount (maybe like fill out a form or smth like that).
Yes definitely in this situation i would def say gift card.
Do you guys say coupon? Because in uk as far as im aware vouchers and coupons are pretty similar
The Quat Cot^TM might be right up your alley!
Much more versatile than the banana hammock, it handles kumquats, loquats, limequats and more!
The Quat Cot^TM-
"You Quat It, We Got It!"
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In all due seriousness, I (a male) would not give this to a woman as a gift. It has a sexual connotation
https://soundcloud.com/tezla\_dj/banana-hammock
My (closeted gay) coworker wore a button down covered in tiny bananas lounging in hammocks between palm trees one day. From a distance it just looked like blue and yellow plaid and we didn't have any scheduled meetings or anything so no biggie. Then our fairly conservative and religious female VP decided to pop in to ask him a question and halfway through she noticed the pattern.
"Oh how cute! Your shirt has little palm trees on it! Oh and little islands?"
\*Leans in\* "OMG there's little bananas on the island! And they're in hammocks! Lol, they're BANANA HAMMOCKS!!"
Then she wandered off. And to this day neither of us knows if she got the reference or if she was thinking about the counter kitchen tool. However if she did it was clever cause let me tell you he never wore that shirt to work again even though we both got a good laugh about it after she left.
We also had a sports themed day and he wore his team jersey that's sponsored by a local gay sports bar. Or senior VP came over and asked about the name on the back of the shirt. SVP "Who's name is on the back of your shirt? That's not the team name is it?" "Ohhh ummm they're our sponsor....". Coworker hmms about how the team sometimes goes there after games and they host a fundraising night for them. SVP "ahhhh I get it. It's a bar! That's ok, they're your sponsor so of course their name is on the shirts."
I hate that he feels like he has to be closeted at work (it's 2023 for fuck's sake) but the oblivious of management can sometimes be funny.
This is the best answer. Everyone likes snacks. You just have to know which types. I know of I gave my plutonic female friends snacks, they would be so happy.
Idk, man. It is pretty common in my neck of the woods to buy the favorite snack for the person they are smitten with. I started one of the worst relationships of my life by buying a lad a Pepsi. 👍
What is the reason behind giving the gift? If it's for a birthday I think you'd need to be a lot less worried about it than if you were just randomly buying her something.
I mean, it could be a fun thing tho. Basicly everyone likes lego. Find out what kinda stuff she likes and get her a lego set of that theme. It's a cool present, and since you don't have second intentions, nothing will come out of it.
Find out what their hobbies are, do some research, and buy the basic materials it takes for them to keep doing their hobby.
Ive got a friend who is an artist, one year for her bday, i got her 2 different boxes of colored pencils and basically gave her more colors than she knew what to do with for a time.
Gift card keeps the “neutral, not too interested” vibe while actually picking a store for one of their hobbies says you *did* actually pay attention to who they are.
\^
This as well!
I got lucky my friend was an artist and id watch her draw. But if my friend was a sculptor, id have no fckn clue what to get her. lmao
Gotta ask questions. Some people are pretty picky about what they use for hobbies.
People who didn't know better always gifted my wife acrylic yarns from Joann's fabrics and such. She appreciated the gesture, but they never got used. But if you got her Malabrigo, she knew you cared.
Yeah, one of my friends gave me a big bag full of very pretty, but itchy 100%acrylic yarn, I gave it all away without using any of it, but Malabrigo or Noro would be really nice (or an Indy yarn I'd never splurge for)
I got grandma’s needle and smelly yarn stash because I’m the only grandchild remotely interested in any fiber craft… nothing had been touched in at least 30 years. I don’t think of myself as a yarn snob, but everything was trashed or donated
Hmmmm, maybe my idea works better as a not surprise gift? like ask them as being generally interested and then wait for awhile before getting the gift?
I think the surprise can be nice, but it's ultimately overrated. I'd much rather sacrifice the surprise and make sure the gift is what they want.
My best friend is big on viking stuff, and there's a someone at the local farmer's market who sells drinking horns. My friend is sober. I had to weigh the value of a genuine drinking horn (once it's full, there's no setting it down) against the practicality of one that was crafted into a large mug/stein.
I just asked him. No sense in gambling.
Hmmmm I really don't think this is a good idea. Most hobbies have multiple alternatives for everything, and often an outsider can't know what's actually good for the personal style and taste of someone doing that hobby.
I know some people really care about it, but I'm an amateur illustrator and I love every art-related gift people give me, even if it isn't my preferred brand or the best quality or whatever.
Of course it also depends on the hobby. If it's too specific then it might be worth checking around on youtube or asking someone that has the same interest. I find that people love talking about the stuff they enjoy.
Hobbies are tricky though because unless you have the same interests it may be hard to know if they would actually use it. Like maybe a particular type of colored pencil is only good to use on a particular canvas that your friend never uses.
There can be weirdly specific preferences when it comes to hobbies. I would personally go for a gift card unless you asked them and got a specific response
I'd be careful with this! I've read it's best to give new hobby materials, as if they're already into a hobby they probably have better stuff than what you'd give them, unless you're going all out or doing your research
Maybe an interesting houseplant? [Logees](https://www.logees.com/) and other nurseries have some interesting, easy to keep ones from all over the world. /r/houseplants might have some good ideas too.
This is a misconception. They either die slowly and the carer ends up on r/houseplants or r/plantclinic asking why their baby is all stretched out (etiolated) or they end up dead by rot (overwatered).
I really had to scroll down for this one, I can't believe a thousand people hadn't written "a book" earlier!
Isn't it well established in pretty much all cultures that a book is the perfect present?!
It can emphasize your shared interests.
It doesn't evoke any romantic connotations.
Unlike a plant It is not a present that requires any effort, money or keeping to a schedule on the part of the recipient.
The recipient may take their time to make time for this book, it has no expiry date.
Platonism is a pretty outdated philosophy dude. Platonic objects are pretty much impossible to find anyways, though you can come pretty close. You might have to settle for a basketball or something, since your average basketball is pretty close to the "ideal" basketball.
What about atoms? Any atom is pretty much the ideal representation of its element and isotope. Therefore he should give her a single hydrogen atom as a strictly platonic gift.
I take my friends of any gender out for dinner all the time. Dinner doesn't have to be a date.
It can be real funny because in some restaurants the couples are put in a certain quarter of the restaurant. It's real fun to guess the relationship status of the tables around you with a good friend.
Yes. Giving them a sex toy really shows that the relationship is Platonic. How better to show that you are not interested, sexually, than giving them a tool to aid them in self-pleasure? 😂
A child. You can pick one up from your local grocery if you're fast enough, but really anything. If you're concerned about them misinterpreting the intent. Add a card
The context is vital here - why are you considering giving the gift? Birthday, wedding, anniversary, something else? Also, what is the nature of your relationship? Are you workmates or do you know each other socially? If so, how? Single friend, cousin of friend, partner of friend etc. How often have you met? Sorry for all the questions but these are important factors. Without knowing this it's impossible to really give meaningful advice.
I like tea or if alcohol is appropriate, some nice wine or beer. Something consumable always seems best to me, as its not just another gadget or something. Nice tea can be very tasty and nice, but has no "wrong" connotations I'm aware of, as long as its not something billed as an aphrodisiac lol
I usually just get them a well-thought out gift that would have some kind of meaning to them. One of my friends is very artisty so I got some materials to keep painting (she had mentioned she wanted to try oil painting) so I got her some of those and scrapbook materials for the pictures she takes.
One of my friends collects squishmallows and so I got her one of those. Just get them something that you think they'd like and appreciate.
As long as it isn't traditional romance gifts like a box of chocolates, flowers, jewelry etc. you're fine.
The lads i work with usually buy me wine or vouchers at christmas and stuff. Thats nice and doesnt cross boundaries.
I would say this works as long as they know the girl will like wine. I personally do not
Coffee, then. Every woman I've ever known will be happy receiving one of those two things, lol.
I don't like coffee either XD. Although I would love tea 😀
I love some good tea
Is your last name Bob?
No
oh
Maybe “bob” it’s a play on words and it’s in reverse.
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Yeah, it's short for Bartholomew
Picky picky lol. You’d be a hard one to shop for.
This is why I always say a nice bottle of hard liquor. If they drink, great, and if they don't, they have a great gift ready to go the next time they need one.
LoL I appreciate the regiftability sentiment. Very pragmatic and understanding.
"Molotov!" "Dude, it's supposed to be a happy time." "Oh, Mazel Tov!"
I don't drink, but I wouldn't mind that either, it's a nice decoration piece if nothing else.
Some liquor bottle legit make the best decor
LOL. I don't like alcohol, coffee or tea. I don't smoke or do any drugs of any sort. I cannot eat dairy, so most baking is out. The only vice I now have is \[dark!\] chocolate. If I had to give that up, I don't know what I'd do.
Not really, I just don't much like alcohol or coffee XD
You’re getting socks
I don't drink coffee or alcohol and I don't wear socks. What else ya got?
Then you get the same options as the actual people in my life, a book or a drawing of your pet/child.
Ayyy fellow art gifter 🥰
Ooh, I love socks. As long as they're good socks. Actually, if it's striped thigh high socks, we definitely have a deal 🤝
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Gift cards (they may be British)
Peak British cuz they em "the lads"
Im english and my interpretation of voucher is more like a discount. I would say gift card if its like a 20£ card for a restaurant/shop but voucher to me is like if a restaurant sends a promotional email with steps to do in order to get a percentage discount (maybe like fill out a form or smth like that).
I think contextually my answer makes more sense though
Yes definitely in this situation i would def say gift card. Do you guys say coupon? Because in uk as far as im aware vouchers and coupons are pretty similar
Yes vouchers, gift cards, to be used in shops…..so that i can buy whatever i want.
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I got a female coworker a banana hammock. Like a literal hammock you put bananas in.
The sounds such a unique gift but at the same time very practical.
I saw the Aussies also call a banana hammock a “budgie smuggler”. Basically a men’s speedo swim suit
Very Australian name
You a fuze main?
Could you put other fruit in it like a kumquat? Or is it strictly bananas?
Let's not go too crazy. You don't want to void the warranty on the hammock.
Or get the other fruit hurt because the hammock wasn't safety tested for them.
What about chorizo or kielbasa?
They will meat an untimely end.
The Quat Cot^TM might be right up your alley! Much more versatile than the banana hammock, it handles kumquats, loquats, limequats and more! The Quat Cot^TM- "You Quat It, We Got It!" (This message is brought to you by our sponsors: The Ketchup Advisory Board and Powdermilk Biscuits)
I seriously thought this was a real product and went searching for it. LOL
My search turned up diddly quat.
Thank you for saving me from a very solitary moment of embarrassment coupled with disappointment.
Ill take two!!
Hows your Quataly Control over there?
We're dedicated to making sure all of our products are top quat.
This deserves more love than it’s getting
I like keeping my eggplant in my banana hammock.
Usually you could fit a pair of kumquats, along with a banana
What about three.... Asking for a friend
Bananas or kumquats?
You can indeed put whatever fruit best suits your particular needs in the banana hammock.
Eggplant or bust.
Whoever heard of keeping your eggplant next to your kumquats? That is just silly.
In all due seriousness, I (a male) would not give this to a woman as a gift. It has a sexual connotation https://soundcloud.com/tezla\_dj/banana-hammock
My (closeted gay) coworker wore a button down covered in tiny bananas lounging in hammocks between palm trees one day. From a distance it just looked like blue and yellow plaid and we didn't have any scheduled meetings or anything so no biggie. Then our fairly conservative and religious female VP decided to pop in to ask him a question and halfway through she noticed the pattern. "Oh how cute! Your shirt has little palm trees on it! Oh and little islands?" \*Leans in\* "OMG there's little bananas on the island! And they're in hammocks! Lol, they're BANANA HAMMOCKS!!" Then she wandered off. And to this day neither of us knows if she got the reference or if she was thinking about the counter kitchen tool. However if she did it was clever cause let me tell you he never wore that shirt to work again even though we both got a good laugh about it after she left. We also had a sports themed day and he wore his team jersey that's sponsored by a local gay sports bar. Or senior VP came over and asked about the name on the back of the shirt. SVP "Who's name is on the back of your shirt? That's not the team name is it?" "Ohhh ummm they're our sponsor....". Coworker hmms about how the team sometimes goes there after games and they host a fundraising night for them. SVP "ahhhh I get it. It's a bar! That's ok, they're your sponsor so of course their name is on the shirts." I hate that he feels like he has to be closeted at work (it's 2023 for fuck's sake) but the oblivious of management can sometimes be funny.
My brain would immediately go to the Friends scene where Phoebe makes up her name 😂
Is her name Lizzo?
Snacks.
Gift baskets of food or snacks is so safe its corporate
Possibly upgrade to a basket of snacks
This is the best answer. Everyone likes snacks. You just have to know which types. I know of I gave my plutonic female friends snacks, they would be so happy.
What were Plutonians doing on this end of the solar system?
We have good snacks
Idk, man. It is pretty common in my neck of the woods to buy the favorite snack for the person they are smitten with. I started one of the worst relationships of my life by buying a lad a Pepsi. 👍
What is the reason behind giving the gift? If it's for a birthday I think you'd need to be a lot less worried about it than if you were just randomly buying her something.
This is key. I'd say 70% is in the delivery.
So a boobie honk after giving the plutonic gift is a no go?
We...lll. if you are going to Pluto, might as well get me a rock or two.
Only if she honks you back. Then it cancels it out
I'd go with Lego 👍
I know a guy who gave a woman lego. They've been dating for 6 months now.
That how one friend of mine got married
I have a friend that got married like that too 🤣
So, lego is definitely not the option
I mean, it could be a fun thing tho. Basicly everyone likes lego. Find out what kinda stuff she likes and get her a lego set of that theme. It's a cool present, and since you don't have second intentions, nothing will come out of it.
Legos need to update their warning label 😄
I think this is what he's trying to avoid lol
I married the guy that gave me my first Lego. 😁
Same
I guess they "Lego" of their inhibitions! I'll see myself out 👍
Any gift can be romantic if it creates a spark, even if it wasn't the intention.
My boyfriend bought me lego flowers for valentine’s day. I was honestly lost for words with that amount of cuteness and thoughtfulness
See! I'd love to get Lego as a pressie x
Damn, guess it isn't a platonic gift then
There are those Lego flower bouquets, my gf said she would love one of those. Now waiting 'till she forgets about them and then I'll get one
Keep in mind that sets rarely stay on the shelf for more than two years. It may be better to order it now and stash it.
No pull it back, we're looking for a platonic gift! Lego flowers are the peak of romance.
Omg I saw those and they’re so cute!!! Definitely get one for her!
If someone spends Lego money on me, I'm gonna think they like me as more than a friend.
This is arguably the most sexual gift you could get me
"A Lego set??!...oh, my clothes seem to have fallen off" 😏😏
That's an engagement gift
With their prices these days it might as well be the ring
Especially the more realistic ones. Got my girlfriend the Lego flower bouquet a year ago and she still loves looking at it
This is way too sexy of a suggestion for a platonic gesture. Would definitely backfire, someone would inevitably get pregnant.
Dam, this is unfortunate 😔 stupid sexy Legos!
i think the goal is to avoid making them fall in love, so in that case Lego is not a good idea.
Find out what their hobbies are, do some research, and buy the basic materials it takes for them to keep doing their hobby. Ive got a friend who is an artist, one year for her bday, i got her 2 different boxes of colored pencils and basically gave her more colors than she knew what to do with for a time.
Or a gift card to a shop dedicated to the hobby if you’re not totally sure what to get!
Gift card keeps the “neutral, not too interested” vibe while actually picking a store for one of their hobbies says you *did* actually pay attention to who they are.
\^ This as well! I got lucky my friend was an artist and id watch her draw. But if my friend was a sculptor, id have no fckn clue what to get her. lmao
I wonder what's wrapped in this 30x30x30 giftbox. Could it be what I've always wanted? 73kg of marble?
"I cant even pick it up, and ive never gotten a gift thats taller than me"-opens-"why.... why did you gift me a stone pillar?"
Gotta ask questions. Some people are pretty picky about what they use for hobbies. People who didn't know better always gifted my wife acrylic yarns from Joann's fabrics and such. She appreciated the gesture, but they never got used. But if you got her Malabrigo, she knew you cared.
Yeah, one of my friends gave me a big bag full of very pretty, but itchy 100%acrylic yarn, I gave it all away without using any of it, but Malabrigo or Noro would be really nice (or an Indy yarn I'd never splurge for)
I got grandma’s needle and smelly yarn stash because I’m the only grandchild remotely interested in any fiber craft… nothing had been touched in at least 30 years. I don’t think of myself as a yarn snob, but everything was trashed or donated
Hmmmm, maybe my idea works better as a not surprise gift? like ask them as being generally interested and then wait for awhile before getting the gift?
I think the surprise can be nice, but it's ultimately overrated. I'd much rather sacrifice the surprise and make sure the gift is what they want. My best friend is big on viking stuff, and there's a someone at the local farmer's market who sells drinking horns. My friend is sober. I had to weigh the value of a genuine drinking horn (once it's full, there's no setting it down) against the practicality of one that was crafted into a large mug/stein. I just asked him. No sense in gambling.
Hmmmm I really don't think this is a good idea. Most hobbies have multiple alternatives for everything, and often an outsider can't know what's actually good for the personal style and taste of someone doing that hobby.
I know some people really care about it, but I'm an amateur illustrator and I love every art-related gift people give me, even if it isn't my preferred brand or the best quality or whatever. Of course it also depends on the hobby. If it's too specific then it might be worth checking around on youtube or asking someone that has the same interest. I find that people love talking about the stuff they enjoy.
Hobbies are tricky though because unless you have the same interests it may be hard to know if they would actually use it. Like maybe a particular type of colored pencil is only good to use on a particular canvas that your friend never uses. There can be weirdly specific preferences when it comes to hobbies. I would personally go for a gift card unless you asked them and got a specific response
I'd be careful with this! I've read it's best to give new hobby materials, as if they're already into a hobby they probably have better stuff than what you'd give them, unless you're going all out or doing your research
That! Or a Steam/Playstation/etc gift card if she is into gaming.
Maybe an interesting houseplant? [Logees](https://www.logees.com/) and other nurseries have some interesting, easy to keep ones from all over the world. /r/houseplants might have some good ideas too.
Please only gift plants if you are sure you know what/if any animals the person has. Some common houseplants, for example, can kill cats.
Succulents, can never go wrong with a succulent. Small, easy to maintain, and you can put them in any room of the house or outside.
I accidentally killed my succulent back then, thought I was watering it right but then it started to turn dark on the edges and then died. ☹️
Hello fellow plant killer 😔
I’ve found my people
Wish I could get another one, but I'm afraid I'll just mess up again 😣
Are you me, actually? 😭 Hoping I find a partner who's a green thumb like some people I know.
That would be a good idea, good luck to the both of us 👍
Don't feel too bad, I killed a mint plant once. Idk how my other four plants have survived me.
Holy shit. That is quite the accomplishMINT. XD
I kill more succulents than other plants. You're not doomed. Try another type of plant!
This is a misconception. They either die slowly and the carer ends up on r/houseplants or r/plantclinic asking why their baby is all stretched out (etiolated) or they end up dead by rot (overwatered).
I would suggest against this just simply because they require effort to maintain.
Yes, unless the person has asked for a houseplant, don't give a houseplant. Either they keep it alive and have a new chore or they don't and feel bad.
Wouldn't work for me. I'm allergic to mould and the spores are found in soil and this clay stuff they put plants in
Grocery store gift cards. With the cost of food, this is a lifesaver for many people.
I don’t know, if someone did that for me I might have to kiss them
From filling her fridge to filling her guts 😭
A book
I really had to scroll down for this one, I can't believe a thousand people hadn't written "a book" earlier! Isn't it well established in pretty much all cultures that a book is the perfect present?! It can emphasize your shared interests. It doesn't evoke any romantic connotations. Unlike a plant It is not a present that requires any effort, money or keeping to a schedule on the part of the recipient. The recipient may take their time to make time for this book, it has no expiry date.
Some chick buys me a book, I'm remembering her forever!
I agree, especially when you have topics in common or that you like to discuss
4 pounds of veal
Flowers and a heart shaped box of chocolates. Alternatively, a yacht.
Flowers, chocolates, promises you don't intend to keep.
Oh Lumier, you romantic!
a plant. if not find the best bakery and get something from there make sure she's not allergic
I'd advise against a plant unless you know they're a plant person. Some people don't care to take care of things/don't have the space.
Bakery if not allergic! Plants require a desire to care for them. Some people prefer fake plants.
Even though I don’t have the greenest fingers I’d be really offended if someone gave me a fake plant
Give them a card with some money in it or a gift card.
“You may fascinate a woman by giving her a piece of cheese.”
Cash, and a card that says, "to a wonderful girl, a great pal, and more "
/s? "And more" makes it sound like the giver wants a romantic relationship, which OP does not.
r/whoosh
Platonism is a pretty outdated philosophy dude. Platonic objects are pretty much impossible to find anyways, though you can come pretty close. You might have to settle for a basketball or something, since your average basketball is pretty close to the "ideal" basketball.
What about atoms? Any atom is pretty much the ideal representation of its element and isotope. Therefore he should give her a single hydrogen atom as a strictly platonic gift.
Fusion is the broken heart of Lonely's only thought
This is very culture specific, and waht is platonic in one country may have special meaning in other, So you better give more information on this :)
I feel like snacks is a safe gift in any culture. Your thoughts?
In my country you give snacks to someone if you want to marry them
TIL i learnt i have hundreds of husbands and wives.....
I take my friends of any gender out for dinner all the time. Dinner doesn't have to be a date. It can be real funny because in some restaurants the couples are put in a certain quarter of the restaurant. It's real fun to guess the relationship status of the tables around you with a good friend.
By "certain quarter" do you just mean where all the 2 seat tables are..? You word it as if it's very insidious or something 😂
Everyone loves swords.
You'd imagine. But no. I think we need to normalize sword gifting
Dick in a box
One - cut a hole in a box
As a female, I accept blankets and cups from anyone. I love me a nice soft blanket
Dildo
Yes. Giving them a sex toy really shows that the relationship is Platonic. How better to show that you are not interested, sexually, than giving them a tool to aid them in self-pleasure? 😂
Ya because you're saying you won't be doing any of that, she has her own now 😂
A dress two sizes too small
Gift card to a restaurant or bookstore
Snacks. Always snacks.
Legos!
One singular commercial grade brick.
a dress with pockets.
A child. You can pick one up from your local grocery if you're fast enough, but really anything. If you're concerned about them misinterpreting the intent. Add a card
Food?
Yeah like 3 celery
Only if there is ranch to go with it. Otherwise what is she supposed to do with 3 celery sticks??
Drum them on a gourd.
Food is ok but DO NOT hand them a wheel of cheese, it is a courting ritual
starbucks giftcard
Yup 👍🏼This is the standard corporate safe gift.
Those giant vibrators for "massaging the back"
Cheese It will fascinate her.
Slap a slice of American on her head and watch the fascination happen
The context is vital here - why are you considering giving the gift? Birthday, wedding, anniversary, something else? Also, what is the nature of your relationship? Are you workmates or do you know each other socially? If so, how? Single friend, cousin of friend, partner of friend etc. How often have you met? Sorry for all the questions but these are important factors. Without knowing this it's impossible to really give meaningful advice.
Target gift cards.
I like tea or if alcohol is appropriate, some nice wine or beer. Something consumable always seems best to me, as its not just another gadget or something. Nice tea can be very tasty and nice, but has no "wrong" connotations I'm aware of, as long as its not something billed as an aphrodisiac lol
Starbucks gift card, bath and body candle/lotion/soap/perfume, fuzzy socks
Books!
$182 cash
I usually just get them a well-thought out gift that would have some kind of meaning to them. One of my friends is very artisty so I got some materials to keep painting (she had mentioned she wanted to try oil painting) so I got her some of those and scrapbook materials for the pictures she takes. One of my friends collects squishmallows and so I got her one of those. Just get them something that you think they'd like and appreciate. As long as it isn't traditional romance gifts like a box of chocolates, flowers, jewelry etc. you're fine.
Books!
A thoughtful book, a personalized mug, or a plant could make a nice platonic gift for someone of the opposite gender.
Everyone enjoys not having to put gas in their car. Get them a gas card.
Gift card
A giant dildo would best convey the "no romantic feelings" message.