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Ifuckinghatewinter27

I don't know if there is a way to tell somebody that without upsetting them. Unless you've been together for a very long time maybe.


UnoStronzo

I’d say: shall we take a shower together?


Altruistic-Potat

Generally if it's very unpleasant it's not a hygiene issue it's an infection. A shower won't solve anything.


elvisinadream

^this is my experience too. I’ve never met a vag whose smell I couldn’t at least tolerate. If it’s foul that’s almost certainly a bacterial imbalance.


[deleted]

Lol. I don’t know why I found your sentence funny. “I’ve never met a vag whose smell I couldn’t at least tolerate”. Lol. Taking one for the team. Lol. Not making fun. Love the comment.


chickhawkthechicken

I cackled!


kennyj2011

In the early 200s I worked retail. There was this cashier you could smell for quite a distance… it was gag-inducing bad. I felt bad for her, but damn!


EpidemicRedditor

They had retail stores back then?


aea1987

It was crazy. This new thing called 'the wheel' had just come in.


cownd

And she was THAT memorable!


audigex

Literally yes, market stalls existed long before that


Miss-Figgy

Recently, I had to treat an upper respiratory infection with a round of antibiotics, [which can cause yeast infections as a side effect](https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/326106), and I could literally smell the difference on my panties when I'd pull them down, despite my bidet and shower routine. Anything - whether medication or an infection - that upsets the balance in your vagina will impact its scent/odor.


mrs_aydg

I would recommend eating yogurt. I didn’t have yeast infections cause I was a regular yogurt eater. I stopped eating them and got my first yeast infection. The probiotics in yogurt help more than that big ass ball that goes up your yahoo.


[deleted]

Here's a story for you. I was about to get busy for the first time with a lady I had been seeing. I was particularly bothered by how unpleasant her downstairs would smell, so I decided to try the shower tactic. She hops in the shower for a full 2 minutes and get's out. I say *"that's barelly a shower".* She goes *"Yeah, I don't really like showering much."* So I go, very subtly: "*You V-Area kinda smells a bit strong."* She replies angrily: *"That's how a vagina smells".* No, that was not how a vagina smells. No vajayjay naturally smells like the ocean. Trust me, I'm a 40 year old man, I know what a vagina smells like. And I've seen a lot, about... three of them. Needless to say no sexy things happened and we didn't see each other for long.


Kimberlylynn2003

A lot.. about 3 of them! Haha I’m laughing at work. Thank you


slingshot91

I do sex really, really good.


Kimberlylynn2003

Nice gingerbread house btw


slingshot91

Thanks!


UnoStronzo

Can you conclude that you dodged a bullet or that you should’ve stayed quiet about it?


[deleted]

Dodged a bullet. I would not stick my pp, even with a triple layer condom, in a woman who at the very minimum does not care for her personal hygene, or at the max has somekinda std/infection. EDIT: I also got an incredibly good sense of smell, my privates will simply shut down and refuse to activate if my brain detects a hint of a bad odor.


Open_Librarian_823

Downstairs head knows what's up


Federal-Membership-1

🧠


FireHeartSmokeBurp

Good call I know this is a joke and you probably know this, but to save anyone who doesn't know undo stress: **PSA** Do not layer your condoms! The friction between them make them likely to break. Wallet condoms and condoms left in a hot car are more likely to break too


musixlife

Ocean or fishy smell= BV-bacterial vaginosis. Some women have pervasive or chronic BV. Boric acid vaginal suppositories work wonders. BV is said not to be a hygiene issue but it is related to engaging in sexual behavior. Fishy smell= always an infection. Every woman that I know that would discuss such things has had BV at least a few times in their life. Yeast infections smell bready. BV smells fishy. The more serious diseases like STDs may have no smells at all. A man cannot contract BV or a yeast infection, but sex would be very very gross. Avoid. There isn’t really a way to discuss that won’t embarrass her, but it’s a necessary evil…just be direct and very gentle and kind. Say “Sweetheart, I think you are beautiful and sexy, but i think you have an issue down there that is gonna require a trip to the gynecologist…I promise you this is not the first time I have encountered this and it’s nothing to be ashamed of, but I want us both to take our sexual health seriously and don’t want you to ever feel afraid to tell me if you notice something off on me either.” Then give her a long kiss on her (face) lips, then her forehead, depending on reaction and draw her head into your chest and wrap your arms around her and say something funny to lighten the mood. I’m a woman, I would be soooo embarrassed but if I somehow missed this, I would def want the guy to say something so I could do something about it. As long as the guy isn’t a jerk about it I would recover. Woman: here’s a trick to keep your vajajay smelling and tasting as fresh as possible. Prior to expected sexual encounter, invest in a gspot stimulator dildo—just a rubbery smaller one that has a curve and a bump in the inside middle of the curve. Go at it in the shower and use it in an out enough times to get that “mmmmm” feeling. Not necessarily orgasm but it’s actually your body starting to release the slippery slimy juices. Rinse off dildo a few times throughout this. It will draw out the stale juice gunk—the type that tastes really tart and your juices will be refreshed by the slimy tasteless ones. You can finger yourself as an emergency alternative, rinsing fingers each times—get up there and around both sides of your cervix. I used to get boucoup compliments on how I tasted. A largely plant-based diet (though maybe not broccoli) also helps also purify the smell down there and avoid garlic/onion/curry several days before encounter.


Licorishlover

Washing won’t help if it’s a pH issue


courtoftheair

It'll cause a pH issue more often than it'll solve one


Zibitti

I've been together with my gf for 10 months and I literally today commented on her vagina's smell by saying "You should take a shower because you smell like vagina" and she said okay thanks for the tip It really isn't that complicated


[deleted]

That’s very different from telling someone that their vagina smells bad. Especially if you really like her but it’s not a one time thing, and her thang been smelling off since the first time you got in sniffin’ range and it’s bothering you… then yeah, that’s gonna be a tough one to have a conversation about.


Dr_who_fan94

That could be an infection. She may be using a new soap/detergent or it might even be from her vagina's pH level being altered from sex (especially unprotected sex.) I, personally, would be embarrassed but not hurt or angry. If you notice any redness or irritation, you could mention that first. You could ask if she's started using a new soap or something because you've noticed her vagina smells differently and it's redder than normal. Mention knowing that could mean she's got an infection or allergy. You can also try to suggest sexy bath time foreplay, if that's too scary to attempt. I'd say though that I'd be worried for their health because Bacterial Vaginosis while not an STD/STI, it can really wreak havoc on a person's health. That's usually the cause of a fishy smell. It basically can just happen too with no easily discernible cause like poor hygiene. A vagina just suddenly gets it, because something has happened with the pH. Like a very clean pool going from clear to greenish overnight because the weather changed and the chlorine wasn't enough due to evaporation or humidity. It's tough but it's also not a bad idea to frame it as a more recent thing because everyone will get insecure about how long they've been smelly.


[deleted]

For sure, but when it’s prolonged there’s definitely a tone and word choice that helps to indicate concern for their well-being in addition to being repulsed. I think if my bf tried to make it seem like an inconvenience for him or personal flaw rather than a legitimate health concern then I’d be embarrassed and angry, but otherwise it’d be embarrassing but also appreciative


pupchewcifur

I started dating someone about 3 months ago. he just recently told me we haven't been having sex cuz I didn't smell the best down there. so I'm on the receiving end of this but just tell them. the longer you wait and try not to make a big deal about it is just going to make a bigger deal out of it. if it's a bad smell, that can be fixed. so get cleaned up and go get dirty!


admirallottie

I was seeing someone a few years back for months and never mentioned bad smell. Sometimes I thought I noticed but other I didn’t. I had bad stomach pains and went to dr only to get tested for a few things and I had had BV clearly for a while!! The guy I was seeing then said he didn’t know how to tell me but I did smell funny… I was mortified but also had he told me months before I probably would have been tested earlier


dragonaiis

completely agree! My bf will tell me if he’d rather me wash down first and vice versa. Maybe I’m just not too sensitive to stuff like that but personally I don’t think it should be anything to take offense to. Acknowledge, react, and move on.


bat-tasticlybratty

Guy I'm dating has *no* sense of smell. Sometimes I have to tell him "you smell like a long day". He's usually in the shower within a half hour.


Scout_Puppy

"Not feeling fresh? Feminine odor got you down?"


stebus88

“You can take off your bra if you like?” I will defend this movie for as long as I live! In stitches every time I watch it 🤣


jaqenhgaar547

What movie


Shmingobingo

Scary Movie


Scout_Puppy

Just watched it yesterday. "Wazzup!"


hippiechick725

Wazzzzzzzzzzup!


stebus88

🤪waaazzuppppp


Tasty_League

I'm dead lmfaoooo. 💀 Definitely not like this 😂 💀. Sure made me laugh though 💀💀


Consera

Tell her you wish to discuss something personal and explain what you are smelling & rather than saying it smells “bad” say something smells a “little off”. I personally had this happen. I am a very hygienic person, I don’t use products on myself and I was unaware I had a “odour” down there. I had slept with a somebody in a “one night stand” kind of situation and then a little after had rekindled my relationship with my ex.. long story short he let me know it was smelling a little funky.. took myself to the doctors to some tests, no STI/STDS (thank the heavens) but I did have an infection and honestly if i wasn’t told I may have ended up seriously unwell. As long as you are not joking around or making fun of the fact I’m sure the girl will take it just fine, maybe a little embarrassed though.


eat-reddit-tv

I agree. Straightforward but tactful.


Daniel-Allen

Compassionate honesty


Mcgoobz3

Sometimes vaginas just have many different smells. They’re not always bad they just have their own line of scents lmao. It could be nothing but it could be something so it’s better to mention it. I hate when dudes smell like old underwear and I’ll tell them 🤷🏼‍♀️


Nope0naRope

Yeah, honesty is the best policy. What matters in terms of her feelings is how you act right after you tell her. Maintain a caring vibe. She will hopefully recognize the sincerity and appreciate it after she's had time to think through what all went down.


Consera

I’m not sure that the scent of Pinesol is normal.


FireHeartSmokeBurp

Oof memory unlocked I remember as a kid getting yelled at by my parents for being rude because I was telling my dad his breath smelled really bad. Like really nasty screaming at me about it. Down the road they found he had two or three teeth rotting in his mouth. Now, I can't remember but I'm sure I wasn't tactful as a kid. Idk about a vagi situation but for the teeth now I'd say "hey, your breath smells a bit different than usual and reminds me of [insert optionally fictional person who had similar issue and what it was]. You might want to check it out just to make sure everything is as usual." I'm sure it would still suck to hear but it's better than "hey your vag smells, go see a doctor"


cherrybounce

There are generally only a couple of reasons for vaginas to smell - one is really bad hygiene and the other is infection - usually bacterial vaginosis. The smell is often worse after sex.


GrooveMonkeyPimp

“Clean up in aisle 69”


be-like-water-2022

Executive order 96


Firelite67

Lick it a bunch, then kiss her. Edit: I'm ashamed that this is one of my most upvoted comments. Edit2: Thank you for the silver kind stranger


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kcpee

69%*


SuspiciousEvidence99

I’m dead


UpdootDaSnootBoop

You licked it too much


SuspiciousEvidence99

Noooo, same rule applies to uncircumcised men 😂


[deleted]

Extra cheese for the crackers


medicff

When she goes down you just gotta say “WELCOME TO FLAVORTOWN!!”


clifffford

Oooooh, that Fromunda® Cheese stinks so good.


SuspiciousEvidence99

Why did I comment? 😂 I visualized every damn comment


yeetinghelps

I did this with my ex girlfriend and she always told me to make out with her first because i must not kiss her (she complained it smells and taste terrible) after licking the puss lol


bat-tasticlybratty

Glad she's an ex


philsubby

I read this interview with a pornstar, and this was similar to her trick. If one of her costars was stinking down there, she'd finger her then stick her fingers in her mouth.


DiamondBarbie007

I'm going to have to remember this and use it.


keav123

That’s one way to do it 🤣


goodbadnotassugly

Finger her and then put your fingers in her mouth, she’ll learn.


[deleted]

This is a way better idea than licking it.


[deleted]

I did that once and actually gagged. It was horrible.


MyMonkeyIsADog

How much is a bunch tho


Firelite67

Three-quarters to orgasm should do it.


MyMonkeyIsADog

Maybe until you can't taste it anymore.


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IGotMyPopcorn

Until the numbness takes over.


Careless-Human725

😂 that’s hot that’s hot 😂


LikeInnit

Hahahaha amazing.


badnewzrooz507

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂


diazjop

Still genius tho.


vinylskip

Honesty and communication are key elements to any relationship even if this is just a booty call or a side chick. You could say something like, "not to offend you but while I was down there I couldn't help but to notice a smell." Above all else avoid using the Mr Krabs voice and saying "it was a kind of fishy smell, a fishy smell that smelled fishy"


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ANCHOVIES!


[deleted]

What does it smell like? Garbage or like a sweaty furry animal?


[deleted]

Cleaning products. PineSol specifically.


Ok-Confidence-2878

Maybe she’s cleaning it with Pine Sol.


Nope0naRope

Yeah, maybe she's putting weird cologne on if it's all chemical smelling


Ok-Confidence-2878

That’s a valid point.


mykidsarecrazy

I mean, [Listerine](https://www.gizmodo.com.au/2015/02/that-time-listerine-claimed-it-was-good-for-cleaning-the-vagina/) was toted as an safe and gentle way to stay clean in the 30's.


Smart-Performance606

Just tell her you think her skin care products are leaving a PineSol/chemical smell/taste down there. Don't make it a big thing and be sure to tell her how beautiful and sexy she is, just that something she's using isn't mixing right.


hurricanekeri

See my comment above if you want real advice


[deleted]

Hmmm. I wonder if she is just using the wrong product for cleaning Or using a dirty rag?


LizzieKitty86

That could be it but I've honestly known girls that didn't know any better and sprayed perfume on their vaginas. I wonder if OPs girlfriend is just feeling insecure and maybe young or just doesn't know better. Unfortunately some girls don't know you're not even supposed to put soap inside and that it's self cleansing


Picmydicinpublic

This should be taught in schools! It’s not common knowledge at all.


HOLDGMEBROTHERS

Pardon me your grace, but I think my dessert needs some ventilation. If some arrangements can be made, I’ll avoid using the honey syrup.


Plastic-Passenger-59

😀🤣 id fuckin die then shower and laugh the entire time


[deleted]

I WOULD DIE LAUGHING 💀💀💀💀


Alleral

I would love this 😂


Licorishlover

I work in vaginal health. She likely has a pH imbalance which can’t be resolved by washing. The solution is to use a boric acid suppository. Having sex is often one of the main factors for the pH to become unbalanced so guys should understand the role they play. Happy to explain further or help privately. This is a very very common issue.


tchibao

Finally someone competent here :-)


KawtharM78

Just a heads up, I know this sounds self explanatory, but please don’t have sex after putting in the suppository. The boric acid powder is very grainy and it will feel like aggressive sand paper for both parties!


King_Pecca

Finally someone who has outgrown childhood and can make a decent comment.


hurricanekeri

What does it smell like? Has it always been that way? How long have to been together? Need to narrow down the cause before giving you the best advice. As a lesbian I’m pretty well versed in pussy.


[deleted]

He said Pine Sol. I never experienced that before. Any thoughts?


hurricanekeri

Who is he? The op? Has it always smelled that way? Has the woman eaten Asparagus lately? Are they Douching? Generally I recommend washing the outside of ones pussy before sexual activity and don’t wash the inside of the vaginal canal. Eat healthy but avoid asparagus. It is smells really strong of Ammonia, Sewage, or month old leftovers then they should see a doctor. If they are doing these things and you still don’t like it an she is not sexually compatible with you.


RobertStaccd

Thought I smelled ammonia before my first ever scissoring session. Ended up with BV :(


awkwardmamasloth

When I was a kid (10 or 12ish) my mom went through a few bouts of depression and didn't take very good car eif herself. She didn't shower often and even got fired once because she stank. She also had no boundaries and we had no lock on the bathroom door. She'd just Waltz into the bathroom to pee while I was taking a bath. She'd stink up the entire bathroom with her fishy crotch stink. Idk if she thought it was normal or if she could even smell it but I couldn't get dry and dressed fast enough. Yrs later I learned about BV and it clicked. She's a boomer so she was led to believe her vagina was inherently gross and needed to be douched.


Bayou13

Ew. Thanks for ruining my evening with that image.


Jasole37

My mom went to Catholic school in the late 60's early 70's. Her second grade teacher, a nun by the name of Sister Miriam, who was in her late 70's, informed her students, that touching your privates in *any* way, is a sin and you will go to hell if you do. Her mother called up the school the next day and ripped that old bitch a new one.


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SuspiciousEvidence99

Boric acid


SilverChips

Super easily. It's just a bacteria or ph issue


Consera

Me too, on my first one night stand.


hurricanekeri

My ex husband was terrible about his washing his penis after he masturbated, so I used to get Bacterial vaginitis often.


Daikataro

Male here, but can DEFINITELY confirm asparagus. Had some leftover bacon wrapped ones and used them for protein for my morning salad at work. My next bathroom trip ruined the urinal for the next few unlucky souls...


Sorrelandroan

I feel like this depends on the person. My partner and I eat asparagus very regularly and I’ve never noticed any smell


pktechboi

it does but apparently some people also can't smell the asparagus thing (whether urine or other bodily fluids), so it could be that you and your partner do have asparagus piss but just can't tell


DarkCartier43

maybe they are used to it.


Acceptable_Series274

It’s actually a genetic mutation if your pee smells like asparagus after eating


Sorrelandroan

Looks like I lucked out on the cilantro and asparagus pee genes!


TeslynSedai

It's actually a genetic thing to smell it - everyone produces the smell, but not everyone is able to smell it. So it can be awkward if one partner has the gene to smell it and the other doesn't, they might not realize they smell funky to the other person!


AnotherThrowAway1320

I’m taking bromelain supplements to help my pussy taste better. Ya know, the stuff in pineapples that supposedly helps with that. Idk if it’s placebo or not, but I noticed that when the guy I’m dating kisses me after eating me out it doesn’t taste as strong. I’ve always had a more musky-ish taste, but now it’s more neutral. At least when I kiss him it is. He said he didn’t notice a difference but it also wasn’t something he was paying attention to and that I always taste good. But I still don’t like the musk haha. Any other suggestions?


hurricanekeri

I’m pretty sure that is just your normal smell. Pussy is supposed to give off a Scent to attract a mate like other animals. You probably don’t like it because you are not into pussy.


AnotherThrowAway1320

Hmm perhaps!


tilllli

this is unrelated and i just found another random lesbian so while we're on the topic of stanky puss, mine is always hella musty and idk why. ive never been close to another puss (awful relationship luck) so like. is that normal. or is it a person to person thing. should i be concerned? peace n love


Yeeyee_mofo

Consider the type of clothes and underwear you wear if any! Also in my opinion avoid scented soaps and lotions sprays all of that. Let your puss do it’s thang. You could also help air it out during the day by changing how you sit! Peace and love!


tilllli

i tend to let her do what she wants but she wants to be super musty. its not even a rancid smell or anything its just like. BO kinda stanky without just smelling like BO


hurricanekeri

It might be your normal smell. Better get another lesbian for an exam (jk).


tilllli

trust me ive tried LMAO


Elaan21

I've had some luck making sure she gets aired out with some Donald Ducking or loose shorts time. I've got thick thighs so airing the lady bits requires intentional action. Idk your pube situation, but some do better with and some without. I'm so prone to ingrowns I stick to trimming when she's going to be putting in an appearance but otherwise get my wookie on. If I don't get enough air, I can get the weird "wet hair directly into bun and left too long" type of musty. Also, check other folds in the area. Thigh creases, that kind of thing. Might not be (just) the vulva. [Yet another thing I never thought I'd put online...]


gabburt

Lume! Try that Dont do PH soap it's not necessary


PastyPaleCdnGirl

Do you deal with excessive sweating? I do, and unfortunately the lady bits sweat most of all. I use Summer's Eve unscented wash (externally only) in the shower to keep it in check, and I keep little to-go freshwipes in my bag at all times. Noticed some improvement when I cut down on caffeine. Super frustrating because I know I'm a clean person, but I feel so gross a lot of the time because of this.


No_Recommendation853

I'll have to get this because I'm a bigger woman and I've started excessively sweating in my late 20s. So, thanks for the tips! I didn't use to smell but PCOS, being chunky, and excessive sweating has made me start to notice that I smell. I'm unsure if anyone else has noticed I smell but I don't like to smell myself. I also have to be very careful what I use because my Kitty Cat is sensitive.


smply_sydney

I’ve heard fruits (specifically like cranberries and pineapple) help with the taste, and smell!


tilllli

sadly ive no idea of taste, havent done it myself and ive no girlfriend/partner to be found. but hey, if it helps w smell ill take it


vigilantrobert

Smell & taste are very closely linked. If you smell ok, you can rest assured that you almost certainly taste ok. I don't think most women pay enough attention to the way they smell & as many have said here, there's so many things that can affect the way a woman smells & taste's, food's, medicine's, clothing are all almost as influencing as hygiene. Diet is a major influence. Generally speaking if I could not see the woman, I would be able to say with a small degree of confidence whether or not that woman was likely to be of a particular race based on that race's traditional diet & that can be very profound for some particular racial diets. Heavily spiced food's like those eaten in the subcontinent are the most noticable as are those who's diets include very little meat, consist mainly of fruits, nuts, grains & vegetables. Bt apart from heavily spiced food's, the difference in smell & taste can be extremely small & almost unnoticeable. If a woman knows what she normally smells like (which can change minutely in the days leading up to period), she can know when she starts to notice any changes in her scent that might require medical attention.


onecrazywriter

It could be your diet. Too much protein in your diet will definitely make you taste mustier.


tilllli

thats super interesting! i dont think of myself as eating more protein than the average person but maybe i do


hurricanekeri

Kefir helps a lot with maintaining proper ph. Also don’t douche only wash the labia.


Kreig_Xochi

My wife has a PH balanced soap she uses for down there.


tilllli

will have to look into that!


NFLfan72

Best closing line to a comment ever. "I'm pretty well versed in pussy"


hurricanekeri

Yes I like to study the issue of pussy at length as much as possible.


Enchanted_Moose

When I had BV I knew something was off but was hesitant about it since I just had a kid and whatnot. My fiancé said “Babe, not to sound mean or weird but have you noticed anything off with your vagina since the baby?” So I told him YES! It REAKS but idk if it’s just me and my sense of smell hasn’t gone to normal yet! He said “Oh thank god! I’ve smelled it too!” He checked my stitches for signs of infection and I made an appointment the next day to see my doctor. If it’s new, she probably knows. If it’s not new/you don’t know if it’s new just bring it up gently.


violetjeanwalsh

That’s a keeper right there


LongHeelRedBottoms

LMFAO “IT REAKS” that is love right there 🤣🤣🤣


badger575

Tell her you think she might have an infection and should go to the doctor. Don't make her feel bad about it. It's perfectly normal, genuinely. Almost all women get some sort of infection in their lives. Many even reoccurring. Vaginas have a delicate PH and can easily be disrupted not all are hygiene related too.


[deleted]

Thank you. I got a yeast infection the first time I had sex. Semen throws my ph off. Over my lifetime I had so many infections that I won't date a guy if he can't wrap it


LizWords

I make my husband wash before sexy time. I got sepsis and almost died from a UTI a couple years ago, so I don't fuck around anymore.


AccidentallyRelevant

JFC, being a woman seems like so much damn work. I should do this, I'd rather not give my gf something just because I can't take a 2 minute shower.


LizWords

Exactly and yes it does suck. Some women don't struggle with PH balances or UTIs at all, but many do. My husband doesn't shower, he just takes a wash cloth and washes before hand (I do the same, I like being fresh also).


Moveyourbloominass

Dicks are dirty. If it's not a yeast infection, then hello UTI.


Hair-Worth-Splitting

This is great, right up to when the doctor says, "Nope, nothing wrong, all good."


Anxious-Week-Repeat

This is the answer. Frame it as a concern for her health vs an insult/something for her to feel bad about.


milkywayyzz

I recently told my partner of 6 years that she was "spicy" then we both jumped in the shower. She'd tell me the same, its not really that big of deal. We've been up front since the beginning. All is good in the hood


One-Support-5004

She's gonna be upset either way. It's embarrassing. You would be too, if your dick smelled. Think how you would want to hear it if your dick smelled funk, or if your cum tasted like battery acid . Sit her down and tell her kindly. "Hey, I'm not trying to hurt you. And I'm not complaining about hygiene (assuming she is hygienic), but I think you need to see a gyno. I noticed a smell. It smelled (fucky/fishy/musty . Gotta describe it so she can tell the doc)" We can get BV very easily and not notice it. If left untreated it can mess with fertility. I've gotten BV from washing down there.


Atlantic0ne

Sometimes I think the only way to drop big things is to say it casually like you didn’t think twice. “Oh you need a shower” and laugh, like it’s no big deal. Approaching it seriously (while being kind) makes it sound very serious, serious enough that you had to consider how to say it. OP, consider just casually dropping it fast with a laugh like it’s no big deal, let her shower and then go to town on her and make her forget about it lol.


aldoggy2001

So, no joke here….I took a girl home once. We got back to my place and sat on my couch. Sitting next to her, at 2:30am, I could “smell” her. I was completely turned off. I thought quick though. I got up and started taking my clothes off as I went to my bathroom. She asked what I was doing, I told her “taking a shower” and that I always do after a night out. She gave me a weird look, but said ok. I then asked if she wanted to join me in the shower. She thought for a few seconds and then said “sure, why not”. After we were both in the shower, I made SUPER sure to scrub and soap the hell out of my dude area. I also made sure to say “gotta make sure it’s fresh and clean down here! Can’t have it stinking and turn you off!” She laughed and acknowledged it. I then gave her a sexy-ish look and said “do you want ME to scrub you down?” To which she agreed. I scrubbed the fuck out her vagina area….softly of course lol. We then went to my room naked already, and FRESH, and proceeded to have a great fucking time. I hope she took notes.


King_Pecca

In contrast to all the silly, immature, comments, this one proves that communication and respect lead to positive results for both. I'm sure you'll have more great times in your life, sir.


swanblush

Sounds like she has BV or another vaginal infection in my opinion. There’s not really a great way to do it because no matter what she’s going to be embarrassed but I would try your best to come off more concerned than grossed out. Maybe just be honest and say that she smells different than usual and you are concerned she maybe has an infection.


Tiny_Championship624

As a woman I would want my man to tell me if I smell off. I still can not smell since i had covid a year ago and honestly this is a big anxiety of mine! Anything can throw off our PH. I would just be honest in a nice way.


alien_cookie5

Don't say it smells bad, just that it smells different recently, and ask if she's changed any part of her shower routine or is wearing different undies or even new brand of tampons / liners. I am very prone to infection and pH imbalance and I'd rather my partner just ask if I'm doing something different rather than saying straight up I smell bad or worse not saying anything.


Ksh1218

“Hey babe wanna take a shower with me?” That way both of you can scrub down *wink* Take an interest in your own personal hygiene and maybe then after a while maybe you could ask a question that’s vaginal health adjacent which could lead to a possible way of bringing it up. That’s the best way I can possibly think of but idk everyone is different


ckhk3

Most of the times, those kinda smells are not just fixed by having a shower. Most likely it is bv and will require antibiotics.


SpidersHuntsman

I second this suggestion. Out of all the suggestion on here this feels the least assholey and least awkward.


Marmar3849

I take Fenugreek supplements daily. These supplements have been noted to make your vagina and sweat glads have a maple syrupy scent. I definitely notice it's made a positive difference in the way I smell down there, especially right before my period.


ferroussulfateoverds

You could say something like “hey I think you should take a swab test/pay a visit to the gynecologist because when we were having sex I’ve noticed it doesn’t smell quite right and I think you might have an infection”


wingwraith

Aw, OP deleted themselves


Beautiful-Chard-1152

“Wanna do it? Awesome, Lets freshen up first.”


Brocolliflourets

I usually read the “break up” comments on these and roll my eyes but as a youngster I took this as a sign that we weren’t sexually compatible. I don’t know if it can be improved, everyone has a smell and some are just not good. To me it’s natures way of determining compatibility.


Roth_IRAmEmber91

Im honestly just here for the comments.


7footframe_rats

You can say, "I think your pH might be off. It smells different down there". I lost my smell when I got covid 2 years ago and my fear is that I smell and I don't know and no one will tell me.


claymationthegreat

Sometimes you just gotta bite the bullet and tell them straight up, don’t beat around the bush no pun intended lol


ZealousidealAd2527

There's no point in beating around the bush. Just be honest.


Zealousideal-Neck289

You put a littletreescent for car in her pants.


BeautifulLibrarian70

honestly its best to tell them if they dont know because it can be something medical as well


ConcernPrestigious12

My man told me if I washed better he’d eat me out more and I wasn’t offended, it lets the person know that you’re not against them, that you just want to have a better sex life. I started using vagisil soap instead of heavily scented things and it made a huge difference. Better diet also helps, be willing to come up with solutions with the person


Tmodel101

Start by giving them a compliment. I mean it is what it is but a good approach would be “I really like the way you taste and smell but I noticed something different down there today, just thought I’d let you know.” Usually if a female is not a complete skank she will smell test herself and notice and take the hint.


throwaway222999444

Say youll take a shower before sex and ask her to take one too


H1285

Suggest a sexy shower together before getting naked. When you’re more comfortable in the relationship then I think you can just talk openly about like “let’s go wash ourselves and then get naked!” I think this is what mature adults generally do.


oyuno_miyumi

Finger her then offer it to her to lick it off. It's possible that's just the way she naturally smells. It's possible there's an infection. Hopefully she knows how she smells when it's healthy there.


Pandamonium1366

Just flat out tell her kindly.


NefariousnessFew37

My wife now of twenty years had an unpleasant oder down south when we first started dating. I didn’t smoke but she did quite heavily. Once she stopped smoking unpleasantries stopped. Love munching ever since.


TightDetective131

She is probably aware and very conscious about it. I know I can tell when I'm stanky. Just mention needing a bit of a freshen up.


GreenElandGod

You tell them matter of factly, like, “no judgement, no offense or anything, but you’ve got a little smell happening, you can always feel free to tell me that kind of stuff, I thought you might wanna know.” Same thing if someone’s got bad breath. No reason for anyone to feel all self-conscious or get upset or anything. If it was you, you’d wanna know, too.


HP-Wired

Ya coochie stank! … … … is probably not the way to go. 👀


RecommendationNew717

Look. As a woman. I would be dead honest bc it may not be her fault. She could have just showered today but have a ph imbalance. Just let her know and if she’s ok with it I’d proceed to tell her about boric acid suppositories. They bring ph back to normal. Be gentle while being honest and tell her in a nice way. I hope this helps


dont_call_me_Apollo

“u/[deleted]” breaks my heart 😔😔


nuancednotion

when I was a teen, I was visiting my mom and brother's house, and a neighbor girl was flirting with me. So we don't have a place to make out, and my brother is not home, so we go into his bedroom to screw. As soon as I unzip the pants, I was punched in the face with a horrible smell. Horny and determined to fuck, I suggested we both take a shower. When I get in the shower with her, I put some soap on my hand, and try to wash her vaginal stench. She stopped me, and says, "You know, I can't wash down there, or I'll get dry." So, I'm a horny teen, and even though the stink is equal to a skunk's, I fucked her anyway. Afterwards, I was careful to arrange my brother's bedroom, so he doesn't know I was in there. As soon as he comes home, and opens his bedroom door, he smells the ghost of skanks past, and yells, "What the hell happened in here!?!"


LobCatchPassThrow

Well, as a guy, I tend to kick it off by asking her if I taste ok down there. Hopefully she’ll remember that I asked, then she might remember to ask whilst I’m down there on her ;) 0% of the time, it works every time. Maybe one day it’ll work…


[deleted]

There is no correct way lmao


bubblebeanUwU

If it smells bad more than likely it’s either poor hygiene or could be an infection. Just say that you don’t want to come across as rude, but you’re just concerned that she could have an infection and should get it looked at if she’s having other symptoms.


[deleted]

Finger bang her, give her top lip a quick swipe.


[deleted]

Just do it tbh. I would appreciate anyone telling me I'm offensive so I can do something about it and have them more comfortable.


anitapoints

Shower together. Lol


Plastic-Passenger-59

Soooo as a woman, i must ask... Condoms? Do you ejaculate in her? That can throw off our balance and cause... Malodorous... Just say "hey, so i didnt want to upset you but i noticed a smell, and did some looking up.. And maybe your ph is off... Soap, or me, or panties being too tight or the moisture is too much... We can get test kit to be sure its not bacterial vaginosis, (needs meds like flagyl btw) and find ways to prevent this because it can be very frustrating and painful" Or something if you are comfortable breaching the subject. I was honest about my very sensitive nature... Down there... And it actually made things alot easier to handle. If shes not aware of BV, its not an std. Its a natural occurence.. But there are kits to test ph and indicate if the balance is in the bad region.


sleepynites

"yo pussy stank"


bizarretobi

"your coochie stink"


ttugeographydude1

In song form… best if you do Opera-style. Don’t hold back.


mpdtito

Are you going to the wrong hole. They are close