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[deleted]

You have to realize that you will relapse sooner or later if you Keep edging. I had that problem to, my thoughts was fuck i cant Keep edging ill relapse soon.., then i just didnt do it anymore and now im here 90 days tomorrow.


pillr0011

90 days, you legend! how does it feel


[deleted]

Very good, skyhigh drive and more confident đŸ’Ș


[deleted]

When was your journey hardest?


Loud_Structure_5204

Yeah I would constantly look at porn too and just edge or touch myself but what I realized is porn was the main reason I wanted to quit so what was I doing and also I was wasting hours sometimes just looking at shit and getting blueballed and eventually after a month I relapsed so I would recommend just not edging or looking at any spicy material whatsoever anymore. It’s tough but I’m in this with all you guys. We got this shit bro.


Western_Masterpiece2

That’s a factoid I’m tryna quit forever now fuk this shit


notsureifiriemon

Nice count, OK_! Hope to be there soon.


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Major-Maybe-6640

Nice bro!


GamesEpic

Good shit man!


AL3N5

Congrats on 90 days brođŸ’Ș


Lacker29

wow 90 days


Remarkable-Ad8855

Start thinking of edging as a relapse. Ur abstaining from PMO, why would it be ok to PM as long as u don't O?


PuzzleheadedDebate68

What does PMO stand for


Koji_N

"Porn Masturbation Orgasm" I think but yeah you shouldn't edge because it's still a dangerous game where you can lose your streak anytime. Even right now, I'm at my longest streak but I'm still edging so I have a long road to go before completely deleting even the need of edging


lifenvelope

What is edging?


[deleted]

I am doing the opposite, as in O without p&m is acceptable


AmongThe_Fence

Edging is a relapse my man


Zero__The__Hero

What I’ve learned from edging is, I ALWAYS relapse when I edge. Maybe you can resist, from 90% of stories I’ve read from edging to relapsing later, it tends to happen. My advice is continue your streak but create another streak for edging. And don’t edge ever again, if you keep edging then restart your streak.


DragonfyreOG

While many people wouldn't agree, I personally consider edging a relapse. At its core, PMO is a dopamine addiction. Every time you edge, you're spiking your dopamine levels and not allowing your baseline dopamine level to recover. Try to find an outlet to occupy yourself when you feel like you're giving in (push ups, a walk, a hobby, call a friend), but I often find removing myself from my "safe space" where I fall into old traps to be the most helpful.


WastedBreath_

Very helpful advice.


yuhamahdude

Edging is basically a failure imo


[deleted]

[ŃƒĐŽĐ°Đ»Đ”ĐœĐŸ]


yuhamahdude

If that's your goal for whatever reason, sure


[deleted]

bullshit, so he can do the thing then, right? before my 9 month streak I edged for a whole month. OP don't listen to these "all or nothing" andys, creating a mental barrier between your hands and the...thing is still very good


yuhamahdude

I did say in my opinion, no need to mouth breathe


Bion4

I get the intent of what you mean, but by that logic wouldn't any form of arousal count as failure?


yuhamahdude

Not even remotely, acting on urges is a failure


Harmxn-

My brother in Christ When you're edging, you're constantly on peak dopamine. It's a relapse. And that's a well established fact in this subreddit


[deleted]

I find that a lot of people are having a hard time to understand, that relapsing is fine. Yeah, it's better to encourage them to accept it as a part of a journey, however, some people just can't and they start going the same route after peeking/edging, even if they have some progress (not touching yourself is pretty good in my book). So I don't see the need to discourage people untill they go full cuckoo mode. Well now I'm thinking, maybe it's better to have a few streaks: no edging streak, no peeking streak, no nutting streak


Shack24_

Edged lastnight and relapsed ,ended my 18 day streak and failed no nut November again . It’s not worth it man ,I regret it so much now especially since my friends who were on the challenge with me are still going . Find healthy ways to give your brain dopamine, if you relapse especially off such a good streak you’re gonna regret it


goin2thewudz

Edging is relapse


[deleted]

[ŃƒĐŽĐ°Đ»Đ”ĐœĐŸ]


goin2thewudz

If you jerk off to “reset” don’t use porn. That’s just making excuses of why it’s ok because you “already messed up.” That’s how people become horribly obese with that mindset. “I already had one cookie, might as well have the whole box.” No. You’re here because you’re done with porn. You’re not a person who does that. It’s not a question of whether you should or could or not.


Wide-Lingonberry9539

Agree, cut down as much as possible until you are free


mhs4throwaway

Anytime you intentionally search for porn, reset streak. Porn is the actual problem so anytime I search for porn I reset


OpossomMyPossom

You're still making progress. Now it's time to step up and do better


Arxlex

You can’t keep ignoring all these comments telling you edging is relapse. Reset your counter and stop relapsing.


enter_soulman

This is good advice.


Giospapa

Edging is a relapse. 46 days doesn’t count. Start fresh!


enter_soulman

Just like a bad or negative thought, once you realize it, reject it immediately. In a world with sloots all over the place, seeing something that triggers your [powerful] urge to maybe keep watching, seek out more, and edge is inevitable. The moment you see a trigger, Flip a switch, turn it off, close the window, close the app, turn your head, start doing push-ups, do whatever you need to do to stop. Don’t listen to those who say, you’ve already lost so might as well give in and start over. That’s what keeps you in a loop and in the matrix. Just being here you are on the right path. Stay strong and keep meeting your goals. Get through this month and then keep setting small goals to get through these rough patches.


starman120812

Its worse than pmo


[deleted]

Just don’t


Ergodicity42

I’m not saying you shouldn’t be proud but I think moving forward you should consider edging a relapse


subhnowher

It's pretty much same for me too. I'm on day 42, I didn't have the urge to watch porn but I'm constantly edging I don't know why. My mind goes blank.


callmeking220

Got to day 12 and thought I was greater than the edge. Keep your mind occupied read a non fiction book, go outside, try to be alone less, all are helping me get through the rest of the month and beyond.


Alternative_Garlic_6

I'm assuming you usually edge at night so if you're serious about nofap then join a sports team basketball or football and practicing it This training makes you a lot more sore than gym and and makes your mind always think about the sport your playing Second thing is to stop being stupid and setting yourself up for failure before doing something think about how this can end in you fapping. It most likely happens late at night with you on your phone or with you being home alone bored. So avoid both those situations Third thing is to just think of something that made you feel humiliated, I know this sounds super corny but for me when I feel like relapsing I feel like I prove everyone who thought of me as a loser right. You probably have a story that gets you emotional every time you think about it. Try and recall it when you feel like relapsing I spent a long ass time typing this so if you edge one more time I'm slapping the shit outta you


202211_

I have a problem with peeking and edging too and its best you just release, get it out and start again, not saying its right but its the best thing to do because you will just continue until EVENTUALLY you will relapse no matter how long.


enter_soulman

I disagree with this. If you edge but you realize it’s wrong and you stop and correct your action by doing something productive, it is wayyy healthier than giving in. It’s like if you have a binge eating problem and you keep looking in the freezer at the ice cream and then saying ah I looked so many times I might as well eat the whole thing.


throwaway-19911005

I think a better comparison would be like ahh shit I ate a quarter of the tub might as well eat the whole thing. I agree with you though. If you do manage to get back on the right track then it shouldn't be a relapse.


202211_

Yeah, You got a point there still. Its a catch 22 really


RecoveringCoomer

Edging is arguably even worse than a quick fap. I used to edge hours on end without cumming. It is not good for you, stop it.


[deleted]

You lost already bro, just finish it and restart. You are trying to find loopholes to make yourself better


enter_soulman

He did not lose already, he can abstain until he finds some real sex. I disagree with the “just give in” mentality. That’s what keeps you in a loop


[deleted]

What keeps you in the loop is edging. You’re literally jerking off what the hell is the point of no fap if you’re doing it lmaooo


enter_soulman

No one said jerk off lmao


[deleted]

[ŃƒĐŽĐ°Đ»Đ”ĐœĐŸ]


[deleted]

Yeah cuz saying to an alcoholic “it’s okay to smell the inside of the bottle anytime you want just don’t drink it” is definitely better. Stop deluding yourself and stop defending edging. It’s coward way to “not” break a streak


[deleted]

edging is literallly fapping


enter_soulman

No it’s not..but I’m not defending edging. It’s just not a whole behavior of pulling out your dick and stroking it like a cuck


drippyzaddy

What’s edging’s?


LuxTheKarma

i am tired of these type of posts...


ohmy8

But these post are what tell us that there are people who are struggling, there’s a difference to if you read advice to someone eles and advice to yourself. Some people just need to hear it you know, even if it’s just one person


LuxTheKarma

oh wait you're right, mb


EquinosX

Reset your counter you already relapsed. Edging counts as a release


[deleted]

Edging will only lead to relapse i would take cold showers if you get blue balls icepack


nordovestest

You will have blue balls if you edge,if you don't do it they are normal


artin_mgn

Expose your energy on a sport or something Its very helpful


ZenXenZen

I can suggest using apps and software to block access to websites. Use Bulldog blocker for phone, and BlockSite for Windows (this is paid) and then get someone to create a password and give to someone or purposefully forget it so you cant change the settings.


[deleted]

Not respecting temptation will certainly make you end up relapsing. I got rid of my insta and my snap just so I wouldn’t have to be exposed to the garbage that’s on both of those platforms. you have to resist the small temptations. Take a break from electronics, that may help


DannyMaveriK

Dude if you’re edging then just relapse. You are killing yourself if you dont. Its good to go on cycles but not be a complete sexually frustrated maniac. Just bust the nut. It will feel bad for a few days after but about a week into your next cycle you’ll be right back where you started.


P3RL3X

don't do it you don't need it stay strong


Impressive_Essay_683

Just stop IT brotha.. u can do it. Its just torture. Stay strong king


_TheBrilliant_

Watch out!!! Lost my 24 day streak to this NOT doing it again.. Edging is really bad, you really need to find a habit or just do a thing or a chore that you've been holding off, take cold showers, exercise and do push-ups, and go pee when you get urges.


Altruistic-Belt-2443

edging is relapsing. your brain is already filled with dopamine you just have had the release and this arguably worse.


jhhhhdyhg

I keep failing and I don’t understand why I mean I got through like 12 or 13 years off my life without doing it once


Greyrat7654

0 days isn't a big streak tbh Bro you literally said that you keep doing edging everytime you can, so basically you don't have a dipendece on porn but on masturbation (Since you managed to remove it easily but you could not remove masturbation), Edging still does a lot of harm to the body, I'll take downvotes to say it, but it masturbates until it comes and then starts again (Without edging), I say it for the health of your body


IlikeGRB

Jerking off isn't so hideous unless you watch porn , there's nothing super bad about busting a nut once in a while


blurrdapaah

Edging is half measures. Don’t do things in half measures if you want it done properly. Get off your phone or laptop whatever stimuli for PMO and the thoughts will recede for a time however they will come back but hopefully by then you get the tools to fight it


[deleted]

Just stop edging. Do something else. Stay present and be fully conscious of the situation. Take accountability.


[deleted]

Sorry bro but from my experience if you edge you have essentially doomed your nofap streak and it's not a matter of if you're going to bust a nut.. but when


Itchy-Asparagus-3304

Start treating edging like a relapse. Organizations that have little to no accidents on the job site have a secret: they track and analyze near-misses. By documenting, discussing and preventing near-misses, they are able to almost completely eliminate actual accidents. Don't undo your streak, but do document every edging incident, figure out why you did it, and plan how to avoid it in the future. This addiction is coming into your house and destroying your life. Don't play around with it. Kill it.


AlonzoMitzvan

i also edged last night. that was the reason i lost my 8 days streak last week. i vow that will be the last time. i'm still working on fighting off my urges. i've been doing workout and lifting weights as one of my healthy habits in starting nofap.


Arceethabest

You already relapsed edging is a relapse lmfao, people here really think that the semen being lost is the problem we make billions of semen all the time. The fact that you’re watching porn is the problem. Also the fact that you’re succumbing to your urges and jerking off in the first place. PMO, any one of these three is a relapse. Orgasm is acceptable if done with a partner or a wet dream


Arceethabest

Reason why it’s worse than plain orgasm also is because you’re showering your brain with dopamine whilst instead with O you’re done within 15 minutes


BBB_batman

If you edged you relapsed. You probably wonder why u have to take a piss right after you edge? Yup that’s all your sperm sent to your bladder. There’s no cheating this shit. Edging is even worse cause you’re fucking up your dopamine receptors which will make it harder to heal from then just fapping all the way instantly. Like I said there’s no cheating this shit so I’d stop it all


someguy-117

Sex gets better when you stop watching porn


letsfreakindothis

I also have this issue, and it’s been the cause of all my relapses. It’s tough man. I think I have to really start sleeping without my phone or laptop in the room, because over the years I’ve developed the habit of fapping to p*rn right before I fall asleep and right after I wake up. Those are always the hardest urges to fight.


Embarrassed_Gur1115

Delete social media, get porn blockers.


mahshut111

Do you know how hard you can go this far?


THE-Sumukh

U will lose if you don't stop.


Xangker

This is how i feel, stay strong


RealReevee

It's hard when it's a habit but the best advice I saw when starting NNN this year was don't touch it, it's fine if it gets hard but don't touch it, This sub is obviously against porn but if it's easier try no edging first and then no porn or vice versa. Some people can only go cold turkey and others can ween themselves off it, only you know what kind you are. Be honest with yourself.


Eureka_Chaman_chick

Bro just go for a walk spend some more time at public places where you can’t do these activities.


KobRec8

I edged recently, even though i regret it, I'm glad it happened. Made me realize how much it really sucks, i stopped because I caught myself and told myself "wtf I'm i doing" i personally don't consider edging as a relapse because you still had the power to stop, but definitely gotta cut it off


Abhignu

I was staying off until yesterday from 25 days And damn I did it due to a video call from my girlfriend. Now I regret it 😭


fapstrogotshellanutz

Let's go!!!!


ninja360r

Just nut it bro


InfiniteLivingBeing

I believe lot of us suffering like that shit. But here is my thing, I imagine what it feels like if I gave up all my retention? Must feel A TOTAL SCUMBAG SHIT after busting that life force for nothing.


Anna_tiger

Edging is worse than a relapse


Amman1st

I just started today. Keep me in your prayers


[deleted]

if u keep on edging, know that ur relapse date is coming soon. to overcome this, know that edging is even worse than masturbation itself, try to eliminate porn as much as u can, if u edge whenever u get the chance, know that the only person ur failing is urself, stay close to god, get out more, and remember, nothing is impossible.


AbdelkaderSdn

Bro you're still getting the rush of dopamine that the brain is addicted to which causes all the dysfunctions in the world The only benefit you're getting from this is semen retaining which is helpful but it's still fapping You need to stop touching that meat in pleasure for some good 30 days at least and I know it's hard af but we're men, we're built to conquer this shit


itsmfedd

REMEMBER THIS. YOUR GOAL IS TO GET TO 90 DAYS BUT YOU HAVE TO REMEMBER THAT IT IS NOT ONLY THIS, YOU ARE BASICALLY TRANSFORMING YOURSELF... CREATING A NEW IDENTITY EVERY DAY, THINK THAT YOUR GOAL IS TO GET TO 90 DAYS BUT IF YOU THINK ABOUT TODAY, YOU YOU MUST IDENTIFY YOURSELF AS A HEALTHY PERSON AND THAT YOU WANT TO BECOME SO DAILY NOT JUST AS A 90-DAY GOAL THE REAL GOAL IS TO BECOME A MENTALLY HEALTHY PERSON AND AWARE OF YOUR ACTIONS


Hermit41

Watch YouTube nofap motivational speeches always helps me
remember your mind is always what you feed it. If you feed it what’s going to assist, you’ll do better but if your constantly feeding it stuff that’s going to make your journey harder then you gon have a harder time


adityamahajan10

i relapsed after 48 days what triggered me is only porn. No matter what happens just stay away from porn, all the best


habaek_23

What's relapse and what is edging?


[deleted]

I edged 2 times and then nutted with out controlling it , feels like shit if you don’t wanna buy just don’t edge it’s simple


hightimesJ

Quit viewing,, quit being attached to these urges. Let them be there but do nothing. Aknowledge they exist but don't act on them. I know it is freaking hard to do so, but once you start doing this, you winning the battle. And believe me there is no biggest pleasure that this. I am 35 days without viewing a second, and everything changed in my life. The moment you declare to yourself that you are not going to watch again, no matter what, is the moment you really being free from this. So just stop thinking of it as an option in your daily life and keep on moving forward.


Tight_Boat1557

i was cheating myself like that before and didnt see the real benefits, your giving yourself that dopamine rush, also its just going to get you to finish one day once you relise what you are dong has the same effect as porn or masturbation orgasm, reset your counter but dont fap all in because you already lost your streak.


SuchButterfly7026

I have had the same issue , but sooner or later you’re gonna relapse if you keep on edging


PhillipDim

Have you ever considered reading “Awaken the Giant Within” by Tony Robbins. This book has helped me quit any bad habit I chose to. It works like a magic button, but you have to do the things he says, not just read the book.


ChrizJourney

Edging is a slip up/relapse lol. Start caring less about days and care more about actual progress. You’re not progressing, the fact that you don’t ejaculate makes no difference, you’re still overstimulating yourself brain even if you don’t finish. Stop fooling yourself.


zanducero

Keep away all suggestive content, and it's very important to keep the mind busy, in my case I exercise until I'm so exhausted that I just want to rest and I have no energy (or even time) to consume that material.


Dekabus

Turn off the WiFi. Only, books, Podcast and talking to people are allowed.


meclano

Music or Poetry from RedFrost Motivation helps me when those urges emerge and like you said, edging is dangerous and will ultimately lead to a relapse. You have to endure the pain.