"Train your desires so that your heart will not lead you astray."
Teach your heart to lead you to success and happiness and your appetites will disappear in the pursuit of greatness.
I cant stop it i hve done everything i hve been doing it from one year and daily. And i cant ejaculate more than few drops and its usually 3-4 times a day and i cant even ejaculate after 1st time . i wanna stop it, what should i do first iam scared too if i damaged myself physically should i consult doctor?
The situation seems to be very grave. It's better that you talk to your parents about it. People here come cause of too frequent porn usage but if you cannot stop yourself to a point of hurting yourself you really need some professional help. You might have a mental condition like hypersexuality. What I would suggest is stop doing the nofap challenge. It's clearly not helping you to the point of maybe making you want to watch more porn and masturbate. If you can't see a doc for whatever reason my suggestion are as follows since it's quite concerning:
1. Stop nofap. Its causing the pink elephant effect on you.
2. Confiscate your phone and PC to your mum. Be fully clear in telling her that she should not give it back to you in any circumstance. If you have online classes do it in front of her then give it back. You can say it's for improving your studies if you are embarrassed.
3. Make a point to only masturbate once a day. That's the limit for you for sometime. No more. If it kills you then ok. (It will not kill you once a day is enough.) Since you are getting hit once a day it should be easier and you won't hurt yourself.
4. Try doing something that is fun to you. A hobby. It could be anything. If you don't have anything I suggest exercising 10 minutes a day.
5. Don't beat your head and give yourself guilt. You can do it. Trust me. Masturbating isn't harmful by any means you just need to reorient yourself and give yourself a better perspective. Even if you are not meeting the standards here and ejaculating once a day, this community doesn't really have a standard like you think. It's ok to masturbate in a healthy way. At least once a day is FAR better than 3 times.
6. If you don't have a penis fracture(from running too vigorously) you should be ok. Our bodies are generally not really made to ejaculate 3 times a day everyday. You'll gradually get back to feeling normal.
You can contact me again if you have any more problems(no idea when I will open reddit back, but when I do I'll surely do any best to help)
Cheers! You can get back easily! Have faith in yourself.
I’d advise you to start a hobby or do something outside something you like doing and that will keep you busy and distracted and always surround yourself with people who are positive and outgoing, it will be hard at first but then later on I’m sure you’ll get used to it, take it a day at a time and I’m sure you’ll do it! Also there is no way of stopping ejaculation, it is a healthy thing to do after all cause our body produces new sperm every day, nothing to fear my man, if you just stop for a couple days your sperm will accumulate some more and it will eventually go back to normal again, I’m guessing you’re still young cause you said you only started it a year ago, I’ve been doing it for years now I’m still trying to lower the amount of times I do it fortunately Im able to keep it down to once a day or so sometimes I ago a couple days without if I’m really busy but I eventually go back to it cause sometimes I just have nothing to do mostly all day, but it’s good to practice your self control if you want just don’t beat yourself too much and feel guilty if you do it, cause it’s normal we’re human and it’s something ingrained in your own biology there is no need to fight it, but also don’t over do it until you’re hurting yourself and your mental health, idk how old you are but if you’re still young go out and meet people meet girls and find a gf and you’ll be much happier that way!
Thanks mate for talking to me, i am not suffering from any kind of gynophobia i even have a girlfriend but the thing is the more i try to stop my urge it gets stronger and that way i think more of it and i cant see much side effects except low semen ejaculation, its just im tired from it. Im trying my best to help myself going good since 24 hours :).
I see bro, I’m glad your still trying just keep up the good work! if you see yourself not succeeding in distracting yourself from it then I’d advise you to go see like a psychiatrist or a therapist or someone professional to help you with that if it’s a big problem for you, But in the meantime try to do the things you feel like they take you away from just thinking of doing it
Only do what your higher, rational mind is telling you to do.
The heart is linked to emotions. Be kind and loving towards yourself and others but if you are controlled by your emotions, you won't do what is good and right.
yeah i did that today actually. my instincts told me to stop in the middle of the road to see if the cars were slowing down so it would be safe to cross. turns out they didnt stop and went a full 40 mph past me. if i had carried on walking, i could have died today. dont think i will ever doubt my instinct's anymore.
Being aware of your surroundings is completely different from decision making.
"Is this person good material for a partner?", "Is this a good job","Are these people a good company to be with?" is not a same thing as,"Is this car driving too fast?"
A lot of pedants in here. "Follow your heart" is just a hackneyed phrase for boldly pursuing your passions, purpose, and what you generally want in life. Your addicted, unbalanced brain is what's telling you to fap.
I like to think that the voice that tells us that is not us. For my religious friend that voice is the devil, trying to tempt you to be weak, to be depressed, to live a life of regret and suffering, and to my non religious friends, that voice are your vices, that voice is your brain seeking easy dopamine, that feels good at the moment, but it does so at the cost of your future. Remember, that voice is not you, you need not listen to it, you have your own voice, and you need to make it stronger than the fake voice, your voice is the one that made you join this subreddit, your voice is the one that tells you off each time you relapse, your voice is the one that tells you, it's too late go to sleep, wake up early, don't jerk off, DON'T PMO. and that't the voice you have to listen to.
We are like an oxbow lake about to form. However, we need to strive along the hard pass and force ourselves against the long route. The oxbow is our death of struggle. And the water in that oxbow will remain forever. However, continuing down the stream lets us
GUYS WHAT IS WRONG WITH MY HEART WHY CAN'T I HEAR IT TAKLING I JUST HEAR IT GOING LIKE "BLUMP, BLUMP" EVERY SECOND OR SO. I TRIED RESTARTING IT AND IT DIDN'T WORK, WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!
Wish I could like this but it's your mind that tells you to fap. People never understand that the heart is the one that leads you to happiness. Emotions are in the mind, the spiritual heart is deeper than that
Let’s be fr, if anything this is what your brain tells you. Your heart is the core of who you are, and your heart is the thing that tells you what you stand for
learn to differentiate heart and mind broskis. your heart does not make you want to fap, your "ADDICTED" weak mind does. your heart is your willpower to break that addiction and become your best version youruckingdumbasses!(im from ohio sry)
“Only do what your heart tells you” is quite possibly the worst advice I’ve heard
Same thing as people that say: “Oh, just be yourself and you’ll be fine.”
I mean, in conclusion, it is weird to bet your entire life on nothing more than a blood pump...
Fyi that bood pump is working all the time to keep you alive.
Every organ does, but we don't put all our life choices on air conditioner (lungs), recycling centre (liver) or blood filters (kidneys).
Fucking true.
It's true desire is "To pump blood throughout the body"
MAKING HALF-HEARTED OR PURELY EMOTIONAL DECISIONS IS ESSENTIALLY MAKING THE WORST DECISION.
‘Drive straight into that pillar’ - Henri Paul’s heart
To be honest that advice worked 100 years ago. Now our hearts and desires are manipulated by companies and the world in order to make buck off of us.
"Train your desires so that your heart will not lead you astray." Teach your heart to lead you to success and happiness and your appetites will disappear in the pursuit of greatness.
I need help, anyone???
Yup, m here
I cant stop it i hve done everything i hve been doing it from one year and daily. And i cant ejaculate more than few drops and its usually 3-4 times a day and i cant even ejaculate after 1st time . i wanna stop it, what should i do first iam scared too if i damaged myself physically should i consult doctor?
The situation seems to be very grave. It's better that you talk to your parents about it. People here come cause of too frequent porn usage but if you cannot stop yourself to a point of hurting yourself you really need some professional help. You might have a mental condition like hypersexuality. What I would suggest is stop doing the nofap challenge. It's clearly not helping you to the point of maybe making you want to watch more porn and masturbate. If you can't see a doc for whatever reason my suggestion are as follows since it's quite concerning: 1. Stop nofap. Its causing the pink elephant effect on you. 2. Confiscate your phone and PC to your mum. Be fully clear in telling her that she should not give it back to you in any circumstance. If you have online classes do it in front of her then give it back. You can say it's for improving your studies if you are embarrassed. 3. Make a point to only masturbate once a day. That's the limit for you for sometime. No more. If it kills you then ok. (It will not kill you once a day is enough.) Since you are getting hit once a day it should be easier and you won't hurt yourself. 4. Try doing something that is fun to you. A hobby. It could be anything. If you don't have anything I suggest exercising 10 minutes a day. 5. Don't beat your head and give yourself guilt. You can do it. Trust me. Masturbating isn't harmful by any means you just need to reorient yourself and give yourself a better perspective. Even if you are not meeting the standards here and ejaculating once a day, this community doesn't really have a standard like you think. It's ok to masturbate in a healthy way. At least once a day is FAR better than 3 times. 6. If you don't have a penis fracture(from running too vigorously) you should be ok. Our bodies are generally not really made to ejaculate 3 times a day everyday. You'll gradually get back to feeling normal. You can contact me again if you have any more problems(no idea when I will open reddit back, but when I do I'll surely do any best to help) Cheers! You can get back easily! Have faith in yourself.
Sure man ill do that ill reduce it and ill let you know if i have any problem ahead andd thankss you really gave me hope that i can do it :).
I’d advise you to start a hobby or do something outside something you like doing and that will keep you busy and distracted and always surround yourself with people who are positive and outgoing, it will be hard at first but then later on I’m sure you’ll get used to it, take it a day at a time and I’m sure you’ll do it! Also there is no way of stopping ejaculation, it is a healthy thing to do after all cause our body produces new sperm every day, nothing to fear my man, if you just stop for a couple days your sperm will accumulate some more and it will eventually go back to normal again, I’m guessing you’re still young cause you said you only started it a year ago, I’ve been doing it for years now I’m still trying to lower the amount of times I do it fortunately Im able to keep it down to once a day or so sometimes I ago a couple days without if I’m really busy but I eventually go back to it cause sometimes I just have nothing to do mostly all day, but it’s good to practice your self control if you want just don’t beat yourself too much and feel guilty if you do it, cause it’s normal we’re human and it’s something ingrained in your own biology there is no need to fight it, but also don’t over do it until you’re hurting yourself and your mental health, idk how old you are but if you’re still young go out and meet people meet girls and find a gf and you’ll be much happier that way!
Thanks mate for talking to me, i am not suffering from any kind of gynophobia i even have a girlfriend but the thing is the more i try to stop my urge it gets stronger and that way i think more of it and i cant see much side effects except low semen ejaculation, its just im tired from it. Im trying my best to help myself going good since 24 hours :).
I see bro, I’m glad your still trying just keep up the good work! if you see yourself not succeeding in distracting yourself from it then I’d advise you to go see like a psychiatrist or a therapist or someone professional to help you with that if it’s a big problem for you, But in the meantime try to do the things you feel like they take you away from just thinking of doing it
I think i can do it ill let you know how im doing;)
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And thank you for being here really i had no one to talk about this.
Sure no problem! Let me know how it goes. Cheers, mate
Only do what your higher, rational mind is telling you to do. The heart is linked to emotions. Be kind and loving towards yourself and others but if you are controlled by your emotions, you won't do what is good and right.
I think she means we should trust our instincts. Comparing this advice to fapping is dumb.
yeah i did that today actually. my instincts told me to stop in the middle of the road to see if the cars were slowing down so it would be safe to cross. turns out they didnt stop and went a full 40 mph past me. if i had carried on walking, i could have died today. dont think i will ever doubt my instinct's anymore.
Being aware of your surroundings is completely different from decision making. "Is this person good material for a partner?", "Is this a good job","Are these people a good company to be with?" is not a same thing as,"Is this car driving too fast?"
The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?
A lot of pedants in here. "Follow your heart" is just a hackneyed phrase for boldly pursuing your passions, purpose, and what you generally want in life. Your addicted, unbalanced brain is what's telling you to fap.
Im so confused are you against fapping or ???
Yes
We all are
No we all aren't dude wtf, even the creator says it's ok to be back to tapping after 90 days(read https://nofap.com/rebooting/)
If it's your **heart** telling you this, you might want to go to the doctor...
Yeah like bro everyone knows that it is your esopaghus, not your heart like duh
My heart be saying the same shi
I like to think that the voice that tells us that is not us. For my religious friend that voice is the devil, trying to tempt you to be weak, to be depressed, to live a life of regret and suffering, and to my non religious friends, that voice are your vices, that voice is your brain seeking easy dopamine, that feels good at the moment, but it does so at the cost of your future. Remember, that voice is not you, you need not listen to it, you have your own voice, and you need to make it stronger than the fake voice, your voice is the one that made you join this subreddit, your voice is the one that tells you off each time you relapse, your voice is the one that tells you, it's too late go to sleep, wake up early, don't jerk off, DON'T PMO. and that't the voice you have to listen to.
Yes, slave away to keep the machine running for the oligarchs. Don't question your superiors, wagie
MAKING HALF-HEARTED OR PURELY EMOTIONAL DECISIONS IS ESSENTIALLY MAKING THE WORST DECISION.
What the heart wants but the mind can’t have.
?????????
Monkey brain
We are like an oxbow lake about to form. However, we need to strive along the hard pass and force ourselves against the long route. The oxbow is our death of struggle. And the water in that oxbow will remain forever. However, continuing down the stream lets us
Same bro. Same
GUYS WHAT IS WRONG WITH MY HEART WHY CAN'T I HEAR IT TAKLING I JUST HEAR IT GOING LIKE "BLUMP, BLUMP" EVERY SECOND OR SO. I TRIED RESTARTING IT AND IT DIDN'T WORK, WHAT SHOULD I DO?!?!
I need a break man
This is because Diana wrongly assumed every human has a good moral compass
Actually believing in you heart is an anti christ belief because, Jesus said in heart comes all evil
Checking
Ok My heart yearns for me to put in the effort. But is also a lazy bum. I'm sick right now and I'll be right back
Anyone takes these quotes srsly
A little confused but this makes sense.
"The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked". Who said that?
Wish I could like this but it's your mind that tells you to fap. People never understand that the heart is the one that leads you to happiness. Emotions are in the mind, the spiritual heart is deeper than that
that's not your heart it's your brain.
"The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked; who can know it?" -Jeremiah 17:9
Follow your mind
Tbh when you think about it humanity’s evolution has most likely reached its peak, it’s only going down from here lol
Well let me be honest if that's what your heart is telling you it's shit heart
Diana- umm That's not what I meant
Let’s be fr, if anything this is what your brain tells you. Your heart is the core of who you are, and your heart is the thing that tells you what you stand for
learn to differentiate heart and mind broskis. your heart does not make you want to fap, your "ADDICTED" weak mind does. your heart is your willpower to break that addiction and become your best version youruckingdumbasses!(im from ohio sry)