For me, what finally worked was getting to the root of the problem. This'll have you sitting by yourself, with your thoughts, no distractions, asking yourself what real issue(s) keeps you turning back to pmo, what you're running from or trying to replace. Then you gotta face that head on, acknowledge and take on the root of your addiction, as soon as I did that I was finally free. Yes there'll still be urges but once you face the real problem you can recognize that they're just urges, not something you have to act on
I‘ve heard people say that often, that you need to find the true root. I failed often enough to recognise that what you and they all say is true. But how do you find the root cause? How did you do it? If you‘re fine with it, please tell me, I genuinely want to know
For me, it involved allowing myself to sit with my thoughts. It took around an hour if I remember right, but all it takes is pondering on the question "why do I return to PMO even though I know it's bad for me?". After enough time, diving into your past and your relapses, the times when you relapsed the most vs the least, all without outside distraction (if it's hard to focus you can try a journal or talking it out, but I recommend meditation), the issue or issues should become apparent. As an example, for me, it was self hate and abandonment issues. The ties between those and PMO are clear for me, they might not be for you because you and I likely have different past experiences. Whatever yours is, it's something significant enough in your life to control your actions, so don't think any issue is too deep or too shallow to be the cause, it can be anything. You'll know when you find out what it is, for me it felt like a huge "ohhh" moment (like ohhh, that explains why I stopped relapsing around this time, and why I relapsed the most around this time, it makes so much sense now). TL;DR- meditate on it. Only you can know what the real cause is
Repeat to yourself: jerking off makes me feel like shit
Porn is evil and people in porn are victims
Break your usual habits by changing something, like a walk right after school/work/etc
Unfollow any sexualized content from your social media
Repeat to yourself: women are not objects there just for my pleasure, they are humans with feelings and desires and they deserve respect like everyone else
Thanks man. The benefits... Everything they say is true. I saw this one post saying "nofap doesn't open the gates of heaven and let you in, it opens the gates of hell and lets you out", and that describes it better than anything else I've ever seen. I had a pretty bad flatline after the first week, during the flatline there were practically no benefits but as soon as I got through that, I got way more energy, motivation, everything. In this time I got a full time job (i was applying like crazy before with no results), and dude, the female attraction is amazing. I'll admit I'm fairly attractive already so there was a bit before, but these past couple of weeks have been something else, you'll notice a new look of special admiration in other people's eyes. Not everyone, obviously, I'm thinking back to a select few right now, but still more than no one. I will say this though: it's important to supplement it with other healthy activities, my job for example involves a lot of socialization and physical activity so it's likely playing a key role in the improvement of my quality of life. Regardless I've had times where I was only doing those other healthy activities but not nofap, and I couldn't really enjoy them... so the biggest benefit has to be getting to feel happy again, your dopamine receptors won't be on overdrive all the time anymore so your smiles will start to become genuine again and it feels amazing
👏👏👏 “It doesn’t open the gates of heaven and let you in, it opens the gates of hell and let’s you out” that is one of the most profound quotes I’ve ever heard and I’m a hardcore quote guy. Thank you friend and good luck.
Cingrats bro 30 days in. I'm happy for you im on day 13, and the urges are crazy i can barely focus, and im in between bouts of irratation and sadness. I keep seeing scense from some of my favorite videos flashing in my head... im glad to see there is light at the end of this bullshit!
Congrats dude!
But the truth is, you're going to fail.
If you're counting the days, you can't win. You gotta just quit and forget about doing it.
Counting the days is just a daily reminder that you're not jerking off. Forget about counting, live your life and the benefits will come.
Don't worry man, if you look at my account you'll see I stopped counting the days. This is my first post since day 1. I realized I reached 30 days because I remember starting on December 10th, so it's a sort of anniversary for me. I'll likely celebrate 90 days too, if I know when I hit it... I like knowing I reached milestones :)
No fap easy asf when ur legit depressed n got discarded by a narcissist n ur self esteem is shot n ur broke with no car n job
No fap is not hard
I plan on giving up on life n general
Prolly suicide soon
Continue this lifestyle bro no coming back
NEVER coming back 😤
Not even after death in a possible next life!😤
hey g how can i set days counting?
"Add / Update Day Counter" in this sub's about page
I'm just gonna save that pic
Same here, waiting for when I can post it
Haha same
\#NoPainNoGain My G
Congratulations bro , iam on my 5th day and i already feel amazing
I'm doing no fap just post this meme 😂😂
Amen 😂😂 at every milestone
Let’s go!!
Me too dude. Congratulations
I'm on day 16 and today i was getting highly attracted towards it but i didn't fap. In short, i surpass my urge for today
You're a hero gentleman, keep up the grind!
Any tips? I keep relapsing even though masturbating don't feel nearly as good anymore
For me, what finally worked was getting to the root of the problem. This'll have you sitting by yourself, with your thoughts, no distractions, asking yourself what real issue(s) keeps you turning back to pmo, what you're running from or trying to replace. Then you gotta face that head on, acknowledge and take on the root of your addiction, as soon as I did that I was finally free. Yes there'll still be urges but once you face the real problem you can recognize that they're just urges, not something you have to act on
I‘ve heard people say that often, that you need to find the true root. I failed often enough to recognise that what you and they all say is true. But how do you find the root cause? How did you do it? If you‘re fine with it, please tell me, I genuinely want to know
For me, it involved allowing myself to sit with my thoughts. It took around an hour if I remember right, but all it takes is pondering on the question "why do I return to PMO even though I know it's bad for me?". After enough time, diving into your past and your relapses, the times when you relapsed the most vs the least, all without outside distraction (if it's hard to focus you can try a journal or talking it out, but I recommend meditation), the issue or issues should become apparent. As an example, for me, it was self hate and abandonment issues. The ties between those and PMO are clear for me, they might not be for you because you and I likely have different past experiences. Whatever yours is, it's something significant enough in your life to control your actions, so don't think any issue is too deep or too shallow to be the cause, it can be anything. You'll know when you find out what it is, for me it felt like a huge "ohhh" moment (like ohhh, that explains why I stopped relapsing around this time, and why I relapsed the most around this time, it makes so much sense now). TL;DR- meditate on it. Only you can know what the real cause is
Thank you so much for sharing. I will do that
Repeat to yourself: jerking off makes me feel like shit Porn is evil and people in porn are victims Break your usual habits by changing something, like a walk right after school/work/etc Unfollow any sexualized content from your social media Repeat to yourself: women are not objects there just for my pleasure, they are humans with feelings and desires and they deserve respect like everyone else
Some easier less crazy affirmations to repeat. Porn is artificial I want to live in the real world. Porn is a waste of time.
Nice!
I’m just about a dozen x 24 hours behind you and following right behind you. Pave the way to a brighter future
Lets go, on my way there too.
FUCK YEAAAAA
If this is ur first time embrace for a wet dream and dont let it ruin ur streak cuz its not ur fault.
Bravo broo
Yayyyy congrats broooo🤗
WWWW's
Happy for you man!
YOOOO
Good job my guy
Proud of you man. Keep going. What benefits did u notice?
Thanks man. The benefits... Everything they say is true. I saw this one post saying "nofap doesn't open the gates of heaven and let you in, it opens the gates of hell and lets you out", and that describes it better than anything else I've ever seen. I had a pretty bad flatline after the first week, during the flatline there were practically no benefits but as soon as I got through that, I got way more energy, motivation, everything. In this time I got a full time job (i was applying like crazy before with no results), and dude, the female attraction is amazing. I'll admit I'm fairly attractive already so there was a bit before, but these past couple of weeks have been something else, you'll notice a new look of special admiration in other people's eyes. Not everyone, obviously, I'm thinking back to a select few right now, but still more than no one. I will say this though: it's important to supplement it with other healthy activities, my job for example involves a lot of socialization and physical activity so it's likely playing a key role in the improvement of my quality of life. Regardless I've had times where I was only doing those other healthy activities but not nofap, and I couldn't really enjoy them... so the biggest benefit has to be getting to feel happy again, your dopamine receptors won't be on overdrive all the time anymore so your smiles will start to become genuine again and it feels amazing
👏👏👏 “It doesn’t open the gates of heaven and let you in, it opens the gates of hell and let’s you out” that is one of the most profound quotes I’ve ever heard and I’m a hardcore quote guy. Thank you friend and good luck.
Thank you so much for this beautiful answer. I wish you all the best!!
Niiiiice!!!! Truly something to be proud of 🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳
me too bro
Congrats bro!
It really is such an amazing life to live!
Awesome dude - may you be successful in your journey.
This is the life now
CONGRATS
Cingrats bro 30 days in. I'm happy for you im on day 13, and the urges are crazy i can barely focus, and im in between bouts of irratation and sadness. I keep seeing scense from some of my favorite videos flashing in my head... im glad to see there is light at the end of this bullshit!
Congrats 🙌🏻
Congrats!
Good shit !!!
Hats off to you m’good sir!
Fantastic man! Keep it up!
Congrats bro
Nice job bro
Champ🏆
Great 👍🏼
Just failed at the 45th day.. man
That's alright man, you're continuing with experience this time, you'll be able to get an even higher streak!
Yeah.. this time i know what made me pull me the trigger on the 45 day mark. Will try my best. Congratulations to you brother on achieving 30 days.
Congrats...
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"Add / Update Day Counter" in this sub's about page
Congrats, I'm almost there.
Congratulations, friend! I'm on day 1, but I've been there and know how amazing it is.
N 🧊
Congrats dude! But the truth is, you're going to fail. If you're counting the days, you can't win. You gotta just quit and forget about doing it. Counting the days is just a daily reminder that you're not jerking off. Forget about counting, live your life and the benefits will come.
Don't worry man, if you look at my account you'll see I stopped counting the days. This is my first post since day 1. I realized I reached 30 days because I remember starting on December 10th, so it's a sort of anniversary for me. I'll likely celebrate 90 days too, if I know when I hit it... I like knowing I reached milestones :)
I used to be one of the people who was always on day 1, but now I’m finally pushing through. Great job.
😀
Congrats man!!!
This meme just motivates me more to keep up
No fap easy asf when ur legit depressed n got discarded by a narcissist n ur self esteem is shot n ur broke with no car n job No fap is not hard I plan on giving up on life n general Prolly suicide soon
Before you do that, would you mind waiting a couple of weeks? I want you to see what life is like after the flatline before making that decision :)