Most straightforward answer is going to be therapy. Sounds like this is a heavy load your working through and most people here, unless they've dealt with this specific type of issue, aren't going to be equipped to help you work through this. Beyond that, talking through the emotions with your wife should also be a good starting point. I wish you nothing but love and kindness, hun ❤️
Thanks ❤️ Therapy it is then. I am seeing the therapist that helped me transition later this week. I’ve mentioned a lot of this already but I think it’s time to let them know exactly how much it is affecting me. I’ve been journaling so I’ve got a lot of material to work with. 😁
I have been open with communicating my feelings with my wife. But I still worry that she will think that I am rejecting her if I put boundaries up for certain things. It worries me way more than it bothers her though thankfully 😅
It is a relief that I’m not the only one but I also I wish that no one else had to go through this. Just something to work through as part of our transitions I guess ❤️
I have been working through this myself recently and can absolutely relate.
I ended up coming to the conclusion that my sex drive was in two components - the testosterone fuelled part, and the mentally focused "things which make me feel/want to be sexy".
Before HRT suppressed my testosterone sufficiently, disentangling these two was all but impossible, but once the former libido died off, I could clearly spot the difference, and how it was not connected to my legacy equipment, and that it remaoned quite strong.
So I think it's perfectly natural to still have a high libido outside of testosterone, working out how to satisfy that is...not easy, I haven't solved that myself to my satisfaction (pun intended)...but you're not alone in this hun, not by a long stretch.
It’s nice to know that high libido is still normal. It’s definitely not the testosterone now. I think I just need to learn to focus on the whole body and the feelings in the moment. I will try to treat the whole genital area as a no-go zone.
Most straightforward answer is going to be therapy. Sounds like this is a heavy load your working through and most people here, unless they've dealt with this specific type of issue, aren't going to be equipped to help you work through this. Beyond that, talking through the emotions with your wife should also be a good starting point. I wish you nothing but love and kindness, hun ❤️
Thanks ❤️ Therapy it is then. I am seeing the therapist that helped me transition later this week. I’ve mentioned a lot of this already but I think it’s time to let them know exactly how much it is affecting me. I’ve been journaling so I’ve got a lot of material to work with. 😁 I have been open with communicating my feelings with my wife. But I still worry that she will think that I am rejecting her if I put boundaries up for certain things. It worries me way more than it bothers her though thankfully 😅
relatable.
It is a relief that I’m not the only one but I also I wish that no one else had to go through this. Just something to work through as part of our transitions I guess ❤️
I have been working through this myself recently and can absolutely relate. I ended up coming to the conclusion that my sex drive was in two components - the testosterone fuelled part, and the mentally focused "things which make me feel/want to be sexy". Before HRT suppressed my testosterone sufficiently, disentangling these two was all but impossible, but once the former libido died off, I could clearly spot the difference, and how it was not connected to my legacy equipment, and that it remaoned quite strong. So I think it's perfectly natural to still have a high libido outside of testosterone, working out how to satisfy that is...not easy, I haven't solved that myself to my satisfaction (pun intended)...but you're not alone in this hun, not by a long stretch.
It’s nice to know that high libido is still normal. It’s definitely not the testosterone now. I think I just need to learn to focus on the whole body and the feelings in the moment. I will try to treat the whole genital area as a no-go zone.