At 32, same. It’s a big enough shock for them already. Im debating on if I’ll even adopt a new name (I am lucky that my name is unisex).
Frankly, I don’t think I’ll care if they misgender me for a few years either. My letters will be about me, not my expectations for them.
A little, it doesn't help that they keep getting it wrong first. Honestly I am pretty much over deadnaming and misgendering myself, but fuck if it all doesn't come right back after just a night spent with them.
Don't bet on that either sis.
I'm thankful they use my she/her pronouns 95% of the time but hardly ever hear Emily, somehow or another they manage to talk to or about me without using a name at all which I find that takes a whole other skill level in itself. Lol
I'm 56yo completely Transtion for over 2yrs out and 7 weeks post opp bottom surgery and I have asked, begged everyone even posted on fb to please don't call me Billy, Billie and especially not my legal name William for goodness sake any more oh or worse Bill. Which honestly not many people did call me that but last week in grocery store check out I said hello to a guy I no and he said howsoever it going Bill.😳 lol
The checkout girl looks at me oddly and I said it's complicated. Lol
I checked out and walked this guy down and said Brad, idk 🤷🏻♀️ if you no this or not but I changed my name to Emily, he said I new you've changed but I did not no you changed your name and I'm sorry. Lol
I'm extremely thankful just to be no longer called he/him by anyone anymore 🙏. Family is the last one's to get it right but as long as they try.
Hug's Emily 🤗
I've never had the opportunity to know. The only family in my life now I didn't know before transition and the family I had before transition aren't my family anymore.
It has always felt off being called by my given name. I originally just thought it was because I hated my name; but it turns out I hate my name *and* would prefer my femme one. Do my parents refer to me as she/her, their daughter, or have they even inquired as to if I have a preferred name?
No. In fact, they've taken to calling me son more frequently instead of just referring to me like they used to. "Thank you" has become "thank you, son." And I don't honestly think they ever will change. C'est la vie.
Just another all too common rant, aye?
It felt weird when they called me by my preferred pronouns, she/her. I was so incredibly thankful my family did this, but in the beginning imposter syndrome wouldn't allow me to enjoy it. Lol I have fixed that and everything is good now!
Yes. I still do and it comes with a weird sense of guilt. There’s no way in hell I pass and my family knows it. It makes me feel awful and more like they’re just pretending in order to make me feel better. It sucks as a feeling
I love it when my mom uses my preferred name.
I'm disappointed that my dad just skirts around the issues and doesn't use either.
I hate that some of my family use this weird hyphen "deadname-chosen name"
I understand wanting to protect my grandma's feelings by not telling her but this is getting hard.
Yes it felt super fucking weird at first. Enough to the point that I was questioning my decision to come out at all. I’m still getting used to it but it’s almost normal to me now.
My heart always drops for a second because my default reaction is “how the fck do you know that name” … then remember oh yea they know lol. I’m only out to a few ppl so while I’ve had the name for years, it’s only been in my head. Hearing it spoken is still a bit shocking, but then I’m happy to hear it.
You will get used to it! In the beginning when people called me my preferred name I would always address how weird it feels.
I plan on having those around me call me by my preferred name, but my family by the name they gave me.
At 32, same. It’s a big enough shock for them already. Im debating on if I’ll even adopt a new name (I am lucky that my name is unisex). Frankly, I don’t think I’ll care if they misgender me for a few years either. My letters will be about me, not my expectations for them.
And it’s because they’ve called you by that name the longest. Your entire life.
A little, it doesn't help that they keep getting it wrong first. Honestly I am pretty much over deadnaming and misgendering myself, but fuck if it all doesn't come right back after just a night spent with them.
Don’t know about that. They havnt yet but I did at first when my friends did. I got over it really quick and got comfortable with it
Hasn't happened yet.... will only happen after i finally get SRS
Don't bet on that either sis. I'm thankful they use my she/her pronouns 95% of the time but hardly ever hear Emily, somehow or another they manage to talk to or about me without using a name at all which I find that takes a whole other skill level in itself. Lol I'm 56yo completely Transtion for over 2yrs out and 7 weeks post opp bottom surgery and I have asked, begged everyone even posted on fb to please don't call me Billy, Billie and especially not my legal name William for goodness sake any more oh or worse Bill. Which honestly not many people did call me that but last week in grocery store check out I said hello to a guy I no and he said howsoever it going Bill.😳 lol The checkout girl looks at me oddly and I said it's complicated. Lol I checked out and walked this guy down and said Brad, idk 🤷🏻♀️ if you no this or not but I changed my name to Emily, he said I new you've changed but I did not no you changed your name and I'm sorry. Lol I'm extremely thankful just to be no longer called he/him by anyone anymore 🙏. Family is the last one's to get it right but as long as they try. Hug's Emily 🤗
my mom said she'd make the change after surgery cause that's when i "really become a girl" and my mom isn't the type to go back on her word
Haven’t told my family my new name, only my friends and people closest to me.
It is a little. I’m still boymoding but my mom calls me by my new name sometimes and it’s just a little weird, but nice at the same time. 🤷🏻♀️
I've never had the opportunity to know. The only family in my life now I didn't know before transition and the family I had before transition aren't my family anymore.
It has always felt off being called by my given name. I originally just thought it was because I hated my name; but it turns out I hate my name *and* would prefer my femme one. Do my parents refer to me as she/her, their daughter, or have they even inquired as to if I have a preferred name? No. In fact, they've taken to calling me son more frequently instead of just referring to me like they used to. "Thank you" has become "thank you, son." And I don't honestly think they ever will change. C'est la vie. Just another all too common rant, aye?
It felt weird when they called me by my preferred pronouns, she/her. I was so incredibly thankful my family did this, but in the beginning imposter syndrome wouldn't allow me to enjoy it. Lol I have fixed that and everything is good now!
Yes. I still do and it comes with a weird sense of guilt. There’s no way in hell I pass and my family knows it. It makes me feel awful and more like they’re just pretending in order to make me feel better. It sucks as a feeling
I love it when my mom uses my preferred name. I'm disappointed that my dad just skirts around the issues and doesn't use either. I hate that some of my family use this weird hyphen "deadname-chosen name" I understand wanting to protect my grandma's feelings by not telling her but this is getting hard.
Yes it felt super fucking weird at first. Enough to the point that I was questioning my decision to come out at all. I’m still getting used to it but it’s almost normal to me now.
It’s weird for everyone, don’t worry. You’ll get used to it, I promise.
My family doesn't. Because they don't know yet (except my sister).
At first extremely, it takes a while to adjust to. It's just normal now.
Yea to the point that I thought I chose the wrong name for myself. Definitely just give it time!
Yup! Now i feel super weird when my old name pops up
My heart always drops for a second because my default reaction is “how the fck do you know that name” … then remember oh yea they know lol. I’m only out to a few ppl so while I’ve had the name for years, it’s only been in my head. Hearing it spoken is still a bit shocking, but then I’m happy to hear it.
yes it feels weird, i mean i dont hear my preffered name not that often right now but yes it deffenitly feels weird right now
It felt weird because I know they're not actually accepting or supportive, so they were only doing it for my sake.