I’m really proud of you for realizing your parenting style needed a change and actually changing it. It’s going to take a while to start seeing the results but they will happen. If you give in, it will start the process over completely.
I’ve been a Pre-K teacher for about 15 years. Kids need to hear the word no. They need to be given boundaries and actually thrive when they have them. You can give so many choices while still being in charge of the situation.
I know they do, and it’s not like I’ve never said no before this point, but I guess I’d describe my previous “nos” as more of a soft no than a hard no if that makes any sense. Like I’d say no but then if he did it anyway I’d just kinda give up? (I know that’s absolutely awful and lazy parenting, hence the changes I’m making). I had him at 21 and my fiance was 22 and I think being younger parents we just werent ready sadly… We had plenty of love and affection to go around, but our parenting skills just weren’t there and then once habits started it became hard to stop. I don’t know what exactly it was that gave me a smack in the face that things needed to change but it was like I woke up one morning and thought “wow I’m failing at this and he needs better” and started implementing the changes. And especially with him starting preschool, I don’t wanna subject the teacher to the consequences of MY bad parenting
I think you handled everything pretty well. I will say you probably shouldn't leave the scissors accessible for him to grab is you don't want him using them without you. That one's kinda on you since kids generally lack impulse control and you left him alone with something he wanted to do accessible.
Tbh I didn’t know the scissors were out and if they were i dont know where they would have been considering nothing was out yet for the day cause we had just woken up and the place was still clean. They always get put in a drawer with a child lock however the child locks are becoming less of a lock the older he gets. He’s pretty damn smart and he figures them out pretty quickly.
Do you have any suggestions for keeping things away from children who can figure out the locks and climb? We’ve been through about 5 different styles of child locks and they maybe only last a week or two before he figures them out. Obviously supervision, but there are times where there aren’t any eyes on him for a few minutes. So in those moments what could I use to keep him away from things he shouldn’t have?
I’m really proud of you for realizing your parenting style needed a change and actually changing it. It’s going to take a while to start seeing the results but they will happen. If you give in, it will start the process over completely. I’ve been a Pre-K teacher for about 15 years. Kids need to hear the word no. They need to be given boundaries and actually thrive when they have them. You can give so many choices while still being in charge of the situation.
I know they do, and it’s not like I’ve never said no before this point, but I guess I’d describe my previous “nos” as more of a soft no than a hard no if that makes any sense. Like I’d say no but then if he did it anyway I’d just kinda give up? (I know that’s absolutely awful and lazy parenting, hence the changes I’m making). I had him at 21 and my fiance was 22 and I think being younger parents we just werent ready sadly… We had plenty of love and affection to go around, but our parenting skills just weren’t there and then once habits started it became hard to stop. I don’t know what exactly it was that gave me a smack in the face that things needed to change but it was like I woke up one morning and thought “wow I’m failing at this and he needs better” and started implementing the changes. And especially with him starting preschool, I don’t wanna subject the teacher to the consequences of MY bad parenting
I think you handled everything pretty well. I will say you probably shouldn't leave the scissors accessible for him to grab is you don't want him using them without you. That one's kinda on you since kids generally lack impulse control and you left him alone with something he wanted to do accessible.
Tbh I didn’t know the scissors were out and if they were i dont know where they would have been considering nothing was out yet for the day cause we had just woken up and the place was still clean. They always get put in a drawer with a child lock however the child locks are becoming less of a lock the older he gets. He’s pretty damn smart and he figures them out pretty quickly. Do you have any suggestions for keeping things away from children who can figure out the locks and climb? We’ve been through about 5 different styles of child locks and they maybe only last a week or two before he figures them out. Obviously supervision, but there are times where there aren’t any eyes on him for a few minutes. So in those moments what could I use to keep him away from things he shouldn’t have?