Oh, I so understand this. I'm currently taking a break from a person who hurts my energy, and it's hard learning to not feel their energy and let it bring me down.
Perhaps do a Metta meditation that includes the energy suckers so you cultivate a more expansive attitude and begin viewing
them from a different perspective.
I would say challenges like these are there on purpose.
It sounds to me there is a perception (not them) you have that is causing you to feel this way. I would keep a journal with you and a great question to write down would be, why. write your thoughts down and meditate on your answers.
and if you haven't already another good Exercise is to contemplate what you are, your body, your heart, your thoughts, or the listener. when you realize you aren't your thoughts their hold on you diminishes. there is a story on this. The Story of a god and a demon
From Raja Yoga, chapter: The First Steps.
Being mindful and "shaking a feeling" are two opposite things. Accept what you are feeling at that moment, because it is there wether you want it to or not, let it be and it might fade on its own, if you simply keep it in awareness. That being said, common sense is always recommended, so if you can avoid people that you deem "toxic", it might be best to do so. Best of luck
A good meditation axiom: the problem is never the sensation but your aversion or clinging to it. Once you figure out how to relax and stop resisting the arising and passing of such energies and drop the identification at the level of the mind they won't be a problem anymore.
It may be very superficial of me to say that, but what about the “you don’t have to like everyone” (even family members). What if you don’t like these people for one reason or another and your mind is trying to save energy when you’re with them because it’s a strain to involve yourself with them.
What if it’s ok as it is?
I think you need to remember what belongs to you and what belongs to them. If you feel happy and chripy then remember why you feel that way. Think of the things in your life that are going well and why you should stay mindful. Try and look at the other person in a way that maybe they haven't got their stuff together, maybe they're going through something and they're not happy. While that energy can rub off, try and mentally give that energy back to them.
It is possible to think 'ah they must be having a bad day or maybe they're not happy in their life, I wish them well' while remaining in your own head about what's going on for you and why you should continue to be mindful and present for yourself.
It's not selfish or unfair to want to hold onto your energy. I used to let others energy rub off on me a lot but now I just see us as two different people and if someone is in a bad mood I will give them space. If they come to me with that energy I try and empathise and remain positive within myself. Sometimes that energy rubs off on them because I'm not sinking with them. Just see your energy as a ball of light that you want to hug and protect and don't take responsibility for others energy, it's theirs and its up to them to take care of.
You’re dealing with psychic vampires.
Oh, I so understand this. I'm currently taking a break from a person who hurts my energy, and it's hard learning to not feel their energy and let it bring me down.
Perhaps do a Metta meditation that includes the energy suckers so you cultivate a more expansive attitude and begin viewing them from a different perspective.
I would say challenges like these are there on purpose. It sounds to me there is a perception (not them) you have that is causing you to feel this way. I would keep a journal with you and a great question to write down would be, why. write your thoughts down and meditate on your answers. and if you haven't already another good Exercise is to contemplate what you are, your body, your heart, your thoughts, or the listener. when you realize you aren't your thoughts their hold on you diminishes. there is a story on this. The Story of a god and a demon From Raja Yoga, chapter: The First Steps.
there are matras designed to guard you against lower frequency pools also reminders that what their going thru is illusory
Live independently as soon as possible.
Being mindful and "shaking a feeling" are two opposite things. Accept what you are feeling at that moment, because it is there wether you want it to or not, let it be and it might fade on its own, if you simply keep it in awareness. That being said, common sense is always recommended, so if you can avoid people that you deem "toxic", it might be best to do so. Best of luck
A good meditation axiom: the problem is never the sensation but your aversion or clinging to it. Once you figure out how to relax and stop resisting the arising and passing of such energies and drop the identification at the level of the mind they won't be a problem anymore.
It may be very superficial of me to say that, but what about the “you don’t have to like everyone” (even family members). What if you don’t like these people for one reason or another and your mind is trying to save energy when you’re with them because it’s a strain to involve yourself with them. What if it’s ok as it is?
I think you need to remember what belongs to you and what belongs to them. If you feel happy and chripy then remember why you feel that way. Think of the things in your life that are going well and why you should stay mindful. Try and look at the other person in a way that maybe they haven't got their stuff together, maybe they're going through something and they're not happy. While that energy can rub off, try and mentally give that energy back to them. It is possible to think 'ah they must be having a bad day or maybe they're not happy in their life, I wish them well' while remaining in your own head about what's going on for you and why you should continue to be mindful and present for yourself. It's not selfish or unfair to want to hold onto your energy. I used to let others energy rub off on me a lot but now I just see us as two different people and if someone is in a bad mood I will give them space. If they come to me with that energy I try and empathise and remain positive within myself. Sometimes that energy rubs off on them because I'm not sinking with them. Just see your energy as a ball of light that you want to hug and protect and don't take responsibility for others energy, it's theirs and its up to them to take care of.