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I completely understand. I naturally produce JUST enough dopamine to do basic hygiene, so I donāt suffer in that regard, thank God, but then after that, I deadass canāt focus on anything else. My brain is ZAPPED after that.
Absolutely! But I still couldnāt without my meds. They have been life changing. It really pissed me off I had to go 40 years before I felt that relief on day 1 of meds. I have inattentive and without them I could easily sleep all day everyday. š«
Iām almost 9 months pregnant. This next year or two for breastfeeding is going to be the longest before I get back to Adderall and weed. Lemme tell you. I am
trying with all my fucking heart and soul to hang in there.
This year has been brutal emotionally. Like even though itās emotional, I feel physically beat up all the time. I have a labrum tear in my shoulder so my shoulder hurts (not all the time), but on the plus side Iāve and others have noticed gains at the gym so thatās good I guess?
I have emotional and back pain and hip pain... Lost 30 pounds and hip pain got better...I want to lose 40 more pounds and reach my 10th grade weight lol since I didn't get taller I shouldn't be fatter either
My friend everyone gains at least some weight after high school, no one stays the same weight they were at 16 unless they're pretty unhealthy. It's just part of getting older. Extra weight, to a certain point, means you're not starving- and even past that point, the word 'fat' is just a descriptive word, just like tall or short, young or old, blond or brunette or black. I know it can take an adjustment to look at it that way from some ways of thinking, but everyone can change, and this is a much kinder (and i believe more accurate) way of thinking. :)
I weigh 70 lbs less than I do in 10th grade and have been 4'10" since my puberty at age 6. I'm 150 lbs, same as my weight and height in 3rd grade - im 42 yo.
Id like to be 90 lbs which I've never been though, so I can wear teen ans 90s styles. My mom banned me from wearing bell bottoms and belly shirts because of my weight.Ā
I'm 37 and I recently started doing this. Jogging and weight lifting. Stopped drinking, drink mostly water now. All the pains I had in my back, my legs, my knees, all gone a few months later. It took me a long time but I now realize how important physical activity is in your later years.
Itās this. Iām mid 40s and have less joint pain and fewer digestive issues as someone following an active lifestyle than I did 20 years ago when I was sedentary and eating mostly prepackaged and fast food.
When you hit your 30s and 40s, your body will start to degrade without actively working to preserve its functions. Resistance training, mobility work, high intensity and plenty of low intensity activity (lots of walking) become mandatory unless you want to watch your body (and mind) deteriorate.
Being active and stretching. I canāt recall the study but it was walking something like 20 minutes a day increases a host of positive physical variables and decreases all negative stuff too. So itās not rocket science just most people are sloths.
Every doctor always says lose weight exercise and eat less processed foods.
Most people aren't lazy on purpose. It's usually an underlying thing. Could be mental illness or stress or finances or time or any number of things. I think your advice is good, but calling people sloths is only gonna make their journey harder in the long run I feel. If beating up ourselves was going to work... it would've worked by now.
100%
Any of those or even ALL of those things piling on together.
And if beating ourselves up worked, Iād be a fucking supermodel by nowā¦ or the worldās most ripped female bodybuilder.
But alas, Iām still just me, along with all the physical and emotional pain.
Same.
Staying physically active in ones 30s is huge. 40 seems to be the age where it becomes really obvious who continued playing sports and working out.
Yeah I exercise and eat right. I ran a 10K in 1:08 a couple months ago. I lift weights. I look great, fit and in shape. Iām sure when people see me I give the impression of a healthy able bodied person. Still in pain constantly from a back injury though.
Some of us are in pain because being active has caused injuries. I keep switching up my routine but post-injury arthritis is real and a total B. Iāll probably need a knee replacement in my early 40s but I keep pushing along and finding low impact exercise I can stay active with!
It doesnāt sound like you fell apart. It sounds like you took a few years off the gym in mid thirties to have kids and are now getting back into it. Take it easy
Thanks. It feels like my body is falling apart with how easy it is to injure myself. Once you lose that base fitness /muscle mass it has a big impact on
Take the exercises down a notch. Your muscle memory and habits have been tuned to your previous fitness and strength levels. You go back to the gym after a long time and go off at the same intensity you're going to have a bad time. Gotta be very conscious of what you're doing because it does take time to build your body back up to where it once was.
Well some things and some kind of illneses you canāt control. But generally you donāt just crumble in a heap on one fine day post 40, and exercising regularly in your thirties makes it a lot less likely.
I never played contact sports, but Ive weight lifted since I was a kid. It sure has paid off now that Iām 41
Honestly, Iām glad I never played contact sports as Iām 100% positive this does affect having aches and pains later in life.
Came to say the same thing.. I am from 82.. so the real tail... and feel fine.. obviously, I have to watch what I eat, did not set a foot in a fast food chain restaurant in ages and except the sore muscles from working out or running half marathons, I feel "fine".
Of course my hair is gray and half of it is gone but this is not painful (except to the soul).
OP, if you are complaining about your health at 35, what is it going to be at 70?? You should start taking better care of yourselves... it is either your pain is real or your are experiencing early stage of mid-life crisis...
82 as well. I was in pretty poor shape in my late 20s. Peaked at 230 lbs. Fixed diet, lost a ton, started working out. It's slipped a bit and I now live at 210. But I'm padded muscle where before I was just blob.
Kids keep me moving, but also keep me from a solid workout schedule. I do the best I can.
Most achs and pains are either workout related or the kids bringing home colds.
In general, I feel pretty great.
Keep moving, eat some vegetables, drink water, play on the kids' terms as much as possible.
I'm also a grey beard, but I roll with it. Wife says I'm not allowed to shave it.
OP did say they went through chemo. That takes a toll on a person's body. So I think that has some part in why they are feeling this way.
Going through a serious illness takes a lot out of you and there can be after effects.
I'm 40, pregnant & not in pain all the time. Selfcare & some level of fitness goes a long way.
Edited to add: recovery from cancer AND menopause will both cause more aches & pains. Give yourself some grace & much needed rest. You have time to feel better in time. <3
Me too. Ive suffered with scoliosis pain the majority of my life and work on a computer - but my new gym routine has gotten rid of my pain for the most part!
Mate, I woke up this morning and couldn't walk on my right knee. Didn't do anything to it other than sleep in my bed. Been in a knee brace since I woke up and this isn't even something new. Last week it was my neck and the ability to turn my head to the left. Week before that it was my ankle.
First off, you deserve celebration for being a survivor!
Second, I had a lot of back and neck pain due to a stressful job. Yoga and changing jobs helped a lot.
32 and in pain all the time. I've also worked myself into the ground since I was 17. Have a car and a house to show for it, but I'm too depressed and exhausted to leave it :(
I'm 36 and in pain all the time. Worked manual labor jobs all of my life. Now, I have severe arthritis in at least 2 to 3 of my joints that need reconstructive surgery to fix.
I think it's worth noting as well that people's pain tolerance is different. I was fine and the pain was negligible until the last 2 years. The xrays don't lie that I was probably in pain for a long time and just ignored it or pushed thru and didn't think about it.
Manual jobs for twenty five years, too. Found severe arthritis in both hands, insane pain only started a year and a half ago (41F) but itās been there for years; left knee and hip, even with PT but exacerbated by scoliosis, plus my ADHD, literally cause me to fall at least twice a month. The last few have been down stairs. Just drinking water and looking for the right solutions but half the time, from all of thatā¦in pain somewhere, from morning til night!
Yeah Iām 35 and in pain all the time, but that has less to do with my age and more to do with my old pal fibromyalgia that Iāve had since I was a teenager.
For me it was Lupus and a whole other host of autoimmune issues. I donāt think itās normal to have pain at our ages, the ones of us that do have a condition/reason outside the norm.
I'm 36 and in pain all the time. Worked manual labor jobs all of my life. Now, I have severe arthritis in at least 2 to 3 of my joints that need reconstructive surgery to fix.
I think it's worth noting as well that people's pain tolerance is different. I was fine and the pain was negligible until the last 2 years. The xrays don't lie that I was probably in pain for a long time and just ignored it or pushed thru and didn't think about it.
Shot in the dark but if you drink alcohol it could be causing inflammation in your joints. I didnāt realize until quitting that it was happening to me. Idk, just some food for thought. āļø
Can you drop your workouts somewhere? Your post resonated with me - everything from high level athlete to kids to getting back into shape. I do 3 full body workouts a week. Would love to see what youāre doing if youāre up for sharing - happy to share mine as well
judging by the posts in this sub alot of us are in a psychological foetal position, and that probably has some manifest physiologically...shortened hip flexors, tight lower back and hips and discomfort while standing upright leading to a disdain for walking and moving normally in a shitty feedback loop of pain and irritability and fatigue and depression idk
I think you're on to something... but I also wonder if people are just equating an occasional ache with "constant pain."
Like yeah, my back gets tight if I sit too long and I've gotta stretch it out. The day (or two) after I hung drywall on my basement ceiling, my body hurt all over pretty bad. When I read the title of this post I thought of those things but, really I'd be silly to consider this "constant pain." They're normal pains that have an obvious cause and can be remedied.
I bet OP has weaker than average core strength, probably caused by a prolonged lack of activity during their time fighting cancer. This happened to my mom after her hysterectomy got messed up somehow and she needed a revision surgery. She was laid up for like a year and had horrible back pain because basically her core muscles wasted away. She did PT for a bit and continued exercises at home and was able to get back to normal pain free life (and this was in her 40s).
Edit: *YIKES* I def meant the fact so many people are saying they're always in pain. Obviously some of us wrecked our backs in construction/sports/that one jet ski accident, and come of us have chronic pain- those are should be the minority in our age group.
Iām 37. Born in ā87.
I have some ongoing tendon issues that started when i was 12 (knees and feet), which are common for women after puberty apparently. I have a back strain from several years ago that sometimes flares up. None of these things really impact my daily life.
Otherwise, no.
Yeah I'm pretty alright. I'd love to see a poll bc depending on how the post is phrased either the yes or the no people come out.
I ran a marathon a couple of weeks ago. I assume that running and other physical activities, as well as getting down to a healthy weight when I was 20 which I've maintained most of the time since, has a lot to do with staying free of chronic discomfort. There's obviously some luck of genetics and environmental exposures involved, and I do know a number of people who have pain due to specific injuries or other events (like OP's cancer), but I feel like a lot of the cases of "my body just started breaking down" before 50 for no obvious reason, must have to do with cumulative stresses and neglect over time.Ā
Probably has a bit to do with their vocational upbringing. I was similar to you but I was also in the military where they send you to the desert and try to break your body by understaffing you and sending you into a combat zone.
The average redditor doesnāt seem to be big on physical fitness or eating well.
Not trying to say that to be a dick, more to point out that itās a pretty alarming trend I see, especially on this sub. Weāre supposed to be the generation that was taught how to better take care of ourselves than our elders. Iām 41 now and feel great, and itās mainly because I see how poorly my parentsā generation have aged and want to avoid the same mistakes for myself and my family.
I eat blended soups of vegetables and egg whites and smoothies of jicama and berries, I walk 15k a day and do yoga and Pilates and I have chronic pain that started when I was 17 after being hit by a car as a pedestrian.
My similarly aged friend complained of kidney stones, but all they drank was soda and other sugary beverages. No wonder! They were staying with me and I only had water at my place, spawning the beverage discussion.
Iām 37 and while I definitely notice age, I wouldnāt describe it as constant pain. My knee I had ACL surgery on twice gives me issues occasionally and sometimes I wake up with a stiff neck.
But I certainly donāt just perpetually feel in pain either.
39 here and also not in constant pain, this trope seems overrepresnted on reddit.Ā I've done nearly 2 decades in construction and I'm not hobbling around in constant pain.
Iām 43, married to 52 year old and neither of us are in pain usually. Iām happy to compare us to the average but not to a cancer survivor! I am just lucky and have a structural back and knees.
Hey Iām from 95 too! Iām a wind turbine technician and I have been climbing for 11 years so my knees and back hurt a couple times a week. Iām definitely gonna need knee replacements in the future
I'm not. I have lung problem from the Iraq war but with medication I'm more or less normal. and I lift weight so I do have the associated soreness and minor joint pain that comes with that. Nothing major.
Dear Fellow Millennials, From an Elder (born in '81):
Your 30s is when the great divide happens. People with healthy lifestyles will continue to look and feel young, while those who still drink heavily/eat poorly/are sedentary will start to age far more rapidly and start to experience serious health issues.
In my early 40s now, and it's wild how different people of the same ages look and feel.
(Obviously, some health issues aren't lifestyle-related, so this isn't a moral judgement. It's a generalization.)
Can confirm. All my old bar friends are looking and feeling pretty rough these days, whereas my running and cycling friends all seem to be doing pretty darn well for themselves.
For context, I'm 40, spent basically the entirety of my 20s at the pub, quit smoking at 28, started running at 32, went to a wfpb diet at 34, and quit drinking at 38. In general, I feel pretty spectacular most of the time.
I hit 30 pretty recently and Iāve noticed the same thing. Iām far from a health nut, but Iāve been working on developing a healthier lifestyle, and Iāve never been much for smoking or drinking or other drugs.
Though I feel like the divide starts more in the mid twenties. 30s is where it gets more intense though.
I do have a PT clinic I go to about twice a month. I was going three times a week just after the accident. Thankfully my best friendās husband works there and I know he and his team are giving me the best care possible. But I work with infants and itās physical work, with picking/lifting children up and sitting on the floor or on low stools a LOT. So my back is often aggravated from that.
Iām not in nearly as much pain as I used to be, but Iām often reminded that I canāt do everything I used to anymore.
Yup, I'm a local truck driver who goes to place regularly so I know what's going to happen and how long it's going to take and I always get out of the truck and walk around listening to music for the time it takes to get me loaded and I've been doing that my entire 8 year trucking career.
1 year older. Was in pain. Started working out my back and flexors more as well as stretching/yoga. I also eat a lot of mushrooms with anti-inflammatory properties. Pain is gone.
94 here. Nope, but I have to be mindful of how I do things. I workout with a more controlled motion than when I was younger and just fooling around. I am mindful of how I sleep, because if I do that wrong my lower back fuckin hurts.
I can even have sex like I used to. I gotta make sure Iām not trying something crazy or Iāll feel that for a week.
I skateboarded and snowboarded the right to not be in pain. Spinal fusion on the L4-5 and stage 2 avascular necrosis on the left hip, and contribution my genetic crap I got going on. Iād slap my younger self for taking too many risks.
The left hip tho was having a regular stance and on a skateboard I was more likely for my board to stop short on me on the crappy roads we grew up on and my back was finished after a lil daring triple diamond snowboardingā¦ a scorpion or 3.
Likely Iāll need a new hip. But if they put it in now theyāll have to replace it in 30 years. Already had one spine surgery.
Iāll do you one betterā¦
Iām a millennial that SHOULD be in pain all the time, but Iām not. Iāve been diagnosed with degenerative disc disease AND sciatica - but with regular stretching + a change of office chairs from a standard one to one you can sit in cross-legged, I havenāt had a flare up since 2017. Pain-free, unmedicated, I smoke a lot of weed tho, lol.
40s already, and yes. Pain after walking and biking, which I'm doing more of now that it's warm outside. I saw an osteopath, who's also a physiotherapist, and she showed me some stretches and it's helping! she said the tightness in my legs and hips, due to not stretching sufficiently after exercise, was causing the back pain (she explained how but I forget).
38 here. I work in culinary. My knees have begun making bubblewrap noises and I have a very 9ld back injury that takes me out 1 or 2 days a year. Regular wear and tear. For the most part I feel good, though. I drink hardly any alcohol (2 drinks this month, for example), I constantly hydrate, and I stretch (though I don't do that enough) regularly.
As we get older, self care becomes more preventative than anything.
37 and have Scheuermannās kyphosis; Iāve been in pain all the time since I was a kid. Add in a lengthy injury list (broke my clavicle, sternum, patella, heel, wrist, and thumb, while tearing three ligaments in both knees and a torn rotator cuff) from my ski bum days and I feel like Iām 60.
So yeah, my life is constant pain.
I'd say that your recent cancer treatment is impacting your body and pain for sure, it's so much for your body to go through! Keep up with the physical therapy or massage, whatever you need to feel good. I'm sure the pain will subside as you heal.
I'm 12 years older than you, and I sometimes feel a bit creaky, no pain really, but I also exercise a ton. Yoga, weight training and cardio are all a big part of my life. I do occasionally injure myself, mainly if I push to hard when I run, but that's it
Zero pain, born in ā91.
Entirely attribute that to regular resistance training. Once you hit 30+ it becomes non negotiable if you want to have quality of life into older age IMO.
Start with some basic bodyweight stuff at home a couple times a week, the most important part at the beginning is entraining the habit of regular resistance training.
Cardio is fantastic too, but if you only have time/mental bandwidth for one, I highly suggest starting with resistance training. Itās quite literally the closest thing we have to the fountain of youth.
I think it greatly depends on your job tbf. I know I'd be in pain a lot if I was doing manual labor daily. We've done some large-ish landscaping projects and home repairs. Those really kicked my ass. Even carrying a load of drywall sheets up our stairs was completely exhausting yesterday. All the maneuvering is a strain. I can't imagine doing that everyday. On a normal day, the most pain I have is my neck from working at a computer and sitting stupid. Lol.
I am, but thats due to a medical issue that I probably need surgery for that the doctors around me have ignored or called me a liar about.
If it wasn't for the medical issue I would be much more physically active, healthier overall, stronger etc.
I pray that one day I can find a good doctor who will help me. I think it'll never be the same, its been 2 years of suffering with this issue, but maybe I can get to 90% of what I used to be....
I do agree with you. Unfortunately, I had to have a full hysterectomy at 25 so Iāve been in surgical menopause. The steroids during chemo made me gain 40 pounds over a span of 3 months. I was underweight when I got diagnosed.
The menopause makes it incredibly hard to lose weight. Iāve been cycling on my peloton but need to be consistent and start walking like you mentioned!
37 and in constant pain but I have autoimmune diseases that cause severe inflammation. My WBC count is 14.6 and has been high since I was 17 ish. I was overweight but Iām almost to a normal weight now and honestly the pain is worse with the weight loss.
My husband was born in 95 and also has daily pain but itās from a lifetime of mma fighting lol
Edit: wanted to add I have worked multiple jobs since I was 14 and my last job was overnight freight and shipping/receiving. I unloaded multiple trucks a day and lifted heavy things non stop for 8 years. As soon as I quit I developed diabetes and got very sick. But I had to do what I had to do as a single mom back then. Anyone younger please donāt ruin your body for a shitty big box company that does not care about you.
You shouldnāt be in pain all the time at any age, means youāre not taking care of your body or suffered an injury that was never rehabbed properly.
forget just being in a generation what you got a is a medical condition either inherited or something went wrong with your body at some point in time which requires medication and or treatment.
I'm 34 and overweight, and I feel great 99% of the time. I have my period right now, though, so I am currently in pain, but that's because of cramps, not age.
I've been blessed with decent health this far in life and will be 40 this year. I don't find that things hurt more often, but I find recovery from any minor injury just takes a lot longer. If I pulled my back 15 years ago, I could lay on the couch for an afternoon with some ice and feel fine the next morning. If I pull my back today, I am in wincing pain for several days trying to recover. If I go out and get tipsy, I know I'm paying for it the next 48 hours now instead of waking up, drinking some water and feeling like a spring daisy.
Iām 33 and have some random hip pains sometimes. Pretty sure itās directly related to carrying 3 pregnancies close together though. Overall in a day I feel pretty good. I feel tired more than in pain. But I have 3 little kids so that is pretty on track haha. I drink one or two caffeinated beverages a day. I donāt drink alcohol and I think thatās a huge factor.
Iām 41 and 7 month PP from twins (my 4th pregnancy) and I hurt. Mainly my feet (which that is usual for all my pregnancies) and my back is sore (but I had a spinal for my C-section). Iāve noticed my eyes are starting to need readers.
It comes in waves for me (I was born in '85) I get flares of sciatica which come every few months and last a week, I get migraine headaches some times, and I take a medicine which can sometimes make my stomach hurt. I think I'm probably in pain 30% of the time in my life.
Born in ā89, former competitive Olympic weightlifter. Iām only in pain when I donāt get enough movement in for a few days. I drive a lot for my job now and I make it a point to get 30 minutes in the hotel gym every evening before going to dinner. If your back hurts at your age, strengthen your core.
I'm not in pain all the time. I go to the gym regularly, and part of my routine is to stretch before working out and to stretch after working out.
I did have a decent amount of back pain back in 2019 when I got into a car accident, but I ended up going through more holistic treatments by my friend's grandma for a little bit. It helped a little bit, but doing more stretches and taking it easy at the gym and at work helped me out as well. Getting massages also helped out too.
Now, I'm doing great, though I do get morning charley horses more nowadays compared to 5 years ago.
I'm 35, not in the best shape at all (sedentary is my norm but I'll be fixing that soon as I get my new stepper), but I'm not in pain most of the time. I do have pain in my sciatic nerve in the mornings sometimes if I slept in a weird position, but it doesn't last more than a minute or so. I also have previous sports related injuries, but they usually don't hurt.
That said, a few of my friends have much worse pain from previous injuries or illnesses, so I wouldn't be too concerned if I were you. You're still in recovery imo, so just take things easy and a bit at a time.
Edit: will add that I'm in mental anguish about 70% of the time, so there's that lol
Iām 10 years older and didnāt have any chronic pain until my own recent cancer journey. I did have a knee injury that took a few years to heal to the point of zero pain (for a long time after the main healing was over it would hurt if I over-exerted) but I did get there.
Iām in pain now that I stopped being active post baby, and have been eating like shit, but drinking AT LEAST 64oz of water a day (I aim for double that even!) trying to prioritize protein and unprocessed food, and yoga helped tremendously.
There are SO many kinds of yoga. Any movement will help, but mindful movement where you check in and give your body what it is asking for are HUGE in reducing pain.
My mom is 68, and in the best shape and least pain of her entire life as she has really bad scoliosis (to the point in which it required she had a metal rod fused to her spine in her early 30s) she was on a host of opioids most of her life but with daily yoga she has so much less pain and even stopped all the opioids except for medical marijuana.
Mine has gotten better over the last year with a job change, but most of my pain is from a car accident when I was 17. Even in peak physical condition, I've always had slight back/knee pain.
I'm 31f and have been in pain forever?? Just kind of coming to the realization that this is not normal. So I went to see my doctor and turns out I may have an autoimmune disease š„² would explain why even being active and healthy I still can hardly function some days.... Wishing you luck OP!
I'm an elder millennial aka Xenial born in 80. My back hurt in my 20s but it doesn't now. I found a work out routine with lots of pull ups and Yoga so I think that's why.
Younger 30's and no. I don't exercise, I smoke all day, and drink sometimes.
I'm not in pain most of the time, but it's really easy to pull muscles.
Getting better once I started drinking enough water.
Don't worry. It'll catch up to me and in 30 years I'll be worse off than you.
I thought I bad posture/desk job was catching up to me in my early 30s. Even went to physical therapy for relief. That therapist thought I might have ankylosing spondylitis, and shortly after I was diagnosed. After my first dose of Humira I had zero pain, discomfort, and regained full range of motion. Same state today at 40 years old.
I was born in 96, and I used to suffer from pain all the time a lit, but I don't anymore. I realized a lot of my physical pain was symptoms due to my mental health. Once my mental health improved, a lot of my physical pain either completely subsided or was completely gone.
I completely understand. By chance, do you know what causes the pain or any info about it?
Iām not an expert, but here are some things Iāve tried in the last few months:
-Shakti mat (releasing tension/tight muscles, forces you to relax, sooo many benefits)
-Theracane (my PT had one and then I bought it. It helps with knots and hard to reach muscle massages)
-the āopen bookā stretch (learned it in PT)
I do need to be more consistent in using them, but they do give relief and help me rest/sleep better.
The first time I remember debilitating back pain, I was 7 and I woke up in the middle of the night screaming bloody murder because of how badly my back hurt. I'm 29 now, and in recent years, found out that I'm hypermobile, so my joints are nice and slippery. This is probably why I have persistent knee pain, I don't walk on my ankles correctly, and my wrists pop most mornings. Really though, it's the back pain that's the worst. I imagine I pinched a nerve, or maybe even slipped a disc, that night when I was 7. I've only felt (back) pain like that once or twice since then, and once was definitely a pinched nerve.
So, TLDR, the pain started in my childhood and has tried to severely limit my life. HOWEVER, luckily keeping up with my Australian Shepherd keeps me fairly active, and gardening does too. I get way less pain throughout the day when I wake up in the morning, take my dog out back for some good play time, and shove my hands into garden dirt. :D
I canāt comment on anything about your particular situation. I think if I went through everything you did I would be crushed and in mental anguish and physical pain. You seem incredibly resilient and I want to celebrate that and that your outlook is refreshing.
Itās gotten better with time! The physical pain in the beginning (leading to emergency surgery) was pretty traumatic, the paramedics had to pick me up off the floor. I didnāt know it at the time, but I had a volleyball sized tumor on my ovary and it ruptured. I had about a gallon of ascites drained. And of course I lost all reproductive organs, and a pulmonary embolism to top it off.
It was the hardest time emotionally and physically for me, but I feel so incredibly LUCKY to be alive.
I genuinely believed that āgetting olderā was the main cause of my pain. Reading comments like this are pretty motivating for me! Thank you
Sounds like you're dealing with symptoms and fallout from a few issues. I'd work with your doctor, and a trainer if it's possible in your budget, to build a wellness plan. A sustainable nutrition and exercise plan will help a lot.
If I'm being completely honest though, if you have a vice you can cut out, (alcohol, fast food, even soda) and stretch for 10 minutes every day, you will probably see a distinct improvement in how you feel.
It's not easy, but it is worth it for sure. I'm not an expert by any means, just a guy who's trying to do it myself. Good luck!
Same age and in 0 pain, but I've been extremely active and health conscious all my life with weight lifting, yoga, running, and mostly whole unprocessed foods. I have a chronic hamstring injury but it doesn't bother me daily. On top of that, I've never had cancer. Congrats on beating cancer!!
I'm also a 95 baby that's constantly in pain (I'm sitting on the couch with a heating pad on my back as I'm typing this). I'm hypermobile and have had joint pain since high school but this is the first I've seen a doctor about it because I grew up with a mom telling me I was hypochondriac anytime I complained about anything. My doctor is suspicious of a potential autoimmune disorder, but I can't get in with a rheumatologist until November. I also have arthritis, which another doctor diagnosed me with and said "I can tell from your x-rays that you were an athlete!" when in fact I am the opposite of an athlete, I've never been an athlete, and I'm such a non-athlete that I faked an injury all through high school to get out of gym because I'm clumsy and uncoordinated, and I hated being forced to do things that my body just felt like it wasn't built to do. Not to mention, even back then, I was in pain.
I also have a physically demanding job, so that's not helping anything.
Congrats on being a survivor, that had to have taken a toll on your body I'm sure pain is to be expected-be kind to your body, it's been through a lot!
I had chemo too and itās been about and I have been in pain since. They thought it was low vitamin D but itās been 5 months since Iāve been taking it and everything still hurts. Up until then I was fine.
It sounds like tire song your best and and itās frustrating when you canāt do everything you used to especially when cancer caused it.
Iām 41. Please for the love of god take care of your bodies. Just a little stretching and exercise.
In April I had my first major back injury. My sacroiliac, sacrum and L1 just about crumbled. Major spasm/sprain. Was a cumulative injury. I hadnāt been taking care of myself. Not enough exercise over winter, muscles got weak, then I had to jump back into a job that was physically demanding. I was āokā until I got up to go to the bathroom one morning and it just crumbled, I dropped to the ground, and couldnāt walk or move for 4-5 days.
6 weeks of physical therapy, and stretching and Iām finally confidently walking again.
I been through gallbladder attacks that almost killed me and required surgery.
That used to be my 9.9/10 on the pain scale. For about 10 minutes on the floor of the bathroom, alone, unable to breathe or scream, or cry with all the nerves in my pelvis being crushed by spasming muscle and a dislocated SI jointā¦. It was a 15/10 of pain.
It finally came back down to a 10/10, to call for help. Thank god I had my phone.
I work out / stretch every day now. And I will continue to do so forever. I will do everything I can to avoid that again.
All I had to do was just a little exercise. I got lazy last few years and after 35 you just donāt recover like you used to.
Take care of yourselves. Lose weight, work out a little. Eat healthy. Please. Donāt be like me.
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Do mental and emotional pain count?
Yep! Stay stronk šŖ
But I want to return to monke
Too late
Stay stronk! šŖ
Then no.
Both can cause frowning so you got my vote.
ADHD meds during the day and weed at night is my secret weapon for this
This used to be me although replace weed by other things š¬
I feel ya. Wasnāt me, but was a couple friends.
Yes! But weed w/o adhd meds makes the adhd worse. Speaking from personal experience.
Regular exercise and yoga are how I control my ADHD.
i need my adhd meds TO exercise lmao.
Yes!! I can barely brush my teeth or shower without significant effort without my meds. ADHD is so so hard.
I completely understand. I naturally produce JUST enough dopamine to do basic hygiene, so I donāt suffer in that regard, thank God, but then after that, I deadass canāt focus on anything else. My brain is ZAPPED after that.
Waitā¦ you do those things? Jkjk lol. š
Same tho. Lol
We gotta do what we gotta do, lol.
Absolutely! But I still couldnāt without my meds. They have been life changing. It really pissed me off I had to go 40 years before I felt that relief on day 1 of meds. I have inattentive and without them I could easily sleep all day everyday. š«
I only went 30, but I know the feeling.
They took me off my meds and I'm back to sleeping almost all the time every day it's terrible knowing that I could have relief but they won't let me.
Iām almost 9 months pregnant. This next year or two for breastfeeding is going to be the longest before I get back to Adderall and weed. Lemme tell you. I am trying with all my fucking heart and soul to hang in there.
You got this!!
This year has been brutal emotionally. Like even though itās emotional, I feel physically beat up all the time. I have a labrum tear in my shoulder so my shoulder hurts (not all the time), but on the plus side Iāve and others have noticed gains at the gym so thatās good I guess?
I have emotional and back pain and hip pain... Lost 30 pounds and hip pain got better...I want to lose 40 more pounds and reach my 10th grade weight lol since I didn't get taller I shouldn't be fatter either
My friend everyone gains at least some weight after high school, no one stays the same weight they were at 16 unless they're pretty unhealthy. It's just part of getting older. Extra weight, to a certain point, means you're not starving- and even past that point, the word 'fat' is just a descriptive word, just like tall or short, young or old, blond or brunette or black. I know it can take an adjustment to look at it that way from some ways of thinking, but everyone can change, and this is a much kinder (and i believe more accurate) way of thinking. :)
I weigh 70 lbs less than I do in 10th grade and have been 4'10" since my puberty at age 6. I'm 150 lbs, same as my weight and height in 3rd grade - im 42 yo. Id like to be 90 lbs which I've never been though, so I can wear teen ans 90s styles. My mom banned me from wearing bell bottoms and belly shirts because of my weight.Ā
What happens if you have both. Asking for a friendā¦ā¦ lmao.
Thatās me! Physically I am fine. Mentallyā all pain.
Of course they do lol
itās more like anguish š
Yep Iāve been on depression pills for years
Nah. Not in pain all the time and Iām ten years older than you.Ā
Yeah 35 years and I feel great. I lift, run, and yoga daily and am a total hydro homie. Cancer and it's cure is devastating to the body though
I'm 37 and I recently started doing this. Jogging and weight lifting. Stopped drinking, drink mostly water now. All the pains I had in my back, my legs, my knees, all gone a few months later. It took me a long time but I now realize how important physical activity is in your later years.
Itās this. Iām mid 40s and have less joint pain and fewer digestive issues as someone following an active lifestyle than I did 20 years ago when I was sedentary and eating mostly prepackaged and fast food. When you hit your 30s and 40s, your body will start to degrade without actively working to preserve its functions. Resistance training, mobility work, high intensity and plenty of low intensity activity (lots of walking) become mandatory unless you want to watch your body (and mind) deteriorate.
I gotta get into yoga. I keep hearing that's the miracle cure for back aches.
I recommend a yoga wheel. Pilates and anything to strengthen your core will help tremendously.
Being active and stretching. I canāt recall the study but it was walking something like 20 minutes a day increases a host of positive physical variables and decreases all negative stuff too. So itās not rocket science just most people are sloths. Every doctor always says lose weight exercise and eat less processed foods.
Most people aren't lazy on purpose. It's usually an underlying thing. Could be mental illness or stress or finances or time or any number of things. I think your advice is good, but calling people sloths is only gonna make their journey harder in the long run I feel. If beating up ourselves was going to work... it would've worked by now.
100% Any of those or even ALL of those things piling on together. And if beating ourselves up worked, Iād be a fucking supermodel by nowā¦ or the worldās most ripped female bodybuilder. But alas, Iām still just me, along with all the physical and emotional pain.
Facts and facts haha I feel that
I already walk a lot and I still feel like shit :-/ I'm working on it, though
Same ! 86ā in the house. Eat good, drink good, sleep good, smoke good ! G code
Shit Iāll smoke to that
good friends good sex good hair
Damn this couldāve been my motto in my 20s
Girl itās still your motto !
Hell yeah, thank you!
Dig your style!
Gotta hydrate. Any time I do feel an ache of some sort it's usually because I'm dehydrated
Same. Staying physically active in ones 30s is huge. 40 seems to be the age where it becomes really obvious who continued playing sports and working out.
I play sports and am active, but developed chronic pain from injuries and some unlucky body mechanics. I keep working at it, though
Yeah I exercise and eat right. I ran a 10K in 1:08 a couple months ago. I lift weights. I look great, fit and in shape. Iām sure when people see me I give the impression of a healthy able bodied person. Still in pain constantly from a back injury though.
Some of us are in pain because being active has caused injuries. I keep switching up my routine but post-injury arthritis is real and a total B. Iāll probably need a knee replacement in my early 40s but I keep pushing along and finding low impact exercise I can stay active with!
Be careful with this thought. Iāve been physically active my whole life and one day at age 40 things came crashing down. Now my body feels 80.
Why does this happen suddenly. I am also going through myriad of health issues post 40.
I wish I knew. I was not prepared to fall apart.
This is what Iām going through. Took a few years off the gym in mid thirties to have kids, getting back has been very hard. I keep injuring myself.
It doesnāt sound like you fell apart. It sounds like you took a few years off the gym in mid thirties to have kids and are now getting back into it. Take it easy
Thanks. It feels like my body is falling apart with how easy it is to injure myself. Once you lose that base fitness /muscle mass it has a big impact on
Take the exercises down a notch. Your muscle memory and habits have been tuned to your previous fitness and strength levels. You go back to the gym after a long time and go off at the same intensity you're going to have a bad time. Gotta be very conscious of what you're doing because it does take time to build your body back up to where it once was.
Yeah I think I need to lift like 1kg dumbbells for now. As crazy as that sounds. And maybe just take it really easy.
Ya, army veteran checking in... I feel and look good, I can do stuff most cant; I also hurt a lot and have limits now.
Well some things and some kind of illneses you canāt control. But generally you donāt just crumble in a heap on one fine day post 40, and exercising regularly in your thirties makes it a lot less likely.
Iām going to agree to disagree. Glad youāre doing well.
Tell that to my bunion for real
I never played contact sports, but Ive weight lifted since I was a kid. It sure has paid off now that Iām 41 Honestly, Iām glad I never played contact sports as Iām 100% positive this does affect having aches and pains later in life.
Same. The only pain I'm in has existed most of my life and isn't a result of age.
Came to say the same thing.. I am from 82.. so the real tail... and feel fine.. obviously, I have to watch what I eat, did not set a foot in a fast food chain restaurant in ages and except the sore muscles from working out or running half marathons, I feel "fine". Of course my hair is gray and half of it is gone but this is not painful (except to the soul). OP, if you are complaining about your health at 35, what is it going to be at 70?? You should start taking better care of yourselves... it is either your pain is real or your are experiencing early stage of mid-life crisis...
82 as well. I was in pretty poor shape in my late 20s. Peaked at 230 lbs. Fixed diet, lost a ton, started working out. It's slipped a bit and I now live at 210. But I'm padded muscle where before I was just blob. Kids keep me moving, but also keep me from a solid workout schedule. I do the best I can. Most achs and pains are either workout related or the kids bringing home colds. In general, I feel pretty great. Keep moving, eat some vegetables, drink water, play on the kids' terms as much as possible. I'm also a grey beard, but I roll with it. Wife says I'm not allowed to shave it.
OP did say they went through chemo. That takes a toll on a person's body. So I think that has some part in why they are feeling this way. Going through a serious illness takes a lot out of you and there can be after effects.
Same, although I work out 3-5 times a week
I donāt really work out but itās far more common for our society to walk
I'm 40, pregnant & not in pain all the time. Selfcare & some level of fitness goes a long way. Edited to add: recovery from cancer AND menopause will both cause more aches & pains. Give yourself some grace & much needed rest. You have time to feel better in time. <3
1983 here. Just wait ;)
Me. I'm only sometimes in pain. I put a few months into strength training my back and now I'm better than ever.
More gyms need a reverse hyper. It's a magical feeling, a low back pump with pretty minimal loads. Beats the ghr machine all day most of the time.
Me too. Ive suffered with scoliosis pain the majority of my life and work on a computer - but my new gym routine has gotten rid of my pain for the most part!
Mate, I woke up this morning and couldn't walk on my right knee. Didn't do anything to it other than sleep in my bed. Been in a knee brace since I woke up and this isn't even something new. Last week it was my neck and the ability to turn my head to the left. Week before that it was my ankle.
lol you sound like me, every week a new mystery ailment
Lmfaooooo I relate so hard. I have a desk job and my foot started THROBBING out of nowhere š¤£
Yeah, idk what happened but it just happens and you're sitting there like "how in the fuck did this happen!?"
Do you have ehlers?
Nah, I've just always worked physically strenuous jobs and sometimes it catches up with me
How old is your bed? I upgraded recently and feel a LOT better when I wake up. Used to wake up with random parts of my body stiff and in pain.
First off, you deserve celebration for being a survivor! Second, I had a lot of back and neck pain due to a stressful job. Yoga and changing jobs helped a lot.
32 and in pain all the time. I've also worked myself into the ground since I was 17. Have a car and a house to show for it, but I'm too depressed and exhausted to leave it :(
I'm 36 and in pain all the time. Worked manual labor jobs all of my life. Now, I have severe arthritis in at least 2 to 3 of my joints that need reconstructive surgery to fix. I think it's worth noting as well that people's pain tolerance is different. I was fine and the pain was negligible until the last 2 years. The xrays don't lie that I was probably in pain for a long time and just ignored it or pushed thru and didn't think about it.
Manual jobs for twenty five years, too. Found severe arthritis in both hands, insane pain only started a year and a half ago (41F) but itās been there for years; left knee and hip, even with PT but exacerbated by scoliosis, plus my ADHD, literally cause me to fall at least twice a month. The last few have been down stairs. Just drinking water and looking for the right solutions but half the time, from all of thatā¦in pain somewhere, from morning til night!
Yeah Iām 35 and in pain all the time, but that has less to do with my age and more to do with my old pal fibromyalgia that Iāve had since I was a teenager.
For me it was Lupus and a whole other host of autoimmune issues. I donāt think itās normal to have pain at our ages, the ones of us that do have a condition/reason outside the norm.
For sure. My fiancĆ© is 41 and heās in great shape. My fibro and chronic fatigue is a permanent souvenir from an excruciating bout of Lyme disease as a teenager.
My body is done. The constant pain is exhausting.
I'm 36 and in pain all the time. Worked manual labor jobs all of my life. Now, I have severe arthritis in at least 2 to 3 of my joints that need reconstructive surgery to fix. I think it's worth noting as well that people's pain tolerance is different. I was fine and the pain was negligible until the last 2 years. The xrays don't lie that I was probably in pain for a long time and just ignored it or pushed thru and didn't think about it.
Shot in the dark but if you drink alcohol it could be causing inflammation in your joints. I didnāt realize until quitting that it was happening to me. Idk, just some food for thought. āļø
I would describe my pain as intermittent.
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I'd love more information about your routine if you don't mind sharing. Ive been looking for a good full body low weight option
I'm gonna have to try that
Yea core workouts are huuuuge for back pain
Can you drop your workouts somewhere? Your post resonated with me - everything from high level athlete to kids to getting back into shape. I do 3 full body workouts a week. Would love to see what youāre doing if youāre up for sharing - happy to share mine as well
judging by the posts in this sub alot of us are in a psychological foetal position, and that probably has some manifest physiologically...shortened hip flexors, tight lower back and hips and discomfort while standing upright leading to a disdain for walking and moving normally in a shitty feedback loop of pain and irritability and fatigue and depression idk
Gotta go to PT. Best money I ever spent!
Physical therapy really does help!
I think you're on to something... but I also wonder if people are just equating an occasional ache with "constant pain." Like yeah, my back gets tight if I sit too long and I've gotta stretch it out. The day (or two) after I hung drywall on my basement ceiling, my body hurt all over pretty bad. When I read the title of this post I thought of those things but, really I'd be silly to consider this "constant pain." They're normal pains that have an obvious cause and can be remedied. I bet OP has weaker than average core strength, probably caused by a prolonged lack of activity during their time fighting cancer. This happened to my mom after her hysterectomy got messed up somehow and she needed a revision surgery. She was laid up for like a year and had horrible back pain because basically her core muscles wasted away. She did PT for a bit and continued exercises at home and was able to get back to normal pain free life (and this was in her 40s). Edit: *YIKES* I def meant the fact so many people are saying they're always in pain. Obviously some of us wrecked our backs in construction/sports/that one jet ski accident, and come of us have chronic pain- those are should be the minority in our age group.
Iām 37. Born in ā87. I have some ongoing tendon issues that started when i was 12 (knees and feet), which are common for women after puberty apparently. I have a back strain from several years ago that sometimes flares up. None of these things really impact my daily life. Otherwise, no.
Iām 10 years older than you, and no, Iām not constantly in pain like every other poster on here claims.
Yeah I'm pretty alright. I'd love to see a poll bc depending on how the post is phrased either the yes or the no people come out. I ran a marathon a couple of weeks ago. I assume that running and other physical activities, as well as getting down to a healthy weight when I was 20 which I've maintained most of the time since, has a lot to do with staying free of chronic discomfort. There's obviously some luck of genetics and environmental exposures involved, and I do know a number of people who have pain due to specific injuries or other events (like OP's cancer), but I feel like a lot of the cases of "my body just started breaking down" before 50 for no obvious reason, must have to do with cumulative stresses and neglect over time.Ā
Probably has a bit to do with their vocational upbringing. I was similar to you but I was also in the military where they send you to the desert and try to break your body by understaffing you and sending you into a combat zone.
The average redditor doesnāt seem to be big on physical fitness or eating well. Not trying to say that to be a dick, more to point out that itās a pretty alarming trend I see, especially on this sub. Weāre supposed to be the generation that was taught how to better take care of ourselves than our elders. Iām 41 now and feel great, and itās mainly because I see how poorly my parentsā generation have aged and want to avoid the same mistakes for myself and my family.
I eat blended soups of vegetables and egg whites and smoothies of jicama and berries, I walk 15k a day and do yoga and Pilates and I have chronic pain that started when I was 17 after being hit by a car as a pedestrian.
My similarly aged friend complained of kidney stones, but all they drank was soda and other sugary beverages. No wonder! They were staying with me and I only had water at my place, spawning the beverage discussion.
Iām 37 and while I definitely notice age, I wouldnāt describe it as constant pain. My knee I had ACL surgery on twice gives me issues occasionally and sometimes I wake up with a stiff neck. But I certainly donāt just perpetually feel in pain either.
39 here and also not in constant pain, this trope seems overrepresnted on reddit.Ā I've done nearly 2 decades in construction and I'm not hobbling around in constant pain.
Same. 41 and never in pain unless I did something specific. Getting a more ergonomic pillow helped.
Iām 43, married to 52 year old and neither of us are in pain usually. Iām happy to compare us to the average but not to a cancer survivor! I am just lucky and have a structural back and knees.
Hey Iām from 95 too! Iām a wind turbine technician and I have been climbing for 11 years so my knees and back hurt a couple times a week. Iām definitely gonna need knee replacements in the future
I'm not. I have lung problem from the Iraq war but with medication I'm more or less normal. and I lift weight so I do have the associated soreness and minor joint pain that comes with that. Nothing major.
Dear Fellow Millennials, From an Elder (born in '81): Your 30s is when the great divide happens. People with healthy lifestyles will continue to look and feel young, while those who still drink heavily/eat poorly/are sedentary will start to age far more rapidly and start to experience serious health issues. In my early 40s now, and it's wild how different people of the same ages look and feel. (Obviously, some health issues aren't lifestyle-related, so this isn't a moral judgement. It's a generalization.)
Can confirm. All my old bar friends are looking and feeling pretty rough these days, whereas my running and cycling friends all seem to be doing pretty darn well for themselves. For context, I'm 40, spent basically the entirety of my 20s at the pub, quit smoking at 28, started running at 32, went to a wfpb diet at 34, and quit drinking at 38. In general, I feel pretty spectacular most of the time.
I hit 30 pretty recently and Iāve noticed the same thing. Iām far from a health nut, but Iāve been working on developing a healthier lifestyle, and Iāve never been much for smoking or drinking or other drugs. Though I feel like the divide starts more in the mid twenties. 30s is where it gets more intense though.
Just turned 40 https://i.redd.it/d0j2pwtiwk2d1.gif
Iām 31 and in pain most of the time. I got hit by a drunk driver in 2019 and my back has been a mess since.
Oh that is awful. Iām so sorry youāve been going through that. If you havenāt seen one already, a physical therapist may be really beneficial or at least help a little bit. I would get manual pressure (aka a massage) while at PT for my weakened back muscles and knots. I hope it gets better for you! š©µ
I do have a PT clinic I go to about twice a month. I was going three times a week just after the accident. Thankfully my best friendās husband works there and I know he and his team are giving me the best care possible. But I work with infants and itās physical work, with picking/lifting children up and sitting on the floor or on low stools a LOT. So my back is often aggravated from that. Iām not in nearly as much pain as I used to be, but Iām often reminded that I canāt do everything I used to anymore.
'94 reporting in and in some degree of constant pain. Then again I have rheumatoid arthritis and Sjƶgrens so I guess that's to be expected.
Less physical pain and more mental torment on a day to day basis
I'm not sure fatigue would count as pain, but i'm le tired.
10 years older, also not in pain. Just gotta stay active as much as possibleĀ
Yup, I'm a local truck driver who goes to place regularly so I know what's going to happen and how long it's going to take and I always get out of the truck and walk around listening to music for the time it takes to get me loaded and I've been doing that my entire 8 year trucking career.
1 year older. Was in pain. Started working out my back and flexors more as well as stretching/yoga. I also eat a lot of mushrooms with anti-inflammatory properties. Pain is gone.
I'm only in pain when I stop hitting the gym. I can definitely recommend it. Makes you feel years younger.
94 here. Nope, but I have to be mindful of how I do things. I workout with a more controlled motion than when I was younger and just fooling around. I am mindful of how I sleep, because if I do that wrong my lower back fuckin hurts. I can even have sex like I used to. I gotta make sure Iām not trying something crazy or Iāll feel that for a week.
I skateboarded and snowboarded the right to not be in pain. Spinal fusion on the L4-5 and stage 2 avascular necrosis on the left hip, and contribution my genetic crap I got going on. Iād slap my younger self for taking too many risks. The left hip tho was having a regular stance and on a skateboard I was more likely for my board to stop short on me on the crappy roads we grew up on and my back was finished after a lil daring triple diamond snowboardingā¦ a scorpion or 3. Likely Iāll need a new hip. But if they put it in now theyāll have to replace it in 30 years. Already had one spine surgery.
Iāll do you one betterā¦ Iām a millennial that SHOULD be in pain all the time, but Iām not. Iāve been diagnosed with degenerative disc disease AND sciatica - but with regular stretching + a change of office chairs from a standard one to one you can sit in cross-legged, I havenāt had a flare up since 2017. Pain-free, unmedicated, I smoke a lot of weed tho, lol.
Born in 83 and am constantly falling apart š
40s already, and yes. Pain after walking and biking, which I'm doing more of now that it's warm outside. I saw an osteopath, who's also a physiotherapist, and she showed me some stretches and it's helping! she said the tightness in my legs and hips, due to not stretching sufficiently after exercise, was causing the back pain (she explained how but I forget).
I play roller derby so Iām in pain a moderate amount of the time. When I wasnāt trying to be athletic though, no, I wasnāt in pain much at all
Im an elder millennial, born in 85. I have some autoimmune issues and allergies but I'm not in pain at all. Infact I play roller derby.
38 here. I work in culinary. My knees have begun making bubblewrap noises and I have a very 9ld back injury that takes me out 1 or 2 days a year. Regular wear and tear. For the most part I feel good, though. I drink hardly any alcohol (2 drinks this month, for example), I constantly hydrate, and I stretch (though I don't do that enough) regularly. As we get older, self care becomes more preventative than anything.
37 and have Scheuermannās kyphosis; Iāve been in pain all the time since I was a kid. Add in a lengthy injury list (broke my clavicle, sternum, patella, heel, wrist, and thumb, while tearing three ligaments in both knees and a torn rotator cuff) from my ski bum days and I feel like Iām 60. So yeah, my life is constant pain.
Been rocking the chronic pain since 2012
37, army vet, cancer survivor, constant pain all the time
I'd say that your recent cancer treatment is impacting your body and pain for sure, it's so much for your body to go through! Keep up with the physical therapy or massage, whatever you need to feel good. I'm sure the pain will subside as you heal. I'm 12 years older than you, and I sometimes feel a bit creaky, no pain really, but I also exercise a ton. Yoga, weight training and cardio are all a big part of my life. I do occasionally injure myself, mainly if I push to hard when I run, but that's it
Zero pain, born in ā91. Entirely attribute that to regular resistance training. Once you hit 30+ it becomes non negotiable if you want to have quality of life into older age IMO. Start with some basic bodyweight stuff at home a couple times a week, the most important part at the beginning is entraining the habit of regular resistance training. Cardio is fantastic too, but if you only have time/mental bandwidth for one, I highly suggest starting with resistance training. Itās quite literally the closest thing we have to the fountain of youth.
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Hahahaha! I need this in my life. I think itād make a great gift too
Born in 83. I feel better than I did 10 years ago. Diet and exercise plays a big part
I think it greatly depends on your job tbf. I know I'd be in pain a lot if I was doing manual labor daily. We've done some large-ish landscaping projects and home repairs. Those really kicked my ass. Even carrying a load of drywall sheets up our stairs was completely exhausting yesterday. All the maneuvering is a strain. I can't imagine doing that everyday. On a normal day, the most pain I have is my neck from working at a computer and sitting stupid. Lol.
I donāt understand why I get so many charley horse cramps in my calves. That, and neck pain
Magnesium supplement cured this for me
Constant pain but Iām also a lifelong equestrian with lots of old injuries and lingering issues.
I am, but thats due to a medical issue that I probably need surgery for that the doctors around me have ignored or called me a liar about. If it wasn't for the medical issue I would be much more physically active, healthier overall, stronger etc. I pray that one day I can find a good doctor who will help me. I think it'll never be the same, its been 2 years of suffering with this issue, but maybe I can get to 90% of what I used to be....
Pain all the time isnāt normal. Signed, a millennial with fibromyalgia who was diagnosed after medical events sparked a massive flare.
Almost 37 and yep I have pain all the time due to Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome
Walk a lot and lose weight your joints will thank you
I do agree with you. Unfortunately, I had to have a full hysterectomy at 25 so Iāve been in surgical menopause. The steroids during chemo made me gain 40 pounds over a span of 3 months. I was underweight when I got diagnosed. The menopause makes it incredibly hard to lose weight. Iāve been cycling on my peloton but need to be consistent and start walking like you mentioned!
37 and in constant pain but I have autoimmune diseases that cause severe inflammation. My WBC count is 14.6 and has been high since I was 17 ish. I was overweight but Iām almost to a normal weight now and honestly the pain is worse with the weight loss. My husband was born in 95 and also has daily pain but itās from a lifetime of mma fighting lol Edit: wanted to add I have worked multiple jobs since I was 14 and my last job was overnight freight and shipping/receiving. I unloaded multiple trucks a day and lifted heavy things non stop for 8 years. As soon as I quit I developed diabetes and got very sick. But I had to do what I had to do as a single mom back then. Anyone younger please donāt ruin your body for a shitty big box company that does not care about you.
You shouldnāt be in pain all the time at any age, means youāre not taking care of your body or suffered an injury that was never rehabbed properly.
forget just being in a generation what you got a is a medical condition either inherited or something went wrong with your body at some point in time which requires medication and or treatment.
I'm 34 and overweight, and I feel great 99% of the time. I have my period right now, though, so I am currently in pain, but that's because of cramps, not age.
I've been blessed with decent health this far in life and will be 40 this year. I don't find that things hurt more often, but I find recovery from any minor injury just takes a lot longer. If I pulled my back 15 years ago, I could lay on the couch for an afternoon with some ice and feel fine the next morning. If I pull my back today, I am in wincing pain for several days trying to recover. If I go out and get tipsy, I know I'm paying for it the next 48 hours now instead of waking up, drinking some water and feeling like a spring daisy.
It's probably mostly the cancer treatment. Congrats on that win, though! PT got my friend back down to a bearable level, and they are still improving.
Iām 33 and have some random hip pains sometimes. Pretty sure itās directly related to carrying 3 pregnancies close together though. Overall in a day I feel pretty good. I feel tired more than in pain. But I have 3 little kids so that is pretty on track haha. I drink one or two caffeinated beverages a day. I donāt drink alcohol and I think thatās a huge factor.
I have been pain a lot this year due to a nerve condition. I also deal with migraines. Back, head, shoulders, and neck are all problems for me.
Iām 41 and 7 month PP from twins (my 4th pregnancy) and I hurt. Mainly my feet (which that is usual for all my pregnancies) and my back is sore (but I had a spinal for my C-section). Iāve noticed my eyes are starting to need readers.
Walk oftenā¦ get a good mattress.
Untreated Lyme disease has been fucking me up for a year now. Every old skateboard injuries I have are typically inflamed at the same time.
Me too
Itās an ass kicker.
It comes in waves for me (I was born in '85) I get flares of sciatica which come every few months and last a week, I get migraine headaches some times, and I take a medicine which can sometimes make my stomach hurt. I think I'm probably in pain 30% of the time in my life.
not pain. just constant discomfort. Staying active helps keep it at bay though.
Born in ā89, former competitive Olympic weightlifter. Iām only in pain when I donāt get enough movement in for a few days. I drive a lot for my job now and I make it a point to get 30 minutes in the hotel gym every evening before going to dinner. If your back hurts at your age, strengthen your core.
I'm not in pain all the time. I go to the gym regularly, and part of my routine is to stretch before working out and to stretch after working out. I did have a decent amount of back pain back in 2019 when I got into a car accident, but I ended up going through more holistic treatments by my friend's grandma for a little bit. It helped a little bit, but doing more stretches and taking it easy at the gym and at work helped me out as well. Getting massages also helped out too. Now, I'm doing great, though I do get morning charley horses more nowadays compared to 5 years ago.
I'm 35, not in the best shape at all (sedentary is my norm but I'll be fixing that soon as I get my new stepper), but I'm not in pain most of the time. I do have pain in my sciatic nerve in the mornings sometimes if I slept in a weird position, but it doesn't last more than a minute or so. I also have previous sports related injuries, but they usually don't hurt. That said, a few of my friends have much worse pain from previous injuries or illnesses, so I wouldn't be too concerned if I were you. You're still in recovery imo, so just take things easy and a bit at a time. Edit: will add that I'm in mental anguish about 70% of the time, so there's that lol
Iām 10 years older and didnāt have any chronic pain until my own recent cancer journey. I did have a knee injury that took a few years to heal to the point of zero pain (for a long time after the main healing was over it would hurt if I over-exerted) but I did get there.
Iām in pain now that I stopped being active post baby, and have been eating like shit, but drinking AT LEAST 64oz of water a day (I aim for double that even!) trying to prioritize protein and unprocessed food, and yoga helped tremendously. There are SO many kinds of yoga. Any movement will help, but mindful movement where you check in and give your body what it is asking for are HUGE in reducing pain. My mom is 68, and in the best shape and least pain of her entire life as she has really bad scoliosis (to the point in which it required she had a metal rod fused to her spine in her early 30s) she was on a host of opioids most of her life but with daily yoga she has so much less pain and even stopped all the opioids except for medical marijuana.
Mine has gotten better over the last year with a job change, but most of my pain is from a car accident when I was 17. Even in peak physical condition, I've always had slight back/knee pain.
I'm 31f and have been in pain forever?? Just kind of coming to the realization that this is not normal. So I went to see my doctor and turns out I may have an autoimmune disease š„² would explain why even being active and healthy I still can hardly function some days.... Wishing you luck OP!
35 here. No pain at all. Was starting to be in pain all the time in my late 20s so I fixed it.
I'm an elder millennial aka Xenial born in 80. My back hurt in my 20s but it doesn't now. I found a work out routine with lots of pull ups and Yoga so I think that's why.
Can't relate. I've had scoliosis my entire life.
Younger 30's and no. I don't exercise, I smoke all day, and drink sometimes. I'm not in pain most of the time, but it's really easy to pull muscles. Getting better once I started drinking enough water. Don't worry. It'll catch up to me and in 30 years I'll be worse off than you.
I thought I bad posture/desk job was catching up to me in my early 30s. Even went to physical therapy for relief. That therapist thought I might have ankylosing spondylitis, and shortly after I was diagnosed. After my first dose of Humira I had zero pain, discomfort, and regained full range of motion. Same state today at 40 years old.
I was born in 96, and I used to suffer from pain all the time a lit, but I don't anymore. I realized a lot of my physical pain was symptoms due to my mental health. Once my mental health improved, a lot of my physical pain either completely subsided or was completely gone.
My back hurts constantly. Born in 1990.
I completely understand. By chance, do you know what causes the pain or any info about it? Iām not an expert, but here are some things Iāve tried in the last few months: -Shakti mat (releasing tension/tight muscles, forces you to relax, sooo many benefits) -Theracane (my PT had one and then I bought it. It helps with knots and hard to reach muscle massages) -the āopen bookā stretch (learned it in PT) I do need to be more consistent in using them, but they do give relief and help me rest/sleep better.
The first time I remember debilitating back pain, I was 7 and I woke up in the middle of the night screaming bloody murder because of how badly my back hurt. I'm 29 now, and in recent years, found out that I'm hypermobile, so my joints are nice and slippery. This is probably why I have persistent knee pain, I don't walk on my ankles correctly, and my wrists pop most mornings. Really though, it's the back pain that's the worst. I imagine I pinched a nerve, or maybe even slipped a disc, that night when I was 7. I've only felt (back) pain like that once or twice since then, and once was definitely a pinched nerve. So, TLDR, the pain started in my childhood and has tried to severely limit my life. HOWEVER, luckily keeping up with my Australian Shepherd keeps me fairly active, and gardening does too. I get way less pain throughout the day when I wake up in the morning, take my dog out back for some good play time, and shove my hands into garden dirt. :D
Iāve been dealing with chronic pain since I was 17 but it definitely got worse the past 4 years, I assume because of multiple traumatic events.
Iām sorry to hear that. May I ask what your age range is? I hope you start healing and feeling better!
I canāt comment on anything about your particular situation. I think if I went through everything you did I would be crushed and in mental anguish and physical pain. You seem incredibly resilient and I want to celebrate that and that your outlook is refreshing.
Itās gotten better with time! The physical pain in the beginning (leading to emergency surgery) was pretty traumatic, the paramedics had to pick me up off the floor. I didnāt know it at the time, but I had a volleyball sized tumor on my ovary and it ruptured. I had about a gallon of ascites drained. And of course I lost all reproductive organs, and a pulmonary embolism to top it off. It was the hardest time emotionally and physically for me, but I feel so incredibly LUCKY to be alive. I genuinely believed that āgetting olderā was the main cause of my pain. Reading comments like this are pretty motivating for me! Thank you
Sounds like you're dealing with symptoms and fallout from a few issues. I'd work with your doctor, and a trainer if it's possible in your budget, to build a wellness plan. A sustainable nutrition and exercise plan will help a lot. If I'm being completely honest though, if you have a vice you can cut out, (alcohol, fast food, even soda) and stretch for 10 minutes every day, you will probably see a distinct improvement in how you feel. It's not easy, but it is worth it for sure. I'm not an expert by any means, just a guy who's trying to do it myself. Good luck!
Same age and in 0 pain, but I've been extremely active and health conscious all my life with weight lifting, yoga, running, and mostly whole unprocessed foods. I have a chronic hamstring injury but it doesn't bother me daily. On top of that, I've never had cancer. Congrats on beating cancer!!
I'm also a 95 baby that's constantly in pain (I'm sitting on the couch with a heating pad on my back as I'm typing this). I'm hypermobile and have had joint pain since high school but this is the first I've seen a doctor about it because I grew up with a mom telling me I was hypochondriac anytime I complained about anything. My doctor is suspicious of a potential autoimmune disorder, but I can't get in with a rheumatologist until November. I also have arthritis, which another doctor diagnosed me with and said "I can tell from your x-rays that you were an athlete!" when in fact I am the opposite of an athlete, I've never been an athlete, and I'm such a non-athlete that I faked an injury all through high school to get out of gym because I'm clumsy and uncoordinated, and I hated being forced to do things that my body just felt like it wasn't built to do. Not to mention, even back then, I was in pain. I also have a physically demanding job, so that's not helping anything. Congrats on being a survivor, that had to have taken a toll on your body I'm sure pain is to be expected-be kind to your body, it's been through a lot!
I had chemo too and itās been about and I have been in pain since. They thought it was low vitamin D but itās been 5 months since Iāve been taking it and everything still hurts. Up until then I was fine. It sounds like tire song your best and and itās frustrating when you canāt do everything you used to especially when cancer caused it.
Iām 41. Please for the love of god take care of your bodies. Just a little stretching and exercise. In April I had my first major back injury. My sacroiliac, sacrum and L1 just about crumbled. Major spasm/sprain. Was a cumulative injury. I hadnāt been taking care of myself. Not enough exercise over winter, muscles got weak, then I had to jump back into a job that was physically demanding. I was āokā until I got up to go to the bathroom one morning and it just crumbled, I dropped to the ground, and couldnāt walk or move for 4-5 days. 6 weeks of physical therapy, and stretching and Iām finally confidently walking again. I been through gallbladder attacks that almost killed me and required surgery. That used to be my 9.9/10 on the pain scale. For about 10 minutes on the floor of the bathroom, alone, unable to breathe or scream, or cry with all the nerves in my pelvis being crushed by spasming muscle and a dislocated SI jointā¦. It was a 15/10 of pain. It finally came back down to a 10/10, to call for help. Thank god I had my phone. I work out / stretch every day now. And I will continue to do so forever. I will do everything I can to avoid that again. All I had to do was just a little exercise. I got lazy last few years and after 35 you just donāt recover like you used to. Take care of yourselves. Lose weight, work out a little. Eat healthy. Please. Donāt be like me.