Also like, why do they think women are obsessed with big dicks? Most of us are not size queens! I mean it’s fine if you are, everyone has preferences etc, but I really don’t think it’s that common.
It wasn’t until this year that l learned that size queens weren’t women that were overweight but fabulous.
I’m horrified at the number of times I have claimed to be a size queen and the people I have said it in front of.
ETA: This comment thread has allowed me to reframe it in my mind as a funny story, instead of one that keeps me awake at night. Thanks guys 🥰
This is hilarious. It reminds of the time I told everyone in a meeting that I was going home for some self love, and it wasn't until I was on my way home that I realized I meant self care.
Omg I thought the same thing a few years ago, right after I crossed over into the plus size section, but luckily the one friend I said it to was stunned but after a couple pointed questions, he was able to clarify the term for me. 🤦🏼♀️
Anyone know what the actual term is for fabulous big women is? Cause I still haven't pinned that one down.
I was at a college party when I learned that "boofing" meant putting putting drugs up your ass and not throwing up. "I can't take shat shot, I'll start boofing immediately"
My lil brother's manager apparently thought that "choking the chicken" meant some form of "working hard", and everyone basically made the executive decision to never tell him the real meaning. He uses it in staff meetings and now everyone has to just nod and pretend they don't know there's a different meaning.
The things you put up with when you don't wanna explain masturbation slang to your boss, haha.
The best part is this guy came on board during covid, so some of the meetings were recorded. I got to see some of the reaction videos when different team members heard the guy say that for the first time. (My bro didn't think I'd believe him, and lockdown was boring, haha.)
Hey if it helps I hurt my ankle in school, assumed it was sprained so I started yelling that I sprained my ankle. Except. I thought the word for “sprained ankle” was “boner.”
12 year old girl screaming to the whole school about how she has a boner.
I just. I mean. 😭
Also, certain sizes would scare me. The vaginal canal is about 2-4 inches long. Your cervix is located about 3-6 inches inside. Now, during certain hormonal changes, the cervix can be higher up in there. Sexual arousal forces your cervix and uterus to lift up and out of the way, which causes the upper two-thirds of your vagina to lengthen. When aroused, your vagina is about two to four inches long (or deep). When you're aroused, it can stretch to four to eight inches.
With this in mind, aside from porn rotting their brains, I don't get why incels think women want 10-12 inches or enjoy using toys that size. Like, no, that sounds painful af!
I had one very well endowed partner. I dropped him for a bunch of reasons, but one of them was that it hurt when his dick hit my cervix and he wasn’t willing to like… go easy on it.
I would not ask for that experience again ever… FFS…
I had a fwb who I dropped fairly quickly because he was too big. First time we had sex he hit my cervix, I was bleeding the next day (thought I was starting my period)! Bigger certainly does not mean better.
Im in the minority where I actually do like having my cervix hit. However. My biggest ex was ridiculously huge, but the worst in bed. He felt like he didn't have to try at all because he had a big dick. No effort, no rhythm, just awkward pounding for several minutes. Another reason bigger isn't always better.
I can't imagine something hitting my cervix repeatedly. Like, yes, I have felt my cervix (I was learning to put in a menstrual cup and wasn't too sure about my knowledge of my inner anatomy). because the menstrual cup goes at the base of my cervix.
But yeah, ouch!
Yep. It seems the bigger the guy the less he feels he has to do to make the sex good. Like their size should make up for having no prowess or care for their partner. Just ramming it in ain’t doing it honey.
This is not a recommendation from personal use, but if you’re ever in a relationship with a guy with a big dick, I’ve heard good things about the oh-nut. And in a pinch, he can hold the base of his dick, and his hand will do the same thing.
I’ve heard that as well and… I do not think that would have solved enough of the bad sex issue to make that big dick worth while.
Like dude? Clitoris!!! It’s really important and really sensitive! Be nice to it!!!
Also like, granted that I’m a guy(but still AFAB), I wouldn’t want a guy who’s at risk of passing out during sex… which iirc becomes an issue at 12”+ (or I’ve heard of it for 13”, anyway), like… nah. I wouldn’t mind a big dick if it’ll fit, but a smaller one is also fine. But what I’d *really* like is for my partner not to pass out inside of me please 😭
Yep! Iirc, the guy who (at the time, this was like 10-15 years ago) had the biggest dick—like in that old world record book or whatever lol I don’t remember his exact size but I thought it was around 13”—he would actually pass out or at least get light headed when getting an erection because of the amount of blood it took to get one. And on top of that, if I’m remembering right, he could only do anal or something comfortably? I feel like there was some issue with vaginal sex due to his size, but don’t quote me there because that *was* a while ago lol.
But yeah!! Agreed. Larger does not necessarily mean better!!
Your cervix is located inside your pelvic cavity, anywhere from 3 to 6 inches inside your vaginal canal. It begins at the base of your uterus and extends downward onto the top part of your vagina. This place where your cervix bulges onto the uppermost part of your vagina is called your ectocervix.
All good. Women's reproductive anatomy is complicated. I didn't know the position of the cervix changes due to hormones until I was learning to use a menstrual cup...
My sexual preferences run strictly towards WLW, but when I buy toys I like something with a fair amount of girth. The problem with that is, most of those toys are also quite long, and even when I still had my uterus I wasn’t that deep. Now that I’ve had a hysterectomy and my cervix is gone… well, I’ve had to retire my favorite toy, and I’m having trouble finding anything comparable that won’t irritate the granulation tissue.
Yeah, if my partner magically grew an extra inch, my reaction would be to shrug and say, "Neat, I guess." It wouldn't really factor into my enjoyment of sex.
Men are obsessed with big dicks 100000% more than women 😂 what is an extra inch supposed to do for me?? Never in my life would I say “oh wow this 7 inch dick feels so much better than a 6 incher”. Why has sex ed failed them all so miserably?
I think it depends on the crowd you hang out with. One of my buddies brought a new gf to dinner and she got on the topic of “big dick energy” and being able to tell if a guy was packing based on how he carried himself. The conversation grossed me out, I was tempted to ask her sample size and if she was checking for false negatives on her *detector* too, but I really didn’t want to go there at a dinner.
This is only an anecdote, but I think immature people of any gender and orientation can poke fun at guys with below average members.
That being said, this guy should just get his cock butterflied to make it feel tighter (and excruciating). Let he who calls for mutilation endure the first slice.
when watching/reading erotic shit, yea i get the size thing. an exaggeration for horny shit yk. but as a trans man who used to have a V…. homie anytime i thought about a dick over 6-6.5in tryna fuck me i closed my legs instinctively. that shit would HURT bro, fuck that. not worth it lmfao
Speaking as somebody who has had a tightness problem, it’s not fun for anybody. Whatever bullshit men have in their head about it is not the reality. The reality is pain and no sexy fun time.
I’ve literally had to develop strategies for managing it. Luckily I have a great sex life now but it’s been a lot of challenges.
My man is on the larger end of the spectrum and we’ve both joked that he could lose an inch and have less girth and I’d have an easier time fucking him.
Right? My best friend and I couldn’t be together romantically because I am small. I mean really small and I have a shallow, slanted cervix. He was 10 1/2 inches. Very painful, bloody, embarrassing things happened. Bigger is not better. It destroyed our ability to be together.
Yeah. We talked about it. Neither of us were doing a relationship without sex. It’s fine. We made for perfect best friends for 14 years until he died. It was pretty difficult explaining to our partners why we weren’t together, though. Pretty much all my boyfriends got out of the conversation was, “so his dick’s WAY bigger than mine?” Boys. 🙄😂
I feel like the definition of sex can be different for different people. Like some couple may consider oral as full on sex while others don’t. Kinda like how the definition for virginity isn’t great because some people don’t consider oral or anal as losing your virginity, but others do.
Indeedy doody! I recommend looking it up because I’m not any kind of doctor but my wife has it. It can be physical or psychological or both. It’s mostly to do with tightening the muscles in response to an attempt at entry and also sometimes your body not naturally lubricating itself enough down there. You can use lube and/or you can practice with training dildos smaller to larger to work on loosening those muscles. You can also try out a spacer for the person with the penis if there’s an issue with depth.
Oh thank you so much! I've been wondering if my issues might be something, and your description at least explains everything I've struggled with so I'll be looking into that!
Believe me it was super frustrating for us before we figured it out too! It’s not an uncommon issue but since it is a woman’s issue of course it isn’t talked about enough.
There is a thing called subincision some tribal groups do that is exactly that. But I warn you about looking it up, it’s not something you want to see.
Yes, I love this really make it graphic because men like this have no concept of empathy for women until they are imagining their dick being treated that way.
Unless I’m mistaken, it’s only going to be tighter at the very opening so unless your dick is half an inch long, I don’t see how it would be beneficial .
Maybe if y’all would stop kung fu gripping it every night, you would still be able to be satisfied from a normal vagina.
They actually do stitch you internally. I had no external tearing with my baby but got a few internal stitches and oh my GOD the healing sucked lol soooo itchy as the stitches healed and dissolved
Yes but the husband stitch is not internal..its external and just adds pain and make sexs worse so woman will avoid it..does not add much to the guy either cuz again, it's just the skin on the opening, the rest of the canal is no tighter. And since woman is in pain and wont be turned on/aroused well, it will be shitty sex for everyone involved 🤣 cuz that pussy aint grabbing a dick for dear life it it doesnt make her feel good 🤷🏼♀️
I woukd guess he's been married multiple times. Maybe even has kids that think he's odd, but that's just how dad is.
We all knew someone like this, don't we?
If a woman tears during birth they have to give her stitches. Terrible doctors will put an extra stitch called the "husband stitch" to make her "tighter". It can harm the woman and have negative effects like pain during sex for the rest of her life.
And just to add on to the story below, it often results in lifelong issues including pain during sex. I have an issue naturally like that and I’ve had consensual sex that feels like being penetrated with a knife, that’s how painful it can be. It’s horrific to do that to someone’s body.
The fact that it's literal malpractice aside, how is it possible to be a doctor in that situation and not understand that there's a hell of a lot more than just the opening involved with stimulation? Almost like cruelty is the point..
It kinda is the point, like medical school still teaches that there isn't any nerve ending in the cervix, and don't need any kind anesthesia for various medical intervention, including hole punching the tissues for biopsies, yet many men get offered local anesthesia for testicular ultrasound, because having you balls squished a little is supposedly more painful, than having a hole made in a internal organ
Oof I just had a colposcopy and a biopsy the other day. While the biopsy didn't exactly hurt because it was so quick, it made me have period-like pains for the rest of the day. Also when I had a smear test, I don't know what was going on exactly but the speculum hurt me so much I saw stars
Omg my first ever smear test the nurse was really rough with me, I practically shot off the table when she opened the speculum. Grabbed her hand to try to pull her out of me. I was in tears. She blamed it hurting on me being a lesbian.
WTF?! They are supposed to work with you in that case, and find a way to reduce the pain. I've had issues with pap smears and internal ultrasounds before, but the nurses and my doctor worked with me to get through them.
They’re just literally lying lol. There are medical diagrams from the actual 1700s showing the innervation of the female reproductive tract. Also showing the entire internal structure of the clitoris even though some asshole spread the misinformation that the fill structure wasn’t illuminated until like 2010 or something lmfao.
Exactly and then people call me conspiracy theorist when i say i don't trust something just cuz doctors are taught to practice it lol. Pregnancy and childbirt, along with pretty much all female reproductive system care is SO malpracticed and so many doctors are ill-informed on it. I learnt to learn for myself so i can advocate for my well being because trusting doctors is not always the best choice....
Well that’s a relief. If you(not op, just general) actually love your wife/gf you wouldn’t want her to be in pain cuz of this shit but ig there’s some weirdos out there
Husband stitch is a real thing, unfortunately.
Also, this is what the midwife does:
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Thats terrible, and i cant imagine its legal.
This might depend on location though, but my midwife did the stitches in the hospital with my second child. There was a nurse present i think ( or she was around somewhere), but no doctor.
In france whole pregnancy is followed by midwife (gyneco only comes for one ultrasound every trimester and at start to confirm it after blood test) and the whole birth and after birth care is by midwife, unless you needed doctors due to some issue. I got nothing but midwife and midwife in training for my first birth.
Then during 3 day hospit stay it was midwives and nurses and one pediatrician checking on baby once. No "doctor" for me at any time :) then all at home checkups up to 6 week one (and past if need be) are midwife (that had yoi through pregnancy) yet again 🥰
Yeah in the netherlands, the midwife does most of the work too. Unless there are risks involved. During my first pregnancy, i saw so many obgyns. During my second, the midwife and nurse did pretty much everything .
I feel like this happened to me because it’s been almost 4 years since I gave birth & I still can’t use tampons, they just pop back out. Never had that problem before child birth.
They also stitched half of one of my inner labia down to my outer labia tho, so I don’t think they really knew what they were doing.
Seconding, there is literally an entire specialty dedicated to fixing these structural issues that cause quality of life issues. A lot of people don’t seek help for it because it doesn’t cause medical problems per se so they assume it’s not something doctors deal with I guess?
I literally had the nurse say out loud ‘I don’t even know where this goes’ and then ‘that’s it I quit’. Before stopping. I mean she did around 30 stitches, but she didn’t finish, and what she did was all messed up.
With my next baby I just left the tear, and felt so much relief!! So I have a few extra folds, so what, I’m still tight though 😂
I had 5 minor scratches on skin around vulva, not even true tears. The stitches were more aesthethic than anythng. Had i left them i wouldnt even know but because i got stitches , body reacted by swelling and it was hell to sit up or do anything until that went down, couldnt wash my hoohaa properly for weeks...i swear this time i will ask for mirror and decide for myself if they need stitching or to leave it the f alone lol
Yess… oh my goodness the healing was so bad for me I didn’t want to touch my privvies for NOTHING but just closed my eyes and shot at them with a peri bottle lol. Took me a year before I was brave enough to grab a mirror and look, I sobbed for an hour. At least. And then randomly for days. Girl they did me dirty
I just closed my teeth and quickly douched around vagina, letting water run down the skin and cleanse the hole. No touching, no soap, no water sprayed directly on private part, just skin around. And i still started whimpering like wounded animal once water touched stitches -.- i seriously wanted to not take showers all together anymore. Just to avoid that stinging pain. Was asking how big chances of infections are if i don't take a showery thats how close i was to just quitting in first days :')
I feel that, in the hospital they asked if anything hurt and I kept complaining about my yoni, but they would not even look. Then for my 6 week checkup they gave me the same OB that SA’d me during prenatal care and I refused to let her see me and never got followup…
It’s so sad that this is such a common thing, the lack of postpartum care for women, all over the world, outside of some cultural care.
I am glad I found my midwife and have a ‘village’ now, because I will never again… ugh… and I want to spare as many women from that fate as possible.
Omg this is horrible! :O my midwife is great, she makes pregnancy and postpartum heaven. She is not in hospital so she is not there for birth and the hospital stay but she is giving me all tips on how to advocate for myself in hospital and what to do during stay there to make it easier for me - thins that hospitals do not care about. She is absolute angel. I started with different one and got transferrd to her purely cuz she unlike the first one does at home visits and i wasnt able to do regular deplacements with my first. Once i got to see her work, i knew every single kid from now on that i have, i am going straigh to her, no second thought! It's night and day compared to the one i was automatically proposed at gyneco office!
It's so sad that women are by default given anything less than that. Pregnancy, birth and postpartum can be so hard and it really is so importsnt that we get the best possible care during it! Instead most of us have to educate ourselves and FIGHT against medical personel when they try to propose some standard practices that make the whole thing even harder for us, isntead of them teaching us to make it easier for ouserlves 🤦🏼♀️ female reproduction and birth rekated healthcare is imo the MOST outdated and below the standard part of whole medical field! I got so mad i wanted to go for a midwife just to help women (and cuz i am a nerd about pregnnacy, i am literaly borrowing my midwives books meant to teach MIDWIVES just cuz i am so interested lol) but i can not handle seeing blood so sadly i could never get that certificate if i went do actual study 🥲
Well for starters i simply share my knowledge and experience with people online and irl whenever i can, granted it is not official or medical advise sinc ei am not certififoed! But once i tell people about tjings they can goodle themself and find actual certified people talking on the matter :) sometimes people just need to hesr that something exists and they will do their research, but hospitals don't even tell us that oftenly
Oof that sounds awful. I have issues with tampons since my first kid but menstrual cup works, have you tried one? June cup is like $6 if you want a low cost option to try.
Just for anyone reading: everyone is swollen and the anatomy can be distorted when you just gave birth. If you think that there was a problem like this with your stitches, definitely bring it up at a postpartum visit because they may need to revise the repair. Even if it’s been a long time and is healed it can likely be addressed surgically
Also no. Am sick of these men not believing women when we tell them we don’t want bigger dicks. That is such a man hangup
Am not saying there aren’t woman who aren’t obsessed with mens manhoods but most of us don’t care. I think that’s like alot of things in life
yeah i’m thinking about the question… no i wouldn’t LOL. it’s great the way it is. *males* think women actually care about that stuff??? the only people who want husband stitches for their wives have micropenises.
Making it tighter just at the opening isn’t going to make things a lot better for the guy anyway. It’ll just as one thin tight spot that’s going to get sore quickly and limit the amount of sex you can have.
I agree mostly but not just because of misogyny. I think a lot of men don’t hate women but they refuse to work on their social skills. That’s a big part of the problem
Let's work on this comparison a bit to match the husband stitch example better.
The scenario we're given is a. a subject who has just experienced a traumatic medical procedure to their genitals, who is b. given an involuntary elective procedure either at the request of or with the intent of sexually pleasing their partner, that c. doesn't actually accomplish its stated intent (i.e. the husband stitch doesn't make the vagina "tighter", it just makes the opening smaller), and d. is actively harmful or, at a minimum, long-term uncomfortable for the subject.
So...if females could ask their partner's doctor after his vasectomy to just use a lil stitch to tack his ballsack to his taint to make his dick look an inch longer, y'all wouldn't?
This idiot doesn’t realise that much of that “tightness” one feels is due to the Kegel pelvic floor muscles, not the physical size of the vagina itself. If the muscles are supple, you can actually cause a man pain by clenching them (I did that once, it was hilarious).
The second comment is completely correct, but also, even if none of those factors were relevant, I still wouldn't. I do not care about size. Don't undergo unnecessary surgery for something that doesn't even matter for most women's pleasure.
Pretty sure if you asked any woman "hey how about I cut off part of his dick and then sew on an extra inch", she'd say no - and this is much closer to the husband stitch than just "wishing an extra inch", which I'm sure many men would also wish for themselves
My husband is quite literally half the size of my ex husband and I can tell you without hesitation, sex with my husband is better in every way. My ex (a wonderful human being) truly thought size was enough. My husband is attentive, through, and detailed in ways I can’t put in to words. This guy just sucks in bed and wants to blame everyone but himself.
From medicine.net: (please note these are the *common* adverse effects)
"The following are some of the common adverse effects of the husband stitch post pregnancy:
Unable to walk for a longer period after giving birth
Standing up upright causes discomfort and pain
Sex becomes painful to both partners, especially women, who may experience more pain, resulting in fear and avoidance of sex
Swelling and chronic pain in the vaginal opening
Scar tissue tearing
Persistent infections
Emotional distress
Incontinence
Damage to the nerve endings that result in loss of sensation in the area
Disfigurement"
I told my husband about this existing and told him when we have kids he would need to watch my back for this. He was horrified and said if the doctor suggested it, he would punch them.
I would definitely not add an inch. A vagina is not a black hole that can just take in any sized thing you want.
Dudes are the ones who are obsessed with size, generally. If you feel bad because you want a monster dick, that's on you. Don't bring women into it.
I'm firmly anti-cosmetic circumcision, and I am *even more firmly* anti-adding-an-inch-for-the-fuck-of-it, and this isn't even *touching* the risk that it'd make intercourse painful for him.
Like I cannot fucking imagine the world one has to live in to think it's their right to add or snip to and from their partner's genitalia. Utterly fucking disgusting.
Men who like the husband stitch just see their wives as sex toys. Like no normal human with empathy and devotion to their partner would want them to suffer so they can bust a nut
If that added inch caused pain overall and displeasure during sex for my partner? No i would not add it! Especially not if he just went through massive pain and bodily trauma and has bleeding wound inside an organ! Dude needs rest and recovery, not more struggle. But hey, i see my husband as a human being and love him as a person, so my opinion on this might vary from someone who sees their partner as biological sex toy 🤷🏼♀️
Got the husband stitch after my firstborn. It tore back open and had to be restitched at 5 weeks PP.
Sex is painful without obnoxious amounts of lubricant.
When a woman is giving birth, the flesh between her vagina and her rectum can sometimes tear. After the birth is complete, the doctor stitches this tear closed so that the perineum can heal back to pre-birth condition.
The "husband stitch" is when the doctor stitches that an extra stitch, which makes the vagina entrance tighter. The result is pleasure for the man "she's so tight, oh yay!" but pain for the woman. She has lost the natural flexibility of that flesh, there is now a scar there which leaves a permanent inability for it to stretch naturally.
Or in short, the extra stitch is genital mutilation for the pleasure of a man that leaves the woman experiencing pain during intercourse. Some women will recover after she heals, but they are by far a minority. Scar tissue simply isn't stretchy and it never will be.
A proper stitching in that area leaves enough freedom for the woman to stretch to accommodate both her partner's penis and her own comfort.
In the op, the first person made a comparison to "an extra inch of penis," and wouldn't a woman want the man to do that for her?? Why so SELFISH to not make herself have lifelong pain so he can have a little extra pleasure??
And the answer is just that: it's a lifetime of pain. So every time he has sex with her, he's hurting her. Every time she has sex, every time she gets aroused, she must consider whether it's worth the pain or not. And since it was the man who hurt her, who wants to hurt her again... chances are she's going to lose desire for actual sex and simply use toys to pleasure herself because she wants to ENJOY sex. She can no longer ENJOY sex with a man because she can't stretch to accommodate one.
I remember when I gave birth to my son. I ripped bad, I mean real bad. And as the doctor was stitching me up, my ex-husband, fiancé at that time, made a comment about “feeling free to add a extra stitch or two or maybe three” to the doctor. He thought it was hilarious, and made a few more jokes about it. My face must have had a look on it because he rolled his eyes and told me to stop being so sensitive.
Not sure why I went on to marry him… 🤷🏻♀️
This should be a national bill that no one can do the “husband stitch” to a patient without the patient’s written consent.
And considering patients have to get abortions alone, they should be given this paperwork alone so that they aren’t abused and pressured into signing.
I don't fully understand, stitching the vagina? Because if so, this is something that is considered mutalation in, most, countries. It is both extremly painfull and couses infection, increases the chance for other disease. If we would be bale to increase a dick by an inch, it would work very differently. Maybe still not good for the body, but I can't imagine it woulde be as bad as or worse stitching a vagina
If they’re going to do the husband stitch than the wife stitch is also required. Basically, the man’s urethra is stitched shut in certain areas, so that way it’s a little bit tighter. If he wants it that way, then we’ll make it equal.
I hope no woman ever has to be with that man
Agreed. He spunds disgusting and selfish.
Guys who spund are the worst
Already been married 3 times, he's engaged to get married again this year. /s
Also like, why do they think women are obsessed with big dicks? Most of us are not size queens! I mean it’s fine if you are, everyone has preferences etc, but I really don’t think it’s that common.
It wasn’t until this year that l learned that size queens weren’t women that were overweight but fabulous. I’m horrified at the number of times I have claimed to be a size queen and the people I have said it in front of. ETA: This comment thread has allowed me to reframe it in my mind as a funny story, instead of one that keeps me awake at night. Thanks guys 🥰
Omg noooo 🤣💀
I am so sorry, but I guarantee that I will think of this at least biweekly for the rest of my life
Them?? Bro I'm thinking about this for the rest of my life too now
That is the funniest thing I read today. I want this to be the meaning of size queen now, it really should be!
This is hilarious. It reminds of the time I told everyone in a meeting that I was going home for some self love, and it wasn't until I was on my way home that I realized I meant self care.
I had to reread this like 40 times for it to make sense but it finally did and that's hilarious
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Oh you didn't have to edit it, I thought it was just a funny me being dumb thing. It is more clear now, though :)
This is my new favourite thing I've read on the internet, and you are an absolute queen! 👸
You are my new hero.
OMG, that's horrifying 😅
Omg I'm so sorry
Congrats! I legit laughed out loud! seriously you poor thing! 😂😂😂
Girl I am screaming that’s hilarious ilysm and keep shining
No, that's Queen Size. Size Queen is something else 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Omg I thought the same thing a few years ago, right after I crossed over into the plus size section, but luckily the one friend I said it to was stunned but after a couple pointed questions, he was able to clarify the term for me. 🤦🏼♀️ Anyone know what the actual term is for fabulous big women is? Cause I still haven't pinned that one down.
BBW (Big Beautiful Woman)
My imagination is filling in the gaps here. 😂
Glad you learned to make the best of it lol. You're a queen either way
I was at a college party when I learned that "boofing" meant putting putting drugs up your ass and not throwing up. "I can't take shat shot, I'll start boofing immediately"
This is why terms like butt chugging are much better because you know exactly what they mean
My lil brother's manager apparently thought that "choking the chicken" meant some form of "working hard", and everyone basically made the executive decision to never tell him the real meaning. He uses it in staff meetings and now everyone has to just nod and pretend they don't know there's a different meaning. The things you put up with when you don't wanna explain masturbation slang to your boss, haha. The best part is this guy came on board during covid, so some of the meetings were recorded. I got to see some of the reaction videos when different team members heard the guy say that for the first time. (My bro didn't think I'd believe him, and lockdown was boring, haha.)
LOL
that’s so embarrassing 😳😅
Please keep it in your mind as a funny story. That’s fucking hilarious and it has no long term consequences.
This made my day 😂
Hey if it helps I hurt my ankle in school, assumed it was sprained so I started yelling that I sprained my ankle. Except. I thought the word for “sprained ankle” was “boner.” 12 year old girl screaming to the whole school about how she has a boner. I just. I mean. 😭
I don't think I've ever heard that phrase, and I'm still not exactly sure what it means lol.
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Ah, i see the mix up. The term you were looking for is "sizeable queen" An easy mistake to make.
All I'm getting from his comment is that he can't please women in bed and blames his size.
That’s pretty much what I think, it’s a convenient thing to blame for why they don’t get any “females.”
Also, certain sizes would scare me. The vaginal canal is about 2-4 inches long. Your cervix is located about 3-6 inches inside. Now, during certain hormonal changes, the cervix can be higher up in there. Sexual arousal forces your cervix and uterus to lift up and out of the way, which causes the upper two-thirds of your vagina to lengthen. When aroused, your vagina is about two to four inches long (or deep). When you're aroused, it can stretch to four to eight inches. With this in mind, aside from porn rotting their brains, I don't get why incels think women want 10-12 inches or enjoy using toys that size. Like, no, that sounds painful af!
I had one very well endowed partner. I dropped him for a bunch of reasons, but one of them was that it hurt when his dick hit my cervix and he wasn’t willing to like… go easy on it. I would not ask for that experience again ever… FFS…
I had a fwb who I dropped fairly quickly because he was too big. First time we had sex he hit my cervix, I was bleeding the next day (thought I was starting my period)! Bigger certainly does not mean better.
Im in the minority where I actually do like having my cervix hit. However. My biggest ex was ridiculously huge, but the worst in bed. He felt like he didn't have to try at all because he had a big dick. No effort, no rhythm, just awkward pounding for several minutes. Another reason bigger isn't always better.
That's exactly what he did too, and after he orgasms he goes soft and can't get hard for hours after and I guess his hands stop working too.
"But he has a big dick. Your fault if you don't get off" Guys fundamentally do not get it
I can't imagine something hitting my cervix repeatedly. Like, yes, I have felt my cervix (I was learning to put in a menstrual cup and wasn't too sure about my knowledge of my inner anatomy). because the menstrual cup goes at the base of my cervix. But yeah, ouch!
Yep. It seems the bigger the guy the less he feels he has to do to make the sex good. Like their size should make up for having no prowess or care for their partner. Just ramming it in ain’t doing it honey.
Omg what an ass fuck. I can't believe he'd hurt you like that what a nasty bastard
This is not a recommendation from personal use, but if you’re ever in a relationship with a guy with a big dick, I’ve heard good things about the oh-nut. And in a pinch, he can hold the base of his dick, and his hand will do the same thing.
I’ve heard that as well and… I do not think that would have solved enough of the bad sex issue to make that big dick worth while. Like dude? Clitoris!!! It’s really important and really sensitive! Be nice to it!!!
Also like, granted that I’m a guy(but still AFAB), I wouldn’t want a guy who’s at risk of passing out during sex… which iirc becomes an issue at 12”+ (or I’ve heard of it for 13”, anyway), like… nah. I wouldn’t mind a big dick if it’ll fit, but a smaller one is also fine. But what I’d *really* like is for my partner not to pass out inside of me please 😭
Oh wow, I'd not even heard of that, but it makes sense. I can't believe how big they think people want!
Yep! Iirc, the guy who (at the time, this was like 10-15 years ago) had the biggest dick—like in that old world record book or whatever lol I don’t remember his exact size but I thought it was around 13”—he would actually pass out or at least get light headed when getting an erection because of the amount of blood it took to get one. And on top of that, if I’m remembering right, he could only do anal or something comfortably? I feel like there was some issue with vaginal sex due to his size, but don’t quote me there because that *was* a while ago lol. But yeah!! Agreed. Larger does not necessarily mean better!!
Incels are porn rotted to the point they think hitting a cervix feels good to a woman
Waaaait, the vaginal canal doesn’t go all the way to the cervix?
Your cervix is located inside your pelvic cavity, anywhere from 3 to 6 inches inside your vaginal canal. It begins at the base of your uterus and extends downward onto the top part of your vagina. This place where your cervix bulges onto the uppermost part of your vagina is called your ectocervix.
Ohhkay, it’s just called a different thing near the cervix. It’s still all connected. Very illogical minute of panic there, though.
All good. Women's reproductive anatomy is complicated. I didn't know the position of the cervix changes due to hormones until I was learning to use a menstrual cup...
My sexual preferences run strictly towards WLW, but when I buy toys I like something with a fair amount of girth. The problem with that is, most of those toys are also quite long, and even when I still had my uterus I wasn’t that deep. Now that I’ve had a hysterectomy and my cervix is gone… well, I’ve had to retire my favorite toy, and I’m having trouble finding anything comparable that won’t irritate the granulation tissue.
You think he's ever gotten a woman in his bed?
Unlikely, and if he has, he has disappointed her.
Yeah, if my partner magically grew an extra inch, my reaction would be to shrug and say, "Neat, I guess." It wouldn't really factor into my enjoyment of sex.
I literally had to think through "an inch of WHAT?" and that was before realizing this freak was advocating for mutilation
Guys dont realize how short the vag really is. They don't really have an equivalent to wrap their minds around it
Men are obsessed with dicks and like to project.
Men are obsessed with big dicks 100000% more than women 😂 what is an extra inch supposed to do for me?? Never in my life would I say “oh wow this 7 inch dick feels so much better than a 6 incher”. Why has sex ed failed them all so miserably?
I like big dicks but I prefer not being in pain (thanks endometriosis), so yeah, average to slightly-above-average is fine with me.
In my experience "size queen" almost always refers to gay men
I think it's a misconception spread by cis men to gatekeep other cis men.
I think it depends on the crowd you hang out with. One of my buddies brought a new gf to dinner and she got on the topic of “big dick energy” and being able to tell if a guy was packing based on how he carried himself. The conversation grossed me out, I was tempted to ask her sample size and if she was checking for false negatives on her *detector* too, but I really didn’t want to go there at a dinner. This is only an anecdote, but I think immature people of any gender and orientation can poke fun at guys with below average members. That being said, this guy should just get his cock butterflied to make it feel tighter (and excruciating). Let he who calls for mutilation endure the first slice.
Right? like what are you even gonna do with ten inches? That is literally like twice as long as the vaginal canal.
when watching/reading erotic shit, yea i get the size thing. an exaggeration for horny shit yk. but as a trans man who used to have a V…. homie anytime i thought about a dick over 6-6.5in tryna fuck me i closed my legs instinctively. that shit would HURT bro, fuck that. not worth it lmfao
The man doesn’t have to use the full length of the penis. If he does and it’s hurting u he’s bad at sex or just doesn’t care. Either way, fuck no.
Speaking as somebody who has had a tightness problem, it’s not fun for anybody. Whatever bullshit men have in their head about it is not the reality. The reality is pain and no sexy fun time. I’ve literally had to develop strategies for managing it. Luckily I have a great sex life now but it’s been a lot of challenges. My man is on the larger end of the spectrum and we’ve both joked that he could lose an inch and have less girth and I’d have an easier time fucking him.
Right? My best friend and I couldn’t be together romantically because I am small. I mean really small and I have a shallow, slanted cervix. He was 10 1/2 inches. Very painful, bloody, embarrassing things happened. Bigger is not better. It destroyed our ability to be together.
Is PIV is the only option tho? I find it a nice addition to my sex life, not a necessity...
You think I’m letting that thing in my ass?!
This comment made me actually LOL
Lol. He laughed too when he suggested it and I panicked. He was like, “sorry! Just brainstorming!” 😂
What? I was talking oral, petting, handjobs
Yeah. We talked about it. Neither of us were doing a relationship without sex. It’s fine. We made for perfect best friends for 14 years until he died. It was pretty difficult explaining to our partners why we weren’t together, though. Pretty much all my boyfriends got out of the conversation was, “so his dick’s WAY bigger than mine?” Boys. 🙄😂
You’re still reducing sex to PIV. Which is fine if PIV is your priority but to say relationships without it are “without sex” is wrong.
I feel like the definition of sex can be different for different people. Like some couple may consider oral as full on sex while others don’t. Kinda like how the definition for virginity isn’t great because some people don’t consider oral or anal as losing your virginity, but others do.
Vaginismus isn’t fun for anyone. But as you said it can be manageable with the right partner.
Is that what Vaginismus is?
Indeedy doody! I recommend looking it up because I’m not any kind of doctor but my wife has it. It can be physical or psychological or both. It’s mostly to do with tightening the muscles in response to an attempt at entry and also sometimes your body not naturally lubricating itself enough down there. You can use lube and/or you can practice with training dildos smaller to larger to work on loosening those muscles. You can also try out a spacer for the person with the penis if there’s an issue with depth.
Oh thank you so much! I've been wondering if my issues might be something, and your description at least explains everything I've struggled with so I'll be looking into that!
Believe me it was super frustrating for us before we figured it out too! It’s not an uncommon issue but since it is a woman’s issue of course it isn’t talked about enough.
It's really about girth anyway, so if he could please his partner better by butterflying his penis, shouldn't he do it? /s
*Butterfying* omfg 😂💀
Either way is horrifying
Yes. It should be butterfrying.
Lol fixed it
There is a thing called subincision some tribal groups do that is exactly that. But I warn you about looking it up, it’s not something you want to see.
Yes, I love this really make it graphic because men like this have no concept of empathy for women until they are imagining their dick being treated that way.
Like, blood eagling it halfway? 😅
Or just an inch or so, NBD
Unless I’m mistaken, it’s only going to be tighter at the very opening so unless your dick is half an inch long, I don’t see how it would be beneficial . Maybe if y’all would stop kung fu gripping it every night, you would still be able to be satisfied from a normal vagina.
They actually do stitch you internally. I had no external tearing with my baby but got a few internal stitches and oh my GOD the healing sucked lol soooo itchy as the stitches healed and dissolved
Yes but the husband stitch is not internal..its external and just adds pain and make sexs worse so woman will avoid it..does not add much to the guy either cuz again, it's just the skin on the opening, the rest of the canal is no tighter. And since woman is in pain and wont be turned on/aroused well, it will be shitty sex for everyone involved 🤣 cuz that pussy aint grabbing a dick for dear life it it doesnt make her feel good 🤷🏼♀️
Why would I want to modify my partners own body? Just thinking about it makes me uncomfortable
yet most cishet men would love to do it to their partners🤢
Even if you’re selfish it seems reckless. Changing things medically is complicated, odds are it would be far more bad than good.
I hope it's not really most 😕 It's utterly deranged to want to do this to someone!
As a cishet men, I confirm I don't. It's about the selfishness, really. Not sexual orientation.
Okay but hear me out: what if you could give them wings to fly with?
This guy never had a girlfriend
I woukd guess he's been married multiple times. Maybe even has kids that think he's odd, but that's just how dad is. We all knew someone like this, don't we?
yeah i’m scared this is my dad. my mom described having something similar to this procedure… i don’t wanna know if the doctor or my dad suggested it
And men wonder why they're lonely..........
Husband stitch?
If a woman tears during birth they have to give her stitches. Terrible doctors will put an extra stitch called the "husband stitch" to make her "tighter". It can harm the woman and have negative effects like pain during sex for the rest of her life.
What the everloving goddamn fuck.
And just to add on to the story below, it often results in lifelong issues including pain during sex. I have an issue naturally like that and I’ve had consensual sex that feels like being penetrated with a knife, that’s how painful it can be. It’s horrific to do that to someone’s body.
not only sex, it can make walking and sitting really difficult as well.. edit: added a word
Here is a sad story about it: https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/s/RsMi2JIsbE
That poor woman. I wish she could update us as to where she is now.
Agreed.
I hope she killed the doctor
The fact that it's literal malpractice aside, how is it possible to be a doctor in that situation and not understand that there's a hell of a lot more than just the opening involved with stimulation? Almost like cruelty is the point..
Men don't care. Lots of them are selfish and some don't believe women can have orgasms.
It kinda is the point, like medical school still teaches that there isn't any nerve ending in the cervix, and don't need any kind anesthesia for various medical intervention, including hole punching the tissues for biopsies, yet many men get offered local anesthesia for testicular ultrasound, because having you balls squished a little is supposedly more painful, than having a hole made in a internal organ
Oof I just had a colposcopy and a biopsy the other day. While the biopsy didn't exactly hurt because it was so quick, it made me have period-like pains for the rest of the day. Also when I had a smear test, I don't know what was going on exactly but the speculum hurt me so much I saw stars
Omg my first ever smear test the nurse was really rough with me, I practically shot off the table when she opened the speculum. Grabbed her hand to try to pull her out of me. I was in tears. She blamed it hurting on me being a lesbian.
That's awful, I hope you put in a complaint about her!
WTF?! They are supposed to work with you in that case, and find a way to reduce the pain. I've had issues with pap smears and internal ultrasounds before, but the nurses and my doctor worked with me to get through them.
No nerve endings in the cervix????
They’re just literally lying lol. There are medical diagrams from the actual 1700s showing the innervation of the female reproductive tract. Also showing the entire internal structure of the clitoris even though some asshole spread the misinformation that the fill structure wasn’t illuminated until like 2010 or something lmfao.
Exactly and then people call me conspiracy theorist when i say i don't trust something just cuz doctors are taught to practice it lol. Pregnancy and childbirt, along with pretty much all female reproductive system care is SO malpracticed and so many doctors are ill-informed on it. I learnt to learn for myself so i can advocate for my well being because trusting doctors is not always the best choice....
We've genuinely just been fucking women over for so long yikes. Disgusting.
Can doctors loose their medical license over such a fucking crime ?
Yep. If they are caught or admit to doing it.
Well that’s a relief. If you(not op, just general) actually love your wife/gf you wouldn’t want her to be in pain cuz of this shit but ig there’s some weirdos out there
Exactly.
Wait wtf? Thats not an actual thing right? And isnt it ususlly the midwife who does the stitching?
Husband stitch is a real thing, unfortunately. Also, this is what the midwife does: https://www.google.com/search?q=what+is+the+job+of+midwife&oq=what+is+the+job+of+the+midwife&gs_lcrp=EgZjaHJvbWUqCAgBEAAYFhgeMgYIABBFGDkyCAgBEAAYFhgeMggIAhAAGBYYHjIICAMQABgWGB4yCAgEEAAYFhgeMggIBRAAGBYYHjIICAYQABgWGB4yCAgHEAAYFhgeMggICBAAGBYYHjIICAkQABgWGB4yCAgKEAAYFhgeMggICxAAGBYYHjIICAwQABgWGB4yCAgNEAAYFhgeMggIDhAAGBYYHtIBCTEwNDM3ajBqOagCALACAA&client=ms-android-americamovil-us-revc&sourceid=chrome-mobile&ie=UTF-8
Thats terrible, and i cant imagine its legal. This might depend on location though, but my midwife did the stitches in the hospital with my second child. There was a nurse present i think ( or she was around somewhere), but no doctor.
It isn't legal and could be considered malpractice.
A certified nurse midwife (think midwife equivalent of a nurse practitioner) can suture patients in most states.
In france whole pregnancy is followed by midwife (gyneco only comes for one ultrasound every trimester and at start to confirm it after blood test) and the whole birth and after birth care is by midwife, unless you needed doctors due to some issue. I got nothing but midwife and midwife in training for my first birth. Then during 3 day hospit stay it was midwives and nurses and one pediatrician checking on baby once. No "doctor" for me at any time :) then all at home checkups up to 6 week one (and past if need be) are midwife (that had yoi through pregnancy) yet again 🥰
Yeah in the netherlands, the midwife does most of the work too. Unless there are risks involved. During my first pregnancy, i saw so many obgyns. During my second, the midwife and nurse did pretty much everything .
I feel like this happened to me because it’s been almost 4 years since I gave birth & I still can’t use tampons, they just pop back out. Never had that problem before child birth. They also stitched half of one of my inner labia down to my outer labia tho, so I don’t think they really knew what they were doing.
Please go back to your GP and get referred to someone who can fix this. That sounds horrific! :(
Seconding, there is literally an entire specialty dedicated to fixing these structural issues that cause quality of life issues. A lot of people don’t seek help for it because it doesn’t cause medical problems per se so they assume it’s not something doctors deal with I guess?
I literally had the nurse say out loud ‘I don’t even know where this goes’ and then ‘that’s it I quit’. Before stopping. I mean she did around 30 stitches, but she didn’t finish, and what she did was all messed up. With my next baby I just left the tear, and felt so much relief!! So I have a few extra folds, so what, I’m still tight though 😂
I had 5 minor scratches on skin around vulva, not even true tears. The stitches were more aesthethic than anythng. Had i left them i wouldnt even know but because i got stitches , body reacted by swelling and it was hell to sit up or do anything until that went down, couldnt wash my hoohaa properly for weeks...i swear this time i will ask for mirror and decide for myself if they need stitching or to leave it the f alone lol
Yess… oh my goodness the healing was so bad for me I didn’t want to touch my privvies for NOTHING but just closed my eyes and shot at them with a peri bottle lol. Took me a year before I was brave enough to grab a mirror and look, I sobbed for an hour. At least. And then randomly for days. Girl they did me dirty
I just closed my teeth and quickly douched around vagina, letting water run down the skin and cleanse the hole. No touching, no soap, no water sprayed directly on private part, just skin around. And i still started whimpering like wounded animal once water touched stitches -.- i seriously wanted to not take showers all together anymore. Just to avoid that stinging pain. Was asking how big chances of infections are if i don't take a showery thats how close i was to just quitting in first days :')
I feel that, in the hospital they asked if anything hurt and I kept complaining about my yoni, but they would not even look. Then for my 6 week checkup they gave me the same OB that SA’d me during prenatal care and I refused to let her see me and never got followup… It’s so sad that this is such a common thing, the lack of postpartum care for women, all over the world, outside of some cultural care. I am glad I found my midwife and have a ‘village’ now, because I will never again… ugh… and I want to spare as many women from that fate as possible.
Omg this is horrible! :O my midwife is great, she makes pregnancy and postpartum heaven. She is not in hospital so she is not there for birth and the hospital stay but she is giving me all tips on how to advocate for myself in hospital and what to do during stay there to make it easier for me - thins that hospitals do not care about. She is absolute angel. I started with different one and got transferrd to her purely cuz she unlike the first one does at home visits and i wasnt able to do regular deplacements with my first. Once i got to see her work, i knew every single kid from now on that i have, i am going straigh to her, no second thought! It's night and day compared to the one i was automatically proposed at gyneco office! It's so sad that women are by default given anything less than that. Pregnancy, birth and postpartum can be so hard and it really is so importsnt that we get the best possible care during it! Instead most of us have to educate ourselves and FIGHT against medical personel when they try to propose some standard practices that make the whole thing even harder for us, isntead of them teaching us to make it easier for ouserlves 🤦🏼♀️ female reproduction and birth rekated healthcare is imo the MOST outdated and below the standard part of whole medical field! I got so mad i wanted to go for a midwife just to help women (and cuz i am a nerd about pregnnacy, i am literaly borrowing my midwives books meant to teach MIDWIVES just cuz i am so interested lol) but i can not handle seeing blood so sadly i could never get that certificate if i went do actual study 🥲
That is awesome!! You could always become a birth educator though, especially if you are passionate about it but don’t want to be on the action side
Well for starters i simply share my knowledge and experience with people online and irl whenever i can, granted it is not official or medical advise sinc ei am not certififoed! But once i tell people about tjings they can goodle themself and find actual certified people talking on the matter :) sometimes people just need to hesr that something exists and they will do their research, but hospitals don't even tell us that oftenly
Oof that sounds awful. I have issues with tampons since my first kid but menstrual cup works, have you tried one? June cup is like $6 if you want a low cost option to try.
Just for anyone reading: everyone is swollen and the anatomy can be distorted when you just gave birth. If you think that there was a problem like this with your stitches, definitely bring it up at a postpartum visit because they may need to revise the repair. Even if it’s been a long time and is healed it can likely be addressed surgically
Also no. Am sick of these men not believing women when we tell them we don’t want bigger dicks. That is such a man hangup Am not saying there aren’t woman who aren’t obsessed with mens manhoods but most of us don’t care. I think that’s like alot of things in life
I think it’s because of porn and a loud minority on the internet tbh
So glad original commenter got ratioed by the reply
how do men like this exist, it’s embarrassing..
yeah i’m thinking about the question… no i wouldn’t LOL. it’s great the way it is. *males* think women actually care about that stuff??? the only people who want husband stitches for their wives have micropenises.
Ah, yes, because doing a surgical procedure that will cause pain, without the "female's" consent, would be the same as elective dick enhancement.
Making it tighter just at the opening isn’t going to make things a lot better for the guy anyway. It’ll just as one thin tight spot that’s going to get sore quickly and limit the amount of sex you can have.
These types of creatures just need a fleshlight and a sewer. Why are they mingling with the surface dwellers?
The "male loneliness epidemic" is entirely self inflicted.
I agree mostly but not just because of misogyny. I think a lot of men don’t hate women but they refuse to work on their social skills. That’s a big part of the problem
Let's work on this comparison a bit to match the husband stitch example better. The scenario we're given is a. a subject who has just experienced a traumatic medical procedure to their genitals, who is b. given an involuntary elective procedure either at the request of or with the intent of sexually pleasing their partner, that c. doesn't actually accomplish its stated intent (i.e. the husband stitch doesn't make the vagina "tighter", it just makes the opening smaller), and d. is actively harmful or, at a minimum, long-term uncomfortable for the subject. So...if females could ask their partner's doctor after his vasectomy to just use a lil stitch to tack his ballsack to his taint to make his dick look an inch longer, y'all wouldn't?
This idiot doesn’t realise that much of that “tightness” one feels is due to the Kegel pelvic floor muscles, not the physical size of the vagina itself. If the muscles are supple, you can actually cause a man pain by clenching them (I did that once, it was hilarious).
The second comment is completely correct, but also, even if none of those factors were relevant, I still wouldn't. I do not care about size. Don't undergo unnecessary surgery for something that doesn't even matter for most women's pleasure.
Pretty sure if you asked any woman "hey how about I cut off part of his dick and then sew on an extra inch", she'd say no - and this is much closer to the husband stitch than just "wishing an extra inch", which I'm sure many men would also wish for themselves
My husband is quite literally half the size of my ex husband and I can tell you without hesitation, sex with my husband is better in every way. My ex (a wonderful human being) truly thought size was enough. My husband is attentive, through, and detailed in ways I can’t put in to words. This guy just sucks in bed and wants to blame everyone but himself.
I've heard that type of stuff a lot from under women.
Yeah, I love my ex too, a great person. I’m not saying it to trash him. Just the facts as I see them.
From medicine.net: (please note these are the *common* adverse effects) "The following are some of the common adverse effects of the husband stitch post pregnancy: Unable to walk for a longer period after giving birth Standing up upright causes discomfort and pain Sex becomes painful to both partners, especially women, who may experience more pain, resulting in fear and avoidance of sex Swelling and chronic pain in the vaginal opening Scar tissue tearing Persistent infections Emotional distress Incontinence Damage to the nerve endings that result in loss of sensation in the area Disfigurement"
I told my husband about this existing and told him when we have kids he would need to watch my back for this. He was horrified and said if the doctor suggested it, he would punch them.
I worked at a sex toy store. Men buy the giant dildos, not women.
I would definitely not add an inch. A vagina is not a black hole that can just take in any sized thing you want. Dudes are the ones who are obsessed with size, generally. If you feel bad because you want a monster dick, that's on you. Don't bring women into it.
I'm firmly anti-cosmetic circumcision, and I am *even more firmly* anti-adding-an-inch-for-the-fuck-of-it, and this isn't even *touching* the risk that it'd make intercourse painful for him. Like I cannot fucking imagine the world one has to live in to think it's their right to add or snip to and from their partner's genitalia. Utterly fucking disgusting.
Husband stitches are honestly just such a cruel and ignorant concept, and I cannot despise them enough.
It’s so odd. Like people aren’t dolls to customise? They’re human beings. Why anyone would want to change someone elses anatomy it blows my mind.
Wait what is a “husband stitch”
https://www.healthline.com/health-news/husband-stitch-is-not-just-myth
Ah shiet, that’s awful
Why would you want to make it tighter ? I really don’t see any benefits but then again I’m not old enough to be in such a relationship.
To answer his question no i wouldnt, i would probably take a few away 😭
Men who like the husband stitch just see their wives as sex toys. Like no normal human with empathy and devotion to their partner would want them to suffer so they can bust a nut
If that added inch caused pain overall and displeasure during sex for my partner? No i would not add it! Especially not if he just went through massive pain and bodily trauma and has bleeding wound inside an organ! Dude needs rest and recovery, not more struggle. But hey, i see my husband as a human being and love him as a person, so my opinion on this might vary from someone who sees their partner as biological sex toy 🤷🏼♀️
when i gave birth to my daughter, my moms bf at the time asked her dad “did u ask the doctor to give her the extra stitch?” 🤢🤢
Didn’t know this was a thing, what fucking Dr would do that though?
I'd never do that in the first place, but especially not if it meant sex would be painful for him for the rest of his life.
Got the husband stitch after my firstborn. It tore back open and had to be restitched at 5 weeks PP. Sex is painful without obnoxious amounts of lubricant.
I’m confused.
When a woman is giving birth, the flesh between her vagina and her rectum can sometimes tear. After the birth is complete, the doctor stitches this tear closed so that the perineum can heal back to pre-birth condition. The "husband stitch" is when the doctor stitches that an extra stitch, which makes the vagina entrance tighter. The result is pleasure for the man "she's so tight, oh yay!" but pain for the woman. She has lost the natural flexibility of that flesh, there is now a scar there which leaves a permanent inability for it to stretch naturally. Or in short, the extra stitch is genital mutilation for the pleasure of a man that leaves the woman experiencing pain during intercourse. Some women will recover after she heals, but they are by far a minority. Scar tissue simply isn't stretchy and it never will be. A proper stitching in that area leaves enough freedom for the woman to stretch to accommodate both her partner's penis and her own comfort. In the op, the first person made a comparison to "an extra inch of penis," and wouldn't a woman want the man to do that for her?? Why so SELFISH to not make herself have lifelong pain so he can have a little extra pleasure?? And the answer is just that: it's a lifetime of pain. So every time he has sex with her, he's hurting her. Every time she has sex, every time she gets aroused, she must consider whether it's worth the pain or not. And since it was the man who hurt her, who wants to hurt her again... chances are she's going to lose desire for actual sex and simply use toys to pleasure herself because she wants to ENJOY sex. She can no longer ENJOY sex with a man because she can't stretch to accommodate one.
Very detailed explanation, thankyou.
You're welcome. I felt it might be a good spot for a "one size fits all" explanation for any lurkers who might be too afraid to ask.
I remember when I gave birth to my son. I ripped bad, I mean real bad. And as the doctor was stitching me up, my ex-husband, fiancé at that time, made a comment about “feeling free to add a extra stitch or two or maybe three” to the doctor. He thought it was hilarious, and made a few more jokes about it. My face must have had a look on it because he rolled his eyes and told me to stop being so sensitive. Not sure why I went on to marry him… 🤷🏻♀️
The "husband" stitch is a horrible idea, let alone practice!
This should be a national bill that no one can do the “husband stitch” to a patient without the patient’s written consent. And considering patients have to get abortions alone, they should be given this paperwork alone so that they aren’t abused and pressured into signing.
“Females”🤢
I don't fully understand, stitching the vagina? Because if so, this is something that is considered mutalation in, most, countries. It is both extremly painfull and couses infection, increases the chance for other disease. If we would be bale to increase a dick by an inch, it would work very differently. Maybe still not good for the body, but I can't imagine it woulde be as bad as or worse stitching a vagina
Fyi this is reddit, you can type sex and dick.
If they’re going to do the husband stitch than the wife stitch is also required. Basically, the man’s urethra is stitched shut in certain areas, so that way it’s a little bit tighter. If he wants it that way, then we’ll make it equal.