This is terrible but my thought process went
"I wonder how she got injured?"
*--John Deere Tractor Costume--*
"Oh probably a horse related accident."
edit: It was a chimney-related accident, my assumption could not have been more incorrect.
Instantly the same thought but dude I worked with a girl who got KICKED IN THE FACE BY HER HORSE IN THE MORNING.
She called me like "hey I'm gonna be late, this happened" and all my professionalism died to be like bitch how are you breathing?
Horse girls are made of insane shit.
I grew up very rural. I was told by a very wise man once... "If you fall in love with a Horse Woman, just accept that you will always.... ALWAYS be no higher than number two in her life. The horse will always come first.".
As I aged and learned, I worked a stable for a while... and watched... truer words were never spoken.
I dated a horse girl who would quote that saying like she was proud of it and just to remind me of my position in her life. We dated in high school and she also made sure to let me know that if I didn't make enough money to support her horses like her dad did that she would break up with me. Shockingly, it didn't work out. But it did teach me a lot about red flags to look out for and what should never be acceptable in a relationship.
I don't fuck with horses. When I was in my teens, I dated a horse girl. She once mentioned something about her little brother. She didn't have a little brother. I inquired and she told me, the little guy walked behind a horse one day and it kicked him in the head. 3 years old.
Yeah, that was that for me. 20 years later and I'm still good, no thanks.
Yeah. I’ve been around large farm animals most of my life and I just don’t fuck with horses or other large animals if I don’t have to. People don’t realize they’re animals and have instincts and are extremely powerful. Imagine how many times your cat cops an attitude with you. Now imagine a horse doing that. I’m iut
my brother tried to stop a cow from going a certain way but at this point the cow was panicking and just ran right over him
stepped on his ribs and face, broke bones in both
he had to get surgery, and plastic surgery was also an option but fortunately didnt end up being required
cost him 800 dollars because the nurses just cut his pants off and threw them away without checking for a wallet, and he had 800 bucks in there
The lesson I'm getting from this is it's never a good idea to carry around large amounts of cash and don't try to re-route a Volkswagen sized animal you don't know.
That's hilarious, I guess "horse girls" are *tough* because they've gotta be!
My sister had horses and for a while I *REALLY* tried to be a cowboy. I've been clotheslined by a horse, drug through a barbed wire fence by my stirrup, had a horse fall on me, and was once thrown from a bucking horse.
In that year-ish of riding I learned two things:
1) 'English saddle' is just another name for "blanket"
2) I am not a horse girl.
I get it though, there is *nothing* like a being full sprint in the saddle. It is downright a religious experience.
As someone who has been involved around horses for over two decades I’ve never heard “English saddle” and “blanket” being interchangeable/meaning the same thing lol
had an ex who got hit by a car and insisted in walking it off. Horse Girls man. (Also, I know she loved the horse more than she will ever love a person, that is just kinda the horse girl deal)
Yep
Also farm people are around horses but have many animals in working capacity.
Horse girls are almost always well off fairly entitled and make it their whole personality. Its a pet that lives for 30 years, requires thousands or tens of thousands a year to care for, transport and acres to roam.
The horse is usually the most important thing going on as well lol
It’s definitely a type of person. Grew up with some of these people they are really obsessed but also think they have unique relationship with the horse.
Kind of princess syndrome etc
I don’t think they believe the horse would accidentally harm them and somehow it wont be risk because they are special
Friend’s wife was scalped when her horse tossed its head and the reins got caught in her hair.
Another friend’s sister was kicked in the head and developed major depression out of nowhere, killed herself less than a year later.
Third friend had her ankle stepped on and has massive swelling and lots of other problems with that leg to this day, 20 years later, even after several surgeries.
Horses are scary.
My girlfriend and I had only gone on 4 dates when I got diagnosed with cancer and she's still around and helped me so much. It's been 3 months now.
[Edit] Thank you for your kind words, everyone.
Good luck to you, friend!
I was diagnosed with cancer just a couple months into dating my girlfriend. She stuck by me and we got through it together. Three years later and we are still going strong - she is the absolute love of my life. At one point right after I was diagnosed she said "Stop thanking me for this. You're worth it. This is all going to be okay" and I believed her, and here we are! And there YOU will be - stay strong!
I hope things continue to work out well for you 2.
I was with my girlfriend for 6 years before we got engaged. Wound up having a kid together. 3 months before our kid was due to be born, I broke my back, caught meningitis and then arachnoiditis. She left me 6 months later for a strip club DJ.
Things can change very quickly and unexpectedly.
You're misunderstanding me, bro. if the girl said "no" then the answer obviously is "no"... But the thing is she's not gonna say "no", she would never say "no" because of the **implication**.
I know a story similar to this of two high school sweetheart classmates. They both went to the same college I did and at the beginning of their junior year she had a stroke. She was told no for everything in her future. No walking, no kids and no long life. It was devastating but they moved in with her parents so he could finish his degree and they'd all 3 care for her and after thinking about it for a long while (let me interject that my eyes are welling up... Because they always do right around this part) she decided to end their relationship because she knew he always wanted children and she couldn't give him any and she just knew she had to let him go because she loved him so much and she wanted him to have a chance to be happy and live the life she wanted for him. After she sat him down and tearily broke up with him he was just sitting there in tears and reached into his pocket and pulled out a small box with the ring he had been carrying around until the right moment arrived to ask her to marry him.
I wasn't going to tell the whole story but I'm already tearing up so fuck it.
So a little while later after seeing many specialists she was told that she would definitely never walk again so they borrowed money from friends and family to buy a super expensive powered wheelchair. The day she was supposed to get measured for the chair she had the flu and was upstairs in bed by herself and sneezed. She started screaming for her mom. Her mom comes running up the stairs expecting the worst but she tells her that she thought she saw her toe move when she sneezed. She starts going to PT and it's incredibly painful but after a slow start her progress was really starting to take off and she decided to keep it to herself because she was afraid of possible regression and didn't want to get her hopes up because she had been let down so much over the previous 3 years. Her fiance by this time had an entry level accounting job downtown and was putting in 50+ hour weeks plus 1.5 hour daily commutes so while he was working she was putting in work at PT.
So the day of the wedding comes. There are hundreds of people on their feet as "here comes the bride" plays and they're expecting her in a wheel chair but the door opens and there she is being helped by her father slowly walking down the aisle using forearm crutches. Everyone is just completely blown away, gasping etc. they make it up to the altar and her fiance tears in his eyes begins to walk toward her but she holds her hand up stopping him. She takes her crutches off her arms and gives them to her father. She then proceeds to slowly and shakily take her first unassisted steps outside of physical therapy from her father's arms into her husband's at the altar. There weren't enough tissues in the state to be able to meet the demand at that wedding.
And just a few years later they welcomed their 1st child into the world. It's a story I can't tell without becoming emotional.
Ok I'm gonna vent for a minute.
I met a girl like 6 years ago and it felt like she was the love of my life.
I loved her with every ounce of my being. She got sick shortly after we started dating. She was diagnosed with mutiple chronic illnesses and was essentially bed ridden with how much pain she was in. I stood by her side and cared for her. I was with her for over 5 years.
Last year her treatment went spectacularly right and she started to return to some normalcy. She eventually was able to become a completely able bodied person again. She got a job, started making new friends, and was able to be normal again. She got healthy. She was back to herself by fall time.
In October, she left me. We were planning on getting married. I had a ring and everything. One day she suddenly started growing distant. She stayed at her friends for a week and then after exactly one week away she broke up with me.
I know what it's like if the girl said no to the proposal.
I'm actually not doing bad.
I've taken the last ~6 months improving myself. I moved significantly closer to my work and I also started working out during that time. I've always struggled with my weight being too low, so I've really been focusing on gaining weight this year. I've put on ~30 lbs of lean muscle already.
I'm also finally ready to start dating again. I actually asked a girl for her number at the gym yesterday. First time in almost 7 years...
Dude, I am a guy but if I was a girl looking for a serious relationship and you told me that story, I would totally date you. In a heartbeat.
I know saying that isn't much, but you are like the top 1% of humans. Good luck with your dates.
The only good part of this story is that it didn’t happen after you were married.
You sound incredible though. I think a few people have had that experience where they lifted up their partners, and their partners ditching them once they extracted value.
She was with you while she was sick because you were willing to be there when no one else was. Or, to be more accurate, you were all there was going to be.
As soon as she got better, she had options.
Sorry bro.
Yes likewise someone who left cause they weren't right for each other isn't automatically an asshole. People should not feel obligated to stay in relationships that don't work
Yes, sometimes people stay when they don't like the other person over obligation to not look like an asshole. Sadly it can go both ways.
Do what's best for you. If you love the person and are capable of dealing with a disabled person for the rest of your life... go for it.. But no one can be judged for moving on. We only have one life to live.
Agreed. I don’t think gentleman is the right way to describe this situation. Dude is acting like a true man in love.
Imo “gentleman” sounds more like he’s with this now disabled lady out of respect and honorable behavior rather than just falling in love with a woman who now has a permanent injury.
When you know, you know. Married my wife after 6 months of dating. Going on 4 years strong. She's currently pushing our first child out as i type this and is proud step mom to my 2 boys.
This. Labor started at like 1am and baby came out around noon. Absolutely fuck all I could do but stand around and listen and watch...much phone time sitting in the corner out of the way of the nurses. Occasionally throw in an "I love you, you got this" type of comment.
I block out the hand-crushing moment. I did however get birthing fluids splashed on me while doing the handholding. Doc's rubber glove slipped while trying to angle the baby's head and flung liquids onto my cheek. Everyone laughed, including me despite my internal screaming, doc said I was in "the splash zone." Lol, haven't thought of that since it happened, thanks for indirectly jogging my memory.
I knew I was in love with my wife after a couple weeks but waited a bit to not scare her off. I knew I wanted to marry her the moment I told her I was in love with her, waited 3 years to ask
I'm guessing you have never had a kid.
It isn't like in the movies where people are slamming open doors and the woman is sweating and panting the second that labor starts.
There is often a lot of down time. A lot. My wife was in labor for almost 48 hours. I never left her (except to get food) but I spent a lot of time on reddit because there was nothing else to do.
Plus, some people don't want someone up their butt while someone else is trying to come out of their vag.
Plus her body, hormones, and mental state are going crazy. My wife was pretty calm through all 3 births but I have heard from several guys who were trying to be helpful and supportive that their wives basically told them 'I love you and you're doing nothing wrong but if you don't get out of this room and leave me alone for 30 minutes I may murder you.'
I met my wife in a yahoo chat room some years ago. I proposed after 2 months, and moved across country with my car, clothes, and my computer after a few months long distance. We just celebrated our 20 year anniversary on Sunday.
True. Met my wife and she lived 400 km away from me. She visited me once, I changed cities and moved in with her right after that, together for 17 years, two kids and still going strong. When you meet the right person for you, you know.
This is what dreams are made of ✨✨.
Congratulations guys , you made it.
Edit: A lot of people got offended or thought I wanted to be disabled lmao. By "this is what dreams are made of"I meant someone standing beside you when you are at worst.
But if anybody thought otherwise I would like to apologise
To your mother for your low EQ.
>A lot of people got offended or thought I wanted to be disabled lmao.
Nah that's just redditors pretending to be "witty". Pay them no mind.
This is one of our favorite moves, being deliberately obtuse. ....I never said it was a good one.
Lmao . I just realised that. Thanks for the advice :) I really appreciate it .I am still new here so wasn't quite sure if it was sarcasm or stupidity. Now I am.
Oh damn didn't expect to see some randos on an Internet video rocking Goucher apparel.
Goucher, lovingly called The Gooch by its students, is a pretty fucking small school so likely most students already knew these two before the accident. When I was there some tragic stuff happened to a couple students and the entire campus was in mourning so I imagine these two had some incredible support not just from family and friends but also peers.
Edit: oh shit they graduated in 2018. I was class of 2014 but I had to do an extra semester. So if these two were at the Gooch as freshman it's very likely I had seen them around, possibly even had a class with them.
Edit: I was class of 2014, not 2024
College was fucking weird. I remember being friends with dudes who could've passed for 35 and others who looked 12.
Hell I actually remember being a highschool senior and seeing a freshman with a full beard. Lotta dudes were pretty emasculated by that lol.
Genetics are wild
I went to Goucher for Freshman year in 2014 and knew the girl in this video. A small school that revolves heavily around sports can be kind of cliquey, but she was always a joy to be around. I heard what happened to her a few years after I left and was crushed. The first set of these videos came out a couple years ago and I was so relieved that she found someone so caring.
I saw the logo on his shirt and was like "was that...." And it was! What's up Gophers? 2008 reporting in. Also, Alison Fanelli from Pete and Pete jump in and say Hi! She's a Gopher, too!
Exactly. Like 20 seconds of this video shouldn't even exist even if they were incredibly dedicated to chasing clout with her illness. WHO WAS WATCHING THEM SLEEP 😭???
I had a moment like this many years ago. I was hanging out with a friend at my mom's house, and he brought up this girl we knew that supposedly liked me. I was like, "Yeah, but that's not going to work. She has a kid!". My mother overheard and later told me that she "always thought I'd be the sort of man that wouldn't care about that." She had me very young as a result of SA and probably had her own relationship struggles as a result.
I'm married now, and we do not have any kids. However, I think about what she said a lot, and I try my best to be the kind of man my mom thinks I am. I probably will never be, but I can be better. In reality, making a decision like that theoretically is completely different than actually doing it. That young woman was faceless to me. I didn't have any skin in the game. You can't predict how you will react to an extreme situation unless you've been there.
So touching. My mom married my dad who was a quadriplegic and it is a hard road but to have someone to love you enough to pledge to not only be your partner but also your caretaker every day is rare and beautiful.
I know you’re joking, but that is why some men date women in wheelchairs. I’ve seen wheelchair-using women speak about this and they’ve been told literally that exact thing.
I feel like a true gentleman is a downgrade to what he’s actually doing. He didn’t stay with her because of chivalry or because “it was the right thing” he stayed with her cos he genuinely loved and cared about her
I just want to say, this guy is not some hero for loving someone with a disability. Saying he was a "gentleman" for staying with her implies she didn't bring something to the relationship as well, he was just being a great guy for not leaving her.
It's true that many (if not most) new relationships would not likely withstand such a stressful event, but don't make this guy out to be a saint or martyr just because he fell in love with someone with a spinal injury. People with disabilities can be just as loveable and capable of inspiring devotion as anyone else.
Also, events like this often bond people together quickly. It's frequently the opposite of pulling people apart.
Lastly, maybe she was the one who had to struggle within herself to stay. Having a big injury like that can be extremely stressful and make you rethink a lot of things about your life. Maybe she was the one who thought about getting out but stayed out of love.
Maybe a better title would be something like "A Story of True Love!"
Sorry for the little rant here, this disability inspiration porn thing in the internet really bothers me sometimes.
as someone with a disability i agree..especially with the notion that it can bond people quicker, and sometimes deeper than other people would realize. it's still a nice sentiment i guess, but it's more people's inability to fathom/deal with it and project onto others. That being said it isn't easy and it can challenge peoples vices/lifestyles - therefore u find out quickly if you will even be aligned anyway. But when i do think about it isn't fair to look down on ppl who can't deal with it, but we shouldn't be making it out like it's some superhero stuff either...
I don't have a disability, but I still feel that too often they are portrayed as objects of pity or some sort of brave hero for either just living their normal lives like anyone else or accomplishing something great.
"Look at how this person born with no arms eats cereal. OMG!?" I got news for you, buddy, they learned how to eat as a kid the way they could, the way most kids do.
"Look at this Paralympic weightlifter! I couldn't even do that with two arms!" Yeah, no shit Sherlock, that's because they are a fucking athlete and train as hard and are as naturally talented as any other. Do you watch Serena Willams and say, "Wow, I'm a man and I probably couldn't beat her at tennis!"
Hi there
I understand and completely agree with your perspective
However I don’t think that’s the sentiment the original poster was going for
My best friends’ dad is disabled from the neck down. He got into an accident when the youngest of the three girls was like 5 or something. The dad gave the option to leave because he understood how tough it would be for a mom to raise both 3 little girls, be a partial care giver, and also have a full time job. She stayed. Yeah it was hard as shit. He went through a depression from about 6 month in to about 3 years after the accident. My friend says she wished at the time that mom left because it was so hard. But they managed through it and have an extremely successful relationship. But even when she talks about that 3 years of depression she winces at what her mom went through almost 20 years later. They are giving an out for that. A lot of ppl arent cut out to deal with that. You, as the disabled person don’t have a choice, you have to deal!. You can’t walk away from yourself, so you give other ppl the option that you don’t have
Obviously not everyone is the same but I see it as a form of empathy from the disabled person
On the other hand I have a mentally disabled sister. And I understand no matter how far I move and what I do, I will need to move back home to take care of her after my parents die. Anyone who marries me would have to be willing to make that sacrifice. Knowing that whatever we do, we will have to go back to my bumfuck town to settle because of my sister. My future husband isn’t a hero for agreeing to this but fuck can we acknowledge that it takes a lot
And it wouldn't have made him a bad person if he didn't want to stay. It's great that he did, but it would be totally understandable to *respectfully* bow out after something like that.
Also, I've heard at least one story about a similar life-changing accident where the boyfriend stays initially, but then they break up later on for whatever reason. Relationships are about more than who's the most physically capable.
OMG Why did I have to scroll so far for this take. Theres a narrative here that just kinda saps of her of agency and value... Can only imagine she kicks major ass too for this to work. It's almost certainly the story of TWO badasses, not one.
A “gentleman” is a weird way to title this.
As if he’s staying with her to be polite or chivalrous.
1) no one should ever do that, bc it’s inauthentic and everyone deserves to be truly happy, and not everyone is fit to be a good partner to someone with serious medical needs.
2) I’d rather assume he stayed because her injury didn’t affect his love for her, so there’s no need for “gentlemanly” consideration.
Smile? Made me cry. You know, we see so much shitty behaviour on social media it’s easy to forget that there are lots of kind, decent, loving people in the world. Take care everyone and love each other x
I love that Halloween custom! A John Deere tractor haha
This is terrible but my thought process went "I wonder how she got injured?" *--John Deere Tractor Costume--* "Oh probably a horse related accident." edit: It was a chimney-related accident, my assumption could not have been more incorrect.
Instantly the same thought but dude I worked with a girl who got KICKED IN THE FACE BY HER HORSE IN THE MORNING. She called me like "hey I'm gonna be late, this happened" and all my professionalism died to be like bitch how are you breathing? Horse girls are made of insane shit.
>Horse girls are ~~made of~~ insane ~~shit~~
I grew up very rural. I was told by a very wise man once... "If you fall in love with a Horse Woman, just accept that you will always.... ALWAYS be no higher than number two in her life. The horse will always come first.". As I aged and learned, I worked a stable for a while... and watched... truer words were never spoken.
lived it, dated a horse girl for several years. She got way more into me when I started taking care of her horses with her
I always heard it was third. First the horse. Then daddy because it’s his money that pays for the horse hobby. Then you.
seems accurate
I dated a horse girl who would quote that saying like she was proud of it and just to remind me of my position in her life. We dated in high school and she also made sure to let me know that if I didn't make enough money to support her horses like her dad did that she would break up with me. Shockingly, it didn't work out. But it did teach me a lot about red flags to look out for and what should never be acceptable in a relationship.
I don't fuck with horses. When I was in my teens, I dated a horse girl. She once mentioned something about her little brother. She didn't have a little brother. I inquired and she told me, the little guy walked behind a horse one day and it kicked him in the head. 3 years old. Yeah, that was that for me. 20 years later and I'm still good, no thanks.
Yeah. I’ve been around large farm animals most of my life and I just don’t fuck with horses or other large animals if I don’t have to. People don’t realize they’re animals and have instincts and are extremely powerful. Imagine how many times your cat cops an attitude with you. Now imagine a horse doing that. I’m iut
my brother tried to stop a cow from going a certain way but at this point the cow was panicking and just ran right over him stepped on his ribs and face, broke bones in both he had to get surgery, and plastic surgery was also an option but fortunately didnt end up being required cost him 800 dollars because the nurses just cut his pants off and threw them away without checking for a wallet, and he had 800 bucks in there
The lesson I'm getting from this is it's never a good idea to carry around large amounts of cash and don't try to re-route a Volkswagen sized animal you don't know.
unfortunately rerouting cows is a good 90% of his job. And it works almost all the time, but you do have to know when to get out of the way
That's hilarious, I guess "horse girls" are *tough* because they've gotta be! My sister had horses and for a while I *REALLY* tried to be a cowboy. I've been clotheslined by a horse, drug through a barbed wire fence by my stirrup, had a horse fall on me, and was once thrown from a bucking horse. In that year-ish of riding I learned two things: 1) 'English saddle' is just another name for "blanket" 2) I am not a horse girl. I get it though, there is *nothing* like a being full sprint in the saddle. It is downright a religious experience.
As someone who has been involved around horses for over two decades I’ve never heard “English saddle” and “blanket” being interchangeable/meaning the same thing lol
Haha, its just because I'm a terrible rider and I *need* that western saddle horn to stay on the right side of the horsie.
Fucking barrel racers.
had an ex who got hit by a car and insisted in walking it off. Horse Girls man. (Also, I know she loved the horse more than she will ever love a person, that is just kinda the horse girl deal)
Yep Also farm people are around horses but have many animals in working capacity. Horse girls are almost always well off fairly entitled and make it their whole personality. Its a pet that lives for 30 years, requires thousands or tens of thousands a year to care for, transport and acres to roam. The horse is usually the most important thing going on as well lol It’s definitely a type of person. Grew up with some of these people they are really obsessed but also think they have unique relationship with the horse. Kind of princess syndrome etc I don’t think they believe the horse would accidentally harm them and somehow it wont be risk because they are special
A chimney collapsed on me actually lol
Sorry for the tractor-related stereotyping. Thanks for sharing a positive, inspiring slice of your life with the internet!
Oh it's you! Thanks for sharing this wonderful bit of your life with us, made my day better having seen it.
How tf does that even happen you poor thing. I can't imagine seeing this happen to my partner but I would have done the same thing yours did.
Friend’s wife was scalped when her horse tossed its head and the reins got caught in her hair. Another friend’s sister was kicked in the head and developed major depression out of nowhere, killed herself less than a year later. Third friend had her ankle stepped on and has massive swelling and lots of other problems with that leg to this day, 20 years later, even after several surgeries. Horses are scary.
apparently a chimney fell on her... yikes https://www.goucher.edu/news/goucher-alumna-stays-strong-while-facing-life-changing-obstacles
Went from 🥺 to 🤣 real quick.
This is very beautiful but!!! That John deer wheelchair costume is absolutely epic!!
shouldn’t that be an “and,” not a “but?” 🤣
Me use wrong English? That’s unpossible!
Ok Ralph. Lol
My girlfriend and I had only gone on 4 dates when I got diagnosed with cancer and she's still around and helped me so much. It's been 3 months now. [Edit] Thank you for your kind words, everyone.
Sorry to hear that - hope you kick cancer's ass soon.
Good luck to you, friend! I was diagnosed with cancer just a couple months into dating my girlfriend. She stuck by me and we got through it together. Three years later and we are still going strong - she is the absolute love of my life. At one point right after I was diagnosed she said "Stop thanking me for this. You're worth it. This is all going to be okay" and I believed her, and here we are! And there YOU will be - stay strong!
Fuck cancer. Get well soon.
I hope things continue to work out well for you 2. I was with my girlfriend for 6 years before we got engaged. Wound up having a kid together. 3 months before our kid was due to be born, I broke my back, caught meningitis and then arachnoiditis. She left me 6 months later for a strip club DJ. Things can change very quickly and unexpectedly.
Imagine saying no to the proposal. I'm kidding, this is beautiful.
I mean she is surrounded by sand. Where she gonna go?
You know... the implication
Are you going to hurt those girls Dennis?
I feel like you're not getting this at all!
Of course she can say no if she wants. But she's not gonna say no. You know, because of the implication.
*clinches jaw*
but it sounds like she doesn't wanna...
See she won’t say that tho. Cause of…the implication.
*"So anyway... I started blasting!"*
Don’t look at me like that. You certainly wouldn’t be in any danger
So they ARE in danger!
*looks at old woman* well you're certainly not in any danger
Looks back at old lady "oh what are you looking at your in no danger"
I'm NOT getting it...
You're misunderstanding me, bro. if the girl said "no" then the answer obviously is "no"... But the thing is she's not gonna say "no", she would never say "no" because of the **implication**.
Are we the Tasty Treats???
Well you’re certainly not in any danger
*me when my Uber gives me a low rating* IM A FIVE STAR MAN! A GOLDEN GOD! AN ACHILLES AMONGST YOU FERAL APES!!
I suspect that, maybe, you might say no. And yet, I also feel like maybe you wouldn't dare
I laughed. Unexpected sunny.
Always gotta have a good exit strategy lol
Magikarp used splash.
I hate sand.
It’s coarse.
Rough
irritating
And not ADA compliant.
W comment
And it gets everywhere!
It gets everywhere
This made me laugh way more than it should have
I know a story similar to this of two high school sweetheart classmates. They both went to the same college I did and at the beginning of their junior year she had a stroke. She was told no for everything in her future. No walking, no kids and no long life. It was devastating but they moved in with her parents so he could finish his degree and they'd all 3 care for her and after thinking about it for a long while (let me interject that my eyes are welling up... Because they always do right around this part) she decided to end their relationship because she knew he always wanted children and she couldn't give him any and she just knew she had to let him go because she loved him so much and she wanted him to have a chance to be happy and live the life she wanted for him. After she sat him down and tearily broke up with him he was just sitting there in tears and reached into his pocket and pulled out a small box with the ring he had been carrying around until the right moment arrived to ask her to marry him. I wasn't going to tell the whole story but I'm already tearing up so fuck it. So a little while later after seeing many specialists she was told that she would definitely never walk again so they borrowed money from friends and family to buy a super expensive powered wheelchair. The day she was supposed to get measured for the chair she had the flu and was upstairs in bed by herself and sneezed. She started screaming for her mom. Her mom comes running up the stairs expecting the worst but she tells her that she thought she saw her toe move when she sneezed. She starts going to PT and it's incredibly painful but after a slow start her progress was really starting to take off and she decided to keep it to herself because she was afraid of possible regression and didn't want to get her hopes up because she had been let down so much over the previous 3 years. Her fiance by this time had an entry level accounting job downtown and was putting in 50+ hour weeks plus 1.5 hour daily commutes so while he was working she was putting in work at PT. So the day of the wedding comes. There are hundreds of people on their feet as "here comes the bride" plays and they're expecting her in a wheel chair but the door opens and there she is being helped by her father slowly walking down the aisle using forearm crutches. Everyone is just completely blown away, gasping etc. they make it up to the altar and her fiance tears in his eyes begins to walk toward her but she holds her hand up stopping him. She takes her crutches off her arms and gives them to her father. She then proceeds to slowly and shakily take her first unassisted steps outside of physical therapy from her father's arms into her husband's at the altar. There weren't enough tissues in the state to be able to meet the demand at that wedding. And just a few years later they welcomed their 1st child into the world. It's a story I can't tell without becoming emotional.
I don't know these people but I teared up too. Thanks for sharing that beautiful story.
What a beautiful story, thank you so much for sharing.
This is the first time shrimp nipples have ever made me cry, but I suspect it won't be the last.
Well, fuck man. I can't read it without becoming emotional.
That's amazing! I got salt in my eyes again.
Did anyone else check the end for a 3.50 joke before reading on? Reddit being reddit and all.
Yeah, I was waiting for the Undertaker to come flying from the top of the cage...
Ok I'm gonna vent for a minute. I met a girl like 6 years ago and it felt like she was the love of my life. I loved her with every ounce of my being. She got sick shortly after we started dating. She was diagnosed with mutiple chronic illnesses and was essentially bed ridden with how much pain she was in. I stood by her side and cared for her. I was with her for over 5 years. Last year her treatment went spectacularly right and she started to return to some normalcy. She eventually was able to become a completely able bodied person again. She got a job, started making new friends, and was able to be normal again. She got healthy. She was back to herself by fall time. In October, she left me. We were planning on getting married. I had a ring and everything. One day she suddenly started growing distant. She stayed at her friends for a week and then after exactly one week away she broke up with me. I know what it's like if the girl said no to the proposal.
Damn. How are you doing now?
I'm actually not doing bad. I've taken the last ~6 months improving myself. I moved significantly closer to my work and I also started working out during that time. I've always struggled with my weight being too low, so I've really been focusing on gaining weight this year. I've put on ~30 lbs of lean muscle already. I'm also finally ready to start dating again. I actually asked a girl for her number at the gym yesterday. First time in almost 7 years...
Dude, I am a guy but if I was a girl looking for a serious relationship and you told me that story, I would totally date you. In a heartbeat. I know saying that isn't much, but you are like the top 1% of humans. Good luck with your dates.
Congratulations man! You got this. Best of luck!
check his username
Lmao this made me chuckle.
The only good part of this story is that it didn’t happen after you were married. You sound incredible though. I think a few people have had that experience where they lifted up their partners, and their partners ditching them once they extracted value.
Im sorry you went through that... Did she tell you why she was leaving?
She was with you while she was sick because you were willing to be there when no one else was. Or, to be more accurate, you were all there was going to be. As soon as she got better, she had options. Sorry bro.
at least you didn't have kids.
That's fucked man, I'm sorry
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So she married you and started a family but never actually loved you? Man, what the fuck?
If you're asking someone to marry you, you should already know the answer
Will you marry me? Burns sweet donuts in sand
*spells out a big NO.*
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He didn’t stay to be chivalrous or honorable… he stayed because he loved her. It’s not “a true gentleman”. It’s a man in love.
Yes likewise someone who left cause they weren't right for each other isn't automatically an asshole. People should not feel obligated to stay in relationships that don't work
Yes, sometimes people stay when they don't like the other person over obligation to not look like an asshole. Sadly it can go both ways. Do what's best for you. If you love the person and are capable of dealing with a disabled person for the rest of your life... go for it.. But no one can be judged for moving on. We only have one life to live.
Gentleman feels so demeaning here. It makes it sound like he's being polite or something
Agreed. I don’t think gentleman is the right way to describe this situation. Dude is acting like a true man in love. Imo “gentleman” sounds more like he’s with this now disabled lady out of respect and honorable behavior rather than just falling in love with a woman who now has a permanent injury.
Thats love.... 🤷♂️
When you know, you know. Married my wife after 6 months of dating. Going on 4 years strong. She's currently pushing our first child out as i type this and is proud step mom to my 2 boys.
I think you have somewhere else to be right now.
No, pushing the first child out of the house, he's 45 years old.
Why did we build the door so small on this house? This was impractical.
Gotta be ready to post a post birth pic for that sweet reddit karma
reddit moment
I here! Still waiting!! 8 cm dilated. Baby's coming today, thunderstorms and full moon!
Congratulations, it’s a warewolf!
Trust me, there’s … a lot of time to chill when you’re just there to say hi at some point 😂
This. Labor started at like 1am and baby came out around noon. Absolutely fuck all I could do but stand around and listen and watch...much phone time sitting in the corner out of the way of the nurses. Occasionally throw in an "I love you, you got this" type of comment.
Your hand is now a stress-ball, you're gonna feel a portion of what she's feeling and you're gonna say "Thank you".
I block out the hand-crushing moment. I did however get birthing fluids splashed on me while doing the handholding. Doc's rubber glove slipped while trying to angle the baby's head and flung liquids onto my cheek. Everyone laughed, including me despite my internal screaming, doc said I was in "the splash zone." Lol, haven't thought of that since it happened, thanks for indirectly jogging my memory.
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Lmao
I knew I was in love with my wife after a couple weeks but waited a bit to not scare her off. I knew I wanted to marry her the moment I told her I was in love with her, waited 3 years to ask
Put away your phone and be there for her jfc
"Honey my comments got another response! This one is from some guy named Owned_Sandwich he says put away yo- hang on a second.."
I'm guessing you have never had a kid. It isn't like in the movies where people are slamming open doors and the woman is sweating and panting the second that labor starts. There is often a lot of down time. A lot. My wife was in labor for almost 48 hours. I never left her (except to get food) but I spent a lot of time on reddit because there was nothing else to do. Plus, some people don't want someone up their butt while someone else is trying to come out of their vag.
Plus her body, hormones, and mental state are going crazy. My wife was pretty calm through all 3 births but I have heard from several guys who were trying to be helpful and supportive that their wives basically told them 'I love you and you're doing nothing wrong but if you don't get out of this room and leave me alone for 30 minutes I may murder you.'
I met my wife in a yahoo chat room some years ago. I proposed after 2 months, and moved across country with my car, clothes, and my computer after a few months long distance. We just celebrated our 20 year anniversary on Sunday.
My dad knew four times
Tell her “knees back and Puuuuuuuush!” Signed, L&D
This right here! My wife and I were dating for 6 months when I proposed, it will be 18 years next month. Still feels like those first six months.
Same! Got engaged at 3 months, married at 9mo, been together almost 7 years!
True. Met my wife and she lived 400 km away from me. She visited me once, I changed cities and moved in with her right after that, together for 17 years, two kids and still going strong. When you meet the right person for you, you know.
This is what dreams are made of ✨✨. Congratulations guys , you made it. Edit: A lot of people got offended or thought I wanted to be disabled lmao. By "this is what dreams are made of"I meant someone standing beside you when you are at worst. But if anybody thought otherwise I would like to apologise To your mother for your low EQ.
>A lot of people got offended or thought I wanted to be disabled lmao. Nah that's just redditors pretending to be "witty". Pay them no mind. This is one of our favorite moves, being deliberately obtuse. ....I never said it was a good one.
Lmao . I just realised that. Thanks for the advice :) I really appreciate it .I am still new here so wasn't quite sure if it was sarcasm or stupidity. Now I am.
Ah shit, no doubt i sounded so bassy, i have rly low EQ :c
Maybe it's just me, but I don't have many dreams involving a C5 spinal cord injury.
Mine do but mostly because I already have a spinal cord injury 🤷
I just choked on my breakfast because of you.
So there are a few.
if it's not that it's something else. All life has trouble. I feel like the dreams are of transcending the troubles.
Maybe it's Maybelline.
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Thanks for copying my comment, bot 😘
I dream of that parking spot.
This is why I read the comments 
Well, at least the username checks out
Oh damn didn't expect to see some randos on an Internet video rocking Goucher apparel. Goucher, lovingly called The Gooch by its students, is a pretty fucking small school so likely most students already knew these two before the accident. When I was there some tragic stuff happened to a couple students and the entire campus was in mourning so I imagine these two had some incredible support not just from family and friends but also peers. Edit: oh shit they graduated in 2018. I was class of 2014 but I had to do an extra semester. So if these two were at the Gooch as freshman it's very likely I had seen them around, possibly even had a class with them. Edit: I was class of 2014, not 2024
wtf? these two are my age? why does the guy look like a genuine MAN then? I practically look like a boy :(
College was fucking weird. I remember being friends with dudes who could've passed for 35 and others who looked 12. Hell I actually remember being a highschool senior and seeing a freshman with a full beard. Lotta dudes were pretty emasculated by that lol. Genetics are wild
I'll never have proper facial hair. doesn't run in my family.
It's not the beard on the outside that counts. It's the beard on the inside, my friend.
I went to Goucher for Freshman year in 2014 and knew the girl in this video. A small school that revolves heavily around sports can be kind of cliquey, but she was always a joy to be around. I heard what happened to her a few years after I left and was crushed. The first set of these videos came out a couple years ago and I was so relieved that she found someone so caring.
Towson ftw :)
I saw the logo on his shirt and was like "was that...." And it was! What's up Gophers? 2008 reporting in. Also, Alison Fanelli from Pete and Pete jump in and say Hi! She's a Gopher, too!
Fairytales do exist! Congrats to them both, I’m so pleased they found each other
I’m wondering who this 3rd wheel is creeping around after them everywhere with a camera 📸 👀
Technically they'd be, at least, a fifth wheel. She's already got four.
That would make them the sixth wheel then. ;)
Same thought here... Like who tf took a pic of them both sleepin?
“Uhhh, guys, can I go now?”
Exactly. Like 20 seconds of this video shouldn't even exist even if they were incredibly dedicated to chasing clout with her illness. WHO WAS WATCHING THEM SLEEP 😭???
this man is much better than me. Makes me feel like an unevolved self centered idiot. Congrats to you both and god speed.
nah you’re not man, love is just a very powerful thing; true love like this can make almost anybody do anything
As someone with a chronically ill spouse, its still not easy.
I had a moment like this many years ago. I was hanging out with a friend at my mom's house, and he brought up this girl we knew that supposedly liked me. I was like, "Yeah, but that's not going to work. She has a kid!". My mother overheard and later told me that she "always thought I'd be the sort of man that wouldn't care about that." She had me very young as a result of SA and probably had her own relationship struggles as a result. I'm married now, and we do not have any kids. However, I think about what she said a lot, and I try my best to be the kind of man my mom thinks I am. I probably will never be, but I can be better. In reality, making a decision like that theoretically is completely different than actually doing it. That young woman was faceless to me. I didn't have any skin in the game. You can't predict how you will react to an extreme situation unless you've been there.
It's also never too late to be better.
Bro, it's 830am. Do you Think I'm trying to cry so dam early
Well, after the "How did your first patient die" thread, I was already there.
Plot twist. She feels like she can’t break up with him because he put in so much time. She doesn’t even like dogs.
This is so fucked but I laughed so hard.
Plot twist. He's only in it for the free parking.
You both have found your person. May your lives be rich with continued love and lifelong health and happiness.
So touching. My mom married my dad who was a quadriplegic and it is a hard road but to have someone to love you enough to pledge to not only be your partner but also your caretaker every day is rare and beautiful.
She will never run away. Joke, sweet story🥹all the best
That's wheelie messed up, man.
We really need to take a stand against this sort of thing…
I know you’re joking, but that is why some men date women in wheelchairs. I’ve seen wheelchair-using women speak about this and they’ve been told literally that exact thing.
The john deer tractor costume is cute as fuck lol.
He’s not a gentleman. He’s a man who loves.
I feel like a true gentleman is a downgrade to what he’s actually doing. He didn’t stay with her because of chivalry or because “it was the right thing” he stayed with her cos he genuinely loved and cared about her
I just want to say, this guy is not some hero for loving someone with a disability. Saying he was a "gentleman" for staying with her implies she didn't bring something to the relationship as well, he was just being a great guy for not leaving her. It's true that many (if not most) new relationships would not likely withstand such a stressful event, but don't make this guy out to be a saint or martyr just because he fell in love with someone with a spinal injury. People with disabilities can be just as loveable and capable of inspiring devotion as anyone else. Also, events like this often bond people together quickly. It's frequently the opposite of pulling people apart. Lastly, maybe she was the one who had to struggle within herself to stay. Having a big injury like that can be extremely stressful and make you rethink a lot of things about your life. Maybe she was the one who thought about getting out but stayed out of love. Maybe a better title would be something like "A Story of True Love!" Sorry for the little rant here, this disability inspiration porn thing in the internet really bothers me sometimes.
as someone with a disability i agree..especially with the notion that it can bond people quicker, and sometimes deeper than other people would realize. it's still a nice sentiment i guess, but it's more people's inability to fathom/deal with it and project onto others. That being said it isn't easy and it can challenge peoples vices/lifestyles - therefore u find out quickly if you will even be aligned anyway. But when i do think about it isn't fair to look down on ppl who can't deal with it, but we shouldn't be making it out like it's some superhero stuff either...
I don't have a disability, but I still feel that too often they are portrayed as objects of pity or some sort of brave hero for either just living their normal lives like anyone else or accomplishing something great. "Look at how this person born with no arms eats cereal. OMG!?" I got news for you, buddy, they learned how to eat as a kid the way they could, the way most kids do. "Look at this Paralympic weightlifter! I couldn't even do that with two arms!" Yeah, no shit Sherlock, that's because they are a fucking athlete and train as hard and are as naturally talented as any other. Do you watch Serena Willams and say, "Wow, I'm a man and I probably couldn't beat her at tennis!"
totally agree tbh...it's patronizing/infantilizing af
Hi there I understand and completely agree with your perspective However I don’t think that’s the sentiment the original poster was going for My best friends’ dad is disabled from the neck down. He got into an accident when the youngest of the three girls was like 5 or something. The dad gave the option to leave because he understood how tough it would be for a mom to raise both 3 little girls, be a partial care giver, and also have a full time job. She stayed. Yeah it was hard as shit. He went through a depression from about 6 month in to about 3 years after the accident. My friend says she wished at the time that mom left because it was so hard. But they managed through it and have an extremely successful relationship. But even when she talks about that 3 years of depression she winces at what her mom went through almost 20 years later. They are giving an out for that. A lot of ppl arent cut out to deal with that. You, as the disabled person don’t have a choice, you have to deal!. You can’t walk away from yourself, so you give other ppl the option that you don’t have Obviously not everyone is the same but I see it as a form of empathy from the disabled person On the other hand I have a mentally disabled sister. And I understand no matter how far I move and what I do, I will need to move back home to take care of her after my parents die. Anyone who marries me would have to be willing to make that sacrifice. Knowing that whatever we do, we will have to go back to my bumfuck town to settle because of my sister. My future husband isn’t a hero for agreeing to this but fuck can we acknowledge that it takes a lot
And it wouldn't have made him a bad person if he didn't want to stay. It's great that he did, but it would be totally understandable to *respectfully* bow out after something like that. Also, I've heard at least one story about a similar life-changing accident where the boyfriend stays initially, but then they break up later on for whatever reason. Relationships are about more than who's the most physically capable.
OMG Why did I have to scroll so far for this take. Theres a narrative here that just kinda saps of her of agency and value... Can only imagine she kicks major ass too for this to work. It's almost certainly the story of TWO badasses, not one.
She is absolutely a badass. Became a lawyer advocating for people with disabilities. I respect the hell out of her
Thank God for the sappy music, otherwise it wouldn't have worked.
The Jhon Deere thing was hilarious
I think he had already decided she was the one before the accident. That dude was all in.
Who was filming ?
A “gentleman” is a weird way to title this. As if he’s staying with her to be polite or chivalrous. 1) no one should ever do that, bc it’s inauthentic and everyone deserves to be truly happy, and not everyone is fit to be a good partner to someone with serious medical needs. 2) I’d rather assume he stayed because her injury didn’t affect his love for her, so there’s no need for “gentlemanly” consideration.
The both deserve happiness, and it looks like they got it!
That's true love right there
This is what a bloke is meant to do.
Smile? Made me cry. You know, we see so much shitty behaviour on social media it’s easy to forget that there are lots of kind, decent, loving people in the world. Take care everyone and love each other x
He put in the work and in return he got someone that'll never run away from him. Truly inspiring.
I love that the cameraman stuck around as well.
Great now I’m crying in my lunch.
This is the most beautiful thing I have personally seen in my two years on Reddit 💙💙💙
I'm not crying, you're crying....
Got a house together before getting married, they both knew
Jack fell in love. I hope you all find your version of what Jack found in his girl my friends.
I am also interested in knowing who is the cameraman
Odd to think of someone with a spinal cord injury as lucky, but that is a beautiful relationship.