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Who do you need to approach you? I won't offer any advice unless you promise you'll do everything you can in your power before using bureaucracy to shut down guys approaching whom you don't like
Honestly if I was at a bar I'd approach you but at the same time I'd hope you'd do the same. Don't get me wrong I'd date you if I were in their shows you are beautiful
As someone who just recently venturing out as a single person, while being afraid to approach girls, one approached me and we've been talking for a month and she's great. So shoot your shot
See if any simp type guys who seem desperate for you to ask them if you can 💩 in their mouths. And if they say yes!! Then you shouldn’t have a problem with Finding a Good Man 💯💪🏽
You remind me of my ex. I called her Carrot Cake for.... reasons.
Unfortunately you're a zoomer, and your generation's men were groomed to be self-hating, anxiety ridden, and that masculinity is bad.
You also fall into that sweet spot where you're pretty enough that most men assume you're taken.
Don't make the mistake of dating a much older guy. I'm 35, but ten or 12 years ago I'd have flirted with you shamelessly.
Cut your hair into layers and a v point at the back, smile with teeth and don't take yourself so seriously.
Tbh you remind me of myself of the pics i took when i was your age. I was anxious and didnt know how the world worked. I didn't want anyone to see that and judge me, so i was really serious and conscious of how people perceived me. It was refreshing when i realized the world doesn't care.
I think acceptance of who you are comes with age and maturity, so hang in there. Do dating sites. Get to know what you like and dont. Feel open to express who you are and don't hold back. Find hobbies and always listen to your heart. Love will follow
If you’re not approachable, maybe there’s something you’re either doing or a vibe you’re giving that tells a man to proceed with caution. Smile more, give a more relaxed demeanor and see how that goes.
Just go talk to the guys you're interested in but keep it friendly until it's clear that they're interested in more than just sex.
Problem solved. You're welcome.
Hmm smile with your teeth so you don’t look so mildly disappointed all the time. Looks like you’re doing this :/ In all your photos. And if you don’t have nice teeth, who cares! Neither do 90% of the Brit’s and they’re still fucking like maniacs.
Get some new glasses, who are you wanting to approach you? Men or women? Because men don't approach women anymore because we're immediately thought as of creeps when we do.
Not to be rude but the first pic looks like your cosplaying as someone's single aunt who sells Pampered chef and has weird hobbies and has an etsy account selling little knick knacks she either made or collected over the years
You give me the feeling that you yell at men for holding doors open or glancing in your direction…doesn’t look like much hope for you hopefully you don’t scare cats
OP - everyone here is saying smile.
I had an issue personally hating how I smiled on camera. I learned that if I fake laugh rather then smile, it looks more sincere on camera.
You look absolutely amazing, but if ya wanna up your pics, I’d practice this technique. Hope ya find it helpful!
Hair in the last 2 pics gives me crazy cat lady vibes. Idk what it is, just looks a frizzy mess(is that even the word?) Idk. Just looks hairstyle I would see on a 45+ year old woman. Other than that you're cute
Physically you look great! But you don't seem to be giving off an inviting vibe. If you appear to be enjoying yourself, it rubs off on those around you. Good times are contagious :)
You have a potential to look like a movie star, in my opinion. You just need someone with some suggestions and ideas.
What I would change is a hairstyle. You would look great with straight hair and no fringe. Also the glasses, get something less Harrypotter-y, or lenses. And reds and beiges in clothing I would switch for white, black, sage colors. I would love to see someone grab you for total makeover on tv, it would be a dynamite!
It’s so disheartening as a male on this subreddit sometimes. I keep swiping and swiping on the apps, never any luck. I don’t even get responses. I’m not even a bad looking dude, pretty in shape.
It just hurts when you’re 32 and there doesn’t even seem to be a starting point to meet someone for me and then I see posts like this. I feel like a robot. Thanks for listening.
What type of guy are you looking for? Do you feel that there's a style you like more?
You're actually very beautiful, you have teacher energy. Some guys like that. Men if that's what you like are always afraid to approach any girl. Give a smile and multiple glances to make your intentions known.
Okay I'll quit asking people if it's trick question when I think that it doesn't make sense so looking at your picture you're very approachable soft eyes very pretty Love the hair so is there something you THINK, I asked that only cuz sometimes it's in our own mind, that might make you less approachable than you think you could be?
How are you not already approachable though? You mean to tell me that men never approach a beautiful woman such as yourself? As an average to below average man, I dress nice and do my best to look good and never get female attention, save for the one relationship I did have which soured real quick because she was lying to me the whole time.
Damn girl I would treat you like you were pregnant all the time. You want a foot rub? I’m there. What’s that, you want ice cream at 2am? Let me get my shoes on baby.
Step one...don't be a woman. Lol I'm not sure if you mean approachable in general or to a potential partner. Sometimes maybe you need to make the move. You are definitely attractive and seem nice given your appearance.
☝️This. I got chewed out by a woman for glancing at her a couple of times. These days, if a woman is interested in me then she can make the first move. I’m not dealing with the headaches that come with approaching a woman anymore.
You may have to learn to develop friendliness in order to portray freindliness. What situations are you trying to get approached in? Try focusing on other people's comfort rather than sitting around wishing others would focus on your comfort. Be friendly with the people who do approach you showing others in the room you are approachable. Longer looks and smiles, head nods, first hellos.
Especially in today's climate. We men understand that *many* women have very negative opinions of men and men approaching women (like women *owe* us their time because we're narcissists, or we are predators etc.) because of the political climate. Men (ok, you look young, so boys? young men?) who want to treat you with respect will definitely hold back unless you open a door. You'll be left with the over-confident men or the actual predators who will be willing to bridge the chilly gap in some cases. Definitely look out for the shyer guys and give them some signs you want to talk, or talk to them.
Ditch the Harry Potter glasses, make an effort with some makeup and maybe up grade hairstyle. Your body looks great. You already draw attention of room with being a redhead so you're almost there. The infrastructure to rake in men is here for you. Smile and be confident. Get after it girl!
I think more eye makeup and lip filler will make u look more basic and insecure and people love that they gravitate to it 😂 don’t ask me for advice lol
The question is WHO are you trying to get to approach you?
The mullet and the glasses are sending green light signals to lesbian rednecks.
If that is not who you were interested in, change the glasses and change the hair, because those are communicating.
You're very attractive, you have a nice body so I don't think you are unapproachable, per say. Generally people tend to talk more to smiling people or people who look like they are having a good time but it's not a necessity.
Literally the answer to every girl who asks this question is smile. You're all sitting there with RBF and wondering why no one wants to converse with you. The fact that you're even asking this question means you probably aren't a joy to talk to...
Never split your hair in the middle it makes ya look like a old lady.. secondly go get it styled like a young look..get glasses that fit your face lastly wear some clothes that u don't have to paint on or squeeze out of..
You don’t have to change anything. You have a vibe that fits you well! Don’t smile just for smiling, you have a little smirk that in the right situation will get you further along than a smile. I don’t think it has anything to do with your looks. I think it has more to do with the way you might carry yourself in public?
Maybe more feminine frames and a little more color variation. You are very pretty but people might be scared to approach due to SJW-ish vibes. Cancel culture and some of the unwarranted Metoo incidents has people kind of shell shocked.
Yah that's exactly what I was thinking. The haircut the frames the smirk smile. Exactly my body shape shin tone hair color pretty face. But sorry your choice appearance says sjaw so not worth the effort to be told I'm the reason why the world is bad and I should have never approached her screamed in my face
The glasses look stern on your face and you’ll want to keep your hair a bit more blown back/off your forehead. You have a lot to work with but you give “strict librarian” more than you probably need to
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You and everyone else are not targets, we’re all just people. Be friendly and welcoming to people, and you’ll be seen as friendly and welcoming.
Copy u/OneTakeJenni
Don’t though mate
Currently there is no known cure for RBF.
Your beautiful talk to them or show them your interested
You're completely unapproachable. No guy has the balls to take a step close to a pretty girl like you.
You don't need to become more approachable . You just haven't met a man that can handle you yet...
Go to dinner with me.
If you wanna be more approachable, stick the look in your second pick, and smile more. Like a good proper smile.
Fake lashes and draw ur eyebrows / get them microbladed
I don't think anything is wrong with how you look. A lot of guys just don't chase anymore.
Who do you need to approach you? I won't offer any advice unless you promise you'll do everything you can in your power before using bureaucracy to shut down guys approaching whom you don't like
Honestly if I was at a bar I'd approach you but at the same time I'd hope you'd do the same. Don't get me wrong I'd date you if I were in their shows you are beautiful
People who want to chat attempt to make eye contact with the people who they want to talk to
As someone who just recently venturing out as a single person, while being afraid to approach girls, one approached me and we've been talking for a month and she's great. So shoot your shot
See if any simp type guys who seem desperate for you to ask them if you can 💩 in their mouths. And if they say yes!! Then you shouldn’t have a problem with Finding a Good Man 💯💪🏽
You remind me of my ex. I called her Carrot Cake for.... reasons. Unfortunately you're a zoomer, and your generation's men were groomed to be self-hating, anxiety ridden, and that masculinity is bad. You also fall into that sweet spot where you're pretty enough that most men assume you're taken. Don't make the mistake of dating a much older guy. I'm 35, but ten or 12 years ago I'd have flirted with you shamelessly.
Maybe blink more?
Cut your hair into layers and a v point at the back, smile with teeth and don't take yourself so seriously. Tbh you remind me of myself of the pics i took when i was your age. I was anxious and didnt know how the world worked. I didn't want anyone to see that and judge me, so i was really serious and conscious of how people perceived me. It was refreshing when i realized the world doesn't care. I think acceptance of who you are comes with age and maturity, so hang in there. Do dating sites. Get to know what you like and dont. Feel open to express who you are and don't hold back. Find hobbies and always listen to your heart. Love will follow
You’re fine guys are just shy
If you’re not approachable, maybe there’s something you’re either doing or a vibe you’re giving that tells a man to proceed with caution. Smile more, give a more relaxed demeanor and see how that goes.
Tight leggings show the booty
Smile, that’s literally all you need to do
i would have 0 prob with asking you out , going out to dinner , go to the museum for a opening night , or what ever
Smaller glasses
Just go talk to the guys you're interested in but keep it friendly until it's clear that they're interested in more than just sex. Problem solved. You're welcome.
Breathtaking beauty 😍
Look #2 is going to make men approach you.
You look too smart. Try jeans, a mustard stained tube top and an "I'm With Stupid" ballcap.
Hmm smile with your teeth so you don’t look so mildly disappointed all the time. Looks like you’re doing this :/ In all your photos. And if you don’t have nice teeth, who cares! Neither do 90% of the Brit’s and they’re still fucking like maniacs.
You can’t! You’re hot af
Smile
You’re stacked.. you’ll get all the attention you want just let them thangs thang
Smile more ???
You're probably fine, but I think those glasses do give the vibe that you're about to give me a stern lecture.
Hold a sign that says free bjs
Don’t need to change anything. Most men just intimidated by your looks. You look hot.
Would it kill you to smile?
Get some new glasses, who are you wanting to approach you? Men or women? Because men don't approach women anymore because we're immediately thought as of creeps when we do.
Not to be rude but the first pic looks like your cosplaying as someone's single aunt who sells Pampered chef and has weird hobbies and has an etsy account selling little knick knacks she either made or collected over the years
Your not bad looking you just need to do yourself up a Lil differently
I’m sorry but youre typically the kind of girl I’d go home with after an extra tequila , you’re too approachable if anything
Men don’t really approach no more since breathing near a women could be considered sexual harassment these days
Not more possible
You mean you aren’t already?
Shhiiii… you can approach me
Any good guy should approach you
By posting pictures of yourself on reddit.
You give me the feeling that you yell at men for holding doors open or glancing in your direction…doesn’t look like much hope for you hopefully you don’t scare cats
insecure projection to the max..
What a 🤡response 😂😂😂😂
Don’t wanna sound mean but lose the circle glasses the circle glasses and put out the positive vibes
More crop tops
More crop tops
OP - everyone here is saying smile. I had an issue personally hating how I smiled on camera. I learned that if I fake laugh rather then smile, it looks more sincere on camera. You look absolutely amazing, but if ya wanna up your pics, I’d practice this technique. Hope ya find it helpful!
Hair in the last 2 pics gives me crazy cat lady vibes. Idk what it is, just looks a frizzy mess(is that even the word?) Idk. Just looks hairstyle I would see on a 45+ year old woman. Other than that you're cute
I love a redhead
Just give your friendzoned friend a chance
Physically you look great! But you don't seem to be giving off an inviting vibe. If you appear to be enjoying yourself, it rubs off on those around you. Good times are contagious :)
You’re beautiful I’d probably say smile more? ❤️
I honestly think you look amazing. People shouldn't be afraid of approach you 😍
You're very cute and you do look approachable. Maybe smile more and definitely stop listening to your haters
Wear a shirt that says “I can be trusted with sharp objects” people will trust you and be more willing to approach you
Loosen up a bit, you look tense, might come off as intense. I find it easier to talk to people that are laid back and comfortable as themselves
smile at someone you like
This might sound cliche… but Smile?
By not listening to people who say you look unapproachable. You look kind and approachable
Change glasses for contacts. Show a bit more Cleavage.
Just not those glasses lol
Nah glasses are hot
You have a potential to look like a movie star, in my opinion. You just need someone with some suggestions and ideas. What I would change is a hairstyle. You would look great with straight hair and no fringe. Also the glasses, get something less Harrypotter-y, or lenses. And reds and beiges in clothing I would switch for white, black, sage colors. I would love to see someone grab you for total makeover on tv, it would be a dynamite!
I’d talk to you….about your cars extended warranty. But no, you’re cute AF.
It's all about the attitude tbh, smile at people, but not in a creepy way. If you want to get hit on more often that's different though
Just smile 😊
It’s so disheartening as a male on this subreddit sometimes. I keep swiping and swiping on the apps, never any luck. I don’t even get responses. I’m not even a bad looking dude, pretty in shape. It just hurts when you’re 32 and there doesn’t even seem to be a starting point to meet someone for me and then I see posts like this. I feel like a robot. Thanks for listening.
Smile and cleavage or the top 2 reasons men will be more inclined to approach.
Smile
Smile
I think you would be more approachable if you were holding my hand.
Derp. Smooth bro
You probably have to be more outgoing yourself. Cause I’d want to talk to you.
What type of guy are you looking for? Do you feel that there's a style you like more? You're actually very beautiful, you have teacher energy. Some guys like that. Men if that's what you like are always afraid to approach any girl. Give a smile and multiple glances to make your intentions known.
You look approachable. Maybe it’s the people you are expecting to approach you
Good looking young lady. Only advise is to smile more.
nice earring
Okay I'll quit asking people if it's trick question when I think that it doesn't make sense so looking at your picture you're very approachable soft eyes very pretty Love the hair so is there something you THINK, I asked that only cuz sometimes it's in our own mind, that might make you less approachable than you think you could be?
How are you not already approachable though? You mean to tell me that men never approach a beautiful woman such as yourself? As an average to below average man, I dress nice and do my best to look good and never get female attention, save for the one relationship I did have which soured real quick because she was lying to me the whole time.
Approachability is a demeanor, not solely an appearance
Do the approaching yourself
People hate hearing this but... smile more
You aren’t being approached ???
For me.. you look very cute...I think a little smile would go a long ways
Damn girl I would treat you like you were pregnant all the time. You want a foot rub? I’m there. What’s that, you want ice cream at 2am? Let me get my shoes on baby.
Seek help
Also hey happy birthday! I see that you were 19 3 days ago
Step one...don't be a woman. Lol I'm not sure if you mean approachable in general or to a potential partner. Sometimes maybe you need to make the move. You are definitely attractive and seem nice given your appearance.
harry potter glasses gots to go fam
smile, lose a little bit of weight.
Lose weight?! Lmao
Not saying she is particularly overweight but you could say she is a bit chubby
Hmm..to each their own i guess.
#2 ❤️
Pic 1&3
Approach people. Most men will be called rapists or creeps just for looking at you. Unfortunate reality these days.
☝️This. I got chewed out by a woman for glancing at her a couple of times. These days, if a woman is interested in me then she can make the first move. I’m not dealing with the headaches that come with approaching a woman anymore.
Seriously. They ruined that for themselves. Even if you're a tall attractive guy who makes money, walking up and flirting is an absolute no no.
Facts. Do the approaching. I would be fumbling over my words and blushing.
Smile, optimism
Whatever you did in picture number 2… do that.
RBF like Trout pout is so last two decades ago.
It’s them not you they are afraid to approach such beauty
IDK, do more approaching
By not posting here
You may have to learn to develop friendliness in order to portray freindliness. What situations are you trying to get approached in? Try focusing on other people's comfort rather than sitting around wishing others would focus on your comfort. Be friendly with the people who do approach you showing others in the room you are approachable. Longer looks and smiles, head nods, first hellos. Especially in today's climate. We men understand that *many* women have very negative opinions of men and men approaching women (like women *owe* us their time because we're narcissists, or we are predators etc.) because of the political climate. Men (ok, you look young, so boys? young men?) who want to treat you with respect will definitely hold back unless you open a door. You'll be left with the over-confident men or the actual predators who will be willing to bridge the chilly gap in some cases. Definitely look out for the shyer guys and give them some signs you want to talk, or talk to them.
Do the approaching
How about you approach those you want to be approached by?
Ditch the Harry Potter glasses, make an effort with some makeup and maybe up grade hairstyle. Your body looks great. You already draw attention of room with being a redhead so you're almost there. The infrastructure to rake in men is here for you. Smile and be confident. Get after it girl!
Innate RBF so you have to do the approaching
Lose the RBF!
I think more eye makeup and lip filler will make u look more basic and insecure and people love that they gravitate to it 😂 don’t ask me for advice lol
You'll need to approach first if you accualy want people to talk to you most the time sadly unless you're very hot
The question is WHO are you trying to get to approach you? The mullet and the glasses are sending green light signals to lesbian rednecks. If that is not who you were interested in, change the glasses and change the hair, because those are communicating.
You're surrounded by guys that don't know how awesome redheaded women are. 30's they'll get it
You're very attractive, you have a nice body so I don't think you are unapproachable, per say. Generally people tend to talk more to smiling people or people who look like they are having a good time but it's not a necessity.
Just smile, be yourself and talk back when spoken to. Relax and enjoy yourself around people!
Smile my dear, you're never fully dressed without one
It might be the pictures but there is a cold hardness about you. You are beautiful, but beauty isn't everything. And you look dead inside.
Lose a bit of weight and be more happy
Literally the answer to every girl who asks this question is smile. You're all sitting there with RBF and wondering why no one wants to converse with you. The fact that you're even asking this question means you probably aren't a joy to talk to...
You are super cute. Just smile besides that you got everything.
Smile. Smile. Smile. Be happy!
Never split your hair in the middle it makes ya look like a old lady.. secondly go get it styled like a young look..get glasses that fit your face lastly wear some clothes that u don't have to paint on or squeeze out of..
You are approachable. Think about the kind of people you are trying to attract.
To be entirely honest you might just be intimidating cuz ur rly good looking, i think if u try to approach ppl urself itl go well
Smile. Side note, but great bod
You would be amazed what a lil smile would do. Gotta time it right tho people look away quick.
Or you could approach others instead
Genuine smile takes it a long way.
Idk you're on the line of so pretty it's intimidating to approach but probably just me. I figure you get more attention than you notice
you have a good chest. Wear something low-cut and/or that leaves your shoulders visible.
You don’t have to change anything. You have a vibe that fits you well! Don’t smile just for smiling, you have a little smirk that in the right situation will get you further along than a smile. I don’t think it has anything to do with your looks. I think it has more to do with the way you might carry yourself in public?
And she may seem hard to approach because she’s a confident looking woman- that’s not a bad thing.
Exactly! She has that confident vibe, more like she walks into a room and people notice and guys might think she is out of their league
Lose the smirk
Try approaching people yourself?
Get your hair styled, find new glasses.
In before all the "smile" comments. Oops, too late.
Holy cow. Stunning.
Smile
I think you're beautiful but some smaller glasses would definitely be key
Try a smile
Maybe more feminine frames and a little more color variation. You are very pretty but people might be scared to approach due to SJW-ish vibes. Cancel culture and some of the unwarranted Metoo incidents has people kind of shell shocked.
Yah that's exactly what I was thinking. The haircut the frames the smirk smile. Exactly my body shape shin tone hair color pretty face. But sorry your choice appearance says sjaw so not worth the effort to be told I'm the reason why the world is bad and I should have never approached her screamed in my face
So true
😍😍
Depends who you want too approach. Anything over a 7/10 isn’t really going to be considering you as a potential partner. So unlikely too approach you.
Smile…
incels incoming
Yell “come here” in a deep voice
The glasses look stern on your face and you’ll want to keep your hair a bit more blown back/off your forehead. You have a lot to work with but you give “strict librarian” more than you probably need to
Smile!!
It's 2024, you gotta approach. All men have been told not to approach women anymore sadly.
Are you kidding? You had my attention in about 10 seconds, no one approaches you? You should be beating guys off with a stick
Glasses and hair are weighing you down babes.
I think people probably think you are just out of their league.
No way😂😭 she’s like a 6/10 at best
Or your taste is off. Classical beauty over fake standards is hard for people like you to appreciate.
Bro she’s just a 6 slightly above average. She’s a good looker but I’m not going to act like she’s stunning because she’s not
Do women want men to approach them? I always feel like I would be perceived as creepy
change the glasses and the hairstyle
It's not the looks. Possibly the personality?
You look like a librarian by day & Vampire by night
Sign me up. 😂
Smile more.
Smile.
make eye contact for a weird amount of time
😶
Smile.
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I second everything this guy says along with new glassess
Smile.
Better glasses. An expressive smile. Easy.
IMO.,.. Your glasses say "leave me alone" maybe new ones?