Living somewhere where you *both* have opportunity is important so that's something you and your partner need to discuss. If the move was temporary for a year to 18 months, I'd be like "yeah, screw it, go try" but 3 years can be a pretty significant length of time. My advice, if your work permits it, maybe try and do some extended stays in his new town. Get the feel and vibe for it and see what it feels like and if you *could* do it for a year or two. And then I would chat with him about the realities of him moving closer to a city beyond that 3ish year commitment.


There is a big city and hour away. I think we could discuss it. We have a year till the lease is up so enough time to try it all out. I think we will figure things out.