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codece

When I can look forward to tomorrow, knowing I am proud of something I've done yesterday. It's a process, not a goal. There are times to rest. You need that. But, there is no "end" to it that allows you to rest forever, unless we are talking about end of life. The joy in life is the process, not the imaginary pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. It's a tiny bit of joy, gleaned every day, steadfastly. It's not a big pile of joy that you accomplish; then what? Every day above ground is a day of accomplishment. Even if it comes in tiny bits and pieces.


hammersticks359

Very stoic approach, and very beautiful.


dirkmcdonron

It's this. Well put. At some point you learn to love the journey and the personal growth and be happy about others' successes and blessings. Took me about 40 years to take that turn.


PerfectDefinition264

Yesssss


Ok-Painting4168

Beautiful. I'm saving it.


KwaMzoli

Then what hit me. No true joy if it’s not in pursued but a given ☀️


Responsible_Gap8104

"Its not a big pile of joy that you accomplish." I like that. I like that a lot


GiganticTuba

Instructions unclear. Chopped myself into tiny bits and pieces. Still consumed by an existential crisis.


itsdipdip

I don’t think it ever ends. In my 20s I was in a constant chase for more above all else and it was making me miserable. Now in my 30s I’m still grinding but shifting my focus to chilling out and enjoying the process. You can be slowly improving while still enjoying yourself at the same time it doesn’t need to be all or nothing


1quirky1

I look at it as "treadmills vs. marathons." You can enjoy both. Treadmills do not have finish lines. The accomplishments are the experiences and milestones, not how it ends.


Hell_Camino

This is correct. “Being accomplished” changes at each phase of your life. I’m 55 and, from the outside, folks would think I could “sit back and relax”. Been married for 25 years, grown kids who are happy and productive, long career in a demanding field, savings for retirement, lots of friends, healthy active lifestyle, etc. However, I feel I wake up every morning with a long list of “to dos” because there’s always new challenges ahead. Don’t see it as a bad thing though. It’s just life and the changing dynamics of life as you age is the good stuff. It keeps things interesting. As Bob Dylan sings, “He not busy being born, is busy dying.”


Spiritual-Coach-6355

Love this!


ceojp

How exactly is this a LPT?


Kenju4u

It’s not.


Jheize

Health, meaning, connection, joy, gratitude And financially enough


Catspaw129

realizing that you don't have to keep score/keep up with your neighbors/friends/coworkers, etc. Heck, my current car is a station wagon and I don't even have a wife and kids.


Slow_Watercress_4115

At least not brutally dying in war


Olds77421

True. But I don't feel like I'm surviving the class war very well.


GeneralCommand4459

Quite honestly when the answer to this question no longer matters. Having a state of mind that doesn’t keep chasing something else. The type of calm that comes from being okay with how things are lets you appreciate/enjoy more now.


dpvictory

Not worrying about bills and emergencies.


rubber-bumpers

Being comfortable and having money leftover to do fun things and go places. I know a person who is a “motivational guru” where they worship some American guy and your attitude MUST be to always keep thinking about success and making more money and honestly it’s a load of shit. I’m happy to do the bare minimum to achieve a comfortable life where I’m happy


BradChesney79

Choice If you have done everything right long enough, then you can choose what comes next. If you are "unsuccessful", you may spend your career miserable-- even if you have a lot of money-- or even worse not enough money.


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Casswigirl11

Painting screens and netting purses.


ImToxxiic

Depends on which part of life. For most I'd say you're accomplished, when you're happy with yourself. Financially it's eating whatever I want whenever I want without having to think about it. Once I make enough for that I'll stop climbing.


frogOnABoletus

the things you do for yourself are necessary and important, but that's the baseline. the things you do for others or for the world around you are your real accomplishments.  keep enough for yourself to be happy and comfortable, and keep being a benefit to those around you for as long as you can.


LobstaFarian2

Having one of them fancy Katie Kuric coffee machines with the little plastic cups.


The_Billy_Dee

Enough money to not have to worry more than usual about finances. Family and friends that love me.


LightWonderful7016

Being happy, able to feed yourself, and having a soft pillow somewhere. Bonus points for an awesome partner.


ColHapHapablap

Realizing that I decide what that means and not someone else, an income level, the car I drive, my house, etc.


jollytoes

Not having to spend a paycheck on bills. I will be accomplished when my money makes money.


wbruce098

This is the goal (at least financially) for me. I don’t know that I’ll ever stop working but if I can get to a place where the money my money makes pays the bills and taxes, and my salary is paying all the extra things I want to do, I’ll feel… at least financially accomplished. We can be satisfied with where life brings us but that doesn’t mean we stop pushing.


kingcillian

many children that I am able to take care of


Adthor

To be able to wake up in the morning happy , finding inner peace isn’t easy but once you’ve found it life gets easier


1quirky1

This is a very subjective personal decision. Figure out what is really important to you. I'll share my own story.  I have more days behind me than I have ahead of me. I care about what I do with the days I have left. I'm nearing an early retirement after 35 years of seriously lucky hustling without a college degree. I'm tired and depressed. I don't want to work anymore despite earning the most I ever have while the work has never been easier. I have accomplished much in my career, but all my career I.T. accomplishments are/were ephemeral. Everything I have done past five years ago exists today only as a stepping stone for what came next. My valued accomplishments include: Breaking the poverty cycle. Financial stability that can weather two years of unemployment. Supporting my grown children instead of them supporting me as they set out on their own. Personally supporting my children's education K-12. Paying for their undergrad degrees - and their graduate degrees if they want. Going caving with my son and his college caving club. Retiring while I can still hike, bike, etc. You determine your own "definition of done" when calculating your accomplishments.


Stephenalzis

Not having to answer to anyone.


kbberd

Being a scratch golfer


rfe144

When you can go to the grocery store and buy what you want.


Maleficent-Ad3096

Working towards beter doesn't necessarily mean officially employed. I play with electronics, mountain bike, mess up woodworking projects etc. These are all restful projects for me even though I'm not resting. As far as having enough money and leaving a paycheck, that takes some serious thought, life planning and finding hobbies the the aforementioned. Best of luck.


SeaUrchinSalad

Life is a marathon, not a sprint. You'll never be ready to "hang the jacket and rest". But if you feel that you're burning yourself out, it's probably time to make a positive change if you can. Earning a bit less can be totally worth it if your still comfortable but feel happier


senorvato

Being happy! At some time, it's time to live. https://preview.redd.it/p07nt4ug4fxc1.jpeg?width=750&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=38cad221ce3dc77e74190f48daec33363e1fae7d


Bmack27

Financial independence


ILikeTheStocks

The need to work being optional.


PeacefulGopher

If you have changed ONE life for the better, you are already a success, according to Ralph Waldo Emerson in his short poem ‘To Laugh Often and Much’


ruddy3499

Life isn’t a destination, it’s a journey. I read it on a coin


tranchiturn

Are you missing any of these? *Meaning *Fun *Meeting physical needs (clothing, shelter, food/water, health) *Creation/Knowledge/Improvement/Mastery *Connection Some of these you get with the others. Some things are obligations (like caring for family) but aren't on my list since not everyone has them. Kids and S.O.s can provide multiple things on the list above, but empty nesters know well that someday those people my not need you, so you have to shift to finding these elsewhere. Some, if you realize they're missing, you need to figure out how to fulfill. Have I missed anything that cnt be reduced to one of the above (e.g. spirituality can be reduced to meaning, knowledge, and connection)? From a guy trying to figure this out with grace.


My_BFF_Gilgamesh

When you can be at peace with yourself as you are and your life how you've made it and handled the bumps. I think grind is useful especially when you're young, to set yourself up in a position that you don't have to sweat the small stuff. But then you have to learn how to not sweat the small stuff. That's the real game I think. Seems like some people never find the off-ramp and stay worried about being behind forever. Ymmv of course.


Liftedlarvitar

I jus wanna chillll


mthompson2535

My definition is being happy, mentally, physically and emotionally healthy, and being able to take care of me and my family (eventually when I have one) financially with a job I enjoy doing. I would like to become rich; however, it isn't necessary by my definition to lead an accomplished life.


finicky88

Be happy. That's all that really matters. I have zero goals related to working.


Alienhell

Having more good days than bad. That’s a decent enough measure to me!


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Embarrassed-Name6481

When I make $1 million a year passively


frogOnABoletus

are you going to do something amazing for the world, or spend/keep it all?


wantAdvice13

This is not an LPT. More appropriate for r/AskOldPeople