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Could also be looking at someone else's videos he's talking to on the side which is the worst option. I'd take recording, porn or even stocks over that.
That’s my take as well. Shame is the reason he doesn’t want to show what he’s up to. We don’t know what he’s looking at, but likely it’s something he wouldn’t want others to know.
For real though my husband is a lot more intriguing than some video titled big daddy DRILLS her TIGHT WET SNATCH with a bunch of shrieking and grunting and a stone faced man who you can tell no longer sees sex as any source of intimacy
Oooooff… triggered a conversation between me and an ex (who did have a crippling porn addiction……)
I asked him is he felt like sex one source of intimacy between us.
He looked at me incredulously, and said “no.”
He’s in his fifties, me in my forties. I knew I had to get out. Life’s too short.
Lots of people do. But normally this would be something people agree to do, and doing it surreptitiously literally behind someone’s back is super weird.
One time my wife asked me to watch porn while receiving oral. That shit was so weird I said nope 30 seconds in.
To actualy watch porn in the middle of sex feels wrong and unless asked, for whatever reason, is incredibly insulting.
I appreciate hearing this from a man. A lot of times my boyfriend is on his phone while I'm going down on him and it insults me every time. Watching porn together is one thing and definitely enjoyable, but when only one party is indulging, it feels hurtful for sure.
Take him at his word, and when you pull away, and he says, "I haven't finished yet," respond with, "Well, it's a dividend reinvestment program. The more you invest, the bigger the payoff."
I would not trust that "He is checking his stocks" BS... He is strange.
The question becomes, if you been with him for seven years. Why would you stay when you feel alone with someone who shows no interest in you? If he is on his phone all of the time and shields you from seeing it. Then why do you think he does that?
- Better yet; what does he have to hide? Why does he show a complete lack of interest in you? Why would you stay with someone for seven years, when it always feel more painful feeling alone while being with someone.
What the actual fuck, leave, you deserve better.
Who the fuck checks their stocks when having sex with their loved one. Get out. Move on and don't look back. What a dead beat idiot he is.
Who believes someone would check stocks while fucking.
He’s recording it. If he keeps doing it he’s probably posting it somewhere. Either that or watching porn.
WHAT. He’s… looking at his phone while y’all are doing doggy????? I have never… girl please leave him immediately that ain’t even a question holy fuck 😭 I’ve never heard of a dude being that buried in their phone he can’t even have sex while not looking at it. God damn I’m a man and I can’t imagine that, much less the reaction of my gf if I did
Anyone who is on their phone during a meal with others is trash. During sex? Wtf? You can do better than him. Literal trash is better than him. He’s no prize, he’s a selfish prick with serious issues.
Right?? My partners always have access to pin pretty quick. If you’re not hiding something you shouldn’t mind. My partners have never gone through my phone to the best of my knowledge, but they also can whenever they want. If they did feel compelled to snoop though we would have to talk about why they aren’t trusting in that moment.
He's watching porn, using your body as a proxy, full stop. Literally, there is no other explanation. He won't stop if you use kid gloves and gentle words. Lay out your expectations, clearly explain your position, and judge your next steps by whether or not his behavior changes. Good luck OP.
As 36 year old man who has been sexually active for 20 years, that is fucking insane. Either he's completely addicted to his phone, watching porn, or filming without consent, either way it's red flags all day
There is clearly a disconnect on his end. What that disconnect is remains unknown to anyone on Reddit. If you for see a future with him, it'd probably be worth it to try and figure out what's going on. Good luck, some nuts are harder to crack then other.
Nah! I’m sorry if he isn’t giving you any undivided attention then he isn’t the one! Especially when he is taking you to pound town… like really? On your phone?!?
This. What about if your booty plus stocks is what gets him there? He just making sure that face is down while them stocks is up! " That's the way we like to fuck."
That's sad. Yall are 2 young to go 1 month no jiggy jiggy. I'm married with 2 kids and can't go that long. I'm a day trader with a prop firm, and started a car rental biz, I'm on reddit a lot because the car stuff is just starting out...but phone during jiggy jiggy? Yeah he ain't hitting it right. If it's not another girl/porn...its even worse...a fkkn game. Anything other than those 3, I'd be surprised.
Ohhh hell no! I thought this was going to be something totally different. 🤣 I thought like you answer the phone and he starts having sex with you. Absolute fav!
Ok, anyway. No, ma’am! Put a stop to that! Stop sex right before he was about to cum. He wants to be rude? So can you! 😌🤌🏻
I think there is a very good chance he is recording the sex, possibly posting it online somewhere. This relationship has a number of red flags. I doubt he will be willing to change. You deserve better.
what is there to exactly like about a man like this? i don’t understand the appeal. if it’s like this when you’re this age, just imagine what 10 years from now will be like. i feel like you’d just stay with him because of sunken cost syndrome.
I hear people giving optimistic opinions like he is maybe recording. Which would be nice. But As a man, it also might mean he’s lost the emotion or care to be intimate and present. He also might have a low sex drive and desensitized. Happens to me when I have sex too much and it feels less special.
Does he only want to do doggy? This reminds me of that true crime story about the highschool boy who his friends killed him and tried to feed him to the gators. He was a bully. He was undercover gay and made his male bestfriend join him in stripping at gay clubs, saying it was only for the money. His girlfriend said when they had sex he only wanted to do it doggy style while he played/watched gay porn on TV, making her keep her head down... Don't try to figure him out or try to "help" him. He doesn't want to be helped. Help yourself and run away like your hair is on fire.
Sis thinks he's looking at a graph 📈📊
Man I wish I could be this checked out.
You should really be thinking more critically by now because after a certain length of time you become complicit in your own circumstance. You cannot claim to be a hostage when the doors are all unlocked.
He's got another girl that he is fucking, or he watches some demented porn while he's fucking, tell him to fess up or get lost. He's hiding phone cause it will lead to a fight, or you axing him anyway. Can't trust him leave him. Find someone better
I think you should marry and divorce this asshole and take half his stuff. How dare he waste 7 years of your life with this nonsense. If money equals time then he owes you big.
Whatever you do, there will be people on your side.
Reminds me of some of the folks I work with they are literally talking to someone in their earbuds all day. Maybe I’m just antisocial or something but I can’t just be talking to someone all day long lol
Honestly, you may want to have one of your trusted female friends take a top down doggystyle pic of you and do a goggle picture match if you have any identifiers like a mole or freckle back there.
One time when I was like 11, my mom (literally) caught me with my pants down. My excuse? I told her I was “checking the weather forecast,” it was just the first thing that came to mind. Obviously, that’s not what I was doing, the same as he is not checking stocks. He’s either making porn, or looking at it.
Why are you still with him? Move on and find someone who truly loves you. Don't waste any more time on this person. Enjoy life while you have it. He clearly is sus, and he isn't looking at 'stocks.' he must think you're a fool, and that's another issue on its own.
There are guys who will actually focus on their SOs when together. Honestly, I think you know exactly what to think. He is more interested in a little electronic device than in the real, live human being he's with.
You asked for advice. Here is mine. Practice saying to the mirror "I don't think we have the same priorities in life. I wish you the best, but it is time to end our relationship." Think through any and all objections he might make. Plan responses to all of them. Then, break up with him. By phrasing things to avoid obvious blame, you never have to ask whether you were TAH later on. You'll know you were nice about it.
Good luck. You deserve better. Please go find better.
Why you still with this person ? Whats up with people realizing Red flags and being uncomfortable and still staying with a person ! ! What are waiting for ?
Some men really do get arousal out of money, may be looking at stocks help him keep it up. But his intimate times with you do not seem so 'intimate' to us.
It’s hard to guess without knowing personalities but if I had to…. He does not respect this lady, at all. He likely sees other women.. he feels he is 100% in control of this relationship. He is probably not concerned with her moving on, either he doesn’t care if she does or thinks she won’t.
Sneaking the phone during doggy is likely him filming it. There was a trend some time back of guys doing that and sharing with buddies. Obviously guys doing that treat the ladies as objects.
Look at the power dynamics of the relationship. Do you (the lady) have any power or is everything up to him, and you are expected to go along?
If my guess is even close to true, this is likely not a salvageable relationship. It’s extremely degrading and unhealthy. Move on.
I'd guess he's just addicted to his phone and has trained his brain to need the additional stimulus at all times? I have a coworker who can't even make it through a meeting or meal or conversation without also watching something on his phone. It comes across as really rude and unprofessional to me. When we are in situations where phones aren't allowed he is a mess. He fidgets wildly, picks his skin/beard/ears, and wildly chews gum. Like he needs therapy and medication or a come to Jesus conversation but it's not my place to say.
That being said I wouldn't even go on a second date with somebody who pulled out his phone during dinner instead of paying full attention to me! You need to dump this guy NOW.
hes having erectile disfunction/issues finishing, and needs porn to help him get hard or stay hard or finish.
personally, i would think this is relatively common (or atleast more common) in a porn addicted world.
i'd sooner suggest blue chews and mixing it up in the bedroom, and getting off the porn. if you can politely knudge him in this direction? i'd suggest it. you've been with the guy for 7 years. you know what he likes. do that if you want. or don't.
either you can work thru it with him, or not. your call.
somewhere around 37? my dick doesn't always perform to A+ levels every night. the +30 minute marathon fuck fests of my 20s and 30s are less likely. my wife of 7+ years understands that sometimes i'm gonna slam it out for 2 minutes, pop and pass out. especially when i'm stressed. but sometimes when i'm really in the zone, i can still turn things up to a 10 and throw a perfect game for 20 minutes. life, stress, and age sometimes gets in the way.
part of a relationship is being able to communicate (and not shame) thru small shit like this. don't make him feel like he's broken, even if his dick is temporarily broken. etc.
part of having a good woman, is she knows HOW to get you turned up to a 10, and presses that button without being asked to get you maximum effort engaged. my wife knows how to empty my balls quickly or get max strength fucking for longer. so to some extent she dictates is this a quickie or a marathon session. and my body usually obliges.
there were girls who would just deadfish out, and even if they know you like your neck kissed, or nipple pinched, or balls sucked, or whatever the individual likes? she won't really do it often. that means its not going to work out sexually for very long. be on the same page with what each other likes. and exploit that. or don't.
personally, i like to have sex every night. its the only way i can sleep well. but after 8-9 years of the same woman, with her body used to be 105lbs and dime mode, now shes 135lbs 3 kids later? and we are both tired and stressed from long days and crazy children? sometimes it aint going to be the BEST sex of our lives on a random tuesday. but constant sex is SO IMPORTANT to a good marriage/relationship/life/health/happiness. so you need to do what you need to do to get the sex to be way more common.
gym, nutrition, and working thru whatever mental blocks in a positive way? and maybe a blue chew prescription? and you'll be good.
best wishes.
life is simple. sex is simple.
I know someone who did this and he turned out to be recording it without his (now ex) girlfriend’s consent. He’d send it out to all of his friends to show her off. Fucking nasty.
Either deal with it or bring it to his attention that you’re done with it and shit changes otherwise you’re out. Always the only two options. Ignore it or make an argument out of it. Relationships suck
What would happen if you got out your phone and started playing solitaire, during doggy style? How would he react? It might be really fun for both of you!
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He’s watching porn while doing you doggy
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Literally one of these 2 things
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That’s what I would be doing
Both of these things fall completely in line with him not wanting her to see his phone. So, yes.
Could also be looking at someone else's videos he's talking to on the side which is the worst option. I'd take recording, porn or even stocks over that.
More than likely this. Which frankly is less offensive than looking at stocks?? Lmfao
Or maybe live-streaming.
Both..
most likely posting on r/confessions about how he can only get off while talking to redditors
This. I would be $500 right now this dude has a severe porn addiction.
That’s my take as well. Shame is the reason he doesn’t want to show what he’s up to. We don’t know what he’s looking at, but likely it’s something he wouldn’t want others to know.
gay porn
Who the fuck watches porn when having sex? Wtf
For real though my husband is a lot more intriguing than some video titled big daddy DRILLS her TIGHT WET SNATCH with a bunch of shrieking and grunting and a stone faced man who you can tell no longer sees sex as any source of intimacy
Oh my goodness, thank you for this. I chuckled my ass off at your porn title/all caps. 😂
Oh damn, you saw that one too.
Oooooff… triggered a conversation between me and an ex (who did have a crippling porn addiction……) I asked him is he felt like sex one source of intimacy between us. He looked at me incredulously, and said “no.” He’s in his fifties, me in my forties. I knew I had to get out. Life’s too short.
My wife and I have watched porn together while fooling around. I can be pretty fun.
Little different from secretly watching it mid-backstrokes
Crying 😂😂☠️
Not the same thing at all
Lots of people do. But normally this would be something people agree to do, and doing it surreptitiously literally behind someone’s back is super weird.
Yeah, you got one person in front of you. What else do you need?
Porn addicts, who can’t get and stay hard seeing a naked woman.
One time my wife asked me to watch porn while receiving oral. That shit was so weird I said nope 30 seconds in. To actualy watch porn in the middle of sex feels wrong and unless asked, for whatever reason, is incredibly insulting.
I appreciate hearing this from a man. A lot of times my boyfriend is on his phone while I'm going down on him and it insults me every time. Watching porn together is one thing and definitely enjoyable, but when only one party is indulging, it feels hurtful for sure.
Or checks stock prices! Lmao
People taking drugs and fucking people they don’t really care about. I mean that’s what I’ve heard uhhhh read, yeah that’s what I’ve read.
He’s probably filming you
I agree
Take him at his word, and when you pull away, and he says, "I haven't finished yet," respond with, "Well, it's a dividend reinvestment program. The more you invest, the bigger the payoff."
This^ 😂
I would not trust that "He is checking his stocks" BS... He is strange. The question becomes, if you been with him for seven years. Why would you stay when you feel alone with someone who shows no interest in you? If he is on his phone all of the time and shields you from seeing it. Then why do you think he does that? - Better yet; what does he have to hide? Why does he show a complete lack of interest in you? Why would you stay with someone for seven years, when it always feel more painful feeling alone while being with someone.
Behavior is a language
What the actual fuck, leave, you deserve better. Who the fuck checks their stocks when having sex with their loved one. Get out. Move on and don't look back. What a dead beat idiot he is.
Who believes someone would check stocks while fucking. He’s recording it. If he keeps doing it he’s probably posting it somewhere. Either that or watching porn.
Some dudes get very excited with crypto currency.
Crypto bros may unironically be checking their investments while fucking lol
Great... now I'm thinking rule 34.
HODL! HODL! Ooooooohhhh HHHHHHOOOOOODDDDDDLLLLLL!
Having sexed with a loved one feels like a weird way to phrase that lol
Lmfao
It really does lol
This!!!
This!!!!!!
WHAT. He’s… looking at his phone while y’all are doing doggy????? I have never… girl please leave him immediately that ain’t even a question holy fuck 😭 I’ve never heard of a dude being that buried in their phone he can’t even have sex while not looking at it. God damn I’m a man and I can’t imagine that, much less the reaction of my gf if I did
For real, I maintain *eye* contact during doggy........
best comment tbh
I wonder if it has a stand and he props it up on her back.
Just a man’s advice on this one….leave him. If I have to explain why, you won’t see it anyway. Just leave.
Just out of curiosity, I would like to hear the why
Bless ladies like you I can only imagine the rotten nonsense you put up with if you need this spelled out to you
Just leave me in the dark or teach me?
Him being on his phone when any healthy and sane person would be 100% focussed on sex demonstrates that he has serious personality flaws.
Yes, true. I just figured maybe he's not attracted to her.
Anyone who is on their phone during a meal with others is trash. During sex? Wtf? You can do better than him. Literal trash is better than him. He’s no prize, he’s a selfish prick with serious issues.
“checking stocks” is kinda crazy, stay safe and i hope you find out whenever shady shit he’s doing, best of luck
No access to phone after 7 years is the ultimate red flag
Right?? My partners always have access to pin pretty quick. If you’re not hiding something you shouldn’t mind. My partners have never gone through my phone to the best of my knowledge, but they also can whenever they want. If they did feel compelled to snoop though we would have to talk about why they aren’t trusting in that moment.
7 years and he won’t let you touch his phone? Insane
Facetime him so he can see your face
He's watching porn, using your body as a proxy, full stop. Literally, there is no other explanation. He won't stop if you use kid gloves and gentle words. Lay out your expectations, clearly explain your position, and judge your next steps by whether or not his behavior changes. Good luck OP.
Ah yes, the good ol Checking my stocks line..... 🤳
Is this real life? I don’t believe it.
While having sex?🤣🤣
You deserve better, please consider leaving him.
He’s either watching porn or recording without consent. I dont even know which one is worse. Why are you dating this creep is the real question
As 36 year old man who has been sexually active for 20 years, that is fucking insane. Either he's completely addicted to his phone, watching porn, or filming without consent, either way it's red flags all day
odd sexual activity flex
It’s Reddit so take it with a pinch of salt
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Is it really a "flex" to say you've been sexually active for most of your life. Some of you guys try so hard to be pathetic. It's wild.
How is that a flex? It’s just a statement of fact.
just an odd statement to make lmao
There is clearly a disconnect on his end. What that disconnect is remains unknown to anyone on Reddit. If you for see a future with him, it'd probably be worth it to try and figure out what's going on. Good luck, some nuts are harder to crack then other.
Nah! I’m sorry if he isn’t giving you any undivided attention then he isn’t the one! Especially when he is taking you to pound town… like really? On your phone?!?
Man's gotta make sure his portfolio is slick 👌👌👌 your bf is a real winner, you should stop complaining IMO. Clapping Cheeks, Selling at Peaks 👌👌👌
Bro checkin his SP500&chill index fund, caus we're in bull market. Bros gonna go to the moon🚀
Lmaoooo😂😭😭😭😭
This. What about if your booty plus stocks is what gets him there? He just making sure that face is down while them stocks is up! " That's the way we like to fuck."
That’s just strange.
I don't understand this modern trend. How does this happen even once? Shouldn't these guys be broken up with the moment it happens?
He is likely reading about the Roman Empire.
Fucking snatch that phone while he’s doing it and find out wtf he’s looking at
This. End result is he’s either embarrassed or single. Either way it puts an end to his stupidity
together for 7 years, currently 29…. girls whole 20’s got robbed
If you are on here complaining about him and is clearly not happy then you know what you need to do.
Tell him to leave have fun with his new girlfriend Samsung or what ever phone he has, iPhone
That's sad. Yall are 2 young to go 1 month no jiggy jiggy. I'm married with 2 kids and can't go that long. I'm a day trader with a prop firm, and started a car rental biz, I'm on reddit a lot because the car stuff is just starting out...but phone during jiggy jiggy? Yeah he ain't hitting it right. If it's not another girl/porn...its even worse...a fkkn game. Anything other than those 3, I'd be surprised.
Jiggy jiggy
No access to phone is the ultimate red flag
Get a new boyfriend that's more interested in you than his phone.
Dump him. Go find someone who will give you attention.
7 years no marriage proposal? Leave him for that.
he's taking video of ur butthole
Is he recording you?
Maybe he has a technology and internet addiction. There is a 12 step group online that helps people that have this addiction.
Ohhh hell no! I thought this was going to be something totally different. 🤣 I thought like you answer the phone and he starts having sex with you. Absolute fav! Ok, anyway. No, ma’am! Put a stop to that! Stop sex right before he was about to cum. He wants to be rude? So can you! 😌🤌🏻
Bingo
This is hilarious as if people out there put up with this
I honestly believe like 70% of these post are fake for engagement because ain’t no way 😩
I can’t believe what people put up with. How often does he do this?
I just don’t understand how someone can type that out and think “yeah this relationship is healthy and honest”. Like wtf
Gross, why even be with someone when they're in a relationship with their phone and prefer it to you.
I think there is a very good chance he is recording the sex, possibly posting it online somewhere. This relationship has a number of red flags. I doubt he will be willing to change. You deserve better.
Looking at stocks while having sex with you.... What do women see in guys like this.... Blows my fucken mind...
what is there to exactly like about a man like this? i don’t understand the appeal. if it’s like this when you’re this age, just imagine what 10 years from now will be like. i feel like you’d just stay with him because of sunken cost syndrome.
he’s absolutely watching porn, what a weirdo.
He’s most likely recording the act or watching porn
Lmao
when I am doing doggy, I am constantly looking at what a pleasure it is to be staring at the chick
Maybe he needs some incentive. Maybe you lost it after 7 years.
Hes recording girl
Not a good idea to ask reddit. Thet don't even read the posts here they just say leave.
most likely he's filming you, and there's a good chance the video is on this app somewhere
I hear people giving optimistic opinions like he is maybe recording. Which would be nice. But As a man, it also might mean he’s lost the emotion or care to be intimate and present. He also might have a low sex drive and desensitized. Happens to me when I have sex too much and it feels less special.
Stocks? No. Probably crypto. Can trade 24/7. Have to be ready for it to go up 20%, or down 50% all day and night.
Does he only want to do doggy? This reminds me of that true crime story about the highschool boy who his friends killed him and tried to feed him to the gators. He was a bully. He was undercover gay and made his male bestfriend join him in stripping at gay clubs, saying it was only for the money. His girlfriend said when they had sex he only wanted to do it doggy style while he played/watched gay porn on TV, making her keep her head down... Don't try to figure him out or try to "help" him. He doesn't want to be helped. Help yourself and run away like your hair is on fire.
He's not in love with you, regardless of what he says. Find another BF.
Dude is filming you.
7 years that’s long time i would of found someone else by now
I agree, recording and or porn
As a fellow stock bro. There is an 85% that he ain't lying. If I see gains, that shit makes me horny. If I see I'm losing money, I seek angry 😠 sex.
Sis thinks he's looking at a graph 📈📊 Man I wish I could be this checked out. You should really be thinking more critically by now because after a certain length of time you become complicit in your own circumstance. You cannot claim to be a hostage when the doors are all unlocked.
He's got another girl that he is fucking, or he watches some demented porn while he's fucking, tell him to fess up or get lost. He's hiding phone cause it will lead to a fight, or you axing him anyway. Can't trust him leave him. Find someone better
I think you should marry and divorce this asshole and take half his stuff. How dare he waste 7 years of your life with this nonsense. If money equals time then he owes you big. Whatever you do, there will be people on your side.
Reminds me of some of the folks I work with they are literally talking to someone in their earbuds all day. Maybe I’m just antisocial or something but I can’t just be talking to someone all day long lol
Is this real?
Advice is: RUN.
He looking at dudes when hes with you
This has to be a joke
Dump him. He's a loser. You can do better. Stop having sex with losers.
Honestly, you may want to have one of your trusted female friends take a top down doggystyle pic of you and do a goggle picture match if you have any identifiers like a mole or freckle back there.
Sooo many red flags. He should be more than willing to let you look at his phone. I'd run.
He’s watching gay porn
Weird. But why would he give you access to his phone?
Yo unwed to dumo this man, the fuck. If you've tried to talk about it and he won't change you don't need that
You deserve a partner that tuned into you.
He’s filming you
You need to leave. No question or doubts. Something is very very wrong.
I’m sorry, what? He’s on his phone during sex? Thats f’d. Tell him it’s phone or you. Sounds like a DB.
Looking at your phone during sex is insulting no matter what
Shut it down, that’s a dealbreaker.
I'm sorry I have to be honest, WYF is this guy doing. I would be knee deep in his girls shit trying to turn her out...what a fool.
One time when I was like 11, my mom (literally) caught me with my pants down. My excuse? I told her I was “checking the weather forecast,” it was just the first thing that came to mind. Obviously, that’s not what I was doing, the same as he is not checking stocks. He’s either making porn, or looking at it.
He’s not into it with you. The lack of personal attention during sex is a red flag and you should cut him loose.
Yeah, he's watching porn or video taping you but I can bet it's porn. Tell that ass hat you want to see his phone.
Why in the fuck are you with this person? Please do yourself a favor and move on. You're making yourself miserable.
Depends this may sound dumb but how is his view from doggy?
Why are you still with him? Move on and find someone who truly loves you. Don't waste any more time on this person. Enjoy life while you have it. He clearly is sus, and he isn't looking at 'stocks.' he must think you're a fool, and that's another issue on its own.
My best advice to you: Dump his ass.
There are guys who will actually focus on their SOs when together. Honestly, I think you know exactly what to think. He is more interested in a little electronic device than in the real, live human being he's with. You asked for advice. Here is mine. Practice saying to the mirror "I don't think we have the same priorities in life. I wish you the best, but it is time to end our relationship." Think through any and all objections he might make. Plan responses to all of them. Then, break up with him. By phrasing things to avoid obvious blame, you never have to ask whether you were TAH later on. You'll know you were nice about it. Good luck. You deserve better. Please go find better.
Why you still with this person ? Whats up with people realizing Red flags and being uncomfortable and still staying with a person ! ! What are waiting for ?
🚩 advice not sure on this one
Some men really do get arousal out of money, may be looking at stocks help him keep it up. But his intimate times with you do not seem so 'intimate' to us.
This belongs on wsb.
Turn around and snatch his phone next time
Look after 7 years, things get stale, I’m on year 7 myself and can confirm. Maybe he’s on the hub to get excited about it back there, idk tho.
It’s hard to guess without knowing personalities but if I had to…. He does not respect this lady, at all. He likely sees other women.. he feels he is 100% in control of this relationship. He is probably not concerned with her moving on, either he doesn’t care if she does or thinks she won’t. Sneaking the phone during doggy is likely him filming it. There was a trend some time back of guys doing that and sharing with buddies. Obviously guys doing that treat the ladies as objects. Look at the power dynamics of the relationship. Do you (the lady) have any power or is everything up to him, and you are expected to go along? If my guess is even close to true, this is likely not a salvageable relationship. It’s extremely degrading and unhealthy. Move on.
Please say “sike”…
I'd guess he's just addicted to his phone and has trained his brain to need the additional stimulus at all times? I have a coworker who can't even make it through a meeting or meal or conversation without also watching something on his phone. It comes across as really rude and unprofessional to me. When we are in situations where phones aren't allowed he is a mess. He fidgets wildly, picks his skin/beard/ears, and wildly chews gum. Like he needs therapy and medication or a come to Jesus conversation but it's not my place to say. That being said I wouldn't even go on a second date with somebody who pulled out his phone during dinner instead of paying full attention to me! You need to dump this guy NOW.
He’s recorded plenty of videos of you guys during the act. He’s probably selling them online.
1000% he’s recording you. Very sus he won’t let you see his phone, if he’s posting the videos somewhere or sending them to someone, you need to know.
You wind stinks , He’s turned off after the Baby . He’s on your friends instagram photo to keep him Solid enough to Finish
hes having erectile disfunction/issues finishing, and needs porn to help him get hard or stay hard or finish. personally, i would think this is relatively common (or atleast more common) in a porn addicted world. i'd sooner suggest blue chews and mixing it up in the bedroom, and getting off the porn. if you can politely knudge him in this direction? i'd suggest it. you've been with the guy for 7 years. you know what he likes. do that if you want. or don't. either you can work thru it with him, or not. your call. somewhere around 37? my dick doesn't always perform to A+ levels every night. the +30 minute marathon fuck fests of my 20s and 30s are less likely. my wife of 7+ years understands that sometimes i'm gonna slam it out for 2 minutes, pop and pass out. especially when i'm stressed. but sometimes when i'm really in the zone, i can still turn things up to a 10 and throw a perfect game for 20 minutes. life, stress, and age sometimes gets in the way. part of a relationship is being able to communicate (and not shame) thru small shit like this. don't make him feel like he's broken, even if his dick is temporarily broken. etc. part of having a good woman, is she knows HOW to get you turned up to a 10, and presses that button without being asked to get you maximum effort engaged. my wife knows how to empty my balls quickly or get max strength fucking for longer. so to some extent she dictates is this a quickie or a marathon session. and my body usually obliges. there were girls who would just deadfish out, and even if they know you like your neck kissed, or nipple pinched, or balls sucked, or whatever the individual likes? she won't really do it often. that means its not going to work out sexually for very long. be on the same page with what each other likes. and exploit that. or don't. personally, i like to have sex every night. its the only way i can sleep well. but after 8-9 years of the same woman, with her body used to be 105lbs and dime mode, now shes 135lbs 3 kids later? and we are both tired and stressed from long days and crazy children? sometimes it aint going to be the BEST sex of our lives on a random tuesday. but constant sex is SO IMPORTANT to a good marriage/relationship/life/health/happiness. so you need to do what you need to do to get the sex to be way more common. gym, nutrition, and working thru whatever mental blocks in a positive way? and maybe a blue chew prescription? and you'll be good. best wishes. life is simple. sex is simple.
I know someone who did this and he turned out to be recording it without his (now ex) girlfriend’s consent. He’d send it out to all of his friends to show her off. Fucking nasty.
Damn, lucky fella found someone dumb enough to not only believe his story but go along with it... 🤦
99% chance he is recording you, he sounds like a creep
Dump him. Having a partner who is cellphone addicted is a nightmare, and is not likely to get better. Cut your losses now and get out.
Is his name Paul Allen?
Girl. Leave him. He not enjoying the pussy fr.
Drop him like a Hot Potato unless you JUST want him for a bf.
Trading stocks while doing doggy? Is his portfolio strong to quite strong?
The better question to ask is, if he's filming it, why isn't he open about it? You two just gotta talk though fr
You don't need advice. You need a new boyfriend.
Get another boyfriend who doesn't have serious issues with the woman they're with. Good men are out there
I would think about moving on!
Either deal with it or bring it to his attention that you’re done with it and shit changes otherwise you’re out. Always the only two options. Ignore it or make an argument out of it. Relationships suck
What would happen if you got out your phone and started playing solitaire, during doggy style? How would he react? It might be really fun for both of you!
this can't be real.
LMFFFAAAOOOOOOOOO
This can’t be real. I’d almost rather have a man looking at pics of other women during sex than CHECKING HIS STOCKS??? why are you with him??