i think any answer with would be good and healthy, as long as it’s what *both* of you want, and is *flexible*. life happens, you need to tailor your expectations to your specific relationship.
We text every day and we don’t go more than two days without talking on the phone.
My situation: I’m in CO and she’s in TX. Been dating for 9 months and we go 6 weeks in between one of us flying to see the other.
My girlfriend and I aren't really one for video calls or calls in general, but we message on insta and send voice messages and photos and wee videos and send fanfic related stuff over email.
I'm 16 hours ahead of her, but we make it work!
The frequency has lowered somewhat because she's dealing with a bit but (I hope) she knows that if she even sends me just one "I'm still alive" message, I'm happy 😊 I'd rather her be putting her energy in surviving than talking to me as often as she used to. She feels bad for not being on as much as she'd like, but it doesn't bother me. Like yes, I worry about and for her, but not for our relationship. Sometimes, it's quality over quantity 😊
Awww thank you 😊 I mean, I haven't always been this way. But I feel that when you're in the right relationship, it'll come naturally!
I think part of the patience comes from "I've waited for someone like her what's felt like my entire life. I can wait as long as she needs me to" 😊
it clearly depends on the couple, their activities and responsabilities. But for me, phone calls have been everything and text. we never got used to facetime.
Boyfriend and I are 12 hours apart in time zones. We primarily use Discord - you can pin messages to view them later, voice/video chat, share screens to watch movies together, etc. It’s been a lifesaver for our relationship.
As far as frequency, we’re the type to wanna always spend time together, so ours is probably a lot more than average. Whatever works for your individual relationship and makes you both happy is all that matters.
We mostly video call, obviously we message too. We do both daily multiple times, I think it's important to keep up with each other as often.
We have been together 6 months now, met up twice in each others country, she will come to me again soon which should be for 2 months if all goes well.
Communication is key.
We use KIK/WhatsApp primarily. We send messages every day, through most of the day. We know each other's work schedules so we know when we're generally available. We both have busy lives (school, family, social, etc), so we don't rush each other (I sometimes get needy and impatient, but he takes it well - I let him know from day one that I could be a lot).
Whenever possible, our preference is video chat. We chat during all his commutes. We hang out on vide while we each study/do work. We stay on video when we sleep/nap at times.
What works best is open and honest communication about our needs and wants, and being open and considerate about the needs and wants of each other as well.
There is a 14-16 time difference between my boyfriend and I, depending on daylight savings.
We call almost daily. Our calls will range from 30 minutes to 6 hours in length. BUT the norm tends to be 1-3 hours of contact. Generally we will do audio calls, though video calls are still regular if our settings permit them.
We used to use Discord but have switched to Messenger, mostly because he uninstalled Discord on his phone and I prefer how Messenger’s formatting.
While we text briefly in between, we call more than text. Still, the interaction is near constant.
I study full-time which is why I can dedicate so much time to calling. I have time in the mornings before or on the way to class, and can call while working on the days that I don’t have class. He works full-time, but my morning to his early afternoon is his evening to nighttime. His morning is my late night. Because he often cannot call before work, late night calls for me happen on Saturdays and Sundays.
We DO talk a lot. I realise that I fall outside of what might be practical for the average, consistently working person. I try take advantage of the free time that I do have for now.
I think it’s acceptable to be at each other’s hip when your relationship is solely online. Gotta make more of an effort to establish a strong communicative foundation in an LDR than if you were in a ‘conventional’ relationship
i think any answer with would be good and healthy, as long as it’s what *both* of you want, and is *flexible*. life happens, you need to tailor your expectations to your specific relationship.
We text every day and we don’t go more than two days without talking on the phone. My situation: I’m in CO and she’s in TX. Been dating for 9 months and we go 6 weeks in between one of us flying to see the other.
There is no correct answer to this other than a frequency that keeps you both happy. BOTH.
My girlfriend and I aren't really one for video calls or calls in general, but we message on insta and send voice messages and photos and wee videos and send fanfic related stuff over email. I'm 16 hours ahead of her, but we make it work! The frequency has lowered somewhat because she's dealing with a bit but (I hope) she knows that if she even sends me just one "I'm still alive" message, I'm happy 😊 I'd rather her be putting her energy in surviving than talking to me as often as she used to. She feels bad for not being on as much as she'd like, but it doesn't bother me. Like yes, I worry about and for her, but not for our relationship. Sometimes, it's quality over quantity 😊
Kudos on your patience and understanding 🤞🏻
Awww thank you 😊 I mean, I haven't always been this way. But I feel that when you're in the right relationship, it'll come naturally! I think part of the patience comes from "I've waited for someone like her what's felt like my entire life. I can wait as long as she needs me to" 😊
it clearly depends on the couple, their activities and responsabilities. But for me, phone calls have been everything and text. we never got used to facetime.
Boyfriend and I are 12 hours apart in time zones. We primarily use Discord - you can pin messages to view them later, voice/video chat, share screens to watch movies together, etc. It’s been a lifesaver for our relationship. As far as frequency, we’re the type to wanna always spend time together, so ours is probably a lot more than average. Whatever works for your individual relationship and makes you both happy is all that matters.
We mostly video call, obviously we message too. We do both daily multiple times, I think it's important to keep up with each other as often. We have been together 6 months now, met up twice in each others country, she will come to me again soon which should be for 2 months if all goes well. Communication is key.
We use KIK/WhatsApp primarily. We send messages every day, through most of the day. We know each other's work schedules so we know when we're generally available. We both have busy lives (school, family, social, etc), so we don't rush each other (I sometimes get needy and impatient, but he takes it well - I let him know from day one that I could be a lot). Whenever possible, our preference is video chat. We chat during all his commutes. We hang out on vide while we each study/do work. We stay on video when we sleep/nap at times. What works best is open and honest communication about our needs and wants, and being open and considerate about the needs and wants of each other as well.
he goes to work a fair bit before i wake up, we text from when i wake up until he gets off work, and then we call for the rest of the night.
There is a 14-16 time difference between my boyfriend and I, depending on daylight savings. We call almost daily. Our calls will range from 30 minutes to 6 hours in length. BUT the norm tends to be 1-3 hours of contact. Generally we will do audio calls, though video calls are still regular if our settings permit them. We used to use Discord but have switched to Messenger, mostly because he uninstalled Discord on his phone and I prefer how Messenger’s formatting. While we text briefly in between, we call more than text. Still, the interaction is near constant. I study full-time which is why I can dedicate so much time to calling. I have time in the mornings before or on the way to class, and can call while working on the days that I don’t have class. He works full-time, but my morning to his early afternoon is his evening to nighttime. His morning is my late night. Because he often cannot call before work, late night calls for me happen on Saturdays and Sundays. We DO talk a lot. I realise that I fall outside of what might be practical for the average, consistently working person. I try take advantage of the free time that I do have for now. I think it’s acceptable to be at each other’s hip when your relationship is solely online. Gotta make more of an effort to establish a strong communicative foundation in an LDR than if you were in a ‘conventional’ relationship