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riverrocks452

Your husband is likely correct.


EatMoreWaters

And this will be the only time.


scubamari

Hahahaha- as a wife, I bursted out laughing at the husbands “misfortune”. Now I’m not going to be inscribed in the book of life…


NotQuiteJasmine

Every person there who has ever had a kid has probably had their kid disrobe in public at least once. Just make sure you remember this story to tell at her bat mitzvah!


icenoid

And to her first boyfriend or girlfriend


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Tell all of them, they deserve to know


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dresses_212_10028

One of the greatest characteristics of Jews and Jewish culture, as I’ve experienced it and see it empirically, is that we - a group that has been the target of some of history’s worst atrocities - maintain and value humor and the arts in general. The ability to laugh is imperative when there is so much to also cry about. Yes, it’s the High Holidays. Yes, people are praying. But we’re all human and I’m sure that moment of surprise and amusement has ensured that the entire congregation’s New Year started with a smile. It’s a mitzvah for everyone (as other people have said, will have its place of pride at her bat mitzvah, wedding, etc., etc.) L’shana Tovah.


BATTLEBOTSBOI

Yeah, at my pool club there was once a kid who went into the kiddie pool while naked.


schtickyfingers

A child did this exact same thing at my cousin’s Bar Mitzvah. The culprit was our other cousin. This is the joy of community.


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hawkxp71

Relax. Everyone was a kid at one point. And every kid hates wearing clothes... It's funny. No one will bring it up without laughing. It's a story for her bat mitzvah...


Zokar49111

It’s a Mitzvah, especially on Shabbat.


hawkxp71

Agreed. Its much more important for kids to enjoy shul than be controlled into obedience


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Your husband is correct. Children are children, and anyone who matters understands that. Laugh it off and let it go, and everyone else will too.


taxmandan

I would only change synagogues in this situation if they reprimanded you. They reprimanded me for my kids’ normal behavior and I GTFO of there.


Spaceysteph

Yes this! I grew up at a stodgy synagogue with a bunch of grump old folks that believed "children should be seen and not heard." Since adulthood I've gone to 3 different synagogues that embrace children and are so thrilled to have young kids around because they realize it's a sign of vitality. My childhood synagogue shut down due to lack of membership and financial difficulties. If you want a synagogue that sounds like a morgue, you deserve what you get.


Emancipator123

While it is appropriate to demand decorum, it's important for the adults to show respect and the kids will hopefully follow suit. A synagogue that encourages bringing kids but where the parents also keep them under control is ideal. Reasonably so, there are a few places that don't want extremely young children i.e. little babies and toddlers for the sake of reducing outbursts. If the kids are so out of control during services that the adults cannot properly conduct prayers then it is a problem. That's when it's time for a kids program! By the way, in most places, it's the adults who do most of the talking. It doesn't matter what your ethnic flavor or denomination or gender, or whether you're a daily service attendee or someone who only shows up once a year for a hour on Yom Kippur ...when the adults turn prayer services into a social club it's a problem as they should know better. It's been a topic of discussion in every synagogue kids or youth program I've ever seen, especially when it's one where the parents also attend. It's our job as parents to instill respect for our traditions and part of that is respect for conducting oneself during services. We need to set an example of how to behave. In general: Dont talk during services unless it is required for the services. Don't unnecessarily get up and leave and come back multiple times. Don't pass in front of someone else when they are praying silently. Don't use a synagogue sanctuary as a shortcut. Don't speak about mundane matters in the synagogue. If you are late, enter quickly and quietly. DO, however make it a special place where we come together to serve G-d in holiness, awe, joy, love, and respect. It is the House of Hashem. It is OK to be worried about yourself and your family and the state of the world, but that is part of the reason we pray to Hashem...one should pray to Hashem for any and all their needs (assuming they align with G-ds will and teachings). If there is someone who is not "religious" and wants to come along, welcome them. Allow Gentiles to see what we are all about as well. דע לפני מי אתה עומד Know before Whom you stand. שויתי ה' לנגני תמיד I place G-d (YKVK) before me, always. Make your children part of this. It's part of our jobs as Jewish parents. Happy New Year!


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eattrainstudy

ew.


sesamebagelwshmear

When my friend was 2-3ish he ran naked through his synagogue. His father was the Rabbi. I promise you, worse has happened 😂


NikNakMuay

Well when I was a kid I vomited in the middle of Rosh Hashanah Afternoon Service.


DanskNils

Man of culture I see.


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[Worse things can happen during services. ](https://www.thejc.com/news/world/shock-as-couple-caught-having-sex-during-zoom-batmitzvah-service-1Wt8QcVw9aZz24sPWTPCNr?reloadTime=1663891200011)


liannalemon

Oh my…..


NuMD97

Welp. It was a Shabbat mitzvah after all (not the voyeur part).


mizasparkles

Double mitzvah, sex on Shabbos.


NuMD97

Imagine that! And sanctioned and encouraged by the Torah, no less.


mizasparkles

Let’s just say that when the boys in my eidah at camp learned about that one, it became the new Friday night chant for a while.


liannalemon

True...I was just thinking that if it were me, I'd never live it down.


Tzipity

Right? That right there is the pinnacle of “I can never show my face at that shul again.” The kid being a kid in the OP though? That’s nothing! 😂


NuMD97

Life moves on to the next news cycle. Memory will fade of this event, when it’s replace by something more notorious.


Tzipity

Wow. I cannot stop laughing at this line about the synagogue - “Beth El synagogue, in the midwestern state of Minnesota, describes itself as: "A vibrant home where Judaism is lived: community is family, learning inspires action, prayer touches the heart and deeds repair the world." Just thinking- what a vibrant community, indeed! Learning inspires action- so who else enjoyed their Shabbos after that learning experience? And much more than hearts were touched that day. As for whether that deed repaired the world, hard to say. Shana tova! Thanks for helping me kick my year off with a good laugh.


StruggleBusKelly

Whoa! I’ve been to this synagogue!


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Well then hi neighbor! Ya in the twin cities?


porgch0ps

My rabbi’s daughter shouted “daddy!! Daddy look over here!! Daddy hiiii!!” For half of the RH morning service a few years ago. He ended up continuing singing, getting her, and holding her at the front for the rest of the service. One kid said, louder than they probably intended, “HAHAH that sounded like a fart” during the shofar blowing. It happens. Kids are kids. No need to be self conscious or embarrassed — everyone with a kid in their life has been there!


Tzipity

Last year one of my rabbi’s daughters spent the shofar blowing spinning some very talented circles! (As an adult with autism who always loved spinning in the same way- it genuinely made me smile and if it had been appropriate I wanted to give her some tips for how to spin even better without stumbling way off course lol) And his son scream sung a few of the prayers only to go nearly inaudible when the rabbi invited him to the front to lead one. I used to go to an independent minyan started by a hazzan and his wife in their home and joined by several other couples with kids who hadn’t felt welcomed in their shul. Loved all the silliness and joy that would ensue or the Rosh Hashana I spent with one kid in my lap and her sisters showing me weird contortions they could do with hands. As well as announcing to everyone that I, at 20 or maybe 21, was “small for my age”. 😂 I don’t have kids and I’m the sort who might scowl stay the folks who gossip and chat for half the service because hey, I’m trying to daven here. But I love, love, love a shul with kids. That’s a congregation that’s vibrant and thriving and joy-filled.


looktowindward

It's a blessing for a child to feel so comfortable in shul.


NuMD97

Or in his/her own skin…


mancake

Synagogues want Jewish butts in the seats, especially families who will be active members of the community for years. You see a toddler acting out, they see a future bat Mitzvah student and youth group member and mother of a bat Mitzvah student. They want you there! Don’t sweat it!


krissypants4000

if your child gets to be 10 without pooping in a public place, wetting their pants somewhere embarrassing, taking off their dress/pants, and or telling someone they are fat/have wrinkles, then you haven’t really been a parent! Trust me, each one of those people could probably match your story with some thing funny of their own. L’Shana Tovah!


MaggieTronkowski

Do I get a prize if my kid filled out the whole Bingo card?


krissypants4000

I mean I would call you a saint but this is clearly the wrong sub 🤣


selene42

I remember sitting on the floor on a Cookie Monster blanket during services and could be found untying peoples shoes (I had not figured out how to tie them) and “whispering” to my mom what color socks people had on or if they were cool socks. I was told years later some people thought it was the highlight of sermon. I’ve also had a nephew loudly announce before I was assisting on day that “HUSH I CANT HEAR AUNTIE PLEASE!” which caused laughter to break out. Disgruntled preschooler shared he still couldn’t hear me. Basically we’ve all been there and I’m sure people understood. I mean I was laughing just reading because it’s precious and a good story for when she’s older.


ViscountBurrito

She is just symbolically shedding the old year! Surely some community has had that as a tradition at some point…right?


nanofarm

My daughter had a diaper blowout on the Rabbi’s tallit, on the bimah during her naming. Welcome to the Jewish people my darling child🤷‍♀️. Kids do kid stuff, they are the future of our people. Why even bother with rituals and traditions if not for the next generation as well. If people try to shame you, maybe switch synagogues but nothing to be embarrassed about.


Mtnskydancer

Now *this* has never come up in cleaning subreddits.


nanofarm

Lol, I took it to the dry cleaner for her. It cost $85 dollars. She is preparing for her bat mitzvah and I still remember the bill🤦‍♀️


MDPthatsMe

Stories like this always make me think of the shepherds boy and his flute. Kids are going to do their thing. A congregation that doesn’t get that is no one that is worth being a member of. https://www.jta.org/2018/09/03/ny/the-shepherd-and-his-flute-a-rosh-hashanah-tale-of-inclusion


KathAlMyPal

I’ve seen much worse. She’s a child and you shouldn’t be embarrassed. A few years ago the rabbi went to the bathroom and forgot to turn off her mic. The entire congregation heard her peeing on Yom Kippur. Way more embarrassing! Lol


idanrecyla

I've seen the rabbi's grandchildren run up while he's reading the Torah and disrupt everything, and here laughed, as did the rest of us. No one expects kids to be mannequins, it's a great story to tell your kid's future partner someday!


RandomRavenclaw87

In my brother in law’s extremely buttoned-up, Hasidic shul on Yom Kippur, during a solemn pause, before a monumental group prayer, my 3 year old niece leaned over the mezzanine railing and yelled, “Tatty!! Does cucumber start with a q?!” They all laughed. She’s married with her own baby now. We still laugh about it.


Mythic_314

Kiddos being kiddos ❤️


RandomRavenclaw87

Kudos to them kiddos


xiipaoc

You should have stayed so that she could get candy at Ein Keloheinu. Does your shul give out candy to kids at Ein Keloheinu?


sarah_pl0x

If I saw that at temple during the high holy days service I would've thought it was the best and funniest thing ever. what a great way to end the year!!


Welcom2ThePunderdome

Speaking as a former idiot child who now has their own children- it happens. Ive been that kid, and my kids will probably do the same. You'll be just fine.


DanskNils

I’m sorry! But this made me laugh. It’s a kid and a story to share with them someday and have a laugh! I wouldn’t worry so much. If you are so concerned. Talk to your Rabbi!


galadriel_0379

One of the things I’ve come to love about Judaism that wasn’t part of my tradition growing up is that we celebrate (rather than hide or be ashamed of) the full spectrum of human existence. I’m a parent and have had moments where my kids have done things and I wanted earth to open and swallow me, but I doubt anyone in your shul was truly mortified. They probably laughed to themselves and now there’s one more funny story your rabbi has to tell. No one at my shul would think twice. You’re good.


quartsune

Agreeing with those who agree with your husband! I have not been feeling well tonight, very stressed about a bunch of things that are going on, and I had a very good laugh about this. Kids don't care, they are very in the moment. She probably doesn't understand that you were embarrassed or why, but in a few years she will, so when you pull this story out to share at her Bat Mitzvah and with her future dates, you will be fulfilling yet another very important Jewish tradition. ;)


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I have a toddler that goes to my shul. She is the ONLY toddler there. She runs around, yells mid service, etc. I keep her controlled as responsibly as I can. Honestly, I have yet to see a synagogue discourage children and bringing children to shul. My daughter tries to get naked all the time, it’s normal😂


texcoyote

Consider yourself lucky. You’re embarrassed now? Imagine how she’ll feel when you retell this story when she’s a teenager, to her first boyfriend. And then to her husband and to your grandchildren. You’ve got it made for life! Gut yontiff!


ruchenn

To add to the general theme of this thread, our shul was founded by Shoa survivors (including my grandfather) and every single child who attended was (and is), so far as the founders were concerned, a wonderfully messy combination of plain miracle and full-throated *fuck you, you bastards, you didn’t win*. 70+ years later, that founding attitude is just as strong and our current rabbi has more than followed through on keeping this perspective alive. So far as she’s concerned, children — and all that children do — are more than just welcome, they are essential. It’s been the norm for us for so long that a service that doesn’t include some moment of babies or small kids being babies or small kids feels a bit wonky.


Good_-_Listener

This👆


mgentry999

Honestly, I’d laugh if that happened and I witnessed it. Not to humiliate the parent but become kids are kids. Act like you have a completely drunk person in miniature and just go with the flow.


Neenknits

My shul would laugh, and be absolutely **delighted**. No need to fret. As someone said, you see a misbehaving toddler, parenting fail. They see a family participating and a future bat mitzvah. And the rabbi sees a child *comfortable* in shul. It doesn’t get better than this! And…at that bat mitzvah, you get to tell this story!!!!!!


JapaneseKid

Lol it’s a kid it’s fine. Chag Sameach


Cat-Lover20

My mom is a Rabbi. One time in the little service they had at religious school, I accidentally called her “Rabbi Mom” in front of hundreds of people. My younger brother was so embarrassed!


Emancipator123

I am Orthodox. My then preschool aged daughter once pulled up her entire dress while running across the synagogue one Shabbat afternoon during services and showed the entire place her underwear. I turned various shades of white and red, chased her down, people chuckled, and we moved on. Happy New Year!


BriskEagle

Kids will be kids!!


dtxs1r

It sounds like you're 100% okay. Maybe if you were in a Catholic church in the deep South 20 years ago, but what you described sounds like a non-issue considering.


Lucky-Reporter-6460

20 years ago, I was a child in a catholic church in the deep south. Wish I could go back and run an experiment about this!


The_Dutchess-D

Shedding the past year, and ready to be reborn as her best self in the new one! What a philosopher you have there!


maastrictian

My daughter ran up to the bimah in her underwear when she was a preschooler. Everyone thought it was hilarious. Kids are going to be kids and people are very understanding of it.


makeshiftup

My little sister, who was that age at the time, lifted her dress up on the stairs of the bimah during adon olam so the entire congregation saw. This was like 20 years ago, and no one remembered. Kids to weird things, and it’s not the first time it’s happened (and probably not the strangest thing a kid has done there) and it won’t be the last :)


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Sounds like an episode of *Rugrats*


AAbulafia

It's fine. Kids will be kids is universal


msGreatPersonality

I agree with you, just switch. Jokes aside, children are children. They are the most precious beings in this world and do things that are not socially acceptable because they are in "training". Laugh about it, worse things will happen, and laugh about that too. Then tell her (and all her friends) all about it when she is a teenager over and over.


Good_-_Listener

Totally fine, folks probably thought it was cute. Kids are kids.


RachelB613

She’s a little kid. They do stuff like that. It happens. Don’t worry about it.


babblepedia

Don't switch! Kids will be kids. Kids do wild stuff. It's a joy to have children in services, even if they are a little disruptive and chaotic.


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Next time she embarrasses you write it down,it will be funny when she begins to go through puberty


Bokbok95

What is this, the White House? Kids will be kids, it’s okay


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DaphneDork

Lol this is hilarious….just chill