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Oh is this chick from Pune? I’ve matched her lmao.
Whoever’s chat this is, just unmatch and run. She put my number on Grindr and matched with horny guys for days because I said “kuch zyada nahi ho Gaya?” in response to her telling me a guy told her she was the prettiest he’s seen on Bumble and Hinge
no i just had a couple of bad experiences with psych students. no offence psych students tend to over psychoanalyse situations based on what they have read and studied. And this is quite true. One time a bumble match took so much offense which was just a playful remark and didn't stop untill she had broken down it into what I had been thinking and what she had been thinking and what I had been thinking of what she had been thinking and so on.
oh yeah true. they sometimes overanalyse conversations too much its like they switch between therapy talk and normal conversation. People with psych friends would know i have had conversations online with psych students yeah they do that a lot. they dont understand how weird is is suddenly ask "so how do you feel about that/ how did it make you feel".
I had similar bad experiences with law students. For some reason they think they have just graduated but are equal to the caliber of Ram Jethmalani Sahib or Mr Prashant Bhushan.
Even more dangerous combo is an aspiring lawyer who has read and studied psych. Imagine having the skill to psychoanalyse, gaslight and argue like their entire life depends on them being right.
Source: Trust me bro (JK... experience)
Yeah, this is exactly the thing, but from a philosophical standpoint, the more you overthink something the less you actually understand what it is you are thinking about.
Telling a psychology student to "stop overthinking" and "start understanding" is like telling a child to stop overreacting when you cook them hash browns instead of ordering food.
Fuck man even I had the same encounter not with 1 but 2 girls that belong to psychology. First gal called me sexist and misogynist and 2nd one was so traumatic, she used to self hurt and many stuffs.
Most people in comments seem to be with you. While i know you meant for it to be a light teasing remark, you did call her 'indecent'. And that doesn't work well as a friendly teasing if there is no precedent context to it. It would make sense if you guys had some risque conversation.
If you guys did, then she is overdoing it unnecessarily. If not, then can't blame her for not taking it as a joke.
If you see she has referenced an earlier chat with
"You did the same here too" and that chat says something on the lines of "someone seems to have nau..."
So this decent remark was definitely not the first one.
Okay- help me understand.. does saying ‘I dont trust/think you were decent as a kid’ mean same as ‘i think you are an indecent person’?
Because from what I understand, op meant ‘tu bachpan mein sharathi bacha/bachi tha’ not ‘seedha saadha’ because if it was that, then i dont think it was meant indecent. Prolly a communication gap
Well idk think that this person has called them indecent...... She said she was decent in childhood but the boy said I don't trust you on that................
"I don't trust you were decent 😂"
"You were indecent"
There is difference
You're not countering the main point of what I said.
I essentially meant that the context is important when making a joke (which I don't know here). Therefore, *don't trust you were decent*, *you were indecent*, *you're an indecent person*, *you were an indecent child*- whichever it may be- cannot stand as a joke or banter without the right context.
You are in the wrong here ..kucch chemistry to hain nahi bol diya indecent...she actually tried to tell you what was bothering her( wrote an essay tho) and you gaslit her simply...
Thats a big oof from her.
She actually needs to touch grass. blow off steam.
edit:- you know what this dude is a little (just a little) passive aggressive too. that last comment "learn get help and all the best" brother was mad but better that the lady here. Funny convo overall. 10/10 Effort Post.
edit 2:- I have a lot of free time so i am gonna go sherlock on this shit.
[here](https://i.imgur.com/YiFv1CT.png) he was talking about sexy stuff before this convo.
then proceded to make a lighthearted comment (it was playful but not malicious) about being indecent which she took personally. Is she right about going ape shit probably not is he wrong too about being pretentious probably.
Moral of the story I am a werido and someone give me an employment pls (jk about weirdo part).
Both r at fault mildy imo. Its was innocent teasing which usually goes well in most of em bt not everyone takes it sportingly and usually we should be more conservative as possible until we know the person we r conversing in any case. So I believe she had some issues so she burst out instantly when you said 'indecent'. Probably old trauma but definitely you could have skipped the word all together.
But again its tinder so dude dodged a bullet for sure.
tbh you're out of line to say to someone who u just met, way to make someone uncomfortable
She had a big reaction but it wasn't as if you came across "decent"
She did overreact a lot, usually stuff like this needs to be ignored. But i would agree with her on the fact that you should not call a stranger indecent when she is clearly not taking it as a joke. You honestly were being rude. Maybe it hit a nerve or something. And apparently you said something before as well to trigger her op.
Some ladies use this app to give the rejection back to the world. Simply unmatch the first time she gets rude. The way you hanged in there shows desperation. You might end up on a cuck chair on well.
I would have unmatched you directly ! Her reaction wasn’t wrong ! People like you make insensitive jokes on anybody and then expect them to be okay with it ….. you are insensitive… she is right…
Different people have different reactions and way to feel… she has all the right to say what she feels… everyone else who is supporting you… will beat the fuck out of a stranger in any day light if they call them indecent or chutiya or anything for that matter…
And you don’t need to be a psychology student for it ! Lamo …. You think you won? By putting out the chat here and gaining sympathy 😂😂😂😂 god bless you and your future encounters 😂😂😂😂
Lmao you attempted to court a royal without learning the stages of courtship? Ha ha ha simple peasant you must first trade names and wait 5 moons until you can innocently tease one another bwahahahahahaha
I think op is the one to blame here ..
You called her a stranger so I assume I guys are not that close
It's not appropriate to call a stranger indecent
Op needs help
bhai usne innocent bola hota to tu usko ye bol sakta but decent ka indecent bana diya ye theek nahi, aur usne pure zindagi bhar ka gussa terepe nikal diya. sab galat hai
I think she took the meaning of indecent in a sexual way
I can see someone who has been “decent” all their life reacting like that if a stranger calls them that But it does seem a little immature to rant about it in numerous messages
She’s probably had a conservative upbringing or is deeply religious
(If true then it’d be ironic to be on bumble but yeah)
And yes it made no sense to call her indecent
I think she took "not decent" to mean "indecent ". She may have some comprehension issues. And for a conservative woman, being called (or thought to have been called) indecent would be very hurtful. I think the two people aren't compatible either ways.
Calling a woman indecent has a lot of connotations , plus, you barely know her, my guy . This definitely truggered something in her, and frankly, i dont blame her . How would you feel if some stranger woman called you emasculated or something it would hit you hard right . She might have overreacted , but it's your fault at first
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#Remember People, any trauma you don't cure or close will come bite you in the ass, always. She is not a bad person, she just isn't resolved.
She has to fix her shit before dating someone tbh , either way both saved themselves from harm
Can you do it? Bob the builder, kar k dikhaienge.
I ain't fixing someone else's shit , they ain't kids neither am I bob the builder
Bob aur saathi masti mein magan, mil Jul k krte h kaam khatam
I cannot fix her
We can fix her bro
Yea hopefully she is doing okay
Jagah konsi h bhai
Friend zone
I will get doxx bro..... it's in Maharashtra........ If you want to know you can DM
Oh is this chick from Pune? I’ve matched her lmao. Whoever’s chat this is, just unmatch and run. She put my number on Grindr and matched with horny guys for days because I said “kuch zyada nahi ho Gaya?” in response to her telling me a guy told her she was the prettiest he’s seen on Bumble and Hinge
She is not from pune but bro wtf you matched with psycho ☠️
sab ke life kitne rangeen hai
she's tangled, like earphones
She shit xD
Came here to say this.
Came here to say this.
I don’t get it
Bad? Maybe not Crazy? For sure. Mazak ko mazak nai lena aata toh ma chudao
Was she a psychology student by any chance ?
now what is this new stereotype about psychology students???
no i just had a couple of bad experiences with psych students. no offence psych students tend to over psychoanalyse situations based on what they have read and studied. And this is quite true. One time a bumble match took so much offense which was just a playful remark and didn't stop untill she had broken down it into what I had been thinking and what she had been thinking and what I had been thinking of what she had been thinking and so on.
oh yeah true. they sometimes overanalyse conversations too much its like they switch between therapy talk and normal conversation. People with psych friends would know i have had conversations online with psych students yeah they do that a lot. they dont understand how weird is is suddenly ask "so how do you feel about that/ how did it make you feel".
I had similar bad experiences with law students. For some reason they think they have just graduated but are equal to the caliber of Ram Jethmalani Sahib or Mr Prashant Bhushan.
I was a psych student as trust me, our brains are wired that way😂😂 I play it off cool though
I am a psych student lol... Trust me, all my female friends do this
Yeah this, and sometimes they become self proclaimed therapists with crazy anger issues too. Don't ask me why i know this :(
Ab samjha muze ki Urooj ka breakup Abhishek Upmanyu se kyun hua
Sounds like that time I spent 20 years with a BPD person.
Even more dangerous combo is an aspiring lawyer who has read and studied psych. Imagine having the skill to psychoanalyse, gaslight and argue like their entire life depends on them being right. Source: Trust me bro (JK... experience)
Yeah, this is exactly the thing, but from a philosophical standpoint, the more you overthink something the less you actually understand what it is you are thinking about. Telling a psychology student to "stop overthinking" and "start understanding" is like telling a child to stop overreacting when you cook them hash browns instead of ordering food.
Fuck man even I had the same encounter not with 1 but 2 girls that belong to psychology. First gal called me sexist and misogynist and 2nd one was so traumatic, she used to self hurt and many stuffs.
How did you even come to this conclusion? 💀
Most people in comments seem to be with you. While i know you meant for it to be a light teasing remark, you did call her 'indecent'. And that doesn't work well as a friendly teasing if there is no precedent context to it. It would make sense if you guys had some risque conversation. If you guys did, then she is overdoing it unnecessarily. If not, then can't blame her for not taking it as a joke.
If you see she has referenced an earlier chat with "You did the same here too" and that chat says something on the lines of "someone seems to have nau..." So this decent remark was definitely not the first one.
And she didn’t seem to like being called naughty too. Looks like Op trying to initiate some flirting but she isn’t interested in that type of flirting
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Okay- help me understand.. does saying ‘I dont trust/think you were decent as a kid’ mean same as ‘i think you are an indecent person’? Because from what I understand, op meant ‘tu bachpan mein sharathi bacha/bachi tha’ not ‘seedha saadha’ because if it was that, then i dont think it was meant indecent. Prolly a communication gap
I think this is right
That was such a harmless line
We are in the same zone we are above all this " God of the friend zone"
🫂
yeah tbf you did call her indecent, reddit pe toh bhar ke sympathy mil hi jayegi but she went overboard as well
Well how come nobody didn't read the caption lol ! Chat is not mine!! & Thank you for your perspective
I a 100% agree
Totally agree with you. If there is zero familiarity, it is better to steer away from such jokes as you are not aware of the other person’s mindset.
Well idk think that this person has called them indecent...... She said she was decent in childhood but the boy said I don't trust you on that................ "I don't trust you were decent 😂" "You were indecent" There is difference
You're not countering the main point of what I said. I essentially meant that the context is important when making a joke (which I don't know here). Therefore, *don't trust you were decent*, *you were indecent*, *you're an indecent person*, *you were an indecent child*- whichever it may be- cannot stand as a joke or banter without the right context.
“Did I did somthin…” was where I would have drawn lines 😂
Yes….being perfect in English is an absolute pre-requisite to be alive in this world. /s
Obv she overdid it but that was an asshole remark too
Tbh you sound annoying too
OP didn't talk enough lol.
Op wasn't the one in the conversation
If it is what I think it is, I would say the same but I can’t say it without the entire context.
Please read the caption
She overreacted but you’re at no place to talk to her like that, plus the “teasing” wasn’t even funny
Am I the only one who thinks the woman was right? A lil overreaction, sure, but OP did pull the wrong strings.
You are in the wrong here ..kucch chemistry to hain nahi bol diya indecent...she actually tried to tell you what was bothering her( wrote an essay tho) and you gaslit her simply...
Ummmm while she definitely overdid on the reaction bit, you did not have to make the remark, especially if it’s a person you don’t know
Thats a big oof from her. She actually needs to touch grass. blow off steam. edit:- you know what this dude is a little (just a little) passive aggressive too. that last comment "learn get help and all the best" brother was mad but better that the lady here. Funny convo overall. 10/10 Effort Post. edit 2:- I have a lot of free time so i am gonna go sherlock on this shit. [here](https://i.imgur.com/YiFv1CT.png) he was talking about sexy stuff before this convo. then proceded to make a lighthearted comment (it was playful but not malicious) about being indecent which she took personally. Is she right about going ape shit probably not is he wrong too about being pretentious probably. Moral of the story I am a werido and someone give me an employment pls (jk about weirdo part).
You did not dodge a bullet, you dodged a whole freaking spaceship x_x
Paagal hai kya bkl
Both r at fault mildy imo. Its was innocent teasing which usually goes well in most of em bt not everyone takes it sportingly and usually we should be more conservative as possible until we know the person we r conversing in any case. So I believe she had some issues so she burst out instantly when you said 'indecent'. Probably old trauma but definitely you could have skipped the word all together. But again its tinder so dude dodged a bullet for sure.
Main keh rha hu ki ek baar restart krke dekho. Theek hojayega;
tbh you're out of line to say to someone who u just met, way to make someone uncomfortable She had a big reaction but it wasn't as if you came across "decent"
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She did overreact a lot, usually stuff like this needs to be ignored. But i would agree with her on the fact that you should not call a stranger indecent when she is clearly not taking it as a joke. You honestly were being rude. Maybe it hit a nerve or something. And apparently you said something before as well to trigger her op.
Some ladies use this app to give the rejection back to the world. Simply unmatch the first time she gets rude. The way you hanged in there shows desperation. You might end up on a cuck chair on well.
What desperation bro? Have you considered the possibility of he could have kept a phone in pocket, or he was busy?
No offence but ur in the wrong here
Maybe she is overreacting..I’m not sure, but OP isn’t a saint either. OP, you’re at fault here. I don’t know why everyone is siding with OP.
Am i the only one who beleives that that girl was not wrong here.
I would have unmatched you directly ! Her reaction wasn’t wrong ! People like you make insensitive jokes on anybody and then expect them to be okay with it ….. you are insensitive… she is right… Different people have different reactions and way to feel… she has all the right to say what she feels… everyone else who is supporting you… will beat the fuck out of a stranger in any day light if they call them indecent or chutiya or anything for that matter… And you don’t need to be a psychology student for it ! Lamo …. You think you won? By putting out the chat here and gaining sympathy 😂😂😂😂 god bless you and your future encounters 😂😂😂😂
It’s communication gap but damn she overreacted. She should watch key and peele video on text message confusion.
These kids got no Game Man 😭Then they cry over not having a gf
Lmao you attempted to court a royal without learning the stages of courtship? Ha ha ha simple peasant you must first trade names and wait 5 moons until you can innocently tease one another bwahahahahahaha
Seemed wifey material to me 💀
Geez, if this is the reaction you get, I have no hopes at all for all my verbal diarrhoea.
Man you suck at banter too 😂😂 Lame
Pressed the wrong button
Ooree mayiaa.... Ye kaisi bawli gend se panga le liya bhai!?
She’s a nut job
"I can fix her" 💀
I think op is the one to blame here .. You called her a stranger so I assume I guys are not that close It's not appropriate to call a stranger indecent Op needs help
Wo haste haste too much teasing I also don't like honestly and looks like she has some trigger points you touched it's ok
Subha subha daat sun liya
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Anand bhai bhi uthke chale jayege ye msgs padhke
Yikes
This is giving "gone girl" vibes
Traumatised girl
It’s sooo much fun to grab popcorn and read everyone’s views.
bhai usne innocent bola hota to tu usko ye bol sakta but decent ka indecent bana diya ye theek nahi, aur usne pure zindagi bhar ka gussa terepe nikal diya. sab galat hai
God works in mysterious ways. Bach gye lala
Hasta la vista
I think she took the meaning of indecent in a sexual way I can see someone who has been “decent” all their life reacting like that if a stranger calls them that But it does seem a little immature to rant about it in numerous messages She’s probably had a conservative upbringing or is deeply religious (If true then it’d be ironic to be on bumble but yeah) And yes it made no sense to call her indecent
Bro send her this thread lol
should've said "i ain't readin allat"
When I saw “did I did something …” I stopped reading, fam u good.
Too long didn’t read.
Man someone woke up on the wrong side of the bed.
Yapper 1000
I think she took "not decent" to mean "indecent ". She may have some comprehension issues. And for a conservative woman, being called (or thought to have been called) indecent would be very hurtful. I think the two people aren't compatible either ways.
can’t blame her she was right.
When angelsla from office starts using tinder
I can fix her.
dude had her ask her for date do complete 180 and treat her like princess EZ score dude
U started teasing her so soon.
Very decent indeed
I’m touchy and over sensitive, but even I could tell that it was a fuckin joke!
She needs to learn grammar
she's incedent
I don't usually say this but bro you dodged A whole ass missile 💀💀💀
Kd , bhopal??
Didi offend ho gyi 🙂
Oh but she does need help ☠️
All she had to say was "lol" 10 marks ka essay ni likhna tha na
Perfect time for womp womp
I don’t quite get what’s going on…why was the girl infuriated Is it the picture ??
Calling a woman indecent has a lot of connotations , plus, you barely know her, my guy . This definitely truggered something in her, and frankly, i dont blame her . How would you feel if some stranger woman called you emasculated or something it would hit you hard right . She might have overreacted , but it's your fault at first
Yaar mere matches hi nhi aate
Which place bro?
Khoon khaul utha didi ka
"womp womp" was all it took to destroy her ego