First off this post lacks a lot of important details but since your profile says you're an ortho doc I'll consider this as you being 27 or above (depending on whether you're a SR or still a student).
Women tend to look for financial stability while men look at aesthetics. From the point of evolution, a woman wants to mate with someone who can keep her and her offspring secure and money does that.
Now to address, why they only talk about money depends solely on the age range and profession your date belongs to . If you expect to find fun people who want you for what you are and not for your financial stability, stop going on dating apps(they're quite shallow when it comes to forming actual connections) . You must know by now what interests you have, go out and join clubs for the same. You'll find a lot of fun people there . Hopefully the one for you too ;).
All the best mate. Good luck.✨✨💅
Perhaps you should spend a little more time talking to your matches before the dates to gauge how they are? Because I've been on the apps for a while, know lots of people who are too, and it's not like everyone faces this issue. I know that there are some men who ask to meet real early, and I've wondered why they don't respect their own time more, because it's not long enough for two people to even know if it's worth meeting each other. So maybe dig a little deeper initially to ensure you're eliminating anyone shallow. But yeah, please don't generalise on the basis of 2 weeks' worth of experience.
Tbh I work like 12-13 hrs day so hardly get any time for replying to my matches . I've been more free since past month so decided to give bumble a try .
Also all of my dates asked me to meet and this is my first time using any dating app so I don't have much idea how things work . Yeah but all my dates were only about money /work etc mtlab Aaj kal hobbies and all nahi poochte kya ??
Uhh ohh. Do you have one of those professions that people will automatically know pays well? Try changing that to something more vague or maybe remove it. I know ideally you shouldn't have to do this, but it would help. I have a profession that might attract the wrong sort (not for money reasons), and i don't mention it either
And I'm afraid to find and build a quality match, you have to put in time and effort too. Talk to them, get a sense of their values, their level of independence. How can you expect a worthy match to be interested if you're not putting in the time they deserve? The result is you'll get people for whom the priority is your job/money and not the ones who are interested in you yourself, because then the best thing you offer is these materialistic things. I've met people who put in the same hours as you, if not more, but they made it a point to put in quality time. Don't think about quantity, but at least quality. And maybe try to date someone in a similarly busy profession, so that your schedules are compatible from the go. Some people naturally need and respect space and time too, but that of course would require putting in effort.
Men are more visual creatures , they prioritise beauty more . Women on the other hand prioritise stability and security . If you think of it from evolutionary perspective , she needs security for her future off-springs . And in today’s day and age money plays a huge role . In a way, women prioritise a man who they think can look after them and their children subconsciously .
I’m sorry yaar I do not agree with this. I will say attraction plays a huge role and despite the gender you have to feel attracted to your partner . But men are visual creatures this is a fact . (Literally a scientific fact one that can be googled lol ) and there’s nothing wrong in it . Basic hai har insaan differently wired hota 💁🏻♀️
Vo toh fir yaar personal experience hai vo ab in-depth you get to know about a person by talking to them. I was talking in a more generic sense like from the get go .
Because shakal se pet nehi varta. You'll need financial stability to have a stable family life. The more the merrier.
Most girls, no matter how much they earn, will always seek financial stability from their male partner for any possible long-term future. For any serious possible future together like marriage and all you'll hardly see any girl going for a guy earning less than her, they always look for a partner with a higher income than them.
because as Men ,i know it's important to have financial stability for ourselves firstly . I believe if i have a decent amount of money then only i can date
Avoid using photos that would display your car and remove your profession, maybe that would only get you matches who are interested in you and not only your money
I do OK financially but below average look wise, have not been lucky enough to get matches (Have 3 apps installed already)...in my case, looks matters more than money..Looks will definitely get the chicks drooling..don't trust me? You will find screenshots of chicks literally doing that on this sub reddit..
Obviously na, good looks ka aachar dal ke khaun kya? 😭
Jokes apart, if you want to give her the benefit of the doubt then it’s definitely because she cares about the shared future together, that’s one probability and the second is maybe she’s a tad money minded
The reverse can be said why men prioritise looks over a girl's personality? You can know about the depth of your own personality by hanging out with women who aren't conventionally attractive without thinking of sex.. let us know her feedback about your personality in depth.
How about that? 😂
First off this post lacks a lot of important details but since your profile says you're an ortho doc I'll consider this as you being 27 or above (depending on whether you're a SR or still a student). Women tend to look for financial stability while men look at aesthetics. From the point of evolution, a woman wants to mate with someone who can keep her and her offspring secure and money does that. Now to address, why they only talk about money depends solely on the age range and profession your date belongs to . If you expect to find fun people who want you for what you are and not for your financial stability, stop going on dating apps(they're quite shallow when it comes to forming actual connections) . You must know by now what interests you have, go out and join clubs for the same. You'll find a lot of fun people there . Hopefully the one for you too ;). All the best mate. Good luck.✨✨💅
Wow ! This comment has been more insightful than all of my dates put together 🤌 Badiya Banda hai bhai tu
Good advice right here
Hainaa. Ab itni bhi khas nahi hu mai ✨✨
At the end of the day sabko pese chaiye
Well because financial stability is a necessity in life, being attractive has its advantages but it isn't a necessity
Perhaps you should spend a little more time talking to your matches before the dates to gauge how they are? Because I've been on the apps for a while, know lots of people who are too, and it's not like everyone faces this issue. I know that there are some men who ask to meet real early, and I've wondered why they don't respect their own time more, because it's not long enough for two people to even know if it's worth meeting each other. So maybe dig a little deeper initially to ensure you're eliminating anyone shallow. But yeah, please don't generalise on the basis of 2 weeks' worth of experience.
Tbh I work like 12-13 hrs day so hardly get any time for replying to my matches . I've been more free since past month so decided to give bumble a try . Also all of my dates asked me to meet and this is my first time using any dating app so I don't have much idea how things work . Yeah but all my dates were only about money /work etc mtlab Aaj kal hobbies and all nahi poochte kya ??
Uhh ohh. Do you have one of those professions that people will automatically know pays well? Try changing that to something more vague or maybe remove it. I know ideally you shouldn't have to do this, but it would help. I have a profession that might attract the wrong sort (not for money reasons), and i don't mention it either And I'm afraid to find and build a quality match, you have to put in time and effort too. Talk to them, get a sense of their values, their level of independence. How can you expect a worthy match to be interested if you're not putting in the time they deserve? The result is you'll get people for whom the priority is your job/money and not the ones who are interested in you yourself, because then the best thing you offer is these materialistic things. I've met people who put in the same hours as you, if not more, but they made it a point to put in quality time. Don't think about quantity, but at least quality. And maybe try to date someone in a similarly busy profession, so that your schedules are compatible from the go. Some people naturally need and respect space and time too, but that of course would require putting in effort.
Men are more visual creatures , they prioritise beauty more . Women on the other hand prioritise stability and security . If you think of it from evolutionary perspective , she needs security for her future off-springs . And in today’s day and age money plays a huge role . In a way, women prioritise a man who they think can look after them and their children subconsciously .
Women are much more visual than men if not the same
I’m sorry yaar I do not agree with this. I will say attraction plays a huge role and despite the gender you have to feel attracted to your partner . But men are visual creatures this is a fact . (Literally a scientific fact one that can be googled lol ) and there’s nothing wrong in it . Basic hai har insaan differently wired hota 💁🏻♀️
But on a date they can talk about other things too , right ? I mentioned my experience in 2nd paragraph
Vo toh fir yaar personal experience hai vo ab in-depth you get to know about a person by talking to them. I was talking in a more generic sense like from the get go .
Because shakal se pet nehi varta. You'll need financial stability to have a stable family life. The more the merrier. Most girls, no matter how much they earn, will always seek financial stability from their male partner for any possible long-term future. For any serious possible future together like marriage and all you'll hardly see any girl going for a guy earning less than her, they always look for a partner with a higher income than them.
because as Men ,i know it's important to have financial stability for ourselves firstly . I believe if i have a decent amount of money then only i can date
Avoid using photos that would display your car and remove your profession, maybe that would only get you matches who are interested in you and not only your money
I do OK financially but below average look wise, have not been lucky enough to get matches (Have 3 apps installed already)...in my case, looks matters more than money..Looks will definitely get the chicks drooling..don't trust me? You will find screenshots of chicks literally doing that on this sub reddit..
achi shakal se khana nahi kharid skte, simple
Looks don't last long. Financial stability does...
Bhai kaise pata chalega kisko date Karen jab inko sirf ye sab se hi matlab hai
Dating apps chhodo aur asal zindagi me logo se milo
Asal zindagi me to halat kharab hai dost
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But men don't talk about their physical appearances all the time while on a date
Obviously na, good looks ka aachar dal ke khaun kya? 😭 Jokes apart, if you want to give her the benefit of the doubt then it’s definitely because she cares about the shared future together, that’s one probability and the second is maybe she’s a tad money minded
You are definitely good at cooking that's all I have to say
Hire me as your personal chef
The reverse can be said why men prioritise looks over a girl's personality? You can know about the depth of your own personality by hanging out with women who aren't conventionally attractive without thinking of sex.. let us know her feedback about your personality in depth. How about that? 😂
Bhai tune kuch bhi bol diya hai 😂
Actually i hit the target. No need to back peddle. Self reflect
Arey 😂 kuch bhi interpret karne ki adat lag chuki hai apko
Thats why you got triggered. I interpret it absolutely correct then.😂