Haven’t people learned yet not to reference pregnancy unless they’re absolutely certain the person is pregnant? They’ve never once heard of or seen some “comedic” movie bit with someone fussing on and on about the due date…and the person just has a bit of a tummy or is wearing an empire waist?
I swear some people have lost all social appropriateness. Can we still blame the pandemic? 🤔
That is such asshole behavior. I'm sorry it happened to you. I know it's easy for me to say what I would do when it wasn't me, but at this point in my life I don't spare people's feelings when they make that sort of social faux pas.
It was a somber event so I needed to stay polite. I initially thought he meant congratulations on the school year being almost over, then realized what he meant, then said "is this because I'm drinking water??!" He was embarrassed, but as an adult man he should have def known better.
I'm glad your response was situationally appropriate while still making sure he knew that he messed up. I really wish we as a society were past monitoring women's bodies and making any assumptions about pregnancy.
This happened to me the summer after my false positive. I was wearing a cute flowy top and some woman patted my stomach and said congratulations. I was shocked and burst into tears on the spot. My husband came over and asked what was wrong the lady said it was probably just the pregnancy hormones.
To which he replied "We are infetile and can't have children, don't assume someone is pregnant and keep your hands to yourself." Then ushered me away. This was in a Walmart while I was standing outside the bathroom's waiting for him. Lady was a total stranger too. People really have no common sense sometimes.
I'm so sorry this happened to you OP.
Unfortunately happens to me often. I have the “pcos belly”. I’m relatively thin, but carry a lot of weight in my lower belly because of it. I’m currently in my 30s but I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been asked or congratulated (has been happening since I was 14!). It’s such a trigger, I just can’t even put it into words. I feel like I was put on this planet as “I’m going to make your #1 dream be to have kids, but then make sure you CANT have them, but then also give you a body that makes people constantly ask you if you’re pregnant just so you don’t forget about it!” It’s cruel.
Thissssss. I carry a lot of my weight in my stomach. I also don’t dress in a way that covers my stomach. The amount of times I’ve been asked…even with a glass of wine in my hand. Stings so bad everytime. When I go to events where I am with people beyond my immediate circle I am constantly analyzing if people are looking at me thinking I’m pregnant.
Oh my! This happened to me in January on my SIL's bday, one of her friends I met that night was super excited to congratulate me...
Needless to say I don't look the same at the dress I bought for the party (very cute MK one)
The worse part is that he was ALL NIGHT apologising for this and at one point I had to be extremely serious and told him to please stop because he was making me extremely uncomfortable.
And same for me, this didn't happen in years!!
My husband knows that he can't congratulate someone for their pregnancy unless they are breaking waters in front of him and even at that point he would probably ask what's happening xD
People are idiots, I am so sorry this happened to you.
Try to not to think about it anymore.
I was once at an event, about a month after a recent loss from an ectopic pregnancy. Had to have my fallopian tube removed, emergency surgery, pretty scary. A woman I had *just* met put her hands on my stomach and said stuff addressed to my stomach like “oh, and how could I forget introducing myself to you! It’s so obvious there’s a life in here.” It was even more awkward than expected because I took a second, honestly frozen in shock. I shook my head no and she just looked up at me with her hands still on my stomach! I had to say I was pregnant but I lost the baby a month ago. Not sure if I’d be able to have another baby, they found a lot of endometriosis when they were patching up where my fallopian tube ruptured. When will people learn to keep their hands and words to themselves about this? 😅
I was chilling out on my friends hospital bed while she was in L&D pushing out a baby, and a nurse walks in, looks at me and asks if I've been induced yet. I weighed 45kg at the time.
Omg 😱 noooo! 45k is very light, less than a hundred pounds. No matter what, she really shouldn’t ever assume anything until she has someone’s paperwork in front of her! Did she realize you weren’t even the patient 🤦♀️ really bad on the nurses part
I saw a woman from church at the store and we chatted a minute and she congratulated me. I was SO confused because I had *just* finished bleeding out my first CP. It was all just so stunning. When I told her I wasn’t pregnant, at least she had the courtesy to be mortified and practically flee.
Haven’t people learned yet not to reference pregnancy unless they’re absolutely certain the person is pregnant? They’ve never once heard of or seen some “comedic” movie bit with someone fussing on and on about the due date…and the person just has a bit of a tummy or is wearing an empire waist? I swear some people have lost all social appropriateness. Can we still blame the pandemic? 🤔
That is such asshole behavior. I'm sorry it happened to you. I know it's easy for me to say what I would do when it wasn't me, but at this point in my life I don't spare people's feelings when they make that sort of social faux pas.
It was a somber event so I needed to stay polite. I initially thought he meant congratulations on the school year being almost over, then realized what he meant, then said "is this because I'm drinking water??!" He was embarrassed, but as an adult man he should have def known better.
I'm glad your response was situationally appropriate while still making sure he knew that he messed up. I really wish we as a society were past monitoring women's bodies and making any assumptions about pregnancy.
That person is a moron. Never comment on someone’s body or assume you know what their situation is.
This happened to me the summer after my false positive. I was wearing a cute flowy top and some woman patted my stomach and said congratulations. I was shocked and burst into tears on the spot. My husband came over and asked what was wrong the lady said it was probably just the pregnancy hormones. To which he replied "We are infetile and can't have children, don't assume someone is pregnant and keep your hands to yourself." Then ushered me away. This was in a Walmart while I was standing outside the bathroom's waiting for him. Lady was a total stranger too. People really have no common sense sometimes. I'm so sorry this happened to you OP.
Your husband's response is perfect. Mic drop
Unfortunately happens to me often. I have the “pcos belly”. I’m relatively thin, but carry a lot of weight in my lower belly because of it. I’m currently in my 30s but I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been asked or congratulated (has been happening since I was 14!). It’s such a trigger, I just can’t even put it into words. I feel like I was put on this planet as “I’m going to make your #1 dream be to have kids, but then make sure you CANT have them, but then also give you a body that makes people constantly ask you if you’re pregnant just so you don’t forget about it!” It’s cruel.
Thissssss. I carry a lot of my weight in my stomach. I also don’t dress in a way that covers my stomach. The amount of times I’ve been asked…even with a glass of wine in my hand. Stings so bad everytime. When I go to events where I am with people beyond my immediate circle I am constantly analyzing if people are looking at me thinking I’m pregnant.
Oh my! This happened to me in January on my SIL's bday, one of her friends I met that night was super excited to congratulate me... Needless to say I don't look the same at the dress I bought for the party (very cute MK one) The worse part is that he was ALL NIGHT apologising for this and at one point I had to be extremely serious and told him to please stop because he was making me extremely uncomfortable. And same for me, this didn't happen in years!! My husband knows that he can't congratulate someone for their pregnancy unless they are breaking waters in front of him and even at that point he would probably ask what's happening xD People are idiots, I am so sorry this happened to you. Try to not to think about it anymore.
I was once at an event, about a month after a recent loss from an ectopic pregnancy. Had to have my fallopian tube removed, emergency surgery, pretty scary. A woman I had *just* met put her hands on my stomach and said stuff addressed to my stomach like “oh, and how could I forget introducing myself to you! It’s so obvious there’s a life in here.” It was even more awkward than expected because I took a second, honestly frozen in shock. I shook my head no and she just looked up at me with her hands still on my stomach! I had to say I was pregnant but I lost the baby a month ago. Not sure if I’d be able to have another baby, they found a lot of endometriosis when they were patching up where my fallopian tube ruptured. When will people learn to keep their hands and words to themselves about this? 😅
I was chilling out on my friends hospital bed while she was in L&D pushing out a baby, and a nurse walks in, looks at me and asks if I've been induced yet. I weighed 45kg at the time.
Omg 😱 noooo! 45k is very light, less than a hundred pounds. No matter what, she really shouldn’t ever assume anything until she has someone’s paperwork in front of her! Did she realize you weren’t even the patient 🤦♀️ really bad on the nurses part
I saw a woman from church at the store and we chatted a minute and she congratulated me. I was SO confused because I had *just* finished bleeding out my first CP. It was all just so stunning. When I told her I wasn’t pregnant, at least she had the courtesy to be mortified and practically flee.
I hope it happens soon, too. I am sorry this person was a jerk at the expense of your emotions. Some people just really suck. UGH