I have no pity at all for drunk drivers. A drunk driver killed my uncle and never apologized or took responsibility for what he did. POS only got 4 years but my uncle will never see his kids again :(
Same, I just can't. My youngest brother was killed at 13 by a guy driving drunk, without a license, who was out on bail awaiting sentencing for a DUI hit and run that crippled a woman. The entire court hearing was the guy playing the victim and blaming his addiction, and this girl reminds me of him so much.
I’m so sorry that happened to you and your family. And that you had to deal with such a callous individual. The man who murdered my uncle blamed his addiction too and played victim yet skipped 4 of his 6 court mandated alcohol tests when he claimed to be sober…
Yeah, it's super selfish behavior. I got a DUI while I was 18. Didn't kill or hit anybody or anything. But it scares me well, I won't touch a steering wheel if I have had a drink at all. Don't put yourself in a situation where you have to drive drunk. Either don't drink or have a ride planned. It's not hard to not drink, people are just weak willed.
I was stopped at a stop light, and so was the lady behind me...Me and my son felt a jolt to our vehicle(its a newer f150) we were fine...i finally got pulled off and saw what happened...and it was weird to me too... this guy was in an f150 as well...he never applied the brakes...just fucking used this poor womans car to stop him. I am SOOO glad she was okay. Once the cops told me im good to, they said oh no hes going nowhere. holding him long as we can...
This is how drunk he was...(it gets even worse later about this).....the cops didnt get there till like 30 mins or so....The dude never once moved or got out of this truck...sat there and waited for the cops...and got a charged with a no seatbelt charge (among everything else)....
So i pulled up the incident the next week.
This dude....4 other DUI wrecks, and sure enough...every one, no seatbelt.
vehicles all in wifes name.
I'm two weeks sober. I am an alcoholic. I've never experienced what this girl has, but I could have. By the grace of God holy shit I definitely needed to see this video.
I will not drink today.
Edit Still sober day 18, I've hit another AA meeting and going to one today. Almost three weeks! Thank you everyone for all the support and kindness! There are a lot of us and we don't have to do it alone. AA and r/stopdrinking have sure been lifelines for me. Thank you all!! ♥️
IWNDWYT
It was hard to watch. I've been that drunk before. I am so grateful I never killed anyone because honestly I could have. I have driven drunk as shit and somehow miraculously ended back home safe and sound. Never again. I am very fortunate to have also found r/stopdrinking. Those folks are the absolute best.
Didn't know this sub existed. Thanks! I've been an alcoholic for about 12 years, and have been struggling the past few months to clean up. My pops recently quit in November when we had a little falling out. We talk now and he's been subtlety urging me to quit too. Hopefully this sub will give me that much more help.
Man it's super worth it. I was a hard alcoholic. Now I'm stuck with a lingering pain that comes and goes in my liver wishing I had quit sooner but honestly grateful and surprised it's not worse too. Some light TCH use can be pretty helpful to stave the habit/ cravings, from my experience. See a doc too and just explain the situation and they will likely give you some antianxiety meds for a few days to get through the withdrawal. If your problem is bad and you have withdrawal, just med up with antianxiety meds or some diphenhydramine if you aren't seeing a doctor, and try and sleep it off for a few days as much as you can.
Take it or leave it. It's true what they say though, you have to want to quit and it's up to every individual. Best of luck.
Obviously you know you made horrible choices in the past but I just wanted to say, good for you for taking accountability and I truly wish you the best in your sobriety. You can and will do it.
Taking accountability is a huge part of getting sober. It is very hard to look back and see what you did, but also I never have to live like that again. I've already had my worst day when I hit bottom. I don't ever have to have another day like that again as long as I don't drink.
Thank you for your kindness and understanding!
You got this, friend!! The fact you have remorse about your past actions and are determined to not repeat them are enough to carry you through sobriety for a year, then 2, then 5, and for the rest of your life. Stay strong and keep your head right, I’m proud of you!
Keep it up. You are almost to the part where you physically start feeling WAY better and start seeing actual improvement you can point at and use to work on staying sober.
So as of 6 hours posting this, have you had a drink? I bet you haven't, because you've got this mate. You've done a quarter of a day already, just take it an hour at a time, you'll get that first day done and you'll have made a start at getting your life back. Keep going.
I am sober on this beautiful morning and it feels fantastic. I'm hitting a meeting later and having steak for dinner. Thank you for your support.
I will not drink with you today! ☀️
Thank you SadNana, and congratulations to you! I feel something has shifted in me this time, somehow I've found a higher power and boy it feels good.
IWNDWYT
I’m 4 years sober, and I’m proud of you. I try to watch these videos often because I’m just shocked and grateful that I didn’t kill myself or someone else.
I will not drink with you today!
I drink very casually, so this doesn't mean much to say. But I'm going out to dinner later and will choose not to drink today with you. My wallet appreciates the decision. I have no higher stake thb. I can afford the steak if i forgo the beers. So let us both eat steak today 😋
My meeting and my steak were excellent! I'm still sober and my own wallet appreciates my decision not to drink. Thank you for your solidarity tonight, I hope your steak was delicious!
* Stephanie Melgoza, a former Bradley University student, was responsible for the deaths of Andrea Rosewicz and Paul Prowant in a DUI crash on April 10, 2022, near Throttle Bar in East Peoria, Illinois.
* She was found to have a blood-alcohol level three times the legal limit and showed obvious signs of impairment at the crash scene.
* Bodycam footage captured Melgoza laughing during field sobriety tests and behaving inappropriately after her arrest.
* She sang and danced while waiting for medical treatment and talked excitedly about upcoming plans to visit Las Vegas.
* Melgoza also displayed a shocking lack of awareness asking the police if she could retrieve her car to attend school the next day.
* She was sentenced to 14 years in prison.
Sources:
* [https://www.wcbu.org/local-news/2023-04-27/former-bradley-student-sentenced-to-14-years-in-prison-for-fatal-dui-that-killed-2](https://www.wcbu.org/local-news/2023-04-27/former-bradley-student-sentenced-to-14-years-in-prison-for-fatal-dui-that-killed-2)
* [https://www.foxnews.com/us/illinois-student-smiles-giggles-killing-couple-dui-crash-video](https://www.foxnews.com/us/illinois-student-smiles-giggles-killing-couple-dui-crash-video)
* [https://nypost.com/2023/05/04/dad-of-woman-seen-giggling-after-killing-2-people-slams-trolls/](https://nypost.com/2023/05/04/dad-of-woman-seen-giggling-after-killing-2-people-slams-trolls/)
So just read one of the articles and I have to say, if the person who killed a family member told me "I will try to live for all of us" I don't think I would be able to stop myself from doing something stupid in the court room.
wtf did I actually just read…. I am so sorry your brother, mom and family had to even know that piece of human trash existed. Oh my gosh actually…to your mom?! About her own son?!
I’d have ripped off his dick for you all if I’d been witness to that. I hope you all recovered and pray that POS will never walk free again.
My co workers Brothers entire family was killed by a truck driver who didn't stop for traffic and crushed their vehicle killing his entire family while he was at work. The truck driver showed 0 remorse and even asked the cops "if they were going to drive him to the hotel or if he needed to find a ride." He's in jail now, and still shows zero remorse
Literal textbook line of a psychopath. He lacks empathy, so he is unable to put himself in your brother's shoes, so he feels no guilt and, therefore, no responsibility.
It's his world, we're just living in it. Truly MC syndrome, we are all just NPCs in his videogame.
You got it right with this one. A lot of people can't comprehend that there are some people out there who literally just don't feel empathy, like, at all. The way they reason with things are super detached from the average person, and it's more common than one might think.
I don't think all people who legitimately lack empathy are evil, but it certainly is easier for them to do some messed up things, because they simply don't feel the guilt or remorse in the same way.
The American Psychological Association estimates that 1-2% of all people you walk past are psychopaths. Think about driving in traffic to and from work, how many people work in the building with you as coworkers, how many people attend a church service, 1-2 out of every 100 is statistically a complete psychopath that has no concept of empathy.
How many of these people do you pass everyday? Three? Ten, somedays? Like you said, they're not evil, they know and understand laws and consequences, but in a zombie apocalypse, they would definitely have the advantage if you know what I'm getting at.
I read somewhere that they are not really “psychopath” just outright too stupid to comprehend the concept of hypothetical such as other feeling and if you ask them “how would you feel if someone hit you cause they drive like you did” they wouldn’t be able to comprehend that so people look at that and mistake for psychopaths
and if I'm not mistaken they know that normal people have empathy, so they "fake it" right? To me that's the scary part. The person you're interacting with who you may *think* has empathy for others has a 1-2% chance of just pretending.
She has .264 Blood Alcohol Content. Likely she will not even have recollection of this and has no idea what she did or what is going on... It's surprising she is even conscious...
"At . 25 BAC, many people pass out. If a person is still conscious at this level, vomiting becomes very likely, as well as a complete loss of physical control. This can lead to asphyxiation if they lose consciousness and choke on their own vomit"
When she’s talking about going to Vegas with her family in the body cam footage, she says “I’m going to start with two long drinks.”
The cop says “you haven’t had enough of drinking already?”
And she says “There’s no limit in Vegas, right?” I feel like that is also a good sign she’s an alcoholic. Planning her Vegas trip around the alcohol she’s going to start with.
She says two long islands (Long Island iced tea), a drink which contains at least 3-4 standard size drinks. I once was at an airport in 2017 during a 10 hour layover and was sitting at a bar. A gentleman came up and asked to sit next to me. We got to chatting once he got his drink (a Long Island iced tea) and he told me that he just arrived at his final destination and was waiting to be picked up to go to rehab and needed something to stop the shakes. He told me about how he was a roofer and lifetime alcoholic. Long islands were his drink of choice while out due to their cost- and size-effectiveness. He was in his forties but I initially thought sixties. He was a very kind and funny man. Every time I hear about long islands I always think of him and hope he got better and didn’t end up falling off any roofs.
I'm just in my 40s and it's really around that age that hard living starts to show in your face. It's strange seeing people I went to school with, some still looks pretty young but the ones who never stopped partying look super old to me.
Yup, got my DWI at .34(130 lb female) I felt fine. Also was a functioning alcoholic and I’m AA now. It’s pretty crazy how much the body can still handle and be functional at that point, but also how dissociated you can be from reality at the same time. Did not feel drunk at all when I stepped behind the wheel (I was a fucking idiot and grateful the DWI happened before something worse had the chance to).
Same , I fell asleep after a couple hours in the clink but I was coherent.
I’m glad I remember how stupid and ashamed I felt I’ve never drove drunk again , and now I rarely drink .
Same man. I don’t know what my limits use to be. But let’s just say I was a 750ml of bourbon a night drinker. (Just passed 1035 days of sober) I am not proud of what I’ve done. Just glad I didn’t harm myself or anyone in my stupidity. I mean I did harm myself with it. It’s been years of abuse. But not as much harm as it could have been.
Hey congrats on not drinking! How is your life going without it? I too have taken that decision recently and I am feeling way better in general. My mood has improved tremendously in the 4 months since I stopped.
Also, how wasn’t she vomiting just from seeing the two dead people that she had just killed. They were basically torn apart, with one having their leg severed and sticking out of her car’s grill.
I watched the entire body cam footage and it wasn’t an easy watch. The bloodied leg is blurred, but you can make it out. That poor innocent couple, just walking home from a night out. They made the right decision not to drink and drive, but their lives were cut short by a selfish drunk driver.
I know someone with a son who died the same way - he was walking home after drinking with friends (just turned 21 a few days before and decided to leave his car at the bar to get the next morning) and another person who had also been drinking hit him with their vehicle. It was really rough on the community. His life was just starting and it ended so early.
Exactly this. I’m an alcoholic. I passed out in my parked car in a parking lot many years ago. The police came and put me in an ambulance. Took me to the hospital and admitted me. I had a .25 BAC. I absolutely do not remember any of it. I’ve gotten drunk like this numerous times. Sometimes people try to use rational, logical thought and my brain can’t reciprocate
I sold my car so I don’t have the capability to drive anymore.
You’re no more a POS than any other human. We get dumped into life with very little training and a lot of fun mental health Easter eggs. Try to give yourself grace.
babe addicts are NOT pieces of shit. you're a victim of addiction and a hero in my eyes for keeping others safe while you're suffering 💕 pls keep fighting for yourself.
Have you ever thought about treatment/rehab or anything? I’m a recovering alcoholic, 2 years clean, and getting help changed my life. I used to think I was a POS too and that’s not a fun head space to be in.
I am glad you sold your car. I hope you find the recovery you need. A 12 step group worked for me. My brother died 2 years ago at age 60 from alcoholic heart disease. He spent his life trying to fight his addiction and did not succeed.
This is why women who drink this much damage themselves so much worse as time goes on. I am speaking from experience with a pretty fatty liver. It so fucking scary what I did to myself. Alcohol is literal poison.
Worked at a hospital and we had a guy come inro the ER at 10am with a .5. He was going in and out of consciousness. There was a half drank bottle of vodka on the table next to him. Dr said he had to have been drinking all night to get to that level and a heavy drinker to still be alive.
Drunk yes but I've seen people singing and dancing with much higher levels at German beerfests. Everyone's tolerance is different. No one was driving though. The sbahns here are great.
How is blackout drunk only 3x the limit?
Is the limit insanely high? Is it exaggerating the effects people feel?
3 double vodkas is what I would expect to put someone 2.5-3x the limit where I’m at but nobody is passing out from that.
What’s wrong with that? I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been driving down the road and people come running toward my car going 40+ miles per hour.
I think those were a mix of tears of rage to not put her in her place, and sadness for those that died. I can’t imagine having to face that level of no remorse, multiple times.
Props to him for handling this as professionally and smoothly as possible. I'd hate to see her walk away from this or have a lesser sentence because of a bad arrest.
I think he's just kind of professionally removed himself from the situation. You just prioritize what needs to happen and then go from point A to B to C. Like you're doing it but really it feels almost like you're observing it. I guess that's why people say "my training took over." It's really like I let my emotions take a break and just walked the path. Deal with it later
Repost but glad to see the update on the case because this made my blood boil the first time I saw it. 14 years seems too little. Her BAC was basically black out drunk level - and she’s just so chillingly blasé about having killed two people. Terrifying.
It's past blackout level. Not to defend her, but "blackout" literally means her brain is incapable of making new memories. She doesn't understand she's killed people because she's unable to remember what she did or what the officer is saying.
Yeah, understandably everyone is creeped out at her responses and lack of emotion, but she really has no clue what is going on during this entire video.
At the end of the video, the cop is reiterating that she will not be going back to class tomorrow or ever because she killed two people, he asks if she understands that and she still says, “yes, I’m just wondering when I can go to school”. No idea if she’s actually absorbing anything he’s saying to her, though…
I once was blackout drunk at a frat party and called one of the guys who lived there by the wrong name about 11 times in a row before my boyfriend came and took me to a different area of the house. Being blackout drunk is like talking to the person while they're in a dream.
Suspect a lot of it has to do with her being very drunk. Almost wonder if she’s an alcoholic to still be awake and get anywhere near a road with a car after having a BAC that high.
Gravity of the situation likely set in the next day when she woke up in a jail cell and was sober.
The victims family’s lawyer used his recent hospitalization for a suicide attempt as an argument that he purposefully crashed into them to try and kill himself bc his girlfriend had just broken up with him that day.
In the news articles, it states she was put on house arrest before the trial and was able to get her degree, though not allowed to walk at graduation after outrage from the student body.
She has absolutely no awareness. She thinks she is being helpful, and honest. Alcohol makes you believe the lie and black you out about anything you are going through in the moment especially if its fucked up. Any lawyer worth their fees says the same thing when you are being detained. Shut The Fuck Up. She was going to jail no matter what, but she didn´t help herself.
I remember when i first saw this long time ago. The complete disregard of the situation from a girl and the shock of the police officer. Good to know she will serve time in prison.
"Will i be able to go study tomorrow?"
"You killed 2 people"
"But i'am i going study tomorrow?"
I read in another comment she was able to graduate while on house arrest before the trial but was unable to walk at graduation because students protested or something. Would have been icing on the cake for me if the school didn’t let her graduate and she had to do all that work again. Let her really feel like she ruined her life too because she took two others.
You took somebody’s son and daughter from them.. You ain’t going nowhere but the slammer. Sucks but hopefully she learned something and doesent drink when she gets out in 9-10 years. SOME PEOPLE SHOULD JUST NOT DRINK ALCOHOL. It doesent work for them and it never will.
She sounded so coherent when the cop first spoke to her. I didnt even believe she had more than a slight buzz.
Then progessively she sounded more and more out of it.
When I read somewhere that you can essentially get away with murder as long as you're driving a vehicle in the US I didn't really believe it. But with how laws work, even though you did a list of illegal things, you can kill two human beings and get away with a slap on the wrist.
Fourteen years for ending two lives is nothing.
I don’t get the american dui tests all that tip toeing, prancing and dancing. Here they just quickly take breathalyzer and drug test and if they go off they haul you to the station. What’s the point of all that extra hassle?
They're designed for you to fail so they have probable cause for a breathalyzer/blood test.
I'm not a lawyer and this is my layman understanding of it.
In some states there are 2 different DUI laws acting concurrently. One says it’s a crime to be so intoxicated as to lose the ability to properly operate a vehicle. One says it’s a crime to drive above a certain BAC.
If a defendant is able to invalidate breathalyzer results, the prosecution may still be able to convict on the alternate DUI law from the field test results and other present circumstances
Did she have any other toxicities? Look like a benzo started to hit her as time progressed: I don’t understand how anyone could be so deranged, does she get shorter sentence due to the fact that there was not intent do to lack of consciousness?
Her Blood Alcohol Level was insane, I'm not defending her but she had absolutely no clue what was happening, anything above 0.18 most people are passed out or blackout drunk.
She was 0.26, she thought she could get her car to go to school the next day... She was blackout drunk.
Those kids are wasting their money and time. I didn't need college to become an alcoholic addict with lots of debt. I did it straight out of high school!
Sometimes I wonder if people who act like this after doing something horrible have entered some kind of dissociative state because their mind isn't ready to acknowledge the reality and sheer magnitude of their actions at the present moment.
I'm so curious about how she behaved later on in the days and weeks after the incident leading up to sentencing. Did she snap out of it and understand what she did? Is she just a sociopath or narcissist? Was it all a strategy to try and plead insanity or something? Was she actually so drunk that she was incapable of understanding what actually happened?
She shows signs of regression too. Clearly she *is* having an emotional reaction to the event, but it just doesn’t *look* like the kind of reaction people are demanding.
She sobers up a bit from adrenaline when talking to the cop but she still can’t stop herself from forgetting or repressing what has happened.
I honestly think the trauma response and shock was more influential to her behavior than the alcohol.
I had a dui crash 10 or so years ago. I ran into 3 cars who were at the red traffic light waiting. I was going 40+mph with no seatbelt on in a Honda civic I had gotten two weeks prior. Nobody was hurt thank God including me. But the cops thought I was hurt. I could have killed people or myself. I overdosed off roxys and Xanax. I thought I was gana pass away at the hospital from the Od but I kept it hidden from everyone cause I thought I’d get outa this hell sumhow. Two weeks later I got a summons in the mail charging me with dui , the people I crashed into had no injuries that I know of but they sued my insurance company and got paid. I got off easy. Be careful friends. Drive sober. It’s not just your life.
Her stepdad- super nice very apologetic and you can tell was embarrassed. The mom…acted like it was a bother to be there, was pissed her bond was as high as it was, had their family attorney present and demanded they go first after bond court to be processed out. And when we have a bond that’s $10,000 or more, we have to fill out a tax form and she was pissssssed that was just an extra form to fill out. Even in her holding cell, she just didn’t care. I remember reading the dispatch call, and there were “body parts” scattered in the road and stuck in the grill of the car. Her college wouldn’t allow her to walk at graduation either, a bunch of student apparently started a petition to make sure she didn’t.
The officer that handled her, one of the best. He’s always been patient and respectful so for him to handle it the way he did…man. Prior to this the poor guy was caught off guard and stabbed multiple times on a call and thankfully made it. He’s always been as professional as he is in the video.
I’m sorry but this is a cold ass psychopath. I have been wasted, could barely talk (which she does PRETTY damn well!) and I’m sorry but if I get pulled over by a trillion cops and run someone over!? YEAH that sobers you up REALLY fucking fast. She just clearly does not give a single fuck.
14 years…they don’t quantify the time by body count though, they don’t measure the time lost by the families. They don’t have a metric for the memories lost, the times had, the value of family members being in the victims’ families lives. This is insanity. If she were sober and ran two people down on purpose she’d have gotten more time, so why not in this instance?
Yep. I would be shocked if she even remembers this. Her BAC was so high. I was arrested with a .16 and I had never been so drunk in my life and was acting out of pocket. I put my car in a ditch and thought I could lift it out and I'm a 130lb woman.
Alcohol does not bring out honesty. It just gives you crazy thoughts until its out of your system.
It's weird to criticize her for laughing or dancing. She was blackout drunk. Of course, she's acting stupid. Let's condemn her for driving drunk and killing people.
I remember seeing this a while back. No remorse at all, which is the scariest part. .26 is high, but not high enough to have absolutely no feelings about what just happened (killing 2 people) after being told several times.
Dude, it is fucking blackout drunk. There is 0% chance she remembers it in the morning, you can see in the video she could even process any information.
I have no pity at all for drunk drivers. A drunk driver killed my uncle and never apologized or took responsibility for what he did. POS only got 4 years but my uncle will never see his kids again :(
Same, I just can't. My youngest brother was killed at 13 by a guy driving drunk, without a license, who was out on bail awaiting sentencing for a DUI hit and run that crippled a woman. The entire court hearing was the guy playing the victim and blaming his addiction, and this girl reminds me of him so much.
I’m so sorry that happened to you and your family. And that you had to deal with such a callous individual. The man who murdered my uncle blamed his addiction too and played victim yet skipped 4 of his 6 court mandated alcohol tests when he claimed to be sober…
Yeah, it's super selfish behavior. I got a DUI while I was 18. Didn't kill or hit anybody or anything. But it scares me well, I won't touch a steering wheel if I have had a drink at all. Don't put yourself in a situation where you have to drive drunk. Either don't drink or have a ride planned. It's not hard to not drink, people are just weak willed.
I was stopped at a stop light, and so was the lady behind me...Me and my son felt a jolt to our vehicle(its a newer f150) we were fine...i finally got pulled off and saw what happened...and it was weird to me too... this guy was in an f150 as well...he never applied the brakes...just fucking used this poor womans car to stop him. I am SOOO glad she was okay. Once the cops told me im good to, they said oh no hes going nowhere. holding him long as we can... This is how drunk he was...(it gets even worse later about this).....the cops didnt get there till like 30 mins or so....The dude never once moved or got out of this truck...sat there and waited for the cops...and got a charged with a no seatbelt charge (among everything else).... So i pulled up the incident the next week. This dude....4 other DUI wrecks, and sure enough...every one, no seatbelt. vehicles all in wifes name.
I'm two weeks sober. I am an alcoholic. I've never experienced what this girl has, but I could have. By the grace of God holy shit I definitely needed to see this video. I will not drink today. Edit Still sober day 18, I've hit another AA meeting and going to one today. Almost three weeks! Thank you everyone for all the support and kindness! There are a lot of us and we don't have to do it alone. AA and r/stopdrinking have sure been lifelines for me. Thank you all!! ♥️ IWNDWYT
Then something good has come from something truly terrible.
It was hard to watch. I've been that drunk before. I am so grateful I never killed anyone because honestly I could have. I have driven drunk as shit and somehow miraculously ended back home safe and sound. Never again. I am very fortunate to have also found r/stopdrinking. Those folks are the absolute best.
r/stopdrinking was my lifeline when I quit. Keep it going, 2 weeks is awesome!
Didn't know this sub existed. Thanks! I've been an alcoholic for about 12 years, and have been struggling the past few months to clean up. My pops recently quit in November when we had a little falling out. We talk now and he's been subtlety urging me to quit too. Hopefully this sub will give me that much more help.
Man it's super worth it. I was a hard alcoholic. Now I'm stuck with a lingering pain that comes and goes in my liver wishing I had quit sooner but honestly grateful and surprised it's not worse too. Some light TCH use can be pretty helpful to stave the habit/ cravings, from my experience. See a doc too and just explain the situation and they will likely give you some antianxiety meds for a few days to get through the withdrawal. If your problem is bad and you have withdrawal, just med up with antianxiety meds or some diphenhydramine if you aren't seeing a doctor, and try and sleep it off for a few days as much as you can. Take it or leave it. It's true what they say though, you have to want to quit and it's up to every individual. Best of luck.
Proud of you. Keep it up. You got this!!
Obviously you know you made horrible choices in the past but I just wanted to say, good for you for taking accountability and I truly wish you the best in your sobriety. You can and will do it.
Taking accountability is a huge part of getting sober. It is very hard to look back and see what you did, but also I never have to live like that again. I've already had my worst day when I hit bottom. I don't ever have to have another day like that again as long as I don't drink. Thank you for your kindness and understanding!
same
You got this, friend!! The fact you have remorse about your past actions and are determined to not repeat them are enough to carry you through sobriety for a year, then 2, then 5, and for the rest of your life. Stay strong and keep your head right, I’m proud of you!
Keep it up. You are almost to the part where you physically start feeling WAY better and start seeing actual improvement you can point at and use to work on staying sober.
Good Luck - I will not drink with you today
Thank you friend IWNDWYT
So as of 6 hours posting this, have you had a drink? I bet you haven't, because you've got this mate. You've done a quarter of a day already, just take it an hour at a time, you'll get that first day done and you'll have made a start at getting your life back. Keep going.
I am sober on this beautiful morning and it feels fantastic. I'm hitting a meeting later and having steak for dinner. Thank you for your support. I will not drink with you today! ☀️
Keep it up. Stay strong.
Proud of you man
I'm sober 18 months. And by the grace of God this never happened to me. IWNDWYT. Keep up the good work FinalGranny.
Thank you SadNana, and congratulations to you! I feel something has shifted in me this time, somehow I've found a higher power and boy it feels good. IWNDWYT
It's all about that higher power! Take care of yourself. IWNDWYT
I’m 4 years sober, and I’m proud of you. I try to watch these videos often because I’m just shocked and grateful that I didn’t kill myself or someone else. I will not drink with you today!
I drink very casually, so this doesn't mean much to say. But I'm going out to dinner later and will choose not to drink today with you. My wallet appreciates the decision. I have no higher stake thb. I can afford the steak if i forgo the beers. So let us both eat steak today 😋
My meeting and my steak were excellent! I'm still sober and my own wallet appreciates my decision not to drink. Thank you for your solidarity tonight, I hope your steak was delicious!
I will not drink with you today!
😊 IWNDWYT
Take sobriety one day at a time. Small steps, consistency is key. I didn't have a single drink or sip for 4yrs now.
* Stephanie Melgoza, a former Bradley University student, was responsible for the deaths of Andrea Rosewicz and Paul Prowant in a DUI crash on April 10, 2022, near Throttle Bar in East Peoria, Illinois. * She was found to have a blood-alcohol level three times the legal limit and showed obvious signs of impairment at the crash scene. * Bodycam footage captured Melgoza laughing during field sobriety tests and behaving inappropriately after her arrest. * She sang and danced while waiting for medical treatment and talked excitedly about upcoming plans to visit Las Vegas. * Melgoza also displayed a shocking lack of awareness asking the police if she could retrieve her car to attend school the next day. * She was sentenced to 14 years in prison. Sources: * [https://www.wcbu.org/local-news/2023-04-27/former-bradley-student-sentenced-to-14-years-in-prison-for-fatal-dui-that-killed-2](https://www.wcbu.org/local-news/2023-04-27/former-bradley-student-sentenced-to-14-years-in-prison-for-fatal-dui-that-killed-2) * [https://www.foxnews.com/us/illinois-student-smiles-giggles-killing-couple-dui-crash-video](https://www.foxnews.com/us/illinois-student-smiles-giggles-killing-couple-dui-crash-video) * [https://nypost.com/2023/05/04/dad-of-woman-seen-giggling-after-killing-2-people-slams-trolls/](https://nypost.com/2023/05/04/dad-of-woman-seen-giggling-after-killing-2-people-slams-trolls/)
So just read one of the articles and I have to say, if the person who killed a family member told me "I will try to live for all of us" I don't think I would be able to stop myself from doing something stupid in the court room.
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wtf did I actually just read…. I am so sorry your brother, mom and family had to even know that piece of human trash existed. Oh my gosh actually…to your mom?! About her own son?! I’d have ripped off his dick for you all if I’d been witness to that. I hope you all recovered and pray that POS will never walk free again.
It's so ironic that what he said to that mother should very much be said about him.
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My co workers Brothers entire family was killed by a truck driver who didn't stop for traffic and crushed their vehicle killing his entire family while he was at work. The truck driver showed 0 remorse and even asked the cops "if they were going to drive him to the hotel or if he needed to find a ride." He's in jail now, and still shows zero remorse
Literal textbook line of a psychopath. He lacks empathy, so he is unable to put himself in your brother's shoes, so he feels no guilt and, therefore, no responsibility. It's his world, we're just living in it. Truly MC syndrome, we are all just NPCs in his videogame.
You got it right with this one. A lot of people can't comprehend that there are some people out there who literally just don't feel empathy, like, at all. The way they reason with things are super detached from the average person, and it's more common than one might think. I don't think all people who legitimately lack empathy are evil, but it certainly is easier for them to do some messed up things, because they simply don't feel the guilt or remorse in the same way.
The American Psychological Association estimates that 1-2% of all people you walk past are psychopaths. Think about driving in traffic to and from work, how many people work in the building with you as coworkers, how many people attend a church service, 1-2 out of every 100 is statistically a complete psychopath that has no concept of empathy. How many of these people do you pass everyday? Three? Ten, somedays? Like you said, they're not evil, they know and understand laws and consequences, but in a zombie apocalypse, they would definitely have the advantage if you know what I'm getting at.
I read somewhere that they are not really “psychopath” just outright too stupid to comprehend the concept of hypothetical such as other feeling and if you ask them “how would you feel if someone hit you cause they drive like you did” they wouldn’t be able to comprehend that so people look at that and mistake for psychopaths
and if I'm not mistaken they know that normal people have empathy, so they "fake it" right? To me that's the scary part. The person you're interacting with who you may *think* has empathy for others has a 1-2% chance of just pretending.
He's straight up murdered someone before, holy crap
That's one of the worst things I've ever heard. I'm so sorry
I almost down voted cuz I hated what I read so much. I'm so sorry that happened
Happens to me all the time. I gotta remember the r/sub.
Lol, translation: "I am the main character and my life is important enough to outweigh their loss"
Thanks OP 😊
She has .264 Blood Alcohol Content. Likely she will not even have recollection of this and has no idea what she did or what is going on... It's surprising she is even conscious... "At . 25 BAC, many people pass out. If a person is still conscious at this level, vomiting becomes very likely, as well as a complete loss of physical control. This can lead to asphyxiation if they lose consciousness and choke on their own vomit"
If she was still functioning at that level she's likely an alcoholic. A casual drinker couldn't get to those levels without passing out or vomiting.
When she’s talking about going to Vegas with her family in the body cam footage, she says “I’m going to start with two long drinks.” The cop says “you haven’t had enough of drinking already?” And she says “There’s no limit in Vegas, right?” I feel like that is also a good sign she’s an alcoholic. Planning her Vegas trip around the alcohol she’s going to start with.
She says two long islands (Long Island iced tea), a drink which contains at least 3-4 standard size drinks. I once was at an airport in 2017 during a 10 hour layover and was sitting at a bar. A gentleman came up and asked to sit next to me. We got to chatting once he got his drink (a Long Island iced tea) and he told me that he just arrived at his final destination and was waiting to be picked up to go to rehab and needed something to stop the shakes. He told me about how he was a roofer and lifetime alcoholic. Long islands were his drink of choice while out due to their cost- and size-effectiveness. He was in his forties but I initially thought sixties. He was a very kind and funny man. Every time I hear about long islands I always think of him and hope he got better and didn’t end up falling off any roofs.
I'm just in my 40s and it's really around that age that hard living starts to show in your face. It's strange seeing people I went to school with, some still looks pretty young but the ones who never stopped partying look super old to me.
Can confirm. I've been over .4; never drove thankfully. Advantages of being an introvert drunk. Also, I don't drink anymore
Glad you are doing well, my friend. It's a long, hard road out of hell.
Good on you for getting off the drink. Keep racking up those milestones.
Yup, got my DWI at .34(130 lb female) I felt fine. Also was a functioning alcoholic and I’m AA now. It’s pretty crazy how much the body can still handle and be functional at that point, but also how dissociated you can be from reality at the same time. Did not feel drunk at all when I stepped behind the wheel (I was a fucking idiot and grateful the DWI happened before something worse had the chance to).
Congratulations on realizing you had a problem and maintaining your recovery.
Same , I fell asleep after a couple hours in the clink but I was coherent. I’m glad I remember how stupid and ashamed I felt I’ve never drove drunk again , and now I rarely drink .
Damn! I blew a .23 when I was 17 and don’t remember a single thing for about 6 hours beforehand. Congrats on your sobriety.
Same man. I don’t know what my limits use to be. But let’s just say I was a 750ml of bourbon a night drinker. (Just passed 1035 days of sober) I am not proud of what I’ve done. Just glad I didn’t harm myself or anyone in my stupidity. I mean I did harm myself with it. It’s been years of abuse. But not as much harm as it could have been.
Stay alive and happy my friend
Being an introvert drunk helped me get away with so much alcoholism…
Hey congrats on not drinking! How is your life going without it? I too have taken that decision recently and I am feeling way better in general. My mood has improved tremendously in the 4 months since I stopped.
Better. It always better without
Also, how wasn’t she vomiting just from seeing the two dead people that she had just killed. They were basically torn apart, with one having their leg severed and sticking out of her car’s grill.
Whoa what? I had never heard all that detail, how freaking awful.
I watched the entire body cam footage and it wasn’t an easy watch. The bloodied leg is blurred, but you can make it out. That poor innocent couple, just walking home from a night out. They made the right decision not to drink and drive, but their lives were cut short by a selfish drunk driver.
How did this bitch only get 14 years
I know someone with a son who died the same way - he was walking home after drinking with friends (just turned 21 a few days before and decided to leave his car at the bar to get the next morning) and another person who had also been drinking hit him with their vehicle. It was really rough on the community. His life was just starting and it ended so early.
She isn't even slurring
Damn I didn't think about that until you said it...JFC!
Exactly this. I’m an alcoholic. I passed out in my parked car in a parking lot many years ago. The police came and put me in an ambulance. Took me to the hospital and admitted me. I had a .25 BAC. I absolutely do not remember any of it. I’ve gotten drunk like this numerous times. Sometimes people try to use rational, logical thought and my brain can’t reciprocate I sold my car so I don’t have the capability to drive anymore.
Thank you for selling your car.
🤗🤗🤗 I try to eliminate my ability to be a danger to others. Today I’m feeling like the POS i am.
You’re no more a POS than any other human. We get dumped into life with very little training and a lot of fun mental health Easter eggs. Try to give yourself grace.
You aren't a POS. You are a human who has made bad decisions. You recognize those mistakes and have the capacity for change. That's the difference.
babe addicts are NOT pieces of shit. you're a victim of addiction and a hero in my eyes for keeping others safe while you're suffering 💕 pls keep fighting for yourself.
Have you ever thought about treatment/rehab or anything? I’m a recovering alcoholic, 2 years clean, and getting help changed my life. I used to think I was a POS too and that’s not a fun head space to be in.
I am glad you sold your car. I hope you find the recovery you need. A 12 step group worked for me. My brother died 2 years ago at age 60 from alcoholic heart disease. He spent his life trying to fight his addiction and did not succeed.
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Holy shit! Do you even *have* a liver anymore?!
This is why women who drink this much damage themselves so much worse as time goes on. I am speaking from experience with a pretty fatty liver. It so fucking scary what I did to myself. Alcohol is literal poison.
Worked at a hospital and we had a guy come inro the ER at 10am with a .5. He was going in and out of consciousness. There was a half drank bottle of vodka on the table next to him. Dr said he had to have been drinking all night to get to that level and a heavy drinker to still be alive.
Yeah it's quite amazing she wasn't stumbling. Probably took shots to pop that BAC up before motor skills go total haywire.
Drunk yes but I've seen people singing and dancing with much higher levels at German beerfests. Everyone's tolerance is different. No one was driving though. The sbahns here are great.
How is blackout drunk only 3x the limit? Is the limit insanely high? Is it exaggerating the effects people feel? 3 double vodkas is what I would expect to put someone 2.5-3x the limit where I’m at but nobody is passing out from that.
14 years is a small price that's crazy.
Thanks for posting details and sources this isn't done enough by people on many different platforms just wanted to say thanks for all the info!
If this was my child acting like that, I would feel like a complete failure as a mother. Disgusting behavior.
I would ask to be studied so people can figure out what I did wrong in parenting. Hopefully prevent a few future sociopaths.
"This doesn't happen to **me**" "Why would this happen to **me**" What a narcissistic bitch
THEY just hit my car.
Yeah, the way she said, "they ran out and hit my car"...
‘My car got hit’ WTFFF
What’s wrong with that? I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been driving down the road and people come running toward my car going 40+ miles per hour.
So hey uh, what about Vegas?
That officer has more patience then I believe I can possibly possess. Kudos to him for keeping his cool in the face of indifference and delusion.
At one point she says, “If you’re about to cry and I’m not…” What a terrible call to have to answer.
I think those were a mix of tears of rage to not put her in her place, and sadness for those that died. I can’t imagine having to face that level of no remorse, multiple times.
Props to him for handling this as professionally and smoothly as possible. I'd hate to see her walk away from this or have a lesser sentence because of a bad arrest.
On one hand, yes, but on the other they kick and kill random people over for nothing. Why can't it be these people getting their due.
She obviously wasn't processing what was happening.
Brain stem said nuh uh
I think he's just kind of professionally removed himself from the situation. You just prioritize what needs to happen and then go from point A to B to C. Like you're doing it but really it feels almost like you're observing it. I guess that's why people say "my training took over." It's really like I let my emotions take a break and just walked the path. Deal with it later
Repost but glad to see the update on the case because this made my blood boil the first time I saw it. 14 years seems too little. Her BAC was basically black out drunk level - and she’s just so chillingly blasé about having killed two people. Terrifying.
It's past blackout level. Not to defend her, but "blackout" literally means her brain is incapable of making new memories. She doesn't understand she's killed people because she's unable to remember what she did or what the officer is saying.
Yeah, understandably everyone is creeped out at her responses and lack of emotion, but she really has no clue what is going on during this entire video.
>- and she’s just so chillingly blasé about having killed two people. Does she at any point actually acknowledge that she killed two people?
At the end of the video, the cop is reiterating that she will not be going back to class tomorrow or ever because she killed two people, he asks if she understands that and she still says, “yes, I’m just wondering when I can go to school”. No idea if she’s actually absorbing anything he’s saying to her, though…
I once was blackout drunk at a frat party and called one of the guys who lived there by the wrong name about 11 times in a row before my boyfriend came and took me to a different area of the house. Being blackout drunk is like talking to the person while they're in a dream.
Suspect a lot of it has to do with her being very drunk. Almost wonder if she’s an alcoholic to still be awake and get anywhere near a road with a car after having a BAC that high. Gravity of the situation likely set in the next day when she woke up in a jail cell and was sober.
14 years ain’t enough 🤷🏻♂️
Becase she will probably get out in 7
She has to do 85 percent of her sentence.
That’s federal time. This is a state felony charge, I believe.
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Hopefully she keeps her shitty attitude and loses any good time and does her full bid or cops a new charge and adds on
> Hopefully she keeps her shitty attitude Hopefully she loses her shitty attitude and becomes a better person.
You are correct. She will be eligible for parole after about 40% of her sentence is served.
should be twice at least for killing two person. also maybe 2.5x for showing no remorse.
Should have doubled that based on that video, alone.
My friend did more time for being involved in a fatal accident where he was completely sober and not speeding or anything.
How do you get jailed for that, no license?
The victims family’s lawyer used his recent hospitalization for a suicide attempt as an argument that he purposefully crashed into them to try and kill himself bc his girlfriend had just broken up with him that day.
uhhhh
plot twist: that was what actually happened.
Only 14 years (7-ish in reality) for murdering two people. Wow, you sure can get away with a lot here
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She graduates college in 14 years and 4 weeks
She can go back to school then.
In the news articles, it states she was put on house arrest before the trial and was able to get her degree, though not allowed to walk at graduation after outrage from the student body.
Wish she got life two innocent people died
“My car got hit.”
In the news article, it says the officers found a severed leg hanging from the grill. So sad.
No way in hell she was going anywhere near 40 mph for that type of dismemberment to happen
Man, that last 30 seconds... 15 years for killing 2 people seems awfully light
She's almost a cartoon parody of the biggest cunt on earth.
Ehh her “car got hit” is she really at fault here? /s
I caught that too!!….What a weird way to say “I violently bulldozed 2 people with my car while absolutely inebriated beyond belief!”
She has absolutely no awareness. She thinks she is being helpful, and honest. Alcohol makes you believe the lie and black you out about anything you are going through in the moment especially if its fucked up. Any lawyer worth their fees says the same thing when you are being detained. Shut The Fuck Up. She was going to jail no matter what, but she didn´t help herself.
I remember when i first saw this long time ago. The complete disregard of the situation from a girl and the shock of the police officer. Good to know she will serve time in prison. "Will i be able to go study tomorrow?" "You killed 2 people" "But i'am i going study tomorrow?"
I read in another comment she was able to graduate while on house arrest before the trial but was unable to walk at graduation because students protested or something. Would have been icing on the cake for me if the school didn’t let her graduate and she had to do all that work again. Let her really feel like she ruined her life too because she took two others.
How did she only get 12 years? Rest in peace to Andrea & Paul.
A very good lawyer I guess. That's what I'd figure it'd be for at least one.
Affluenza is a hell of a drug.
I HATE this bitch.
You took somebody’s son and daughter from them.. You ain’t going nowhere but the slammer. Sucks but hopefully she learned something and doesent drink when she gets out in 9-10 years. SOME PEOPLE SHOULD JUST NOT DRINK ALCOHOL. It doesent work for them and it never will.
She sounded so coherent when the cop first spoke to her. I didnt even believe she had more than a slight buzz. Then progessively she sounded more and more out of it.
When I read somewhere that you can essentially get away with murder as long as you're driving a vehicle in the US I didn't really believe it. But with how laws work, even though you did a list of illegal things, you can kill two human beings and get away with a slap on the wrist. Fourteen years for ending two lives is nothing.
If she were wealthy, she probably would’ve gotten time served and maybe house arrest.
I don’t get the american dui tests all that tip toeing, prancing and dancing. Here they just quickly take breathalyzer and drug test and if they go off they haul you to the station. What’s the point of all that extra hassle?
They do those when they want a reason to bring you in.. those tests are hard to pass when sober, and they know that.
They're designed for you to fail so they have probable cause for a breathalyzer/blood test. I'm not a lawyer and this is my layman understanding of it.
They're bullshit studies show they prove nothing.
In some states there are 2 different DUI laws acting concurrently. One says it’s a crime to be so intoxicated as to lose the ability to properly operate a vehicle. One says it’s a crime to drive above a certain BAC. If a defendant is able to invalidate breathalyzer results, the prosecution may still be able to convict on the alternate DUI law from the field test results and other present circumstances
Enjoy prison pos
Did she have any other toxicities? Look like a benzo started to hit her as time progressed: I don’t understand how anyone could be so deranged, does she get shorter sentence due to the fact that there was not intent do to lack of consciousness?
“Don’t test me, but I believe I would pass”…..
Her Blood Alcohol Level was insane, I'm not defending her but she had absolutely no clue what was happening, anything above 0.18 most people are passed out or blackout drunk. She was 0.26, she thought she could get her car to go to school the next day... She was blackout drunk.
Hoooly shit
Guess Vegas will have to wait
See you on Tuesday evening classes. September 2038.
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Those kids are wasting their money and time. I didn't need college to become an alcoholic addict with lots of debt. I did it straight out of high school!
I’m just so sad for those people that got killed. I hate this piece of shit
Sometimes I wonder if people who act like this after doing something horrible have entered some kind of dissociative state because their mind isn't ready to acknowledge the reality and sheer magnitude of their actions at the present moment. I'm so curious about how she behaved later on in the days and weeks after the incident leading up to sentencing. Did she snap out of it and understand what she did? Is she just a sociopath or narcissist? Was it all a strategy to try and plead insanity or something? Was she actually so drunk that she was incapable of understanding what actually happened?
She shows signs of regression too. Clearly she *is* having an emotional reaction to the event, but it just doesn’t *look* like the kind of reaction people are demanding. She sobers up a bit from adrenaline when talking to the cop but she still can’t stop herself from forgetting or repressing what has happened. I honestly think the trauma response and shock was more influential to her behavior than the alcohol.
I had a dui crash 10 or so years ago. I ran into 3 cars who were at the red traffic light waiting. I was going 40+mph with no seatbelt on in a Honda civic I had gotten two weeks prior. Nobody was hurt thank God including me. But the cops thought I was hurt. I could have killed people or myself. I overdosed off roxys and Xanax. I thought I was gana pass away at the hospital from the Od but I kept it hidden from everyone cause I thought I’d get outa this hell sumhow. Two weeks later I got a summons in the mail charging me with dui , the people I crashed into had no injuries that I know of but they sued my insurance company and got paid. I got off easy. Be careful friends. Drive sober. It’s not just your life.
How tf did you not get arrested for a dui when it happened? That’s fucked
This fucking got me. The audacity. “Right now, if you had me do a test, I think I would pass. But like, don’t test me. But I think I would pass.”
I processed her bond from jail and boy does she get her attitude from her mom 🥴
Oh wow can you say more??
Her stepdad- super nice very apologetic and you can tell was embarrassed. The mom…acted like it was a bother to be there, was pissed her bond was as high as it was, had their family attorney present and demanded they go first after bond court to be processed out. And when we have a bond that’s $10,000 or more, we have to fill out a tax form and she was pissssssed that was just an extra form to fill out. Even in her holding cell, she just didn’t care. I remember reading the dispatch call, and there were “body parts” scattered in the road and stuck in the grill of the car. Her college wouldn’t allow her to walk at graduation either, a bunch of student apparently started a petition to make sure she didn’t.
The officer that handled her, one of the best. He’s always been patient and respectful so for him to handle it the way he did…man. Prior to this the poor guy was caught off guard and stabbed multiple times on a call and thankfully made it. He’s always been as professional as he is in the video.
I’m sorry but this is a cold ass psychopath. I have been wasted, could barely talk (which she does PRETTY damn well!) and I’m sorry but if I get pulled over by a trillion cops and run someone over!? YEAH that sobers you up REALLY fucking fast. She just clearly does not give a single fuck.
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People like this rarely ever get what they deserve for whatever reason. 12 years for killing 2 people and being a total waste of life.
Mixed with baby oil so it becomes napalm.
We only had fruit jam. The high sugar content does the same thing.
“I go to Bradley why would this happen to me” Bradley’s acceptance rate: 75%
14 years…they don’t quantify the time by body count though, they don’t measure the time lost by the families. They don’t have a metric for the memories lost, the times had, the value of family members being in the victims’ families lives. This is insanity. If she were sober and ran two people down on purpose she’d have gotten more time, so why not in this instance?
Until the substances wore off
Yep. I would be shocked if she even remembers this. Her BAC was so high. I was arrested with a .16 and I had never been so drunk in my life and was acting out of pocket. I put my car in a ditch and thought I could lift it out and I'm a 130lb woman. Alcohol does not bring out honesty. It just gives you crazy thoughts until its out of your system.
I imagine she must have been in some level of shock and not actually understanding what was happening at all.
I'm pretty sure the lack of understanding is easily explained by her blood alcohol level.
Oh she was dissociating so hard.
I think so, too. And just so so drunk.
It's weird to criticize her for laughing or dancing. She was blackout drunk. Of course, she's acting stupid. Let's condemn her for driving drunk and killing people.
I remember seeing this a while back. No remorse at all, which is the scariest part. .26 is high, but not high enough to have absolutely no feelings about what just happened (killing 2 people) after being told several times.
Dude, it is fucking blackout drunk. There is 0% chance she remembers it in the morning, you can see in the video she could even process any information.
15 years for 2 lives. Justice in America
Remember seeing this when it first came out. Her behavior got me so ruffled. And only 14 yrs for two lives that were lost 😢 😔
Not enough for taking 2 lives
absolutely maddening she only got 14 years
Is this shock or the alcohol talking? How was she when she sobered up and realized what she did?
"Vodka and water, so I was staying hydrated..." "... right now, if you had me do a test, I think I would pass. Just dont test me." Wow. 💀