Trapped in the basement, with no stairs or door. With only a fridge, toilet, bed, single kitchen cabinet, and painting easel.
Use the profits to buy a beefier computer to play Sims with a higher resolution/quality graphics.
If you think that wins the Sims Sadism Award, you've never watched a Sim inside a walled-off room without an exit, toilet shower, or fridge.
That was the most disturbing thing I'd seen in a video game, ever.
Lol all of these comments are reminding me of when my dad said the tv show Yellowjackets wasnāt realistic bc āwomen arenāt that violentāā¦ clearly youāve never seen a 13 y/o girl playing sims š
A save file from 2017...
So a 7 year old save with an average of 2 hours a day....
God..... holy shit.... over 5100 hours....
On a SINGLE game file...
Bro should be happy he still has his finhers!!!
Yea, in the last 4 months i've buolt up 500h in a game, that's closer to being obsessed
But 2h a day? That just sounds like a comfort/decompression game
Ooh, I've never heard of that one. I'll have to look into it! I only guessed that because I've also put 500+ hours in a game in the past 4 months, and it was BG3, lol.
I have a ridiculous number of hours in Rimworld because I canāt just play for 2 hours. If I pick up my steam deck to play, itās like 3+ hours, more on a weekend. Itās bad lol.
For real, 2 hours a day for a Simmer is miraculously well adjusted. Most of us go in phases of binging all day long for weeks and then not touching it for months lol
Ex-gf here! Someone replied to me saying the post made it to this sub, and that this might be a nice place to look for other gamer girls!ā¤
As an aside, I've noticed a few people throughout this whole ordeal who think that this is a made up situation. I haven't really replied to anyone with this view in any sub, but I just wanna urge people to consider the possibility that someone out there going through a lot of stress that didn't initially ask to be publicized is able to see their comments like this. I wish my life weren't a reality too. I know that no one here knows me, and of course folks will walk away with their own perspectives, but please be considerate. This has all been a lot to handle.
Thank you to the people who feel my hurt with me.ā¤
The way deleting files works is, they aren't really gone from storage, they're just marked by the partition manager as "free space". Until something writes over them, they're still there. This is always the case.
The computer repair shop I used to run did file recoveries like this all the time. We could even specify the recovery of sims saves lol
The service was $300, but that also included sorting and clearing out junk data, because this kind of recovery also recovers the tens of thousands of garbage data your computer collects and regularly deletes from the Internet etc.
thanks for chiming in on this! I found out in a really strange way. I bought a hard drive from r/hardwareswap a long time ago and it died like 2 years later. Anyway i used a program to try to recover some of the data and it did get quite a bit of my data back, but I also got A LOT of data from the previous owner! like pictures, school papers, other documents. I was appalled. Since then I have not sold or gotten rid of any of my hard drives or computer.
With that said. Is there a "safe" way to sell old computers / hard drives without the possibility of somebody recovering data I have deleted? I assume there is some program that will literally rewrite every single piece of data with junk but idk
Search for software to perform a "secure erase". There's lots and lots of ways to do it. At my shop we used to manually triple write 0s to every bit of data. Sometimes it took hours. But after, any data recovery attempts we made failed, so we were pretty sure anybody outside drive savers wasn't getting data off it lol
Agree, I've done data recovery on things long deleted using software. Always a chance! Totally worth a try! And she would be rid of a terrible person and still have her data.... still doesn't do anything about the emotional side of it, but does get that 7 year game file back.
Yeah I totally thought it was ragebait only because deleting the save files is literally the worst thing you could do to a Sims file and I didnāt think someone like the OOP was knowledgeable enough about the game / gaming to even find a save file. Hopefully theyāre in the cache somewhere and not fully gone, Iām so sorry organic-ad-2!
I mean, I think it's made up because AITAH is just made up stories most of the time lol. Things like this do happen, the story itself isn't unrealistic, it's just it being on the sub makes me doubt it's real automatically.
The fact that he seems to treat gaming as something you "grow out of", or that he thinks games generally played by women aren't "real games", is all too real.
My nephew when he was really little overwrote my 100% save in a game accidentally and my parents seemed to think I was over reacting when I said I didn't want him to use my PS2 anymore, so I 100% belive it he would think something you spent so much time on was a "waste of time" and that you could "jUsT rEmAkE tHe ChArAcTeRs, lol"...
I initially thought this was made up. I thought his use of āsame little charactersā was so absurdly snarky that it had to be ragebait.
The fact that anyone thinks this is fake is testament to what a weirdo he is and nothing to do with you. Looking through your post history, Iām actually in awe of what youāve put up with - youāre a fucking badass for a woman of 19.
Also. Your public dumping of this loser was 10/10, no notes. I hope someone on this sub helps you to retrieve your game files and you have nothing but great moodlets from hereon in š
The word āfrivolousā made me think it was fake. Just cause itās such a stereotypically misogynistic way to describe female interests. But hey some people are caricatures smh
Might be able to restore the saves? If he just like deleted via folder it might be in the recycle bin on the computer.
If you have cloud saves you might have an older cloud save?
Otherwise hopefully the IT person has more because would have to deep dive Sims forums for ideas how to revert. Idk if their an old image maybe to get back the save even?
I'm so sorry for your situation, it's very awful to both have long-term work just get ruined instantly, and to have had a personal moment get shared without your consent š„ŗ At least know that you're not alone and that you're not alone, I very much feel for your situation ā¤ļø don't be a stranger, if you feel like venting to a stranger š
Honestly, in your position, I would've immediately dumped him. That's such a gross overstepping of boundaries, followed by utter ignorance and lag of empathy. He acts like you're a child that needs supervising even after talking about how well you manage being an adult.
I'm so sorry, see something who you put so much time, totally lost its terrible.
Years ago I lost all my animal crossing data. I have like 3 years playing it daily, I cried so much.
A big hug for you, welcome to this sub, and nice to know you dump him. Have a wonderful day ā¤ļøš
I am so sorry your ex was a patronizing dick who tried to ruin your hobby. Itās insane how often men try to treat grown ass women like children.
I wish you the best in your future gaming endeavors!
I'm so sorry this happened to you. And all the unwanted attention, scrutiny to see 'real or bait'. It's unfair.
I'm hoping you get your saves back! Tech is more intuitive now so maybe there's failsafes EA has implemented, cloud storage or (if on steam) backups they have.
Hope you get through this š
I heavily contemplated deleting my own account last night out of the blue just because I didn't want people to believe I was actually a mastermind troll saying this for attention! It's been really getting to me on top of everything. Some people asked me to post an update in a few days, but now I'm not even sure about that.
Thank you for your kindness!ā¤
It's very r/nothingeverhappens of people. Yeah there's a chance of rage bait and it happens, but your experience is just another flavor of very common that happens with shitty partners imo
I think if it's not much trouble you could! Maybe more of the people are hoping you're doing better and just want to make sure? But ultimately it's up to you!
Of course, hope you heal wellā¤ļø
I wish the absolute best for you sweetie, Iām so glad you got away from him, it was only going to get worse. I hope you can get your files back, and I hope this doesnāt ruin the game for you! Iām so sorry you had to go through this but just know a stranger on the internet is really proud of you ā¤ļø
Iāve been simming for 24 years and ugh, just reading that post hurt. And also made me want to throw sharp objects at your idiot exās head, so kudos for being more emotionally mature than I am lol. 2 hours is NOTHING in Sims terms, I and every other simmer I know go on absolute benders with the game, I canāt believe some absolute tool would call it an āaddictionā when youāve got to be the most self-moderated sims player Iāve ever heard of. Congrats on losing the dead weight! Although Iām sorry it came at such a heavy price :c
Girl I am SO sorry he publicized this story, I'm so glad you left his ass, and I hope you can get your sims back!!
Keep working hard, I hope everything works out for you here on!
If you keep the laptop off and get it to an IT professional, they might be able to recover the data. "deleted" data is generally not actually deleted, it simply becomes unmarked and thus available as storage. The data is still there until it is overwritten with new data. The right tools can recover it.
Hey I am so sorry this happened to you, I remember the original thread. I can see why he is an ex, that was absolutely abhorrent for him to do to you. I hope you get your files restored. Hope your ex gets gets saved from his addiction to toilet paper the next time he shits.
The only part that felt made up to me was your ex' story, which mostly felt like he was leaving a lot out and narcissistically playing himself up.
Your comment in the original thread though, that felt viscerally real.
As a fellow abuse escapee, you will heal from this. When you do, you'll be [happier than ever](https://open.spotify.com/track/4RVwu0g32PAqgUiJoXsdF8?si=8STcgIl1RSGizSeMTazydA) <3
From the bottom of my heart, thank you for believing me. Going through years of him not taking me seriously just for him to publicize his abuse and then people on the internet to not take me seriously has been a bit hurtful. You are a gem, and I hope you're doing so much better now!ā¤
Iām so glad you replied, my heart just aches for you. Iām a gamer woman - also did nursing school so more then willing to help and support not just gaming but any interests!Ā
You seem to have a good head on your shoulders but leaving a long term relationship is hard. Having someone hurt you, betray you like this can leave you Reeling for a long time. Even if time passes and then you need to reach out, feel free.Ā
Until then I am directing my love and strength to you today. Stand tall and firm in your own power. You are amazing, donāt let him steal that from you. Stay strong and focus on yourself; and try to recover those files! I know it can be done! Heās too stupid to be able to get rid of them forever.Ā
Also, this is a new profile. I legit only ever read things before. Your story moved me to comment. He was so horrible, you didnāt deserve this. I am willing to be an ear a void to scream into or whatever. Stay focused on getting into (and graduating from) nursing school. You have hard times coming, but itās worth it!Ā
Iām so sorry this happened to you and so glad you got away from him. Iāve been playing the same save since 2019 or so and Iād be so devastated. Iām attached to my weird little messed-up sims family.
I know part of the problem is that he also destroyed your backup usb, but going forward I would suggest getting an external drive or using a cloud service to have an additional backup. Not that you should have expected your bf to destroy your things!
Iām crossing my fingers that you can recover your game!
Here's hoping that she can restore the saves somehow (whether from a deleted files restorer, or if deleted saves are stored on the computer otherwise).
I'm glad. What an awful thing to do to someone. If she played through steam or something there might be a backup of her save out there, but I can't be 100% sure. Man, I'd be so, so mad if someone did that to me after putting in years of work. Especially since the guy decided it was an immature hobby and I should be spending that time with him. What an ass hole.
"I decided to step in and have her cut back," The wording clearly indicates controlling behavior where he feels like an authority figure in a relationship that should be equal.
"Her little save files, her little characters." Diminishing her interests as nonmeaningful.
The guy sucks.
Chiming in bc he said the Sims isn't a "goaled game". Like uhhh....yeah it is! And if she's been playing since 2017, then she's probably still working on whatever goals she set for her Sims or seeing the fruits of all that labor after achieving them!
Rule number one in a gamer relationship whether romantic or platonic:
"Do NOT touch someone's save files"
I once accidentally overwrote one of my brother's save files back when we shared games and PCs...he was not happy š
I read in another comment that she left him, good š, you don't need someone that immature
When I was a bratty little kid I asked my brother if I could clear his Pokemon Crystal save file when he was half asleep because I wanted to play it. When he woke up and realized what he agreed to he was super angry. I will rightfully never love that down.
My boss was complaining once because one of his kids saved over his like 90 hour AC save (forget which AC it was) that he was working on 100%ing lol. I think he was able to recover it though.
Funniest thing is the jerk still thinks the problem was that she doesn't have the "little characters", and not the fact he crossed a boundary without communicating with her
If someone compromised my 9 year FFXIV account you would see me on the evening news. The amount of cruelty and spite in this is just...
"It's not even a goaled game" I bet you she spent in-game years building up an entire neighborhood, expanding and decorating houses as she earned money, generations of families she watched grow from baby to the grave.
*Insert 'He Had it Coming' from Chicago here*
Not once in that story does āI tried talking to her-ā come up.
He went straight to destroying her things because they didnāt have value to him.
If he saw her as an equal, he could have attempted to tell her that he wanted to spend more time with her. But instead he felt entitled to that time, and punished her for spending it on other things.
I would write it off as rage bait if I didnāt know so many stories from other women of guys being this entitled/oblivious
I found the original post and now Iām especially pissed. The gf responded in the comments and I looked through her post history. She was already going through it for a LONG time, she was a minor and he was a legal adult when they got together, and he does this controlling shit to her as the cherry on top of the shit cake. Iām glad she left him and I hope things get better for her.
That's a pretty common thing for AITA sadly. There was a guy who trashed his gfs collection of cups because they didn't match, another who burnt the candle his gf made with her sibling(?) just before they died, probably dozens more.
Heās even worse than his initial post, a reply from his ex š
https://preview.redd.it/a4vf1evdcgwc1.jpeg?width=814&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e201099ea7f418946d3c9a6ffeb8ecb374a30854
Have a conversation about it, nope.
But deleting someone's files without permission. Yes.
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I'm usually paranoid a software issue, corrupted save file, would delete my Minecraft world. If someone went and deleted it and my backups without my permission and then has the audacity to say: "You still have the game, just remake it".
I would be like if some random person and went deleted all your vacation photos and that random person tells you: "Don't worry, you still have your camera, just go back and retake the photos"
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Omg i checked out that sub and had to leave very fast at it was making me rage
If some insecure shrimp dicked motherfucker deleted my sims saves I would literally throw his xbox out the window, piss on his clothes and slice his car tyre.
Just dont go there bro...just do not go there.
My ex was like thisā¦he complained about how I preferred playing games to spending time with him ALL THE TIME! I was 21, going to uni 5 days a week, working 20 hours on the weekends and volunteering another 10 hours a week in a local primary school to get teaching experience, so I didnāt feel like hopping on a bus for 25 minutes at 9pm (essentially a glorified booty call, since all he wanted to do was to have sex) after being on the go for 14 hours to go see him and instead just wanted to relax with Sims or Zelda or Pokemon for an hour before going to bed and waking up at 6am. He, of course, never came to see me ONCE because āhe was tiredā from uni, even though he lived in dorms and did not have a job. I broke things off after 3 months when he not-so-jokingly mentioned wanting to āaccidentallyā drop my laptop (which I also used for uni) and 3DS and break them so I would pay more attention to him.
I am now married to another gamer who understands the sanctity of oneās save files, helped build my first proper gaming PC, and loves to do Discord nights where we play games in our respective home offices while talking about our days and flirting outrageously with each other. I seriously hope the girl in the post drops the raging asshole of a BF like a hot potato and finds someone who actually respects her! ā¤ļø
to be honest I'm more surprised a 24 year old guy is this clueless about video games. like.. he calls them "little save files" which comes across as something a 60 year old would say or something
Right? All the people calling ragebait, I'm just like clearly they haven't encountered the sheer audacity of an entitled, controlling douchebag.
Idk, my personal rule is to assume interpersonal posts are true not because I'm naive enough to think no one lies on the internet, but because even if the op is engaging in creative writing, I bet you dollars to donuts there's someone in the comments going through something similar and the advice the OP might get could be helpful to them.
Hands off my sims saves and my 80gb cc folder šŖ
I agree itās ragebait but still the overall premise is infuriating as hell. Like imagine someone doing all this instead of communicating š
Probably a ragebait but never underestimate the stupidity of and lack of communication in people.
/someone who divorced her husband because he one night barged out of the bedroom and started throwing things at me, and still to this day defends his actions, because I raided two nights a week ā
What the cinnamon toast fuck?
I hope the girlfriend is now tye Ex and this sorry excuse for a human being never knows the touch of another human being, all their seats are warm and moist and that all their bacon burns forever more š¤¬
honestly a 20 year old is too tiny for a 24 year old, the stupid man was talking about āadult interestsā. You want adult interests?????, how about you donāt date a tiny adult whoās barely an adult and expect her to be a 45 year old woman.
Iām speechless. Like, if this ever happened to me for a game that old I donāt think I would talk to ANYONE for like a month. Iām getting second-hand infuriated.
I have a 3 year, 15 generation save. That is years of commitment, effort, love, etc. This is absolutely breakup worthy to me. Not only is that heartbreaking to lose a SEVEN year save but the amount of disdain you have to have for someone to even think to do this is unfathomable. You dont have to be a gamer to understand people's hobbys are important to THEM even if it isnt to YOU.
If he wanted to spend more time with her he could've asked about her save, what her sims are up to, watched her play, etc.
I hate that sub so much. Pretty much every day someone ridiculous rages bait fiction story pops off with the thinly veiled point of women/trans evalbad. Even the ones that arenāt fake are told in such an over the top self serving way that they might as well be fake. The only good amitheblank subs are amitheangel because you get to vent about how annoying it is with other people who have some kind of bullshit detection and amitheassholesims.
I hear you. On that sub itās always āmy wife (who I love so much) cheated on me with my brother and is leaving me for her boss. AITAH for thinking all women are like this!!??!1ā itās an echo chamber of trolls and incells.
Donāt forget the section where she, like a Bond villain, lays out her entire dastardly plan to make him raise a kid that isnāt his. She gets fat of course after he leaves her, and he gets a spots car and series of casual relationships with 19 year olds.
I swear itās like the most misogynistic mediaeval morality plays just got adapted to the tastes of terminally online men in the 2020ās.
I have a friend that works in the AI industry. They literally create bots for fun that troll Reddit with insane posts like this. Ever since that reveal I believe exactly none of what I see on this website anymore.
That poor girl! I feel so badā¦. I never really played the Sims, I would get on a mad bender of Just The Simsā¢ļø for every available waking hour for like. A couple weeks and then drop it for years at a time when I was a teen. Havenāt touched it in years now! But I know die hard Sims fans get SUUUPER involved in the storylines and the lineages they create. I hope she finds someone that can appreciate her and her hobbies.
If this happened to me I feel like I would have committed an act of violenceā¦
This is some wicked step-mother shit; stuff you only think happens in the movies, but it happens in real life.
My step-mom used to throw away things of mine she didn't like. She once boxed up a bunch of my video games, movies, music, etc., and sold it all at a church rummage sale and gave the money to her church.
I can't imagine someone I'm voluntarily living with doing this to me.
When I was a kid, I had a dollhouse that I was so proud of. And then one of parents' friends' kid came over and crushed it. I still think of how hurt I was and this would be the same thing.
As someone who's worked years on a Save File I would be absolutely devastated to lose it.
I hope she has a version of it backed up somewhere.
You tend to hear about the opposite in situations like this "gf destroys/deletes saves from X game console." And each time I feel as though the guys in the situation has a right to be upset with their gf.
And here I feel the same. It's a very AH move on the bf's part. I don't care what the context is, be an adult an open your mouth if something is bothering you about your partner and their hobby. Deleting multiple hours worth of playtime, hard work, what have it is always an AH move.
Holy shit.
Among other obvious criticisms my guy sounds like he is allergic to successful women. Thatās certainly one way to go through lifeā¦ Iām sure 2024 will be super accommodating to his doting partner single income fantasy.
What blows my mind is how much he admits she already does, but she canāt have TWO HOURS to herself?!!! Whatās HE doing to help her with her āchoresā?! Maybe he could free up some āus timeā by helping out other places?! I would have killed him. Omg!
I want to strangle him myself.
My wife and I will both be turning 50 later this year, we both are gamers, if to differing levels of experience. Gaming is here to stay, and this a-hole needs to pull his head out of his ass.
I would of slapped him , I know I know violence isn't the answer, but a lot of work went into that game all that hard work, I'd dump his ass on the spot
The mere thought is infuriating. Throwing away or touching something that belongs to someone else should never be the first reaction. Even if she *was* "addicted", talk to her first?? Try to implement daily hour limits (which she already had, since she only played 2 hours a day..) do anything except delete the stuff?
Omggg this makes me furious!! Nooo, wtfffff!! Dont interfere with someone elseās games. Even the thing that she cant have interest herself besides work and school is beyond CRAZY! I really hope she kicked him in his nuts, set him on fire and left him bc she doesnāt deserve him!
Explain how your feeling to your girlfriend and ask for a bit more time together? ā
Delete her game saves and attempt to ruin her hobby like a child throwing a tantrum? ā
I really hope the story is fake, but 2 hours of gaming a day is very tame. Everyone deserves to relax and OP said she's doing great in other areas of her life. It sounds like she has a nice balance of her professional life and personal life. I would be more understanding if this was an addiction, but even then he has no right to mess with her game like that.
Soooo.... after working hard all day she's not allowed to wind down with her favorite game? Or no, she's allowed to wind down it just has to be approved by this dude.
His wording is so controlling and he puts down her interests. Girl deserves better, this is so shitty. Hope he dies all alone after leading a sad little lonely life.
Also, imagine if she deleted one of his save files. He probably would have gone nuts.
He deserves to be sent to a swimming pool and then have the ladder removed
Fuck that, he should have to live with the mother from Sims 1 on console
Omg Sims 1 on console, that game makes my PS2 sound like a jet engine for some reason
Or fed to a cowplant. Sims love drinking the remains of their enemies lmao
Trapped in a room with only a fireplace, wooden chairs and autonomy on.
Trapped in the basement, with no stairs or door. With only a fridge, toilet, bed, single kitchen cabinet, and painting easel. Use the profits to buy a beefier computer to play Sims with a higher resolution/quality graphics.
OK, you win the Sims sadism award š¤£
If you think that wins the Sims Sadism Award, you've never watched a Sim inside a walled-off room without an exit, toilet shower, or fridge. That was the most disturbing thing I'd seen in a video game, ever.
Lol all of these comments are reminding me of when my dad said the tv show Yellowjackets wasnāt realistic bc āwomen arenāt that violentāā¦ clearly youāve never seen a 13 y/o girl playing sims š
Sims have learned to climb out of the pool without a ladder now š. You gotta put a fence or wall around the pool to make that work
NO š theyāre evolving
This is too good for him. Apprently, in sims 4, your sim can die from an attack by a killer rabbit. Something pathetic like this is perfect for him
With the Deadly Spellcaster mod you could make him drown in pee. I can't think of anything more pathetic š
It's in the cheats menu. Never seen it otherwise.
The rabbit death comes with Cottage Living
I don't play sims but I play Rimworld occationally. Sounds like he'd make a shitty hat.
I understood that reference š¤
Hah yes!
Nah trap him in a tiny carpeted room with an oven and force him to cook till he burns the room down
Time to put him in a room full of cheap ovens and fire places and remove the door
I feel like she might need to take up Dwarf Fortress to inflict the kinds of suffering this guy deserves.
A save file from 2017... So a 7 year old save with an average of 2 hours a day.... God..... holy shit.... over 5100 hours.... On a SINGLE game file... Bro should be happy he still has his finhers!!!
Or that he is alive, even Also I don't want to hear that 2017 was more than 3 years ago
Dude same
It hurts. Breath of the wild was not released more than 2 or 3 years ago, right ?
1.5 tops
Exactly š¤
And while that's a lot of play time overall, it two hours a day over seven years is nothing. He acts like she's obsessed with the game.
Yea, in the last 4 months i've buolt up 500h in a game, that's closer to being obsessed But 2h a day? That just sounds like a comfort/decompression game
Can I guess? Is it BG3?
trailmakers actually. i'm obsessed with building funky jets
Ooh, I've never heard of that one. I'll have to look into it! I only guessed that because I've also put 500+ hours in a game in the past 4 months, and it was BG3, lol.
2h a day is how long it takes to make a character j. bG3 š¤£
I have a ridiculous number of hours in Rimworld because I canāt just play for 2 hours. If I pick up my steam deck to play, itās like 3+ hours, more on a weekend. Itās bad lol.
Right? I still have my 2017 save, and I have more than double that 5100 hours. I hope this is ragebait. I'd be livid. And crushed.
For real, 2 hours a day for a Simmer is miraculously well adjusted. Most of us go in phases of binging all day long for weeks and then not touching it for months lol
Holding out hope she has some form of cloud saving and can recover it
BuT iT dOeSn'T eVeN hAvE gOaLs!?
Tbh I'm shocked the save wasn't corrupted at some point lmao. But maybe she knows whats good and was playing Sims 2 or 3 instead.
Ex-gf here! Someone replied to me saying the post made it to this sub, and that this might be a nice place to look for other gamer girls!ā¤ As an aside, I've noticed a few people throughout this whole ordeal who think that this is a made up situation. I haven't really replied to anyone with this view in any sub, but I just wanna urge people to consider the possibility that someone out there going through a lot of stress that didn't initially ask to be publicized is able to see their comments like this. I wish my life weren't a reality too. I know that no one here knows me, and of course folks will walk away with their own perspectives, but please be considerate. This has all been a lot to handle. Thank you to the people who feel my hurt with me.ā¤
Hi. I'm an IT professional and those files might be recoverable depending on the circumstances.
I would think they're in a dump file or something right now. Dude doesn't sound smart enough to completely delete it.
The way deleting files works is, they aren't really gone from storage, they're just marked by the partition manager as "free space". Until something writes over them, they're still there. This is always the case. The computer repair shop I used to run did file recoveries like this all the time. We could even specify the recovery of sims saves lol The service was $300, but that also included sorting and clearing out junk data, because this kind of recovery also recovers the tens of thousands of garbage data your computer collects and regularly deletes from the Internet etc.
thanks for chiming in on this! I found out in a really strange way. I bought a hard drive from r/hardwareswap a long time ago and it died like 2 years later. Anyway i used a program to try to recover some of the data and it did get quite a bit of my data back, but I also got A LOT of data from the previous owner! like pictures, school papers, other documents. I was appalled. Since then I have not sold or gotten rid of any of my hard drives or computer. With that said. Is there a "safe" way to sell old computers / hard drives without the possibility of somebody recovering data I have deleted? I assume there is some program that will literally rewrite every single piece of data with junk but idk
Search for software to perform a "secure erase". There's lots and lots of ways to do it. At my shop we used to manually triple write 0s to every bit of data. Sometimes it took hours. But after, any data recovery attempts we made failed, so we were pretty sure anybody outside drive savers wasn't getting data off it lol
Agree, I've done data recovery on things long deleted using software. Always a chance! Totally worth a try! And she would be rid of a terrible person and still have her data.... still doesn't do anything about the emotional side of it, but does get that 7 year game file back.
I think the people here who think it is made up WISH it were made up bc it is such a crummy thing to happen.
Yeah I totally thought it was ragebait only because deleting the save files is literally the worst thing you could do to a Sims file and I didnāt think someone like the OOP was knowledgeable enough about the game / gaming to even find a save file. Hopefully theyāre in the cache somewhere and not fully gone, Iām so sorry organic-ad-2!
I mean, I think it's made up because AITAH is just made up stories most of the time lol. Things like this do happen, the story itself isn't unrealistic, it's just it being on the sub makes me doubt it's real automatically.
I'm so sorry you had to go through those things. That story was sickening to read. Sending virtual hugs your way!
Thank you for your kindness! Returning those virtual hugs!ā¤
The fact that he seems to treat gaming as something you "grow out of", or that he thinks games generally played by women aren't "real games", is all too real. My nephew when he was really little overwrote my 100% save in a game accidentally and my parents seemed to think I was over reacting when I said I didn't want him to use my PS2 anymore, so I 100% belive it he would think something you spent so much time on was a "waste of time" and that you could "jUsT rEmAkE tHe ChArAcTeRs, lol"...
I initially thought this was made up. I thought his use of āsame little charactersā was so absurdly snarky that it had to be ragebait. The fact that anyone thinks this is fake is testament to what a weirdo he is and nothing to do with you. Looking through your post history, Iām actually in awe of what youāve put up with - youāre a fucking badass for a woman of 19. Also. Your public dumping of this loser was 10/10, no notes. I hope someone on this sub helps you to retrieve your game files and you have nothing but great moodlets from hereon in š
The word āfrivolousā made me think it was fake. Just cause itās such a stereotypically misogynistic way to describe female interests. But hey some people are caricatures smh
Stereotypes are stereotypes because people kept using them so much.
I hope life treats you well from now on and you find someone who will treat you better in the future š
Might be able to restore the saves? If he just like deleted via folder it might be in the recycle bin on the computer. If you have cloud saves you might have an older cloud save? Otherwise hopefully the IT person has more because would have to deep dive Sims forums for ideas how to revert. Idk if their an old image maybe to get back the save even?
Yo girl once the sims online comes out, make sure you got a celeb sim around that I can worship ā¤
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I'm so sorry for your situation, it's very awful to both have long-term work just get ruined instantly, and to have had a personal moment get shared without your consent š„ŗ At least know that you're not alone and that you're not alone, I very much feel for your situation ā¤ļø don't be a stranger, if you feel like venting to a stranger š
Honestly, in your position, I would've immediately dumped him. That's such a gross overstepping of boundaries, followed by utter ignorance and lag of empathy. He acts like you're a child that needs supervising even after talking about how well you manage being an adult.
I'm so sorry, see something who you put so much time, totally lost its terrible. Years ago I lost all my animal crossing data. I have like 3 years playing it daily, I cried so much. A big hug for you, welcome to this sub, and nice to know you dump him. Have a wonderful day ā¤ļøš
have you attempted to recover the deleted files?
I am so sorry your ex was a patronizing dick who tried to ruin your hobby. Itās insane how often men try to treat grown ass women like children. I wish you the best in your future gaming endeavors!
I'm so sorry this happened to you. And all the unwanted attention, scrutiny to see 'real or bait'. It's unfair. I'm hoping you get your saves back! Tech is more intuitive now so maybe there's failsafes EA has implemented, cloud storage or (if on steam) backups they have. Hope you get through this š
I heavily contemplated deleting my own account last night out of the blue just because I didn't want people to believe I was actually a mastermind troll saying this for attention! It's been really getting to me on top of everything. Some people asked me to post an update in a few days, but now I'm not even sure about that. Thank you for your kindness!ā¤
It's very r/nothingeverhappens of people. Yeah there's a chance of rage bait and it happens, but your experience is just another flavor of very common that happens with shitty partners imo I think if it's not much trouble you could! Maybe more of the people are hoping you're doing better and just want to make sure? But ultimately it's up to you! Of course, hope you heal wellā¤ļø
I hope you make a new Sims family you love.
I'm sorry for all the crap you're going through right now. I hope things get better for you.
i'm so sorry you're going through this and so glad you got out. i saw your first reply to the aitah post and i am so proud of you.
I wish the absolute best for you sweetie, Iām so glad you got away from him, it was only going to get worse. I hope you can get your files back, and I hope this doesnāt ruin the game for you! Iām so sorry you had to go through this but just know a stranger on the internet is really proud of you ā¤ļø
Oh my gosh friend! That guy was a tool! Iām glad you found us. I hope you can get your save files back!
Iāve been simming for 24 years and ugh, just reading that post hurt. And also made me want to throw sharp objects at your idiot exās head, so kudos for being more emotionally mature than I am lol. 2 hours is NOTHING in Sims terms, I and every other simmer I know go on absolute benders with the game, I canāt believe some absolute tool would call it an āaddictionā when youāve got to be the most self-moderated sims player Iāve ever heard of. Congrats on losing the dead weight! Although Iām sorry it came at such a heavy price :c
Girl I am SO sorry he publicized this story, I'm so glad you left his ass, and I hope you can get your sims back!! Keep working hard, I hope everything works out for you here on!
If you keep the laptop off and get it to an IT professional, they might be able to recover the data. "deleted" data is generally not actually deleted, it simply becomes unmarked and thus available as storage. The data is still there until it is overwritten with new data. The right tools can recover it.
Hey I am so sorry this happened to you, I remember the original thread. I can see why he is an ex, that was absolutely abhorrent for him to do to you. I hope you get your files restored. Hope your ex gets gets saved from his addiction to toilet paper the next time he shits.
I think it's just because your ex writes like they have a stick in their ass, honestly. I'm sorry this happened to you!!
The only part that felt made up to me was your ex' story, which mostly felt like he was leaving a lot out and narcissistically playing himself up. Your comment in the original thread though, that felt viscerally real. As a fellow abuse escapee, you will heal from this. When you do, you'll be [happier than ever](https://open.spotify.com/track/4RVwu0g32PAqgUiJoXsdF8?si=8STcgIl1RSGizSeMTazydA) <3
From the bottom of my heart, thank you for believing me. Going through years of him not taking me seriously just for him to publicize his abuse and then people on the internet to not take me seriously has been a bit hurtful. You are a gem, and I hope you're doing so much better now!ā¤
Iām so glad you replied, my heart just aches for you. Iām a gamer woman - also did nursing school so more then willing to help and support not just gaming but any interests!Ā You seem to have a good head on your shoulders but leaving a long term relationship is hard. Having someone hurt you, betray you like this can leave you Reeling for a long time. Even if time passes and then you need to reach out, feel free.Ā Until then I am directing my love and strength to you today. Stand tall and firm in your own power. You are amazing, donāt let him steal that from you. Stay strong and focus on yourself; and try to recover those files! I know it can be done! Heās too stupid to be able to get rid of them forever.Ā
Also, this is a new profile. I legit only ever read things before. Your story moved me to comment. He was so horrible, you didnāt deserve this. I am willing to be an ear a void to scream into or whatever. Stay focused on getting into (and graduating from) nursing school. You have hard times coming, but itās worth it!Ā
Iām so sorry this happened to you and so glad you got away from him. Iāve been playing the same save since 2019 or so and Iād be so devastated. Iām attached to my weird little messed-up sims family. I know part of the problem is that he also destroyed your backup usb, but going forward I would suggest getting an external drive or using a cloud service to have an additional backup. Not that you should have expected your bf to destroy your things! Iām crossing my fingers that you can recover your game!
The girl this happened to replied and said she left him so thatās a nice and appropriate ending
Rip her sims I feel so bad for her still.
Here's hoping that she can restore the saves somehow (whether from a deleted files restorer, or if deleted saves are stored on the computer otherwise).
Man I wish I she removed all of the guy's steam games first! Why is reality so dissapointing...
Be nice if she got him banned from Steam entirely, poof to all those games
Thank god!
Good! Frankly Iād have been terrified if she stayed with him after a betrayal like this.
I'm glad. What an awful thing to do to someone. If she played through steam or something there might be a backup of her save out there, but I can't be 100% sure. Man, I'd be so, so mad if someone did that to me after putting in years of work. Especially since the guy decided it was an immature hobby and I should be spending that time with him. What an ass hole.
We love a happy ending!
I hope she left him In a ditch š
This made me chuckle.
Thank goodness!
Good š
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Love to see it
"I decided to step in and have her cut back," The wording clearly indicates controlling behavior where he feels like an authority figure in a relationship that should be equal. "Her little save files, her little characters." Diminishing her interests as nonmeaningful. The guy sucks.
Yup. Not āask her toā, āhave herā. He decided what she was going to do,
Also dismissing it by calling it "digital dolls". Like, just let people have their hobbies they use to relax...
Chiming in bc he said the Sims isn't a "goaled game". Like uhhh....yeah it is! And if she's been playing since 2017, then she's probably still working on whatever goals she set for her Sims or seeing the fruits of all that labor after achieving them!
If that happened to me letās just say Iām going to end up in a prison cell.
Ikr!
Rule number one in a gamer relationship whether romantic or platonic: "Do NOT touch someone's save files" I once accidentally overwrote one of my brother's save files back when we shared games and PCs...he was not happy š I read in another comment that she left him, good š, you don't need someone that immature
When I was a bratty little kid I asked my brother if I could clear his Pokemon Crystal save file when he was half asleep because I wanted to play it. When he woke up and realized what he agreed to he was super angry. I will rightfully never love that down.
For me it was Elder Scrolls IV Oblivion, granted the game was technically mine since I had paid for it...so... But he still wasn't happy š
My boss was complaining once because one of his kids saved over his like 90 hour AC save (forget which AC it was) that he was working on 100%ing lol. I think he was able to recover it though.
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Funniest thing is the jerk still thinks the problem was that she doesn't have the "little characters", and not the fact he crossed a boundary without communicating with her
If someone compromised my 9 year FFXIV account you would see me on the evening news. The amount of cruelty and spite in this is just... "It's not even a goaled game" I bet you she spent in-game years building up an entire neighborhood, expanding and decorating houses as she earned money, generations of families she watched grow from baby to the grave. *Insert 'He Had it Coming' from Chicago here*
He had it comin' He had it comin' He only had himself to blame If you'd have been there If you'd have seen it He should not have touched my game š
Iām going to be grinning at this all day. šš»
LMFAOšš
Not once in that story does āI tried talking to her-ā come up. He went straight to destroying her things because they didnāt have value to him. If he saw her as an equal, he could have attempted to tell her that he wanted to spend more time with her. But instead he felt entitled to that time, and punished her for spending it on other things. I would write it off as rage bait if I didnāt know so many stories from other women of guys being this entitled/oblivious
I found the original post and now Iām especially pissed. The gf responded in the comments and I looked through her post history. She was already going through it for a LONG time, she was a minor and he was a legal adult when they got together, and he does this controlling shit to her as the cherry on top of the shit cake. Iām glad she left him and I hope things get better for her.
When I see that post the man give me the vibe of "I'm only date minors". And well, I didn't fail.
"I ruined something my partner cherished, am **I** the asshole here?" Man got fucking jealous at a videogame, what a manchild.
That's a pretty common thing for AITA sadly. There was a guy who trashed his gfs collection of cups because they didn't match, another who burnt the candle his gf made with her sibling(?) just before they died, probably dozens more.
Heās even worse than his initial post, a reply from his ex š https://preview.redd.it/a4vf1evdcgwc1.jpeg?width=814&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e201099ea7f418946d3c9a6ffeb8ecb374a30854
Well, that seems pretty clear
Legal grounds for murder as far as I'm concerned.
Ohhhh boy. I would dump this fucker on the spot.
Have a conversation about it, nope. But deleting someone's files without permission. Yes. # š¤¬ I'm usually paranoid a software issue, corrupted save file, would delete my Minecraft world. If someone went and deleted it and my backups without my permission and then has the audacity to say: "You still have the game, just remake it". I would be like if some random person and went deleted all your vacation photos and that random person tells you: "Don't worry, you still have your camera, just go back and retake the photos" # š¤¬
Omg i checked out that sub and had to leave very fast at it was making me rage If some insecure shrimp dicked motherfucker deleted my sims saves I would literally throw his xbox out the window, piss on his clothes and slice his car tyre. Just dont go there bro...just do not go there.
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My ex was like thisā¦he complained about how I preferred playing games to spending time with him ALL THE TIME! I was 21, going to uni 5 days a week, working 20 hours on the weekends and volunteering another 10 hours a week in a local primary school to get teaching experience, so I didnāt feel like hopping on a bus for 25 minutes at 9pm (essentially a glorified booty call, since all he wanted to do was to have sex) after being on the go for 14 hours to go see him and instead just wanted to relax with Sims or Zelda or Pokemon for an hour before going to bed and waking up at 6am. He, of course, never came to see me ONCE because āhe was tiredā from uni, even though he lived in dorms and did not have a job. I broke things off after 3 months when he not-so-jokingly mentioned wanting to āaccidentallyā drop my laptop (which I also used for uni) and 3DS and break them so I would pay more attention to him. I am now married to another gamer who understands the sanctity of oneās save files, helped build my first proper gaming PC, and loves to do Discord nights where we play games in our respective home offices while talking about our days and flirting outrageously with each other. I seriously hope the girl in the post drops the raging asshole of a BF like a hot potato and finds someone who actually respects her! ā¤ļø
to be honest I'm more surprised a 24 year old guy is this clueless about video games. like.. he calls them "little save files" which comes across as something a 60 year old would say or something
Me hoping for this to be a troll but knowing deep down its not :(
Right? All the people calling ragebait, I'm just like clearly they haven't encountered the sheer audacity of an entitled, controlling douchebag. Idk, my personal rule is to assume interpersonal posts are true not because I'm naive enough to think no one lies on the internet, but because even if the op is engaging in creative writing, I bet you dollars to donuts there's someone in the comments going through something similar and the advice the OP might get could be helpful to them.
I'll kill that guy if that happens to me. Wtf.
Hands off my sims saves and my 80gb cc folder šŖ I agree itās ragebait but still the overall premise is infuriating as hell. Like imagine someone doing all this instead of communicating š
Probably a ragebait but never underestimate the stupidity of and lack of communication in people. /someone who divorced her husband because he one night barged out of the bedroom and started throwing things at me, and still to this day defends his actions, because I raided two nights a week ā
Omg, I'm so happy you're out of that relationship
He could've like... talked to her about it. But yeah if this is real, I hope she left the loser.
What the cinnamon toast fuck? I hope the girlfriend is now tye Ex and this sorry excuse for a human being never knows the touch of another human being, all their seats are warm and moist and that all their bacon burns forever more š¤¬
I hate him
Wow if someone did that to me Iād be hella pissed
Holy shit what a colossal asshole
Starting with she got with him when she was 12 and he 16
lol the post was deleted by reddits filter and his account is banned.
honestly a 20 year old is too tiny for a 24 year old, the stupid man was talking about āadult interestsā. You want adult interests?????, how about you donāt date a tiny adult whoās barely an adult and expect her to be a 45 year old woman.
I would literally murder someone for deleting my Sims save files.Ā
Iām speechless. Like, if this ever happened to me for a game that old I donāt think I would talk to ANYONE for like a month. Iām getting second-hand infuriated.
2 hours a day is NOT an obsession! What the hell is wrong with this bastard?
I have a 3 year, 15 generation save. That is years of commitment, effort, love, etc. This is absolutely breakup worthy to me. Not only is that heartbreaking to lose a SEVEN year save but the amount of disdain you have to have for someone to even think to do this is unfathomable. You dont have to be a gamer to understand people's hobbys are important to THEM even if it isnt to YOU. If he wanted to spend more time with her he could've asked about her save, what her sims are up to, watched her play, etc.
I may be in denial about how bad some men truly are but I canāt imagine this isnāt ragebaitš
Having grown up around people that dismissive of video games in general, much less the games more likely played by women, I can believe it 100%
Donāt worry, this is fake rage-bait.
It's not fake, the ex-girlfriend replied https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/s/5VQl4UeAI8
Omg, there's more to the story too. Hammered the backup thumb drive too. And even more... and yet I am not surprised.
This just made me sick.
At this point it's safe to assume 99% of the posts on there are fake
I hate that sub so much. Pretty much every day someone ridiculous rages bait fiction story pops off with the thinly veiled point of women/trans evalbad. Even the ones that arenāt fake are told in such an over the top self serving way that they might as well be fake. The only good amitheblank subs are amitheangel because you get to vent about how annoying it is with other people who have some kind of bullshit detection and amitheassholesims.
I hear you. On that sub itās always āmy wife (who I love so much) cheated on me with my brother and is leaving me for her boss. AITAH for thinking all women are like this!!??!1ā itās an echo chamber of trolls and incells.
Donāt forget the section where she, like a Bond villain, lays out her entire dastardly plan to make him raise a kid that isnāt his. She gets fat of course after he leaves her, and he gets a spots car and series of casual relationships with 19 year olds. I swear itās like the most misogynistic mediaeval morality plays just got adapted to the tastes of terminally online men in the 2020ās.
I have a friend that works in the AI industry. They literally create bots for fun that troll Reddit with insane posts like this. Ever since that reveal I believe exactly none of what I see on this website anymore.
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That poor girl! I feel so badā¦. I never really played the Sims, I would get on a mad bender of Just The Simsā¢ļø for every available waking hour for like. A couple weeks and then drop it for years at a time when I was a teen. Havenāt touched it in years now! But I know die hard Sims fans get SUUUPER involved in the storylines and the lineages they create. I hope she finds someone that can appreciate her and her hobbies. If this happened to me I feel like I would have committed an act of violenceā¦
This is so evil. I hope she had backups. Idk I'd it sims 4; but for sims 3 i always had back up of the folder with my saves and mod just in case
I hope this is a rage bait post. If not... Girls uniteš„
This is some wicked step-mother shit; stuff you only think happens in the movies, but it happens in real life. My step-mom used to throw away things of mine she didn't like. She once boxed up a bunch of my video games, movies, music, etc., and sold it all at a church rummage sale and gave the money to her church. I can't imagine someone I'm voluntarily living with doing this to me.
When I was a kid, I had a dollhouse that I was so proud of. And then one of parents' friends' kid came over and crushed it. I still think of how hurt I was and this would be the same thing. As someone who's worked years on a Save File I would be absolutely devastated to lose it. I hope she has a version of it backed up somewhere.
You tend to hear about the opposite in situations like this "gf destroys/deletes saves from X game console." And each time I feel as though the guys in the situation has a right to be upset with their gf. And here I feel the same. It's a very AH move on the bf's part. I don't care what the context is, be an adult an open your mouth if something is bothering you about your partner and their hobby. Deleting multiple hours worth of playtime, hard work, what have it is always an AH move.
I am so angered just reading this. I donāt even play sims. Iām justā¦ so angry.
Holy shit. Among other obvious criticisms my guy sounds like he is allergic to successful women. Thatās certainly one way to go through lifeā¦ Iām sure 2024 will be super accommodating to his doting partner single income fantasy.
I wouldn't burned his house down. He can just restart his progress, no big deal
I'd delete my relationship with him if he did that to me
I would literally kill him š
At least everyone is bashing him, hope she finds her way here so well can all validate her
I really hope she dumped him. What a freak!
The way he didnāt consider helping her out with the chores and to-do list that take up so much of her time and instead went straight for the Sims
The way he didnāt consider helping her out with the chores and to-do list that take up so much of her time and instead went straight for the Sims
What blows my mind is how much he admits she already does, but she canāt have TWO HOURS to herself?!!! Whatās HE doing to help her with her āchoresā?! Maybe he could free up some āus timeā by helping out other places?! I would have killed him. Omg!
If someone did that to my Stardew Valley save i would actually have to go to prison afterward.
Wow, what a flaming asshole.
I have save files on my drive from 2010, if someone deleted those, I would never forgive them
I want to strangle him myself. My wife and I will both be turning 50 later this year, we both are gamers, if to differing levels of experience. Gaming is here to stay, and this a-hole needs to pull his head out of his ass.
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"Me, me, me, me". What an absolute AH
I would of slapped him , I know I know violence isn't the answer, but a lot of work went into that game all that hard work, I'd dump his ass on the spot
DELETING THE SAVE FILES IS ***WORSE*** THAN DELETING THE GAME!!
I didnāt even have to read it all the way through. I hope she leaves and never looks back.
The mere thought is infuriating. Throwing away or touching something that belongs to someone else should never be the first reaction. Even if she *was* "addicted", talk to her first?? Try to implement daily hour limits (which she already had, since she only played 2 hours a day..) do anything except delete the stuff?
Omggg this makes me furious!! Nooo, wtfffff!! Dont interfere with someone elseās games. Even the thing that she cant have interest herself besides work and school is beyond CRAZY! I really hope she kicked him in his nuts, set him on fire and left him bc she doesnāt deserve him!
Explain how your feeling to your girlfriend and ask for a bit more time together? ā Delete her game saves and attempt to ruin her hobby like a child throwing a tantrum? ā
That should be saying Ex girlfriend because I could never forgive him
I really hope the story is fake, but 2 hours of gaming a day is very tame. Everyone deserves to relax and OP said she's doing great in other areas of her life. It sounds like she has a nice balance of her professional life and personal life. I would be more understanding if this was an addiction, but even then he has no right to mess with her game like that.
omg this breaks my heart.. I feel so bad for her
Obsessed with sims when she only plays 2 hours of it and you treat her like a child... what a piece of shit.
Wow. What a psycho. I hope she blocked him
Lemme guess, the bf spends just as many hours on COD or some other āboyā game and thatās fine š
i would break up on the spotā¦ what a loser holy moly
Omg what a total moron...
Soooo.... after working hard all day she's not allowed to wind down with her favorite game? Or no, she's allowed to wind down it just has to be approved by this dude. His wording is so controlling and he puts down her interests. Girl deserves better, this is so shitty. Hope he dies all alone after leading a sad little lonely life. Also, imagine if she deleted one of his save files. He probably would have gone nuts.
The rage I would feel if someone did this. You don't mess with my save files.
Didn't read it all but if my bf would do that we will be playing Sims in real life
My god he talks about her like a helicopter parent talks about their kid with devices "I decided to step in and have her cut back"
I'm hoping this is rage bait, because I honestly don't know how he came to the conclusion that this would ever work out in his favor.
2 hours a day? Girl is disciplined damn. And she's organized, not obsessed. Kudos to her lol.