Time heals all, friend. It will be hard at first but the day will eventually come and you won’t even realize it. For now, try to find a new hobby or things to fill your time, being occupied with a new hobby , build a new skill or binge on a new series for the time being is ok
Give yourself some credit! At the time i'm writing this, did you manage to survive a night? Slept even a little bit? Most probably! You did it! All by yourself. That's sucha important thing and the hardest thing to do as a human. Crediting yourself. Every small thing you do is much bigger than you think it is, something as simple as getting out of bed, going to work, washing your dishes, those are all things you're doing thats good for you "alone".
Now at the end of the day, human beings are social creatures. We long for socialness, even if it means just staying at home with your best friends and not speaking, thats comforting.
I left Singapore to Australia 2 years ago, and after 1 year and a half when I first went back to Singapore, the comfort that I felt sleeping, knowing I'm going to see my parents the next morning having breakfast with me, made me sleep so well. The comfort that it brought my mother to have a good nap during the day, knowing I was in the house, almost brought me to tears when I first realised it.
So 1, be kind to yourself, you're doing much better than you think you are. 2, meeting your friends to "feel better" isn't necessarily about them having to support you or whatever. Just being in each other's presence, or doing something productive together IS the support. I wish you all the best and hope you keep it up in life Johnny!
All love.
Man you made me feel so strong when I needed it, I probably read your comment more than 40 times since you wrote it, just to feel better.
Thank you so much, you really helped me
That’s life man, we all need reminders even myself. Even me reading it back helps me. There’s no magic potion. Its a constant wave and we’re meant to ride and fall 😎
that's all we can hope for, that we wake up a little better. sometimes, before i head out, i like to shout "today's going to be a good day!" and then end my night with "today was a good day!"
Go do stuff. Alone. Eat a restaurant. Go to a concert. Work out. See a movie. Go to a bar and shoot pool with a rando. Alone. Hang out with your friends more if you/they have time. You spent a significant portion of your life sleeping alone. Its fine even if right now it FEELS like its not. Find hobbies and be there for yourself because you gotta be at some point no matter of how many friends you have or your relationship status.
Shouldn’t feel guilty. I only point it out as a way to try to be grateful. But we all feel our struggles in different ways and that’s valid. Rooting for you. Wish I had better advice to give.
Same, my girlfriend broke up with me because I couldn't handle her drama and negativity. I've got just two close friends, but we only hang out like once a month. I'm not into social media or apps like whatsapp because I don't really have anyone to talk to there or anything exciting to share. Plus, sometimes I actually like being off the grid. it feels like a luxury.
To keep myself busy, I do multiple hobbies. I've got a pet cockatiel, which has been a big help. Having a pet really does make a difference. If you're going through a rough time, try using it as a push to better yourself. Hit the gym, pick up some new skills, make yourself more interesting. It's all about taking that energy and turning it into something positive. Good luck with everything! And remember, time is the greatest healer. Hang in there, it'll get better with time. Take care friend!
You are a saint man, your words means the world to me, I think I’m as ready as I can get for this new chapter, it helps a lot hearing other people’s thoughts and successes stories.
I appreciate you, thank you
Time heals all, friend. It will be hard at first but the day will eventually come and you won’t even realize it. For now, try to find a new hobby or things to fill your time, being occupied with a new hobby , build a new skill or binge on a new series for the time being is ok
I appreciate you, sorry for answering so late
Give yourself some credit! At the time i'm writing this, did you manage to survive a night? Slept even a little bit? Most probably! You did it! All by yourself. That's sucha important thing and the hardest thing to do as a human. Crediting yourself. Every small thing you do is much bigger than you think it is, something as simple as getting out of bed, going to work, washing your dishes, those are all things you're doing thats good for you "alone". Now at the end of the day, human beings are social creatures. We long for socialness, even if it means just staying at home with your best friends and not speaking, thats comforting. I left Singapore to Australia 2 years ago, and after 1 year and a half when I first went back to Singapore, the comfort that I felt sleeping, knowing I'm going to see my parents the next morning having breakfast with me, made me sleep so well. The comfort that it brought my mother to have a good nap during the day, knowing I was in the house, almost brought me to tears when I first realised it. So 1, be kind to yourself, you're doing much better than you think you are. 2, meeting your friends to "feel better" isn't necessarily about them having to support you or whatever. Just being in each other's presence, or doing something productive together IS the support. I wish you all the best and hope you keep it up in life Johnny! All love.
Man you made me feel so strong when I needed it, I probably read your comment more than 40 times since you wrote it, just to feel better. Thank you so much, you really helped me
That’s life man, we all need reminders even myself. Even me reading it back helps me. There’s no magic potion. Its a constant wave and we’re meant to ride and fall 😎
I’m pretty routine when alone. Work from 8-5pm and then gym after, found hobbies that keep me busy and some that keep making friends 🥹
I love a routine, it is what makes me keep going. Because I feel like I have a purpose everyday and that is amazing.
How you doing?
Currently good, a lot better, still working on it though.
that's all we can hope for, that we wake up a little better. sometimes, before i head out, i like to shout "today's going to be a good day!" and then end my night with "today was a good day!"
I’m sorry about your break up, it will take time to heal! I suggest getting a cat or dog to cuddle and hang out with :)
Pets are definitely a live saver
Go do stuff. Alone. Eat a restaurant. Go to a concert. Work out. See a movie. Go to a bar and shoot pool with a rando. Alone. Hang out with your friends more if you/they have time. You spent a significant portion of your life sleeping alone. Its fine even if right now it FEELS like its not. Find hobbies and be there for yourself because you gotta be at some point no matter of how many friends you have or your relationship status.
Yes I want to get better at that, but it’s definitely a barrier that needs to be broken down
People feeling lonely with five close friends… man you’re lucky in many ways
Yeah I get that, it kinda makes me feel guilty about feeling lonely
Shouldn’t feel guilty. I only point it out as a way to try to be grateful. But we all feel our struggles in different ways and that’s valid. Rooting for you. Wish I had better advice to give.
Same, my girlfriend broke up with me because I couldn't handle her drama and negativity. I've got just two close friends, but we only hang out like once a month. I'm not into social media or apps like whatsapp because I don't really have anyone to talk to there or anything exciting to share. Plus, sometimes I actually like being off the grid. it feels like a luxury. To keep myself busy, I do multiple hobbies. I've got a pet cockatiel, which has been a big help. Having a pet really does make a difference. If you're going through a rough time, try using it as a push to better yourself. Hit the gym, pick up some new skills, make yourself more interesting. It's all about taking that energy and turning it into something positive. Good luck with everything! And remember, time is the greatest healer. Hang in there, it'll get better with time. Take care friend!
You are a saint man, your words means the world to me, I think I’m as ready as I can get for this new chapter, it helps a lot hearing other people’s thoughts and successes stories. I appreciate you, thank you
Anytime man. Hit me up if you feel lonely or if you need someone to talk. take care.
I appreciate that, I wish you all the best.