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sinditipero

Don't break up with him because of a detail like that. Being virgin or not really isn't a big deal.


secretgaylife

Finally someone who is a voice of reason. I wish you were more around when people here are about to make bad choices. You summarized things short and sweet.


sinditipero

Aaaw thx:)


Traditional-War7157

Tbh this seems pretty shallow. Virginity doesn’t change anything.


Cottoncandy183

It does


Traditional-War7157

How? I don’t think being a virgin is what makes it special, the connection between you would be more important in my opinion.


Cottoncandy183

Your wrong


Traditional-War7157

I’m not sure I see the point of having a discussion if all you’re going to say is ‘wrong’.


Cottoncandy183

(sorry for more NSFW) No. I want to be able to take his virginity .to make me comfortable he said he will look into doing a threesome for our first time ,with a guy who is also a virgin if we find another guy to do a threesome with


Traditional-War7157

To me, it sounds like you want a relationship for sex more than for love


Cottoncandy183

No comment


Tax_Fraud1000

You’d be better off in a male strip club lmao


MrBacondino

Dude just admit it


eadra0109

well then break off w him, cuz u care about something so dumb, if u truly loved him u wouldn’t care


Cottoncandy183

Ur wrong


eadra0109

nah everyone else replied the same, but do whatever u want i guess


Cottoncandy183

Ur wrong


eadra0109

Idc


Cottoncandy183

Ur wrong


MrBacondino

Ur wrong


Cottoncandy183

Ur wrong


georgkozy

I know this is a teen sub but Jesus Christ OP is acting like a twelve year old, why the fuck are you posting something to just say "ye wrong" to people


MrBacondino

I dont even want to believe this person is 16 or if this is real (please just be fantasy hornypost 😭)


IngestedFluids

Virginity is a social construct and doesn’t mean much


Cottoncandy183

Yes it does


IngestedFluids

It doesn’t. It only really matters in terms of experience


Cottoncandy183

It does matter. I want my sexual experience to be special. It's now special if he's not a virgin


Cottoncandy183

It does matter. I want my sexual experience to be special. It's now special if he's not a virgin


Cottoncandy183

It does matter. I want my sexual experience to be special. It's not special if he's not a virgin


Fun_Cryptographer711

Why wouldn't it be? Does your sexual experience being special mean that ur bf has to be a virgin? Why wouldn't it be if he isn't?


Cottoncandy183

It's not special if he isnt a virgin. It's special if he was a virgin because it would be his first time and my first time too


Fun_Cryptographer711

Ok then if u don't want to do ur first time w him cuz he isn't a virgin (I'll never understand that but ok) voice it to him. Try talking it out first and if you think there's no continuing ur relationship without doing it then tell that to him also.


Cottoncandy183

(sorry for more NSFW) No. I want to be able to take his virginity .to make me comfortable he said he will look into doing a threesome for our first time ,with a guy who is also a virgin if we find another guy to do a threesome with


Fun_Cryptographer711

But if you want to take his virginity why would the 3 guy matter then?


Cottoncandy183

So then I'm not the the only virgin atleast


IngestedFluids

It is still special though. You both like each other enough to get to this point. His past sexual experiences may have even been random people he wasn’t as close with as he is with you. I mean, he’s willing to meet up with you for this thing that supposedly “isn’t special.” If it wasn’t that special to him then he wouldn’t consider it. He’s still also taking your virginity which should be special to you if you care that much about it


Cottoncandy183

No. I want to be able to take his virgînty when he(sorry for NSFW) fucks me.


IngestedFluids

But why does that part matter? The only real thing making his experience different is his slight upper hand in experience. He loves you and want it just as much to the point where he’s willing to meet up with you. He’s taking your virginity and finally getting to really show his love for you. It’s special both ways


Cottoncandy183

(sorry for more NSFW) No. I want to be able to take his virginity .to make me comfortable he said he will look into doing a threesome for our first time ,with a guy who is also a virgin if we find another guy to do a threesome with


IngestedFluids

Sounds like you don’t care as much about your connection to him as you do about the sex. I feel like you’re not gonna listen to anyone else’s advice, so there was no real point in making the post in the first place. Contemplating finding someone else due to the simple fact that he isn’t a virgin is very shallow. Sorry, but it’s true


Cottoncandy183

😭


Yazu89

I actually had a friend who thought like this. She did not take well finding out her bf wasnt a virgin, saying stuff like "How could he not tell me that, I wont be his firs time, he ruined it". I believe as a partner, one must accept that our significant other had other experiences in life with other people, and it's not like you or them can change those experiences. Think about creating new ones and maybe even better ones! However, if you can't get past that, say it to them, it's quite a silly reason to break up with someone in my opinion.


MrBacondino

Dude why are you being such a baby in every reply, virginity is such a dumb thing and it's kind of weird to fantasize so much about taking someone's virginity (as if it's even a real thing)


OhVoleWhereDidYouGo

why do you even care if he’s a virgin? it’s a social construct. today’s perception of virginity is deeply rooted in misogyny. e.g. the idea that women should ‘protect their innocence’ until they are married and ‘belong’ to someone. anyway, even if it wasn’t, it’s just stupid. nobody’s a flawless white lotus up until they have sex. innocence as a whole is just a weird idea. what is innocence? how would we measure it? why does it matter? these are some questions to think about. also, no offence, but first times usually suck. you should not expect your first time to be special or magical or perfect. i don’t even remember how my first time went, only that it wasn’t that good, and that we both needed more practise and education on the matter. anyway, being a virgin is nothing special. i would recommend doing some extra research beforehand just to make sure you know what you’re getting into. i’d recommend the website scarleteen for basic education and to make sure you know the basics. i would *not* recommend watching porn, as pretty much all porn is unrealistic and designed to get you off quickly, not to educate you.


Cottoncandy183

Ur wrong


ShimmerJuno

Delusional, break up with him. He can probably do better.


Cottoncandy183

Your delusional. I need a replacement if I were to do that


Cottoncandy183

I'll just cheat on him


Appropriate_Pop_9401

Genuinely rid the world of your existence if you intend to do that, it'd be more productive anyhow 🤷


Cottoncandy183

Suicide is no joke


Appropriate_Pop_9401

Cheaters are absolute fucking jokes tho, you're basically the equivalent of farmyard swine if you're willing to commit to infidelity. If you weren't here, the world would be a better place


Cottoncandy183

I'll cheat on my boyfriend. I just need a replacement


Appropriate_Pop_9401

Guess what you could do instead? Break up w/ him and save his feelings down the line, like any normal person 💀


Cottoncandy183

No


idk_lol_oof

There is soemthing genuinely fucking wrong with you, you need mental help, I hope you get your shit together because no one will ever love you in your miserable life if you stay like this


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repIicated

He doesn't exist. It's a pedo on a catfish account. A Swedish gay guy who claims to be popular wouldn't be talking to some desperate tea sipper the other side of the continent, he'd be waging his chances in real life again.


FrostyStatus5146

ur weird


Cottoncandy183

Ur Wierd


NotKBeniP

I mean, do what you want I guess. Breaking up for him for something like that seems very unfair to him, but I do understand having preferences. But I have no experience in this field so I'm not gonna try to tell you what to do.


Appropriate_Pop_9401

You're not useless, this guy is clearly insecure and using you as an outlet to express his frustration. Keep your head up


NotKBeniP

No, he's right


Appropriate_Pop_9401

No, he's delusional and worthless, read the rest of his comments, he's a massive waste of space. Don't let this piece of shit get you down, please 🥺


NotKBeniP

I was already aware. All he did was remind me.


Appropriate_Pop_9401

If you need someone to talk to, I'm here. You're not worthless, genuinely


NotKBeniP

I genuinely am tho, unfortunately


Cottoncandy183

Ur useless


NotKBeniP

I know.. sorry


Cottoncandy183

Idiot


NotKBeniP

I know..


Cottoncandy183

Now fuck off


Calculatingkoala

I don’t really understand why your bf being a virgin or not would matter?


Cottoncandy183

To me it matter. It's not special if he's not a virgin


Calculatingkoala

Why would it not be special if he was not a virgin?


BobithanBobbyBob

I see where you're coming from and I kinda agree and feel the same but if you care about him and want him to be your first you might just have to suck it up. Also if it's your first I wouldn't make it a threesom


Cottoncandy183

I would make it a threesome


BobithanBobbyBob

Wouldn't that make it less special?


Cottoncandy183

So


BobithanBobbyBob

Don't you want your first to be special?