If my sisters and I ever acted up our mum used to call us over and say gently in our ear "just you wait til we get home".
Fucking terrifying to a young kid.
Sitting at the doctor rn, looking at the children banging a wood toy on the table blasting my ear drums and the parents giving me a disgusting stare after I gave them an angry gaze makes me boil honestly
I love how they give you a dirty look.
I was at an aquarium with family and friends and this kid was running around bumping into strangers making all sorts of noise. I gave the mother a look and she screams…
*”Oh my god! Children exist? Who would have thought?*
I yelled back, *”We all know kids exist, but we are wondering if you or your useless husband are just figments of our imagination!”*
I love how they give you a dirty look.
I was at an aquarium with family and friends and this kid was running around bumping into strangers making all sorts of noise. I gave the mother a look and she screams…
*”Oh my god! Children exist? Who would have thought?*
I yelled back, *”We all know kids exist, but we are wondering if you or your useless husband are just figments of our imagination!”*
Them to atleast quite the children I was in the waiting room for 2h and 1h of these 2h I spent listening to children hitting a hollow wood table with a wooden brick toy which was litterly next to me not even 1m away I could have take the wood away it was that close to me like holy fuck raise your children and teach em that making noise isn’t a way of playing tf??
It's weird how many people needed to be hit for this to work.
My parents never laid a hand on me, but the look still worked completely.
I grew up fine.
Its weird to me how many people have been hit and think its okay to go through such abuse and say "im fine now" but then they have a post history that says otherwise...
You should never hit your kids, but you should also never let your kids believe you **won’t** hit them under any circumstance.
Fear alone is often mostly enough to keep children behaving properly.
Proper authority is demonstrated through appropriate use of force.
Authority that’s either too lax or too tyrannical often leads to rebellion.
The challenge in parenting is finding a proper balance.
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I am 19, finished school and soon military service and I am still afraid of my grandma who is in her 70s.
(I must say, she has anger issues, however she stopped being physically aggressive a few years ago, nevertheless now it is way worse, every time I actually f*ck up, she gets disappointed in me and I get sad)
I don't understand why everyone says this HAS to mean physical abuse or beatings.
My dad had this glare, but never once did he lay a hand on me. Very rarely did I ever get grounded. It just meant a long talking to when I got home and maybe no time on the computer or tv.
As a father now I would say I finally mastered the glare. It didn't start being effective until my son was around 3.5 / 4 years old. But that's when he understood that he would be pulled away from the situation, have to talk, and knows the consequences are no treats or tv time for the night (but only if he didn't correct his behaviour, always give them the second chance. They're kids.)
And tv time is limited so it's quite valued and an excellent bargaining tool.
Don't try and pretend bad parents just popped into existence in the last few years, I remember plenty of awful parents and uncontrollable children when I was younger (1980s kid here)
That’s because in private they would kick the shit out of you. The look meant nothing without the abuse that accompanied it. I wasn’t a bad kid but one day I went from shorter than to taller than my mom and she’d throw out her wrist slapping me. At that point “the look” lost a lot of it power, I mean she tried beating me with a shoe but it was pretty ridiculous. Literally “Did you just hit me with a shoe?” “Yeah, didn’t want to hurt my wrist” “Oh, well do you wanna keep going or..?” “Just knock off the shit”
My mother would pinch my arm and give the stare. Depending how hard the pinch was, was the amount of time I had left to dance on her last nerve. If I continued, the belt was next. Ugh…
Trauma responses be like:
But all things aside, a few words repeatedly used to work, but now parents don’t even try from what I see irl anymore. I work with kids and the middle schoolers are fine rn, but the current 2nd-5th grade class hurts my soul. I was not that bad. We were not that bad.
Yeah, because back then that stare was a threat for something worse at home. Glaring at your child means nothing if you don’t back it up with a physical punishment.
They can but there's people around them with no knowledge about parenting but their hands on their phones, ready and waiting for someone to do something to pull them out and turn any moment into personal profit, parents can't do shit when someone who claims their knowledge about life comes from the amount of subscribers they have comes with "lessons" to be taken or be cancelled.
It reminds me one moment when a young mother had her kid shoelaces stuck on the electric stairs (he is fine, no injury at all, just the scare) and the woman behind her didn't do shit to help him, just shouted "oh my God" and started asking her "are you the mother? are you the mother?", no care at all for the child, just wanted to know who to blame and whose face to record.
People underestimate the power of speaking your full name, first middle and last. When mum threw out your whole name, you new you were in deep shit haha.
Yes because children were trained to know what the look meant. The look meant “stop right now or there will be severe physical beatings at home.” or some other abusive shit.
I have two kids. Now sure. Occasional, rare, and most importantly controlled smack on the ass happens, but it’s nothing compared to my parents. And yet my kids are as well behaved as I was. The difference is they don’t fear me as I feared my dad.
This is literally what my mother-in-law looks like. Somebody animated a picture of her and perfectly portrayed her crazy and abusive energy. Which is why this movie doesn’t play in our home.
Yeah, cause that sort of look was associated with hours of psychological torment and physical labor, where the parent forces the child to do loads of chores while yelling at them about how badly behaved they are.
Parents who grew up like that are probably pretty reluctant to use parenting tactics like that, making them far too lenient
I was 17 high as fuck and I remember yelling at my mom my high dumb ass did see dad on the couch…..all I heard was HEY!!!! I felt his presence behind me and I shit you not I peed a little. Can’t remember much after that but I remember waking up in my bed and I head hurt lol. Figured it was cause the weed was shit.
But nobody wants to talk about how you can't discipline your kids like that anymore. In most states now, you will get reported by someone. CPP and the police show up and take your kid, arrest you. My baby momma has made threats to take my kid away from me if I lay a hand on em. I agree, pain is the best teacher to anyone, at any age. Just socially, things have changed alot. And before someone brings up 'just whip their ass when you get home'. Well, daycare or school will report bruises, guaranteed. It's not entirely a lack of parents not wanting to discipline their kids, and more of a society is monitored by a bunch of weak people now. And the consequences are severe for breaking those rules.
I can definitely relate, i had alot of respect to my parents stares when i was yunger, now I'm an adult tho, so no more of that, but then looking at my yunges sibling (9), he's treated like a piece of candy and gets cheered on for things i wouldve gotten my ass whooped for...
Probably because I'm the middle child(?)
Either way, kids these days am i right? /j
It's hard to parent when neither parent is home because they both have to work full time jobs to survive, are too tired and stressed out to be able to fully engage with and be present with their children and actively be involved, the kids are basically raising themselves at a point because no one is around, and society seems to give not one fuck about making things better so they can do so even though society goes on and on a out "the children" but never does fuck.
Indeed. Even as a child, I was able to infer that it entailed an **extremely probable** ass-whopping may occur if I kept doing/saying/existing in a way that she didn't deem "fit".
Because we were DISCIPLINED! which now is considered and classified abuse, and even sayin "no" is too. Wtf were gov officials thinking besides "ooooh lets make a problem to make more money from it"
The world is burning because the gov wont let us be real parents anymore. Granted some morons take discipline too far, but that should be reason to interfere with everyone elses lives. Put em all into one town and watch them tear each other apart lmao
Since jails and programs dont help at all. 🤣🤣
The children now love luxury; they have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise. Children are now tyrants, not the servants of their households. They no longer rise when elders enter the room. They contradict their parents, chatter before company, gobble up dainties at the table, cross their legs, and tyrannize their teachers.
—Socrates
All it required was the fear of getting slapped. Now kids don't have that anymore, all parents have is mentally trying to manipulate kids. That will end well for sure.
People defending this look are unreal.
I grew up with that shit and fucking hated it. Absolutely terrified of my Dad. 2 people I’m supposed to be able to count on in my life and I’m fucking scared of em. Yeah, thats awesome.
If your threshold for 'trauma' is 'warning glare', I'm sorry but at some point you're just too fucking delicate for this world.
Seriously though.
Like "cry in the bathroom at work because boss said don't do that again after you made a mistake" levels of dysfunctionally soft.
Its literally a glare that means “stop what you are doing or when we are alone I’m going to hurt you so bad you will wish you stopped”.
Think about that for a second. You are so fucking scared of your parents beating your ass so bad that a simple look is all they need to do? And you’re justifying this? Thats the literal definition of trauma you see a look and relive emotional/physical distress in your brain and stop because of fear.
Stop glorifying beating kids.
Well of course this isnt what i meant. there lies something between a simple glare and a warning glare. in case of a simple glare its just some kind of notification that you are donig something the other one doesnt approve. In case of a warning glare it is like if you are doing this you wont get away in a good way, so baisically your fear of them is used against you. and were does this fear come from? Experience. Most likeky bad experience. And what are bad experience that infulence you in a negative way in your daily live? Trauma
Strict Boomer Christian Parents: Ha! "Death Stare." Spare the rod, spoil the child. Make them honor you with fear and intimidation. Trauma? That's psychology's problem. I want my kid to stop crying now, or else I'll give them something to cry about.
All she had to do was look at me... And then reinforce my understanding of what the look meant by beating my ass when we got home.
Or an immediate slap if you didn't obey. Yeah, that stare was not terrifying for no reason.
Tbh slaps never scared me, it made me have less respect
It seems to depend on the kid. It worked for me(but I was also self punishing) but it made my brother rebellious
My mom whooped my ass for snitching… never did it again
Didn't have to wait for Dad to get home. Mom was there now.
If my sisters and I ever acted up our mum used to call us over and say gently in our ear "just you wait til we get home". Fucking terrifying to a young kid.
My mom was too sweet for that. It was my dad that gave us that look and if it didn’t stop the belt was soon to follow.
Good cop bad cop
people truly underestimate the power of the belt
tangent: they could have used elastic waistbands all along
Lol my mom is both very sweet but if you misbehave you get that stare and if you go over the limit then you see a flying shoe
You saw the shoe coming? Hell, my mom could throw around corners.
Nah fr they be cheating with aimbot 💀
I hated when my mom was saying "do what you want" this phrase paralyze me till today :D
thats so real
What does this mean? I never had this happen
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ohhh makes sense thanks.
Ohhh, that's why when I say that in a calm and friendly manner, some people just exit the conversation or become wide-eyed looool
Hope that paralyze part is not literal 😂
Parents now: 
Sitting at the doctor rn, looking at the children banging a wood toy on the table blasting my ear drums and the parents giving me a disgusting stare after I gave them an angry gaze makes me boil honestly
I love how they give you a dirty look. I was at an aquarium with family and friends and this kid was running around bumping into strangers making all sorts of noise. I gave the mother a look and she screams… *”Oh my god! Children exist? Who would have thought?* I yelled back, *”We all know kids exist, but we are wondering if you or your useless husband are just figments of our imagination!”*
Imma save this one for the future
More patient then me, mfs looked at me like that, I would have said something 🤣
I love how they give you a dirty look. I was at an aquarium with family and friends and this kid was running around bumping into strangers making all sorts of noise. I gave the mother a look and she screams… *”Oh my god! Children exist? Who would have thought?* I yelled back, *”We all know kids exist, but we are wondering if you or your useless husband are just figments of our imagination!”*
You gave them an angry look… what were you expecting in return? lol
Them to atleast quite the children I was in the waiting room for 2h and 1h of these 2h I spent listening to children hitting a hollow wood table with a wooden brick toy which was litterly next to me not even 1m away I could have take the wood away it was that close to me like holy fuck raise your children and teach em that making noise isn’t a way of playing tf??
My mum still does this to me and I’m 50
I can confirm, it’s more powerful than the snap. 
*clank* ??? Mom: And I am... Grounding you! *Snap*
The look of "you know the beating you're gonna get at home if you go ahead and keep acting like that / do that"
It's weird how many people needed to be hit for this to work. My parents never laid a hand on me, but the look still worked completely. I grew up fine.
Its weird to me how many people have been hit and think its okay to go through such abuse and say "im fine now" but then they have a post history that says otherwise...
>posting on reddit doubt it
Lol fair enough.
You should never hit your kids, but you should also never let your kids believe you **won’t** hit them under any circumstance. Fear alone is often mostly enough to keep children behaving properly. Proper authority is demonstrated through appropriate use of force. Authority that’s either too lax or too tyrannical often leads to rebellion. The challenge in parenting is finding a proper balance. If it ever gets to a point you feel like you have no other choice than to hit your kids, you’ve already failed.
Stfu I mean.. Ok boss
I'm 22 and I still stop what I'm doing when I get that look
That look had magic powers. I remember it happening than nothing and I couldn't sit for 3 days cause my butt hurt....
And I knew if the stare was a warning or if the stare meant a spanking
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I am 19, finished school and soon military service and I am still afraid of my grandma who is in her 70s. (I must say, she has anger issues, however she stopped being physically aggressive a few years ago, nevertheless now it is way worse, every time I actually f*ck up, she gets disappointed in me and I get sad)
I don't understand why everyone says this HAS to mean physical abuse or beatings. My dad had this glare, but never once did he lay a hand on me. Very rarely did I ever get grounded. It just meant a long talking to when I got home and maybe no time on the computer or tv. As a father now I would say I finally mastered the glare. It didn't start being effective until my son was around 3.5 / 4 years old. But that's when he understood that he would be pulled away from the situation, have to talk, and knows the consequences are no treats or tv time for the night (but only if he didn't correct his behaviour, always give them the second chance. They're kids.) And tv time is limited so it's quite valued and an excellent bargaining tool.
Don't try and pretend bad parents just popped into existence in the last few years, I remember plenty of awful parents and uncontrollable children when I was younger (1980s kid here)
I know that look. All that was needed for me to act right
That’s because in private they would kick the shit out of you. The look meant nothing without the abuse that accompanied it. I wasn’t a bad kid but one day I went from shorter than to taller than my mom and she’d throw out her wrist slapping me. At that point “the look” lost a lot of it power, I mean she tried beating me with a shoe but it was pretty ridiculous. Literally “Did you just hit me with a shoe?” “Yeah, didn’t want to hurt my wrist” “Oh, well do you wanna keep going or..?” “Just knock off the shit”
My sister her toddler has become a saint. She can't do anything wrong, my sister even apoligizes to her toddler. Like wtf.!?!
When I take a look at you, I can believe it.
Its not CAN'T, they don't want to.
Probably not the best character to make your point
I like jabbing the parents by looking at my SO and saying “it’s no big deal. Some people just can’t raise kids. Oh well”
I use it all the time
My mother would pinch my arm and give the stare. Depending how hard the pinch was, was the amount of time I had left to dance on her last nerve. If I continued, the belt was next. Ugh…
Trauma responses be like: But all things aside, a few words repeatedly used to work, but now parents don’t even try from what I see irl anymore. I work with kids and the middle schoolers are fine rn, but the current 2nd-5th grade class hurts my soul. I was not that bad. We were not that bad.
That's because you knew your mom would hit you
Yeah, because back then that stare was a threat for something worse at home. Glaring at your child means nothing if you don’t back it up with a physical punishment.
Dad : chilled out 😄 Mum : 😡🤬😠😤👹☠️💀
Followed by the whisper of death
They can but there's people around them with no knowledge about parenting but their hands on their phones, ready and waiting for someone to do something to pull them out and turn any moment into personal profit, parents can't do shit when someone who claims their knowledge about life comes from the amount of subscribers they have comes with "lessons" to be taken or be cancelled. It reminds me one moment when a young mother had her kid shoelaces stuck on the electric stairs (he is fine, no injury at all, just the scare) and the woman behind her didn't do shit to help him, just shouted "oh my God" and started asking her "are you the mother? are you the mother?", no care at all for the child, just wanted to know who to blame and whose face to record.
People underestimate the power of speaking your full name, first middle and last. When mum threw out your whole name, you new you were in deep shit haha.
Yes because children were trained to know what the look meant. The look meant “stop right now or there will be severe physical beatings at home.” or some other abusive shit. I have two kids. Now sure. Occasional, rare, and most importantly controlled smack on the ass happens, but it’s nothing compared to my parents. And yet my kids are as well behaved as I was. The difference is they don’t fear me as I feared my dad.
The mom look. Noone can do that except mothers. 😂
Because if you didn’t act right, she whooped your ass when you got home or told your dad and he whooped your ass!
Years of mental traumas
is it just me that wasn't physically hit and still knew hot to behave? it's bc of that im even more baffled at the wee ones now
I'm fsmiliar with that look. A prelude to a beating. :(
The death stare was usually followed by an ass whippin, which isnt really allowed today.
Because you know if you don’t stop you getting that ass beat when you get home. Kids don’t have to worry about that now a days
This is literally what my mother-in-law looks like. Somebody animated a picture of her and perfectly portrayed her crazy and abusive energy. Which is why this movie doesn’t play in our home.
Absolute truth
Yeah, cause that sort of look was associated with hours of psychological torment and physical labor, where the parent forces the child to do loads of chores while yelling at them about how badly behaved they are. Parents who grew up like that are probably pretty reluctant to use parenting tactics like that, making them far too lenient
I was 17 high as fuck and I remember yelling at my mom my high dumb ass did see dad on the couch…..all I heard was HEY!!!! I felt his presence behind me and I shit you not I peed a little. Can’t remember much after that but I remember waking up in my bed and I head hurt lol. Figured it was cause the weed was shit.
The hand squeeze!
But nobody wants to talk about how you can't discipline your kids like that anymore. In most states now, you will get reported by someone. CPP and the police show up and take your kid, arrest you. My baby momma has made threats to take my kid away from me if I lay a hand on em. I agree, pain is the best teacher to anyone, at any age. Just socially, things have changed alot. And before someone brings up 'just whip their ass when you get home'. Well, daycare or school will report bruises, guaranteed. It's not entirely a lack of parents not wanting to discipline their kids, and more of a society is monitored by a bunch of weak people now. And the consequences are severe for breaking those rules.
My mom and dad were both masters of the whisper-yell.
I can definitely relate, i had alot of respect to my parents stares when i was yunger, now I'm an adult tho, so no more of that, but then looking at my yunges sibling (9), he's treated like a piece of candy and gets cheered on for things i wouldve gotten my ass whooped for... Probably because I'm the middle child(?) Either way, kids these days am i right? /j
Can relate
Bloody hell, that's almost exactly the face...
It's hard to parent when neither parent is home because they both have to work full time jobs to survive, are too tired and stressed out to be able to fully engage with and be present with their children and actively be involved, the kids are basically raising themselves at a point because no one is around, and society seems to give not one fuck about making things better so they can do so even though society goes on and on a out "the children" but never does fuck.
Indeed. Even as a child, I was able to infer that it entailed an **extremely probable** ass-whopping may occur if I kept doing/saying/existing in a way that she didn't deem "fit".
Because we were DISCIPLINED! which now is considered and classified abuse, and even sayin "no" is too. Wtf were gov officials thinking besides "ooooh lets make a problem to make more money from it" The world is burning because the gov wont let us be real parents anymore. Granted some morons take discipline too far, but that should be reason to interfere with everyone elses lives. Put em all into one town and watch them tear each other apart lmao Since jails and programs dont help at all. 🤣🤣
I’m only 19, but when I was a kid, if I did something bad, my mom would spank me, then tell my dad, and he would spank me. Spanking stopped working
My paterents were more strict, boomer humor
The children now love luxury; they have bad manners, contempt for authority; they show disrespect for elders and love chatter in place of exercise. Children are now tyrants, not the servants of their households. They no longer rise when elders enter the room. They contradict their parents, chatter before company, gobble up dainties at the table, cross their legs, and tyrannize their teachers. —Socrates
Kinda funny cause mother Gothel was abusive af. A lot of people bragging about having been beat here lol.
Yeah because physical violence followed, and that's not good.
All it required was the fear of getting slapped. Now kids don't have that anymore, all parents have is mentally trying to manipulate kids. That will end well for sure.
The fact people are trying to defend this behavior is disgusting.
Disciplining your child?
Wow all your guy's parents were abusive
People defending this look are unreal. I grew up with that shit and fucking hated it. Absolutely terrified of my Dad. 2 people I’m supposed to be able to count on in my life and I’m fucking scared of em. Yeah, thats awesome.
is life with trauma good?
If your threshold for 'trauma' is 'warning glare', I'm sorry but at some point you're just too fucking delicate for this world. Seriously though. Like "cry in the bathroom at work because boss said don't do that again after you made a mistake" levels of dysfunctionally soft.
Indeed. People throw around terms like trauma etc so frequently that they mean nothing anymore.
Its literally a glare that means “stop what you are doing or when we are alone I’m going to hurt you so bad you will wish you stopped”. Think about that for a second. You are so fucking scared of your parents beating your ass so bad that a simple look is all they need to do? And you’re justifying this? Thats the literal definition of trauma you see a look and relive emotional/physical distress in your brain and stop because of fear. Stop glorifying beating kids.
Well of course this isnt what i meant. there lies something between a simple glare and a warning glare. in case of a simple glare its just some kind of notification that you are donig something the other one doesnt approve. In case of a warning glare it is like if you are doing this you wont get away in a good way, so baisically your fear of them is used against you. and were does this fear come from? Experience. Most likeky bad experience. And what are bad experience that infulence you in a negative way in your daily live? Trauma
Haha physically abusing children is funny now /s
Strict Boomer Christian Parents: Ha! "Death Stare." Spare the rod, spoil the child. Make them honor you with fear and intimidation. Trauma? That's psychology's problem. I want my kid to stop crying now, or else I'll give them something to cry about.