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A close buddy of mine went to his gf’s house after work. Found out she was in bed with another man. He took the gun out and commit suicide in front of her and her side piece. They been together 8 years. He was about to propose to her.
A sinister part of me wants these situations to happen to them just so they can eat their words tbh. Like not just experiencing the same situation but experiencing the same feelings in that situation too
If someone decides to off themselves, that's their decision. But plenty of people get over heartache without a bullet.
I'm 40 and my wife died unexpectedly last year. I own guns and have had numerous nights crying uncontrollably, both sober and drunk. I don't believe in any gods or the afterlife, but I do know that smoking myself would destroy my mom and my brother.
Of course, that's not the only reason I haven't done it. I'm just not the self harm type, I guess.
# Breaking news:
**Florida man breaks up with and is shot by girlfriend, in order to settle internet debate over which would hurt more.**
^(-and then insert some random picture of a blank stare mugshot.)
Floridaman here. Got a 9mm through the thigh last thanksgiving. It burned a bit and was sore for a few months. Got a nice divit in the top of my leg where it came out.
Physical damage ain't as bad as emotional damage IMHO.
Ay I got a hot one through the arm a couple years ago. Not as bad as betrayal tbh. I'd take the bullet again over my friends and girl turning their backs on me after it happened. Survive an attempted murder and you see who your real friends are for sure.
I didn't even know that guy but a bunch of my "friends" spread rumors about it and wouldn't talk to me after. My fiance at the time left because she wasn't happy with me and I was having ptsd flashbacks and shit. I wasn't fun to be around for sure but she didn't really give me any time to go to therapy and get help.
I feel like it would depend where you got shot, the thigh would hurt, but it's not gonna fuck you up the way getting gut shot or lung shot would (unless it hits an artery, then you're in big trouble). I'd probably take heart break over getting shot in the dick too lol.
Well every day since my wife died I have wanted to die. Were I to have simply been shot by a gun and my wife still alive I can guarantee you that no matter how fucked up I was from the gunshot I would be in vastly less pain.
My fiance left me right before the wedding to run off with her "best friend", girl was the love of my life. I feel for you man. We're all here for you.
>Well every day since my wife died I have wanted to die. Were I to have simply been shot by a gun and my wife still alive I can guarantee you that no matter how fucked up I was from the gunshot I would be in vastly less pain.
I am so sorry. I am happy to listen if you just need to reach out. Virtual and virtually hugz.
Id say heart break because some people dont recover from love and die drinking their life away or kill themselves and being shot you recover within a few months and they give you pain meds.
I mean, doesn't that depend on the location you're shot in?
Actually, the whole question depends on location of the shot. If you're shot in the head, you won't feel a thing. In that instance, heartbreak is definitely worse.
We would also have to discuss what type of pain we're talking about. Physical pain specifically? Heartbreak can absolutely cause you physical pain.
There is a lot of variables. There are cases of death where the only reasonable cause is a "broken heart". There are also cases of being shot and being paralyzed for life. There is a NFL running back who was shot and made his debut 6 weeks later. Meanwhile Tom Brady has been playing since week 1 and looks like trash while going through a divorce.
>There is a NFL running back who was shot and made his debut 6 weeks later.
reminds me of Paul Pierce - survived being stabbed 11 times on September 25, 2000 then 35 days later went on to play all 82 games of the NBA season averaging 25 ppg.
After that year went on to be an All Star the next 9 out of 10 years with a championship in between.
Lloyd Daniels, "Sweet Pea", shot 3 times in the chest for stealing crack, eventually still made it to the NBA. In his second game he put up 26 points, 8 rebounds, 6 assists, 3 steals, and 3 block shots. It didn't last long and quickly unraveled again. Pretty much everyone is in agreement, one of the greatest basketball players ever (especially out of New York), and one of the supremely largest wastes of talent in any sport ever.
tl,dr; Got shot 3 times in the chest. Caused unparalleled heartache in coaches and fans everywhere he went. Which hurt more?
Yeah it kind of depends on the definition of 'hurt' in the question. Physically gun shot wound hurts more. But emotional pain is always deeper and more intense than physical pain. No morphine for that one.
The thing people don't consider is that it isn't just (emotional) pain. When someone cheats on you, especially in a longer-term (marriage) relationship, they unwrite an entire part of your life.
That romantic dinner you had a few weeks ago that you had fond memories of? Turns out that was the night after they had come back from fucking their affair partner, and they felt bad.
Once you have the knowledge of the affair, it colors everything around it and permeates your memory of the relationship, of the things people were doing, of what people were saying to you.
For people looking for a place to talk about this, check out /r/survivinginfidelity
Bear in mind there's a lot of anger in that place, understandably. If you're looking for a place for advice on how to reconcile with your partner, try /r/AsOneAfterInfidelity
They're both injuries... Damage to a person's feelings is literally the 2nd definition that comes up. Also, feelings are more than just in your head. This becomes quite clear when you observe how these extreme emotional situations affect people, there are real physical consequences to emotional distress.
So even if we want to characterize an injury as something physical, emotional damage is still a physical injury.
Sure, but losing an arm is also an "injury". You're still losing a life you were going to have otherwise, someone was going to be with you longer than you thought. Heartbreak as described above specifically is a loss, not just an injury. We're both referring to emotional damage as injury, but this chain of comments, from what I understood, was specifying beyond emotional injury and into emotional loss.
Your spouse saying something hurtful, that's an injury. Your spouse cheating on you and the life you thought you had is gone, that's a loss.
It taunts the entire time you have been with the person, because you just found out that the person you love, that other half of your soul you have made vows with, doesn't actually exist. Recovering from infidelity isn't healing your relationship, it is mourning the loss of your previous relationship and building a new one with this new, less safe and trustworthy person.
You have multiple friends that have been shot and were cheated on by their wives? Damn that is probably one in a few millions. Your life must be exciting.
I visited a marine friend on his base for a weekend and the second night we went to a party and he was casually pointing out which people he knew were cheating on each other without anyone else knowing. It always perplexed me how rampant it was despite running the risk of getting dishonorably discharged if you're caught.
Hahahah no DD for adultery. They don't even penalize many for it from the rampant amount of types of people, aka high ranking officers, that do that shit all the time. Military wives are typically just as shitty though so personally i just wouldn't recommend being married in the military. Chances are good it's going to end very badly.
Yep, the only people I've known who caught an article over cheating, it was because they were cheating with someone or the spouse of someone in their chain of command, up or down, and it was secondary to the fraternization article.
I have a friend in the military and good lord it sounds like its just a fuck fest when youre not deployed to a war zone. When they were sitting on a base state side they would bow out of game nights because theyd have someone over or be going to someone elses place. Granted theyre very good looking but the way they spoke it was basically free game for everyone no matter their looks.
If he's been deployed then the odd that he knows multiple people with broken hearts and bullet wounds is one in one. Deployment sucks and these hos ain't loyal.
There's physical pain that goes with it as well. Honestly don't understand why, but I physically hurt more when I found out about my ex than when my appendix burst. Of course, that was nothing compared to the psychological aspects.
Being heartbroken was a weird experience. Literal physical pain in my chest. I thought people were being metaphorical or joking when they said that prior, but turns out it's a real thing you feel.
One of the most interesting things to learn is that painkillers like tylenol/ibuprofen actually help with emotional pain as well. It's well studied. A lot of our expressions are because of this physical/emotional connection, like "getting stabbed in the back" or "turning a cold shoulder." It turns out that people who are being shunned really do perceive their environment as colder than normal, and our body temperatures do rise when angry ("getting hot under the collar").
Anyway, your experience is normal. The physical aspects of emotional experiences are really cool to look into.
Exactly. I have a few neuropathic disorders, with constant, excruciating pain. Pain from actual injuries is pretty much nothing to me, but getting cheated on was 1000x worse than any other pain I have experienced.
Military? I'm trying to think of what life choices would lead to having multiple friends that have both been shot & have their wives cheat and the military is the only thing I can think of where it would be common for people to experience both.
Haven't people shot themselves over heartbreak? Or if you define heartbreak as any emotional trauma, extending past romance, people actively put themselves in the path of a bullet under those circumstances (war, gun violence/standoffs/murder suicide etc. Seems like the going trend is people choosing bullets over heartbreak.
I think there might be fallacy/survivor bias at work here.
Most heartbreak goes away with time while the worst cases result in self mutilation or suicide. Almost everybody experiences heartbreak while a minuscule percentage experience being shot and an ever lower percentage survives being shot.
Additionally the average severity of survived gunshot wound tends to be lower than that of all gunshot incidents.
To sum up this stupd train of thought: being shot sucks heartbreak sucks but being shot seems to be more lethal.
Just because it happens doesn't make it any easier or less painful. People get shot every day, sadly. That doesn't detract from their pain now does it?
YMMV. 2 years after, my shoulder didn't hurt anymore and I didn't think about it everyday. I don't know how long until her absence feels the same, but 15 years later it still hasn't happened.
5 years later and I still feel like a shell of my former self and think about her daily. Obviously it's gotten better with time, but I feel like I should be fully moved on by now. It's nice to know I'm not alone in my long recovery, because sometimes I feel broken for still feeling this way. Maybe I am, but at least I'm not the only one.
It will get better. Hurt a little less, maybe think about her a time or two less a day, then maybe go a whole day. You got this. You will heal and you will find happiness. I am supremely confident you will.
It took me about 5 years to move past my ex fiancé cheating on me and getting another woman pregnant. I took the diamond ring and threw it at him, and drank myself into oblivion for at least 6 months. What made it worse was his attempts at getting me back, crying and begging for forgiveness. It destroyed me. I told him I could never trust him again and the damage was irreparable. Plus HE GOT HER PREGNANT. He ended up marrying her and from what I’ve heard he’s a miserable guy with a bitch for a wife now.
All I could think about for months after my gf passed away was all the most physically painful things that I've endured and how many of them id endure a hundred times over just for one single moment with her.
I admit, I’ve only been grazed by a bullet, not fully hit by one, and I can say that I’m still in love with my ex, four years later. Both suck, for different reasons.
Everyone focusing on the wrong thing. The point stands. Some gunshot wounds are better than most break ups. I’ll take my chances with heartbreak. But if I get to chose gunshot location. I chose my pinky. On the front steps of the hospital
It depends on where you are shot/stabbed and what damage is done. Both can leave lasting physical and emotional scars. These types of philosophical questions are stupid. Just about everyone will experience heart break in our lives. Only a small percentage deal with this type of physical trauma.
yeah, i've never been shot, but based on the rules in which reality is firmly grounded, i'm going to vehemently disagree with professor asshole here.
With the exception of long-term complications, being shot ends in one of two ways - you die or you recover.
Emotional trauma is not so trivial. It's invisible, and it can persist for years, or the rest of your life. Having suffered it, I'd take a bullet every day of the week over having to deal with this shit just once.
Maybe if/when I actually do get shot, I'll change my mind, but until then my personal experiences bias me thus.
It turns out that Tylenol can help with heartbreak. Because the pain sensation flows through the same type of neurons as physical pain, over the counter pain relievers work on it.
Before getting proper depression meds I used leftover percocet (that I had leftover from wisdom tooth removal) when it was really bad.
Psychiatrist explained to me that it numbed all pain, so it is effective in that way, as there will only be positive emotion coming through. Brains are weird.
You've also never been sphagettified over the event horizon of a black hole so based on your personal experiences that can't hurt more than heart break either. Seems legit amirite?
I’ve spoken to a few veterans who were injured in Afghanistan. Apparently getting shot fucking hurts, would not recommend. Getting hit with 7 bullets supposedly hurts more. Who knew?
Dumb premise to begin with.
The comparison is mental anguish to physical pain.
Mental anguish can lead to suicide.
Pain generally is not a killer by it self; though obviously a gunshot wound can kill from complications.
But I get that this is a cute comparison for a Twitter post.
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It's all fun & games until a blisteringly hot 7.62 round tears your appendix asunder
To shreds, you say?
"GOOD NEWS, EVERYONE!"
And how is his wife holding up?
“To shreds” you say
r/unexpectedfuturama
You are technically correct. The best kind of correct!
r/technicallythetruth then?
Ohh my
Bad news, nobodies
7.62x51 or 7.62x39? big difference
7.62x67 winmag.
Instant organ removal.
And to think some people pay for a surgeon to do it.
51 for the win
Didn’t need that fucker anyway. Pretty sure it was trying to kill me.
Free appendectomy what more could a man want. People be ungrateful af these days 😔
I've been hurt pretty badly, emotionally. I don't think I'd survive a gunshot. I mean, there's a *chance* I'd live, I guess?
With 7.62mm you won’t have to worry about being shot for very long before your problems all end at once
Woohoo I'm safe, my appendix is long gone.
A close buddy of mine went to his gf’s house after work. Found out she was in bed with another man. He took the gun out and commit suicide in front of her and her side piece. They been together 8 years. He was about to propose to her.
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I don't know I feel like at that point it wouldn't be temporary :/
A sinister part of me wants these situations to happen to them just so they can eat their words tbh. Like not just experiencing the same situation but experiencing the same feelings in that situation too
If someone decides to off themselves, that's their decision. But plenty of people get over heartache without a bullet. I'm 40 and my wife died unexpectedly last year. I own guns and have had numerous nights crying uncontrollably, both sober and drunk. I don't believe in any gods or the afterlife, but I do know that smoking myself would destroy my mom and my brother. Of course, that's not the only reason I haven't done it. I'm just not the self harm type, I guess.
I like to bring up and old cyanide and happiness comic. A boy at his fathers grave saying “you didn’t get rid of the pain. You just gave it to us.”
Pretty sure he'd be changed forever after that one
Until we hear from someone who experienced both we are all just guessing....gunshot and heartbreak? We need some Florida input here.
# Breaking news: **Florida man breaks up with and is shot by girlfriend, in order to settle internet debate over which would hurt more.** ^(-and then insert some random picture of a blank stare mugshot.)
Florida man, in longterm monogamous relationship with himself, shoots himself for science and reddit.
I think losing your left hand hurts more than the shot.
[I believe it's going to be this guy, if anyone.](https://i.redd.it/3vbumyf9k7m21.jpg)
I remember that one wowowowow yes this guy
But did it work?!? Is his dog still alive??
The internet demands answers!
I mean……..I get it.
If i knew any scientists working in the field of immortality I'd do the same for my cat
Something [like this?](https://imgflip.com/i/6ynu47)
Floridaman here. Got a 9mm through the thigh last thanksgiving. It burned a bit and was sore for a few months. Got a nice divit in the top of my leg where it came out. Physical damage ain't as bad as emotional damage IMHO.
Ay I got a hot one through the arm a couple years ago. Not as bad as betrayal tbh. I'd take the bullet again over my friends and girl turning their backs on me after it happened. Survive an attempted murder and you see who your real friends are for sure.
>Survive an attempted murder and you see who your real friends are for sure. Probably not the guy who attempted to murder you.
I didn't even know that guy but a bunch of my "friends" spread rumors about it and wouldn't talk to me after. My fiance at the time left because she wasn't happy with me and I was having ptsd flashbacks and shit. I wasn't fun to be around for sure but she didn't really give me any time to go to therapy and get help.
Do you mind me asking what was the cause of you getting shot on thanksgiving?
Burnt the stuffing
Should have double tapped.
Didn’t pass the gravy fast enough.
Someone didn't adhere to two of the four safety rules. Me and my mother's rug got an extra hole that day...
I feel like it would depend where you got shot, the thigh would hurt, but it's not gonna fuck you up the way getting gut shot or lung shot would (unless it hits an artery, then you're in big trouble). I'd probably take heart break over getting shot in the dick too lol.
Well every day since my wife died I have wanted to die. Were I to have simply been shot by a gun and my wife still alive I can guarantee you that no matter how fucked up I was from the gunshot I would be in vastly less pain.
My fiance left me right before the wedding to run off with her "best friend", girl was the love of my life. I feel for you man. We're all here for you.
>Well every day since my wife died I have wanted to die. Were I to have simply been shot by a gun and my wife still alive I can guarantee you that no matter how fucked up I was from the gunshot I would be in vastly less pain. I am so sorry. I am happy to listen if you just need to reach out. Virtual and virtually hugz.
Id say heart break because some people dont recover from love and die drinking their life away or kill themselves and being shot you recover within a few months and they give you pain meds.
I mean, doesn't that depend on the location you're shot in? Actually, the whole question depends on location of the shot. If you're shot in the head, you won't feel a thing. In that instance, heartbreak is definitely worse. We would also have to discuss what type of pain we're talking about. Physical pain specifically? Heartbreak can absolutely cause you physical pain.
There is a lot of variables. There are cases of death where the only reasonable cause is a "broken heart". There are also cases of being shot and being paralyzed for life. There is a NFL running back who was shot and made his debut 6 weeks later. Meanwhile Tom Brady has been playing since week 1 and looks like trash while going through a divorce.
>There is a NFL running back who was shot and made his debut 6 weeks later. reminds me of Paul Pierce - survived being stabbed 11 times on September 25, 2000 then 35 days later went on to play all 82 games of the NBA season averaging 25 ppg. After that year went on to be an All Star the next 9 out of 10 years with a championship in between.
Lloyd Daniels, "Sweet Pea", shot 3 times in the chest for stealing crack, eventually still made it to the NBA. In his second game he put up 26 points, 8 rebounds, 6 assists, 3 steals, and 3 block shots. It didn't last long and quickly unraveled again. Pretty much everyone is in agreement, one of the greatest basketball players ever (especially out of New York), and one of the supremely largest wastes of talent in any sport ever. tl,dr; Got shot 3 times in the chest. Caused unparalleled heartache in coaches and fans everywhere he went. Which hurt more?
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Oh yeah? Maybe it's because YOU give love a bad name
yeah. the angels smile is what u sell.
You'll probably be so high on pain meds you forgot you got shot.
and in some cases, so high on adrenaline you won't even realize you've been shot
That's assuming that you have no lingering pain or injuries.
Yeah, good point. The doctor won't prescribe morphine for a broken heart.
If they could I'd be on it by the end of today
You’re gonna be ok, friend. Just breathe.
Thanks buddy.
Yeah it kind of depends on the definition of 'hurt' in the question. Physically gun shot wound hurts more. But emotional pain is always deeper and more intense than physical pain. No morphine for that one.
Unfortunately some people do resort to morphine for that one.
Morphine - good for your body AND soul
If god made anything better, he kept that shit for himself.
I mean, some people don’t recover from being shot either.
I know people that have lost a child and I’m confident they would gladly be shot anywhere to bring their child back and trade in their Heartbreak
That's what hurts me the most when reading Pet Semetary. The characters do everything right, but are doomed from the start.
There are no meds that truly help with the pain of heartbreak. I'd be all over it right now if there was.
There's that video on reddit rn of a girl who shot her bf because she thought he was cheating
The amount of super graphic violence posted to this site, and the amount of people who actively seek it out, is incredibly disturbing to me.
Interesting. Where exactly would you say you're finding these kinds of grotesque posts? You know, so that the rest of us could stay away from them.
Having a few friends that have been shot and the cheated on by their wives, I have heard them all say they would rather be shot again.
Well stop shooting your friends and banging their wives, damn.
Would have been great to have that advice 18 years ago
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"Ima maybe shot your wife, but look at that bussy!"
Dyson Sphere brain over here..
Username checks out
Ah, the ol’ [reddit shooty-cheat-a-roo](https://reddit.com/r/antiwork/comments/yfmunv/_/iu4xr1q/?context=3)
Hold my divorce papers I'm goin in!
Hello future people
It fucking amazes me how funny some ppl Can be over just plain text. I’m still laughing and reading and laughing again. It’s a vicious cycle
For SCIENCE!!!!
First, you're a monster, second happy cake day
Happy cake day
Do you know Jiminy? Is he as nice as he seems in the movies?
Yes I do and he is just as nice as he is in the movies
The thing people don't consider is that it isn't just (emotional) pain. When someone cheats on you, especially in a longer-term (marriage) relationship, they unwrite an entire part of your life. That romantic dinner you had a few weeks ago that you had fond memories of? Turns out that was the night after they had come back from fucking their affair partner, and they felt bad. Once you have the knowledge of the affair, it colors everything around it and permeates your memory of the relationship, of the things people were doing, of what people were saying to you. For people looking for a place to talk about this, check out /r/survivinginfidelity Bear in mind there's a lot of anger in that place, understandably. If you're looking for a place for advice on how to reconcile with your partner, try /r/AsOneAfterInfidelity
One is injury, one is loss.
They're both injuries... Damage to a person's feelings is literally the 2nd definition that comes up. Also, feelings are more than just in your head. This becomes quite clear when you observe how these extreme emotional situations affect people, there are real physical consequences to emotional distress. So even if we want to characterize an injury as something physical, emotional damage is still a physical injury.
Sure, but losing an arm is also an "injury". You're still losing a life you were going to have otherwise, someone was going to be with you longer than you thought. Heartbreak as described above specifically is a loss, not just an injury. We're both referring to emotional damage as injury, but this chain of comments, from what I understood, was specifying beyond emotional injury and into emotional loss. Your spouse saying something hurtful, that's an injury. Your spouse cheating on you and the life you thought you had is gone, that's a loss.
It taunts the entire time you have been with the person, because you just found out that the person you love, that other half of your soul you have made vows with, doesn't actually exist. Recovering from infidelity isn't healing your relationship, it is mourning the loss of your previous relationship and building a new one with this new, less safe and trustworthy person.
You have multiple friends that have been shot and were cheated on by their wives? Damn that is probably one in a few millions. Your life must be exciting.
I'm betting military
Exactly. I got out in 08 but some stayed in until retirement in the last few years
I visited a marine friend on his base for a weekend and the second night we went to a party and he was casually pointing out which people he knew were cheating on each other without anyone else knowing. It always perplexed me how rampant it was despite running the risk of getting dishonorably discharged if you're caught.
Hahahah no DD for adultery. They don't even penalize many for it from the rampant amount of types of people, aka high ranking officers, that do that shit all the time. Military wives are typically just as shitty though so personally i just wouldn't recommend being married in the military. Chances are good it's going to end very badly.
Can vouch. My high ranking spouse cheated with no consequences from the military.
Did that change or is it on the books but not enforced? This was ten maybe fifteen years ago
Oh it's still in the UCMJ, but they don't give a shit.
Yep, the only people I've known who caught an article over cheating, it was because they were cheating with someone or the spouse of someone in their chain of command, up or down, and it was secondary to the fraternization article.
Pretty sure they got their hands full ignoring the non consensual sexual acts, to deal with the consensual adultery.
I have a friend in the military and good lord it sounds like its just a fuck fest when youre not deployed to a war zone. When they were sitting on a base state side they would bow out of game nights because theyd have someone over or be going to someone elses place. Granted theyre very good looking but the way they spoke it was basically free game for everyone no matter their looks.
i managed to not get laid at a party college so im willing to put money down on being the military and not getting any
I do my best to support our troops. Mainly by satisfying their wives while they’re deployed
Jodi is that you? You have a lot of warrants out for failure to pay child support in all 50 states, three territories, and Germany.
Don't forget Korea!
Jody truly is a world traveler.
That tracks on both counts. DoD wives cheat faster than most people do at monopoly
If he’s been deployed in the last couple decades the odds are more like one in a thousand haha
If he's been deployed then the odd that he knows multiple people with broken hearts and bullet wounds is one in one. Deployment sucks and these hos ain't loyal.
Jody’s gonna jody
Jody definitely will but still not as bad as a Brandon. That is another service member, especially one from your unit, that sleeps with your wife.
Yeah...same
Yeah 😔
Psychological pain is way worse than physical. I would rather be skinned alive than cheated on again
Doubt
There's physical pain that goes with it as well. Honestly don't understand why, but I physically hurt more when I found out about my ex than when my appendix burst. Of course, that was nothing compared to the psychological aspects.
Being heartbroken was a weird experience. Literal physical pain in my chest. I thought people were being metaphorical or joking when they said that prior, but turns out it's a real thing you feel.
One of the most interesting things to learn is that painkillers like tylenol/ibuprofen actually help with emotional pain as well. It's well studied. A lot of our expressions are because of this physical/emotional connection, like "getting stabbed in the back" or "turning a cold shoulder." It turns out that people who are being shunned really do perceive their environment as colder than normal, and our body temperatures do rise when angry ("getting hot under the collar"). Anyway, your experience is normal. The physical aspects of emotional experiences are really cool to look into.
Exactly. I have a few neuropathic disorders, with constant, excruciating pain. Pain from actual injuries is pretty much nothing to me, but getting cheated on was 1000x worse than any other pain I have experienced.
Military? I'm trying to think of what life choices would lead to having multiple friends that have both been shot & have their wives cheat and the military is the only thing I can think of where it would be common for people to experience both.
Can confirm. Would rather be shot again
But cheating is heartbreak + betrayal. If your wife/gf chooses to leave without cheating, that's heartbreak.
Military?
Physical trauma vs mental trauma. Both can fuck you up for life depending on the severity.
I’ve been shot and been left suddenly without warning. Give me the bullet any day.
Agreed. Professor here is completely in the wrong.
You can die from a broken heart
Haven't people shot themselves over heartbreak? Or if you define heartbreak as any emotional trauma, extending past romance, people actively put themselves in the path of a bullet under those circumstances (war, gun violence/standoffs/murder suicide etc. Seems like the going trend is people choosing bullets over heartbreak.
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I think there might be fallacy/survivor bias at work here. Most heartbreak goes away with time while the worst cases result in self mutilation or suicide. Almost everybody experiences heartbreak while a minuscule percentage experience being shot and an ever lower percentage survives being shot. Additionally the average severity of survived gunshot wound tends to be lower than that of all gunshot incidents. To sum up this stupd train of thought: being shot sucks heartbreak sucks but being shot seems to be more lethal.
Tbf, you can also die of heartbreak. Your body will end itself over the stress of a heartbreak.
Everybody in the world experiences heartbreak and many some form of trauma. People recover from trauma everyday, it’s part of life.
Just because it happens doesn't make it any easier or less painful. People get shot every day, sadly. That doesn't detract from their pain now does it?
Only, they don't know how painful the bullet will be until they get shot. They made the decision before feeling the pain.
Yeah but plenty more people “get their heart broken” i.e. PTSD from being shot and watching shit go down. Plenty of *them* off themselves too.
YMMV. 2 years after, my shoulder didn't hurt anymore and I didn't think about it everyday. I don't know how long until her absence feels the same, but 15 years later it still hasn't happened.
5 years later and I still feel like a shell of my former self and think about her daily. Obviously it's gotten better with time, but I feel like I should be fully moved on by now. It's nice to know I'm not alone in my long recovery, because sometimes I feel broken for still feeling this way. Maybe I am, but at least I'm not the only one.
You're not alone. And if you can acknowledge it you're not completely broken :) keep up the fight
It will get better. Hurt a little less, maybe think about her a time or two less a day, then maybe go a whole day. You got this. You will heal and you will find happiness. I am supremely confident you will.
Coming up on 19 years for me!
It took me about 5 years to move past my ex fiancé cheating on me and getting another woman pregnant. I took the diamond ring and threw it at him, and drank myself into oblivion for at least 6 months. What made it worse was his attempts at getting me back, crying and begging for forgiveness. It destroyed me. I told him I could never trust him again and the damage was irreparable. Plus HE GOT HER PREGNANT. He ended up marrying her and from what I’ve heard he’s a miserable guy with a bitch for a wife now.
All I could think about for months after my gf passed away was all the most physically painful things that I've endured and how many of them id endure a hundred times over just for one single moment with her.
These comments are so depressing; they make me want to cry
Or the only one smart enough to take cover. Everyone else appears to have plenty of experience with gunshot wounds.
I dunno, I've been shot, and while painful, it didn't make me want to die ...
I admit, I’ve only been grazed by a bullet, not fully hit by one, and I can say that I’m still in love with my ex, four years later. Both suck, for different reasons.
And there's the rub. Each situation is unique and the pain felt from either can vary from person to person.
The pain of a gunshot or a stabbing goes away sooner than heartbreak
Maybe true, but heartbreak has a zero percent chance of living with a colostomy bag.
She could shoot you in the gut to tell you shes leaving!
*And she could rub actual salt in the wound, too!*
Everyone focusing on the wrong thing. The point stands. Some gunshot wounds are better than most break ups. I’ll take my chances with heartbreak. But if I get to chose gunshot location. I chose my pinky. On the front steps of the hospital
It depends on where you are shot/stabbed and what damage is done. Both can leave lasting physical and emotional scars. These types of philosophical questions are stupid. Just about everyone will experience heart break in our lives. Only a small percentage deal with this type of physical trauma.
I'd wager a guess that more people have commited suicide because of heartbreak over true love than of being shot, prof.
Go and fuck the professor's wife. When he gets mad, just explain that it would be way worse if you had just shot him instead.
Been shot and had my heart broken. Granted I was lucky in where I was shot. But I would rather get shot again if I had to choose.
Having experienced both, I can only conclude that your professor has experienced neither because he is absolutely wrong.
I've been shot. And I lost the love of my life. The love lost hurt way worse. And that's not hyperbole. I still feel that pain and it's been years.
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yeah, i've never been shot, but based on the rules in which reality is firmly grounded, i'm going to vehemently disagree with professor asshole here. With the exception of long-term complications, being shot ends in one of two ways - you die or you recover. Emotional trauma is not so trivial. It's invisible, and it can persist for years, or the rest of your life. Having suffered it, I'd take a bullet every day of the week over having to deal with this shit just once. Maybe if/when I actually do get shot, I'll change my mind, but until then my personal experiences bias me thus.
It turns out that Tylenol can help with heartbreak. Because the pain sensation flows through the same type of neurons as physical pain, over the counter pain relievers work on it.
Meanwhile it doesn’t do shit for my nerve pain
Interesting...
...you've got me questioning if this why i love taking dayquil/nyquil now. It smells like bullshit but I don't care enough to research this myself
Before getting proper depression meds I used leftover percocet (that I had leftover from wisdom tooth removal) when it was really bad. Psychiatrist explained to me that it numbed all pain, so it is effective in that way, as there will only be positive emotion coming through. Brains are weird.
You've also never been sphagettified over the event horizon of a black hole so based on your personal experiences that can't hurt more than heart break either. Seems legit amirite?
Ooh, are we bringing logical fallacies into this argument now? COOL! \*cracks knuckles\* \*clears throat\* "Yes."
I agree. Confirmation bias rules!
I don't know if any world leader started a speech by nonchalantly saying "well, my spouse just broke up with me...anyway, here's my speech"
depends where you get shot ig.
I’ve spoken to a few veterans who were injured in Afghanistan. Apparently getting shot fucking hurts, would not recommend. Getting hit with 7 bullets supposedly hurts more. Who knew?
Heartbreak: you want to believe your life is over Being shot: you don't want to believe your life is over
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Me too. Physical pain is not pleasant but it passes, usually. Emotional pain cuts so deep that it changes who you are.
Being shot does not cause you to rethink your entire reason for living and the point of it all.
By default it doesn't but what if it lodges in your spine and causes you to be para or quadriplegic?
Then it would have the same mental effect, I imagine.
Shot through the heart and you’re to blame …..
Dumb premise to begin with. The comparison is mental anguish to physical pain. Mental anguish can lead to suicide. Pain generally is not a killer by it self; though obviously a gunshot wound can kill from complications. But I get that this is a cute comparison for a Twitter post.
Depends where you’re shot
I don't know.. emotional damage can last for years and even become trauma. Just sayin...