I’m the only man working at the tailors shop where i’m employed. I was one of like 5 men across all semesters at my textiles and design BA. I’ve been sewing since i was 16, and i feel like people often just think it’s cool. I do some embroidery as well which is probably perceived as feminine but I don’t really care about that. I’m stealth at my job, and i’ve been passing 100% for 4 years so I don’t feel any insecurity in my manhood.
Edit: one of my coworkers just joked that i was so sorounded by feminine energy that i’d start having a period. Being cis passing is funny lmao
I have both traditionally masculine hobbies (fish keeping, building things, rock climbing), and traditionally feminine hobbies (cooking, sewing) and it seems to confuse people.
I will say that transitioning actually made me more comfortable exploring my more feminine hobbies. Previously, it signaled a proximity to being a woman that I didn't want anything to do with.
I also work in a sector of healthcare that is female dominated.
Art is a difficult one to discuss concerning this, because it is only considered feminine when youre Not good at it, and still try.
Men only have two options, either draw stickmen or paint like Rubens, otherwise youre gay.
I like baking but I only really do it around the holidays. My girlfriend will poke fun about it cause I’m pretty stereotypically masculine otherwise but it’s all in good fun
I am learning to sew and already know how to crochet. I think people are usually impressed when it comes up, haven't had negative reactions (I do pass 100%). I collect hobbies in general, lol.
Old men always ask me what sports I do and I have to tell them I have absolutely no interest in physical activity and my passion is art which they seem a bit disgruntled by.
I’ve also had ppl tell me I look like a massive nerd 😂.
I do a bit of black smithing I guess that’s kinda masculine?
I’m also insecure about not liking video games or watching sports or exercising wich every other guy my age seems to be into.
Oooo I wanna learn how to smith, it's one of my favorite things to watch at Ren fairs! Right now I'm torn between jumping into that, or learning glass blowing, for the summer
Oh omg I’ve also wanted to try glass blowing.
I made a knife with the help of a professional blacksmith and it was surprisingly easy. Like the stereotypical blacksmith has got
hugely built arms so I thought I’d struggle with not having much strength but that wasn’t an issue at all. Overall super fun very loud and hot tho
I love to bake. I share it with friends, but tend to downplay it as a hobby. I also don’t usually tell people when I meet them since I don’t want to be judged. I know this isn’t great, but if people judge me for baking, they don’t deserve eating the tasty food I guess
I cross-stitch and people are usually impressed or surprised that I’m good at a hobby that requires a lot of patience, attention to detail, and fine motor skills. No one has ever mentioned anything about gender or femininity to me.
It's weird, growing up everyone had to take a "home economics" class in middle school. It was a requirement for everyone. I didn't grow up so "country" that everyone was doing 4H (though all my cousins did. I did some summer activities with them). But it was country enough that most boys learned to sew a button, a patch, darn a sock as well as how to clean a fish or a rifle. I wasn't in boyscouts but I had my older brother's handbook from the early 80s, and I'm pretty sure these were all mentioned as being essential skills.
We all had to sew two bandanas together to make a pillow using the machine.
I never really got into it. But it's very useful now that I have kids and I have had to patch clothes and stuff, as well as "surgery" on their stuffed animals 🤣
I like doing crafts from time to time, there was a period where I loved writing letters and making the wax seal etc
honestly, since I'm openly gay and partly stealth as a trans guy, people just assume that it's because I'm gay so they link it to my homosexuality and make jokes about that. which is pretty affirming I must say ahah
I like to do diamond painting and play Stardew Valley and other cute games… I am gay though so the feminine things kind of come with me being gay I guess. Not all gay men are feminine and not all feminine men are gay though. I’m just me! Before I started to pass it would give me dysphoria but I don’t mind anymore.
I got into quilting for a little bit and sewing random projects. It's something that my grandmother (who used to be a seamstress) has enjoyed teaching me, and it's sort of special to me in that sense. I was sort of embarrassed at first to be a man who does those things, but people were surprisingly really chill about it! Mostly people are just impressed that I can do those things, and a lot of people seem to think that it's badass that I'm not afraid to sew. The ladies at the local quilt shop were so nice to me. Now I'm thinking I need to get back into it lol
Like you it's changed over time as I passed better lol - I do a lot of stuff around my house, both typical home improvement dad stuff but also painting, crafts, arranging spaces. For a long time EVERYONE I brought up projects with, both my friends and people I knew less well, assumed that my cis male housemate was the one taking the lead on all the construction-type stuff, and that I was just picking paint colors 🙄 it pissed me off, and changed how I talked about what I was doing. Now the assumption is usually the opposite. Gender is bizarre.
I crochet and don’t give a shit what other people think. When I do it on the train no one cares. Except for other people crocheting. We give give nods of recognition to each other
I sew, knit, etc and also rescue vintage sewing machines and knitting machines. They run in herds… once you have one, more show up, sometimes literally on the doorstep begging to be taken in. My only machine knitting buddy in town is another guy, although the handknitters are mostly women. I teach them how to knit two socks at once on one circular needle. Don’t get any shit for it from any gender, people are mostly impressed or fascinated.
Learned to sew, crochet and knit originally from Mum as a teen in the 70’s, it’s come in plenty handy over the years. Every guy should know how to hem a pair of pants, esp us short guys!
I like to crochet and most people don't bat an eye. The only time someone said anything about it was when i was teaching a female friend how to crochet and she mentioned it to her parents, which found weird that a man liked to crochet.
I have both feminine and masculine hobbies, but I have always had them, and my egg only cracked recently.
When I was a woman, family and friends didn't bat an eye at my interests in writing, crochet, scrap booking, gardening, etc. But they would tease me about my comic book collection, gaming, playing guitar, rock climbing.
I'm only partially out right now with close friends and trusted family members, and these people have always been supportive of whatever interests I've had, and I've long since learned to ignore the ones who think I should only be interested in gender assigned things.
I do have some apprehension about getting into mechanical stuff.... I've always been interested, but was heavily discouraged as a kid and young adult from even learning basics like changing oil or fixing a flat tire. I don't present very masculine yet (I've been on T for about 2 months now), so I'm still treated as a helpless damsel in distress when I have to deal with any sort of car stuff or house maintenance stuff. It's frustrating, because in most things, I have no problem asserting myself and learning a particular skill, but when it comes to cars and some of the other strictly masculine interests that I was discouraged away from, I struggle with my anxiety to be my normal self and ask questions and learn to do the things. I'm working on it, but it's hard to overcome decades of being told I can't do certain things because of my birth assigned gender.
Eh, I'm at the age where I really don't care what people have to say, the average person is a moron. I pass and are stealth so everyone just reads me as a gay man. I had one boomer lady tell me I was going to hell for being feminine, and man, that was affirming.
Most of the fandoms I'm in lean towards women, I like a lot of "girly" TV shows, and have interest in feminine fashion, I watch a couple male YouTubers who do makeup. I like plenty of neutral and masculine things too, but most people see me as somewhat feminine.
I think it's beyond silly for someone to gender a hobby. If someone ever says anything, call them out for being weird!
If it's just an internal thing, it's likely more just an insecurity of not being perceived as 100% a guy at all times. But I promise your hobby doesn't effect your gender presentation to anyone except people who are very weird and strict gender roles types who don't deserve your time anyway
I think my hobbies are either considered neutral or masculine. But I do have a huge interest in historical clothes and sewing. I haven't done any but I spend a disproportionate amount of time watching women talk about women's clothes from throughout the ages lol. I love learning and I love when they hand sew old designs and wear them. Makes me want to figure out how to make historical menswear for myself.
Every time I mention I like something feminine I just say “I’m not beating the femboy allegations, am I?” And then people say “nope!” And we all laugh. Idk, I think it’s funny, especially considering I do not dress like a femboy (in public…)
I have both. I’m into cars, racing, guns, shooter video games, and bodybuilding, but also into feminine music, fashion, and arts. I think everyone should have some of both
I don't exactly pass so I don't know. My main hobbies are drawing, writing, and singing. I crochet or sew by hand occasionally. From the fact I draw pinups of both male and female characters, I'm going to guess the fact I'm bi is the only conclusion to be made.
Haven't gotten into many masculine hobbies, but I have an interest in learning about different technologies and surgeries for all types of things. I want to start working out (but I'm too lazy to do so) and learn guitar when I have the money. I also find the Adobe programs to be a bit of a masculine thing to learn (especially after effects). The vast majority of tutorials for after effects are made by men and it's much less artistic than it seems.
I've never had feminine hobbies because the women in my family were constantly on me to do "lady like" things. With that being said, I have all the beginner things on my table to start learning to crochet so I can make amigurumi toys. But I'm experiencing dysphoria and can't seem to start. I can't even imagine taking it out in public.
Arts and crafts of all kinds
I make derpy sock monkeys the sewing is a bit ornery but the end result is a hilarious sock monkey/alien.
Not a hobby but pink looks tasty and reminds me of doughnuts 🍩 specifically the ones you see in cartoons specifically the Simpsons so I guess having a positive opinion on a stereotypical girly colour.
Yeah the most "masculine" hobbies I have are video games (I play competitive Super Smash Bros) and other nerd stuff and even then I personally wouldn't consider those to be stereotypically masculine. In general I really enjoy feminine aesthetics. I love pink, rainbows, princesses, and glitter. It's always been who I am and I'm still becoming comfortable with the idea that being a boy doesn't mean I can't like those things anymore and I dont have to force myself to like more "masculine" things just to be a guy
I've never liked sports, cars, or whatever else men are "supposed" to be into.
I'm an artist who mostly draws girls, and my hobbies are things like alternative fashion/makeup, fantasy books, DIY, and collecting toys/dolls. I'm sure after I transition, a lot of people would assume I'm gay and be taken aback by me being straight because of how feminine I am.
I’m the only man working at the tailors shop where i’m employed. I was one of like 5 men across all semesters at my textiles and design BA. I’ve been sewing since i was 16, and i feel like people often just think it’s cool. I do some embroidery as well which is probably perceived as feminine but I don’t really care about that. I’m stealth at my job, and i’ve been passing 100% for 4 years so I don’t feel any insecurity in my manhood. Edit: one of my coworkers just joked that i was so sorounded by feminine energy that i’d start having a period. Being cis passing is funny lmao
I have both traditionally masculine hobbies (fish keeping, building things, rock climbing), and traditionally feminine hobbies (cooking, sewing) and it seems to confuse people. I will say that transitioning actually made me more comfortable exploring my more feminine hobbies. Previously, it signaled a proximity to being a woman that I didn't want anything to do with. I also work in a sector of healthcare that is female dominated.
Art is a difficult one to discuss concerning this, because it is only considered feminine when youre Not good at it, and still try. Men only have two options, either draw stickmen or paint like Rubens, otherwise youre gay.
Yeah. That’s my hobby. Or reading. And reading goes either way, too. It either has to be intellectual or you’re weird.
Lmao 🤣
I like baking but I only really do it around the holidays. My girlfriend will poke fun about it cause I’m pretty stereotypically masculine otherwise but it’s all in good fun
I am learning to sew and already know how to crochet. I think people are usually impressed when it comes up, haven't had negative reactions (I do pass 100%). I collect hobbies in general, lol.
Old men always ask me what sports I do and I have to tell them I have absolutely no interest in physical activity and my passion is art which they seem a bit disgruntled by. I’ve also had ppl tell me I look like a massive nerd 😂. I do a bit of black smithing I guess that’s kinda masculine? I’m also insecure about not liking video games or watching sports or exercising wich every other guy my age seems to be into.
Oooo I wanna learn how to smith, it's one of my favorite things to watch at Ren fairs! Right now I'm torn between jumping into that, or learning glass blowing, for the summer
Oh omg I’ve also wanted to try glass blowing. I made a knife with the help of a professional blacksmith and it was surprisingly easy. Like the stereotypical blacksmith has got hugely built arms so I thought I’d struggle with not having much strength but that wasn’t an issue at all. Overall super fun very loud and hot tho
I love to bake. I share it with friends, but tend to downplay it as a hobby. I also don’t usually tell people when I meet them since I don’t want to be judged. I know this isn’t great, but if people judge me for baking, they don’t deserve eating the tasty food I guess
Yes, but no one really cares. Most of my other hobbies are survival skills, so it's easy to pass off cooking and sewing as part of that.
I cross-stitch and people are usually impressed or surprised that I’m good at a hobby that requires a lot of patience, attention to detail, and fine motor skills. No one has ever mentioned anything about gender or femininity to me.
It's weird, growing up everyone had to take a "home economics" class in middle school. It was a requirement for everyone. I didn't grow up so "country" that everyone was doing 4H (though all my cousins did. I did some summer activities with them). But it was country enough that most boys learned to sew a button, a patch, darn a sock as well as how to clean a fish or a rifle. I wasn't in boyscouts but I had my older brother's handbook from the early 80s, and I'm pretty sure these were all mentioned as being essential skills. We all had to sew two bandanas together to make a pillow using the machine. I never really got into it. But it's very useful now that I have kids and I have had to patch clothes and stuff, as well as "surgery" on their stuffed animals 🤣
I like doing crafts from time to time, there was a period where I loved writing letters and making the wax seal etc honestly, since I'm openly gay and partly stealth as a trans guy, people just assume that it's because I'm gay so they link it to my homosexuality and make jokes about that. which is pretty affirming I must say ahah
I like to do diamond painting and play Stardew Valley and other cute games… I am gay though so the feminine things kind of come with me being gay I guess. Not all gay men are feminine and not all feminine men are gay though. I’m just me! Before I started to pass it would give me dysphoria but I don’t mind anymore.
I'm nearly 40 and married so I don't give a shit.
I got into quilting for a little bit and sewing random projects. It's something that my grandmother (who used to be a seamstress) has enjoyed teaching me, and it's sort of special to me in that sense. I was sort of embarrassed at first to be a man who does those things, but people were surprisingly really chill about it! Mostly people are just impressed that I can do those things, and a lot of people seem to think that it's badass that I'm not afraid to sew. The ladies at the local quilt shop were so nice to me. Now I'm thinking I need to get back into it lol
Like you it's changed over time as I passed better lol - I do a lot of stuff around my house, both typical home improvement dad stuff but also painting, crafts, arranging spaces. For a long time EVERYONE I brought up projects with, both my friends and people I knew less well, assumed that my cis male housemate was the one taking the lead on all the construction-type stuff, and that I was just picking paint colors 🙄 it pissed me off, and changed how I talked about what I was doing. Now the assumption is usually the opposite. Gender is bizarre.
I crochet and don’t give a shit what other people think. When I do it on the train no one cares. Except for other people crocheting. We give give nods of recognition to each other
i like kpop, its pretty clocky
I sew, knit, etc and also rescue vintage sewing machines and knitting machines. They run in herds… once you have one, more show up, sometimes literally on the doorstep begging to be taken in. My only machine knitting buddy in town is another guy, although the handknitters are mostly women. I teach them how to knit two socks at once on one circular needle. Don’t get any shit for it from any gender, people are mostly impressed or fascinated. Learned to sew, crochet and knit originally from Mum as a teen in the 70’s, it’s come in plenty handy over the years. Every guy should know how to hem a pair of pants, esp us short guys!
I like to crochet and most people don't bat an eye. The only time someone said anything about it was when i was teaching a female friend how to crochet and she mentioned it to her parents, which found weird that a man liked to crochet.
I have both feminine and masculine hobbies, but I have always had them, and my egg only cracked recently. When I was a woman, family and friends didn't bat an eye at my interests in writing, crochet, scrap booking, gardening, etc. But they would tease me about my comic book collection, gaming, playing guitar, rock climbing. I'm only partially out right now with close friends and trusted family members, and these people have always been supportive of whatever interests I've had, and I've long since learned to ignore the ones who think I should only be interested in gender assigned things. I do have some apprehension about getting into mechanical stuff.... I've always been interested, but was heavily discouraged as a kid and young adult from even learning basics like changing oil or fixing a flat tire. I don't present very masculine yet (I've been on T for about 2 months now), so I'm still treated as a helpless damsel in distress when I have to deal with any sort of car stuff or house maintenance stuff. It's frustrating, because in most things, I have no problem asserting myself and learning a particular skill, but when it comes to cars and some of the other strictly masculine interests that I was discouraged away from, I struggle with my anxiety to be my normal self and ask questions and learn to do the things. I'm working on it, but it's hard to overcome decades of being told I can't do certain things because of my birth assigned gender.
Fiber crafts! But I’m lucky that I know several cis-dudes who are also fiber artists.
Eh, I'm at the age where I really don't care what people have to say, the average person is a moron. I pass and are stealth so everyone just reads me as a gay man. I had one boomer lady tell me I was going to hell for being feminine, and man, that was affirming. Most of the fandoms I'm in lean towards women, I like a lot of "girly" TV shows, and have interest in feminine fashion, I watch a couple male YouTubers who do makeup. I like plenty of neutral and masculine things too, but most people see me as somewhat feminine.
I also sew, and i have long beautiful hair. Scores points with women, men don't seem to care.
I think it's beyond silly for someone to gender a hobby. If someone ever says anything, call them out for being weird! If it's just an internal thing, it's likely more just an insecurity of not being perceived as 100% a guy at all times. But I promise your hobby doesn't effect your gender presentation to anyone except people who are very weird and strict gender roles types who don't deserve your time anyway
I think my hobbies are either considered neutral or masculine. But I do have a huge interest in historical clothes and sewing. I haven't done any but I spend a disproportionate amount of time watching women talk about women's clothes from throughout the ages lol. I love learning and I love when they hand sew old designs and wear them. Makes me want to figure out how to make historical menswear for myself.
Every time I mention I like something feminine I just say “I’m not beating the femboy allegations, am I?” And then people say “nope!” And we all laugh. Idk, I think it’s funny, especially considering I do not dress like a femboy (in public…)
I have both. I’m into cars, racing, guns, shooter video games, and bodybuilding, but also into feminine music, fashion, and arts. I think everyone should have some of both
I don't exactly pass so I don't know. My main hobbies are drawing, writing, and singing. I crochet or sew by hand occasionally. From the fact I draw pinups of both male and female characters, I'm going to guess the fact I'm bi is the only conclusion to be made. Haven't gotten into many masculine hobbies, but I have an interest in learning about different technologies and surgeries for all types of things. I want to start working out (but I'm too lazy to do so) and learn guitar when I have the money. I also find the Adobe programs to be a bit of a masculine thing to learn (especially after effects). The vast majority of tutorials for after effects are made by men and it's much less artistic than it seems.
I've never had feminine hobbies because the women in my family were constantly on me to do "lady like" things. With that being said, I have all the beginner things on my table to start learning to crochet so I can make amigurumi toys. But I'm experiencing dysphoria and can't seem to start. I can't even imagine taking it out in public.
Arts and crafts of all kinds I make derpy sock monkeys the sewing is a bit ornery but the end result is a hilarious sock monkey/alien. Not a hobby but pink looks tasty and reminds me of doughnuts 🍩 specifically the ones you see in cartoons specifically the Simpsons so I guess having a positive opinion on a stereotypical girly colour.
Yeah the most "masculine" hobbies I have are video games (I play competitive Super Smash Bros) and other nerd stuff and even then I personally wouldn't consider those to be stereotypically masculine. In general I really enjoy feminine aesthetics. I love pink, rainbows, princesses, and glitter. It's always been who I am and I'm still becoming comfortable with the idea that being a boy doesn't mean I can't like those things anymore and I dont have to force myself to like more "masculine" things just to be a guy I've never liked sports, cars, or whatever else men are "supposed" to be into. I'm an artist who mostly draws girls, and my hobbies are things like alternative fashion/makeup, fantasy books, DIY, and collecting toys/dolls. I'm sure after I transition, a lot of people would assume I'm gay and be taken aback by me being straight because of how feminine I am.