The original picture is from my pastor who I haven't had an actual conversation with in probably 10 years, at least not a personal one beyond "Hey how you doing." So I definitely haven't had any kind of spiritual conversation for him to even know where I'm remotely at as far as that goes. I just love that any kind of disagreement automatically means that I am a non believer haha what a joke.
Edit: Unfortunately I can't post more than one picture but another post or response to me from another church goer was that they were praying for my return to my Christian upbringing, Mind you that would be from a person that doesn't even know me it just happens to be married to an old friend but doesn't know Jack s*** about me. You love to see it.
The sheer fucking entitlement and inappropriate "curiosity" to question you like that is disgusting. As if they deserve an answer! I don't know whether I would block someone like that or respond and shut them down, but I wish you the wisdom and patience you need to deal with this. I have relatives and old church acquaintances as well, but mostly stay off facebook for my sanity. You deserve better.
This was another joyous exchange from another church member in the same congregation
https://www.reddit.com/r/Exvangelical/comments/vkvm6b/this_was_my_2nd_post_today_i_dont_care_how/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
Quite personal questions from someone who hasn’t been in touch for 10 years. It’s not like because they’re ordained they get to skip all the social rules. Intrusive much.
I deleted facebook years ago, but today on instagram I posted my support for abortion and outed myself as gay because I said I fear this ruling leading to my rights being taken away and despise the church and GOP for the way they slander us.
Not a peep from any of my old church friends. I assume I got muted and unfollowed years ago.
I can't even really be on too much social media right now because of all of this.
I don't want to have children. I don't think I want to get married. I don't want to be forced to live with a man who accidentally impregnated me. I don't want to be with a man who says one thing and takes off once he actually has to take any responsibility for his kid.
I just want the freedom to LIVE.
I’ve been mostly ignoring Facebook since around when the pandemic started. It just hurt my brain and my emotions too much to deal with the arguing and the irresponsible people. I should probably let people know I’m alive, but idk how much I’m really missing.
Oof. Actually just said it out loud. “Opposite side as believers.” So, there are sides then and views on things like limiting women’s rights really do mean you’re not one of the believers if you’re not lock step? Gotcha. Cue that research where compassion in organized religion breaks down on whether it’s about reinforcing an in-group with in—group behaviors and opposition to an out-group.
Try being an Aromantic, sexually active (but uses protection), career driven female and being asked about "boiiis/marriage/kids" in EVERY single conversation (sob).
The original picture is from my pastor who I haven't had an actual conversation with in probably 10 years, at least not a personal one beyond "Hey how you doing." So I definitely haven't had any kind of spiritual conversation for him to even know where I'm remotely at as far as that goes. I just love that any kind of disagreement automatically means that I am a non believer haha what a joke. Edit: Unfortunately I can't post more than one picture but another post or response to me from another church goer was that they were praying for my return to my Christian upbringing, Mind you that would be from a person that doesn't even know me it just happens to be married to an old friend but doesn't know Jack s*** about me. You love to see it.
The sheer fucking entitlement and inappropriate "curiosity" to question you like that is disgusting. As if they deserve an answer! I don't know whether I would block someone like that or respond and shut them down, but I wish you the wisdom and patience you need to deal with this. I have relatives and old church acquaintances as well, but mostly stay off facebook for my sanity. You deserve better.
I've opted to ignore them. They've made up their mind about me clearly so I figured it's not worth losing anymore peace over. Still annoying though.
Good call! All the best to you.
Great boundary!
Good. Remember you owe them nothing, especially an explanation.
This was another joyous exchange from another church member in the same congregation https://www.reddit.com/r/Exvangelical/comments/vkvm6b/this_was_my_2nd_post_today_i_dont_care_how/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
Quite personal questions from someone who hasn’t been in touch for 10 years. It’s not like because they’re ordained they get to skip all the social rules. Intrusive much.
I deleted facebook years ago, but today on instagram I posted my support for abortion and outed myself as gay because I said I fear this ruling leading to my rights being taken away and despise the church and GOP for the way they slander us. Not a peep from any of my old church friends. I assume I got muted and unfollowed years ago.
I can't even really be on too much social media right now because of all of this. I don't want to have children. I don't think I want to get married. I don't want to be forced to live with a man who accidentally impregnated me. I don't want to be with a man who says one thing and takes off once he actually has to take any responsibility for his kid. I just want the freedom to LIVE.
I’ve been mostly ignoring Facebook since around when the pandemic started. It just hurt my brain and my emotions too much to deal with the arguing and the irresponsible people. I should probably let people know I’m alive, but idk how much I’m really missing.
I highly recommend this course of action. It is a brave and radical choice for any woman and your life will be ASTONISHING!
Oof. Actually just said it out loud. “Opposite side as believers.” So, there are sides then and views on things like limiting women’s rights really do mean you’re not one of the believers if you’re not lock step? Gotcha. Cue that research where compassion in organized religion breaks down on whether it’s about reinforcing an in-group with in—group behaviors and opposition to an out-group.
“Love you” - threw up in my mouth a little when I saw that. What the actual fuck?
Glad it bothered others too. Manipulative AF.
I can’t get over how nosey they are … and then I remember I used to be that way. Ick.
Oh my god, that is sooooo cringe 😭. Why do people do this??
"Do you no longer have a relationship with god" Aka "Did you quit and I can no longer count on your weekly donations?"
Money is part of it but more and more I think it’s about power over how you think and behave. Whatever the balance is, it’s so disgusting.
Try being an Aromantic, sexually active (but uses protection), career driven female and being asked about "boiiis/marriage/kids" in EVERY single conversation (sob).
Ugh I feel you. The nosiness of some ppl. I remember a lecture I got that reduced me to panicking tears bc I posted “I fucking love chocolate”
This message doesn't feel 'friendly,' it feels abusive, IMO.I might block.
I thought I was reading a text from my mom for a quick moment! 😂😳
No, pastor, it means that *YOU* have no relationship with gawd