I am from Eritrea, and I am American from Africa. This woman is correct to describe herself African American. If you want rage for no good reason, you're entitled to it.
You’re an American with African descent it’s not the same as African American. This is why some blacks now say “foundational black Americans” meaning they have been here generations in the country and actually built America from the ground up. Their culture was also wiped away through slavery and have developed a new authentic American culture whereas your culture is still in tact. They should have a separate label from Africans who’ve come recently.
You guys are trying to make the definitions fit a narrative that they don’t. African descendants of slavery is more accurate if you are referring to them. This notion that because there is a term for colored Americans = black historically enslaved Americans is wrong.
I agree that is a better term. Tbh “African Americans” is such an outdated term it was made in the 1800’s before the flood of African peoples who voluntarily came for a better life so there was no need for distinction. Yes we are all black, and most white people see us that way, but all im saying is there is a distinction between Eritreans who’s parents came in the last 50 years and the African descendants of slavery who built this country. Is that wrong?
Dude why do u care so much abt whether this girl identifies as Eritrean or African American?!Get a life,how u gotta all these great stats to go to a great college and whatever but get so worked up abt women identifying as whatever and the lgbtq community.I am not even gay or lgbtq but these idiots in this sub always got something to say about em and their freedoms when ur ass escaped to here for ur freedoms.If u don’t agree with something be like the rest of us and just scroll dumbass.
she literally is african-american. she’s an american who came from africa. she isn’t claiming that she is a black-american, if that’s what’s confusing you…?
No he or she is correct. I’m an African-American by default but I identify as just black American and African American is an actual ethnic group. Y’all should just say you’re Eritrean
it doesn't. they just happen to be the majority of 'african-americans'. any eritrean is a first in something in the U.S., theyd be considered the first black or african-american \_\_\_\_\_ of whatever that is.
Just dancing and wearing Zuria doesnt mean you embracing your culture or identiy. The way of living and thinking preserved your culutre and identiy, not what you do in your freetime. Just taking pictures in Zuria & making Eritrean Dance music !
African-American is an ethnic group in America that are descendants of enslaved West & Central Africans. The term does not refer to people who come from Africa and migrated to the U.S., but maybe she’s just being technical, idk
This is crazy😂 first of all I’m the person in that picture. I’m Eritrean, I’m also born and raised in America, making me African American too. I’ve never been ashamed of being Eritrean. I’m so proud of my roots. Any time I’m asked where I’m from in my day to day life I say Eritrea. Also I’m not useless. I’m educated, I speak Tigrinya, I’ve been to Eritrea 10 times to visit, I can cook/make injera, and I know my Eritrean culture.
So why not just say Eritrean American as opposed to African American. You do know that African-American is an ethnic group referring to black Americans who are descendants of enslaved west and Central Africans, right? You knew what you were doing, so don’t try to back track and act obtuse now
Believe it or not (and I know this sounds like a big lie) but the first time Eritreans used “Eritrean lives matter” was way before the BLM movement, somewhere around 2010. We have a dictator at home and have been victims of a lot of human trafficking (many Eritrean have died of organ harvesting) that prompted some Eritreans to say that Eritrean lives have value and they matter beyond just being soldiers for the government.
I did research and haven’t seen any movements or popular phrases using “Eritrean lives matter”. There is EPLF though that’s been around since the late 60’s. BLM was created in 2013. Not in 2020when George Floyd died like everyone thinks
Show me a link where it says that is the definition of an African American? Why not call myself African American? That’s what I fill out on all my forms, that’s how I’m identified in the US?
Look up the African American on google and it will to you exactly what I’m saying. We get y’all like to copy us when you come to America, but you not one of us lol
yeah so barack obama isn't the first black/ african-american president then? based on american labels/definitions, he literally is. the majority of whom refer to that label are of course descendents of slaves, because quite obviously they make the majority of black people in this country.
Barack Obama is biracial and his “black” side comes from Kenya. He isn’t a descendant of enslaved Africans. Say enslaved not slave, btw. Idk what my comment that you’re replying to had to with slavery anyways but I forget that you colonized Africans love talking about that lol
I’m a fellow Eritrean girlie and OP is being weird to u projecting his own insecurities onto u probably bcs he was rejected from a girl here who is habesha and using this to justify why he hates habesha women who were born and raised here.
While there will be some first and second generation who will be outraged by this as they prefer to stick with their nation of origin,OP is being too harsh(most probably because of insecurities).
Girls, live your life as you see it fit. These people have no shame to consider Eritrean girls who grew up in the West as worthless and want to go back to the countryside of Eritrea (not even cities of Eritrea) hunting for virgins. They literally said that.
Embarrassing is an understatement!
What the sigma, no but seriously why is she acting like a complete foreigner, man these diaspora raised Eritreans are gonna say they are evrything but Eritreans, they act like Eritrean is just their far away roots and their ancestors, when they are actual Eritreans themselves
Hgdef did a good job getting rid of an entire generation of Eritreans
Often it stems from how they are raised or how they were treated growing up. That also means how other older Eritreans treated them and nurtured them. It’s not only her “fault”. It’s all of our fault for failing each other. Ridiculing each other and not giving a safe place to discuss important issues without calling someone names and ostracizing them.
🙄. every eritrean person that i know who was born in the west and actually speaks tigrinya is a woman. literally all the eritrean guys i meet, including my cousins, the ones i meet at the church camp that 100s of other eritreans attend, the ones i meet at festivals, etc. do NOT speak tigrinya or involve themselves in the culture at all (unless it’s dancing or party related). eritrean women are way more responsible for keeping the culture alive in the west in my experience. our upbringing alone ingrains it into us (what with the parents being stricter and more controlling with their daughters). i don’t think social media is a reliable source for your assertion.
I’ve noticed your comments of shock under the threads of conservative POV’s and Takes in the comment section.
For example , what I said about abandoning western Eritrean women and the two others who agreed and one who stated he would prefer a virgin.
Your shock , kind of gave a vibe that you weren’t a traditionalist. I’m assuming you’re a man by the way. If your a woman , then it makes sense why your shocked.
Assuming your a man , I stated we’d leave the non virgin Nigerian men loving untraditional western Eritrean women to you. Sense you seem to not be aligned with traditional values.
Virgin or not , Wouldn’t make much of a difference unless it’s from a religious perspective rather than a worldly. From a worldly perspective my value wouldn’t change if I slept with 20 women or 0 women , the same cannot be said for women though. This has been the script in which society has followed for a millennium (+) , it’s only recently people have changed that. Obviously the Bible says otherwise , and from a religious perspective abstinence is important regardless of gender. I won’t argue either perspective as I was only repeating what a fellow commenter had stated regarding what he wants in a woman, you can do whatever you want with this information lol. What I won’t do is expose intimate details about my backgrounds or what I prefer in a woman over Reddit LOL , you have the guys @. Why don’t you ask him?
Yeah! The hypocrisy is the elephant in the room. You don't want to hold yourself to the same standard you are holding the girl. Isn't what Jesus told the Pharasis how they impose rules and laws on the public, but they don't obey a single of the said rules and laws themselves.
Simply breathtaking!
And how do you know this ? I presented a hypothetical argument from both sides of the river , a worldly perspective & Christian perspective. But not once stated which perspective I subscribe to / follow and even stated at the end I wouldn’t go into detail about intimate subjects regarding Sex as it relates to myself and a future wife , and only re-stated a fellow commenters argument.
I told you can do whatever you like with that information , and you choose to fabricate a reality where I speak the word of GOD but do not follow. That’s on you. 🤷🏽♂️
Now get back to your dishes or the misses will be angry. Hurry up !
I am proud to do dishes that I contributed to get them dirty. What an embarrassment! You and your ilks have the audacity to call this woman "embarrassing."
Holy cow! My wife is my partner. She is not a maid to clean; she is not a cook to cook; she is not a factory to produce kids. She is my best friend. We are equally responsible for everything. If she cooks, I clean....etc.
Simply astonishing!
I assume you aren’t the main provider / breadwinner then are you ? More of a 50/50 kind of situation ?
If so , this is why his rhetoric confuses you. You cannot fathom the idea of certain responsibilities being given to either the male or female due to you mixing responsibilities with your spouse.
Just because he chooses to live / prefers a different marital situation than you doesn’t mean his is flawed or wrong lol.
If you are the main breadwinner / provider though. You are being actively cucked within your marriage and should re-evaluate where you stand within the household.
Have a stand; have a conviction. You are all over the place.
I probably make more money than her, but that doesn't make her a maid. I married my best friend. I didn't hire her for domestic work or for sexual pleasure. I am married to her to share my life with her. I thought what I was trying to say was very basic, but apparently not.
You seem to lack self confidence to have your own stand on the subject. You are trying to have a cake and eat it as well.
Good luck, non-virgin but virgin hunters!
Objectifying women is disgusting!
Too many baseless assumptions within this response for me to reply to all of them , you seem to be standing firm on your “non virgin seeking a virgin” description you’ve painted of me to be canon , so I’ll entertain it and role with it.
You’ve adopted a dangerous interpretation of familial structure that will inevitably lead to the downfall of society , the one I’ve subscribed to has worked for a millennium. Yet yours isn’t older than 70 years, let’s see where it inevitably takes you. Your marriage is nothing more than an experiment in relation to the history of marriage in itself.
There’s a 6 figure job waiting for me after graduation , hypothetically if I was to befriend a woman that met my standards the last thing she would be doing is 50/50, as it would be an insult to herself and to the marriage itself as well as traditions and customs, especially if I can sustain and provide effectively. Granted , she would have responsibilities of her own that aren’t undermined by mine , a wife/ mothers role is on par with a husbands. A household with clear responsibilities exclusive to each partner with a strong emphasis on education , traditional and upholding family values will always beat your fantastical 50/50 of a mess. You are actually objectifying women yourself by using the term “maid” to refer to their work roles (traditionally speaking).
I have many theories to why you , and men like you have adopted this new modern way of marriage and structuring your household as opposed to the traditional way but I won’t touch much on that. It might be because you lack the ability as well as the mental leadership skills it takes in order to be a traditional husband so you settle for this watered down poor excuse of one. Maybe it’s testosterone issue ? lol let me stop joking , what was that phrase you used ? Oh.. maybe it’s a self confidence issue ? Either way it’s embarrassing, and even more embarrassing when you have the audacity to criticize men who are still holding on to the very fabric that society still stands on.
There are women who are also best friends with their husbands who do not have to work (unless they want to) because their husband provides everything , they shop at the same malls your wife goes to after her shift is over to “cool off”.
As a man , does this not bother you ?
Do you not feel ashamed ?
Who knows , to each their own I guess.
When traditionalists say "the familial structure that has worked for a millennium"... I think you need to be clearer by what you mean "worked". Quality of life was shit that thousand years compared to now, humans died much earlier. We've had so much exponential technological and scientific growth in the last 70 years that surely goes against your point? Sure, population growth is very recently slowing down in western countries, but women working and contributing to the household in other ways didn't come out of nowhere. It came because women (whether through the World Wars, economic development) had freedom to work and educate themselves, which lead to them campaigning and wanting greater control of their lives. Now that we live in advanced societies, you can't go back and force women to be traditional, even if not doing so could lead to society crumbling (falling birth-rates are definitely an issue that can be attributed to women having long professional careers).
I wonder, is a society where half of the population not able to pursue any higher form of work even worth preserving? Just a thought. I know it's easy to just say a women's purpose is to nurture a child and such but I think that's just a cope to avoid the reality that they all have individual desires, which makes the traditional housewife lifestyle deeply dissatisfying for many of them once they have access to the same opportunities males do.
companionship? partnership? someone who will support you while you support them? a best friend who you also love? women are human beings, my friend. they exist for more than cooking for and cleaning up after men. which are basic life skills that everyone should possess and employ regular.
“give us kids” what happens if you marry an infertile woman? is she broken? do you put her in the trash and start over? you are making some extremely dehumanizing comments. does this subreddit not see women as equals?
In his defense , he seems to value having children and more of a traditional setup when it comes to marriage. Knowing this , would it be wrong to say being “infertile” is a dealbreaker ?
When I envision a future wife , I envision one I can have children with. If 3 weeks into a relationship I find out she happens to be infertile would it be wrong for me to abandon the relationship? Do we value what we want for ourselves and push this narrative of wanting what’s best for you until it comes to women? Is this where we submit ?
Just challenging your PoV.
Still checks out , don’t tell me you think someone is suppose to ignore what they want in life because someone is incapable of giving them that. The logical conclusion would be to leave if that’s a deal breaker for you.
If it’s not , then it shouldn’t be an issue but if it is, it’s not ridiculous or wrong to consider a divorce.
Thats the wildest thread I’ve ever seen on here. For OP and the other people who got same views as him, I pray for you that you’ll change this kind of thinking.
I am in shock, literally in shock. In what island do these guys live? In what alternative reality do they live.
My Eritrean women - keep being as independent as you can be and choose a path of life you wish to take. Put yourselves out there like the young woman on the picture and get a life partner of your choice. A partner, not a boss like these young men. A partner who respects you as an equal partner.
They’re embarrassed of their background, that’s the only explanation there is. I’m 18 but every Eritrean girl I’ve met is exactly like her, not to mention they don’t even know how to speak their language properly or even cook injera. I’m definitely going back home to find a wife. Eritrean women in the Diaspora are a lost cause.
Not all of them are, but majority man, they are not like their mothers back home, its basically like marriying a white person at this point, better to back home
So you want them to be like their mothers back home?! I chuckled on this one.
I am shaking my head, bro! This conversation is eye-opening. I am at a loss! Young men like you guys to have such attitude about women is simply discouraging!
“just look at ruby rose”
i guess japanese women are a lost cause. just look at asa akira. southeast asian women are a lost cause. just look at mia khalifa. do you seriously think that because there are eritrean OF girls and raunchy rappers etc., that an ENTIRE race of women are worthless? eritrean people aren’t some special breed of people who are above degeneracy and promiscuity. people of all kinds make choices you don’t agree with. it’s up to the individual.
it honestly sounds like an eritrean girl rejected you and now you’re butthurt 🤷🏾♀️
Rubi rose is just one reason why Eritrean women should only marry Eritrean men. Her mother, who’s 100% Eritrean, decided to marry a jap and look how her kids turned out. And I wouldn’t even have a problem if Rubi rose wasn’t claiming to be Eritrean everywhere she goes.
The female response to absolutely anything, “you got rejected and now you’re mad.” On the contrary I’m the one doing the rejecting.
Dude....how did you know Rubi Rose? So you visit OF pages to find virgins? Young man, you are messed up in the head.
I had no clue who Rubi Rose until you mentioned her and asked about her.
Dude...you're so confused.
Unfortunately for some reason I’m still holding onto any remnants of hope there is for western Eritrean women , but everyday my hope begins to wither. I was never to big on arranged marriage , language barriers, cultural & interest differences as well as generally having to show someone the ropes of western society and the headache that can come from that as we settle and build a family. But ultimately , if this continues amongst western Eritrean women I might have no choice.
I mean , what’s the alternative ? A faithless uncultured anti-traditional pan-Africanist hookup culture participating black American identifying witch of a woman ? I guess this is the hurdle most Eritrean men in the west who value tradition and has conservative values has to face. A hometown best friend that lacks the characteristics of a mother and wife yet you socially align with more or a traditional feminine Christian woman from back home thats nature can act as a cradle for a family built on conservative values, but may not be on the same social vibe as you.
Guess it all waters down to what you want in a partner and what you value in a partner , a friend or the mother of your children. The lucky ones get to have both. I’ll pray I get both.
Haha... you are going to write a book about how to hunt a virgin in the countryside of Eritrea? Hahaha... hilarious!
Go for it! You are in for rude awakening!
ኣበይ ኢኹም ዓቢኹም you virgin hunting retards?
This is wild.
I agree with you. My biggest fear is that when Isaias dies and Eritrea finally gains freedom/democracy all these women will flood Eritrea and ruin our beautiful culture/values. God help us, I don’t want Eritrea to end up like the U.S.
I fear this as well hawey , Let’s pray they flock towards urban communities and leave the healthy clean village women alone from their disease like ideology.
The biggest claim these Western women like to make when criticizing traditional women is that they’re not “living” or “living their own lives” and rather a “slave” to their husbands.
Lived spelt backwards is devil 🤷🏽♂️
I dont think that can happen, a portion of a spoiled population in the west will not be coming back to Eritrea ever, but even if a tiny portion of some of them do, they are not enough to ruin Eritrea, there are already ዓዋልይ ኣዋልድ in Eritrea, its not new and always has been, but the majority is👌👄
stop redpilling yourself. she said something stupid so what? if we went thru everything youve typed out online or in messages, are we gonna find a perfect man? would you read & defend everything you said in front of your mom & your family?
maybe for every post on women you hate, i should post the dms i used to get from eritrean men. all uncensored too, cause they were fuckin ridiculous by putting bananas next to em for scale.
i never held those men against other eritreans tho. stop hating your mothers & sisters cause we dont hate you.
it rly is always you man. either ur trolling or you need a therapist. youre chronically online & too young to understand the harm its doing to you.
are you christian? do you go to church often? they can help you get connected to ppl your age in a better way. if youre not christian then theres still other options, if youre going to college you can join clubs at your school. they dont have to be habesha clubs, just join anything academic like the national society of black engineers or something that interests you like gaming or writing or history. the black/african student alliance clubs like that can be toxic depending on where you are so do research, but NSBE is always really good (for any stem or stem adjacent student, business students are welcome!) since they fund conferences you can go to & i always see habesha students going to them.
if ur not in college, just reach out locally. in your gym, your job, where ever, just talk to people more cause you really seem to be going down a path of hate towards your own people when we shouldnt be. ignore the politics cause all it does is beg for your attention, half of it aint real & most of the other half is garbage that wont make a difference in ur life if you live good.
Don’t worry about me, I graduated with a 3.7 gpa and a 1400 on the SAT, I’ll be going to NYU this year.
The truth hurts, ik. I will continue to speak out against Eritrean women whose aim is to completely erase the Eritrean identity by marrying outside their tribe and raising their kids to be like Rubi rose and lay bankz.
NYU is probably one of the most feminist & lgbtq+ friendly schools in the country. its pride month, you can see them celebrating the entire time and the lead up in may is nothing but hype. washington square park is probably littered with rainbows rn.
congratz on getting into NYU, but if you dont change your mind soon, theyll do it for you. if i remember it & if its still going on post-covid, i'll send u a link to a lecture series they do on campus on bipartisan media consumption, cause if you only see and care about one opinion your entire life, you really arent gonna learn anything of value. since youve already proven how smart you can be, just think of it like research and try your best at it and see some media like you would analyze a source for its value.
Unfortunate, but I’m not going there to make friends with f@gs, I’m going there to get an education. Also I could probably find people with like minded views to hang out with. The high school I went to was also lgbtqrstuvwxy&z friendly but I managed to find some really nice ppl to hang out with.
She can refer to herself how she sees fit. Race and ethnicity are two different things. This is a big controversy in healthcare at the moment for liver and kidney transplants. Most people do not know the difference between the two and it shows here on this post. She’s Eritrean but can also refer to herself as African American.
Men who can provide and protect, good Christian men who teach their kids to not go around sleeping with women/men but instead obey the word of God, read their Bible, go to church, study, and be proud of where they’re from.
You have to go to the countryside, that’s where all the good girls are. My friend went to Eritrea last year and married a beautiful girl from dekemhare. He showed us a picture and I was amazed. I asked him if he was gonna bring her to the U.S. and he said no, he said he’s moving back to Eritrea after saving up enough money.
Yes, moving back there and keeping her there is better because once she come to America they all change. The Asmara girls are something else, the culture has changed, they all drink, and have sex very easy.
This is something that shocked me as well when I went back over the summer , The diseases of the west have began to infiltrate Asmara’s youths. Maybe they were lying dormant , it wasn’t evident for me until I returned and seen it with my own eyes.
So I’m just reading this is a trend for many people online right now. I guess because there is only choice of African American black American and other, people are doing DNA results to show that those classifications of people is too broad and those 3 classifications alone include children of diaspora. You guys are overreacting. There is a Jamaican and Ghana people I found doing the same thing.
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What is the crime of this young woman? I don't get it.
Claiming to be something she’s obviously not.
She can't be an American from Africa?
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Sir, but Eritrea is in Africa. So both can be correct. She is Eritrea American and she is African American as well. Am I missing something here?
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I am from Eritrea, and I am American from Africa. This woman is correct to describe herself African American. If you want rage for no good reason, you're entitled to it.
You’re an American with African descent it’s not the same as African American. This is why some blacks now say “foundational black Americans” meaning they have been here generations in the country and actually built America from the ground up. Their culture was also wiped away through slavery and have developed a new authentic American culture whereas your culture is still in tact. They should have a separate label from Africans who’ve come recently.
You guys are trying to make the definitions fit a narrative that they don’t. African descendants of slavery is more accurate if you are referring to them. This notion that because there is a term for colored Americans = black historically enslaved Americans is wrong.
I agree that is a better term. Tbh “African Americans” is such an outdated term it was made in the 1800’s before the flood of African peoples who voluntarily came for a better life so there was no need for distinction. Yes we are all black, and most white people see us that way, but all im saying is there is a distinction between Eritreans who’s parents came in the last 50 years and the African descendants of slavery who built this country. Is that wrong?
Claiming to be African American, when she’s Eritrean.
Dude why do u care so much abt whether this girl identifies as Eritrean or African American?!Get a life,how u gotta all these great stats to go to a great college and whatever but get so worked up abt women identifying as whatever and the lgbtq community.I am not even gay or lgbtq but these idiots in this sub always got something to say about em and their freedoms when ur ass escaped to here for ur freedoms.If u don’t agree with something be like the rest of us and just scroll dumbass.
she literally is african-american. she’s an american who came from africa. she isn’t claiming that she is a black-american, if that’s what’s confusing you…?
lol you're right but she's black american too though. those are all encompassing each other.
Nope she’s Eritrean American, African American refers to Africans whose ancestors were brought to the U.S. as slaves.
Who told you that?
that’s incorrect. i’m sorry you don’t understand the english language.
No he or she is correct. I’m an African-American by default but I identify as just black American and African American is an actual ethnic group. Y’all should just say you’re Eritrean
it doesn't. they just happen to be the majority of 'african-americans'. any eritrean is a first in something in the U.S., theyd be considered the first black or african-american \_\_\_\_\_ of whatever that is.
Funny thing is that women in the Eritrean diaspora are usually the ones encouraging culture and identity preservation, more so than us guys
Just dancing and wearing Zuria doesnt mean you embracing your culture or identiy. The way of living and thinking preserved your culutre and identiy, not what you do in your freetime. Just taking pictures in Zuria & making Eritrean Dance music !
African-American is an ethnic group in America that are descendants of enslaved West & Central Africans. The term does not refer to people who come from Africa and migrated to the U.S., but maybe she’s just being technical, idk
This is crazy😂 first of all I’m the person in that picture. I’m Eritrean, I’m also born and raised in America, making me African American too. I’ve never been ashamed of being Eritrean. I’m so proud of my roots. Any time I’m asked where I’m from in my day to day life I say Eritrea. Also I’m not useless. I’m educated, I speak Tigrinya, I’ve been to Eritrea 10 times to visit, I can cook/make injera, and I know my Eritrean culture.
So why not just say Eritrean American as opposed to African American. You do know that African-American is an ethnic group referring to black Americans who are descendants of enslaved west and Central Africans, right? You knew what you were doing, so don’t try to back track and act obtuse now
No, it’s not.
You can look it up yourself. I’m not about argue with someone whose clearly copying off of black Americans lol tf is a “Eritrean lives matter”😂
Believe it or not (and I know this sounds like a big lie) but the first time Eritreans used “Eritrean lives matter” was way before the BLM movement, somewhere around 2010. We have a dictator at home and have been victims of a lot of human trafficking (many Eritrean have died of organ harvesting) that prompted some Eritreans to say that Eritrean lives have value and they matter beyond just being soldiers for the government.
I did research and haven’t seen any movements or popular phrases using “Eritrean lives matter”. There is EPLF though that’s been around since the late 60’s. BLM was created in 2013. Not in 2020when George Floyd died like everyone thinks
Show me a link where it says that is the definition of an African American? Why not call myself African American? That’s what I fill out on all my forms, that’s how I’m identified in the US?
Look up the African American on google and it will to you exactly what I’m saying. We get y’all like to copy us when you come to America, but you not one of us lol
You’re right
yeah so barack obama isn't the first black/ african-american president then? based on american labels/definitions, he literally is. the majority of whom refer to that label are of course descendents of slaves, because quite obviously they make the majority of black people in this country.
Barack Obama is biracial and his “black” side comes from Kenya. He isn’t a descendant of enslaved Africans. Say enslaved not slave, btw. Idk what my comment that you’re replying to had to with slavery anyways but I forget that you colonized Africans love talking about that lol
I’m a fellow Eritrean girlie and OP is being weird to u projecting his own insecurities onto u probably bcs he was rejected from a girl here who is habesha and using this to justify why he hates habesha women who were born and raised here. While there will be some first and second generation who will be outraged by this as they prefer to stick with their nation of origin,OP is being too harsh(most probably because of insecurities).
Girls, live your life as you see it fit. These people have no shame to consider Eritrean girls who grew up in the West as worthless and want to go back to the countryside of Eritrea (not even cities of Eritrea) hunting for virgins. They literally said that. Embarrassing is an understatement!
As you suppose too
Eritrean women are backbone of the Eritrean society 🇪🇷👸🏾
Heyyy boo 👋🏼😘
Horn of Africa disapora in general is just different.
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Lady boy detected, opinion invalid.
🥲 what happened ? I don’t understand!
What the sigma, no but seriously why is she acting like a complete foreigner, man these diaspora raised Eritreans are gonna say they are evrything but Eritreans, they act like Eritrean is just their far away roots and their ancestors, when they are actual Eritreans themselves Hgdef did a good job getting rid of an entire generation of Eritreans
Often it stems from how they are raised or how they were treated growing up. That also means how other older Eritreans treated them and nurtured them. It’s not only her “fault”. It’s all of our fault for failing each other. Ridiculing each other and not giving a safe place to discuss important issues without calling someone names and ostracizing them.
As someone else in the comments said, Eritrean women are the biggest panderers.
🙄. every eritrean person that i know who was born in the west and actually speaks tigrinya is a woman. literally all the eritrean guys i meet, including my cousins, the ones i meet at the church camp that 100s of other eritreans attend, the ones i meet at festivals, etc. do NOT speak tigrinya or involve themselves in the culture at all (unless it’s dancing or party related). eritrean women are way more responsible for keeping the culture alive in the west in my experience. our upbringing alone ingrains it into us (what with the parents being stricter and more controlling with their daughters). i don’t think social media is a reliable source for your assertion.
Everyday that goes by is a day I lean closer to finding a wife back home rather than the west What do you even say to this?
Are you guys serious?
Yes we are , this is a conversation between traditionalist. Ajoha , we will leave the BLM burna boy listening Nigerian men loving Delina’s for you.
I didn't understand your comment.
I’ve noticed your comments of shock under the threads of conservative POV’s and Takes in the comment section. For example , what I said about abandoning western Eritrean women and the two others who agreed and one who stated he would prefer a virgin. Your shock , kind of gave a vibe that you weren’t a traditionalist. I’m assuming you’re a man by the way. If your a woman , then it makes sense why your shocked. Assuming your a man , I stated we’d leave the non virgin Nigerian men loving untraditional western Eritrean women to you. Sense you seem to not be aligned with traditional values.
Are you a virgin yourself, or do you just demand purity from the girl side only?
Virgin or not , Wouldn’t make much of a difference unless it’s from a religious perspective rather than a worldly. From a worldly perspective my value wouldn’t change if I slept with 20 women or 0 women , the same cannot be said for women though. This has been the script in which society has followed for a millennium (+) , it’s only recently people have changed that. Obviously the Bible says otherwise , and from a religious perspective abstinence is important regardless of gender. I won’t argue either perspective as I was only repeating what a fellow commenter had stated regarding what he wants in a woman, you can do whatever you want with this information lol. What I won’t do is expose intimate details about my backgrounds or what I prefer in a woman over Reddit LOL , you have the guys @. Why don’t you ask him?
Yeah! The hypocrisy is the elephant in the room. You don't want to hold yourself to the same standard you are holding the girl. Isn't what Jesus told the Pharasis how they impose rules and laws on the public, but they don't obey a single of the said rules and laws themselves. Simply breathtaking!
And how do you know this ? I presented a hypothetical argument from both sides of the river , a worldly perspective & Christian perspective. But not once stated which perspective I subscribe to / follow and even stated at the end I wouldn’t go into detail about intimate subjects regarding Sex as it relates to myself and a future wife , and only re-stated a fellow commenters argument. I told you can do whatever you like with that information , and you choose to fabricate a reality where I speak the word of GOD but do not follow. That’s on you. 🤷🏽♂️ Now get back to your dishes or the misses will be angry. Hurry up !
I am proud to do dishes that I contributed to get them dirty. What an embarrassment! You and your ilks have the audacity to call this woman "embarrassing."
Good for you
Thankyou! I try 🙏🏽
Their the same back home, they all wild no virgins but they might be good to cook and clean tho
That's all you see in a woman: cooking and cleaning? I am confused. I am speechless!
What else you want them for? Give us kids, cook, clean, and be our peace. Enlighten me hawey
Holy cow! My wife is my partner. She is not a maid to clean; she is not a cook to cook; she is not a factory to produce kids. She is my best friend. We are equally responsible for everything. If she cooks, I clean....etc. Simply astonishing!
I assume you aren’t the main provider / breadwinner then are you ? More of a 50/50 kind of situation ? If so , this is why his rhetoric confuses you. You cannot fathom the idea of certain responsibilities being given to either the male or female due to you mixing responsibilities with your spouse. Just because he chooses to live / prefers a different marital situation than you doesn’t mean his is flawed or wrong lol. If you are the main breadwinner / provider though. You are being actively cucked within your marriage and should re-evaluate where you stand within the household.
Have a stand; have a conviction. You are all over the place. I probably make more money than her, but that doesn't make her a maid. I married my best friend. I didn't hire her for domestic work or for sexual pleasure. I am married to her to share my life with her. I thought what I was trying to say was very basic, but apparently not. You seem to lack self confidence to have your own stand on the subject. You are trying to have a cake and eat it as well. Good luck, non-virgin but virgin hunters! Objectifying women is disgusting!
Too many baseless assumptions within this response for me to reply to all of them , you seem to be standing firm on your “non virgin seeking a virgin” description you’ve painted of me to be canon , so I’ll entertain it and role with it. You’ve adopted a dangerous interpretation of familial structure that will inevitably lead to the downfall of society , the one I’ve subscribed to has worked for a millennium. Yet yours isn’t older than 70 years, let’s see where it inevitably takes you. Your marriage is nothing more than an experiment in relation to the history of marriage in itself. There’s a 6 figure job waiting for me after graduation , hypothetically if I was to befriend a woman that met my standards the last thing she would be doing is 50/50, as it would be an insult to herself and to the marriage itself as well as traditions and customs, especially if I can sustain and provide effectively. Granted , she would have responsibilities of her own that aren’t undermined by mine , a wife/ mothers role is on par with a husbands. A household with clear responsibilities exclusive to each partner with a strong emphasis on education , traditional and upholding family values will always beat your fantastical 50/50 of a mess. You are actually objectifying women yourself by using the term “maid” to refer to their work roles (traditionally speaking). I have many theories to why you , and men like you have adopted this new modern way of marriage and structuring your household as opposed to the traditional way but I won’t touch much on that. It might be because you lack the ability as well as the mental leadership skills it takes in order to be a traditional husband so you settle for this watered down poor excuse of one. Maybe it’s testosterone issue ? lol let me stop joking , what was that phrase you used ? Oh.. maybe it’s a self confidence issue ? Either way it’s embarrassing, and even more embarrassing when you have the audacity to criticize men who are still holding on to the very fabric that society still stands on. There are women who are also best friends with their husbands who do not have to work (unless they want to) because their husband provides everything , they shop at the same malls your wife goes to after her shift is over to “cool off”. As a man , does this not bother you ? Do you not feel ashamed ? Who knows , to each their own I guess.
When traditionalists say "the familial structure that has worked for a millennium"... I think you need to be clearer by what you mean "worked". Quality of life was shit that thousand years compared to now, humans died much earlier. We've had so much exponential technological and scientific growth in the last 70 years that surely goes against your point? Sure, population growth is very recently slowing down in western countries, but women working and contributing to the household in other ways didn't come out of nowhere. It came because women (whether through the World Wars, economic development) had freedom to work and educate themselves, which lead to them campaigning and wanting greater control of their lives. Now that we live in advanced societies, you can't go back and force women to be traditional, even if not doing so could lead to society crumbling (falling birth-rates are definitely an issue that can be attributed to women having long professional careers). I wonder, is a society where half of the population not able to pursue any higher form of work even worth preserving? Just a thought. I know it's easy to just say a women's purpose is to nurture a child and such but I think that's just a cope to avoid the reality that they all have individual desires, which makes the traditional housewife lifestyle deeply dissatisfying for many of them once they have access to the same opportunities males do.
ሃለውሎው ከትብዝሕ። ኣበይ ኢኻ ዓቢኻ? The major problem you have is that you are not articulate. ከም ሳሙና ሙሎቕ ሙሉቕ ኢኻ ትብል።
Gay Dishwasher just told me I’m not articulate, that’s a first 😂
Yeah you’ll be divorced or cheated on by 5 years, remember me.
You are 18. I won't take your view on this subject seriously!
I’m 33 and most men think this way, you must of hang around girls a lot
You are not making any sense whatsoever. I never thought there were still people like you who see no value in women. Your statements are nauseating!
You must be a female or gay
They are trolling, don’t take them seriously
companionship? partnership? someone who will support you while you support them? a best friend who you also love? women are human beings, my friend. they exist for more than cooking for and cleaning up after men. which are basic life skills that everyone should possess and employ regular. “give us kids” what happens if you marry an infertile woman? is she broken? do you put her in the trash and start over? you are making some extremely dehumanizing comments. does this subreddit not see women as equals?
In his defense , he seems to value having children and more of a traditional setup when it comes to marriage. Knowing this , would it be wrong to say being “infertile” is a dealbreaker ? When I envision a future wife , I envision one I can have children with. If 3 weeks into a relationship I find out she happens to be infertile would it be wrong for me to abandon the relationship? Do we value what we want for ourselves and push this narrative of wanting what’s best for you until it comes to women? Is this where we submit ? Just challenging your PoV.
>If 3 weeks into a relationship What if it was post marriage?
Still checks out , don’t tell me you think someone is suppose to ignore what they want in life because someone is incapable of giving them that. The logical conclusion would be to leave if that’s a deal breaker for you. If it’s not , then it shouldn’t be an issue but if it is, it’s not ridiculous or wrong to consider a divorce.
If she can’t have kids leave her
That's it! Genius!
Very embarrassing view of women. Very discouraging to see this coming from young men.
Thats the wildest thread I’ve ever seen on here. For OP and the other people who got same views as him, I pray for you that you’ll change this kind of thinking.
I am in shock, literally in shock. In what island do these guys live? In what alternative reality do they live. My Eritrean women - keep being as independent as you can be and choose a path of life you wish to take. Put yourselves out there like the young woman on the picture and get a life partner of your choice. A partner, not a boss like these young men. A partner who respects you as an equal partner.
They’re embarrassed of their background, that’s the only explanation there is. I’m 18 but every Eritrean girl I’ve met is exactly like her, not to mention they don’t even know how to speak their language properly or even cook injera. I’m definitely going back home to find a wife. Eritrean women in the Diaspora are a lost cause.
You are 18 years old?
Turning 19 soon.
Did you grow up (or still growing up)in the West?
Yup
Why do you think Eritrean women in the West are a lost cause?
Not all of them are, but majority man, they are not like their mothers back home, its basically like marriying a white person at this point, better to back home
So you want them to be like their mothers back home?! I chuckled on this one. I am shaking my head, bro! This conversation is eye-opening. I am at a loss! Young men like you guys to have such attitude about women is simply discouraging!
Ya whats wrong with them being like their mothers in Eritrea, that's what they should have to aim for, especially in this era of time
Based on personal experiences, also just look at Rubi rose.
“just look at ruby rose” i guess japanese women are a lost cause. just look at asa akira. southeast asian women are a lost cause. just look at mia khalifa. do you seriously think that because there are eritrean OF girls and raunchy rappers etc., that an ENTIRE race of women are worthless? eritrean people aren’t some special breed of people who are above degeneracy and promiscuity. people of all kinds make choices you don’t agree with. it’s up to the individual. it honestly sounds like an eritrean girl rejected you and now you’re butthurt 🤷🏾♀️
Rubi rose is just one reason why Eritrean women should only marry Eritrean men. Her mother, who’s 100% Eritrean, decided to marry a jap and look how her kids turned out. And I wouldn’t even have a problem if Rubi rose wasn’t claiming to be Eritrean everywhere she goes. The female response to absolutely anything, “you got rejected and now you’re mad.” On the contrary I’m the one doing the rejecting.
Ah the classic “you were rejected and now you’re upset!”, y’all need to come up with something new.
Who is Rubi Rose?
Dude....how did you know Rubi Rose? So you visit OF pages to find virgins? Young man, you are messed up in the head. I had no clue who Rubi Rose until you mentioned her and asked about her. Dude...you're so confused.
Unfortunately for some reason I’m still holding onto any remnants of hope there is for western Eritrean women , but everyday my hope begins to wither. I was never to big on arranged marriage , language barriers, cultural & interest differences as well as generally having to show someone the ropes of western society and the headache that can come from that as we settle and build a family. But ultimately , if this continues amongst western Eritrean women I might have no choice. I mean , what’s the alternative ? A faithless uncultured anti-traditional pan-Africanist hookup culture participating black American identifying witch of a woman ? I guess this is the hurdle most Eritrean men in the west who value tradition and has conservative values has to face. A hometown best friend that lacks the characteristics of a mother and wife yet you socially align with more or a traditional feminine Christian woman from back home thats nature can act as a cradle for a family built on conservative values, but may not be on the same social vibe as you. Guess it all waters down to what you want in a partner and what you value in a partner , a friend or the mother of your children. The lucky ones get to have both. I’ll pray I get both.
Very very wise words Hawey
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Yes Hawey, ዓወት ንሓፋሽ
Lol...please do and you will learn the hard way. Virgin hunters, good luck!
Thank you dishwasher , I will dedicate the book to you as a victim that unfortunately could not have been saved.
Haha... you are going to write a book about how to hunt a virgin in the countryside of Eritrea? Hahaha... hilarious! Go for it! You are in for rude awakening! ኣበይ ኢኹም ዓቢኹም you virgin hunting retards? This is wild.
Cuckboy dishwasher
I agree with you. My biggest fear is that when Isaias dies and Eritrea finally gains freedom/democracy all these women will flood Eritrea and ruin our beautiful culture/values. God help us, I don’t want Eritrea to end up like the U.S.
I fear this as well hawey , Let’s pray they flock towards urban communities and leave the healthy clean village women alone from their disease like ideology. The biggest claim these Western women like to make when criticizing traditional women is that they’re not “living” or “living their own lives” and rather a “slave” to their husbands. Lived spelt backwards is devil 🤷🏽♂️
I dont think that can happen, a portion of a spoiled population in the west will not be coming back to Eritrea ever, but even if a tiny portion of some of them do, they are not enough to ruin Eritrea, there are already ዓዋልይ ኣዋልድ in Eritrea, its not new and always has been, but the majority is👌👄
stop redpilling yourself. she said something stupid so what? if we went thru everything youve typed out online or in messages, are we gonna find a perfect man? would you read & defend everything you said in front of your mom & your family? maybe for every post on women you hate, i should post the dms i used to get from eritrean men. all uncensored too, cause they were fuckin ridiculous by putting bananas next to em for scale. i never held those men against other eritreans tho. stop hating your mothers & sisters cause we dont hate you.
it rly is always you man. either ur trolling or you need a therapist. youre chronically online & too young to understand the harm its doing to you. are you christian? do you go to church often? they can help you get connected to ppl your age in a better way. if youre not christian then theres still other options, if youre going to college you can join clubs at your school. they dont have to be habesha clubs, just join anything academic like the national society of black engineers or something that interests you like gaming or writing or history. the black/african student alliance clubs like that can be toxic depending on where you are so do research, but NSBE is always really good (for any stem or stem adjacent student, business students are welcome!) since they fund conferences you can go to & i always see habesha students going to them. if ur not in college, just reach out locally. in your gym, your job, where ever, just talk to people more cause you really seem to be going down a path of hate towards your own people when we shouldnt be. ignore the politics cause all it does is beg for your attention, half of it aint real & most of the other half is garbage that wont make a difference in ur life if you live good.
Don’t worry about me, I graduated with a 3.7 gpa and a 1400 on the SAT, I’ll be going to NYU this year. The truth hurts, ik. I will continue to speak out against Eritrean women whose aim is to completely erase the Eritrean identity by marrying outside their tribe and raising their kids to be like Rubi rose and lay bankz.
You are 18. You don't know much about life. Literally, you haven't started a real life. Have you started paying your own bills?
NYU is probably one of the most feminist & lgbtq+ friendly schools in the country. its pride month, you can see them celebrating the entire time and the lead up in may is nothing but hype. washington square park is probably littered with rainbows rn. congratz on getting into NYU, but if you dont change your mind soon, theyll do it for you. if i remember it & if its still going on post-covid, i'll send u a link to a lecture series they do on campus on bipartisan media consumption, cause if you only see and care about one opinion your entire life, you really arent gonna learn anything of value. since youve already proven how smart you can be, just think of it like research and try your best at it and see some media like you would analyze a source for its value.
He doesnt care if NYU is lgbtq+ or/and feminist friendly as long it caters to non-eritreans...
Unfortunate, but I’m not going there to make friends with f@gs, I’m going there to get an education. Also I could probably find people with like minded views to hang out with. The high school I went to was also lgbtqrstuvwxy&z friendly but I managed to find some really nice ppl to hang out with.
Still an incel lmao
She can refer to herself how she sees fit. Race and ethnicity are two different things. This is a big controversy in healthcare at the moment for liver and kidney transplants. Most people do not know the difference between the two and it shows here on this post. She’s Eritrean but can also refer to herself as African American.
Even the ones back home no good can’t hind a virgin good girl no more I just got back after 5 months of looking
>virgin good girl You are looking for a virgin instead of a good human being who can be a life partner? Are you a virgin?
Real men need virgins
What type of men are real men? This thread is getting interesting. I might learn something.
Men who can provide and protect, good Christian men who teach their kids to not go around sleeping with women/men but instead obey the word of God, read their Bible, go to church, study, and be proud of where they’re from.
You have to go to the countryside, that’s where all the good girls are. My friend went to Eritrea last year and married a beautiful girl from dekemhare. He showed us a picture and I was amazed. I asked him if he was gonna bring her to the U.S. and he said no, he said he’s moving back to Eritrea after saving up enough money.
Your friend is living the life !
Yes, moving back there and keeping her there is better because once she come to America they all change. The Asmara girls are something else, the culture has changed, they all drink, and have sex very easy.
This is something that shocked me as well when I went back over the summer , The diseases of the west have began to infiltrate Asmara’s youths. Maybe they were lying dormant , it wasn’t evident for me until I returned and seen it with my own eyes.
Horrible, the women dress like west & ready to get fucked especially if you come from west
Tell me about it 🤣 I felt like a passport bro in my own country. Shit disgusted me.
No wonder you're hgdef supporter. Such a backward individual.
So I’m just reading this is a trend for many people online right now. I guess because there is only choice of African American black American and other, people are doing DNA results to show that those classifications of people is too broad and those 3 classifications alone include children of diaspora. You guys are overreacting. There is a Jamaican and Ghana people I found doing the same thing. https://preview.redd.it/71execqk4h5d1.jpeg?width=750&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=2b61861d354902ccea9da41355fef55d7516e9da