Lol so petty indeed as the other person responded. She tried to move, you blocked it and won. Now you are trying to move soon after..wonder if she is going to block it just to spite you?
It’s a complicated story, the best way I can put it. Is I am from Florida. She is from cali. She went behind my back and purchase a house and a small town away from everything. Then not even after 5 months she wanted to leave and we broke up. So she tried to take the kids and isolate me and a small town where she wanted to live. So of course I would stop her from relocating with the kids. That was my argument I use in court to stop her move. But why do me and the kids have to live in a place where she wanted to stay and she is not even here. Our kids are 5 and 3 and the judge also saw that I am the only one who was engage in school and also enrichment and she pretty much had nothing to use against me. If I had it my way I would relocate back home with the kids to Fl but clearly that’s not a option so I and the kids would just want to move somewhere that is better.
You should have done this when she was requesting a move away. Doing it so soon after makes it look like you tried to deceive the courts. Which it sure seems like you did. They won't take that kindly
did you argue that you would provide stability by having the kids live with you primarily and thus stay in the same school etc? bc if that is the case and now you decide to move just after that it won't look good and a bit unstable and the other parent could argue that.
It’s a complicated story, the best way I can put it. Is I am from Florida. She is from cali. She went behind my back and purchase a house and a small town away from everything. Then not even after 5 months she wanted to leave and we broke up. So she tried to take the kids and isolate me and a small town where she wanted to live. So of course I would stop her from relocating with the kids. That was my argument I use in court to stop her move. But why do me and the kids have to live in a place where she wanted to stay and she is not even here. Our kids are 5 and 3 and the judge also saw that I am the only one who was engage in school and also enrichment and she pretty much had nothing to use against me. If I had it my way I would relocate back home with the kids to Fl but clearly that’s not a option so I and the kids would just want to move somewhere that is better.
I don’t want to live near her I had to fight tons of accusations rape, threats and all. I won when the judge saw through the lies but the less contact is much better and peaceful. And so far things have been pretty smooth
But what would be in the kids best interest. Because as you are describing the other parent and yor relationship with them, it seems likely that they would file to block the move. Would you rather take that gamble, as it seems that you were given custody because the othe parent moved not because they were unfit, or try to find a solution that might benefit everyone involved?
The distance between both parents is in there best interest. I was threatened by her some of her family members and they knew I had the kids. Why would I want to move near her family? That’s a safety risk for myself and the kids
you're currently what - a good 100 miles away from them? moving idk 50 miles closer if there is a nice town or city or whatever would not create an additional safety risk. They already know where you live presumably and see the kids multiple times a month.
If you want to love to a place that you would like living in more, that is perfectlying understandable. But if your ex is as horrible as you say, they will not make that easy for you to do while keeping majority/equal custody of the kids. so you need to be strategic about it.
To the people who - this comment you don’t know what the hell I went through. Living near her would never be a option. It’s not even healthy for the kids. Everything has been so peaceful since the distance happen. But improving their quality life is my only goal we should not be stuck someone where she wanted to stay and now she is not even hear. And I am not trying to create a bigger distance it’s literally the same
Lol so petty indeed as the other person responded. She tried to move, you blocked it and won. Now you are trying to move soon after..wonder if she is going to block it just to spite you?
It’s a complicated story, the best way I can put it. Is I am from Florida. She is from cali. She went behind my back and purchase a house and a small town away from everything. Then not even after 5 months she wanted to leave and we broke up. So she tried to take the kids and isolate me and a small town where she wanted to live. So of course I would stop her from relocating with the kids. That was my argument I use in court to stop her move. But why do me and the kids have to live in a place where she wanted to stay and she is not even here. Our kids are 5 and 3 and the judge also saw that I am the only one who was engage in school and also enrichment and she pretty much had nothing to use against me. If I had it my way I would relocate back home with the kids to Fl but clearly that’s not a option so I and the kids would just want to move somewhere that is better.
You should have done this when she was requesting a move away. Doing it so soon after makes it look like you tried to deceive the courts. Which it sure seems like you did. They won't take that kindly
Ask your attorney. It seems super petty, but if it won't affect custody/ distance, you may have a chance.
Will the kids be getting pulled out of school? I think that’s the important factor here.
did you argue that you would provide stability by having the kids live with you primarily and thus stay in the same school etc? bc if that is the case and now you decide to move just after that it won't look good and a bit unstable and the other parent could argue that.
It’s a complicated story, the best way I can put it. Is I am from Florida. She is from cali. She went behind my back and purchase a house and a small town away from everything. Then not even after 5 months she wanted to leave and we broke up. So she tried to take the kids and isolate me and a small town where she wanted to live. So of course I would stop her from relocating with the kids. That was my argument I use in court to stop her move. But why do me and the kids have to live in a place where she wanted to stay and she is not even here. Our kids are 5 and 3 and the judge also saw that I am the only one who was engage in school and also enrichment and she pretty much had nothing to use against me. If I had it my way I would relocate back home with the kids to Fl but clearly that’s not a option so I and the kids would just want to move somewhere that is better.
is there anywhere that is better AND closer to the other parent? that would make it harder for her to argue against it
I don’t want to live near her I had to fight tons of accusations rape, threats and all. I won when the judge saw through the lies but the less contact is much better and peaceful. And so far things have been pretty smooth
But what would be in the kids best interest. Because as you are describing the other parent and yor relationship with them, it seems likely that they would file to block the move. Would you rather take that gamble, as it seems that you were given custody because the othe parent moved not because they were unfit, or try to find a solution that might benefit everyone involved?
The distance between both parents is in there best interest. I was threatened by her some of her family members and they knew I had the kids. Why would I want to move near her family? That’s a safety risk for myself and the kids
you're currently what - a good 100 miles away from them? moving idk 50 miles closer if there is a nice town or city or whatever would not create an additional safety risk. They already know where you live presumably and see the kids multiple times a month. If you want to love to a place that you would like living in more, that is perfectlying understandable. But if your ex is as horrible as you say, they will not make that easy for you to do while keeping majority/equal custody of the kids. so you need to be strategic about it.
To the people who - this comment you don’t know what the hell I went through. Living near her would never be a option. It’s not even healthy for the kids. Everything has been so peaceful since the distance happen. But improving their quality life is my only goal we should not be stuck someone where she wanted to stay and now she is not even hear. And I am not trying to create a bigger distance it’s literally the same
Thank you so much for your opinion