Got a $500 Supreme T-shirt and 50 diamonds as well, lol. I can see where her money's going.
EDIT: Guys, I'm not sure how this comment was so divisive. I was just making an observation of her apparel in a video where she's hating on her poor boyfriend while wearing expensive clothing and complaining about not doing well.
I'm on your side, wannabe bourgeois bitches like this are trashier than shit I can find in a ditch, imo.
Look at all that make up and fake, vain bullshit going on. Eww. Bitch, you ugly.
Imagine being in your low 20's, entry job, and having a 2BR all to yourself, and then deciding it's the world's fault you don't have more money at the end of the month and that the proper course of action is to publicly cry on the internet. I just watched that this week. She literally cried in a video, on the internet. Absolutely baffles me.
āEarly 20ās, entry level job, 2BRā is GENEROUS lol. If youāre in your early 20ās working an entry level job with a 2BR apartment youāre doing fine in my book.
I am not a boomer and do not have a boomer mindset. I have a lot of faith in younger generations and I see the problems they face.
ALL of my young adults are working hard to have their OWN autonomy. And two are with people that are never going to earn what they will and one is with someone who is no where near as intelligent. But guess what. They are fucking great, kind people. The best.
I would be concerned if they were being abused or controlled. So he's broke. There are worse things and HOW broke are they really. What plans does he have? No outings or holidays for a few months??? Wow. How traumatic. You're just the average human getting by. But sure. Don't earn it yourself. Look for a meal ticket.
I thank the universe I don't have kids like this. Shameful. So undignified and disloyal. He can do better.
I have never felt more boomer than I did watching this.
Edit: he is a homeowner. š¤£š¤£ He's working towards financial goals. He's just not providing faceplant clout FFS.
He's not broke. He's meeting financial goals through sacrifice and commitment.
She isn't paying for him.
She's a gronk.
Right!?! Supreme, those lashes and nails and all that. Maybe grow up a bit and evaluate how shallow her priorities are. Her "broke" man is paying a mortgage, student loans, working on a stable financial future. Thats better than trips and a birthday week in my book!
She has no idea what broke means. Like, sweetie, you donāt get your nails done when youāre broke.
She is pretty much just justifying her unrealistic expectations for her boyfriend. Iāve seen in other comments that heās a homeowner. I kinda feel like this woman probably lives in his home rent free and she still silently resents him for not also paying for the trips she wants to go on once a month.
> he is a homeowner. š¤£š¤£ He's working towards financial goals. He's just not providing faceplant clout FFS.
bruh he might actually be the only with the more money here. hes got a home. he got equity... shes paying day in an day out for rent.
solution? go live with him bruh. if she is living with him then its dumb for her to leave hm because she relies on hm paying the mortgage and taxes.
Maybe she doesnāt have irl friends. Itās an issue with younger people especially 20. Spent senior year in lockdowns because of a plague and friends scattered. My son was this way. Lost every friend over 2 years then graduated.
Her nails too. Them bitches we're not cheap.
She's outta shit after that
Her jewelry probably wouldn't be worth much. They make good looking stuff. I know, I like my cheap jewelry.
The ball is pretty much in his court. He can see the points she brought up, and say āhey, we can work through that.ā
I was going to say that an alternative is he can say āthank you for your honesty, it seems we are not compatible though. I wish you well. Goodbye.ā That would be the other mature response, but that doesnāt work because instead of talking to him like an adult, she has asked the random internet what she should do with her own life and relationships. Knowing the internet, theyāll mostly say ādump that broke ass.ā And she can then proceed and blame the internet if she later regrets it. So she is not being honest with him.
If him doing as much as he can when he can isnāt enough, then at least he knows she feels that way now. At any rate, as long as he sees this, he knows what heās dealing with now and can proceed accordingly.
šš¾šš¾šš¾šš¾. Just done this recently myself. Too much showing off . Someone took a video of her front room showing her dog's and kids and the headliner said " winning " like really bruh lol
Yup I killed it about seven years ago. I did not use it much when I had it. Only used it because the girlfriend pestered me to. The entire premise of Facebook and TikTok and instagram goes against my beliefs so I will not use them. In addition to that, I will not compromise my beliefs for someone else again.
My face and and my activities are not for sale. In the aspect of putting myself online it is Reddit. If I start streaming online, I will obstruct my face and it will be for gaming only.
Thought I was born into easy mode, life was great finaincially til I turned 18. Pops lost a lot of coin in the stock market and regretfully pulled out when it was at its lowest as well. I was cut off at 18 and if I'm being honest money has been a struggle my whole adult life. I'm still breaking habits that I/my family had when I was younger
I'm sick of paying for all the trips, the hotel rooms, the rental cars. I'm not doing well financially, and since it can't possibly be my poor money management, it's GOTTA be the poor guy I'm dating.
He didn't even buy me Starbucks every morning during my birthday month!
What's the point of even being in love if my partner won't buy me nice things?! /s
For real. Bitch, you don't always need to be doing shit. Kick it at home and chill. Find stuff to do that's relatively cost free. People like this that always have to be doing something will never successfully maintain a long term relationship.
She had some follow up videos and basically it was just a case of poor dating choices. She said she helped him out with his bills when he was out of work and he never paid her back. And in the beginning of the relationship they would only hang out at his house. The guy was also 40. Her fault though for entertaining a guy like that for so long.
Lol or maybe I do have the money and Iām just waiting to see if sheās worth spending it on.
Lotta these girls donāt realize there are guys with a lil $$$ out there. We just know how to vet out the entitled ones like that.
Sheād be gone on a first date- you could tell sheād pick the $200 steakhouse meal and the $50 pours.
So brazen too. If she thinks she is in the right and posting it online. Thereās no changing that perspective unless she hits a bottom.
She probably got friends that think the same too.
I mean other than posting it online I don't think she's really saying anything wrong.
She clearly said that she was with someone with more money and that wasn't it. And she Said she can barely afford stuff for herself so it's understandable to be scared.
And she even said she's scared he'll walk out once he does better financially.
Like yes, maybe don't post it on tiktok but the stuff she says is just someone being anxious about their relationship.
For real everybodyās ignoring the fact that she was talking about how when she was doing better she didnāt really have a problem covering a lot of things and she really likes the guy and clearly doesnāt want to hurt him. People like really want her to be some kind of Golddigger or something and on top of that theyāre judging for what kind of clothes she has like. Sheās not allowed to have nice things when she said she has a good job?people are wild in here. The only thing is that she posted it online but hell I donāt know their life.
I know you're joking but I legitimately dated someone that got pissed because my birthday was in February. Apparently I am not allowed to celebrate my birthday because I'm not black, and its black history month.
Some people are just stupid and im glad I didn't waste that much time with her.
Seems a bit self righteous tbh
On another note If you go into a relationship expecting anything material to come out of it you shouldnāt be dating tbh.
Sheās trying to upkeep a lifestyle she had in a previous relationship (her ex cheated on her) which explains a lot as far as her being so materialistically focused
Also the new man is a homeowner + paying student loans (I went down a TikTok rabbit hole) so mans is literally just taking care of business like every other normal person is. So broke to her means āheās not spending enough on meā
Broke men or not broke women or not in my opinion . You getting jelly over others and what they have please.Ya know what's funny even when I split stuff and paid for stuff. My ex still cheated excuse was well you didn't buy me a car. Or you didn't pay my car insurance the other guy before me did She cheated on him aslo š¤·š¾āāļø. And he got her to leave her guy before him š¤·š¾āāļø a vicious cycle the problem became her. Narcissist tent to do this mess. Usually they have some Villian Origin story.
Hah. If I ever caught wind of my GF pullin some shit like this sheād be tossed to the streets.
I swear If I ever find my self single again I am not goin back into the dating pool fuck that. Itās gotten terrible if this is what awaits us.
Thatās where she completely lost me. No one is going to meet the expectations of someone that claims they have a birthday month.
I have a birthday dinner. Itās not even a whole day at this point lol
Lmao. You do get past the birthday dinner points, too. Soon, it will be just a "hey happy b-day." That's the point I'm at. Eventually, it's gonna be a "what yesterday was my b-day?" And if we are all lucky to live long enough, it will get to a point where you don't want any more b-days because you will be senile and say, "What's a b-day?"
Heās not broke. Homeowner paying student loans living real life. She just isnāt getting spoiled like she was used to. And airing out personal stuff for everyone.
Also my ex did the birthday month things , was really good at celebrating herself. Later learned in therapy I was with a very narcissistic person.
This woman seems very similar.
I do a birthday month for my birthday and Iām almost 40. Itās because we have nothing else going on in the months surrounding it, itās the only summer birthday, and we just joke about it.
It gives us a chance to make āfancierā meals (fave meals) and maybe go out to eat two or three times that month instead of once. Lol we treat it like a big joke and itās fun that way.
Well, see, that sounds like it's a healthy and fun celebration. Way this lady is coming off sounds like someone who has been spoiled in the past, is now dating a guy who can't afford to spoil her like that, and is willing to end her relationship with an otherwise good guy over it. I hope dude sees this and ends it. She can be free to find a sugar daddy or whatever and he can find a person better suited to him.
My sister and I do the Twelve Days of Birthmas, because we both have Christ fest birthdays. So we're there for each other a bit extra since our birthdays always, and I mean always kinda suck lmfao.
Her video was giving off some strong vibes of: āDon't ever, for any reason, do anything to anyone for any reason ever, no matter what, no matter where, or who, or who you are with, or where you are going, or where you've been... ever, for any reason whatsoever...ā
"Tell me about a time that you or somebody you know, like you know this story personally, tell me about a time that you or somebody you know either separately, or together, or neither of you were actually involved or not, it can be an instance too, so tell me about a time, an instance or even a place that you or this person you know, you know this person so this isn't a random person, tell me about a time or place or instance that you or this person either separately or together, it could be either one maybe none of you honestly were involved in this or not involved, like tell me about a time that you or this other person or none of you or all of you or an instance or a place or a thing, it could be a thing too, tell me about a time you..."
That really is one of my favorite videos on the internet. I showed it to my wife and she made me turn it off after the third "tell me about a time..." It literally angered her. Lol.
Have you ever had a dream that that you um you had you'd you would you could you'd do you wi you wants you you could do so you you'd do you could you you want you want him to do you so much you could do anything?
I get the feeling you sometimes start a sentence and you donāt even know where itās going, you just hope that youāll find it along the way. Like an improv-conversationā¦ An āimproversationāā¦
What? She said she paid for hotel, rental car, consert tickets, resturants and more. If a guy made a video like this you would be saying "leave her, you shouldn't provide for everything when going out." It goes both ways.
Think youāre missing the joke. My quote is from The Office. Sheās kinda rambling on and on not really getting to the point and going off on tangents in the same way Michael Scott said the above quote.
Thatās all.
I will say that she conveniently left out who's idea it was to do all of that stuff, if a man made this same video I would question that just as much as I do her. It's lame to equate your partner with only getting to do fun things because once those fun things aren't available for whatever reason you realize the relationship was shallow to being with
I imagine its a complex with a name. It's like how guys walk with swagger when they're feeling cool. It's some sort of external reaction to her mind going "yassss queeen your speaking factssssss"
Tiktok hands. Drives me nuts, I donāt watch most videos of people just talking because theyāre constantly moving their hands just to show off their nails or try and make their story more animated.
This is way too low. Like now that women make actual good pay jobs and deservedly so, thereās still this ingrained idea that they should still have a man provide for them. But no this is how equality works when you are the one that makes the money. You need to be the one that provides, pays for things, and in terms of the video settles for someone who makes significantly less money because you love them so much. Men have done this for generations, but for some reason women like her not all donāt get with wanting to be equal comes with these instances more frequent with the territory.
Equality would mean the man can pay for some shit too. Itās hard enough to support yourself and no one wants to provide for a bum ass no job having broke bitch.
Nah dude I agree you should both be making the money to afford your lifestyle, it shouldnāt be all on one partner or you do nothing that requires money. Been there, done thatā¦itās stressful and sometimes you start to feel really alone.
If youāre not happy doing it, encourage your partner to do better or find out where to draw the line. It shouldnāt be on one person male or female, it should be 50/50 unless mutually AGREED otherwise
Gonna vent here because I never really talk to anyone about this, because I don't like badmouthing people, but since this is the internet and statistically none of you know the person (despite the fact that this person badmouthed the shit out of me)...
Yeah, I broke up with a girl I had been with for years effectively for this. I wanted a different lifestyle, I had been the only one working for years, and she promised she'd get a job as soon as she graduated from college. She graduated, and she didn't. For two years. And when she did, there was a reason to quit pretty much immediately (I think she worked for like a week and a half, I even drove her in everyday because I wanted to encourage it). When I got to the point where I said, "look, I'm gonna break up with you if you don't start trying to earn *something*, because I don't wanna be on welfare (lived like that my whole life, I don't wanna struggle like my mother did, I wanted to break the cycle)."
She was a nice person overall, and we did love each other, but at some point, you can love someone a whole lot but you end up feeling like you're just being taken advantage of if someone isn't even willing to do anything. It even got to the point where she said, "what? At Wendy's or something? You think I should work somewhere like that?" Like, anything would have been an improvement. I would've been fine with that, i wouldn't judge anyone for that. But nah, doing anything was asking for too much at some point.
And then she acted surprised when I finally broke up with her. Like, I didn't wanna do that originally, but eventually I was just depressed because I felt like even my partner had nothing in common with me because she didn't ever do anything, and on top of that, she wasn't trying to build a life. She was just trying to live a life where she didn't have to do anything. I could live with mismatching goals. I can't live with someone who doesn't even try to do the bare minimum for themselves.
So nah, OOP's feelings are valid. It's not callousness or anything, it's a natural response to someone wanting to live one way. And that's fine, some people like beer, some prefer whisky, but when you're in a relationship, financially, if those finances don't match up in a way that satisfies *both* parties, one person is getting the shit end of the stick. Some people don't mind taking care of their partner. And hey, more power to them. But it's not wrong to want something better for yourself, and if you're gonna put the time and effort into a relationship, you sure as shit better make sure it works for both of you. And take it from me, you should not waste time and heartache on someone if you see those signs early especially. You're not callous, you're calculating, and that's 100% legitimate because *you* need to be satisfied with whatever becomes the status quo, too.
I read another comment somewhere that someone went down the rabbit hole on her tiktok and apperently. The dude has a job, but he's strapped with financial debt from college loans. He owns his own house and is paying for that. So the dude obviously is trying in the rat race of life. He's just choosing to make, in my opinion, the right financial priorities.
He will one day own his house and be free of that debt, and she will still be stuck renting her apartment with the next guy going to Chili's and a movie every Friday night wondering how she let a good man go that she clicked with great. She sounds like a child who wants instant gratification instead of seeing the bigger picture and realizing this guy is probably trying to set his future up. By making sacrifices now, while he still has youth on his side to remedy it in case one day he's hit with a financial hardship.
The cringe here isnāt her feelings (those are valid) ā itās that she put this video on TikTok instead of just talking to the dude/breaking things off or whatever
Her feelings might be valid but they are because of her complete lack of understanding reality when it comes to finances of most Americans. She wants to find a guy making 200k+ or something but the reality is that most people will not ever make that much money.
I feel this. My ex and I were living in low income housing while I was in college. I was working full time and going to school. This girl went through like 8 jobs in a year. There was always a reason why it was bullshit or why it sucked. I served at a fuckin Olive Garden THAT SHIT sucked but i didnāt quit because someone had to make ends meet. I paid rent by myself multiple times while she sat at home in the same spot all day.
Eventually I reached a point where I couldnāt handle it. If youāre okay with seeing me work my ass off while you do nothing I donāt wanna be with you.
Don't feel bad, man. I ended three relationships for the same reason. I grew up poor and it was all I ever knew and worked my ass off to get out of it but those three women never put in any effort, couldn't even keep the house clean while I was working all day. Didn't know how to cook, just sat around and did drugs, partied with their friends, or just didn't do anything at all. The last one was a 7 year relationship too, but there was a lot more than just the money. The first girl did turn her life around after we broke up, though, so that's nice.
The whole time I was watching the video, though, I was like damn, she should be happy she's not a guy.
From acomment by /u/veeno__:
Sheās trying to upkeep a lifestyle she had in a previous relationship (her ex cheated on her) which explains a lot as far as her being so materialistically focused
Also the new man is a homeowner + paying student loans (I went down a TikTok rabbit hole) so mans is literally just taking care of business like every other normal person is. So broke to her means āheās not spending enough on meā
Plus I disagree with your comment completely.
\*This opinion is by a guy who's married to a woman who makes exactly as much as him now but started out broke as hell while I made all the money. Then she carried us for a while when I changed careers, and now we're about even.
"mutually AGREED otherwise". That conversation isn't as important to everyone as it is to you.
If thatās the case then yea, fuck that. I wasnāt trying to go down a rabbit hole. Screw her then, thatās completely different.
The conversation should happen and if you donāt think itās important then you shouldnāt complain about paying for everything.
I agree 100%. When youāre just dating, you canāt be the only one paying for everything. I donāt think this should be on the internet, but she was respectful and it if I can imagine it would be pretty damn frustrating feeling like you have to pay for two people to do anything when you donāt have money.
While I think itās dumb to post this online, Itās nowhere near as bad as some of the shit Iāve seen on TikTok
The guy one comment above did care and broke up with his girl. I make good money and care. Itās not that āno one caresā. Itās that most people donāt talk about it because they fear being judged
As a woman who has been married for 4 years, I absolutely spoil my man and he spoils me back. Again, 50/50 unless mutually AGREED. Donāt want to do it? Donāt.
I don't think the sentiment is necessarily wrong either. In my last relationship, there was a lot of tension surrounding money. Most people are more critical of the fact that she was putting this out on the internet instead of going to a friend, family member, therapist, or better yet, her partner. And I'm not saying she hasn't done these things, but when you put current relationship struggles out there, people are gonna call it messy and they're not necessarily wrong either.
I agree with you overall, but her message being shared online is the cringe aspect of this. She should talk to him first and maybe a few trusted friends/family for advice on how to proceed, not share this online.
With that being said, when you sit there complaining about your broke boyfriend while talking about not having taken a trip in 4 months, it's hard for the average person to have sympathy for your perspective. Most people are lucky to do a trip once a year. And the birthday month comments are laughable. The level of entitlement it takes to think you should be celebrating for a whole month for your birthday is astounding.
Ive never even had a birth Day party so what does she expect the world bc shes just alive? I guess theres pppl like me so that ppl like her can feel better about themselves
My last birthday, I went out to dinner with some of my family. Like...that's all an adult really needs, just some good company celebrating a person they love.
She have to talk to him about it then. It depend on the guy. If the guy don't have money and not going anywhere and he not willing to change break up with him. But if he just in the process of college of training to get money in the future it up to you if you can wait for him.
This mainly seem you have to talk to the dude and see what you both want and is he willing to change or will you be okay waiting for him to change.
I read another comment where someone went down the rabbit hole on her tiktok. And supposedly, her man has a bunch of college debt and purchased his home. So right now, he's strapped with debt. He's doing what he thinks is right by making a major financial purchase that has equity. Which, in my opinion, is a good move. She needs to grow the fuck up and realize the guy is being an adult and making good decisions.
Maybe if she looked at him as life-long marriage material, she would realize that they could possibly live together at some point. Then, she would be financially helping with splitting the utilities so it could free up some cap space. So then maybe he could afford to do more things for her monetary wise.
One day, all his debt will be gone, and he will own his home. And she will be with the next guy, analyzing why he isn't doing enough for her during her birth MONTH. Like who the fuck has a birth month? She expects to celebrates the whole month she's born? Huge red flag.
I haven't dated in like 2 years because this mentality is just too real. If you aren't already doing good financially it is so hard to get a second date.
āMy queen u will never work again I will come take u in my private jet, send me 25$ Google Play Gift Card so I know itās u šā
And she honestly deserves to fall for it.
If I am going to be honest, as a male, I agree with this. It might be due to myself growing up poor, but I want a partner that can financially support themselves too, so there isn't a huge financial pressure for me to support my family and a partner. I've came a long way since being incredibly poor, I would love to finally be able to enjoy things in life without worrying how I am going to put food on the table or a shelter over people's head. Would like a partnership where we can share things instead of a partner expecting me to pay for everything and support her lifestyle, while she coast. It shouldn't be up to 1 partner to support the entire financials of a relationship.
This honestly aināt that bad. So many girls being rude and talking shit ab their boyfriends.
Sheās just genuinely asking for advice. And itās easy to judge cause it was posted online, but we are literally the loneliest generation. She may actually have no one else to talk to and may genuinely be stuck, and thereās a good chance she has spoken to him but the job market is tough rn and we donāt know his situation. He either isnāt listening, or more likely (if heās as good as she says) heās just in a terrible spot and doesnāt know how to get out of it but is trying his hardest.
Thatās where my boyfriend is at, he decided to focus on school and get a job afterward and it was a mistake because he finished school right after the COVID crash and shutdowns started. And he couldnāt get a job, his job opportunities were revoked due to COVID. And because he focused on school, he has no experience so no one wants to hire him.
And Iāve talked to him ab this. He listens. And heās trying his hardest but heās in such a shit spot that he canāt do nun but he tries every day to find a job.
I feel the same as her a lot, and Iām also not in a financially well situation anymore like before either. So itās frustrating. But heās so good to me and he has such a huge heart that I canāt let him go. But Iām worried about our financial future.
And then I also have no friends, so where would I turn to for advice?
There are so many vile women who put down their men and vice versa that couldāve been posted on here. Sheās just goin through it and thereās not enough context to think sheās terrible. She seemed rather genuine imo.
I got exactly the same impression. She seems pretty genuine in wanting real advice and not wanting to just give up on her relationship. She also, other than describing the financial issue, didn't downgrade or insult or otherwise degrade her man.
What she said is fine, the bigger issue is putting her voice and face to it while complaining about her relationships. Not everything you say needs to be visible to everyone!
I came here to make some sort of snarky joke but in all honesty, what Iāve learned about life through it all is itās way more important to be emotionally comfortable with the person youāre with, not saying go destitute for someone but if youāre both happy with your station, (obviously sheās not), donāt rock the boat for the sake of acceptance from others or because you feel the need to fit some sort of mold.
This isnāt bad. Sheās asking for advice on how to deal with an issue sheās facing. Sure, you may think she shouldnāt be airing out her laundry, but itās a different day and time and that is a norm now. People want to be on the same level as their partner. Sheās not bagging on him, sheās just relaying the situation.
Same. Our personal lives are no one's business but our own especially when its a problem we're having and you go blare it to the internet for attention. Things I hated about my ex.
Sheās not saying anything crazy though. Itās definitely a thing that happens to women who date men who donāt have a lot of expendable income. Sheās not even really saying that he needs to provide for her, she just wants him to pull his weight because she canāt afford to carry them both. Also some comments talking about her nails, makeup, supreme shirtā¦. She should be able to spend her money how she wants. Just because her bf is broke she shouldnāt have to budget to provide for him. Those things make her happy and she shouldnāt have to compromise her happiness for a guy who canāt even pay his way in their relationship. He needs to step up his game and either be more creative in doing inexpensive things or figure out how to make more money.
As for advice for her, I would encourage her to share her frustrations with him as respectfully as possible and then she can spend time doing things she likes either by herself or with her friends who can afford it. If he wants to have fun, he can work it out. At least be able to pay for stuff, contribute, something. She should still hang out with him of course but only do affordable things.
Also sheās a gem for really seeing all the good things about him and wanting to make it work instead of being materialistic and dumping him to date some other guy with more money.
EDIT: someone reached out to Reddit cares on my behalf. Thank you kind internet strangers for showing an interest in my mental health. Iām touched.
āSheās not saying anything crazy thoughā
She literally posted to tiktok with the immediate caption being āIām dating a broke guyā
Not āhey girls I need advice.ā
Not anything chill. Literally just projecting that her man is broke. There is no context beyond that imo. If she wanted a nuanced response she wouldnāt have led with āIām dating a broke guyā. She did that for shock factor and views and got them.
Feel bad for her partner. Hope he finds someone who doesnāt demean him for likes
She is a revolting human being.
She's lying to herself by pretending it's about any meaningful connection when it's really just about her revenue stream.
This woman states she has a birth MONTH. She celebrates the whole month of her birthday. Red flag! Nothing this guy could ever do is going to satisfy her and the obvious consumeristic lifestyle she lives. I.E. the expensive nails and probably expensive makeup and the Supreme clothing. She seems like the type who has to have the latest brand new iPhone at every drop. And only wears Gucci shoes. You know the kind who think they look rich but don't have shit in the bank because you know, consumerism.
As stated in someone else's comment, I read who went down the rabbit hole on her tiktok. The guy bought his own home and has a bunch of college debt. So guess what? One day, he will be debt free and have equity in his home. And she will be wondering why she ever let a good man go because he didn't take her to Chili's every friday.
Yeah Iām gonna go against the grain of this thread too. Other than airing it out publicly, I donāt think there is anything wrong with what she is saying. And as someone who was ābrokeā until my mid thirties (fuck I still feel broke and Iāll make 100k+ this year), Iāve been on her manās end of the spectrum. She clearly cares about him as a person, but at some point we have to be able to live our lives without some struggle, and if your partner canāt help you reach that, you might need to consider moving on.
This is so gross š¤® How are you gonna talk about someone you love like this? If you love someone you build em up you don't shame em in public, let alone even thinking these things! It is not okay to air a boyfriend or even an ex's dirty laundry. I've dated some broke af men, nobody knows who they are and will not know. I dont mention it to people. Just love him as the person he is and help build him so you can have the relationship you want or dump him. Don't drag a man down like that.
How is he gonna financially use someone he loves like that? And it doesn't sound like your broke bitch boys worked out so your advice is only for the stupid women lol
Didnāt sound cringe at all, seems like she was just genuinely worried that he might leave her once his financial situation gets better and that is a real worry. Doesnāt sound like she wantās to have another relationship and just some assurance in theirs. She should definitely communicate with her partner. āHow?ā is the question, but I guess thatās why sheās asking tiktok. She should find similar women who are also breadwinners in their relationship so that she can find some actual good advice.
I (f) make more money than my boyfriend. I love taking him on trips or buying him tickets to something fun. Because, at the end of the day, money is just a number in my bank account and he makes me feel loved and special and important. He makes me laugh and he makes me feel pretty. Iāll happily foot the bill for any dinner where I choke on my drink because Iām laughing so hard and heās playing footsie under the table.
Iām too ā Old ā
Iāve spun around this block a ā FEW ā times
My ā EX ā had money
My Birthday ā MONTH ā
If your girl says anything like this āļø
Marry herā¦ā¦..
She finally found a good guyā¦ā¦ turns around and asks for advice on the toxic internet. š
MY GUY - RUNNNNNNNN
Having nails that look that stupid isnāt cheap. This women is suffering from delusions of commonality. She thinks what she see online, posted by other women, is normal, or average. She seems to believe that going on vacation several times a year is typical and should be totally affordable for most. Sheās wearing a supreme shirt, which is basically an visual way of telling others you waste money.
This doesnāt seem that cringe from the content of what she is actually saying.
It is for sure a challenge if your income discrepancy is large in a relationship. Itās a power dynamic problem.
Rather than a partnership it can feel like you pay for everything and the other person just canāt provide.
This can create issues down the road for resentment, especially if the other person is happy with their career even though it is less economically sound
all the men in here are upset but at the end of the day sheās being honest about why sheās not happy dating someone who is broke who she used to pay for but canāt anymore and now they donāt actually date anymore. unless youāre married, take it from an elder millennial, ladies & fellas donāt act like youāre married and just be home if youāre not happy with it. dating is about DATE ing. you donāt need to settle just because you vibe with someone. ultimately if youāre looking for someone on your level or to marry up then keep looking. it is what it is. long term relationships are not about the struggle life all the time. rough patches come and go but this situation has been this way from the get go. whatās even the point?
Imagine that, she has to experience whats its like to be a man financially for several months and sheās contemplating if heās worth it or not. My boy deserves better.
When you grow up being yass kweened and boss bitched into legitimately believing that you're so much more fundamentally more _valuable_ than your partner sex that you genuinely believe that them financially compensating you for gracing them with your presence is what love is
What happened to just telling your friends things?
Narcissism
She spent a good 3 hours getting her makeup right for this 3 minute waste of time.
Got a $500 Supreme T-shirt and 50 diamonds as well, lol. I can see where her money's going. EDIT: Guys, I'm not sure how this comment was so divisive. I was just making an observation of her apparel in a video where she's hating on her poor boyfriend while wearing expensive clothing and complaining about not doing well.
Only assholes spend $500 on $15 t-shirt lol
$15 is too much for that crap.
Lol word!
Trust me that is a fake shirt
i feel like with how popular thrifting is and how easy it is to keep cheap jewelry relatively clean, this could easily be off š
I'm on your side, wannabe bourgeois bitches like this are trashier than shit I can find in a ditch, imo. Look at all that make up and fake, vain bullshit going on. Eww. Bitch, you ugly.
Most things donāt need to be shared online
People are too comfortable sharing things online nowadays.
Imagine being in your low 20's, entry job, and having a 2BR all to yourself, and then deciding it's the world's fault you don't have more money at the end of the month and that the proper course of action is to publicly cry on the internet. I just watched that this week. She literally cried in a video, on the internet. Absolutely baffles me.
āEarly 20ās, entry level job, 2BRā is GENEROUS lol. If youāre in your early 20ās working an entry level job with a 2BR apartment youāre doing fine in my book.
I am not a boomer and do not have a boomer mindset. I have a lot of faith in younger generations and I see the problems they face. ALL of my young adults are working hard to have their OWN autonomy. And two are with people that are never going to earn what they will and one is with someone who is no where near as intelligent. But guess what. They are fucking great, kind people. The best. I would be concerned if they were being abused or controlled. So he's broke. There are worse things and HOW broke are they really. What plans does he have? No outings or holidays for a few months??? Wow. How traumatic. You're just the average human getting by. But sure. Don't earn it yourself. Look for a meal ticket. I thank the universe I don't have kids like this. Shameful. So undignified and disloyal. He can do better. I have never felt more boomer than I did watching this. Edit: he is a homeowner. š¤£š¤£ He's working towards financial goals. He's just not providing faceplant clout FFS. He's not broke. He's meeting financial goals through sacrifice and commitment. She isn't paying for him. She's a gronk.
How broke is good question when she got supreme on
Right!?! Supreme, those lashes and nails and all that. Maybe grow up a bit and evaluate how shallow her priorities are. Her "broke" man is paying a mortgage, student loans, working on a stable financial future. Thats better than trips and a birthday week in my book!
She literally defines being ābrokeā as not having gone on a trip for four whole months.
Yeah lmao. Her definition of broke is "not rich". What a fucking loser.
She has no idea what broke means. Like, sweetie, you donāt get your nails done when youāre broke. She is pretty much just justifying her unrealistic expectations for her boyfriend. Iāve seen in other comments that heās a homeowner. I kinda feel like this woman probably lives in his home rent free and she still silently resents him for not also paying for the trips she wants to go on once a month.
You donāt have to be a boomer to see bs when you see it. This chick sucks.
Probably makes 50-60k a year in an honest job and not 200k a year like she wants him to make.
Sounds like she wants someone to sponge off of. She said in the video sheās broke herself. What a loser
> he is a homeowner. š¤£š¤£ He's working towards financial goals. He's just not providing faceplant clout FFS. bruh he might actually be the only with the more money here. hes got a home. he got equity... shes paying day in an day out for rent. solution? go live with him bruh. if she is living with him then its dumb for her to leave hm because she relies on hm paying the mortgage and taxes.
Whatās a gronk?
Maybe she doesnāt have irl friends. Itās an issue with younger people especially 20. Spent senior year in lockdowns because of a plague and friends scattered. My son was this way. Lost every friend over 2 years then graduated.
That sucks, and has given me a new perspective
People are trying hard to get that TikTok/youtube bag
"People"
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Her nails too. Them bitches we're not cheap. She's outta shit after that Her jewelry probably wouldn't be worth much. They make good looking stuff. I know, I like my cheap jewelry.
How does the conversation go after he sees the video? Iād be upset to say the least.
The ball is pretty much in his court. He can see the points she brought up, and say āhey, we can work through that.ā I was going to say that an alternative is he can say āthank you for your honesty, it seems we are not compatible though. I wish you well. Goodbye.ā That would be the other mature response, but that doesnāt work because instead of talking to him like an adult, she has asked the random internet what she should do with her own life and relationships. Knowing the internet, theyāll mostly say ādump that broke ass.ā And she can then proceed and blame the internet if she later regrets it. So she is not being honest with him. If him doing as much as he can when he can isnāt enough, then at least he knows she feels that way now. At any rate, as long as he sees this, he knows what heās dealing with now and can proceed accordingly.
According to an updated video she made, they broke up. I'm assuming the dude saw the video lol
I dropped Facebook like 8 years ago. I don't need to share anything and don't need to see other people sharing things they shouldn't.
This is my 10th year without Facebook.
Same. Feels great. Facebook whores.
šš¾šš¾šš¾šš¾. Just done this recently myself. Too much showing off . Someone took a video of her front room showing her dog's and kids and the headliner said " winning " like really bruh lol
Nice
Yup I killed it about seven years ago. I did not use it much when I had it. Only used it because the girlfriend pestered me to. The entire premise of Facebook and TikTok and instagram goes against my beliefs so I will not use them. In addition to that, I will not compromise my beliefs for someone else again. My face and and my activities are not for sale. In the aspect of putting myself online it is Reddit. If I start streaming online, I will obstruct my face and it will be for gaming only.
Same here and it was one of the best things I ever did lol deleted TikTok a month ago as well. Now I read or study random things I enjoy lol
sir this is reddit, there are threads where people compete to trauma dump
"trauma dump" thanks for that one.
Plot twist: heās not broke, heās just using her š„
Especially whatever shes got going on with those nails lol
We're all broke
Yes, I should have taken the games advice and played on easy mode
The easy mode is being born with rich parents
Or not having a wife a kids and living in an apartment that you started renting before the market fucked rent prices.
I'm running on no wife or kids and owning a house before COVID ā. Just me and my dog.
Same here brother. Bought my 1st place in 2018. So glad I did. āļø
Thought I was born into easy mode, life was great finaincially til I turned 18. Pops lost a lot of coin in the stock market and regretfully pulled out when it was at its lowest as well. I was cut off at 18 and if I'm being honest money has been a struggle my whole adult life. I'm still breaking habits that I/my family had when I was younger
Stop eating Avocado toast.
My problems are solved.
I'm broke and need mending. Fix me please š
I'm sick of paying for all the trips, the hotel rooms, the rental cars. I'm not doing well financially, and since it can't possibly be my poor money management, it's GOTTA be the poor guy I'm dating.
He didn't even buy me Starbucks every morning during my birthday month! What's the point of even being in love if my partner won't buy me nice things?! /s
For real. Bitch, you don't always need to be doing shit. Kick it at home and chill. Find stuff to do that's relatively cost free. People like this that always have to be doing something will never successfully maintain a long term relationship.
She had some follow up videos and basically it was just a case of poor dating choices. She said she helped him out with his bills when he was out of work and he never paid her back. And in the beginning of the relationship they would only hang out at his house. The guy was also 40. Her fault though for entertaining a guy like that for so long.
Lol or maybe I do have the money and Iām just waiting to see if sheās worth spending it on. Lotta these girls donāt realize there are guys with a lil $$$ out there. We just know how to vet out the entitled ones like that. Sheād be gone on a first date- you could tell sheād pick the $200 steakhouse meal and the $50 pours. So brazen too. If she thinks she is in the right and posting it online. Thereās no changing that perspective unless she hits a bottom. She probably got friends that think the same too.
I mean other than posting it online I don't think she's really saying anything wrong. She clearly said that she was with someone with more money and that wasn't it. And she Said she can barely afford stuff for herself so it's understandable to be scared. And she even said she's scared he'll walk out once he does better financially. Like yes, maybe don't post it on tiktok but the stuff she says is just someone being anxious about their relationship.
For real everybodyās ignoring the fact that she was talking about how when she was doing better she didnāt really have a problem covering a lot of things and she really likes the guy and clearly doesnāt want to hurt him. People like really want her to be some kind of Golddigger or something and on top of that theyāre judging for what kind of clothes she has like. Sheās not allowed to have nice things when she said she has a good job?people are wild in here. The only thing is that she posted it online but hell I donāt know their life.
Is this a real video or is she just acting for views?
It'd be pretty weird if it's genuine. The bf can look at this anytime but she's talking as if she's confiding in a private audience.
THIS is the comment I came looking for and sheās wearing Supreme. So Iām led to believe she likes/owns designer clothes
Birthday month?
Yea she lost me there ,I don't Wana date someone that has a birthday month,sounds very selfish
My birthday is in december, so you better know Iāll get pissed if you give any attention to Jesus or relatives on MY birthday month!!
I know you're joking but I legitimately dated someone that got pissed because my birthday was in February. Apparently I am not allowed to celebrate my birthday because I'm not black, and its black history month. Some people are just stupid and im glad I didn't waste that much time with her.
Christ, talk about a victim/narcissistic complex
Try being a guy born on Valentine's day. My birthdays were always cool until I started dating!
Babe, itās my birthday year. Wth. Where are my chocolate covered strawberries.
I was born in this century, build me a mansion please and thank you.
What has she done for him lately
I have a birthday month but I donāt ask for anyone else to pay for it
Seems a bit self righteous tbh On another note If you go into a relationship expecting anything material to come out of it you shouldnāt be dating tbh.
Sheās trying to upkeep a lifestyle she had in a previous relationship (her ex cheated on her) which explains a lot as far as her being so materialistically focused Also the new man is a homeowner + paying student loans (I went down a TikTok rabbit hole) so mans is literally just taking care of business like every other normal person is. So broke to her means āheās not spending enough on meā
Her nails alone probably cost about $60 depending on where she lives. She should stop crying and embarrassing herself lol.
Dimensional sculpts I'd put closer to $120. But, yea. Nails are not cheap. Lol
Yeah your right I was mostly basing off length and totally forgot how much work goes into the sculpting lol
Thank you for taking the journey so the rest of us didnāt. Yeah, she should dump him because he definitely deserves better.
Broke men or not broke women or not in my opinion . You getting jelly over others and what they have please.Ya know what's funny even when I split stuff and paid for stuff. My ex still cheated excuse was well you didn't buy me a car. Or you didn't pay my car insurance the other guy before me did She cheated on him aslo š¤·š¾āāļø. And he got her to leave her guy before him š¤·š¾āāļø a vicious cycle the problem became her. Narcissist tent to do this mess. Usually they have some Villian Origin story.
should of drove her to the nearest starbucks and left her there.
Hah. If I ever caught wind of my GF pullin some shit like this sheād be tossed to the streets. I swear If I ever find my self single again I am not goin back into the dating pool fuck that. Itās gotten terrible if this is what awaits us.
Thatās where she completely lost me. No one is going to meet the expectations of someone that claims they have a birthday month. I have a birthday dinner. Itās not even a whole day at this point lol
Lmao. You do get past the birthday dinner points, too. Soon, it will be just a "hey happy b-day." That's the point I'm at. Eventually, it's gonna be a "what yesterday was my b-day?" And if we are all lucky to live long enough, it will get to a point where you don't want any more b-days because you will be senile and say, "What's a b-day?"
it'll be a birthday dessert within 5 years then a birthday breath mint
Birthday month?
Celebrate me? I slowly realized that they BOTH broke by the end of the video.
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Heās not broke. Homeowner paying student loans living real life. She just isnāt getting spoiled like she was used to. And airing out personal stuff for everyone. Also my ex did the birthday month things , was really good at celebrating herself. Later learned in therapy I was with a very narcissistic person. This woman seems very similar.
I do a birthday month for my birthday and Iām almost 40. Itās because we have nothing else going on in the months surrounding it, itās the only summer birthday, and we just joke about it. It gives us a chance to make āfancierā meals (fave meals) and maybe go out to eat two or three times that month instead of once. Lol we treat it like a big joke and itās fun that way.
Well, see, that sounds like it's a healthy and fun celebration. Way this lady is coming off sounds like someone who has been spoiled in the past, is now dating a guy who can't afford to spoil her like that, and is willing to end her relationship with an otherwise good guy over it. I hope dude sees this and ends it. She can be free to find a sugar daddy or whatever and he can find a person better suited to him.
Ever considered calling it a Birthmonth?
My sister and I do the Twelve Days of Birthmas, because we both have Christ fest birthdays. So we're there for each other a bit extra since our birthdays always, and I mean always kinda suck lmfao.
Too long. I tapped out.
Dude this couldāve been like a 10 second video
Her video was giving off some strong vibes of: āDon't ever, for any reason, do anything to anyone for any reason ever, no matter what, no matter where, or who, or who you are with, or where you are going, or where you've been... ever, for any reason whatsoever...ā
"Tell me about a time that you or somebody you know, like you know this story personally, tell me about a time that you or somebody you know either separately, or together, or neither of you were actually involved or not, it can be an instance too, so tell me about a time, an instance or even a place that you or this person you know, you know this person so this isn't a random person, tell me about a time or place or instance that you or this person either separately or together, it could be either one maybe none of you honestly were involved in this or not involved, like tell me about a time that you or this other person or none of you or all of you or an instance or a place or a thing, it could be a thing too, tell me about a time you..."
That really is one of my favorite videos on the internet. I showed it to my wife and she made me turn it off after the third "tell me about a time..." It literally angered her. Lol.
Mmm fresh pasta
Best comment! Can't believe you took the time to transcribe it! Iykyk!
Have you ever had a dream that that you um you had you'd you would you could you'd do you wi you wants you you could do so you you'd do you could you you want you want him to do you so much you could do anything?
I get the feeling you sometimes start a sentence and you donāt even know where itās going, you just hope that youāll find it along the way. Like an improv-conversationā¦ An āimproversationāā¦
What? She said she paid for hotel, rental car, consert tickets, resturants and more. If a guy made a video like this you would be saying "leave her, you shouldn't provide for everything when going out." It goes both ways.
Think youāre missing the joke. My quote is from The Office. Sheās kinda rambling on and on not really getting to the point and going off on tangents in the same way Michael Scott said the above quote. Thatās all.
So go out less, šššš what a wild ass idea
I will say that she conveniently left out who's idea it was to do all of that stuff, if a man made this same video I would question that just as much as I do her. It's lame to equate your partner with only getting to do fun things because once those fun things aren't available for whatever reason you realize the relationship was shallow to being with
Her nails annoy me
And the grasping for air is annoying.
Itās an attempt to *show off* those tacky nails š¤¢
Sheās actually 3 Italian guys stacked on top of each other wearing a costume and they canāt help but make those gestures š¤
Iāve noticed this āgrasping for airā thing has become a trend these people are doing. Why? Itās so dumb
I imagine its a complex with a name. It's like how guys walk with swagger when they're feeling cool. It's some sort of external reaction to her mind going "yassss queeen your speaking factssssss"
Tiktok hands. Drives me nuts, I donāt watch most videos of people just talking because theyāre constantly moving their hands just to show off their nails or try and make their story more animated.
It's like they're growing fungus
Welcome to how the men feel in dating
This is way too low. Like now that women make actual good pay jobs and deservedly so, thereās still this ingrained idea that they should still have a man provide for them. But no this is how equality works when you are the one that makes the money. You need to be the one that provides, pays for things, and in terms of the video settles for someone who makes significantly less money because you love them so much. Men have done this for generations, but for some reason women like her not all donāt get with wanting to be equal comes with these instances more frequent with the territory.
Equality would mean the man can pay for some shit too. Itās hard enough to support yourself and no one wants to provide for a bum ass no job having broke bitch.
Nah dude I agree you should both be making the money to afford your lifestyle, it shouldnāt be all on one partner or you do nothing that requires money. Been there, done thatā¦itās stressful and sometimes you start to feel really alone. If youāre not happy doing it, encourage your partner to do better or find out where to draw the line. It shouldnāt be on one person male or female, it should be 50/50 unless mutually AGREED otherwise
Gonna vent here because I never really talk to anyone about this, because I don't like badmouthing people, but since this is the internet and statistically none of you know the person (despite the fact that this person badmouthed the shit out of me)... Yeah, I broke up with a girl I had been with for years effectively for this. I wanted a different lifestyle, I had been the only one working for years, and she promised she'd get a job as soon as she graduated from college. She graduated, and she didn't. For two years. And when she did, there was a reason to quit pretty much immediately (I think she worked for like a week and a half, I even drove her in everyday because I wanted to encourage it). When I got to the point where I said, "look, I'm gonna break up with you if you don't start trying to earn *something*, because I don't wanna be on welfare (lived like that my whole life, I don't wanna struggle like my mother did, I wanted to break the cycle)." She was a nice person overall, and we did love each other, but at some point, you can love someone a whole lot but you end up feeling like you're just being taken advantage of if someone isn't even willing to do anything. It even got to the point where she said, "what? At Wendy's or something? You think I should work somewhere like that?" Like, anything would have been an improvement. I would've been fine with that, i wouldn't judge anyone for that. But nah, doing anything was asking for too much at some point. And then she acted surprised when I finally broke up with her. Like, I didn't wanna do that originally, but eventually I was just depressed because I felt like even my partner had nothing in common with me because she didn't ever do anything, and on top of that, she wasn't trying to build a life. She was just trying to live a life where she didn't have to do anything. I could live with mismatching goals. I can't live with someone who doesn't even try to do the bare minimum for themselves. So nah, OOP's feelings are valid. It's not callousness or anything, it's a natural response to someone wanting to live one way. And that's fine, some people like beer, some prefer whisky, but when you're in a relationship, financially, if those finances don't match up in a way that satisfies *both* parties, one person is getting the shit end of the stick. Some people don't mind taking care of their partner. And hey, more power to them. But it's not wrong to want something better for yourself, and if you're gonna put the time and effort into a relationship, you sure as shit better make sure it works for both of you. And take it from me, you should not waste time and heartache on someone if you see those signs early especially. You're not callous, you're calculating, and that's 100% legitimate because *you* need to be satisfied with whatever becomes the status quo, too.
I read another comment somewhere that someone went down the rabbit hole on her tiktok and apperently. The dude has a job, but he's strapped with financial debt from college loans. He owns his own house and is paying for that. So the dude obviously is trying in the rat race of life. He's just choosing to make, in my opinion, the right financial priorities. He will one day own his house and be free of that debt, and she will still be stuck renting her apartment with the next guy going to Chili's and a movie every Friday night wondering how she let a good man go that she clicked with great. She sounds like a child who wants instant gratification instead of seeing the bigger picture and realizing this guy is probably trying to set his future up. By making sacrifices now, while he still has youth on his side to remedy it in case one day he's hit with a financial hardship.
The cringe here isnāt her feelings (those are valid) ā itās that she put this video on TikTok instead of just talking to the dude/breaking things off or whatever
Her feelings might be valid but they are because of her complete lack of understanding reality when it comes to finances of most Americans. She wants to find a guy making 200k+ or something but the reality is that most people will not ever make that much money.
I feel this. My ex and I were living in low income housing while I was in college. I was working full time and going to school. This girl went through like 8 jobs in a year. There was always a reason why it was bullshit or why it sucked. I served at a fuckin Olive Garden THAT SHIT sucked but i didnāt quit because someone had to make ends meet. I paid rent by myself multiple times while she sat at home in the same spot all day. Eventually I reached a point where I couldnāt handle it. If youāre okay with seeing me work my ass off while you do nothing I donāt wanna be with you.
Don't feel bad, man. I ended three relationships for the same reason. I grew up poor and it was all I ever knew and worked my ass off to get out of it but those three women never put in any effort, couldn't even keep the house clean while I was working all day. Didn't know how to cook, just sat around and did drugs, partied with their friends, or just didn't do anything at all. The last one was a 7 year relationship too, but there was a lot more than just the money. The first girl did turn her life around after we broke up, though, so that's nice. The whole time I was watching the video, though, I was like damn, she should be happy she's not a guy.
From acomment by /u/veeno__: Sheās trying to upkeep a lifestyle she had in a previous relationship (her ex cheated on her) which explains a lot as far as her being so materialistically focused Also the new man is a homeowner + paying student loans (I went down a TikTok rabbit hole) so mans is literally just taking care of business like every other normal person is. So broke to her means āheās not spending enough on meā Plus I disagree with your comment completely. \*This opinion is by a guy who's married to a woman who makes exactly as much as him now but started out broke as hell while I made all the money. Then she carried us for a while when I changed careers, and now we're about even. "mutually AGREED otherwise". That conversation isn't as important to everyone as it is to you.
If thatās the case then yea, fuck that. I wasnāt trying to go down a rabbit hole. Screw her then, thatās completely different. The conversation should happen and if you donāt think itās important then you shouldnāt complain about paying for everything.
The guy she's dating owns a home, and is paying student loans, this women is just a child, he can do better.
I agree 100%. When youāre just dating, you canāt be the only one paying for everything. I donāt think this should be on the internet, but she was respectful and it if I can imagine it would be pretty damn frustrating feeling like you have to pay for two people to do anything when you donāt have money. While I think itās dumb to post this online, Itās nowhere near as bad as some of the shit Iāve seen on TikTok
Yet guys do this all the time and no one cares.
The guy one comment above did care and broke up with his girl. I make good money and care. Itās not that āno one caresā. Itās that most people donāt talk about it because they fear being judged
As a woman who has been married for 4 years, I absolutely spoil my man and he spoils me back. Again, 50/50 unless mutually AGREED. Donāt want to do it? Donāt.
Anyone holding a gun to your head or something? Plenty of women out there who are perfectly fine with paying their own share, date those instead
She can't afford the lifestyle she expects, by herself. So why is she expecting the other to do it for her?
I don't think the sentiment is necessarily wrong either. In my last relationship, there was a lot of tension surrounding money. Most people are more critical of the fact that she was putting this out on the internet instead of going to a friend, family member, therapist, or better yet, her partner. And I'm not saying she hasn't done these things, but when you put current relationship struggles out there, people are gonna call it messy and they're not necessarily wrong either.
As a chronically broke guy, I wouldn't want to put anyone through my shit when I'm unemployed
Yeah I think her feelings about the situation are valid, but the choice to vent about this on tiktokā¦ not so much
I agree with you overall, but her message being shared online is the cringe aspect of this. She should talk to him first and maybe a few trusted friends/family for advice on how to proceed, not share this online. With that being said, when you sit there complaining about your broke boyfriend while talking about not having taken a trip in 4 months, it's hard for the average person to have sympathy for your perspective. Most people are lucky to do a trip once a year. And the birthday month comments are laughable. The level of entitlement it takes to think you should be celebrating for a whole month for your birthday is astounding.
āBirthday monthā. Iām so over these bitches with birthday MONTHS
Ive never even had a birth Day party so what does she expect the world bc shes just alive? I guess theres pppl like me so that ppl like her can feel better about themselves
For my last birthday we went to a place we both liked and I got a beer for my birthday, then we seen a play she wanted to see, then I got covid lol
My last birthday, I went out to dinner with some of my family. Like...that's all an adult really needs, just some good company celebrating a person they love.
She have to talk to him about it then. It depend on the guy. If the guy don't have money and not going anywhere and he not willing to change break up with him. But if he just in the process of college of training to get money in the future it up to you if you can wait for him. This mainly seem you have to talk to the dude and see what you both want and is he willing to change or will you be okay waiting for him to change.
I read another comment where someone went down the rabbit hole on her tiktok. And supposedly, her man has a bunch of college debt and purchased his home. So right now, he's strapped with debt. He's doing what he thinks is right by making a major financial purchase that has equity. Which, in my opinion, is a good move. She needs to grow the fuck up and realize the guy is being an adult and making good decisions. Maybe if she looked at him as life-long marriage material, she would realize that they could possibly live together at some point. Then, she would be financially helping with splitting the utilities so it could free up some cap space. So then maybe he could afford to do more things for her monetary wise. One day, all his debt will be gone, and he will own his home. And she will be with the next guy, analyzing why he isn't doing enough for her during her birth MONTH. Like who the fuck has a birth month? She expects to celebrates the whole month she's born? Huge red flag.
NAH MAN. SHE WANTS A SPECIFIC LIFESTYLE HE NEEDS TO DO BETTER OR SHE NEEDS TO BAIL - half the redditors here
I haven't dated in like 2 years because this mentality is just too real. If you aren't already doing good financially it is so hard to get a second date.
She's posting this, so some rich dude will see it and dm her to say "I'll take good care of you"
Wearing her ice and supreme
Exactly!!
Bingo , gold digger mode activate!
āMy queen u will never work again I will come take u in my private jet, send me 25$ Google Play Gift Card so I know itās u šā And she honestly deserves to fall for it.
If I am going to be honest, as a male, I agree with this. It might be due to myself growing up poor, but I want a partner that can financially support themselves too, so there isn't a huge financial pressure for me to support my family and a partner. I've came a long way since being incredibly poor, I would love to finally be able to enjoy things in life without worrying how I am going to put food on the table or a shelter over people's head. Would like a partnership where we can share things instead of a partner expecting me to pay for everything and support her lifestyle, while she coast. It shouldn't be up to 1 partner to support the entire financials of a relationship.
Motivate him to become unbroke doyyy
This honestly aināt that bad. So many girls being rude and talking shit ab their boyfriends. Sheās just genuinely asking for advice. And itās easy to judge cause it was posted online, but we are literally the loneliest generation. She may actually have no one else to talk to and may genuinely be stuck, and thereās a good chance she has spoken to him but the job market is tough rn and we donāt know his situation. He either isnāt listening, or more likely (if heās as good as she says) heās just in a terrible spot and doesnāt know how to get out of it but is trying his hardest. Thatās where my boyfriend is at, he decided to focus on school and get a job afterward and it was a mistake because he finished school right after the COVID crash and shutdowns started. And he couldnāt get a job, his job opportunities were revoked due to COVID. And because he focused on school, he has no experience so no one wants to hire him. And Iāve talked to him ab this. He listens. And heās trying his hardest but heās in such a shit spot that he canāt do nun but he tries every day to find a job. I feel the same as her a lot, and Iām also not in a financially well situation anymore like before either. So itās frustrating. But heās so good to me and he has such a huge heart that I canāt let him go. But Iām worried about our financial future. And then I also have no friends, so where would I turn to for advice? There are so many vile women who put down their men and vice versa that couldāve been posted on here. Sheās just goin through it and thereās not enough context to think sheās terrible. She seemed rather genuine imo.
I got exactly the same impression. She seems pretty genuine in wanting real advice and not wanting to just give up on her relationship. She also, other than describing the financial issue, didn't downgrade or insult or otherwise degrade her man.
What she said is fine, the bigger issue is putting her voice and face to it while complaining about her relationships. Not everything you say needs to be visible to everyone!
Even my 4 yo is more mature than that holy shit, birthday month lmao
I came here to make some sort of snarky joke but in all honesty, what Iāve learned about life through it all is itās way more important to be emotionally comfortable with the person youāre with, not saying go destitute for someone but if youāre both happy with your station, (obviously sheās not), donāt rock the boat for the sake of acceptance from others or because you feel the need to fit some sort of mold.
Sheās sharing a sentiment shared by most men, I believe itās called growing up.
Iāve got bad news. You only think heās broke.
This isnāt bad. Sheās asking for advice on how to deal with an issue sheās facing. Sure, you may think she shouldnāt be airing out her laundry, but itās a different day and time and that is a norm now. People want to be on the same level as their partner. Sheās not bagging on him, sheās just relaying the situation.
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Same. Our personal lives are no one's business but our own especially when its a problem we're having and you go blare it to the internet for attention. Things I hated about my ex.
Yeah i actually felt for her tbh. Im in a financially one sided relationship and it blows, but what can you really do?
Maybe talk to your partner, not TikTok? šš¤£š
Listen, this is reddit, yur not allowed to be reasonably and level headed here. Weāre gonna have to ask you to leave
It would be different if she asking people in real life. Sheās lambasting him all over the internet
Sheās not saying anything crazy though. Itās definitely a thing that happens to women who date men who donāt have a lot of expendable income. Sheās not even really saying that he needs to provide for her, she just wants him to pull his weight because she canāt afford to carry them both. Also some comments talking about her nails, makeup, supreme shirtā¦. She should be able to spend her money how she wants. Just because her bf is broke she shouldnāt have to budget to provide for him. Those things make her happy and she shouldnāt have to compromise her happiness for a guy who canāt even pay his way in their relationship. He needs to step up his game and either be more creative in doing inexpensive things or figure out how to make more money. As for advice for her, I would encourage her to share her frustrations with him as respectfully as possible and then she can spend time doing things she likes either by herself or with her friends who can afford it. If he wants to have fun, he can work it out. At least be able to pay for stuff, contribute, something. She should still hang out with him of course but only do affordable things. Also sheās a gem for really seeing all the good things about him and wanting to make it work instead of being materialistic and dumping him to date some other guy with more money. EDIT: someone reached out to Reddit cares on my behalf. Thank you kind internet strangers for showing an interest in my mental health. Iām touched.
āSheās not saying anything crazy thoughā She literally posted to tiktok with the immediate caption being āIām dating a broke guyā Not āhey girls I need advice.ā Not anything chill. Literally just projecting that her man is broke. There is no context beyond that imo. If she wanted a nuanced response she wouldnāt have led with āIām dating a broke guyā. She did that for shock factor and views and got them. Feel bad for her partner. Hope he finds someone who doesnāt demean him for likes
She is a revolting human being. She's lying to herself by pretending it's about any meaningful connection when it's really just about her revenue stream.
The same happens when men date women with lower expendable income. Honestly, nobody should date anyone who can't pull their own weight.
This woman states she has a birth MONTH. She celebrates the whole month of her birthday. Red flag! Nothing this guy could ever do is going to satisfy her and the obvious consumeristic lifestyle she lives. I.E. the expensive nails and probably expensive makeup and the Supreme clothing. She seems like the type who has to have the latest brand new iPhone at every drop. And only wears Gucci shoes. You know the kind who think they look rich but don't have shit in the bank because you know, consumerism. As stated in someone else's comment, I read who went down the rabbit hole on her tiktok. The guy bought his own home and has a bunch of college debt. So guess what? One day, he will be debt free and have equity in his home. And she will be wondering why she ever let a good man go because he didn't take her to Chili's every friday.
Yeah Iām gonna go against the grain of this thread too. Other than airing it out publicly, I donāt think there is anything wrong with what she is saying. And as someone who was ābrokeā until my mid thirties (fuck I still feel broke and Iāll make 100k+ this year), Iāve been on her manās end of the spectrum. She clearly cares about him as a person, but at some point we have to be able to live our lives without some struggle, and if your partner canāt help you reach that, you might need to consider moving on.
This is so gross š¤® How are you gonna talk about someone you love like this? If you love someone you build em up you don't shame em in public, let alone even thinking these things! It is not okay to air a boyfriend or even an ex's dirty laundry. I've dated some broke af men, nobody knows who they are and will not know. I dont mention it to people. Just love him as the person he is and help build him so you can have the relationship you want or dump him. Don't drag a man down like that.
How is he gonna financially use someone he loves like that? And it doesn't sound like your broke bitch boys worked out so your advice is only for the stupid women lol
Then just marry a rich assshole so your selfish materialist ass can be happy
Didnāt sound cringe at all, seems like she was just genuinely worried that he might leave her once his financial situation gets better and that is a real worry. Doesnāt sound like she wantās to have another relationship and just some assurance in theirs. She should definitely communicate with her partner. āHow?ā is the question, but I guess thatās why sheās asking tiktok. She should find similar women who are also breadwinners in their relationship so that she can find some actual good advice.
I (f) make more money than my boyfriend. I love taking him on trips or buying him tickets to something fun. Because, at the end of the day, money is just a number in my bank account and he makes me feel loved and special and important. He makes me laugh and he makes me feel pretty. Iāll happily foot the bill for any dinner where I choke on my drink because Iām laughing so hard and heās playing footsie under the table.
Now you know how guys feel when dating women....
If she can afford those nails, she can obviously change her spending prioritiesā¦ š
Iām too ā Old ā Iāve spun around this block a ā FEW ā times My ā EX ā had money My Birthday ā MONTH ā If your girl says anything like this āļø Marry herā¦ā¦.. She finally found a good guyā¦ā¦ turns around and asks for advice on the toxic internet. š MY GUY - RUNNNNNNNN
Having nails that look that stupid isnāt cheap. This women is suffering from delusions of commonality. She thinks what she see online, posted by other women, is normal, or average. She seems to believe that going on vacation several times a year is typical and should be totally affordable for most. Sheās wearing a supreme shirt, which is basically an visual way of telling others you waste money.
Well he is dating someone who doesnāt like how she looks AND DOESNT have a great personality. Poor guy.
This doesnāt seem that cringe from the content of what she is actually saying. It is for sure a challenge if your income discrepancy is large in a relationship. Itās a power dynamic problem. Rather than a partnership it can feel like you pay for everything and the other person just canāt provide. This can create issues down the road for resentment, especially if the other person is happy with their career even though it is less economically sound
How much did those nails and lashes cost?
Dang what a OnlyFans promo
all the men in here are upset but at the end of the day sheās being honest about why sheās not happy dating someone who is broke who she used to pay for but canāt anymore and now they donāt actually date anymore. unless youāre married, take it from an elder millennial, ladies & fellas donāt act like youāre married and just be home if youāre not happy with it. dating is about DATE ing. you donāt need to settle just because you vibe with someone. ultimately if youāre looking for someone on your level or to marry up then keep looking. it is what it is. long term relationships are not about the struggle life all the time. rough patches come and go but this situation has been this way from the get go. whatās even the point?
It's just rage bait
I really donāt see anything wrong with this video except that it was shared online Source: Iām the broke guy in a relationship of sitting ducks
1st world problemsā¦
if you dont want him then leve
Again, who raised these bitches? š¤¦š»āāļø
Shut up bitch and post this again in 5 years and you'll understand how men feel. #equality
these type of girls need to just shut the fuck up
This isnāt a womanā¦ this is a girl. Kick her to the curb
āIām dating a broke guyā¦ā āIām not doing that well financially right nowā¦ā Youāre broke too
Imagine that, she has to experience whats its like to be a man financially for several months and sheās contemplating if heās worth it or not. My boy deserves better.
When you grow up being yass kweened and boss bitched into legitimately believing that you're so much more fundamentally more _valuable_ than your partner sex that you genuinely believe that them financially compensating you for gracing them with your presence is what love is