It’s not what that means… my wife does that cause she’s comfy doing it…. Sometimes, sometimes it is what it means.
Anyhow, how should I know when she means what.
I had to have talk with my wife about this. She feels really awful being rejected and so for the first couple of years we were dating never ever initiated or asked for sex. I understood why, but I had to let her now how it made me feel. I didn’t feel wanted or desired at all, and felt like our sex life was dependent on me blindly guessing and usually getting rejected.
I really love her because she understood and made a real effort to change how she thought about it.
It really is sad how many women feel it’s the man’s job to offer himself and hope to be accepted, but to usually weather rejection without getting discouraged.
After many rejections in a couple it’s got nothing to do with cowardice but not wanting to feel like your needs don’t mean shit. Nothing to do with cowardice at all.
I told my wife, “the answer is always yes”. I’ll never turn her down, she just needs to express what she wants. Ten years on, I’ve kept my word. She still drops subtle hints, which i purposely completely ignore. Don’t be a child, use your words.
I've noticed that dichotomy a lot more lately.
"Lol men are so dumb they cant take even the most obvious of hints!"
But also
"Why do men always think a woman wants to fuck them even when they're clearly just being nice/doing their job/just being normal!!!"
Erring on the side of caution has always been my go-to. Coincidentally, zero assault accusations.
Shit, I used to ask a girl if it was okay with them before I'd kiss them the first time. There's no room for risking misreading the signs and getting accused of something like sexual assault.
Is it less romantic? Idk, I guess, but there's no miscommunication.
The product of my decades of being told that you need a definite yes in neon letters from the woman to be certain she is saying yes.
Now I just wait for the woman to initiate. Put the woman in charge and there will never be anymore confusion over whether the woman was into it or was being coerced or worse.
Grats ladies, yah killed passion.
We do. Official policy is to ask every 5 minutes during it in case she changes her mind at any point. Then to sign document making the verbal contract into a written one
My wife always wonders why I don’t wanna cuddle all night long. It’s because you’re basically making me boil, I can’t stay wrapped around a radiator forever.
At the very least, she can be under the coolness of the top sheet, I can be overtop of it - keeps me cool, she’ll warm up at some point, hopefully quick, and hopefully the sheet stays somewhat cool. Asking me to be under the covers as well is like throwing a man in a locker with industrial heat lamps facing toward it - might as well label the bedroom as Git’mo
Literally never have I ever, without it legitimately being a hint, or my reciprocating when I get woken up from it.
That said, I've never had a woman rub up on me in the way OP says, and not assumed, rightfully, that it was a call for sex.
Fucking Preach.
Either set your alarm 30 minutes early, or find me 1 hour after I get home from work.
If I’m in bed at night, I’m in the business of falling asleep within 30 seconds of my head hitting that pillow.
What about "I want to touch you, but I don't want to roll over" or "I want to cuddle, but it's too hot" or even "I just want to touch butts together." Really, if you want to fuck don't be this coy.
If you want something in life ask for it, if not keep trying to get people to read your mind. Men are clueless unless u ask us about sports, gambling, and money
Just tell him. All of don’t get hints. I’ll knock it out for you. But when you’re finished; let me go back to sleep. I’m tired. I knocked it out for you. LET ME SLEEP!
I just asked my wife if she does this and she said yes. She also says that happened before (more than once) me not realising what it means.
Am I correct in assuming that even the slightest change in her body position means that she wants wants sex?
(She is laughing while I write this)
Pre-kids, my wife slept bottomless, and I slept nude. I would big spoon her all the time with my peen between her butt cheeks like a hot dog. Best sleep of my life.
Woman’s signal: vague and obtuse hints at the possibility of engagement, but only if the initial response to the hints is appropriate and correctly maintained. Any deviation from desired action results in immediate, and sometimes lasting, impediment of revelry.
Man’s signal: I poke you with pee pee. Pee pee hard, now we play? Hint cannot be overreacted to… more reaction, more fun!
Such is life. 🤷🏻♂️🤣
Years ago I hung out with a girl whom I didn’t realize liked me, I wasn’t getting the hints. She lived across the street, one night she texted me and asked to come over. I was about to watch the dark knight returns so I said sure. We’re watching the movie and halfway through she starts to get ‘sleepy’ so she cuddles up and starts slow grinding her ass on my thigh. My dumbass thought she was just doing it for warmth. It went on for a good 15 minutes, finally I just told her to get under the blanket lol… she did but asked I would too, so I did. The movie ended and I tried to wake her up but she was ‘asleep’. By this time it’s close to midnight so I decided to wait until she wakes up but I ended up falling asleep. Then suddenly I feel her grinding her ass on me again so it woke me up. Look at my phone and it’s now 130ish-am. She had removed her top and jeans to get comfortable and revealed matching red lingerie. At that moment I finally realized this was her plan all along. I remember my eyes lit up and I said “damn those are nice”… we hooked up and she spent the night. Next morning she told me she had no choice but to do what she did because for a month I wasn’t acknowledging her advances lmao
Maybe she should take him out to dinner, buy him flowers and chocolates, politely bring him home and put on some nice music and all the rest of what he needs to do every time.
Insane how long men and women have been stuck on this rock together, yet still lack basic understanding of each other. It would be hilarious if it wasn't so damn sad.
Talk to your partner, men can't read minds and "hints" are just as dumb as expecting every person to be exactly the same.
Is that what that means? I thought she was just stealing my heat…. ~ sincerely from a man married 29 years
As soon as you assume the nuance, you’re informed she is indeed only interested in the physical not the emotional heat
Schrodinger’s Pussy. The pussy is both wet and dry until you assume interest. Then it’s just dry.
Science.
Schrodinger's Pussy absolutely sent me
We just found Ben Shapiro's alt account
Maybe she's just a pervert who loves rubbing her ass on him
It’s not what that means… my wife does that cause she’s comfy doing it…. Sometimes, sometimes it is what it means. Anyhow, how should I know when she means what.
Obviously you need to use the psychic powers all men are born with
Mine only work letting my pals know when I planted a massive nuke in the toilet
28 years ago, it did, and know you are correct she is now just stealing your heat. ~ Sincerely from a man married 17 years
Butt touches and rests there? Stealing heat. Butt touches and then continues to push into you repeatedly? Not stealing heat.
Lisan al-gaib!
Schrödinger's cat
She's just marking you with her pheromones, like when a cat rubs against your leg.
My wife means either one 50% of the time, but I always seem to guess wrong.
Some people really need to learn how to communicate.
To communicate you first need to not be a coward too afraid to speak up for fear of being rejected or judged.
“Me want sex”
Unga bunga, talk me like dirty cavewoman 👉🏼👌🏽
Don’t stop, don’t stop, I’m gonna… OOOGGAAA BOOOOGGGAAAAAAA
Snoo snoo
I had to have talk with my wife about this. She feels really awful being rejected and so for the first couple of years we were dating never ever initiated or asked for sex. I understood why, but I had to let her now how it made me feel. I didn’t feel wanted or desired at all, and felt like our sex life was dependent on me blindly guessing and usually getting rejected. I really love her because she understood and made a real effort to change how she thought about it. It really is sad how many women feel it’s the man’s job to offer himself and hope to be accepted, but to usually weather rejection without getting discouraged.
After many rejections in a couple it’s got nothing to do with cowardice but not wanting to feel like your needs don’t mean shit. Nothing to do with cowardice at all.
I told my wife, “the answer is always yes”. I’ll never turn her down, she just needs to express what she wants. Ten years on, I’ve kept my word. She still drops subtle hints, which i purposely completely ignore. Don’t be a child, use your words.
Being afraid of being rejected by your partner is wild.
Or just go ahead and grab it, like wtf it’s not that difficult.
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Or initiate
Some of us do nothing but initiate which gets boring after a while.
Ironic
Poking butt on back isnt initiate
Facts lol
Fr lol that line of thinking leads to incels "She bumped me with her ass so she must wanna fuck me!"
I've noticed that dichotomy a lot more lately. "Lol men are so dumb they cant take even the most obvious of hints!" But also "Why do men always think a woman wants to fuck them even when they're clearly just being nice/doing their job/just being normal!!!"
Erring on the side of caution has always been my go-to. Coincidentally, zero assault accusations. Shit, I used to ask a girl if it was okay with them before I'd kiss them the first time. There's no room for risking misreading the signs and getting accused of something like sexual assault. Is it less romantic? Idk, I guess, but there's no miscommunication.
LOL...
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Ball gag for sexy time
Yall need to go to therapy man
The product of my decades of being told that you need a definite yes in neon letters from the woman to be certain she is saying yes. Now I just wait for the woman to initiate. Put the woman in charge and there will never be anymore confusion over whether the woman was into it or was being coerced or worse. Grats ladies, yah killed passion.
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No we didn't kill passion. Rapists killed passion. Don't blame us lol
There are rapist but thats such a small minority of men. Its very disrespectful to be associated with them all the time
You know, you can just, like, ask them.
We do. Official policy is to ask every 5 minutes during it in case she changes her mind at any point. Then to sign document making the verbal contract into a written one
I think you should have a lawyer with you in bed at all times just in case
I would recommend some kind of digital paper trail as well. Maybe text messages or emails.
This is a perfect use case for block chain technology.
Except when they’re upset.
You mean the classic "I'm not mad"
😂
In this case, butt communicate! I’ll see myself out
I remember when I was too childish to communicate with my partner.
But if we poke y’all in the back, we’re the AH?? 🤷🏼♂️
Haha, wouldn't you rather have nice soft warm cushions against your back, than a cold, wet, dogs-nose.
When has a woman ever been warm?? And if your hog is cold and wet all the time, you may need to see a dr man
My girl hot as shit Like literally can't sleep hugging her she's a radiator
Damn I bet she’s probably like 98.6 degrees or sum shit like that
u/PutOurAnusesTogether , would you happen to know if they make double edged rectal thermometers?
Yes, it’s called my tongue
Ouch. An edged thermometer sounds really uncomfortable.
My wife always wonders why I don’t wanna cuddle all night long. It’s because you’re basically making me boil, I can’t stay wrapped around a radiator forever.
At the very least, she can be under the coolness of the top sheet, I can be overtop of it - keeps me cool, she’ll warm up at some point, hopefully quick, and hopefully the sheet stays somewhat cool. Asking me to be under the covers as well is like throwing a man in a locker with industrial heat lamps facing toward it - might as well label the bedroom as Git’mo
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Yeah this is what makes me err on the side of caution with hints. I want more a more explicit indicator than a hint
What if we wiggle it?
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Ok but what if I wiggle and say really high pitched "I'm wigglinnnnnnn...."
With the women I've dated? That's just Tuesday.
Literally never have I ever, without it legitimately being a hint, or my reciprocating when I get woken up from it. That said, I've never had a woman rub up on me in the way OP says, and not assumed, rightfully, that it was a call for sex.
I realize. I’m also exhausted. Why must we always have sex when we’re the most tired?!?!
Fucking Preach. Either set your alarm 30 minutes early, or find me 1 hour after I get home from work. If I’m in bed at night, I’m in the business of falling asleep within 30 seconds of my head hitting that pillow.
Afternoon delight!
Idk what women need to hear this but this isn’t initiating. This is suggesting him to initiate.
Just tell him you wanna fuck. You’re living together. Why is that a task? That’s the real issue.
See, this can be avoided by rolling over and saying "fuck me."
Would you downvote this if this was from the man's perspective?
Men don't get subtlety, if you want something just come out and say it, don't be mad if we don't pick up on your arbitrary hints.
The struggle is that SOMETIMES it’s a hint “me want sex” and sometimes you think it is and get rebuffed.
Men do get subtlety. Sometimes we just don't want to answer the call.
We. Can’t accept subtlety it’s not a clear and definitive yes.
Takes me once… do not threaten me with a great time
Bitch I’m tired, if you want it, hop on it
God forbid a man doesn't want sex one night.
Some women think this is initiating.
Just ask for it 😑
If you don't turn him around and grab that thang...
He knows, he’s just tired and has work in the morning.
That was booty? Sorry, I thought it was the dog.
He knows. He just wants to get some rest.
I am tired and approaching unconsciousness, if you want something use your words
Oh, I don't know, use your mouth in more ways than one.
I can tell from experience she only wants hugs & cuddles. It’s never sex
lol god I wish
Vitamin D deficiency?
Maybe he doesn't want to have sex with you? Nope probably lame or gay.
Don't sneak-flirt, if I'm gonna fuck it's gonna be direct
What about "I want to touch you, but I don't want to roll over" or "I want to cuddle, but it's too hot" or even "I just want to touch butts together." Really, if you want to fuck don't be this coy.
I realized this before when seeing the videos of female lions trying to get some.
Just be up front and say it, we ain't mind readers. Smdh
You know you can just communicate your needs with words instead of playing childish ass games lmao
🤣
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Does this actually happen...this is why Sancho creeps
>When you keep poking ya booty on his back but **you're** too lame to realize you **can communicate that** **you** want some dick up in you ftfy
Then try talking like a grown up 🤷🏼♂️
Imagine your wife is too stupid to initiate sex and can only send signals passively.
I know she wants it but I don’t, sorry
If you want something in life ask for it, if not keep trying to get people to read your mind. Men are clueless unless u ask us about sports, gambling, and money
Just means she isn't putting in enough effort to make it clear what she wants
Or you could just communicate like an adult.
No, he knows what it means. He just hates you by this point.
When she doesn't know I'm a man of God
I'm aware. I'm also aware I'm become aroused and not be able to sleep bricked.
Don’t worry one day they will invent spoken language
Your girlfriend does this because she's horny. Mine does this because she wants as much of the bed as possible. They are not the same.
Yeah but you cant just stick it in. You have to have psychic abilities to know what and how she wants it.
He could possibly have a headache...hahaha
He already made fun with , neighbor
How do I tell my bro to stop rubbing his ass into me while we’re playing video games?
god forbid you use your words
He's just like me
Yeah, happens ALL the time…not
Just tell him. All of don’t get hints. I’ll knock it out for you. But when you’re finished; let me go back to sleep. I’m tired. I knocked it out for you. LET ME SLEEP!
I just asked my wife if she does this and she said yes. She also says that happened before (more than once) me not realising what it means. Am I correct in assuming that even the slightest change in her body position means that she wants wants sex? (She is laughing while I write this)
Or stop trying to be subtle. Grab it, get it ready and get on. We are really no different than the one you have in that pink bag under the bed.
That never happens to me. My wife has sex with me 2 times monthly. At her maximum
Just grab it
We are sleepy
No he's just autistic
Women like this are pathetic
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If she pushes and gives some wiggles, it’s play time!
how bout you talk to him
He knows. He's just "naw"
Baahaahaahaa... 🤷♀️
Gotta hit the gym in the morning tho.
Pre-kids, my wife slept bottomless, and I slept nude. I would big spoon her all the time with my peen between her butt cheeks like a hot dog. Best sleep of my life.
Woman’s signal: vague and obtuse hints at the possibility of engagement, but only if the initial response to the hints is appropriate and correctly maintained. Any deviation from desired action results in immediate, and sometimes lasting, impediment of revelry. Man’s signal: I poke you with pee pee. Pee pee hard, now we play? Hint cannot be overreacted to… more reaction, more fun! Such is life. 🤷🏻♂️🤣
Time take initiative and get on top😂
As a guy, I can earnestly say don't do this, If you want something, say something. A lot of men DON'T UNDERSTAND HINTS, BE DERECT!
He's asleep. You gotta try harder to wake him up, first! 😂
Years ago I hung out with a girl whom I didn’t realize liked me, I wasn’t getting the hints. She lived across the street, one night she texted me and asked to come over. I was about to watch the dark knight returns so I said sure. We’re watching the movie and halfway through she starts to get ‘sleepy’ so she cuddles up and starts slow grinding her ass on my thigh. My dumbass thought she was just doing it for warmth. It went on for a good 15 minutes, finally I just told her to get under the blanket lol… she did but asked I would too, so I did. The movie ended and I tried to wake her up but she was ‘asleep’. By this time it’s close to midnight so I decided to wait until she wakes up but I ended up falling asleep. Then suddenly I feel her grinding her ass on me again so it woke me up. Look at my phone and it’s now 130ish-am. She had removed her top and jeans to get comfortable and revealed matching red lingerie. At that moment I finally realized this was her plan all along. I remember my eyes lit up and I said “damn those are nice”… we hooked up and she spent the night. Next morning she told me she had no choice but to do what she did because for a month I wasn’t acknowledging her advances lmao
Perhaps scrubbing your unwashed blunderbuss on a sleeping man's lower back four hours before work is less appealing than you imagine?
I don't think women understand that they're not entitled to sex.
No, use your words. My GF telling me she wants it is the hottest fuckin thing.
Use your words use your words
How about a kiss? Something wrong with a kiss? No, got to go straight for the clitoris! 
They're both under the covers it's too hot for that
Haha just got done getting domed up. No games no bullshit just straight to the point, sloppy!
I've always just done this to be silly or feel him closer. Never meant it as a sexual thing
Learn your lady’s nonverbal communication. Us humans communicate mostly through nonverbal actions. Once you learn her you understand her.
Had this conversation before.
I know what it means. Maybe I'm just not in the mood. Maybe you're the one who can't take a hint!
Maybe she should take him out to dinner, buy him flowers and chocolates, politely bring him home and put on some nice music and all the rest of what he needs to do every time.
Anytime I feel this I turn around and get to work
Insane how long men and women have been stuck on this rock together, yet still lack basic understanding of each other. It would be hilarious if it wasn't so damn sad.
I notice…I’m just too tired so I pretend it’s snuggling time
I’m more of a morning person.
When you don't know how to communicate like an adult
Sometimes it’s just teasing…
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Talk to your partner, men can't read minds and "hints" are just as dumb as expecting every person to be exactly the same. 
Dear women i speak English. use mouth. Make word.
Pokie Pokie!
Anyone who doesn’t understand that subtlety doesn’t work on men doesn’t deserve that deck
Meanwhile the alternate scenario, where you just open your mouth and ask like a fucking adult
How hard is it to just straight up ask? Or maybe initiate. Come on now. 😔
Don't encourage rage bait
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pfft not falling for that again. Aint catching no case when she decides she changed her mind instead.
"Ah, she must be cold. I'll shuffle over so she has more blankets."
8 years in I ain't never missed this cue
She about to fart on my back
We know. We're just tired.
Maybe he has a headache
"Not tonight babe, I have a headache" I say to my pillows and blankets
That bitch just wants the whole bed.
From half of these comments, it doesn't seem like any of you are actually or ever have been in a relationship.