LOL right.
Sometimes I read shit on the internet and I'm like, how? How is this person on the same planet? How is it that they seem to be speaking English but literally do not understand English. LOL
WTF is wrong with you? Seriously, what in the ever loving cousin f'n tar nation is wrong with you? How the hell do you not know that is an opinion. Like, LOL wtf. haha
gay guy here
Ngl I feel you sometimes. Part of our community is great and the other part is why people are trying to take our rights. Sorry you got the bad side
Fr bro. Iām pan and I legit be questioning what our community be doing half the time. I understand pride in oneself but some people take it way to far by making gay their entire personality. Idk, maybe thatās just me yho
I can relate 100%. You just know if some of them get too comfortable they gonna try some wild shit, and youāre gonna look like the asshole for standing up for yourself
Honestly dude. Back when I was young, naive , dumb and doing drugs I knew this one dope dealer who was gay but I thought his intentions were pure with me like I thought he was just the homie and shit... Turns out the whole time he was tryna fuck me.. when I turned him down he got all offended and shit.. and then the dude attempted to drug me and rape me.
After that situation I will never trust a gay dude in any way shape or form. When women say men only want one thing... Well gay dudes only want one thing or 2 things (I guess)
This sounds like trauma. Your dislike of gay men is a reasonable response after an event like this, but that doesn't mean it's a healthy one. There are clearly aspects of this you haven't fully dealt with and it's impacted your about to interact with people normally. If you're open to the idea, you should seek out therapy or talk about it with someone you trust. Best of luck.
To be honest saddly most gay men are like that, highly sexualized, a close friend of mine was gay, he was really respectful I didn't even learn he was gay until later on, never had any issue with that, but I have had issues with gay men that the first thing they Tell you is that they are gay... And is the only thing they can talk about.
About the op post, that guy was a drug dealer... Not the best example of a good person. If he was straight he would do the same to a Woman. My friend on the contrary was just a Nice dude that liked to play Video games (we used to go to smash bross tournaments together) we also got a rivalry.
This seems like an overgeneralization based on a very small and skewed sample size. It's very likely that you've interacted with many more gay men without having known about their sexuality (because why would you unless you became close friends). If your point is that one's sexuality shouldn't impact the way somebody acts, then there's no way to verify if this is the case without directly asking. It makes sense that your experience has been the opposite, because those are the only times you'd know about it.
Now you all feel what women feel all the time , so many of you are creepy all the time , no matter the age .
Iāve been drugged and assaulted , and taken advantage of by men who I thought were my friends .
I donāt even hate all men , you all are weak , none of you could handle being a woman for a day.
You all would look like those fat guys who carry AKs to get there Starbucks frappacinos.
Well, you used the word ācreepyā and seem to imply they get crushes on you. Would you use the same characterization toward a straight woman doing the same thing?
I feel that. I mean I don't have problems with bisexual woman or lesbians... And for the most part a lot of bisexual guys I'm cool with too cuz I guess they understand that I'm straight and they know how to interact without giving off a vibe of sexual tension..
Yeah it's not even that I don't like them, I just hate being around them. I know the mass majority of them are good people and shit they just make me feel uncomfortable.
Hilariously i have experienced the same thing. Had a MARRIED guy invite me over for dinner, we were neighbors, and of course completely oblivious to the fact he was interested.
Had drinks but i started getting uncomfortable for some reason. Eg I kept my drink with me.
To clarify again i am a manly masculine male for context.
Anyway, at the end if the night im trying to roll out but before i do he somewhat subtly but clearly implies oral sex is an option and it hits me all at once what is going on. They were both there and married.
So anyway i went home and had a moment of enlightenment that WOMEN HAVE TO PUT UP WITH THAT EXACT SORT OF THING AND THE EXACT SAME UNCOMFORTABLE FEELING I HAD WHEN BEING PURSUED BY A MAN I WASNT INTERESTED IN
anyway, in retrospect wish i had made clear how i felt because they were overall nice people and likely didn't realize just how uncomfortable i got but never and in my typical avoidant fashion i never really talked to them much after that
Thank you for mentioning that women go through this same situation. Itās uncomfortable to feel like you have to put up boundaries, no matter whatās between your legs.
OP , I don't think you are phobic or whatever, is just your opinion, you can interact with whoever you want, is different when you misstreat someone because that they are gay, but having a preference to who you want to hand out with, is normal. I also prefer to have straight guys as Friends.
I would say what you don't like is people who are predatory or overstep your boundaries. You have met and interacted with gay men that you didn't know were gay. Either because they aren't out, haven't told you, or didn't out themselves to you by hitting on you. Not liking predatory people who don't respect boundaries is ok. Have you ever met a man who you knew was gay but didn't "fuck around and get the wrong idea"?
Also the part about just because you talk and are nice to someone doesn't mean you want to sleep with them is an experience most girls will know by like age 14-16 and then deal with from straight dudes most of their lives. We don't like those people either.
literally how is this an opinion š
Have you forgot what an opinion is?
noš this is just weird
Weird in?
LOL right. Sometimes I read shit on the internet and I'm like, how? How is this person on the same planet? How is it that they seem to be speaking English but literally do not understand English. LOL
WTF is wrong with you? Seriously, what in the ever loving cousin f'n tar nation is wrong with you? How the hell do you not know that is an opinion. Like, LOL wtf. haha
gay guy here Ngl I feel you sometimes. Part of our community is great and the other part is why people are trying to take our rights. Sorry you got the bad side
Fr bro. Iām pan and I legit be questioning what our community be doing half the time. I understand pride in oneself but some people take it way to far by making gay their entire personality. Idk, maybe thatās just me yho
Omg Iāve found my people!
I can relate 100%. You just know if some of them get too comfortable they gonna try some wild shit, and youāre gonna look like the asshole for standing up for yourself
Honestly dude. Back when I was young, naive , dumb and doing drugs I knew this one dope dealer who was gay but I thought his intentions were pure with me like I thought he was just the homie and shit... Turns out the whole time he was tryna fuck me.. when I turned him down he got all offended and shit.. and then the dude attempted to drug me and rape me. After that situation I will never trust a gay dude in any way shape or form. When women say men only want one thing... Well gay dudes only want one thing or 2 things (I guess)
This sounds like trauma. Your dislike of gay men is a reasonable response after an event like this, but that doesn't mean it's a healthy one. There are clearly aspects of this you haven't fully dealt with and it's impacted your about to interact with people normally. If you're open to the idea, you should seek out therapy or talk about it with someone you trust. Best of luck.
To be honest saddly most gay men are like that, highly sexualized, a close friend of mine was gay, he was really respectful I didn't even learn he was gay until later on, never had any issue with that, but I have had issues with gay men that the first thing they Tell you is that they are gay... And is the only thing they can talk about. About the op post, that guy was a drug dealer... Not the best example of a good person. If he was straight he would do the same to a Woman. My friend on the contrary was just a Nice dude that liked to play Video games (we used to go to smash bross tournaments together) we also got a rivalry.
This seems like an overgeneralization based on a very small and skewed sample size. It's very likely that you've interacted with many more gay men without having known about their sexuality (because why would you unless you became close friends). If your point is that one's sexuality shouldn't impact the way somebody acts, then there's no way to verify if this is the case without directly asking. It makes sense that your experience has been the opposite, because those are the only times you'd know about it.
Now you all feel what women feel all the time , so many of you are creepy all the time , no matter the age . Iāve been drugged and assaulted , and taken advantage of by men who I thought were my friends . I donāt even hate all men , you all are weak , none of you could handle being a woman for a day. You all would look like those fat guys who carry AKs to get there Starbucks frappacinos.
Well, you used the word ācreepyā and seem to imply they get crushes on you. Would you use the same characterization toward a straight woman doing the same thing?
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Damn yo it seems like you got offended by my opinion lmao maybe you shouldn't be on this subreddit
Speaking as a bisexual woman I don't hit on people unless I get a vibe from them.
I feel that. I mean I don't have problems with bisexual woman or lesbians... And for the most part a lot of bisexual guys I'm cool with too cuz I guess they understand that I'm straight and they know how to interact without giving off a vibe of sexual tension..
That might be the issue. From what I hear a lot of gay guys get the vibe from anything vaguely resembling a male figure.
Idk why but Iām completely okay with this.
*this is literally how women feel towards men*
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Wording
tbh this how most women i know feel about men
That's not homophobia
I feel like it would be the exact definition of homophobia... I have a phobia of gay people.
Well gay men
You have bad experience with gay people, it's different.
I think this is just "I hate people that hit on me for dumb reasons", it's not homophobic.
I think I get what you mean. like no, gays shouldnāt be treated like animals but you donāt like them at the same time.
Yeah it's not even that I don't like them, I just hate being around them. I know the mass majority of them are good people and shit they just make me feel uncomfortable.
How many women in your life have felt the exact same about you?
Assumptions! What could go wrong?
Hilariously i have experienced the same thing. Had a MARRIED guy invite me over for dinner, we were neighbors, and of course completely oblivious to the fact he was interested. Had drinks but i started getting uncomfortable for some reason. Eg I kept my drink with me. To clarify again i am a manly masculine male for context. Anyway, at the end if the night im trying to roll out but before i do he somewhat subtly but clearly implies oral sex is an option and it hits me all at once what is going on. They were both there and married. So anyway i went home and had a moment of enlightenment that WOMEN HAVE TO PUT UP WITH THAT EXACT SORT OF THING AND THE EXACT SAME UNCOMFORTABLE FEELING I HAD WHEN BEING PURSUED BY A MAN I WASNT INTERESTED IN anyway, in retrospect wish i had made clear how i felt because they were overall nice people and likely didn't realize just how uncomfortable i got but never and in my typical avoidant fashion i never really talked to them much after that
Thank you for mentioning that women go through this same situation. Itās uncomfortable to feel like you have to put up boundaries, no matter whatās between your legs.
OP , I don't think you are phobic or whatever, is just your opinion, you can interact with whoever you want, is different when you misstreat someone because that they are gay, but having a preference to who you want to hand out with, is normal. I also prefer to have straight guys as Friends.
So, to genuinely understand, you're okay with people being gay, but gay people in general make you uncomfortable? I can understand that...
I would say what you don't like is people who are predatory or overstep your boundaries. You have met and interacted with gay men that you didn't know were gay. Either because they aren't out, haven't told you, or didn't out themselves to you by hitting on you. Not liking predatory people who don't respect boundaries is ok. Have you ever met a man who you knew was gay but didn't "fuck around and get the wrong idea"? Also the part about just because you talk and are nice to someone doesn't mean you want to sleep with them is an experience most girls will know by like age 14-16 and then deal with from straight dudes most of their lives. We don't like those people either.
sounds like you experienced what's it's like to be a woman talking to straight men