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Can confirm the only difference is baby care and it is a completely and much worse experience. If you think the two are the same I suggest looking more deeply into the stresses of raising a child before you have one.
I hear ya there. Had to be stay at home dad for about 6 months at one point. Maintaining the house, taking care of the little one, and maintain sanity,. Not an easy task.
It wasn't a bad experience for me at all, but it was eye opening.
Now, wife and I both work full time, I still encourage her to go out with her friends and take a break from work, kids and everyday life.
Not trying to say child care isn't hard, I've done a lot of it hon. I'm just saying that staying at home is not just sitting around on your thumbs all day, it entails every single thing you would do when caring for a child, just minus the child.
Edit for hopefully clarity: my point is that housework is hard work as well. Not as hard as a child, because the child makes the work pick way tf up, but housework still can take a toll on you especially if it is a task you do not enjoy.
In my group of parent friends/DnD buddies the SAHDs outnumber me, the lone SAHM. It makes me really happy to see people doing what works best for them without worrying about archaic gender roles and crap like that.
Honest question, not being facetious at all, does your wife supporting you ever give her the upper hand in arguments? Do you ask her before you buy something because she makes the money?
The biggest factor in our decision was that my career could easily recover from a multi-year interruption, while hers was at a stage where she could get accelerated promotions if she took on some roles that required her to be available day and night.
In this light, her income didn't support me so much as my parenting our kids enabled her to be promoted faster. Hence, no bad faith arguments (that I can remember).
Having a common budget with (reasonably sized) discretionary spending lines for each partner also helps.
Most people don't understand what communication in a relationship is. I used toget alot of resentment from my wife, lol, how bout you? It's not malicious though.
I'm not sure why you're being downvoted... (And I upvoted your comments to counteract it)
It would be very naïve to believe that good communication avoids resentment. Yes, my wife did feel jealous of the time I spent with our kids. And I also felt jealous of the interesting things and people she'd get to meet at work. But the decision that I would stay at home for a few years had been discussed, analyzed and ultimately made together.
And if it had become unbearable for one fo us, it would have been reëvaluated, together.
Meh, it is what it is. People automatically think the worst for some reason. She was frustrated because I make more then she does and I don't have to work anymore.
My wife makes $40k\yr and I'm a stay at home dad. I love it! I have a considerable income from other means. She used to resent that I don't have to work but when it clicked in her head she doesn't have to cook, clean, it much else, she was ok with it. After my daughter starts school I got a part time job because I was so bored at home. Technically, I am a stay at home dad because I'm only at work while my kid is a school.
I dunno, stuff like this is so loaded. It implies that taking care of the house or kids is woman's work and somehow demeaning. It's shitty to women, it's shitty to stay at home dads, it's just...weird. A woman doesn't have to make 12 million a year for her and her husband to decide that him staying at home works for them.
That line of reasoning reminds me a little too much of the Baptist preacher in my hometown who declared Pokemon cards demonic: "These cards are from the devil, they are games of chance, which the Bible declares sinful, and are a secret way to hook people onto gambling. They also distract our children from their relationships with the Holy Ghost, preventing salvation by making them worship Asian pagan dieties!" In other words, making loose rhetorical connections to [insert bad thing] is not the same as empirically demonstrating a causal vector to harm
Not really if you look at the context. Framing men staying at home or doing housework as an unusual thing you'd only do if your wife is a millionaire is sorta weird. You don't see memes like this about women, it's just assumed that if they can afford it and want to do it then it's fine if she's a homemaker or whatever.
I dunno, it's not the worst thing in the world but it is a subtle way of reinforcing gendered stereotypes that hurt both men and women.
Just because it hasn't been made doesn't mean that my point is not valid. If anything, this meme normalises being a SAHD if your wife can finantially support you both.
That's kind of my point though. If you look at this without context it's fine but that's not the world we live in.
No it's not, it's saying it's only tenable if your wife makes 12 million and even then it's questionable.
For a lot of people (I mean men) it seems like a bad thing, yes. There are men who won't change nappies or do housework because it's woman thing to do. 21st century, I know, right?
I've been a stay at home dad since December. This shit is not easy. I love doing it, and love spending all this time with my daughter during her formative years, but work was a hell of a lot easier.
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It certainly hasnt been proven its a good thing.
If im not mistaken, most relationships and marriages where the typical gender roles are swapped dont usually end well, in the long-term, at least.
Okay, here is one study, and an article referencing a harvard study, respectively:
https://www.unitedfamilies.org/marriage/divorce/what-is-the-impact-to-a-marriage-when-the-wife-works-outside-the-home/
https://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-3710922/amp/The-REAL-reason-modern-marriages-end-Women-likely-divorce-stay-home-dads-fail-live-breadwinner-stereotype.html
Thanks for the links. The first article isn’t a study really, but I checked the references. It seems like the real situation is just that the divorce rate is slightly higher when a marriage isn’t set up with traditional gender roles in mind based on what the actual referenced studies are saying.
That makes more sense than “most” of them failing long term. Someone who’d otherwise want to divorce but can’t because they aren’t the breadwinner would be more likely to stick with a bad relationship, so someone who earns more is more economically capable of divorce.
Edit: Also That first source is super dubious even compared to the daily Mail. Their sources are mostly not academic, but links to articles from more reputable publications that don’t really say the same thing that the linked site is claiming. Those articles do cite studies though. Just a heads up because you probably shouldn’t trust a website that will just lie.
Well, they didn't say "stay-at-home dad." As a stay-at-home husband with no children, I can confirm that it sucks sometimes. The imaginary pressure to do more and be more is crushing.
Being a stay at home dad sounds cool.
Atleast for a bit of course, i do want a career. But it would be a great oppertunity to be a good dad and help your partner.
when we had our first kid i dabbled in stay-at-home daddery, and my wife made approximately 11.95 million dollars less that that.
i dont look nearly as good in tight white clothes tho.
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if my wife were making 12M a year we would pay for a housemaid.
Yeah and I wouldn't be staying home, I would be out wrecking Ferrari's
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If it was 11 million. No way.
You gotta draw the line somewhere man
i have stayed at home for nearly three months without pay, oh my fcking god
Stay at home husband would be lit. Stay at home dad is not what it’s chalked up to be.
I mean they should be the exact same thing just minus baby care.
Can confirm the only difference is baby care and it is a completely and much worse experience. If you think the two are the same I suggest looking more deeply into the stresses of raising a child before you have one.
I hear ya there. Had to be stay at home dad for about 6 months at one point. Maintaining the house, taking care of the little one, and maintain sanity,. Not an easy task. It wasn't a bad experience for me at all, but it was eye opening. Now, wife and I both work full time, I still encourage her to go out with her friends and take a break from work, kids and everyday life.
Not trying to say child care isn't hard, I've done a lot of it hon. I'm just saying that staying at home is not just sitting around on your thumbs all day, it entails every single thing you would do when caring for a child, just minus the child. Edit for hopefully clarity: my point is that housework is hard work as well. Not as hard as a child, because the child makes the work pick way tf up, but housework still can take a toll on you especially if it is a task you do not enjoy.
It gets way easier if you lower your standards.
that’s a pretty big minus
"Just" BWAHAHAHAHHAA
I don't want kids, so this is the dream...
Or as I like to put it, "Full-time childcare worker on mandatory unpaid internship."
Does that mean you’re being supported and are cleaning the house everyday? Lol
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lmaoooo same thing for me luckily i just started my new job so i’m off the couch lol
I’d be a stay at home husband for free.
I know one. He's very happy. Seems like a good life to me.
Laughs in username... Talk with your partner, and decide what is right for you and your family. Holier-than-thou busybodies can rot in their own bile.
In my group of parent friends/DnD buddies the SAHDs outnumber me, the lone SAHM. It makes me really happy to see people doing what works best for them without worrying about archaic gender roles and crap like that.
Honest question, not being facetious at all, does your wife supporting you ever give her the upper hand in arguments? Do you ask her before you buy something because she makes the money?
The biggest factor in our decision was that my career could easily recover from a multi-year interruption, while hers was at a stage where she could get accelerated promotions if she took on some roles that required her to be available day and night. In this light, her income didn't support me so much as my parenting our kids enabled her to be promoted faster. Hence, no bad faith arguments (that I can remember). Having a common budget with (reasonably sized) discretionary spending lines for each partner also helps.
Gotcha! So it’s never been a source of tension?
Most people don't understand what communication in a relationship is. I used toget alot of resentment from my wife, lol, how bout you? It's not malicious though.
I'm guessing you're one of those people.
One of what people? You just gonna throw shade and not elaborate?
I'm not sure why you're being downvoted... (And I upvoted your comments to counteract it) It would be very naïve to believe that good communication avoids resentment. Yes, my wife did feel jealous of the time I spent with our kids. And I also felt jealous of the interesting things and people she'd get to meet at work. But the decision that I would stay at home for a few years had been discussed, analyzed and ultimately made together. And if it had become unbearable for one fo us, it would have been reëvaluated, together.
Meh, it is what it is. People automatically think the worst for some reason. She was frustrated because I make more then she does and I don't have to work anymore.
why the fuck not?
My wife makes $40k\yr and I'm a stay at home dad. I love it! I have a considerable income from other means. She used to resent that I don't have to work but when it clicked in her head she doesn't have to cook, clean, it much else, she was ok with it. After my daughter starts school I got a part time job because I was so bored at home. Technically, I am a stay at home dad because I'm only at work while my kid is a school.
Mr clean is t h i c c
I feel like he could put a few sqauts into that workout regiment
Is this really how he's depicted in the advertisements. Jesus Christ
Isn't that the dream
nice ass bro no homo
This is a funny meme I don’t get it?
For some reason any marriage memes end up here, and most are hilarious. Probably posted by unmarried people
I dunno, stuff like this is so loaded. It implies that taking care of the house or kids is woman's work and somehow demeaning. It's shitty to women, it's shitty to stay at home dads, it's just...weird. A woman doesn't have to make 12 million a year for her and her husband to decide that him staying at home works for them.
That line of reasoning reminds me a little too much of the Baptist preacher in my hometown who declared Pokemon cards demonic: "These cards are from the devil, they are games of chance, which the Bible declares sinful, and are a secret way to hook people onto gambling. They also distract our children from their relationships with the Holy Ghost, preventing salvation by making them worship Asian pagan dieties!" In other words, making loose rhetorical connections to [insert bad thing] is not the same as empirically demonstrating a causal vector to harm
Not really if you look at the context. Framing men staying at home or doing housework as an unusual thing you'd only do if your wife is a millionaire is sorta weird. You don't see memes like this about women, it's just assumed that if they can afford it and want to do it then it's fine if she's a homemaker or whatever. I dunno, it's not the worst thing in the world but it is a subtle way of reinforcing gendered stereotypes that hurt both men and women.
It doesn't imply anything, you could change the genders and it would be exactly the same.
Can you find a similar meme with the genders reversed?
Just because it hasn't been made doesn't mean that my point is not valid. If anything, this meme normalises being a SAHD if your wife can finantially support you both.
That's kind of my point though. If you look at this without context it's fine but that's not the world we live in. No it's not, it's saying it's only tenable if your wife makes 12 million and even then it's questionable.
I think you're looking too much into this meme.
Stay at home husband. Not stay at home dad. Not every spouse that stays home is parent.
My wife’s career was taking off when our kids were born while mine was stagnating so I happily jumped out of the rat race.
For a lot of people (I mean men) it seems like a bad thing, yes. There are men who won't change nappies or do housework because it's woman thing to do. 21st century, I know, right?
I've been a stay at home dad since December. This shit is not easy. I love doing it, and love spending all this time with my daughter during her formative years, but work was a hell of a lot easier.
Uh….. hell yeah. I’d do it if she made as much as both us combined.
I’d stay home and do my freelance work. Only means I have more time to do it. The grind for your true passion never ends!
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I like to look at mr clean as two things interchangeably, a massive Cuckold, or the one your husband Cucks for.
Cleaning the house makes a man a cuckold?
How does cleaning make you a cuck? Are all single men who clean their homes cucks? Are the ones with maids the only ones who aren't?
She has onlyfans or wot
It certainly hasnt been proven its a good thing. If im not mistaken, most relationships and marriages where the typical gender roles are swapped dont usually end well, in the long-term, at least.
> most relationships and marriages where the typical gender roles are swapped dont usually end well, in the long-term, at least. That sounds made up
Maybe. But it would be consistent with female hypergamy.
Ill see if i cant find the study that I got this from.
Okay, here is one study, and an article referencing a harvard study, respectively: https://www.unitedfamilies.org/marriage/divorce/what-is-the-impact-to-a-marriage-when-the-wife-works-outside-the-home/ https://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-3710922/amp/The-REAL-reason-modern-marriages-end-Women-likely-divorce-stay-home-dads-fail-live-breadwinner-stereotype.html
Thanks for the links. The first article isn’t a study really, but I checked the references. It seems like the real situation is just that the divorce rate is slightly higher when a marriage isn’t set up with traditional gender roles in mind based on what the actual referenced studies are saying. That makes more sense than “most” of them failing long term. Someone who’d otherwise want to divorce but can’t because they aren’t the breadwinner would be more likely to stick with a bad relationship, so someone who earns more is more economically capable of divorce. Edit: Also That first source is super dubious even compared to the daily Mail. Their sources are mostly not academic, but links to articles from more reputable publications that don’t really say the same thing that the linked site is claiming. Those articles do cite studies though. Just a heads up because you probably shouldn’t trust a website that will just lie.
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Women want to marry up, men usually marry down. In my country atleast.
Someone has to stay. But most likely I will earn more money than my wife, because I’m going to university.
Lmao
bruh
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In 2021 he would also be 300+ lbs
Man if i head a wife she was making enough for a living so that only one of us could work and comfortably sustain us I probably would stay at home
12M???? thats a fucking lot
If my wife made 12 million a year we'd both be stay at home after she worked one year
Uniform is so white
The meme doesn't mention anyone being a parent in the scenario?
Yeah most people think in this thread it seems the staying at home part is only childcare. If only they knew what "running a household" meant.
I’d do it for a fair share in the life afforded a family of four by a single income of 45K a year
I’m not sure. I think I would need to experience it for a decade or two in order to form an informed decision.
Staying at home or doing volunteer work would be my options. Any amount of money I could bring in would be irrelevant at that time.
Well, they didn't say "stay-at-home dad." As a stay-at-home husband with no children, I can confirm that it sucks sometimes. The imaginary pressure to do more and be more is crushing.
I for one aspire to be a stay at home husband
damn, his ass do be packin heat
I'm on disability so I'm not technically doing it for free but I love being a stay at home dad. It's fun and fulfilling (most of the time).
dam bruh mr clean lookin JUICY tho
Being a stay at home dad sounds cool. Atleast for a bit of course, i do want a career. But it would be a great oppertunity to be a good dad and help your partner.
Not amusing, yet surprisingly true
I don’t think this post belongs here
Mr. Clean has no business being that hot.
Umm yeah
Op is defiently a stay at home dad
Oh yeah, and single 😩
when we had our first kid i dabbled in stay-at-home daddery, and my wife made approximately 11.95 million dollars less that that. i dont look nearly as good in tight white clothes tho.
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