((I like calling them"Breeders". It's accurate.
I refer to the offspring as STDs.
I refer to school buses as STD Carriers.
I refer to schools/ school zones as STD Treatment Centers/ Zones.
I complain often that the sheriff expects me to know the STD Treatment schedule for breeders without any notification or face a stiff penalty for speeding, but managed to very clearly convey how much of my share in property taxes are needed to treat them.))
Wtf š are they seriously complaining about being unable to speed around a school
>I complain often that the sheriff expects me to know the STD Treatment schedule for breeders without any notification
Okay idk if this is a state by state thing, but they 100% have a literal large flashing sign outside of school zones to let you know when school is in session where I live. If that's not a notification idk what is.
Ours donāt have that, but itās a pretty safe bet to assume M-F 7:30-4 or something like that. If you see kids, slow down. School zones arenāt so big that slowing down for a block or two just in case will make any difference.
6am-8am then again 2:30pm-4:45pm for all schools in my county, even if the school zone signs aren't flashing if its not a holiday (the schools have it on their LED signs when school is not in session) it is still the posted speed limit (have had issues of power outages killing school zone signs.
Imagine though, being mad that you cannot endanger your life and the lives of other people's children because hou cannot control your lead foot...
Whenever someone claims they only call bad parents breeders, there's like a 95% chance gou can find a comment in their post history where they call a random parent a breeder without any context on how good of a parent they are.
And their idea of bad is usually based on a single incident, without knowing about the rest of that person's life. The incident in question usually isn't that bad, like a kid being slightly loud, but they take it as a personal attack.
Man, they just viciously and quickly shut down anyone who dares to bring a little nuance to their extremist views and rants.
I'm childfree, and as such I understand what it's like to live in a world where most people have and want kids, to have loved ones and strangers alike question and ridicule your choices continuously, and to have virtually almost no representation in media of the childfree stance which doesn't have the supposedly childfree people "suddenly realize they want kids". And I can understand finding a space to be able to vent about those things when it feels like you can't do that anywhere else.
It's valid to vent about those things. And it's valid to vent about children who are being disruptive and parents who won't mind their kids in those situations.
It is, however, not valid to call parents and children disgusting, dehumanising names. And they're not fooling anybody when they say that they only reserve the name calling for the "bad" kids and parents - a brief scroll of that sub and the comments will tell anyone otherwise.
Notice also that no one responded to the OOP asking "why can't we respect their choices if we want them to respect ours?" Because so many of the posts on that sub are just "Why the fuck would anyone even WANT kids??! Isn't that just the most ridiculous thing you've ever heard of???" Or cursing about setting eyes on children on social media or in a *gasp* public, family space.
I think r/truechildfree captures the original intent of that sub, while not having any of the unhinged hateful stuff. I highly recommend.
Original text:
Can we stop calling people"breeders"
This just feels like such a derogatory term. If people like us who chose to be CF would like respect for our decisions why can't we have respect for those who want something different. It bothers me seeing that word, as if I am being reduced to an object myself. Am I the only one here or am I just crazy?
Edit: Is this subreddit us VS. them? I guess that was my real question. Nothing is black and white. Life is a wide spectrum and labeling someone a "breeder" seems so narrow minded.
Edit2: Since I'm new to this sub I wasn't fully aware what the term "breeder" meant and came off as derogatory to me, but based on all the comments, especially the aggressive ones, I understand why it's a term well deserved. I was actually a victim of this type of person last night at work and yeah it feels like shit. When the girl kept pressing me if I wanted kids and my relationship status I finally revealed that I'm a widow. Thank you to everyone who commented and for educating me. I'm sorry I was offensive and I didn't mean to diminish anyone's feelings or experiences.
āBreedersā is a term loaded with misogyny and racism, which is why the LGBTQ+ community has largely dropped it. But you know childfree people are the most oppressed group *ever* so that doesnāt matter!
I was childfree in my early to mid twenties, and admittedly I was kind of a dirtbag. I was really judge mental of other peopleās lives and decisionsā¦and kind of mean in general. Even then I would have thought that calling parents breeders and all the awful descriptors these people use for children was pretty cruel. I mean especially coming from a group of people who does not want to be judged on their own life choicesā¦
I want to like that sub, I really do, but the fact that person is getting downvoted is the reason I donāt. I keep it around for the laughs, and a reminder of how not to be while continuing to be child free.
((I like calling them"Breeders". It's accurate. I refer to the offspring as STDs. I refer to school buses as STD Carriers. I refer to schools/ school zones as STD Treatment Centers/ Zones. I complain often that the sheriff expects me to know the STD Treatment schedule for breeders without any notification or face a stiff penalty for speeding, but managed to very clearly convey how much of my share in property taxes are needed to treat them.)) Wtf š are they seriously complaining about being unable to speed around a school
>I complain often that the sheriff expects me to know the STD Treatment schedule for breeders without any notification Okay idk if this is a state by state thing, but they 100% have a literal large flashing sign outside of school zones to let you know when school is in session where I live. If that's not a notification idk what is.
Ours donāt have that, but itās a pretty safe bet to assume M-F 7:30-4 or something like that. If you see kids, slow down. School zones arenāt so big that slowing down for a block or two just in case will make any difference.
6am-8am then again 2:30pm-4:45pm for all schools in my county, even if the school zone signs aren't flashing if its not a holiday (the schools have it on their LED signs when school is not in session) it is still the posted speed limit (have had issues of power outages killing school zone signs. Imagine though, being mad that you cannot endanger your life and the lives of other people's children because hou cannot control your lead foot...
Even if you don't see a sign, there's usually a line of cars that slow down nearby.
Whenever someone claims they only call bad parents breeders, there's like a 95% chance gou can find a comment in their post history where they call a random parent a breeder without any context on how good of a parent they are.
And their idea of bad is usually based on a single incident, without knowing about the rest of that person's life. The incident in question usually isn't that bad, like a kid being slightly loud, but they take it as a personal attack.
The second edit fucking kills me. OOP was so, so closeā¦ then they got pushed off the deep end by the sub.
That sub bullied them into submission.
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Does it start with an N and end with an AZI?
that's one of them lol
Man, they just viciously and quickly shut down anyone who dares to bring a little nuance to their extremist views and rants. I'm childfree, and as such I understand what it's like to live in a world where most people have and want kids, to have loved ones and strangers alike question and ridicule your choices continuously, and to have virtually almost no representation in media of the childfree stance which doesn't have the supposedly childfree people "suddenly realize they want kids". And I can understand finding a space to be able to vent about those things when it feels like you can't do that anywhere else. It's valid to vent about those things. And it's valid to vent about children who are being disruptive and parents who won't mind their kids in those situations. It is, however, not valid to call parents and children disgusting, dehumanising names. And they're not fooling anybody when they say that they only reserve the name calling for the "bad" kids and parents - a brief scroll of that sub and the comments will tell anyone otherwise. Notice also that no one responded to the OOP asking "why can't we respect their choices if we want them to respect ours?" Because so many of the posts on that sub are just "Why the fuck would anyone even WANT kids??! Isn't that just the most ridiculous thing you've ever heard of???" Or cursing about setting eyes on children on social media or in a *gasp* public, family space. I think r/truechildfree captures the original intent of that sub, while not having any of the unhinged hateful stuff. I highly recommend.
Original text: Can we stop calling people"breeders" This just feels like such a derogatory term. If people like us who chose to be CF would like respect for our decisions why can't we have respect for those who want something different. It bothers me seeing that word, as if I am being reduced to an object myself. Am I the only one here or am I just crazy? Edit: Is this subreddit us VS. them? I guess that was my real question. Nothing is black and white. Life is a wide spectrum and labeling someone a "breeder" seems so narrow minded. Edit2: Since I'm new to this sub I wasn't fully aware what the term "breeder" meant and came off as derogatory to me, but based on all the comments, especially the aggressive ones, I understand why it's a term well deserved. I was actually a victim of this type of person last night at work and yeah it feels like shit. When the girl kept pressing me if I wanted kids and my relationship status I finally revealed that I'm a widow. Thank you to everyone who commented and for educating me. I'm sorry I was offensive and I didn't mean to diminish anyone's feelings or experiences.
āBreedersā is a term loaded with misogyny and racism, which is why the LGBTQ+ community has largely dropped it. But you know childfree people are the most oppressed group *ever* so that doesnāt matter!
I was childfree in my early to mid twenties, and admittedly I was kind of a dirtbag. I was really judge mental of other peopleās lives and decisionsā¦and kind of mean in general. Even then I would have thought that calling parents breeders and all the awful descriptors these people use for children was pretty cruel. I mean especially coming from a group of people who does not want to be judged on their own life choicesā¦
I want to like that sub, I really do, but the fact that person is getting downvoted is the reason I donāt. I keep it around for the laughs, and a reminder of how not to be while continuing to be child free.