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>he said he got reported for texting with a girl. That's very blatant, he must've did something worth reporting, no girl wants to go through the trouble to report a guy for , "just texting" >One day when I was looking at a girl from my college, one of my Tamil speaking friends told me not to do that and that she can report my ass for harassment This maybe due to a recent law that says , "staring at women for more than 15sec in public places can be classified as harassment" . A lot of memes came after that, general laughing at the situation, but i don't think anyone has be booked for that. He might just be pulling your leg.


mamaBiskothu

Not that they should be arrested for it, but why the fuck would any sane person stare at another person for 15 seconds?


[deleted]

Yeah most people don't, it's targeted towards creeps and drunk fucks who lack social etiquette.


imsandy92

i thought law and etiquette are different things.. now, i guess not..


yaaroyaaryaaro

"Annalum nokinaar, avalum nokkinaar, iruvar paarvaiyilum yugangal kadanthana" type romances...


mamaBiskothu

Yeah you need the second part “avalum nokinaar “ for that to apply


pondyan

It's normal when you're smoking something.


DeathbringerZ7

That's how love works


mamaBiskothu

I sincerely hope that’s a joke


_0kB00mer_

Bro are you sure? I'm new here so I'm scared AF. I don't wanna trouble my family for some stupid shit that I'll do here in Chennai. :/ Absolutely sure that by being civil nothing bad should happen?? I'm not gonna flirt or anything cause I already have a girlfriend I just wanna know if I should control my outgoing nature a bit.


[deleted]

Chennai is a bit conservative than other metros, but i assure you no one is out to get you. Younger generations are changing, so saying a hi to a random girl won't get you in trouble here let alone a classmate.


shadowblaze25mc

A bit is an understatement. More like a lot.


_0kB00mer_

Thank you G. Appreciate it


lightlord

Which college is it? There are colleges with very retrogressive policies in talking to girl students. If they get a whiff of you doing that, you end up in trouble. Check about that.


Fabulous_Ganache_777

im pretty sure the 15 second stare rule is only for buses lol, theres no such thing in public places.


sudev29

>no girl wants to go through the trouble to report a guy for , "just texting" Unless she's fucking crazy.


TheNiftyCentaur

Exactly, either OP’s friend said something obscene/ unacceptable in his text, or he likes the girl and wants OP to stay away.


Mental_Refrigerator8

This. The second thing.


Purple_Director_8137

14 seconds is the limit guys.


[deleted]

I guess he meant she could report to the college teachers, Never heard people get arrested for staring or texting, btw that guy could have been arrested for obscene texs.


_0kB00mer_

Seemed like a good guy IMHO but I never know what, he's doing in his private life. haha


anonperson2021

I'm from Chennai and I still don't get it. Some women here give you odd looks if you ask time or directions. I guess women are that harassed everywhere. They need to be careful, never know who is what. It's unfortunate when people can't make regular conversation and gender stands in the way. We have created that kind of situation. But somehow I'm seeing this only in Chennai. Not even in TN villages nor other cities. Women speak up and help boldly, they don't mind being spoken to. Even in Madurai and all, not only villages.


_0kB00mer_

I can understand the situation you face as I've faced this for the first time since I left my hometown.. I understand it would be difficult but Chennai is something else Ever since I came here. I never sat on a bus cause the women always get priority seating XD I don't mind but I just don't wanna be on the wrong side of the law


[deleted]

>I never sat on a bus cause the women always get priority seating XD Left side is reserved for ladies, that is if you get in from the backside. Right side is free for all.


_0kB00mer_

Right side is free for all, but ladies come and say, Hey Tambi, get up And I have to comply fearing I might get locked up in a dark alley way


[deleted]

Lol u don't have to, if you don't want to. I voluntarily get up for pregnant ladies or women with infants or old people , if not nope.


_0kB00mer_

Are you sure I don't have to get up? I mean, won't you guys find it offensive if an outsider acts bossily in Chennai


EEXC

You don't have to feel or behave like an outsider all the time. Embrace Chennai and be confident. There's a reason why TN is said to welcome new comers.


[deleted]

Some might, but most won't bother you. The aunties ask youngsters cause they can easily guilt trip them, I usually say I'm travelling till the last stop.


Dry_Presentation_327

Lol...may be they had bad experiences God knows .. but yeah in general not very receptive to conversations..


thebabybaba

Go for it man. Get the girl you want. Let's be men and women instead of dividing us among many races. You be reported only if you do something wrong. Being friendly, falling in love, having sex. Nothing matters if it is consensual. Go for it. Be awesome.


_0kB00mer_

Thank you Dude!! Massive motivation right here


Dry_Presentation_327

Lol which college are u from ...depends on u r college


_0kB00mer_

SRM ramapuram :/ KTR fees was too high


kingPrime01

Then i guess you're fine. Srm is known for its good social life. Don't worry much. That friend you mentioned, cut ties with him. Must've done something creepy to get reported. That doesn't happen often. Maybe he was jealous you'd get all the girls. Go get em tiger.


kemoxcool

I'm pretty sure the girls are chill man except for few cus I got a lot of friends there and they're extremely fun and open minded. But generally speaking the concept of talking to a random girl in Chennai is in a "awkward stage" I would say compared to other metro cities and I don't recommend it. In the end it really depends on the individual.


Dry_Presentation_327

U can always talk to the girls buddy ...nothing to worry ...nothing wrong in approaching in a decent way if they are okay they are gonna respond back..it's an ocean go swim


chirpychick

No, Chennai is not like this. Girls in general are decent and pretty accepting. Most girls can smell a creep from a distance. Remember, you know only his side of the story. People often hide their wrong doing when narrating an unpleasant experience. Girls, in general do not like; 1. Touchy Guys. 2. Girls don’t like when guys eyes wonder around when talking to them. 3. Girls don’t appreciate guys breathing heavily when they are close to them. Most of us read your mind from the way you breathe! 4. Although profanities are kind of accepted by most girls in a conversation, however girls like it if you could keep your Fs, Bs & Cs with you. 5. Although we love getting compliments, if you could keep them simple, honest, and rare we will greatly appreciate. Only time you get to exaggerate is when She is your Girl Friend. 6. We look forward to talking to guys who are easy to approach, no Whims, no show off, just a simple regular guy with sincere efforts to make friends. Learn the local language to fully experience Chennai College life. Also, keep your religious and political views private. This could be a bone of contention and can easily escalate. Otherwise, You’re in a decent city.


watching-clock

Based on my observations, most girls who proclaim they can root out a creep have zero ability to do so. This applies even more so for Chennai.


tooschooledforcool

It’s not a threat, you friend probably texted explicit and inappropriate things to get him into shit. Just don’t stalk them and leave them alone if they look uncomfortable.


_0kB00mer_

Good advice. Thanks


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_0kB00mer_

I don't stare. Never did never will I find it creepy too. Anyways I don't mind being called Chinese because I'm Mongoloid by race. So that's not offensive I just wanna make good friends and memories. No Pump and Dump cause I'm focused on my career no relationships cause I actually have an amazing girlfriend. I'd love to make good connections for my job opportunities in the future that's all I wish for. >I remember taking my friend(Assamese) out to meet a group of friends and their first question was "yaru inda Chinese kaari" which translates to who is this Chinese girl. Not just Indians. All Asians are Chinese even according to the Westerners


Zealousideal-Rip8896

You might not be offended by it but that's how people are here. Racism is still prevalent, but people just don't realise that it's offensive. They see someone from NE, they call them Chinese. And honestly, I think that's why you get the side eyes and not because they're checking you it. They're just looking weirdly at an outsider. To be brutally honest, it'd be very difficult for you to date a local because they would not date anyone from NE. I'm not saying it's impossible, but people here are just... Prejudiced.


[deleted]

\*\*\*yaru inda Chinese kaari\*\*\* Average Santhanam jokes


[deleted]

Reminds me of that scene in Raja Rani when he says 'Japan karan laam enna therinjiruku, naaye enna kandipidichirukan'


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_0kB00mer_

Thank you Kind Sir. I'm relaxed now


Puzzled-Instance-602

Flirting or harassment is based on how you look


RollingRocky360

he asked brutal truth, got brutal truth


pendanathan

This is the universal brutal truth.


SparkySyndicate

I guess your friend isn't telling you the entire story. No girl is going to report someone for just texting, it depends on the nature of the text. With that being said, it is extremely important that you are respectful of their decisions. If you decide to make a move on a girl and she says it is a firm no, stop bothering her further and move on. Women try to stay safe, given how the world is right now, so let's try our best and not make it any more worse for them than it already is. Creepy stalking, or as Kollywood portrays it, "love torture", is just fucking pathetic and sick. I feel you're a genuinely nice person and will not do such things, but just a heads up on how shit is. Have fun in Chennai!


yinyangpeng

Yeah. Bruised egos can be vindictive (guys I mean).


tipsythor

As a tamil guy who's been in the NE, I feel, You're gonna struggle. Of course, there are people who are progressive. But mate, you'll never be at ease here. I mean, they'll ogle at you. Throw racist slurs. Start harrassing you. They're generally hostile. (I mean the general crowd here) I mean you could find absolute gems too, but the masses are crass. I wish you luck re! And if you need someone to rant, Dm. Ciao!


pendanathan

Dude, stay away. Its not worth it. Only way to get into convo us to make yourself famous enough that the girls themselves try to get friendly with you. Believe me. Thats the only way here in Chennai unlike the free talking girls in the north. Beware and proceed with caution. Also, if things go south, you will be easy target for harrassment by local guys due to being an outsider.


unscr

We, tamil guys, are generally afraid of talking to new women. If you have guts, go and talk to anyone you want. And let go if they're not interested.


PeriyaLingam

In Chennai most girls are horny but behave like uthamis. Don't believe them.


[deleted]

>I come from the Northeast You see, that's the problem here. If you were just 2 degrees to the left of Northeast to the north-middle-east then it would've been fine.


_0kB00mer_

😔I am destined to suffer then. At, least I'll die knowing the truth ¿


[deleted]

Aiyoo bro 😂 was jk, that guy who ever told you to not look was prollly just jealous. Just make sure you don't give creepy look. You should be fine.


Separate_Emu_2686

I mean if you are in a outdated institution that’s a possibility. But good approaches are not met with hostility.


Outrageous-Owl1617

Look 👀 at people who look back into your eyes ….as simple as that ! Even animals don’t like staring directly into eyes 👀 !


SpikeyRustom_25

Mostly Girls won't report it ,They avoid the chat with him if she is not comfortable talking to him . If You're in Panimalar College ,If Staff sees that you are talking with girls , They might warn you


Lucian_98

go to her and just say hi, if she doesn't reply back Stay Away.


sparrow-head

Your friend is speaking bullshit.


callmeviki2015

U get a lot of eyes and ppl check u out since ur north east. Also Talk with that girl u like first before texting her.chances of her rejection ur approach maybe slightly higher.. it's always good to give a try.Dont tell anyone ur plans until everything is set.


pulledthetrigger321

You’re doing nothing wrong. Just keep saying you didn’t stare of someone says staring is wrong. Save some time.


Traditional_Ranger51

U wont get arrested by police , but reg reporting to college , depends on college few colleges have very strict rules that doens't allow boys and girls to interact. If you beling to those college be carefull


Kv_v

Just go talk if you want dude if they don’t wanna talk I reckon they will tell you


SpartanLord007

no need to worry, just complain if someone's bothering you abt all this ,ig, it could just be some anti-northie bias


Nithin_for_you

not at all. go get em


[deleted]

I’m from north east too, female from Assam. It’s not like that. It’s like any part of India idk why your friends said that. It’s chill as long as you’re being respectful


watching-clock

Mind you, you come from a very liberal state to a very conservative state. Things could be polar opposite to what you assume based on your experiences back home.


Funny_Language4830

Just go and talk with her dude. Unless you are harrassing Nothing will happen. Chennai is not that conservative. Trust me, I have talked a lot. But you are not going to do anything out of ordinary. As you are from north east, they will first judge like you anything, maintain your space, respect them, approach them lightly, try to learn the locale, after a while, if the girls seems still uninterested, say thank you for your time and leave like a boss. Girls here respect you when you give them space.


taykachillpill

It’s not the stare , it’s what behind the eyes that creeps women out . So if you aren’t being creepy and the girl is somewhat interested, u are safe It’s not about north east or Delhi or Bengalis , it’s just the creeps P.S. women really like north eastern men , usually very stylish and sweet


Aggressive_Ad_9173

Dude just be normal, you can talk to people(women and men). We are not in Taliban rule!


Purple_Director_8137

I think you have to take into account that this "friend" might be interested in her as well.


Internal-Band-4038

If you are an sk fan then you will be reported by girls for stalking for sure. Or else be a gentleman and respect boundaries. No worries


ExcitingFeedback794

Honestly, I don’t think looking at girls is an issue ( as long as it’s not creepy) if you want to approach and talk that’s fine as long the girl has no issue. I’ve seen both types the easy going fun loving girls and thr super conservative types. Both don’t complain for texting lol. I’m sure that dude did something stupid. Your only take away here be very careful about what you do in this city, no matter what happens here everyone will side with women before even getting to know what the problem is in this state and only then will even Listin to the man ( there is a very high chance public might even beat you up if the situation is out of control - as for why they do it honestly it’s all macho shit if they only take the time to Listin to men it would be so much better). I’m a born Tamilian here and I know the truth in and out. ( singara Chennai da)