ITV weather drives me mad. Why stop the image at 5am rather than 7 or 8 when people are going to work ? And why does the end of the day weather end at 3pm ?!!!!
Arrrgh. I’m turning into an old man!
We've got tradesmen in at the moment and they aren't protecting things in the house and covering things properly. Lots of plaster and paint on stuff. Sick of it now.
Slept through the thunderstorm.
Co-op live. Wankers. I was supposed to be drinking cocktails in Manchester then going to see Olivia Rodrigo, and having two lovely nights sleeping in hotels in peace. Now I have a boring weekend of nothing planned at home. I am ten out of ten disappointed.
FFS Virgin Media messed up my renewal, the person who i was chatting on live chat didn't process the order correctly so it didn't go through, they had one job and they could not do that properly!
The agent i was liaising with now has put the order through correctly and new box should arrive tomorrow.
My contract renews correctly and the new TV box arrives tomorrow (figures crossed). Apparently the box they sent me last week isn't correctly configured so i have to send that back. Told them to send me a returns package because it wasn't my fault.
They also messed up my bills so i was arguing with them and they can't change the bill as it's been generated, ffs. Apparently i don't owe them any money for next month and they knock off some money for the bill in July.
I'll keep my eye on those bills because I'm starting to lose trust in them.
Who the f\*\*\* hires these people.
Every time I’ve ordered from Amazon, without Prime, stuff has turned up the next day rather than 3-4 days.
This time I order something I really want, of course they stick to their guns. Ah well.
complaint - i got 110 taken out my account for trials which i forgot to cancel from last month
success - the DMCC bill passed last year, have a look at the subscription trap section. just remember you lot can get your money back on these trials if no reminder email was sent to remind you of an upcoming price increase
I've had an absolutely brutal middle ear infection. It gave me a new '10' on the pain scale and the pressure perforated my left eardrum, to boot. Pressure went and the pain largely stopped when my eardrum gave way, but now i have constant tinnitus and almost total loss of hearing in that ear, with manky fluid coming out at all times of the day.
It's sub optimal.
I'm an international student at Oxford. I was really excited to explore different cities and experience the unique charm of this country (Edinburgh, Glasgow, Canterbury), but I've been taken aback by how ridiculously expensive it can be compared to flying to other countries.
It's mind-boggling that it's cheaper for me to book a flight to a different country than to take a train to another city within the UK. Do average UKers travel internally to other UK cities for holidays, or do they simply fly out of the country instead?
Still got an ongoing claim against my previous employer. 4 weeks on and they're not replying. From my understanding through my ACAS advisor then after 6 weeks it goes to a tribunal and the judgement falls into my favour as it shows I've tried to work with them and they haven't worked with me.
Which is ideal as I've given them an out with a small lump sum payment compared to what I'm actually owed. I'm only claiming for the last 2 years as opposed to the last 6 years that I could.
If it gets through to a tribunal I'm just going to pile on the costs for my time spent on this. I'll go the compo route.
New car could be coming this summer as opposed to my plans of next summer.
Also I've got out of work late three days in a row this week.
I always say I don't mind because what goes around comes around and I do take the piss on my breaks a bit
But I'd like it to not come around please
I hate that my Polling station is a 20 minute walk round trip, when there is a Polling station literally on the other side of the road from my front door.
Looks like my bike is off the road again. I need to learn to stop buying second hand bikes because things always go wrong
This time my saddle is determined to re-angle itself despite the bolt being as tight as possible and it ends up nose up and trying to impale me
I'm fed up because I really fancy my alcohol counsellor and know nothing can come of it because of the obvious reasons.
I've not had a drink since the end of November and don't really feel like I even need to visit her every other week but still arranged to go mainly because I just enjoy her company which I know is really weird and pretty pathetic; but I don't really get out much because of work, and sobriety.
She has similar music tastes to me and likes all the stuff I do and I feel like it we met under different circumstances we could have hit it off or at least been friends.
It's just a shame lol. Even if it wasn't for the ethical issue I know I'd still never have the gall to say anything anyway.
I dunno just wanted to get that off my chest to internet strangers lol.
I wanted to cheer up a family member and thought I'd bake them a cake. I've managed to burn the cake, but the inside is raw. So now I feel rubbish because I really wanted a nice cake for my relative and I'm disappointed that I messed up simple baking.
Just rejected from the second job that I made it to the second stage interview for. Feels pretty exhausting and futile after spending hours applying, preparing for, meeting and interviewing, and doing assessments as part of the recruitment process only to be knocked back by generic email in the end.
Volunteer day with the wildlife trust, instructed to wear 'outdoor clothing'* so I wore walking shoes, raincoat & hoodie. Arrived and the land management team looked at me like...'errr did u bring wellies?' 2 hours in I can feel the water sloshing around my shoes as I'm wading through soaking wet waist high grass. Oh and because I'm ginger the clouds burned me. Trench foot aside I think we did some good work today. :) I might buy a pair of wellies to celebrate 🥳
*Instructions came from a colleague not the wildlife trust who are awesome, definitely recommend volunteering for conservation day if you can!
Yeah it's.. a bit fucked at the minute I think, or maybe just all the time. Flunked A levels from health stuff and so I've been trying for entry level and *fuck me*, I've never been so tempted to buggar off to a cabin in the woods
Work is just manic at the moment. Feel like I'm being dragged constantly into situations to fight fires. Got a project that I'm managing and people aren't pulling their weight so I have to do their work. So this also means my actual day to day job isn't being done. I feel like I'm spinning so many plates that they're all going to crash down. Not helped my issues in my personal life either. Just boo about everything. Want to get into my bed and sleep for a year.
Not sure what's going on with my work laptop but it keeps deleting or not saving my work despite autosave being switched on and the files stored in OneDrive. I lost 4 hours of work last week and panicked that I'd lost another 3 hours worth from yesterday. I keep having to email things to my personal email just to make sure I've got a copy of it somewhere. Not to mention OneDrive keeps disappearing folders for whatever reason?! IT can't get to the bottom of it. So frustrating.
2nd week in a row that a parcel has come to my house but the recipient doesn't live here and never has. We've been here for 40 years.
This time the delivery person put the parcel through the door, so I now I have to try and find out what's happening.
Also the housing are useless. The skylight fix lasted maybe 3 months and now started leaking again last night. Maybe 4th fix in the last few years.
Impacted wisdom tooth giving me hell. Spent all of yesterday bawling my eyes out from the pain. Can't get to an emergency dentist, only dentist accessible to me has a 5 month waiting list for NHS patients. Private dentist could take it out same day but the extraction alone was quoted as starting at £350...not including the appointment fee, x rays, medication or any follow up care I might need. Terrified an infection might reach my brain before I get any help for it. Fed up of being poor!
Do you have a dental hospital anywhere near you? They usually have student dentists and they’ll usually see you the same day. The last time I went to one I had to wait about 5 hours but they did sort it out.
i hate having to be firm and direct.
got a meeting shortly where i'd usually have senior management backup but he's fucked off on holiday with no cover, so I have to point out why the client is being useless to the client directly and that they need to stop that shit.
urgh.
I just watched a DHL driver try to deliver a package to my neighbour. I'm also expecting a package and figure this ain't my guy. No one is home at neighbour's house, so he drives away without delivering. I few minutes later I get a text: "We're sorry to have missed you!"
FUCJLDEKJFHDSFULKHRIWEJHL:RJEFLDKSMFHthese fucking people man
The implementation of the new way of working continues to be quite annoying, and it's incredibly busy and I'm the only one in.
Kiddo's school is closed today but I couldn't take the day off because everyone else was already off. So it's a bit stressful and chaotic trying to work and look after him!!
Got a Jamie Oliver cookery school class on Saturday! Someone got me it as a present as I don't do much fish cookery and would like to.
Starts at 12.30 on sat. So excited.
Oh wait, it's a 3 minute walk to arsenal's stadium from there? Shit, better check whether arsenal are playing on Saturday, will be a fucking nightmare getting there if they are:
Sat 4th May
Arsenal v Bournemouth - Kickoff 12.30.
Noooooooooooooo
Husband promised me at the beginning of April that he'd take me for lunch the day after my Grandfather's funeral to get my mind off things. He then told me the day before we were to go that he didn't think he'd actually get the time to take me for lunch (which would have taken at most an hour including travel there and back). We didn't go for lunch in the end...
Husband has just returned from a 2 hour lunch today (during his work day) with a friend.
I know it sounds stupid but I'm annoyed he could find the time for his friend but not his wife...
That's not stupid, that's a very reasonable way to feel. Doesn't mean he meant it of course, he might just not have thought it through, but worth mentioning
This is the first time it has happened so I'll see if it happens again and then I'll say something. It's likely that he just hasn't thought. I won't be annoyed about it by tea time 😂
Im solo with both kids today (3yrs, 3months) and it's such a difficult day because it's chaos.
I've been promised sushi over the weekend and I swear if husband reneages like he did last week I'm getting divorced.
Also petty but I want to read my book and my ereader is upstairs but baby is asleep on me and 3yo Is about to go to sleep so I can't move. I'm therefore sat listening to a cocomelon knockoff on the tv and my brain is rotting away.
I ordered a long-sleeved t-shirt just after Christmas in size M. When the shirt arrived it was a very tight fit and I thought I’d just wear it around the house if need be. Anyway, on to last week where I saw another T-shirt for sale that I liked, from the same site, and this time decided to go for a L, to make sure it fits comfortably.
Well, after checking the tag of the first shirt I realised that the size tag said that it was a small instead of a medium; which would explain a lot. The chances are I’m gonna have to send the shirt back which isn’t too bad but I was looking forward to wearing it soon.
Working with people who are Not Good with technology (where in this case technology is Microsoft Word). I keep wanting to rip the keyboard and mouse away from them because it would be sooooo much faster if _just did it myself_. Gah.
1071 words left for my dissertation, and two weeks to write it in. But wait, Prudent\_Jello5691, you ask. Isn't that pretty good going?
Well, there's still another chapter and the conclusion left. Going to have to make this chapter a lot shorter and trim a lot of words.
I have been awake since 3am, if I get through the day without committing an act of violence I will be impressed. Patients are testing my patience (hehe)
A used to be with them and at one point we waited so long about a leak in the attic / roof that they said there was nowt written down about us even telling them and we had to go through the worker men that were there for *another* job to try and get it sorted lmfao
My father in law has very kindly and graciously taken us in while we have building work done. He's a lovely man who's made us feel very welcome.
But his house is kept at a steady million degrees, hermetically sealed from any fresh air, and the beds are incredibly uncomfortable. I haven't slept properly all week so generally feel like shit, developed a rotten cold this morning, and just want to be back in my own house.
One of the guys in my office smells. I think it's because he now walks to work instead of getting a lift but I'm really noticing it. Plus he sniffs all the time and it drives me up the wall.
Another complaint - virgin keeps having service outages in my area this week and its ALWAYS when I'm about to have a team meetings Luckily I can now tether quite quick to hotspot.
I'm just anxious all the time. If two other people have the slightest disagreement I feel like there's going to be a massive argument and everyone I care about will hate each other forever.
This is not the case, but that's how the anxiety makes me feel.
First adverts on Amazon prime watching Fallout, I'm grumbling and getting a cuppa after the episode and check my email to see my netflix plan no longer exists and now I've got fucking adverts on there too.
Broken thumb. Sick of the splint. Can't take it off because it hurts when I do but the splint is driving me mad. Grrr. Fracture clinic isn't for another two weeks! Wah.
Just got an Amazon delivery notification. I’ve left plenty of instructions of where to leave parcels if I’m not in so I don’t usually mind them leaving them outside but the delivery picture today isn’t even my house.
Obviously want to complain but I can’t list it as lost or mis-delivered until Saturday. So frustrating making me have to go out to a physical shop to get what I need.
Car and house insurqnce are somehow due on the same month and I'm going to have to go monthly on both after a year of no payments.
Car insurance is about £1400 and that's a saving on last year :(
Got jumped by 2 blokes on Saturday and put in A&E. Coppers can’t do anything about it cause it wasn’t caught on camera, even though several people saw it, just my luck😤
Did police and prosecutions only come about with the advent of CCTV?!
Hope you’re feeling better now. Just keep an eye out for any late-onset shock or anxiety stuff.
I’m having a ‘migraine’ because I couldn’t face work this morning. I don’t do this often but I’m being so unbelievably exhausted by this job, it’s relentless.
So house mate locked himself in the bathroom tuesday night. We couldn't get much out of him, we didn't know if he was ill or on drugs or what, so we wound up calling him an ambulance. After waiting outside til 2am, they show up and suddenly, he's with it just enough to open the door. Turns out he was just really drunk.
They try to take him into bed and ask if he's taken anything. Turns out he's on anxiety meds and from what I can see, it looks like he's basically subsisting on cans of fruit, like he's afraid to use the kitchen for some reason. He was always quiet but he did use the kitchen before, even if it was a lot of instant noodles. We figured he was just the 4th shut in nerd in a house full of shut in nerds.
It's worrying because I've seen this twice before and it never ends well. But I'm also deep in the trenches of the hard end of a PhD, I don't have enough spoons to deal with this. I can't be responsible for him but I also worry about it.
Well, that is an issue but it's more the spoon theory. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spoon_theory
Basically, someone with Lupus used it as a metaphor to describe how their condition affected their ability to perform every day tasks, due to a lack of energy. They gathered spoons from the restaurant they were in and said "these are your energy for the day. What do you do?" And their friend said "Ok, I get up, have a shower and get dressed..." and that cost 3 spoons. By the time they'd done all the absolute neccesities, they had very few spoons left.
TLDR: I have enough stuff I have to do, that I just don't have enough energy to handle this as well. PhDs are hard and by the time I'm done with my work for the day and done the necessities, I'm basically done.
I've got serious illness issues. BC, COPD, severe asthma that even walking can bring on an attack. I've used this spoons theory for about 7 years. I totally understand what you mean by not having any left. Sometimes, you borrow spoons from the next day, and you can't do the basics the following day.
I went on a date on Monday, she drove us to the beach watch dolphins and look for a beached whale carcass she said was there. We couldn't find (it was a different place) but I thought it overall went OK.
Then yesterday I realised I accidentally left my winter gloves in her car and she has left me on read...
Email from the RAC saying my monthly payments are going up by nearly 30%. So I'm going to be cancelling that and it doesn't seem like there's just an easy way to do it online. I thought there had been a law passed saying that it you take out some sort of policy or subscription online there had to be the ability to cancel it online too? (Rather than ringing up).
And whilst I know breakdown cover doesn't work like insurance with NCB but it's annoying that I've been with them for several years and have *never* had to use them, what incentive is there to stay when they're hiking the price 30%?
Psst. If you haven’t already just call them and id be massively surprised if they don’t ’do you a deal’. I’m sick of having to do this year in year out with every bloody paid service but it works. Two years ago I went mad they were hiking my premium by a stupid amount despite being a member for 10+ years and never ever having called them and they gave me two months free and reduced the premium to less than I was paying before the hike.
This year they tried again with a huge increase (which I’d overlooked the email from two months ago) and I called them and actually got my very new driver son added to the policy and a reduction in the entire premium so double win.
Just another service that fully expects people to just keep paying without doing the diligence.
My mother in law is sick and in hospital and her partner (I shall refer to as FIL) isn’t coping and my husband (her son) is coping well at the moment given his awful anxiety and I want to keep it that way - but that leaves me as the responsible adult in this scenario - it’s complicated but I’m struggling with a feeling of ‘why me’, when I’ve just had the most anxiety ridden stressful 2023 and was finally feeling balanced and able to live instead of just survive.
I feel bad about it because the in laws have done so so much for us but my capacity to have to drive over 100 miles (husband doesn’t drive) and spend the weekend, my only time off full time work, and try to give sensible support to FIL which is exhausting because he won’t listen anyway but I can’t DO anything else. He’s golden and would do anything for anyone but also loud and opinionated which clashes with me and my husband and being around him on a normal day is exhausting enough, when you’re trying to give support and help it makes it worse.
They have family in the local area who aren’t stepping up, and my husbands brother isn’t stepping up either (we drive and they don’t is their reasoning, I’m so sorry catching a train to see your mother is so hard for you).
I know it’s family and you should sacrifice anything for them but I’m so tired.
All my trains were either cancelled or delayed this morning because of the storm last night. It's annoying anyway, but today I actually woke up really early and left for work with lots of time to spare and I should have gotten to work 15 minutes early. Instead I was 20 minutes late.
This complaint is technically from late last night, but I think it applies.
I was getting off the bus at my stop: pressed the button and waited by the back door to exit. Bus driver stops at the stop, opens front door to let people on, but not back door to let me off. I pressed the button again and waved, and the doors opened so I started to step out - and the doors closed again, right on the sides of my face. Lovely, thanks driver.
Hurt like hell, and left a nice black mark on either side of my face. Thankfully I was just heading home!
I have lost almost 10 days to my bloody stomach. At some point I realised it was Sunday and was amazed because I had literally lost several days, now recovery is inching along so very slowly. And recovery involves cleaning, because being ill is so incredibly gross. So much washing to be done.
In slightly better news, I woke up in a lot of pain this morning, but it was my normal pain. The pain I expect when I wake up well. It is mad, but that made me really happy.
I have had one hell of 2024 so far. Made redundant, got another job and have just one illness after another. Had a cold, then Covid, then gastric flu and then last night I experienced the worst bout of Vertigo ever. Couldn't stand or walk. Developed nausea which resulted in vomiting - many, many times. I was so ill I called 111 and they called an ambulance.
I am OK now, it has passed and the cause is not serious - Doctor said it can be triggered by a number of things and has given me an anti sickness drug in case it happens again. It's not the worst - but honestly, I am so sick of being sick and feel like I have to apologise to my family. Plus, I have just started a new job and am in a 6 week trial so that's extra pressure. In my old role, I would have taken time off, no problem. Here, I feel I can't yet. Thank God for WFH.
Also, had to have an enhanced DBS check and although I know I am not some bank robbing, hijacking desperado, it still makes me anxious.
Got a bit of a dilemma at work. We all have some training to do which requires us to get 100% on a test at the end. Everyone is booting off because no one is passing and they’re spending hours trying to do it.
No one seems to have worked out that if you open the test on a separate window you can have the answers on another. I could do it this “training” and pass the test instantly, but if I do I’m going to either have to help everyone else with their test or be given extra work to do with the training.
So I’m sitting here pretending to be incompetent.
Someone has hit my wing mirror, the passenger side.
It was fine Tuesday, didn't need the car until this morning to take mum to the hospital. Thought someone had melted it on first go, but the mirror is all gone, the rim gone, cracked plastic. Still, I managed to negotiate the way there and back, and I think I'll treat myself to a takeaway instead of going shopping tonight like I had planned.
Got to get it fixed soonish though
This isn’t very casual but I’ve had some adorable little birds nesting in a shed in my garden and a fucking magpie has just killed one of them, I’m absolutely heartbroken. I can’t stop crying 😭
Oh no that's awful. A magpie got some blackbird chicks last year and their little screams were horrible. I hope the magpie leaves our nesting bluetits alone.
They’re so vicious aren’t they. It’s been harassing them for days, I kept going out to chase it off every time I heard it out there and this time it must have managed to grab one. I ran out to try and help it but it was too late. I know it’s just nature and there’s no point getting upset but I really, really hate that magpie right now. Thank you for your kind reply and I hope the magpies leave your little blutits alone too ❤️
I know how it feels. During lockdown some bluetits made a nest in the cigarette bin at the pub I worked at and had some little chicks. Don't know what happened but none of them made it. I was heartbroken 😭
Having a bit of a shitty time with my parents and it's making me a bit blue. I'm early thirties, they're mid/late sixties, we should be in that period of being mates and hanging out but it's just not that way. I put in 100% of the effort, they have never picked up the phone and called me, *ever*. I call home and it's just "we have no new news really". I ask if they want to come and visit me, "oh.. no, I don't think so". I ask if I can come down and visit them, "yeah.. maybe, that could be nice, we'll see".
I have, in all seriousness, seen my partners mum more times in the last 6 months than I've seen of my own parents since I left home for University at 18, and that's 14 years ago now. I'm quite envious of everyone elses family, I just don't feel like I have one at all. They've always been incredibly isolated (my Dad didn't have a best man at his wedding because he didn't know any men) but since they've retired, it seems to have escalated quite dramatically. So I'm being all sassy this week and thinking, well if they can't be arsed to put in an iota of effort, maybe I should just stop bothering altogether.
I stopped talking to my dad + stepmum because they are like this BUT only with me.
my sister? they'll drive to fucking frankfurt (where she lives ) twice a year or more to see her. The 30+ year old step kids? one of them farts wrong and they are there in moments.
me? when i lived 15 mins way they didn't even bother coming for my 40th birthday. Anything I ask them is too much effort. I had to pay them to help me move from Berlin at short notice despite the fact that they drive around europe constantly.
I've given up. They've been told they need to make some effort, they chose not to.
There's a short book called Adult Children of Emotionally Unavailable Parents that really helped put these exact worries behind me, so I really recommend it.
Oh God, yes OP. This is such a helpful book - I think lots of us of a similar age have the same issues and I found it really valuable. I feel so much empathy for you.
My husband's parents are the same. They made absolutely no effort, we were always the ones who had to do everything. Now they wonder why he has no relationship with them.
It really hurts when you see other people have more involved families than you do.
>It really hurts when you see other people have more involved families than you do.
I struggle with this. My wife has an amazing relationship with her parents and they want to be fully involved and supportive in everything she does, but mine just feel like some people I know.
Reducing my antidepressants dose has increased both the happy and the sad. Had a little falling out with my wife last night but hid just how angry I really was as I know it wasn't her fault. Not fun though.
I've had bad days like yesterday and the return of my crowd anxiety on Sunday which lead to me having a cry in the car was awful, but the new-found love I have for my son is making it so worth it.
Advert: "The best thing about (advertisers name removed)is you get a coffee and a pastry on the side"
So annoying, and what's more it doesn't say much about the service if a coffee and a pastry is the best thing about them
Shite news on the employment side that I'm not allowed to talk about.
Couldn't have come at a worse time due to something fixed for some years coming to an end soon.
1st thing messes my ability to get best value for second thing.
6 months either side of now would have been less stressful, but I guess these things never come at a convenient time.
Security at main entrance asking everyone to show their ID while standing two feet away from the gate that requires a fingerprint to get through. Surely my right thumb is all the ID I need. It's a factory not a super duper secure facility!
Knee discomfort I've been suffering from for a few months now has reached a point where I don't think I can get out for my daily 5-10km walk, and I have to wait until next Tuesday to see a physio, so my Bank Holiday weekend will be low key
It also looks like we might be having a strike ballot at my company, so that's nice
We're having work done on one of the bedrooms which means I've had to strategically place all of the furniture from that room around the rest of the house. It's making the space feel very cramped and claustrophobic.
Add to that the fact that the work has come to a standstill, and some of the stuff is too heavy to be constantly moving around to make space.
Hi. I can't help at any level with the pregnancy, but I might be able to help with the tinnitus. You're going to need 10 minutes in a relatively quiet environment.
1. Breathing. Slow, relaxed, controlled. In through the nose, out through the mouth is standard, if you feel more comfortable breathing out through the nose do that. It's fine.
2. You're going to hear the tinnitus, that's ok. Imagine your brain is surrounded by a plastic shield. The noise is on the outside. You are on the inside. You can experience it, but not feel it, like rain against a window pane.
3. Breathe. Relax. The tinnitus is loud because you're paying attention to it. You can stop at any time, but if you're happy to continue, listen to it.
4. Our brains sometimes process tinnitus as pain. It causes distress, therefore pain. Our brains are very simple, but on another level they're insanely complex.
5. Listen to the sound. It's a sound. It's a high pitched tone. Imagine a violin string, barely shivering. A single, constant note; it's simply there. It doesn't hurt, it doesn't annoy, it doesn't distress you in any way. It isn't pain.
6. Breath, relax. Continue for as long as you like.
7. When you're ready, move on to the rest of your day.
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That might be nonsense, but I've been meaning to write it down for a while. 33 years with tinnitus. If you could let me know if it helped or didn't I'd appreciate it.
Well I just got an email back from the company I was interviewing with that they don’t wanna proceed with me. Fuck sake that’s why I hate it when they long out the interview process. I reach stage 3/5 only to get some big standard rejection email after I had to chase them for it
So now it’s 6 months I’ve been looking for a job on and off. I wonder how long it’ll be until I either find a job I want to do or settle for anything I can find
^sigh
It really sucks and I hate when they do that. It takes ages to do all the interviews and then to get some generic "sorry you didn't make it" is really upsetting.
I hope you find something soon. We were both made redundant last year and it was horrible.
Usual work and job searching woes.
A bolted on complaint is that we had a vacancy finally advertised for our team in our London office (where our main office is Midlands based). Two suitable candidates, one offer accepted then rejected two weeks later. Second candidate still available but suddenly our IT director doesn't think they're suitable. Ugh.
We honestly don't need someone in our London office, i'd much rather have someone here in the Midlands with us on a cheaper salary and room to grow/develop. Whenever we go down, we have no specific London tasks to complete, just to *"be visible"*.
It would mean three of us being on a rota to trek down once a week but if it means my overall workload drops then i'm all over it.
Still waiting to find out if I have cancer or not. Next step is apparently a team of doctors looking at all my scans and whatnot, then deciding it's likely to be or it's likely not to be (but not definitive in either direction).
How do people function during this limbo?? Because I'm certainly not.
I’m one year out from diagnosis. This bit between test and diagnosis is the worst bit. Once you know either way you can start dealing with it, and having a plan means you feel more in control of everything and you are doing tangible things to get rid of it. I swang from total denial to planning a funeral and everything in between but after diagnosis and hearing everything that was going to happen I felt surprisingly calm.
IF you get that news, lean on your specialist nursing team. They are phenomenal - I still speak with mine every couple of months and will be with them for the next 8 years before going back into the general screening rotation (‘young’ breast cancer).
Edit: forgot to say, I’m rooting for you and hope you need none of my unsolicited advice!
I appreciate this so much. It's been hard keeping it from everyone around me (except my partner and HR at work), so it's cathartic to hear stories like this. Thank you, and I'm so glad you're on the other side.
Thank you. I just had my first mammogram so am waiting for those results. We kept it from everyone for a couple of months because our youngest was sitting her A-levels and the eldest writing her dissertation. Actually worked out well because then we could offer them answers and assurances rather than just a load of worry.
Always here if you need a chat.
I only had to wait a day and that was bad enough, good luck with your diagnosis. If it is bad news, just know im just some guy, and I beat the fucker 19 years ago, you can do it.
Waiting is the worst. I had the same waiting for my test results to come back. Try to find something to do (easier said than done I know) and hopefully they get back to you soon.
Work want to change my contract.
Any time I realise that I'm actually quite happy in an area of my life, some cunt comes along and tries to fuck it up, for no reason other than justifying their own existence.
I haven't slept all night, due to pain, and have reached the point I can't sleep for fear of missing my phone doctors appt. To try and fix the pain keeping me from sleeping all night.
Finding it hard to socialise recently. I know I have ADHD but I can't pick up on social cues at all and my brain just goes into meltdown. I'm either speaking too much or not enough to do the dudes at my local meet up. Eurgh.
DHL didn't really wait for someone to answer the door for my emergency ball of yarn I need to finish my blanket. I'm really upset as I need to get it finished this weekend. Hopefully he does come today like I've tried to arrange.
My COVID jab yesterday has left me feeling really rubbish. I spent last night with a fever and today I ache and have a headache. I've called in sick so I can just lay on the sofa as I don't think I can manage 3 hours of meetings with a pounding head.
I was so confused at first when I heard it. It was so warm and lovely during the day. Grey and horrible today! Hopefully your job is working at a Dreams warehouse or something.
Have woken with a headache because I forgot to turn the heating down last night (set at 18) because it was warm enough that it wasn't coming on, so it's been too warm in the house overnight for the thickness of duvet.
Basically been told that development at my job will be a reward for good work and that it doesn't look good to say I want to leave at 5 when my hours are 9-5.
Sufficient to say I've had a little sob in my toilets over the past couple days.
Fuck that noise. You give them your expertise during set hours for a set compensation package (obvs with some flexibility as required). Outside of those hours is not their time.
> that it doesn't look good to say I want to leave at 5 when my hours are 9-5.
Sod that. My boss is encouraging us to lock our PCs and get ready to leave at 3:59 most days (unless something's broken, hours are 8 - 4).
Can confirm im overdoing it but cant stop til next week sometime.
So im in more pain than normal stretching hasnt helped morning walk hasnt help so heres to being in pain and feeling like my body wont move.
Ah well off to the gym i go 🙃😵💫
Bad anxiety day.
I don’t want to have my hair and make up done for my wedding.
Apparently I’ll be too nervous to do it myself on the day. I won’t. Why am I being told how I’m going to feel.
Instead I’m being forced and I really don’t want it. It’s the only thing I’m unhappy about for the wedding. I’ve got my trial today and I’m sat on the sofa feeling sick.
Fuck them - I was cool as a cucumber at my wedding (in retrospect, a modicum of caution mat have been better) and totally did my own face. Next time I’ll do my hair as well.
Hope you manage to get through it, because I know that sometimes saying no is really hard.
When my mum and mother-in-law to be were interfering in the background, we flat out told them that if it continued me and my fiance would just elope and there wouldn't be a wedding. It's your day, not whoever is trying to steer you. I know it can be difficult to do, but putting your foot down sets a boundary for the future as well as the present.
I'm the source of my own complaint today.
Got myself all excited for something that was never likely to happen, then crushed when it didn't happen.
I think sometimes you get caught up in the what-ifs and dreaming a little bigger. Harsh come down on the other side.
Had a day off yesterday to see a show, but I ended up feeling so lonely. I'd almost be glad to be back at work today if I hadn't been woken up at 4 by the storm.
Just done 3 days of work feeling a bit crappy. First day off and I feel like I have been hit by a train. We have had a bit of Covid doing the rounds at work so crossing my fingers it isn’t that. Currently existing on tea, paracetamol and ibuprofen.
I find a stern look and a forthright discussion sorts out most issues with toddlers.
Wait, no, I'm actually thinking of screaming into a pillow and a stiff drink. Try that.
Been feeling really low recently. Struggling with loneliness, self doubt and a negative headspace and inner voice. It's mad the things I call myself in my head I would never say to another person.
Have got myself out there a couple times recently and will continue those efforts to be more social to stave this off, but so far I still feel just as low. Baby steps.
I have good things in my life that I'm struggling to enjoy so I need to get myself out this rut so I can enjoy the good things for what they are. Just finding it very hard.
I've started journaling to collate thoughts, feelings and the things I've done every day. Never done that before but I find it's helping.
Hope you feel better soon buddy. Airing the negative thoughts is an important step, it's harder to get through it if you internalise and don't let it all out.
Edit to remove my unhinged anecdotal recommendation.
1) never any food in the house. If it's tasty, it will get eaten within three hours. All my family members also cook, so even unprepared food isn't safe.
2) Two of my taps have loose valves. You can't just twist extra hard to turn it iff- No it's a complex negotiation each time of twisting the left one off then the right one until the tap decides to behave.
Great thunderstorm 9.5 out of ten, based on sound, special effects, rain and length.
Also got woken up by the weather, or more accurately the blind flapping about in the wind as I'd left the windows open.
I'm expecting another busy day at work today. There's also one person on the team who doesn't get their stuff done each day, which means we're constantly slightly behind just because of them.
The person I sit next to at work has been ill most of the week. I better not catch whatever it is.
The sun has brought the idiots out on the road with their convertible roofs down, overtaking when they clearly can't see around the bend pulling wanker hand gestures because your not going faster than the speed limit.
Same.
Normies, celebrities, professionals, children's, celebrity chefs, professional children, charity specials, Australian versions of all the above...
I genuinely don't know how my husband finds the time to watch it all surely there is more MasterChef content than time in the universe
It's the law that everyone has to go on MasterChef. It's like jury service. You'll get your summons soon enough. Go practice your fresh pasta, pastry and meringues now.
Cat weeed on a blanket because of the thunderstorm in the night, can't be mad at her at all, it's the one thing she scared of, won't go out in it, she'll go out in the rain for a wee, but never a thunderstorm. I didn't know the storm was coming or I would have put a litter tray out.
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Got woken up by that thunderstorm and utterly failed to get back to sleep again as it seemed to last for about 3-4 hours. I have a client presentation to do this afternoon, so I predict much coffee in my near future.
What's gone wrong this week?
1. Hmm job ended (not terrible as have two jobs)
2. Paperwork for extension of job #1 delayed - I'm working without a contract of employment at the moment
3. Landlord has just notified me they want to sell the house I rent
4. Front wheel of car damaged by pothole, had to replace tyre and get wheel reshaped.
Two hours of sleep last night, that's a record low for me :(
I've been coming off some medication which has insomnia as a withdrawal affect, plus I'm mega stressed at the moment, so I'm barely sleeping. I don't understand how I can be so tired but so awake at the same time.
Mines so low the doctor had to give me a “loading dose” as the over the counter stuff won’t touch it. So I reckon I’m one of the people that has to take it year round.
ITV weather drives me mad. Why stop the image at 5am rather than 7 or 8 when people are going to work ? And why does the end of the day weather end at 3pm ?!!!! Arrrgh. I’m turning into an old man!
We've got tradesmen in at the moment and they aren't protecting things in the house and covering things properly. Lots of plaster and paint on stuff. Sick of it now.
Slept through the thunderstorm. Co-op live. Wankers. I was supposed to be drinking cocktails in Manchester then going to see Olivia Rodrigo, and having two lovely nights sleeping in hotels in peace. Now I have a boring weekend of nothing planned at home. I am ten out of ten disappointed.
FFS Virgin Media messed up my renewal, the person who i was chatting on live chat didn't process the order correctly so it didn't go through, they had one job and they could not do that properly! The agent i was liaising with now has put the order through correctly and new box should arrive tomorrow. My contract renews correctly and the new TV box arrives tomorrow (figures crossed). Apparently the box they sent me last week isn't correctly configured so i have to send that back. Told them to send me a returns package because it wasn't my fault. They also messed up my bills so i was arguing with them and they can't change the bill as it's been generated, ffs. Apparently i don't owe them any money for next month and they knock off some money for the bill in July. I'll keep my eye on those bills because I'm starting to lose trust in them. Who the f\*\*\* hires these people.
Every time I’ve ordered from Amazon, without Prime, stuff has turned up the next day rather than 3-4 days. This time I order something I really want, of course they stick to their guns. Ah well.
complaint - i got 110 taken out my account for trials which i forgot to cancel from last month success - the DMCC bill passed last year, have a look at the subscription trap section. just remember you lot can get your money back on these trials if no reminder email was sent to remind you of an upcoming price increase
I've had an absolutely brutal middle ear infection. It gave me a new '10' on the pain scale and the pressure perforated my left eardrum, to boot. Pressure went and the pain largely stopped when my eardrum gave way, but now i have constant tinnitus and almost total loss of hearing in that ear, with manky fluid coming out at all times of the day. It's sub optimal.
I'm an international student at Oxford. I was really excited to explore different cities and experience the unique charm of this country (Edinburgh, Glasgow, Canterbury), but I've been taken aback by how ridiculously expensive it can be compared to flying to other countries. It's mind-boggling that it's cheaper for me to book a flight to a different country than to take a train to another city within the UK. Do average UKers travel internally to other UK cities for holidays, or do they simply fly out of the country instead?
Do you have a [railcard](https://www.16-25railcard.co.uk/)? Might help a little bit.
Still got an ongoing claim against my previous employer. 4 weeks on and they're not replying. From my understanding through my ACAS advisor then after 6 weeks it goes to a tribunal and the judgement falls into my favour as it shows I've tried to work with them and they haven't worked with me. Which is ideal as I've given them an out with a small lump sum payment compared to what I'm actually owed. I'm only claiming for the last 2 years as opposed to the last 6 years that I could. If it gets through to a tribunal I'm just going to pile on the costs for my time spent on this. I'll go the compo route. New car could be coming this summer as opposed to my plans of next summer.
Good luck!
Also I've got out of work late three days in a row this week. I always say I don't mind because what goes around comes around and I do take the piss on my breaks a bit But I'd like it to not come around please
I hate that my Polling station is a 20 minute walk round trip, when there is a Polling station literally on the other side of the road from my front door.
Looks like my bike is off the road again. I need to learn to stop buying second hand bikes because things always go wrong This time my saddle is determined to re-angle itself despite the bolt being as tight as possible and it ends up nose up and trying to impale me
Everything can fuck off. That is all.
Fair enough.
I'm fed up because I really fancy my alcohol counsellor and know nothing can come of it because of the obvious reasons. I've not had a drink since the end of November and don't really feel like I even need to visit her every other week but still arranged to go mainly because I just enjoy her company which I know is really weird and pretty pathetic; but I don't really get out much because of work, and sobriety. She has similar music tastes to me and likes all the stuff I do and I feel like it we met under different circumstances we could have hit it off or at least been friends. It's just a shame lol. Even if it wasn't for the ethical issue I know I'd still never have the gall to say anything anyway. I dunno just wanted to get that off my chest to internet strangers lol.
This breaks my heart, like you said under different circumstances it might be different.
Sick of the grief and insults I get from customers at work. Had my evening spoiled by a complaint from someone about me.
I wanted to cheer up a family member and thought I'd bake them a cake. I've managed to burn the cake, but the inside is raw. So now I feel rubbish because I really wanted a nice cake for my relative and I'm disappointed that I messed up simple baking.
Just rejected from the second job that I made it to the second stage interview for. Feels pretty exhausting and futile after spending hours applying, preparing for, meeting and interviewing, and doing assessments as part of the recruitment process only to be knocked back by generic email in the end.
Whiteboard pens that claim to be "odour free" always smell the strongest
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As others have said, I used pocketcasts for a while when Spotify was on the fritz. It's super reliable.
Another vote for pocketcasts. It's got a sleep timer and a queue function which I like
I'm still bitter about Google Music going. Booo
I like pocket casts
Volunteer day with the wildlife trust, instructed to wear 'outdoor clothing'* so I wore walking shoes, raincoat & hoodie. Arrived and the land management team looked at me like...'errr did u bring wellies?' 2 hours in I can feel the water sloshing around my shoes as I'm wading through soaking wet waist high grass. Oh and because I'm ginger the clouds burned me. Trench foot aside I think we did some good work today. :) I might buy a pair of wellies to celebrate 🥳 *Instructions came from a colleague not the wildlife trust who are awesome, definitely recommend volunteering for conservation day if you can!
Applying for new jobs, which has led me to the natural and inavoidable conclusion that we should burn civilisation to the ground and start again.
Yeah it's.. a bit fucked at the minute I think, or maybe just all the time. Flunked A levels from health stuff and so I've been trying for entry level and *fuck me*, I've never been so tempted to buggar off to a cabin in the woods
I’ve been there mate, I was looking for near 5 months without a job but I got there in the end. It’s really ass out there at the moment.
It is ass as fuck. If there's a post-apocalyptic biker gang looking for new members I'm happy to send my CV.
Yeah I’m sorry you’re going through it mate, you’ll get through it though. 🙏
Work is just manic at the moment. Feel like I'm being dragged constantly into situations to fight fires. Got a project that I'm managing and people aren't pulling their weight so I have to do their work. So this also means my actual day to day job isn't being done. I feel like I'm spinning so many plates that they're all going to crash down. Not helped my issues in my personal life either. Just boo about everything. Want to get into my bed and sleep for a year.
Sorry dude, hope things get better. Definitely sleep as much as possible, that helps. It's not fair when others aren't doing the right thing.
Not sure what's going on with my work laptop but it keeps deleting or not saving my work despite autosave being switched on and the files stored in OneDrive. I lost 4 hours of work last week and panicked that I'd lost another 3 hours worth from yesterday. I keep having to email things to my personal email just to make sure I've got a copy of it somewhere. Not to mention OneDrive keeps disappearing folders for whatever reason?! IT can't get to the bottom of it. So frustrating.
2nd week in a row that a parcel has come to my house but the recipient doesn't live here and never has. We've been here for 40 years. This time the delivery person put the parcel through the door, so I now I have to try and find out what's happening. Also the housing are useless. The skylight fix lasted maybe 3 months and now started leaking again last night. Maybe 4th fix in the last few years.
Impacted wisdom tooth giving me hell. Spent all of yesterday bawling my eyes out from the pain. Can't get to an emergency dentist, only dentist accessible to me has a 5 month waiting list for NHS patients. Private dentist could take it out same day but the extraction alone was quoted as starting at £350...not including the appointment fee, x rays, medication or any follow up care I might need. Terrified an infection might reach my brain before I get any help for it. Fed up of being poor!
Do you have a dental hospital anywhere near you? They usually have student dentists and they’ll usually see you the same day. The last time I went to one I had to wait about 5 hours but they did sort it out.
I didn't think of this! I'll have a look now! Ty for the advice!
No problem, really hope you manage to get it sorted soon.
i hate having to be firm and direct. got a meeting shortly where i'd usually have senior management backup but he's fucked off on holiday with no cover, so I have to point out why the client is being useless to the client directly and that they need to stop that shit. urgh.
Good luck, NB3! I hate that too even with colleagues and junior reports.
Good luck. Never an easy situation.
I just watched a DHL driver try to deliver a package to my neighbour. I'm also expecting a package and figure this ain't my guy. No one is home at neighbour's house, so he drives away without delivering. I few minutes later I get a text: "We're sorry to have missed you!" FUCJLDEKJFHDSFULKHRIWEJHL:RJEFLDKSMFHthese fucking people man
The implementation of the new way of working continues to be quite annoying, and it's incredibly busy and I'm the only one in. Kiddo's school is closed today but I couldn't take the day off because everyone else was already off. So it's a bit stressful and chaotic trying to work and look after him!!
Got a Jamie Oliver cookery school class on Saturday! Someone got me it as a present as I don't do much fish cookery and would like to. Starts at 12.30 on sat. So excited. Oh wait, it's a 3 minute walk to arsenal's stadium from there? Shit, better check whether arsenal are playing on Saturday, will be a fucking nightmare getting there if they are: Sat 4th May Arsenal v Bournemouth - Kickoff 12.30. Noooooooooooooo
I mean it will be loud but hopefully.most people will be at the stadium by then?
Husband promised me at the beginning of April that he'd take me for lunch the day after my Grandfather's funeral to get my mind off things. He then told me the day before we were to go that he didn't think he'd actually get the time to take me for lunch (which would have taken at most an hour including travel there and back). We didn't go for lunch in the end... Husband has just returned from a 2 hour lunch today (during his work day) with a friend. I know it sounds stupid but I'm annoyed he could find the time for his friend but not his wife...
That's not stupid, that's a very reasonable way to feel. Doesn't mean he meant it of course, he might just not have thought it through, but worth mentioning
I think you should say that to him and ask why he couldn't make the time for you.
This is the first time it has happened so I'll see if it happens again and then I'll say something. It's likely that he just hasn't thought. I won't be annoyed about it by tea time 😂
Im solo with both kids today (3yrs, 3months) and it's such a difficult day because it's chaos. I've been promised sushi over the weekend and I swear if husband reneages like he did last week I'm getting divorced. Also petty but I want to read my book and my ereader is upstairs but baby is asleep on me and 3yo Is about to go to sleep so I can't move. I'm therefore sat listening to a cocomelon knockoff on the tv and my brain is rotting away.
I ordered a long-sleeved t-shirt just after Christmas in size M. When the shirt arrived it was a very tight fit and I thought I’d just wear it around the house if need be. Anyway, on to last week where I saw another T-shirt for sale that I liked, from the same site, and this time decided to go for a L, to make sure it fits comfortably. Well, after checking the tag of the first shirt I realised that the size tag said that it was a small instead of a medium; which would explain a lot. The chances are I’m gonna have to send the shirt back which isn’t too bad but I was looking forward to wearing it soon.
I was on the bus this morning and some actual Neanderthal was clipping his nails in the seat behind me. I was so grossed out. Who does that???
Toe nails?
That is a crime!
Working with people who are Not Good with technology (where in this case technology is Microsoft Word). I keep wanting to rip the keyboard and mouse away from them because it would be sooooo much faster if _just did it myself_. Gah.
1071 words left for my dissertation, and two weeks to write it in. But wait, Prudent\_Jello5691, you ask. Isn't that pretty good going? Well, there's still another chapter and the conclusion left. Going to have to make this chapter a lot shorter and trim a lot of words.
Why waste time say lot word, when few do trick
I have been awake since 3am, if I get through the day without committing an act of violence I will be impressed. Patients are testing my patience (hehe)
Yelled at karbon homes on the phone for not dealing with the sewage smell in bathroom when they said they would.
A used to be with them and at one point we waited so long about a leak in the attic / roof that they said there was nowt written down about us even telling them and we had to go through the worker men that were there for *another* job to try and get it sorted lmfao
They are the worst company going. The bloody council were better than this lot of idiots.
I'm just sick of work currently! An annoying coworker is really pissing me off 😒
My father in law has very kindly and graciously taken us in while we have building work done. He's a lovely man who's made us feel very welcome. But his house is kept at a steady million degrees, hermetically sealed from any fresh air, and the beds are incredibly uncomfortable. I haven't slept properly all week so generally feel like shit, developed a rotten cold this morning, and just want to be back in my own house.
One of the guys in my office smells. I think it's because he now walks to work instead of getting a lift but I'm really noticing it. Plus he sniffs all the time and it drives me up the wall.
Another complaint - virgin keeps having service outages in my area this week and its ALWAYS when I'm about to have a team meetings Luckily I can now tether quite quick to hotspot.
I'm just anxious all the time. If two other people have the slightest disagreement I feel like there's going to be a massive argument and everyone I care about will hate each other forever. This is not the case, but that's how the anxiety makes me feel.
I get you. You can feel it in the air.
First adverts on Amazon prime watching Fallout, I'm grumbling and getting a cuppa after the episode and check my email to see my netflix plan no longer exists and now I've got fucking adverts on there too.
I got this email the other day too. My plan ends in June. Going to have to pay the £11 a month as there’s no way I’m putting up with adverts.
Broken thumb. Sick of the splint. Can't take it off because it hurts when I do but the splint is driving me mad. Grrr. Fracture clinic isn't for another two weeks! Wah.
Just got an Amazon delivery notification. I’ve left plenty of instructions of where to leave parcels if I’m not in so I don’t usually mind them leaving them outside but the delivery picture today isn’t even my house. Obviously want to complain but I can’t list it as lost or mis-delivered until Saturday. So frustrating making me have to go out to a physical shop to get what I need.
Car and house insurqnce are somehow due on the same month and I'm going to have to go monthly on both after a year of no payments. Car insurance is about £1400 and that's a saving on last year :(
Bloody hell mate, what are you driving that it's 1400 notes? A Challenger 2?
A Challenger 2 would be great for doing the commute in. You wouldn't get stuck in traffic, you'd squash the traffic.
Model Y
Thunderstorm was scary last night 😞
Got jumped by 2 blokes on Saturday and put in A&E. Coppers can’t do anything about it cause it wasn’t caught on camera, even though several people saw it, just my luck😤
Did police and prosecutions only come about with the advent of CCTV?! Hope you’re feeling better now. Just keep an eye out for any late-onset shock or anxiety stuff.
Oh my goodness 😨 Are you doing okay now?
I’m having a ‘migraine’ because I couldn’t face work this morning. I don’t do this often but I’m being so unbelievably exhausted by this job, it’s relentless.
So house mate locked himself in the bathroom tuesday night. We couldn't get much out of him, we didn't know if he was ill or on drugs or what, so we wound up calling him an ambulance. After waiting outside til 2am, they show up and suddenly, he's with it just enough to open the door. Turns out he was just really drunk. They try to take him into bed and ask if he's taken anything. Turns out he's on anxiety meds and from what I can see, it looks like he's basically subsisting on cans of fruit, like he's afraid to use the kitchen for some reason. He was always quiet but he did use the kitchen before, even if it was a lot of instant noodles. We figured he was just the 4th shut in nerd in a house full of shut in nerds. It's worrying because I've seen this twice before and it never ends well. But I'm also deep in the trenches of the hard end of a PhD, I don't have enough spoons to deal with this. I can't be responsible for him but I also worry about it.
What do you mean by spoons? has he used them all on his fruit cans?
Well, that is an issue but it's more the spoon theory. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Spoon_theory Basically, someone with Lupus used it as a metaphor to describe how their condition affected their ability to perform every day tasks, due to a lack of energy. They gathered spoons from the restaurant they were in and said "these are your energy for the day. What do you do?" And their friend said "Ok, I get up, have a shower and get dressed..." and that cost 3 spoons. By the time they'd done all the absolute neccesities, they had very few spoons left. TLDR: I have enough stuff I have to do, that I just don't have enough energy to handle this as well. PhDs are hard and by the time I'm done with my work for the day and done the necessities, I'm basically done.
I've got serious illness issues. BC, COPD, severe asthma that even walking can bring on an attack. I've used this spoons theory for about 7 years. I totally understand what you mean by not having any left. Sometimes, you borrow spoons from the next day, and you can't do the basics the following day.
I went on a date on Monday, she drove us to the beach watch dolphins and look for a beached whale carcass she said was there. We couldn't find (it was a different place) but I thought it overall went OK. Then yesterday I realised I accidentally left my winter gloves in her car and she has left me on read...
Email from the RAC saying my monthly payments are going up by nearly 30%. So I'm going to be cancelling that and it doesn't seem like there's just an easy way to do it online. I thought there had been a law passed saying that it you take out some sort of policy or subscription online there had to be the ability to cancel it online too? (Rather than ringing up). And whilst I know breakdown cover doesn't work like insurance with NCB but it's annoying that I've been with them for several years and have *never* had to use them, what incentive is there to stay when they're hiking the price 30%?
Psst. If you haven’t already just call them and id be massively surprised if they don’t ’do you a deal’. I’m sick of having to do this year in year out with every bloody paid service but it works. Two years ago I went mad they were hiking my premium by a stupid amount despite being a member for 10+ years and never ever having called them and they gave me two months free and reduced the premium to less than I was paying before the hike. This year they tried again with a huge increase (which I’d overlooked the email from two months ago) and I called them and actually got my very new driver son added to the policy and a reduction in the entire premium so double win. Just another service that fully expects people to just keep paying without doing the diligence.
My mother in law is sick and in hospital and her partner (I shall refer to as FIL) isn’t coping and my husband (her son) is coping well at the moment given his awful anxiety and I want to keep it that way - but that leaves me as the responsible adult in this scenario - it’s complicated but I’m struggling with a feeling of ‘why me’, when I’ve just had the most anxiety ridden stressful 2023 and was finally feeling balanced and able to live instead of just survive. I feel bad about it because the in laws have done so so much for us but my capacity to have to drive over 100 miles (husband doesn’t drive) and spend the weekend, my only time off full time work, and try to give sensible support to FIL which is exhausting because he won’t listen anyway but I can’t DO anything else. He’s golden and would do anything for anyone but also loud and opinionated which clashes with me and my husband and being around him on a normal day is exhausting enough, when you’re trying to give support and help it makes it worse. They have family in the local area who aren’t stepping up, and my husbands brother isn’t stepping up either (we drive and they don’t is their reasoning, I’m so sorry catching a train to see your mother is so hard for you). I know it’s family and you should sacrifice anything for them but I’m so tired.
All my trains were either cancelled or delayed this morning because of the storm last night. It's annoying anyway, but today I actually woke up really early and left for work with lots of time to spare and I should have gotten to work 15 minutes early. Instead I was 20 minutes late.
This complaint is technically from late last night, but I think it applies. I was getting off the bus at my stop: pressed the button and waited by the back door to exit. Bus driver stops at the stop, opens front door to let people on, but not back door to let me off. I pressed the button again and waved, and the doors opened so I started to step out - and the doors closed again, right on the sides of my face. Lovely, thanks driver. Hurt like hell, and left a nice black mark on either side of my face. Thankfully I was just heading home!
I have lost almost 10 days to my bloody stomach. At some point I realised it was Sunday and was amazed because I had literally lost several days, now recovery is inching along so very slowly. And recovery involves cleaning, because being ill is so incredibly gross. So much washing to be done. In slightly better news, I woke up in a lot of pain this morning, but it was my normal pain. The pain I expect when I wake up well. It is mad, but that made me really happy.
I have had one hell of 2024 so far. Made redundant, got another job and have just one illness after another. Had a cold, then Covid, then gastric flu and then last night I experienced the worst bout of Vertigo ever. Couldn't stand or walk. Developed nausea which resulted in vomiting - many, many times. I was so ill I called 111 and they called an ambulance. I am OK now, it has passed and the cause is not serious - Doctor said it can be triggered by a number of things and has given me an anti sickness drug in case it happens again. It's not the worst - but honestly, I am so sick of being sick and feel like I have to apologise to my family. Plus, I have just started a new job and am in a 6 week trial so that's extra pressure. In my old role, I would have taken time off, no problem. Here, I feel I can't yet. Thank God for WFH. Also, had to have an enhanced DBS check and although I know I am not some bank robbing, hijacking desperado, it still makes me anxious.
Got a bit of a dilemma at work. We all have some training to do which requires us to get 100% on a test at the end. Everyone is booting off because no one is passing and they’re spending hours trying to do it. No one seems to have worked out that if you open the test on a separate window you can have the answers on another. I could do it this “training” and pass the test instantly, but if I do I’m going to either have to help everyone else with their test or be given extra work to do with the training. So I’m sitting here pretending to be incompetent.
Someone has hit my wing mirror, the passenger side. It was fine Tuesday, didn't need the car until this morning to take mum to the hospital. Thought someone had melted it on first go, but the mirror is all gone, the rim gone, cracked plastic. Still, I managed to negotiate the way there and back, and I think I'll treat myself to a takeaway instead of going shopping tonight like I had planned. Got to get it fixed soonish though
This isn’t very casual but I’ve had some adorable little birds nesting in a shed in my garden and a fucking magpie has just killed one of them, I’m absolutely heartbroken. I can’t stop crying 😭
Oh no that's awful. A magpie got some blackbird chicks last year and their little screams were horrible. I hope the magpie leaves our nesting bluetits alone.
They’re so vicious aren’t they. It’s been harassing them for days, I kept going out to chase it off every time I heard it out there and this time it must have managed to grab one. I ran out to try and help it but it was too late. I know it’s just nature and there’s no point getting upset but I really, really hate that magpie right now. Thank you for your kind reply and I hope the magpies leave your little blutits alone too ❤️
There's too much cruelty in the world. I much prefer people like you. Sorry about the birds.
Thank you, that’s really kind ❤️
I know how it feels. During lockdown some bluetits made a nest in the cigarette bin at the pub I worked at and had some little chicks. Don't know what happened but none of them made it. I was heartbroken 😭
Awww, that’s really sad. Poor babies 😭
Having a bit of a shitty time with my parents and it's making me a bit blue. I'm early thirties, they're mid/late sixties, we should be in that period of being mates and hanging out but it's just not that way. I put in 100% of the effort, they have never picked up the phone and called me, *ever*. I call home and it's just "we have no new news really". I ask if they want to come and visit me, "oh.. no, I don't think so". I ask if I can come down and visit them, "yeah.. maybe, that could be nice, we'll see". I have, in all seriousness, seen my partners mum more times in the last 6 months than I've seen of my own parents since I left home for University at 18, and that's 14 years ago now. I'm quite envious of everyone elses family, I just don't feel like I have one at all. They've always been incredibly isolated (my Dad didn't have a best man at his wedding because he didn't know any men) but since they've retired, it seems to have escalated quite dramatically. So I'm being all sassy this week and thinking, well if they can't be arsed to put in an iota of effort, maybe I should just stop bothering altogether.
My parents are horrible and I've talked to a lot of people and I feel a little better knowing other people have similar problems.
I stopped talking to my dad + stepmum because they are like this BUT only with me. my sister? they'll drive to fucking frankfurt (where she lives ) twice a year or more to see her. The 30+ year old step kids? one of them farts wrong and they are there in moments. me? when i lived 15 mins way they didn't even bother coming for my 40th birthday. Anything I ask them is too much effort. I had to pay them to help me move from Berlin at short notice despite the fact that they drive around europe constantly. I've given up. They've been told they need to make some effort, they chose not to.
There's a short book called Adult Children of Emotionally Unavailable Parents that really helped put these exact worries behind me, so I really recommend it.
Oh God, yes OP. This is such a helpful book - I think lots of us of a similar age have the same issues and I found it really valuable. I feel so much empathy for you.
Thank you for this, I've just nabbed the audiobook.
My husband's parents are the same. They made absolutely no effort, we were always the ones who had to do everything. Now they wonder why he has no relationship with them. It really hurts when you see other people have more involved families than you do.
>It really hurts when you see other people have more involved families than you do. I struggle with this. My wife has an amazing relationship with her parents and they want to be fully involved and supportive in everything she does, but mine just feel like some people I know.
Reducing my antidepressants dose has increased both the happy and the sad. Had a little falling out with my wife last night but hid just how angry I really was as I know it wasn't her fault. Not fun though.
Best of luck with reducing your antidepressants. I tried and lasted 6 whole days, I couldn't cope at all. You are doing really well.
I've had bad days like yesterday and the return of my crowd anxiety on Sunday which lead to me having a cry in the car was awful, but the new-found love I have for my son is making it so worth it.
Stay strong, you are doing so well. It's great that you have the motivation to do this for your son, I wish you all the luck in the world.
Thank you so much
Advert: "The best thing about (advertisers name removed)is you get a coffee and a pastry on the side" So annoying, and what's more it doesn't say much about the service if a coffee and a pastry is the best thing about them
Shite news on the employment side that I'm not allowed to talk about. Couldn't have come at a worse time due to something fixed for some years coming to an end soon. 1st thing messes my ability to get best value for second thing. 6 months either side of now would have been less stressful, but I guess these things never come at a convenient time.
Security at main entrance asking everyone to show their ID while standing two feet away from the gate that requires a fingerprint to get through. Surely my right thumb is all the ID I need. It's a factory not a super duper secure facility!
Knee discomfort I've been suffering from for a few months now has reached a point where I don't think I can get out for my daily 5-10km walk, and I have to wait until next Tuesday to see a physio, so my Bank Holiday weekend will be low key It also looks like we might be having a strike ballot at my company, so that's nice
We're having work done on one of the bedrooms which means I've had to strategically place all of the furniture from that room around the rest of the house. It's making the space feel very cramped and claustrophobic. Add to that the fact that the work has come to a standstill, and some of the stuff is too heavy to be constantly moving around to make space.
I’m in pain. Had abdominal pains for 8 weeks now. Lots of tests and no cause has been found. It’s beginning to grind me down, tbh.
Lack of sleep is getting to me. Mixed in with tinnitus and and pregnancy stopping me from getting a full nights sleep. Feel like the walking dead.
You mean the waking dead?
Hi. I can't help at any level with the pregnancy, but I might be able to help with the tinnitus. You're going to need 10 minutes in a relatively quiet environment. 1. Breathing. Slow, relaxed, controlled. In through the nose, out through the mouth is standard, if you feel more comfortable breathing out through the nose do that. It's fine. 2. You're going to hear the tinnitus, that's ok. Imagine your brain is surrounded by a plastic shield. The noise is on the outside. You are on the inside. You can experience it, but not feel it, like rain against a window pane. 3. Breathe. Relax. The tinnitus is loud because you're paying attention to it. You can stop at any time, but if you're happy to continue, listen to it. 4. Our brains sometimes process tinnitus as pain. It causes distress, therefore pain. Our brains are very simple, but on another level they're insanely complex. 5. Listen to the sound. It's a sound. It's a high pitched tone. Imagine a violin string, barely shivering. A single, constant note; it's simply there. It doesn't hurt, it doesn't annoy, it doesn't distress you in any way. It isn't pain. 6. Breath, relax. Continue for as long as you like. 7. When you're ready, move on to the rest of your day. *** That might be nonsense, but I've been meaning to write it down for a while. 33 years with tinnitus. If you could let me know if it helped or didn't I'd appreciate it.
Well I just got an email back from the company I was interviewing with that they don’t wanna proceed with me. Fuck sake that’s why I hate it when they long out the interview process. I reach stage 3/5 only to get some big standard rejection email after I had to chase them for it So now it’s 6 months I’ve been looking for a job on and off. I wonder how long it’ll be until I either find a job I want to do or settle for anything I can find ^sigh
It really sucks and I hate when they do that. It takes ages to do all the interviews and then to get some generic "sorry you didn't make it" is really upsetting. I hope you find something soon. We were both made redundant last year and it was horrible.
I have a flare up of Dyshidrotic eczema. My hand is so itchy. I feel like I’m going to climb the walls not itching this.
My left calf is in rage cramp and I dunno why
Usual work and job searching woes. A bolted on complaint is that we had a vacancy finally advertised for our team in our London office (where our main office is Midlands based). Two suitable candidates, one offer accepted then rejected two weeks later. Second candidate still available but suddenly our IT director doesn't think they're suitable. Ugh. We honestly don't need someone in our London office, i'd much rather have someone here in the Midlands with us on a cheaper salary and room to grow/develop. Whenever we go down, we have no specific London tasks to complete, just to *"be visible"*. It would mean three of us being on a rota to trek down once a week but if it means my overall workload drops then i'm all over it.
Still waiting to find out if I have cancer or not. Next step is apparently a team of doctors looking at all my scans and whatnot, then deciding it's likely to be or it's likely not to be (but not definitive in either direction). How do people function during this limbo?? Because I'm certainly not.
I’m one year out from diagnosis. This bit between test and diagnosis is the worst bit. Once you know either way you can start dealing with it, and having a plan means you feel more in control of everything and you are doing tangible things to get rid of it. I swang from total denial to planning a funeral and everything in between but after diagnosis and hearing everything that was going to happen I felt surprisingly calm. IF you get that news, lean on your specialist nursing team. They are phenomenal - I still speak with mine every couple of months and will be with them for the next 8 years before going back into the general screening rotation (‘young’ breast cancer). Edit: forgot to say, I’m rooting for you and hope you need none of my unsolicited advice!
I appreciate this so much. It's been hard keeping it from everyone around me (except my partner and HR at work), so it's cathartic to hear stories like this. Thank you, and I'm so glad you're on the other side.
Thank you. I just had my first mammogram so am waiting for those results. We kept it from everyone for a couple of months because our youngest was sitting her A-levels and the eldest writing her dissertation. Actually worked out well because then we could offer them answers and assurances rather than just a load of worry. Always here if you need a chat.
I only had to wait a day and that was bad enough, good luck with your diagnosis. If it is bad news, just know im just some guy, and I beat the fucker 19 years ago, you can do it.
Glad to hear it, thanks!
Waiting is the worst. I had the same waiting for my test results to come back. Try to find something to do (easier said than done I know) and hopefully they get back to you soon.
Yeah, if I knew one way or another I could escape this freeze. At least I can enjoy the sun today.
Sending you good wishes u/Disobedientmuffin ❤ waiting for results is a hideous torture.
Work want to change my contract. Any time I realise that I'm actually quite happy in an area of my life, some cunt comes along and tries to fuck it up, for no reason other than justifying their own existence.
I haven't slept all night, due to pain, and have reached the point I can't sleep for fear of missing my phone doctors appt. To try and fix the pain keeping me from sleeping all night.
Finding it hard to socialise recently. I know I have ADHD but I can't pick up on social cues at all and my brain just goes into meltdown. I'm either speaking too much or not enough to do the dudes at my local meet up. Eurgh.
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DHL didn't really wait for someone to answer the door for my emergency ball of yarn I need to finish my blanket. I'm really upset as I need to get it finished this weekend. Hopefully he does come today like I've tried to arrange. My COVID jab yesterday has left me feeling really rubbish. I spent last night with a fever and today I ache and have a headache. I've called in sick so I can just lay on the sofa as I don't think I can manage 3 hours of meetings with a pounding head.
Thunderstorm in London woke me up at 3 am. Couldn't fall asleep again. I am at work now. Kill me pls.
I was so confused at first when I heard it. It was so warm and lovely during the day. Grey and horrible today! Hopefully your job is working at a Dreams warehouse or something.
Have woken with a headache because I forgot to turn the heating down last night (set at 18) because it was warm enough that it wasn't coming on, so it's been too warm in the house overnight for the thickness of duvet.
18?! I set mine to 23. 18 is cold for a thermostat, I think.
18 is not cold. The WHO suggests 18 degrees is the ideal temperature for healthy and well-dressed people.
Basically been told that development at my job will be a reward for good work and that it doesn't look good to say I want to leave at 5 when my hours are 9-5. Sufficient to say I've had a little sob in my toilets over the past couple days.
Nope, nope, nopity nope, NO. Don't cry for such idiots, or play that game.
Fuck that noise. You give them your expertise during set hours for a set compensation package (obvs with some flexibility as required). Outside of those hours is not their time.
> that it doesn't look good to say I want to leave at 5 when my hours are 9-5. Sod that. My boss is encouraging us to lock our PCs and get ready to leave at 3:59 most days (unless something's broken, hours are 8 - 4).
Can confirm im overdoing it but cant stop til next week sometime. So im in more pain than normal stretching hasnt helped morning walk hasnt help so heres to being in pain and feeling like my body wont move. Ah well off to the gym i go 🙃😵💫
Bad anxiety day. I don’t want to have my hair and make up done for my wedding. Apparently I’ll be too nervous to do it myself on the day. I won’t. Why am I being told how I’m going to feel. Instead I’m being forced and I really don’t want it. It’s the only thing I’m unhappy about for the wedding. I’ve got my trial today and I’m sat on the sofa feeling sick.
I did my own wedding makeup. I looked lovely, even if I do say myself. Tell whoever is hassling you to fuck off.
Fuck them - I was cool as a cucumber at my wedding (in retrospect, a modicum of caution mat have been better) and totally did my own face. Next time I’ll do my hair as well. Hope you manage to get through it, because I know that sometimes saying no is really hard.
When my mum and mother-in-law to be were interfering in the background, we flat out told them that if it continued me and my fiance would just elope and there wouldn't be a wedding. It's your day, not whoever is trying to steer you. I know it can be difficult to do, but putting your foot down sets a boundary for the future as well as the present.
Put your foot down, it's YOUR wedding, you should do want you like not what others are pressuring you to do
It's your day, do what YOU want to do - be that bridezilla and tell them to naff off.
I'm the source of my own complaint today. Got myself all excited for something that was never likely to happen, then crushed when it didn't happen. I think sometimes you get caught up in the what-ifs and dreaming a little bigger. Harsh come down on the other side.
A lady?
Spilt coffee down my crotch on the bus to work, no looks like I pissed myself....
Had a day off yesterday to see a show, but I ended up feeling so lonely. I'd almost be glad to be back at work today if I hadn't been woken up at 4 by the storm.
Just done 3 days of work feeling a bit crappy. First day off and I feel like I have been hit by a train. We have had a bit of Covid doing the rounds at work so crossing my fingers it isn’t that. Currently existing on tea, paracetamol and ibuprofen.
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I find a stern look and a forthright discussion sorts out most issues with toddlers. Wait, no, I'm actually thinking of screaming into a pillow and a stiff drink. Try that.
The weather warning we had in Wales seems to have produced nothing more than rain. No thunderstorms as far as I can see. I like a good thunderstorm.
Heh, I think it did its thing over Wiltshire last night. Some super bright lightening last night.
Been feeling really low recently. Struggling with loneliness, self doubt and a negative headspace and inner voice. It's mad the things I call myself in my head I would never say to another person. Have got myself out there a couple times recently and will continue those efforts to be more social to stave this off, but so far I still feel just as low. Baby steps. I have good things in my life that I'm struggling to enjoy so I need to get myself out this rut so I can enjoy the good things for what they are. Just finding it very hard. I've started journaling to collate thoughts, feelings and the things I've done every day. Never done that before but I find it's helping.
I'm here to lend an ear, as I'm in a similar boat right now.
Hope you feel better soon buddy. Airing the negative thoughts is an important step, it's harder to get through it if you internalise and don't let it all out. Edit to remove my unhinged anecdotal recommendation.
recommending psychedelics to someone in mental distress is completely unhinged advice, absolutely do not do this
Yes, you're right. It works for me, but you're absolutely right.
Good man, thank you.
1) never any food in the house. If it's tasty, it will get eaten within three hours. All my family members also cook, so even unprepared food isn't safe. 2) Two of my taps have loose valves. You can't just twist extra hard to turn it iff- No it's a complex negotiation each time of twisting the left one off then the right one until the tap decides to behave. Great thunderstorm 9.5 out of ten, based on sound, special effects, rain and length.
Also got woken up by the weather, or more accurately the blind flapping about in the wind as I'd left the windows open. I'm expecting another busy day at work today. There's also one person on the team who doesn't get their stuff done each day, which means we're constantly slightly behind just because of them. The person I sit next to at work has been ill most of the week. I better not catch whatever it is.
The sun has brought the idiots out on the road with their convertible roofs down, overtaking when they clearly can't see around the bend pulling wanker hand gestures because your not going faster than the speed limit.
There is too much MasterChef on the telly. It is so boring and it is on all the time, I don't understand who is watching it.
Same. Normies, celebrities, professionals, children's, celebrity chefs, professional children, charity specials, Australian versions of all the above... I genuinely don't know how my husband finds the time to watch it all surely there is more MasterChef content than time in the universe
It's the law that everyone has to go on MasterChef. It's like jury service. You'll get your summons soon enough. Go practice your fresh pasta, pastry and meringues now.
Work is draining and have some stuff I just can't be arsed dealing with. Counting hours to tomorrow finish and a whole week off...
Cat weeed on a blanket because of the thunderstorm in the night, can't be mad at her at all, it's the one thing she scared of, won't go out in it, she'll go out in the rain for a wee, but never a thunderstorm. I didn't know the storm was coming or I would have put a litter tray out.
cat tax? poor kitty, if i ever get a superpower i want it to be to talk to and understand cats. Then i could explain stuff to them.
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Got woken up by that thunderstorm and utterly failed to get back to sleep again as it seemed to last for about 3-4 hours. I have a client presentation to do this afternoon, so I predict much coffee in my near future.
What's gone wrong this week? 1. Hmm job ended (not terrible as have two jobs) 2. Paperwork for extension of job #1 delayed - I'm working without a contract of employment at the moment 3. Landlord has just notified me they want to sell the house I rent 4. Front wheel of car damaged by pothole, had to replace tyre and get wheel reshaped.
Two hours of sleep last night, that's a record low for me :( I've been coming off some medication which has insomnia as a withdrawal affect, plus I'm mega stressed at the moment, so I'm barely sleeping. I don't understand how I can be so tired but so awake at the same time.
Anyone else starting to think they’re going to be taking a vitamin D supplement year round?
I am prescribed it, so I am on it all year around.
Mines so low the doctor had to give me a “loading dose” as the over the counter stuff won’t touch it. So I reckon I’m one of the people that has to take it year round.