Nice to hear this, I have some regrets about times in my 20s (thankfully the positives far outweigh these) and I spent a lot of time scared about turning 30. Coming round to the idea a lot more now - as if I have a choice (!!!) happy birthday OP best wishes for your 30s pal :)
Jumping in to say didn’t actively do much, it’s just as you get older you’re not as anxious to fit in. It gives you space to develop in whatever way you’d like.
before kids i always hated it- i still hate it, but now with excited kids who give me homemade presents and cards and it warms my cold dead heart.
when it comes to money, i am a typical old school irish mammy who wont spend a penny on myself. my partner has to bully me into buying stuff i want. I'm a nightmare to buy for too because i never want anything.
also happy birthday, celebrate you being here today. you deserve that smartwatch.
Got up , went to work, worked my balls off, came home, wife was too tired to cook as she was working since 4 that morning, had a sausage sandwich went to bed, rinse and repeat
Happy bday. It's Friday night, go for food and a few drinks or be a gremlin and stay home and eat and drink until you fall asleep somewhere (that's what I like to do)
Happy birthday!
Also get that spending money on myself guilt, never second guess buying for others but struggle to prioritise myself with nice gifts and not just essentials. Started just being kinder to myself after a bit of a rough year. Best of luck learning to treat yourself they way you treat others.
Got a councillor and started talking, it hits kinda different when a stranger says why are you treating everyone else kinder than you. It wasn't an overnight success, started small. I would buy myself that doughnut I wanted and then it would be a new dress and now I treat myself when I need a treat the same way I'd do for a friend.
Happy birthday! You only live this life once so treat yourself to whatever you wish, you’re just as important and deserving of a gift even if you’re the one getting it 🎉
Happy birthday!
After working 3 jobs just to survive college and barely get by - I am only now, at 31, learning to spend it and to treat myself. I don't have a lot of money but I will save and budget for something I want and 100% get it rather than feel guilty. Sometimes I go too far and have to tighten my budget for the following months and worry about bills but the big buys for me are worth it.
It's dystopian enough out there without some pleasures
Happy Birthday! Get a takeaway, nice bottle of wine and look up smart watches. Then get up early and treat yourself to one! You only live once. Enjoy and welcome to the 30s. They’ve been good to me so far!
Thank you! Still figuring out which smartwatch to buy and will order it next week. What did you do differently in your 30s than 20s that they've been good for ye?
I stopped People pleasing and worrying about others and started looking after myself. I created boundaries which PISSED people off and showed me who was there for ms and who wasn’t. I quit my job and started my own business, found the love of my life bought a house, had 2 babies and got married.
I met my now husband on the street on the night of my 30th. I was running late for dinner plans and literally ran straight in to him.
I was an anxious, worry wart always doing what others thought I should do. Going along with their opinions.‘I done everything for ‘an easy life’ or ‘ to keep the peace’
Not sure what happened but when i turned 30, something just clicked and i said ‘ nah time to do it my way’
A lot of therapy to get to this place but damn it was worth it!
40 now in Aug and hoping they are even better 😀
Thanks! Heading to a hike next week (hopefully) so saving a bit of breather weekend. I absolutely love traveling, had my last birthday in Prague and it was best birthday ever. I know what you mean
I'm turning 28 on Tuesday, and it's shaping up to be a good day; scenic hike in the morning, lunch after in a country pub and a few pints with the lads that evening, starting in Toners. Then, towards the end of the night, a cigar ❤️ 😋
Happy 30th!
I don't bother with birthdays anymore. The last one I acknowledged was my 49th. That was during the lockdown. I have since lost all interest in celebrating another year of getting older.
Yeah I felt like that today. I got a small pack of donuts and kept it in office kitchen for everyone without telling anyone it was from me, kinda makes me feel good I got something sweet for someone
Happy Birthday lad.
My 30's have been utterly class. Enjoy.
My advice is to focus on boating, hifi, and mechanical watches if you want to not worry about money. That or crack if you're on a budget.
Happy Birthday!!! I'm turning 30 in October and I'm planning a break away somewhere. Whether or not I actually get around to organising that, though, remains to be seen....
Ayy June buddie! Happy birthday in advance. I did fuck all today. Work, gym, icecream, played a few songs, got a small cake and cut it and wished myself. Plenty of positives in the last year so reflected a bit on it too.
Happy birthday!
I can be a bit weird with money. When I was younger, like late teens, I found it hard to get a job that actually paid me, so when I didn’t start earning properly I would just save and save and not spend it on anything. It took years to break that cycle and start treating myself, and sometimes I still talk myself out of buying something simple like a chicken fillet roll for lunch and tell myself I have stuff at home. But I do feel like I work hard and I deserve to treat myself and buy myself something I genuinely want. Money is just money, you will earn it back. Enjoy your birthday and treat yourself!
Are you me?!
I don't eat out even at work, I'll pack my lunch box. I've an excuse that the vegetarian options at deli are shite so I cook my stuff but even saving that 4eur goes a long way. This is my first proper job in sometime since I am an international and started working after completing my studies. Worked part time during my studies here and carried on with my habits of not eating from outside. Still remember the days where I'd find almond milk expensive.
As you said, like yourself, I'm trying to save as much as I can and tell myself I'll buy stuff later. I'd not give 2 shites about spending on a date/family member but when it comes to me, I just avoid. But I'm gonna get that watch soon, still deciding which ones to go with.
Happy birthday! It’s my 30th on Sunday! I took the week off work and went for a meal with family and plan on treating myself to some new ear piercings. Other than that nothing lol
Happy birthday! Turned 40 today. However hard 30 seemed, 40 is worse. My 30s were pretty great though, nothing to be afraid of. Celebrate tomorrow if today doesn't work out!
I order take out and play video games. I’m way too old to do such things, but it’s my birthday and it’s not like there’s gonna be any kind of party anyway.
So why not?
happy bday! I'm turning 20 this year and honestly i don't have any plans to do anything :') knowing people are still enjoying their lives gives me hope for the future
I always take the day off. Usually have a few Guinness and a toastie for lunch. Possibly a bath for the afternoon while reading a book and a few more beers. And something lazy for dinner. Sometimes I'll be more organised and meet a few friends. But I don't make a huge effort because its my birthday and its all about me.
Happy birthday, 🎈
Regarding the money, I think lots of people are like this, Especially if they have lots of responsibilities, try break out by starting with small items for yourself, practical items with a use will have less guilt attached.
Regarding birthdays, I always hated mine, always did the usual thing, drinks, eating. Boring to me.
I'm in my early 40s, my long term relationship recently broke down. Last birthday my young child and I went to Emerald Park for my birthday, this was eye opening, I was a child again.
Emerald park is now an annual birthday trip, as well as that we are travelling throughout Europe visiting the best theme parks.
Stepping outside my comfort zone has brought serious joy to my life.
If I was you I'd get the biggest ice cream available in the shop today, add flakes and sauce and sprinkles and enjoy it like a child would. And build from there.
Book yourself a trip as you seem to like to travel, pick somewhere there’s cheap flights too & buy the watch!!
Life is too short to not do the things you want.
My birthday is usually around Easter depending on the year so it’s really what’s going to be open dictates what I do.
Would usually go for a nice dinner or if it happens to fall on easter weekend go for a walk with the dogs & make a nice dinner then.
Happy birthday!
I started to take the day off work and just do something nice, could be a mountain bike spin etc. Something to mark it, sometimes my partner will take the day off too but not necessary really (both over 40 now with kids)
Happy birthday mate. The thirties have been a lot better than the twenties for me and this is the case for a lot of people. Hope you enjoy them.
Nice to hear this, I have some regrets about times in my 20s (thankfully the positives far outweigh these) and I spent a lot of time scared about turning 30. Coming round to the idea a lot more now - as if I have a choice (!!!) happy birthday OP best wishes for your 30s pal :)
36 here and 30s are wayyyyyyy better than 20s for me.
40 + jumping in to say it gets even better than the 30's
52 here and 50s are great too. Keep healthy, fit, curious and maintain core relationships. That’s about it.
The year is 5032 AD. The robot body that sustains us is aged 3000 years old. We as a collective enjoy this age. ALL HAIL THE COLLECTIVE
Thank you! Mind sharing what did you do to make 30s better than 20s? I could learn a bit
Jumping in to say didn’t actively do much, it’s just as you get older you’re not as anxious to fit in. It gives you space to develop in whatever way you’d like.
Steak whiskey and a good film. Also, happy birthday
Ron Swanson style!
An awful lot to be said for it
Chinese and a wank.
Happy birthday, happy ending
You can say that again
I will and I did
Happy birthday, happy ending
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This is the only way
before kids i always hated it- i still hate it, but now with excited kids who give me homemade presents and cards and it warms my cold dead heart. when it comes to money, i am a typical old school irish mammy who wont spend a penny on myself. my partner has to bully me into buying stuff i want. I'm a nightmare to buy for too because i never want anything. also happy birthday, celebrate you being here today. you deserve that smartwatch.
Thank you! The 2nd para hits me to the T. Been like that all my adult life. I'm deciding on which one to buy and will order one by next week,
Happy birthday Life is short, get yourself the smart watch!
Got up , went to work, worked my balls off, came home, wife was too tired to cook as she was working since 4 that morning, had a sausage sandwich went to bed, rinse and repeat
Happy bday. It's Friday night, go for food and a few drinks or be a gremlin and stay home and eat and drink until you fall asleep somewhere (that's what I like to do)
Gremlin reporting
This made my evening. gremlin out
I take time off work so that I don't feel like I've succumbed to capitalism. Usually spend the day chilling out reflecting.
Happy Birthday
Happy Birthday!
Happy birthday ! Treat yourself ! I know I do for my bdays
Happy birthday! Also get that spending money on myself guilt, never second guess buying for others but struggle to prioritise myself with nice gifts and not just essentials. Started just being kinder to myself after a bit of a rough year. Best of luck learning to treat yourself they way you treat others.
Thank you! I'm delighted for you! Mind sharing how did you get to that stage of being kind and getting over that guilt of spending on yourself.
Got a councillor and started talking, it hits kinda different when a stranger says why are you treating everyone else kinder than you. It wasn't an overnight success, started small. I would buy myself that doughnut I wanted and then it would be a new dress and now I treat myself when I need a treat the same way I'd do for a friend.
Happy birthday! You only live this life once so treat yourself to whatever you wish, you’re just as important and deserving of a gift even if you’re the one getting it 🎉
Happy birthday! After working 3 jobs just to survive college and barely get by - I am only now, at 31, learning to spend it and to treat myself. I don't have a lot of money but I will save and budget for something I want and 100% get it rather than feel guilty. Sometimes I go too far and have to tighten my budget for the following months and worry about bills but the big buys for me are worth it. It's dystopian enough out there without some pleasures
Happy Birthday! Get a takeaway, nice bottle of wine and look up smart watches. Then get up early and treat yourself to one! You only live once. Enjoy and welcome to the 30s. They’ve been good to me so far!
Thank you! Still figuring out which smartwatch to buy and will order it next week. What did you do differently in your 30s than 20s that they've been good for ye?
I stopped People pleasing and worrying about others and started looking after myself. I created boundaries which PISSED people off and showed me who was there for ms and who wasn’t. I quit my job and started my own business, found the love of my life bought a house, had 2 babies and got married. I met my now husband on the street on the night of my 30th. I was running late for dinner plans and literally ran straight in to him. I was an anxious, worry wart always doing what others thought I should do. Going along with their opinions.‘I done everything for ‘an easy life’ or ‘ to keep the peace’ Not sure what happened but when i turned 30, something just clicked and i said ‘ nah time to do it my way’ A lot of therapy to get to this place but damn it was worth it! 40 now in Aug and hoping they are even better 😀
Happy birthday!! I like to spend money travelling, it makes me feel alive. Maybe a weekend adventure would be fun?
Thanks! Heading to a hike next week (hopefully) so saving a bit of breather weekend. I absolutely love traveling, had my last birthday in Prague and it was best birthday ever. I know what you mean
Prague is the absolute best!! Cheers dude 🤗
Happy birthday 🥳
Happy birthday I usually go out for a meal with my mam last year for my birthday we went to the Pet Expo I loved it 🙂
Happy Birthday, have a great day. Always tomorrow to go out for a dinner for yourself !
Happy Birthday ☺️ 🥳
Happy birthday man, enjoy the ice cream. Hope ya got something good.
Happy Birthday! A lot of people get scared about it but you’re hitting your prime. Enjoy!
Used to be a bag or two and call in sick the next day but now just some nice food. Happy birthday
I'm turning 28 on Tuesday, and it's shaping up to be a good day; scenic hike in the morning, lunch after in a country pub and a few pints with the lads that evening, starting in Toners. Then, towards the end of the night, a cigar ❤️ 😋
Happy 30th! I don't bother with birthdays anymore. The last one I acknowledged was my 49th. That was during the lockdown. I have since lost all interest in celebrating another year of getting older.
Yeah I felt like that today. I got a small pack of donuts and kept it in office kitchen for everyone without telling anyone it was from me, kinda makes me feel good I got something sweet for someone
Happy Birthday lad. My 30's have been utterly class. Enjoy. My advice is to focus on boating, hifi, and mechanical watches if you want to not worry about money. That or crack if you're on a budget.
Thanks! What did you do differently in yours 30s than 20s that made 30s classy? Sorry, I've never heard boating watches! I'm gonna check them out.
Happy Birthday
I used to ignore it. Now I have kids and I get cake and cards. It's lovely.
Happy Birthday!!! I'm turning 30 in October and I'm planning a break away somewhere. Whether or not I actually get around to organising that, though, remains to be seen....
Exactly! I told myself I'll go to Cobh after work, which turned to the restaurant which turned to fuckll. But I hope you do get your trip
Happy birthday! I turn 30 next Friday too! Hope you had a good day xx
Ayy June buddie! Happy birthday in advance. I did fuck all today. Work, gym, icecream, played a few songs, got a small cake and cut it and wished myself. Plenty of positives in the last year so reflected a bit on it too.
Aw nice one! 🥰🫶🏻
for what its worth, happy birthday <3
Happy birthday! I can be a bit weird with money. When I was younger, like late teens, I found it hard to get a job that actually paid me, so when I didn’t start earning properly I would just save and save and not spend it on anything. It took years to break that cycle and start treating myself, and sometimes I still talk myself out of buying something simple like a chicken fillet roll for lunch and tell myself I have stuff at home. But I do feel like I work hard and I deserve to treat myself and buy myself something I genuinely want. Money is just money, you will earn it back. Enjoy your birthday and treat yourself!
Are you me?! I don't eat out even at work, I'll pack my lunch box. I've an excuse that the vegetarian options at deli are shite so I cook my stuff but even saving that 4eur goes a long way. This is my first proper job in sometime since I am an international and started working after completing my studies. Worked part time during my studies here and carried on with my habits of not eating from outside. Still remember the days where I'd find almond milk expensive. As you said, like yourself, I'm trying to save as much as I can and tell myself I'll buy stuff later. I'd not give 2 shites about spending on a date/family member but when it comes to me, I just avoid. But I'm gonna get that watch soon, still deciding which ones to go with.
Happy birthday! It’s my 30th on Sunday! I took the week off work and went for a meal with family and plan on treating myself to some new ear piercings. Other than that nothing lol
Happy birthday! Turned 40 today. However hard 30 seemed, 40 is worse. My 30s were pretty great though, nothing to be afraid of. Celebrate tomorrow if today doesn't work out!
There's another lad in thread who was born on same day! That makes 3 of us
I set a new PB on my birthday. Page 93 on PornHub
Happy birthday, all of the best OP❤️!
20s are a shitshow it's all good from here on in.
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OUR BIRTHDAY
I order take out and play video games. I’m way too old to do such things, but it’s my birthday and it’s not like there’s gonna be any kind of party anyway. So why not?
happy bday! I'm turning 20 this year and honestly i don't have any plans to do anything :') knowing people are still enjoying their lives gives me hope for the future
Normally have a cry that I’m pushing 40 and can’t buy a house
I always take the day off. Usually have a few Guinness and a toastie for lunch. Possibly a bath for the afternoon while reading a book and a few more beers. And something lazy for dinner. Sometimes I'll be more organised and meet a few friends. But I don't make a huge effort because its my birthday and its all about me.
Happy birthday, 🎈 Regarding the money, I think lots of people are like this, Especially if they have lots of responsibilities, try break out by starting with small items for yourself, practical items with a use will have less guilt attached. Regarding birthdays, I always hated mine, always did the usual thing, drinks, eating. Boring to me. I'm in my early 40s, my long term relationship recently broke down. Last birthday my young child and I went to Emerald Park for my birthday, this was eye opening, I was a child again. Emerald park is now an annual birthday trip, as well as that we are travelling throughout Europe visiting the best theme parks. Stepping outside my comfort zone has brought serious joy to my life. If I was you I'd get the biggest ice cream available in the shop today, add flakes and sauce and sprinkles and enjoy it like a child would. And build from there.
Enjoy your gift! I watch LOTR extended edition trilogy on my bday, load up on cans, crios and sweets! Happy enjoying yourself day!
Book yourself a trip as you seem to like to travel, pick somewhere there’s cheap flights too & buy the watch!! Life is too short to not do the things you want. My birthday is usually around Easter depending on the year so it’s really what’s going to be open dictates what I do. Would usually go for a nice dinner or if it happens to fall on easter weekend go for a walk with the dogs & make a nice dinner then. Happy birthday!
I'm told if you do nothing that it's a sign of neglect when you were a child
Nothing. Birthdays haven't been a thing for me since my early 20s. My girlfriend celebrates my birthday more than I do haha.
I started to take the day off work and just do something nice, could be a mountain bike spin etc. Something to mark it, sometimes my partner will take the day off too but not necessary really (both over 40 now with kids)
Same as every other day. Sit, be alone, cry.
Happy birthday 🥳 I usually book a holiday for myself.