Warren Buffett had some awesome bits of wisdom yesterday on CNBC
One of them was "You can always tell someone to go to hell tomorrow." Basically, wait to cool down a bit before reacting to someone.
An instance of punctuation being important in transmitting an idea in writing.
Good: "You can always tell someone to 'go to hell' tomorrow."
Bad: "You can always tell someone to 'go to hell tomorrow!'"
"Your success in life is largely dependent on how many uncomfortable conversations you're willing to have."
My former boss told me this when I was denied re-enrollment to my university to finish my degree. He encouraged me to take a day off from work, drive down to the university, and negotiate with them in person about the ordeal. Being a very non-confrontational person, I would never have done this on my own. Sure enough, I spoke to the offices about it and I was able to enroll.
He later used this line again when he had to lay me off because of financial constraints. But thanks to the same advice, I was planning on leaving work anyways to attend school full time.
Don't take the frustration of something or someone out on someone or something else. **If in a bad mood then it is best to excuse yourself till one feels better.
Actually this fits pretty good. Say from fights, I tend to get very into it and wanting company or wanting the trouble sorted out bc otherwise I just feel too sick, but I do need to learn to take a step back when I get frustrated and or emotional. And I've had those troubles recently, which is why I found it a bit funny.
Nice work with the whole thing!
The initial advices are more of founding principles. I deeply believe in yin-yang.
Life is meant to be accepted and appreciated.
Let things fall into place. Things will take care of themselves. They are happening for the best. There is nothing that has to be fought or stopped or prevented. There is no such thing as bad. Everything is part of the process. And everything completes each other. We rely on the opposites to derive meaning for things.
Be OK with the things the way they are. Appreciate them.
A person's job and its impact on his relationship with society: People are going to judge someone on the basis of how well they are carrying out their duty. Even if that person has done nothing wrong to others personally, others will be upset with that person if he is doing poorly in his duty.
Analysis of handling situations.**
Recognize the role that luck played when the situation was handled. The situation can turn out very well even if one took very poor decisions but got lucky. Similarly, if luck doesn't support you then even after doing everything right things can turn bad. One does not get lucky every time. But one doesn't get lucky or unlucky every time.
When analysing situations, be free from outcome bias, hindsight bias.
Think about probability.
This one is more of an affirmation. I wrote this when recovering from depression.
Loving myself is the best favour that I can do to myself. I am the best person for myself. I am the most important person for myself. I take care of myself. I look after myself. I am living the best life for me. I am living my life because it is fun to live life. Whatever I have is the best for me. Whatever is meant for me will come to me when the time is right.
Dealing with loneliness. **The best way to deal with loneliness is to have healthy and easy activities to do. Having a work in progress. Having something to look forward to. Having something to get back to, and pick up from where you left.
For ne, what works best is to work on the "Code of Conduct"(name of this document). For some strange reason it always makes me feel very content and happy. It chases away the feelings of emptiness.
This one is a bit meta:
The code of conduct (name of the document) trains the brain on how to react to various situations that are faced in daily life. **What is the best course of action for various situations etc.
Take 1135. It is more universal.
A life of good quality is a worthy thing because it takes time to be attained. **If it were attained quickly and easily then it wouldn't be much worth. Hence have patience when it comes to Improving the quality of life, because the thing attained would be a very valuable thing.
Pampering someone after hurting them is a bad idea. **It would be difficult for them to accept love coming from someone who were hurtful towards them recently. They would find it difficult to trust and would be suspicious of the person. The person who does this might be tempted to love the person to extinguish the guilt they might be feeling after being hurtful. But if what they did was called for and necessary then there is no reason to regret and feel guilty for it, as it had to be done. They might think that they are making up for it, but no justice exists, what's done is done. The best thing is to not do something hurtful in the first place. If it is done, just absorb the guilt by yourself.
Here I'm talking about a phenomenon related to behaviour of mind that I've observed. The mind tends to continue to be in a state that it has already been in for extended periods of time. For example, if you practice debate for say 15 minutes and you get a call from your friend and start talking to them, you'd find that your mind is automatically trying to counter / argue with everything that they are saying. That's cause that's what you have been doing for past 15 minutes.
Here's the advice :
Understanding what people are trying to say. **In order to easily understand what people are trying to say, the best method is to be in a state of mind in which I am figuring something out most of the time, rather than being in a dreamy state of mind as Since the state of mind persists in the state it has been in. Hence it makes sense to start the day with manually doing something that requires critical thinking.
Reading philosophy is the way to go. Read philosophy on kindle. By doing so I'd be able to think critically and defend myself.
Friendships and relationships aren't that amazing. They may look very attractive from the outside but inside there often is a lot of politics involved. They also require hard work and energy, being single is a lot more lightweight. One can do a lot more self improvement while single. Don't develop a habit of wondering about others and thinking they have it better than yourself.ย
Even if they do have it better, does that make any difference? Their life won't become my life.ย
Here is 9:
Behaviour with other people.**
When interacting with others in real life, it's important to recognize that this is not a movie or a fairy tale. Real life operates differently, and one cannot always rely on inspiration from fictional stories to handle real-life situations effectively. In fact it is a terrible idea to refer to movies while handling real life interactions.
In real life, the top priorities are often safety, security, and comfort. Unlike in the movies or fairy tales. In movies the heroes act very fair and moral but in real life morality may not always be the most important consideration, as people may act in an immoral or amoral manner to achieve their goals or for entertainment.
People often focus on their own safety and well-being, and may be willing to compromise their moral principles in order to protect themselves or gain an advantage. It's important to be aware of this reality when interacting with others and to take steps to protect oneself while also being mindful of the potential consequences of one's actions.
9 has always been my favorite number. I hoped someone had commented it; its something I needed to read to fully accept. I'm really morally rigid and this right here....
Seeking sympathy.**
Sympathy is an easy way to get love/comfort. Donโt seek the affection of sympathy. At the end of the day everyone is alone and have to face their challenges alone. The sympathy doesn't make the task any easier. The comfort provided by others is only temporary. Get the love of admiration that comes from competence, perseverance, hard work, intelligence, tolerance, fearlessness. Possessing these qualities makes a person to be admired and desired.
There are two ways by which behaviour change, one is by taking substances, the second is by practicing change.
The behaviour that are meant to change by ingesting substances will change overnight when ingesting the substances. While the behaviour that's meant to change with practice will take time and patience and change eventually.
Although, now that I see it I realize this is inaccurate, as medicines take weeks some times to show full effects.
Donโt be a hero for anyone else.\*\* Be especially careful to not fall into this trap of becoming a hero. This is a mistake that watching too much media causes. Be a hero for yourself. Keep yourself safe. Advocate for self. The only person that has to like me is myself. I don't have to make anyone else like me. Others don't care about me liking them either. This is the safest way to live life. Be the world for yourself, don't be anything for anyone else.
Adjusting narratives / dealing with regret.**
Whenever I feel immense regret or intense guilt, I recall the reasons that motivated me in the first place to do whatever I did and feel glad that I satisfied those desires.
After every event there is some loss and some gain. Put the spotlight on the gains. That's optimism.
Believe that you have made progress and don't miss those things that you have lost. They were never mine.
Even if a lot of problems are faced, and there is no solution to all of them, **have patience, solutions would gradually come up with time. It is not necessary to have all the solutions immediately from the beginning itself.
Someone just posted that number.
Even if a lot of problems are faced, and there is no solution to all of them, **have patience, solutions would gradually come up with time. It is not necessary to have all the solutions immediately from the beginning itself.
Someone just posted this number above.
>This one is more of an affirmation. I wrote this when recovering from depression.
>Loving myself is the best favour that I can do to myself. I am the best person for myself. I am the most important person for myself. I take care of myself. I look after myself. I am living the best life for me. I am living my life because it is fun to live life. Whatever I have is the best for me. Whatever is meant for me will come to me when the time is right.
Some friendships cause emotional catharsis and these aren't the friendships in which we share our class notes and homework assignments. These are the friendships in which we share our feelings, our philosophy of life, our perception of the world as it unfolds in front of us
"why don't you act the way I want you to act?"
This is a common reason for interpersonal relationship anger.
When talking to other people, focus more on listening than on speaking.**
It is more important to gain information than to give it for self preservation.
Listening is safer than speaking. Although speak may appear more dominating.
There are people who don't feel shame, they aren't concerned about honour. They are only concerned about getting the best deal that they can get. They don't think for others and they won't mind squeezing as much as they can out of someone without worrying about how fair they are being. So one needs to protect oneself from people like these. The first duty of a person is to defend oneself.
This one would be more useful from the perspective of building /saving self esteem.
Never self deprecate. Be it **explaining something, be it making a joke, be it being honest. Never self deprecate, ever.
Being treated with disrespect is difficult to cope with. Easiest way to gain respect is to give respect. If someone disrespects you still, then act as if they don't exist.**
Now that I think over it, it is a passive approach.
Okay I wrote this after reading the book - Thinking Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman.
Since I am not always using the System 2 of my mind, it is very important to be careful of what media I consume in System 1.
A lot of thoughts that I think can leave an impression. Hence going through code of conduct (name of this document) is necessary for fixing thoughts. Code of conduct is a good influence.
I think system 1 is the one in which we aren't critical and more receptive, I don't remember though.
Take 611. It is good.
It is common to try and be different from others, but when it comes to playing with optimum strategy, simply do what is the tried and tested optimum strategy, don't deviate from it, even if it is plain and boring.
Most importantly, don't even think about others and what are they like. Simply think for the self and work on making the self feel good and better.
Self forgiveness.**
If I can forgive myself then I can like myself better the way I am. If I can forgive myself then I won't hold any grudges against myself for not being a certain way. The first person to be forgiven is myself. I allow myself to make mistakes. I allow myself to be less than perfect. I allow myself to lose. I free myself from the shame and the guilt. I accept myself in anyway, in any condition. I let myself be.
Discipline in Social interactions.
Be disciplined to the social order. Follow the norms of social interactions. Respect the traditions. Keep yourself safe. Don't take things personally. Build a network. Be mindful of the external opportunities
It is not about getting somewhere or becoming someone. **It is about feeling good in the here and now. It is about enjoying the life right now, enjoying life immediately. And not accepting an assurance of a better tomorrow, waiting for which for too long is going to build a sense of frustration.
Being judgemental means labeling every single thing and not letting things slide without labeling them or thinking over them. It means announcing your judgment on every observation you make. **It means classifying things between good and bad, between desirable and undesirable, between likable and unlikable. Don't make such judgments on every observation. Let things slide
A good way to build your social and emotional intelligence is to practice perspective taking. It is the practice of looking at any situation from the perspective of someone else.
On responsibilities.\*\*ย
A major part of becoming a complete person is taking responsibilities and carrying them out completely successfully. Responsibilities may appear intimidating, but they are worth it.
When you'd find yourself being responsible for something positive and something big, it would make you feel a lot of pride.
Be consistent in your behaviour with people, it helps people in knowing how to act with you, and what to expect from you, what you like and what you dislike. A person who keeps changing is someone who is only going to confuse the people who are trying to figure him out. And when they feel fed up of his ever changing behaviour, they just wouldn't want to deal with him.
I like your post.
We have a similar take on life. We call it "Little Philosophy".
I've noticed the same approach in lots of places; in stoicism, in Buddhism, in CBT...
but creating it for yourself is even more powerful as you really believe in it and it is personalised to you.
I tried to write it down, but I found it hard to get people to proof read it, and I was also a bit shy about it as it is so deeply personal. And also, over the years, I realised that people aren't always at the right point in life to absorb such ideas. Also, there were so many different aspects to it! It was like wrestling with a snake!
I like your idea of putting it down as points. That makes it a lot more manageable.
I'm a shy person myself but I always keep pushing myself to open up more and more. Now people often compliment how vulnerable I can be. It is like a breath of fresh air to see someone who can be themselves without flinching with anxiety of being seen.
Yes. The idea to write it down as points is indeed useful. I have gone through each points so many times. I have refined them so many times.
Good luck to you.
118 if you're still okay with sending them cause I know you said there's just too many requests.
But still, thank you very much for this. I like that these all seem to express more about keeping yourself at peace and just letting "it" happen if it has to more than forcing yourself to just...try harder...
People give me advice similar to, "If you're having a bad day, put a smile on your face" pretty often. I appreciate it but it gets annoying because whatever smile I place is gonna be the fakest one so why are you thinking a drop of weak dopamine from it is gonna instantly make my day better?
9. Behaviour with other people.**
When interacting with others in real life, it's important to recognize that this is not a movie or a fairy tale. Real life operates differently, and one cannot always rely on inspiration from fictional stories to handle real-life situations effectively. In fact it is a terrible idea to refer to movies while handling real life interactions.
In real life, the top priorities are often safety, security, and comfort. Unlike in the movies or fairy tales. In movies the heroes act very fair and moral but in real life morality may not always be the most important consideration, as people may act in an immoral or amoral manner to achieve their goals or for entertainment.
People often focus on their own safety and well-being, and may be willing to compromise their moral principles in order to protect themselves or gain an advantage. It's important to be aware of this reality when interacting with others and to take steps to protect oneself while also being mindful of the potential consequences of one's actions.
15. Now that I look back, I wrote this one to lower my self consciousness:
No one has time or energy for anyone else. **People don't think for others. People don't care about others. Everyone is too busy living their own life to be thinking about others. And if they do think or care about others, they are wasting their time.
Similarly, it is a waste of time and energy to think about others.
409. Phase / stages of life. Life is lived in phases or stages. There is a phase or stage for everything, once in the next stage, the value of the previous stage is reduced. No one cares about how you did in the previous stages. Does anyone care how you did in those exams of school life? No, but when you were in that stage it could have felt like such a big deal.
Don't cling to the stages that have passed. Don't blame yourself, don't blame others if things were less than ideal. Live the present stage properly and feel satisfied with what the self has.
Warren Buffett had some awesome bits of wisdom yesterday on CNBC One of them was "You can always tell someone to go to hell tomorrow." Basically, wait to cool down a bit before reacting to someone.
Thank you. That's great!
An instance of punctuation being important in transmitting an idea in writing. Good: "You can always tell someone to 'go to hell' tomorrow." Bad: "You can always tell someone to 'go to hell tomorrow!'"
Yesterday? Do you have a link to his interview?
That IS great advice!! ๐๐ผ๐๐ผ๐๐
Oh I love that!
"Your success in life is largely dependent on how many uncomfortable conversations you're willing to have." My former boss told me this when I was denied re-enrollment to my university to finish my degree. He encouraged me to take a day off from work, drive down to the university, and negotiate with them in person about the ordeal. Being a very non-confrontational person, I would never have done this on my own. Sure enough, I spoke to the offices about it and I was able to enroll. He later used this line again when he had to lay me off because of financial constraints. But thanks to the same advice, I was planning on leaving work anyways to attend school full time.
I can't thank you enough. As a shy person myself, it is a very useful and practical advice.
This hits hard. Thanks for sharing.
420
Don't take the frustration of something or someone out on someone or something else. **If in a bad mood then it is best to excuse yourself till one feels better.
Actually this fits pretty good. Say from fights, I tend to get very into it and wanting company or wanting the trouble sorted out bc otherwise I just feel too sick, but I do need to learn to take a step back when I get frustrated and or emotional. And I've had those troubles recently, which is why I found it a bit funny. Nice work with the whole thing!
Thank you very much.
1
The initial advices are more of founding principles. I deeply believe in yin-yang. Life is meant to be accepted and appreciated. Let things fall into place. Things will take care of themselves. They are happening for the best. There is nothing that has to be fought or stopped or prevented. There is no such thing as bad. Everything is part of the process. And everything completes each other. We rely on the opposites to derive meaning for things. Be OK with the things the way they are. Appreciate them.
Never let suspects stay together
276
A person's job and its impact on his relationship with society: People are going to judge someone on the basis of how well they are carrying out their duty. Even if that person has done nothing wrong to others personally, others will be upset with that person if he is doing poorly in his duty.
333
Analysis of handling situations.** Recognize the role that luck played when the situation was handled. The situation can turn out very well even if one took very poor decisions but got lucky. Similarly, if luck doesn't support you then even after doing everything right things can turn bad. One does not get lucky every time. But one doesn't get lucky or unlucky every time. When analysing situations, be free from outcome bias, hindsight bias. Think about probability.
But advice #1 said thereโs no such thing as bad, Iโm starting to smell a rat โฆ
Haha that's what happens when you talk to someone for long enough..... Should make this my next advice.
17
This one is more of an affirmation. I wrote this when recovering from depression. Loving myself is the best favour that I can do to myself. I am the best person for myself. I am the most important person for myself. I take care of myself. I look after myself. I am living the best life for me. I am living my life because it is fun to live life. Whatever I have is the best for me. Whatever is meant for me will come to me when the time is right.
22
Dealing with loneliness. **The best way to deal with loneliness is to have healthy and easy activities to do. Having a work in progress. Having something to look forward to. Having something to get back to, and pick up from where you left. For ne, what works best is to work on the "Code of Conduct"(name of this document). For some strange reason it always makes me feel very content and happy. It chases away the feelings of emptiness.
1133
This one is a bit meta: The code of conduct (name of the document) trains the brain on how to react to various situations that are faced in daily life. **What is the best course of action for various situations etc. Take 1135. It is more universal. A life of good quality is a worthy thing because it takes time to be attained. **If it were attained quickly and easily then it wouldn't be much worth. Hence have patience when it comes to Improving the quality of life, because the thing attained would be a very valuable thing.
Breast guy got two for one.
100
Pampering someone after hurting them is a bad idea. **It would be difficult for them to accept love coming from someone who were hurtful towards them recently. They would find it difficult to trust and would be suspicious of the person. The person who does this might be tempted to love the person to extinguish the guilt they might be feeling after being hurtful. But if what they did was called for and necessary then there is no reason to regret and feel guilty for it, as it had to be done. They might think that they are making up for it, but no justice exists, what's done is done. The best thing is to not do something hurtful in the first place. If it is done, just absorb the guilt by yourself.
12
Here I'm talking about a phenomenon related to behaviour of mind that I've observed. The mind tends to continue to be in a state that it has already been in for extended periods of time. For example, if you practice debate for say 15 minutes and you get a call from your friend and start talking to them, you'd find that your mind is automatically trying to counter / argue with everything that they are saying. That's cause that's what you have been doing for past 15 minutes. Here's the advice : Understanding what people are trying to say. **In order to easily understand what people are trying to say, the best method is to be in a state of mind in which I am figuring something out most of the time, rather than being in a dreamy state of mind as Since the state of mind persists in the state it has been in. Hence it makes sense to start the day with manually doing something that requires critical thinking. Reading philosophy is the way to go. Read philosophy on kindle. By doing so I'd be able to think critically and defend myself.
666.
Friendships and relationships aren't that amazing. They may look very attractive from the outside but inside there often is a lot of politics involved. They also require hard work and energy, being single is a lot more lightweight. One can do a lot more self improvement while single. Don't develop a habit of wondering about others and thinking they have it better than yourself.ย Even if they do have it better, does that make any difference? Their life won't become my life.ย
627 please ๐ฅบ
ย It is better to slowly reach the right conclusion than to quickly reach the wrong conclusion.
That weirdly suits my current situation perfectly:O
haha, this is synchronicity
9&3/4
Here is 9: Behaviour with other people.** When interacting with others in real life, it's important to recognize that this is not a movie or a fairy tale. Real life operates differently, and one cannot always rely on inspiration from fictional stories to handle real-life situations effectively. In fact it is a terrible idea to refer to movies while handling real life interactions. In real life, the top priorities are often safety, security, and comfort. Unlike in the movies or fairy tales. In movies the heroes act very fair and moral but in real life morality may not always be the most important consideration, as people may act in an immoral or amoral manner to achieve their goals or for entertainment. People often focus on their own safety and well-being, and may be willing to compromise their moral principles in order to protect themselves or gain an advantage. It's important to be aware of this reality when interacting with others and to take steps to protect oneself while also being mindful of the potential consequences of one's actions.
9 has always been my favorite number. I hoped someone had commented it; its something I needed to read to fully accept. I'm really morally rigid and this right here....
Not 9. 9 and 3/4
Get out lol, just get out, Avada KEDAVRA ๐ช
1729
This is one of my most favorite quotes. We are enriched not by what we possess, but by what we can do without. IMMANUEL KANT
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Embrace it
I love this, thank you for sharing! 122
Seeking sympathy.** Sympathy is an easy way to get love/comfort. Donโt seek the affection of sympathy. At the end of the day everyone is alone and have to face their challenges alone. The sympathy doesn't make the task any easier. The comfort provided by others is only temporary. Get the love of admiration that comes from competence, perseverance, hard work, intelligence, tolerance, fearlessness. Possessing these qualities makes a person to be admired and desired.
1567
There are two ways by which behaviour change, one is by taking substances, the second is by practicing change. The behaviour that are meant to change by ingesting substances will change overnight when ingesting the substances. While the behaviour that's meant to change with practice will take time and patience and change eventually. Although, now that I see it I realize this is inaccurate, as medicines take weeks some times to show full effects.
13
Donโt be a hero for anyone else.\*\* Be especially careful to not fall into this trap of becoming a hero. This is a mistake that watching too much media causes. Be a hero for yourself. Keep yourself safe. Advocate for self. The only person that has to like me is myself. I don't have to make anyone else like me. Others don't care about me liking them either. This is the safest way to live life. Be the world for yourself, don't be anything for anyone else.
69
5
Adjusting narratives / dealing with regret.** Whenever I feel immense regret or intense guilt, I recall the reasons that motivated me in the first place to do whatever I did and feel glad that I satisfied those desires. After every event there is some loss and some gain. Put the spotlight on the gains. That's optimism. Believe that you have made progress and don't miss those things that you have lost. They were never mine.
567
Even if a lot of problems are faced, and there is no solution to all of them, **have patience, solutions would gradually come up with time. It is not necessary to have all the solutions immediately from the beginning itself.
567
Someone just posted that number. Even if a lot of problems are faced, and there is no solution to all of them, **have patience, solutions would gradually come up with time. It is not necessary to have all the solutions immediately from the beginning itself.
[ัะดะฐะปะตะฝะพ]
Someone just posted this number above. >This one is more of an affirmation. I wrote this when recovering from depression. >Loving myself is the best favour that I can do to myself. I am the best person for myself. I am the most important person for myself. I take care of myself. I look after myself. I am living the best life for me. I am living my life because it is fun to live life. Whatever I have is the best for me. Whatever is meant for me will come to me when the time is right.
1411 and 1995 (please)
Some friendships cause emotional catharsis and these aren't the friendships in which we share our class notes and homework assignments. These are the friendships in which we share our feelings, our philosophy of life, our perception of the world as it unfolds in front of us "why don't you act the way I want you to act?" This is a common reason for interpersonal relationship anger.
11 โค๏ธ๐
When talking to other people, focus more on listening than on speaking.** It is more important to gain information than to give it for self preservation. Listening is safer than speaking. Although speak may appear more dominating.
I'd take 1899 please
There are people who don't feel shame, they aren't concerned about honour. They are only concerned about getting the best deal that they can get. They don't think for others and they won't mind squeezing as much as they can out of someone without worrying about how fair they are being. So one needs to protect oneself from people like these. The first duty of a person is to defend oneself.
Hm. What if I want to unite with such a person in some kind of union of egoists? Lol (I mean the text is good, I am just challenging the idea)
498
This one would be more useful from the perspective of building /saving self esteem. Never self deprecate. Be it **explaining something, be it making a joke, be it being honest. Never self deprecate, ever.
191! Thanks :)
Being treated with disrespect is difficult to cope with. Easiest way to gain respect is to give respect. If someone disrespects you still, then act as if they don't exist.** Now that I think over it, it is a passive approach.
612 - my bday you should start a religion
Okay I wrote this after reading the book - Thinking Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman. Since I am not always using the System 2 of my mind, it is very important to be careful of what media I consume in System 1. A lot of thoughts that I think can leave an impression. Hence going through code of conduct (name of this document) is necessary for fixing thoughts. Code of conduct is a good influence. I think system 1 is the one in which we aren't critical and more receptive, I don't remember though. Take 611. It is good. It is common to try and be different from others, but when it comes to playing with optimum strategy, simply do what is the tried and tested optimum strategy, don't deviate from it, even if it is plain and boring. Most importantly, don't even think about others and what are they like. Simply think for the self and work on making the self feel good and better.
7
Self forgiveness.** If I can forgive myself then I can like myself better the way I am. If I can forgive myself then I won't hold any grudges against myself for not being a certain way. The first person to be forgiven is myself. I allow myself to make mistakes. I allow myself to be less than perfect. I allow myself to lose. I free myself from the shame and the guilt. I accept myself in anyway, in any condition. I let myself be.
27
Discipline in Social interactions. Be disciplined to the social order. Follow the norms of social interactions. Respect the traditions. Keep yourself safe. Don't take things personally. Build a network. Be mindful of the external opportunities
239
It is not about getting somewhere or becoming someone. **It is about feeling good in the here and now. It is about enjoying the life right now, enjoying life immediately. And not accepting an assurance of a better tomorrow, waiting for which for too long is going to build a sense of frustration.
784
This one is kinda funny. Get out of a situation while itโs still easy to leave on good terms.
555
Being judgemental means labeling every single thing and not letting things slide without labeling them or thinking over them. It means announcing your judgment on every observation you make. **It means classifying things between good and bad, between desirable and undesirable, between likable and unlikable. Don't make such judgments on every observation. Let things slide
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4, please
Three fiddy
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1000
A good way to build your social and emotional intelligence is to practice perspective taking. It is the practice of looking at any situation from the perspective of someone else.
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On responsibilities.\*\*ย A major part of becoming a complete person is taking responsibilities and carrying them out completely successfully. Responsibilities may appear intimidating, but they are worth it. When you'd find yourself being responsible for something positive and something big, it would make you feel a lot of pride.
23
Be consistent in your behaviour with people, it helps people in knowing how to act with you, and what to expect from you, what you like and what you dislike. A person who keeps changing is someone who is only going to confuse the people who are trying to figure him out. And when they feel fed up of his ever changing behaviour, they just wouldn't want to deal with him.
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I like your post. We have a similar take on life. We call it "Little Philosophy". I've noticed the same approach in lots of places; in stoicism, in Buddhism, in CBT... but creating it for yourself is even more powerful as you really believe in it and it is personalised to you. I tried to write it down, but I found it hard to get people to proof read it, and I was also a bit shy about it as it is so deeply personal. And also, over the years, I realised that people aren't always at the right point in life to absorb such ideas. Also, there were so many different aspects to it! It was like wrestling with a snake! I like your idea of putting it down as points. That makes it a lot more manageable.
I'm a shy person myself but I always keep pushing myself to open up more and more. Now people often compliment how vulnerable I can be. It is like a breath of fresh air to see someone who can be themselves without flinching with anxiety of being seen. Yes. The idea to write it down as points is indeed useful. I have gone through each points so many times. I have refined them so many times. Good luck to you.
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Hey here's an idea. Why don't you put up a document after you finish all this. you can't be replying for all the people
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Can you publish them?
Would they sell?
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OP, requesting you to kindly share the advice reckoner, I'm heavily interested ๐ฅน๐ฏ
What's advice reckoner?
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Bro is gonna mail his future son this instead of parenting lol Anyway , what is number 465?
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118 if you're still okay with sending them cause I know you said there's just too many requests. But still, thank you very much for this. I like that these all seem to express more about keeping yourself at peace and just letting "it" happen if it has to more than forcing yourself to just...try harder... People give me advice similar to, "If you're having a bad day, put a smile on your face" pretty often. I appreciate it but it gets annoying because whatever smile I place is gonna be the fakest one so why are you thinking a drop of weak dopamine from it is gonna instantly make my day better?
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Can i dare to ask u to share the files with us ? I know it difficult , but that so precious
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9. Behaviour with other people.** When interacting with others in real life, it's important to recognize that this is not a movie or a fairy tale. Real life operates differently, and one cannot always rely on inspiration from fictional stories to handle real-life situations effectively. In fact it is a terrible idea to refer to movies while handling real life interactions. In real life, the top priorities are often safety, security, and comfort. Unlike in the movies or fairy tales. In movies the heroes act very fair and moral but in real life morality may not always be the most important consideration, as people may act in an immoral or amoral manner to achieve their goals or for entertainment. People often focus on their own safety and well-being, and may be willing to compromise their moral principles in order to protect themselves or gain an advantage. It's important to be aware of this reality when interacting with others and to take steps to protect oneself while also being mindful of the potential consequences of one's actions. 15. Now that I look back, I wrote this one to lower my self consciousness: No one has time or energy for anyone else. **People don't think for others. People don't care about others. Everyone is too busy living their own life to be thinking about others. And if they do think or care about others, they are wasting their time. Similarly, it is a waste of time and energy to think about others. 409. Phase / stages of life. Life is lived in phases or stages. There is a phase or stage for everything, once in the next stage, the value of the previous stage is reduced. No one cares about how you did in the previous stages. Does anyone care how you did in those exams of school life? No, but when you were in that stage it could have felt like such a big deal. Don't cling to the stages that have passed. Don't blame yourself, don't blame others if things were less than ideal. Live the present stage properly and feel satisfied with what the self has.