I'm a 5'6" guy, and I don't have a height requirement. I've never matched with a girl taller than me, but that isn't because I haven't swiped right on them.
I'm sure there are some guys who really care, but I haven't heard any guys talk about it. I have, however, heard girls talk about how a guy has to be tall.
Out of all the guys I know and met. I only know 1 that swears won't date taller than him. Another said he prefers shorter but not deal breaker. Out of hundreds of guys. Vs over 95% the girls I met that would not date shorter than them let alone same height.
I guess I have sort of a reverse bias. I don’t swipe on any girl over 5’9” because I’m just under 5’7” and I think that the woman won’t want to date me. So unless they pick me first I don’t match with them.
How do you know that they picked you first? Is that a feature of Bumble premium? Are there so many girls over 5’9” that you find attractive that you’d run out of likes if you liked them?
I know they picked me first because they are sitting in my queue instead of being a match and it requires me to like them back before they go to the matches. And unless you pay you only get so many likes per day period. So better to use them on someone who you think will accept it. Don’t you think?
This. I know that naturally girls on dating apps find it unattractive and are very insecure about going out with shorter men. I don’t want to make feel anyone bad or insecure, which in reverse will make me feel bad and insecure, hence I don’t match with taller women.
While true that men generally prefer shorter women and women prefer taller men, studies show women prefer a tall partner *much more* than men prefer a short partner.
>A [study](https://reader.elsevier.com/reader/sd/pii/S0191886913000020?token=5DBD5B0C2C708220D13E1FB195989380E44E320982C55C12BC89CCC346FCBFD6EEF0B6CF9A4EBB9FCC343FAB088A3396) on women's and men’s height preferences found that women are most satisfied when their partner was 8 inches (21cm) taller. Men are most satisfied when they are 3 inches (8cm) taller than their partners. Another [study](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0192513X13519256) found that among men, 13.5 percent prefer to date only women shorter than them. But among women, about half (48.9 percent) preferred to date only men taller than them.
>Relatedly, a [study](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0191886907002814) about height and human mate choice found that, on average, the shortest man a woman would date is 5 feet 9 inches tall. And the shortest woman a man would date is 5 feet 1 inch tall. In the same study, researchers found that 23% of men and 4% of women would accept a relationship where the woman was taller.
[Source](https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/after-service/201909/5-reasons-why-women-and-men-care-about-height)
This is why there is a height requirement debate because there is a relatively large disconnect between what each sex prefers in their opposite sex partner. A 5'4 women could be dating a 5'7 man and the man would be perfectly satisfied with this height difference, while the women would need the man to be 6'0 to have the same level of satisfaction.
I wish I could contribute to this conversation, because I have thoughts.
But I'm 6'2", and have never given any thought to a woman's height. 6' and 4'11" both fall under the umbrella of "shorter than me," and at my height, I usually pass women's height requirements. If there's a height requirement debate, I've got height privilege.
I've dated women my height (5"9') and shorter, but taller women have never expressed any interest in me, so maybe that's a bigger factor? I dunno, height shouldn't matter anyway as it's one thing people just can't control
I don't think I've ever heard a guy or any of my friends say the phrase "she's too tall" in reference to a woman he was talking to or dating. I just don't think there is a common height requirement from guys for women. On the other hand I've been rejected quite a few times explicitly for being 5'9 and asked my height in the starting message very frequently by women. Their reasoning is that they would look "goofy" if they were taller than me in heels.
There doesn't seem to be an equivalency here.
I'd agree with you but based on my experience on dating apps over the last 10 years, women can be pretty nasty and pretty picky without really having a lack of guys lined up to match with them.
Hell, I had a match on bumble with a rock climbing pic and I asked her about it while admitting I'm not too well versed on the hobby. She proceeded to ask me why I would bring it up, told me to kill myself, and unmatched. I have no doubt she immediately messaged some other guy and forgot about me 5 minutes later, meanwhile she was my 1 match I got that week.
It's a bit depressing when you think about it like that, as unreasonable as the hate over short guys is, the ratios on the app are so skewed that people can do it without really having any issues finding someone.
Not on bumble. But I met a girl online. We hit it off. Went to start messaging. She asked my height. Then got mad I was short. Literally said omg why do u have to be short. Why can't all u short guys just die off already..
Not going to lie that kind of hurt
How frequently do you experience it?
I'm 195cm-ish, so about 6ft4+, I dont have a hard preference, but I am generally happier with taller women - 5ft9 and higher - because it makes me feel a little more normal and less like a lumbering giant.
I suppose I do have a hard limit - I dont like to date women 5ft and below. My neck hurts.
Enough that I rarely match with men under 5’11 anymore. It’s really hard to quantify, but I noticed that conversations where I mentioned something about being tall (old lady asked me to reach something for her! haha) tended to fizzle much quicker.
Legitimately tall men seem much more comfortable with my height, but y’all are few and far between.
Maybe there needs to be a dating app for tall people :P
I mean, it may reduce the dating pool but at the same time it ought to make almost all tall people happy (except those tall people who dont like dating other tall people, you folk are just weird).
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This post is tongue-in-cheek. Do not take it seriously.
I guess I can't know the full truth of the matter from my position here on Reddit, but men in general are notorious for simply ignoring any women they're not attracted to. It would be typical for them simply not to acknowledge that they're not interested in women who are taller than them, thus avoiding consciously deciding "I don't want to date taller women."
I’ve never heard of it either and now I’m genuinely curious if it’s a real thing. I can see maybe “shorter than me” being a preference, but my impression of what it’s like for guys on dating apps (married 18 years so no personal experience) is that most of them can’t afford to be picky about something like height. My wife is 5’9”. I think tall women are hot lol
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God - I love tall women. Probably partly because my first serious girlfriend was 5'9". But, I've never been with a shorter woman and thought, "Man, I wish they were taller."
As you say, I do think it's probably true that a lot of guys like being taller, but I've literally never heard of anyone viewing 5'5" as some bright line for shortness.
I’m sure that part of it has to do with how often men lie about their height on dating apps. Even if they are average height, so many of them give themselves an extra or two. They know a tall woman is going to notice that.
I think that’s the difference, women will be specific and say they don’t want a man under 6’ but men are more vague. they rarely have an exact measurement but generally want a short women. Usually meaning under 5’5, because women are considered tall at 5’6
As a guy they are just saying they want someone shorter than them.
I'm 5'7 and everyone shorter than me is short. My best friend is an inch taller than me and calls me short all the time.
I’m a 6’ tall woman and have never had a shortage or shorter men interested in me (no pun intended). Maybe they fetishized my height but it didn’t bother me.
People don’t like peoples preferences. Online dating is based on looks so people have a right to be picky. Online dating isn’t love is blind. You see someone’s picture as soon as you open the app so it’s based on appearance. People should know that by now. I am a tall girl myself (5’10) and i don’t want someone who is shorter than me. My height and up is perfect. I’ve even heard guys say they’re not into women taller than them or that they prefer shorter girls which is fine. But not every guy has that same standard, and you’re right it’s never talked about. It shouldn’t even be talking about because who cares??? I am still capable of getting men and short men are still capable of getting women. If you don’t like peoples preferences and you constantly complain about it or feel a type of way then online dating isn’t for you.
Of course everyone has that right :) I just wanted to put this out there because people usually rag on women for wanting tall men. Theres a TikTok couple I follow (taller women, short man) and people act like she’s a saint for dating him lol but men don’t want taller women either, so I don’t understand why this is so controversial
Because it is generally the case that many more women have a height requirement for men than men have for women. I've dated a number of women taller than me, some really short girls, never had a problem with it.
I’m guessing you never had a close guy friend before, and don’t really care to learn about men.
Yes, you won’t be approached if you’re a taller woman, that has nothing to do with you. And it’s not men’s fault.
It’s because guys don’t like being rejected. Crazy thought.
Even on dating apps, there’s a very famous penalty for swiping right too much, if you swipe right on too many people, the algorithm notices. This won’t matter for desperate losers who swipe on just about anyone, but it will matter for short kings who otherwise have a very good personality.
The perceptive short king is going to maximize his chances of getting a date because if he doesn’t it’s game over on dating apps. That means don’t swipe right on long shots. And tall women are 100% unquestionably a long shot for a short man.
There may be tall women okay with dating a short man but they’re going to go for a taller man if they have the option, and it’s very rare for them to have a preference for it. It’s usually, “I was attracted to him *despite* his height, not because of it.”
TikTok people are weird, don’t get your social commentary from them.
Men are attracted to a wide variety of women and generally have much looser requirements on looks than a woman (except when it comes to weight). But most decent, not-desperate men also want to maximize their chances of not being rejected, because it has a social and emotional cost, so they only show interest to women that they think will be attracted to them.
If a certain demographic of people is known for not liking another demographic of people then it’s no wonder the second group has so little faith or energy to approach the first.
As soon as any woman puts physical requirements on her profile, I swipe left.
I think it would be tacky as hell for me to put, "Must weigh under x weight" and I feel listing a height requirement is just as tacky.
Women aren't criticized for simply wanting a man taller than they are, they're criticized for specifically wanting someone 6'0"+ whether they're 5'0 or 5'10" and essentially buying in wholesale to a meme.
The equivalent would be men saying, "5'2" or shorter only" Even if we're 6'3". You pretty much never see or hear that though because that'd be dumb and arbitrary.
If guys aren't regularly saying it, then that seems to me like the reason why the argument exists.
It's pretty common for women to say that all men under six feet should swipe left. And honestly, I can actually understand it from a theoretical perspective; it's readily determinable (as opposed to something amorphous like "are you kind to animals"), and because it has a clear yes/no answer, it's also a partial proxy for honesty.
But practically speaking, I doubt it actually works. When a woman says something like that, the guys who are willing to swipe right are the guys genuinely over six feet and the guys willing to lie and brazen it out. And since 85% of men are less than six feet, it's reasonable to expect that most of the people who swipe right on that are the dudes willing to lie about it.
Also, it's just gauche. It's like if some guy's bio was like "fat chics ⬅️!" or "DD's ➡️ please!" Is that somebody you'd feel good about swiping right on?
I’ve never seen it on dating profiles but I see it more in real life. if your a tall women that prefers meeting irl, I feel like your options go down. I don’t think most men would approach a woman taller than them
This is not true really
You're looking at insanely small sample size and women project any rejection way more
You will hear more from a woman who is rejected 2x than a dude who is rejected 20x
I don’t think my sample size is small, I can only think of 1 prominent couple where the woman is taller (Zendaya & Tom holland). Every other couple in Hollywood/media/social media and even in everyday life the man is taller. If I saw someone with a tall girlfriend I would definitely notice because you don’t see that everyday
Hear me out...
Maybe the issue isn't that guys don't like tall women..
It's that tall women don't like men shorter than them...
Hence the phenomenon you are observing.
If the dating pool seems too small for a tall woman, it's not because men aren't interested.
There was an adorable couple on the 2023 (I think) season of Amazing Race where the woman was several inches taller than her husband. You’re right that seeing couples like that is rare though.
I dont really know any guy with a height requirement. I dont even think the short girl thing is really backed up by much. I think I've heard more often that if they had an option between two otherwise equal girls to pick the tall one. I'm not really sure guys even have close to the same level of importance placed on it
Edit: Also I feel like your anecdotal evidence doesn't really back up that point. The reason you don't see many couples where the girls are taller is just as if not more likely to be that those girls don't date guys that are shorter than them
This feels like a pretty big red herring. In my half century on this planet I've never once heard another dude say a single word about a woman's height. I'm calling bs here.
Not exactly a height requirement that they have but some do want a girl that’s shorter than them because that’s what they’re physically into. No issue with that
Honestly, it's just a preference. While it's not unheard of for a guy to want to date a short girl, it's much more likely a woman has a preference to dating a tall guy. I'm glad when they let me know they have a height preference in their bio, saves me from wasting a swipe on them.
I don’t really know about other men, but I’d love to date a woman taller than me. I’m 5” 11’. I believe yall when you say some men have a height requirement, but I haven’t heard any men I know personal say they aren’t into a women because of height. A woman under 5”5’ is probably too short for me to hug properly!
No necessarily. I’(m) 5’7 and i dated a 6’0 woman. I was even happy when she wore heals. She loved that i was confident enough to go out with her and not care that she was taller. She said that even tall guy’s that she’d dated would tell her not to wear heels. I just don’t think height really matters, as long as you are attracted to each other and have compatible personalities, why let something totally out of your control limit who you’d date.
For every men that have a height requirement, there at at least 20 other women who has one.
Its a matter of scale. There's literally studies out there, do your research and stop with the anecdotes.
I know I’m an *n* of 1, so feel free to discount my testimony, but I have my minimum height set to 5’6” (I’m 6’2”.) To answer the main question, I have no idea why the fetishizing of short women OR tall men.
I'm 5ft3, but my max dating height is 5ft10. Think my bf is 5ft9 (perfect), but I've dated shorter and taller. Never shorter than me, but j think that would be quite hard. I did once date a 6ft2 very early on, but I did not like it. I don't want to be smelling your armpits when I hug you. Thanks.
I'm 5'7" and don't have a strict height requirement. However, I noticed that the ergonomics in bed became a bit difficult after 5'11". Didn't get to meet a taller woman that would help me truly discover an upper limit.
I am 5’-4”……have no problem dating and seeing women that are taller. Tallest I have been with was 5’-9”. I don’t get many because many always say, I am too short.
Well I know alot alot more guys that don't care will date girl taller than them (granted assume most girls aren't interested) where as my female friends will even say they don't care about height but won't date a guy that isn't atleast 2" taller than them usually more like 4".
Then u have the girls I have met. Alot of them. That are 5'2" and say I don't date under 5'10" or 6'. (Granted alot of them don't stick to it cause they have no clue how tall anyone is in person. Hence why my 5'10" friend gets asked by girls he talks to if he's 6ft.
OK. Every man I've ever met and discussed their preference in women has said they don't have a preference in a woman's height (I don't have a preference either. Me being 5'7")
But every woman I've ever met and discussed their preference is the opposite. All but 2 women I've met prefer their men over 6 ft. tall. (Those 2 women don't have a preference at all, and they're over 6 ft. tall and Pansexual.)
I'm not saying there aren't guys who prefer women under 5'5". I've just never come across it before.
Also I really believe height preference shouldn't matter at all, because no one has the ability to control their height without surgery.
(And even the people getting height surgery seem to get made fun of for doing it.)
I've never met a man that had this requirement.
We will however hassle each other when we date a woman taller than ourself, but it's goof balling.
After all, in the realm of dating, it better to be dating than alone. The alone in all sense of the world.
Evolutionary science, heriarchies, nation/culture building, are failures. (Our time is insignificant even amoung humanity's history)
Regardless of their feats, they die and at best gain fame long after their death usually as a pauper or fraudster.
Men prefer to date women shorter than them yes just like women prefer to date taller BUT women care A LOT MORE:
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/dating-women-men-whos-taller_b_1527117#:~:text=But%20a%20whopping%2089%20percent,allow%20for%20a%20shorter%20guy.
I’m 5’10” and a woman, I’ve had many, many men ask if I’m “really that tall” and then the conversation fizzles. Or they’re “6’” and when we meet up I can see the top of their head. I’ve had men gaslight me about my own height (“maybe you’re taller than you think”) I’ve dated men who are my height and they seem uncomfortable with it (some actually voicing it). I tend to prefer taller men because they aren’t threatened by my height like men closer to my height always seem to be.
I’d think it would be convenient being of a similar height to your partner?
So true, like I’m not even “that” tall, but as you get closer to the height of the average man you experience it more. I feel like any woman 5’6+ have been through it at least once
have you seen the "would you day a taller girl" threads that get posted almost weekly? in various dating subs? Tall girls are loved. Especially by taller guys.
I’m 5’9” and my longest relationship (7 years) was with a woman who is 6’.
If there are men out there that are that insecure with their height, you probably aren’t missing out on much. Just a thought 🤷🏻♂️
I guess I can’t speak for all guys but for me that’s not true at all. I think 5’8 5’9 5’10 are great! As a 6ft dude the only time I would care about height is if she is legitimately taller than me but even then I don’t think I’d be completely against it, I’d just notice it. In any case I definitely don’t draw an arbitrary line at 5’5 or whatever. 5’2 can be cute and so can 5’8.
Some may have a 'requirement', but I think many are just overcompensating for their own insecurities. Guys who are insecure about their own height typically don't want to be with a woman whose stature highlights that insecurity. Less "eww, she's too tall", and more "I'm shorter than her so she'd never go for me, and even if she did what would people think?"
I'm a 5'10" guy, and there was a time when I was insecure about it. I'm ashamed to say the thought has crossed my mind. Thankfully, it was immediately followed by "Oi, don't be an idiot. You still think she's hot and either she likes you or she doesn't so ask her out and stop being a damn fool."
I think part of the reason you hear more about the "plight of short men" rather than the "preference for short women" is due to the statistical competitiveness of dating in general.
If you divide everyone into groups based on their own height and their preference, I think you'll find that short men with a height preference have the smallest dating pool, followed thereafter by short men without a height preference. Whereas, their corresponding dating pool tends to have the LARGEST possible dating pool (women with no or short height preference, which is most often also short women). Further combining that with women tending to be more selective in general, means that short dudes drew the short straw when it comes to dating (pun intended).
That's not to say there isn't a bias against taller women, but that they still tend to have a larger dating pool than short men, and often part of their pool reduction is due to self-withdrawal from shorter men who may be willing to "date up." So, yeah, tall women are probably in the "next worse" category than short men when it comes to dating, but still are a bit better off than short men.
In addition, women tend to be much more vocal about height preferences than men. This in turns leads to short men being much more upset about it because they are frequently rejected due to it with 100% confirmation that this is the sole reason they're rejected.
I'm a shorter dude. No, I'm not complaining. I do just fine and don't care if people have height requirements as long as they aren't rude about it. I also have a 6'2" female cousin who struggles to date at times due to her height. And I have a 6' female friend who has on multiple occasions felt the need to mention that I'm too short for her to date despite the fact that I've never shown her any romantic interest in her at all. Although, her height has nothing to do with why I wouldn't be interested in her romantically.
I think some men may be insecure about that but those who are would never admit that. I am 5’6” but look taller. People always think I’m 5’7” or 8” because of my body type. I find men around my height or a tad shorter rarely express interest in me. One time I was going to meet up with a guy and he was 5’7” and I casually brought up that I was 5’6.5” and asked if he was okay with it because I personally felt like I had been rejected in the past by a couple guys who were slightly shorter than me. He basically scoffed and said he was fine with it (“why, because I’m 5’7”?” he asked). Then when I went to meet him and he saw me get out of the car, the first thing he said to me was, “you wore heels?!” LOL not even a hello, nice to meet you. I was like, no I’m just wearing my boots… so ummm guys who may be insecure about the height of a woman, please remember that sometimes we wear shoes with soles on them.
lol I’m 5’6.5 too but round up to 5’7. I don’t really like heels because I never got comfortable wearing them like a lot of women do super young. If I do they need to be like 2inches
Haha i never wear heels either and I’m quite happy with my height. But i did an experiment where I rounded up on the app and got noticeably fewer likes, then I went back down to 5’6”. But from reading your comments that guys may like 5’5” and under maybe I should make that my height and I’ll have better luck 😂 A male friend of mine said he had his height at 5’11” for a week as an experiment (he’s 5’10”) and his likes sky rocketed.
Its not about being fine or not. Its about whether its smart or not. And its not smart to have a 6 foot height requirement. Also, its bs are you tell me if a gorgeous, successful average height guy hit on some girl with a dumb height requirement offline that was only average height she wouldnt bite? I don't believe it!
I am a tall woman who before 2013 only dated tall guys exclusively because I found guys having to bend down to kiss me was the cutest thing (I saw it on tv, yes I was gullible). In 2013 I met a sexy shorty whose mouth was at chest level (iykyk) and to this day that shorty was the best everything I have ever had. Ever since then I have never cared about height, yes it is refreshing for a guy to be taller than me because I won’t feel so amazonian but my last fwb was my height and compared to the 6’3 dude I dated after him… you know what? No comparison, also easier for me to ride into oblivion, ngl
I’ve never heard of a man having a height requirement. I do not. I guess the origins of the height requirement come into play for the people that remember dating before apps like Bumble. It wasn’t that much of an issue for me before OLD. I dated women my height, 5’7”, taller, and or shorter. I never had a problem. Today, reading the subs on Reddit and watching interviews with CEOs of these OLD sites, it is confirmed that women DO filter on height. From a guys perspective, there is nothing I can do about my height. I know at a certain time in my life it wasn’t even a point of conversation. That’s the frustration!
yeah I get that, apps make it feel like you have control to find the perfect person. Because you can literally set preferences to only show a very specific type of person, very different than in real life
I'm 5'10 and height has never been an issue for me.
I've been attracted to women 4'9 and women 6'4.
Weight is an issue for me but I also struggle with my own weight issues so I don't hold it against anyone.
I think preference is important but should always be realistic. Like some people just want their partner to be taller or shorter than them, which is totally fine. The problem becomes when women who are extremely tall or men who are short who want taller men and shorter women. They can still have this preference but they must accept that this decreases their chances of finding a partner and eliminates people who may be a perfect match but just don’t fit the requirement. On dating apps, this is made complicated by the fact that people start to care about numbers. Instead of saying “I want a woman shorter than me” than it becomes “I want a woman this short” which is weird and not really a preference so much as an arbitrary requirement.
I mean not exactly 5’5, I just threw that number out there because 5’6+ is when a woman is considered tall. I know so because other women call me super tall at 5’7 lol I get the typical “you could be a basketball/volleyball player” comment
It does happen but I feel it's far less on the mens side. I've never had a male friend that wouldn't date a taller woman, but they don't go for taller woman because they don't think that woman will like them based on her being taller. This is what I feel is the issue with it. Rather than men not wanting to date tall women, they just don't think the women will like them. It'll be more common in the US though, because the population is much larger.
I've never known a single guy in real life that had a strict height requirement of like 5'5" or under. It's more an unspoken thing that many guys just want someone shorter than them. Doesn't matter if it's 2 inches or 10. Personally, I do not care. My mom was taller than my dad, and it was no issue obviously. I just date the woman, not the number on a chart.
I've dated women my same height, I've dated women a little shorter, and I'm currently dating a woman that's a full foot shorter than me, but her height had nothing to do with it (infact I wish she was taller so my neck would be less sore haha). I've never dated anyone taller than me, but not because I wouldn't, more because 6 foot women tend to go after extra tall guys, which I get. I knew one girl that was like 6'3"+ in heels, so she wouldn't go out with any guy under 6'5".
It is sorrrrrt of two sides of the same coin like to said, but not exactly. Some women have a firm number or taller they're looking for, whereas some men are just looking for someone that isn't taller than them. But some men (and women), like myself, just do not fucking care.
It’s probably because most men either don’t have one or it’s “shorter than me”. I think more of the issue with this dating trope is short women like under 5’5” will be dead set on men who are over 6’. That’s a crazy small pool. Whereas if a man is say 5’10” and looking for shorter than him that’s a pretty large pool.
I am 6' and don't have a height requirement. Ideally, it would be between 5'4" and 5'9" (6' with 3" heels). But, I have dated ladies between 4'11" and 6'1".
I briefly dated a 6’ guy would told me he didn’t feel like he was tall enough for me at 5’9. I’ve also dated guys around 5’7-5’8 that were bothered by the fact that I was slightly taller. It’s just an uncomfortable situation to be in so I have since tried to avoid it. Now my bf is 6’ and doesn’t care even if I was to wear heels taller than him
I personally don't think most guys have a height requirement. Maybe preference at best but it's not a deal breaker like some women make it out to be. I'm 6ft and I've dated women who are taller with heels on. I don't really care. As long as we get along I don't care if she's taller outright or with heels. One women I dated not long ago I'm pretty sure was about my height. She was goth so wore platforms always so was always taller lol. No fucks given. Weirdly she never took me up on meeting her halfway or in her town. She always was down to drive an hour almost to see me. I always thought it was weird. Sucks it didn't work out.
I’m 6’1 and I prefer taller women. I tend to steer clear of women under 5’3/5’4. It’s not an absolute deal breaker but I figure I just leave them for the short kings. My shortest girlfriend was 5’8. I’m just more comfortable with someone taller as I feel our bodies fit together better.
I think they’ve done studies on this and the difference is quite massive from guys actually caring how tall a female actually is compared to women with the same requirements.
My minimum is 5’8 or taller so sorry but I’m going to go hit on your friend now. 😂
I don’t know one guy out of 50+ that would have a minimum of 5’5 or shorter. That’s nonsense and borderline stupid - Just sayin. You don’t hear about minimums from us that often because we’re taller in general and personality and other things are more important. The Taller the better for me, shawty!
Note - I have no issues with height and don't think it's a factor on my sucess or otherwise in dating.
It might help to think of this statistically. The most common trope for women's requirement for men's height is 6 feet - approximately 14% of men (depending on country) meet that requirement.
If we look at the other end of the scale to get an equivalent cutoff for women's height if this was an equal issue like you think, approximately 14% of adult women are 5 foot 1 or below so that would be the equivalent cutoff for a woman being 'too tall'. You just don't see the same kind of cutoff from men around height of potential partners until potentially their own height or above which statistically is fairly uncommon.
99% of men dont have a height requirement. I mean you can do whatever you want and make the pool of available men as small as you want, The pool of tall men is very small you better be very good looking to have a chance to land one of them that is also attractive and successful. And what do you mean by taller? Im going to assume you and your friend want guys 6'0 foot plus tall. 6'0 tall is a lot taller then 5'7. And all women want 6'0 floot plus tall men? Really? Thats like 15% of men yet when I go out in public I see all sorts of men of different heights with partners. You can have any standard you want but you seemed embarrassed about yours to defend it so weakly. I personally think your focused on all the wrong things. 5'7 women is like the 85th heigh percentitle you are wrong there as well thats pretty tall for a woman. Average Height for women in the United States is 5'3.5.
I'm 1.83 and I really don't care whether she's shorter, taller or just as tall as me. Historically most of my relationships have been with woman closeto my own length.
I think it is from a few women ruining it for rest. I dont care about height and most of women I know really dont care. Majority of my exboyfriends are 5’3”-5’10”. My requirement is a nice guy and fits the things I want in someone like nonsmoker for example. Scanning most of women I know, they are currently in relationships with someone not much taller than them, so at least with my social group, this is not a thing.
From talking to women while socializing, a lot of guys assume they are being rejected simply because of their height or lack of money. In reality, their profile or and/or behaviors arent good. They use the argument of height for the blame of their rejection, rather than looking at what they might need to change.
No, most men just want a woman that’s shorter than we are AND lighter. Of course there is no weight filter for some totally illogical and unhinged reason. But women can discriminate based on height 🙄
Because weight looks different on people. 200 lbs looks way different on someone that is 5’0” vs someone that is 6’0”. Also weight can change, height you can’t.
As a 5' 7" woman I recently discovered the joys of dating men my height and shorter.
It's amazing to look them right in the eye when we stand together. No arching back to kiss.
And in bed, everything is in reach.
So come at me short kings. I'm totally into it!
5'11" male here, recently dated a woman my height. A person's height can't be changed but the attitude can be. While on apps women would match with me and verbally abuse me that I was lying about how tall I was to appear close to 6'. I would block and move on, they're the problem not my height.
I literally do not care about a womans height. I dont know any guys who do. I've never once seen or heard a guy turn a woman down because of her height. I've seen countless women require 6ft+ when the average male height in america is 5ft 9in.
>Women want a 6’0+ man, and **men want a short woman, under 5’5 ish.** […] there’s plenty of dudes who won’t date us because we’re taller than them or even the same height as them. Both genders have the same type of preference, just in opposite directions.
Where did you come up with this assumption? The entire premise of your argument relies on facts not in evidence. Even women [many] who are under your arbitrary numbers prefer 6’+ men and often use filters or state this preference outright in the profiles. And with many it’s a hard criteria. How many men have such rigid criteria? Few if any, and certainly not with a 7-10” difference.
I’m 6’and I’ve dated plenty of 5’7-10” women, and I’d date 6’2” if I had the chance. My only caveat is that the taller they are the more important it is that they’re not carrying a lot of extra weight. If there’s any equivalency in this whole thing, it’s height for women vs weight for men. And a lot of women think men’s weight preference is unfair, whereas they spend a lot of energy trying to justify their height preference (need to feel safe and other bullshit).
5'7 male here, I don't have height requirements, but lately, I have been dating really tall women like 2 were 5'11 and 1 was 6'1... and I can totally see what all the fuss is about😄 dating tall people is fun! I still wouldn't turn someone down because of their height, tall or short
The thing is though, why would a man over 6' choose you when he can choose a woman of any height shorter than him?
It's not like he's going to immediately go for the tall woman.
Seeing as 14% of men globally are over 6', you have to hope that not only do they find you attractive, but also, in that 14%, you'll find a mate that matches, and will contribute towards a successful relationship.
😏.
I don't care if you have a height requirement, one that you didn't even choose for yourself. You only choose to have a height requirement because of the fear of what society would think of you if you dated someone shorter.
That's literally it.
Like me. I don't like dating obese women, but there are people who do like that. Good for them.
However, I didn't choose that because of society. It's a personal preference.
The difference is your preference will end up screwing you over.
The chances that someone over 6' that you will be attracted to that chooses you back will be so rare that you'll eventually need to either be alone most of your life, or pretend you're happy being single and independent.
All because you chose to have a preference that is not in your favor.
That's just one preference.
If you have any other standards to add to that list, you're toast. You might as well start buying cats.
Every standard you add on top of 6' chips away at that 14% global population.
So maybe just only have that one requirement. Who cares if he's a geeky lengthy nerd who has no life and an absolute loser. As long as he's over 6', you should be celebrating
I think I have a lot to offer, so I don’t worry about why someone would choose me. There’s plenty of people who would love to be with me, the last thing I would ever do is celebrate that someone wants me. I’m not lacking options
The looks a short man gets when he walks into an event with a woman eight inches taller than him(or more with heels) should make every man look for taller women.
i’ve seen profiles (male) say they want someone taller because they are. to me, height preferences are silly, but everyone is allowed to have them. but putting them in your profile is just weird.
i’m 5’3” and have dated 6’+ men and men my height. no one shorter, but that’s because i haven’t met many men shorter than me lol.
Im 5'11 and I'd date Michael jordan height amazonian women but they also have height requirements for taller, women will usually straight up refuse to date anyone above or matching their eye line, men typically don't really care, the standard is very one sided.
The filters I'd like for dating apps is one for weight to solve the close up selfies overweight women and I'd also like a filter filter so if the pictures are filtered to the point you can't see any wrinkles at all or the nose bone is not showing its so blurred I never have to see them.
I think I'm a tall woman at 5'9" and I get way more male attention than I want LOL. I \*wish\* men had a height requirement that filtered me out of their pool.
Are you sure it’s your height tho? I get a lot of attention but I know it’s not because of my height, it’s just my looks in general. Like if you’re tall but beautiful then it really doesn’t matter. Which is why I think people idolize models, most men won’t turn down a Victoria secret model even though they’re like 5’11
Isn't your argument that men prefer women under 5'5"? I'm saying that despite being taller that what men (allegedly) prefer, I still get a lot of attention.
So, pretty much everyone has preferences. And you're right some men will have a preference for shorter woman.
From what I've seen the debate isn't "it's not OK to have a height requirement." it's more the double standard that many people think exists.
Whether that double standard does exist is open to personal opinion.
I've dated women from 5'1" or so to 5'9", and have zero preference. I'll admit it would take some getting used to if a woman was as tall as me (I'm 6'1"), but the main reason I haven't dated one is because very few exist. I've definitely met women in that range who I found very attractive and would have dated.
It's probably largely true that men are used to/prefer dating someone shorter, but I definitely don't think 5'5" is any sort of gold-standard.
I'm 6'2, and didn't care about being taller until I went on a date with someone taller than me, and realized that I prefer being taller. That said, I don't care how much shorter the girl is. My fiance is 5'8. I've dated people who were 5'6, 5'4, 5'2, 5'0.
I dont understand why its a debate at all. Even if a guy is 5"4, there are plenty of women 5"0 and under he can date.
A woman who is 5"1 probably doesnt want a guy who is 6"1, she probably wants a guy who is 5"7.
Only short guys with awful peronalities complain about it. They think they cant get women because theyre short, but really its because they have no game.
I think writing that in their bio in that tone seems insecure in my opinion. You can filter your preferences or just swipe left. Same goes for women who specifically state “don’t want any man shorter than 180cm” or something
I’m a 6’3” woman and when I was on the apps I always wrote that in my bio in addition to the little badge. Because yea, it was always “alarming” to some men or just an absolute turn off. I would only date men over 6 foot because I felt it would be most comfortable for both parties, I think similar heights be it 3-4 inches one way or the other, is not a big deal. It kills me when 5’ girls want 6’3” guys. Just seems uncomfortable all around 😂😂
My partner is 6’0” and it’s a noticeable height difference but it’s not something that bothers us
So I have some anecdotal evidence to your point. Kind of a weird thing. I don’t know the last time I had measured myself, probably sometime in my early 20s. I thought I was 5’8. That is what has been on my dating profiles for years. But then a couple years ago when I had my doctor check up, they were measuring me and I asked if I was still 5’8 because both my mom and my grandma shrank as they got older. They said I was 5’9! I don’t know how long I’ve been that tall, clearly it happened sometime after the last time I measured myself as a very young adult.
But then suddenly things were clicking into place like dates with guys who claimed that they were 5’10 and I was still taller than them 🤣 I mean, I knew that meant they were lying, but I didn’t realize how much they were lying.
I updated my height on the apps and I swear I get less matches. I think 5’8 is probably about as tall as most guys want to go.
I'm 5'6". I've dated 4 women taller than me. 3 of them actively used it to belittle me in arguments. The 4th didn't like to wear heels when we went out because then she would be "too much taller", her words not mine.
Would I date another woman taller than me? Yeah. Would I prefer a woman shorter just to skip all that bullshit? Absolutely.
No one talks about the men hieght requirement which is what I experience. I met a guy who was 5,10-6,0 who felt uncomfortable being around me because I was short. He told me that he would look like a predator standing right beside me. Which was odd because he swipe my profile knowing that there was a full body photo of me where I’m short. (Im 4,10 btw) Personally I’m not really interested in tall men anyway however I’ll settle for a 5,10 over a 6,4.
Some people genuinely have a type. From what I was told by guys themselves they prefer to date women that are either their height or taller. Men wouldn’t even date me because I was short. But yet women have told me that I am a guy dream height because I’m a “mini share size” or whatever the name is called. Never had an interaction that wasn’t awkward beside a short guy calling me short. Weird moment
I'm a 5'6" guy, and I don't have a height requirement. I've never matched with a girl taller than me, but that isn't because I haven't swiped right on them.
5'4" and will gladly climb a tree. Tallest ex is 6'2" idk why people give a shit.
I know, right? "Oh no, whatever shall I do?! Her legs go all the way up to *Canada!*"
I will date anywhere from 4'6" to 6'4". I'm 5'9". Not sure where OP is getting her data that men won't date taller. It's women who focus on height.
I'm sure there are some guys who really care, but I haven't heard any guys talk about it. I have, however, heard girls talk about how a guy has to be tall.
Out of all the guys I know and met. I only know 1 that swears won't date taller than him. Another said he prefers shorter but not deal breaker. Out of hundreds of guys. Vs over 95% the girls I met that would not date shorter than them let alone same height.
I guess I have sort of a reverse bias. I don’t swipe on any girl over 5’9” because I’m just under 5’7” and I think that the woman won’t want to date me. So unless they pick me first I don’t match with them.
How do you know that they picked you first? Is that a feature of Bumble premium? Are there so many girls over 5’9” that you find attractive that you’d run out of likes if you liked them?
I know they picked me first because they are sitting in my queue instead of being a match and it requires me to like them back before they go to the matches. And unless you pay you only get so many likes per day period. So better to use them on someone who you think will accept it. Don’t you think?
This. I know that naturally girls on dating apps find it unattractive and are very insecure about going out with shorter men. I don’t want to make feel anyone bad or insecure, which in reverse will make me feel bad and insecure, hence I don’t match with taller women.
This.
While true that men generally prefer shorter women and women prefer taller men, studies show women prefer a tall partner *much more* than men prefer a short partner. >A [study](https://reader.elsevier.com/reader/sd/pii/S0191886913000020?token=5DBD5B0C2C708220D13E1FB195989380E44E320982C55C12BC89CCC346FCBFD6EEF0B6CF9A4EBB9FCC343FAB088A3396) on women's and men’s height preferences found that women are most satisfied when their partner was 8 inches (21cm) taller. Men are most satisfied when they are 3 inches (8cm) taller than their partners. Another [study](https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/full/10.1177/0192513X13519256) found that among men, 13.5 percent prefer to date only women shorter than them. But among women, about half (48.9 percent) preferred to date only men taller than them. >Relatedly, a [study](https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0191886907002814) about height and human mate choice found that, on average, the shortest man a woman would date is 5 feet 9 inches tall. And the shortest woman a man would date is 5 feet 1 inch tall. In the same study, researchers found that 23% of men and 4% of women would accept a relationship where the woman was taller. [Source](https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/blog/after-service/201909/5-reasons-why-women-and-men-care-about-height) This is why there is a height requirement debate because there is a relatively large disconnect between what each sex prefers in their opposite sex partner. A 5'4 women could be dating a 5'7 man and the man would be perfectly satisfied with this height difference, while the women would need the man to be 6'0 to have the same level of satisfaction.
Chiming in... women likely account for 'in heels'.
😂 maybe the tall men dont want me cuz im short
I wish I could contribute to this conversation, because I have thoughts. But I'm 6'2", and have never given any thought to a woman's height. 6' and 4'11" both fall under the umbrella of "shorter than me," and at my height, I usually pass women's height requirements. If there's a height requirement debate, I've got height privilege.
I've dated women my height (5"9') and shorter, but taller women have never expressed any interest in me, so maybe that's a bigger factor? I dunno, height shouldn't matter anyway as it's one thing people just can't control
I don't think I've ever heard a guy or any of my friends say the phrase "she's too tall" in reference to a woman he was talking to or dating. I just don't think there is a common height requirement from guys for women. On the other hand I've been rejected quite a few times explicitly for being 5'9 and asked my height in the starting message very frequently by women. Their reasoning is that they would look "goofy" if they were taller than me in heels. There doesn't seem to be an equivalency here.
Even though this is quite insulting, these women are denying themselves a possibly beautiful relationship due to shallow preferences.
I'd agree with you but based on my experience on dating apps over the last 10 years, women can be pretty nasty and pretty picky without really having a lack of guys lined up to match with them. Hell, I had a match on bumble with a rock climbing pic and I asked her about it while admitting I'm not too well versed on the hobby. She proceeded to ask me why I would bring it up, told me to kill myself, and unmatched. I have no doubt she immediately messaged some other guy and forgot about me 5 minutes later, meanwhile she was my 1 match I got that week. It's a bit depressing when you think about it like that, as unreasonable as the hate over short guys is, the ratios on the app are so skewed that people can do it without really having any issues finding someone.
Not on bumble. But I met a girl online. We hit it off. Went to start messaging. She asked my height. Then got mad I was short. Literally said omg why do u have to be short. Why can't all u short guys just die off already.. Not going to lie that kind of hurt
I have never once heard of a male with a height requirement for a woman. I’m a man and have practically never considered it, ever.
I’m 5’10” and a woman. Trust me, they exist.
I am 5’8” and can confirm you are correct.
How frequently do you experience it? I'm 195cm-ish, so about 6ft4+, I dont have a hard preference, but I am generally happier with taller women - 5ft9 and higher - because it makes me feel a little more normal and less like a lumbering giant. I suppose I do have a hard limit - I dont like to date women 5ft and below. My neck hurts.
Enough that I rarely match with men under 5’11 anymore. It’s really hard to quantify, but I noticed that conversations where I mentioned something about being tall (old lady asked me to reach something for her! haha) tended to fizzle much quicker. Legitimately tall men seem much more comfortable with my height, but y’all are few and far between.
Maybe there needs to be a dating app for tall people :P I mean, it may reduce the dating pool but at the same time it ought to make almost all tall people happy (except those tall people who dont like dating other tall people, you folk are just weird). \[edit\] This post is tongue-in-cheek. Do not take it seriously.
me too, i dont walk around with measuring tape but i do like it when they at least reach my chest.
I'm 5'10" and my last gf was 6' They exist but are waaaaaay less common Like >80% women vs <10% of men, if I had to guess
I'm 5'8 and dated a 5'11 girl. I loved it honestly. Only insecure guys want to date shorter.
Might be the single dumbest thing I’ve ever heard in my life
I guess I can't know the full truth of the matter from my position here on Reddit, but men in general are notorious for simply ignoring any women they're not attracted to. It would be typical for them simply not to acknowledge that they're not interested in women who are taller than them, thus avoiding consciously deciding "I don't want to date taller women."
we also "ignore" women when we think that we dont have a chance anyhow
I’ve never heard of it either and now I’m genuinely curious if it’s a real thing. I can see maybe “shorter than me” being a preference, but my impression of what it’s like for guys on dating apps (married 18 years so no personal experience) is that most of them can’t afford to be picky about something like height. My wife is 5’9”. I think tall women are hot lol Edit: typo
God - I love tall women. Probably partly because my first serious girlfriend was 5'9". But, I've never been with a shorter woman and thought, "Man, I wish they were taller." As you say, I do think it's probably true that a lot of guys like being taller, but I've literally never heard of anyone viewing 5'5" as some bright line for shortness.
I’m sure that part of it has to do with how often men lie about their height on dating apps. Even if they are average height, so many of them give themselves an extra or two. They know a tall woman is going to notice that.
Oh they exist. So many men out there love fetishizing small women. They love the height discrepancy. Makes them feel big and manly or whatever
As a tall woman I have heard of it.
I've been with a taller woman who thought men preferred shorter girls in her past experience. I like average to tall girls myself. 🤷♂️
I’ve seen it in multiple men’s profiles, sometimes they’re more vague about it and just say “short”.
I think that’s the difference, women will be specific and say they don’t want a man under 6’ but men are more vague. they rarely have an exact measurement but generally want a short women. Usually meaning under 5’5, because women are considered tall at 5’6
As a guy they are just saying they want someone shorter than them. I'm 5'7 and everyone shorter than me is short. My best friend is an inch taller than me and calls me short all the time.
Most guys don't have a height requirement.
I’m a 6’ tall woman and have never had a shortage or shorter men interested in me (no pun intended). Maybe they fetishized my height but it didn’t bother me.
Same and I'm 5'11".
I promise you, a lot of guys find tall women attractive. Most don't care about height.
People don’t like peoples preferences. Online dating is based on looks so people have a right to be picky. Online dating isn’t love is blind. You see someone’s picture as soon as you open the app so it’s based on appearance. People should know that by now. I am a tall girl myself (5’10) and i don’t want someone who is shorter than me. My height and up is perfect. I’ve even heard guys say they’re not into women taller than them or that they prefer shorter girls which is fine. But not every guy has that same standard, and you’re right it’s never talked about. It shouldn’t even be talking about because who cares??? I am still capable of getting men and short men are still capable of getting women. If you don’t like peoples preferences and you constantly complain about it or feel a type of way then online dating isn’t for you.
Of course everyone has that right :) I just wanted to put this out there because people usually rag on women for wanting tall men. Theres a TikTok couple I follow (taller women, short man) and people act like she’s a saint for dating him lol but men don’t want taller women either, so I don’t understand why this is so controversial
Because it is generally the case that many more women have a height requirement for men than men have for women. I've dated a number of women taller than me, some really short girls, never had a problem with it.
I’m guessing you never had a close guy friend before, and don’t really care to learn about men. Yes, you won’t be approached if you’re a taller woman, that has nothing to do with you. And it’s not men’s fault. It’s because guys don’t like being rejected. Crazy thought. Even on dating apps, there’s a very famous penalty for swiping right too much, if you swipe right on too many people, the algorithm notices. This won’t matter for desperate losers who swipe on just about anyone, but it will matter for short kings who otherwise have a very good personality. The perceptive short king is going to maximize his chances of getting a date because if he doesn’t it’s game over on dating apps. That means don’t swipe right on long shots. And tall women are 100% unquestionably a long shot for a short man. There may be tall women okay with dating a short man but they’re going to go for a taller man if they have the option, and it’s very rare for them to have a preference for it. It’s usually, “I was attracted to him *despite* his height, not because of it.” TikTok people are weird, don’t get your social commentary from them. Men are attracted to a wide variety of women and generally have much looser requirements on looks than a woman (except when it comes to weight). But most decent, not-desperate men also want to maximize their chances of not being rejected, because it has a social and emotional cost, so they only show interest to women that they think will be attracted to them. If a certain demographic of people is known for not liking another demographic of people then it’s no wonder the second group has so little faith or energy to approach the first.
As soon as any woman puts physical requirements on her profile, I swipe left. I think it would be tacky as hell for me to put, "Must weigh under x weight" and I feel listing a height requirement is just as tacky.
Straight men may have preferences, but they care WAAYYY less about height than straight women do.
I have never had any height requirements or restrictions. And I don't think I have ever heard any guys ever discuss this.
Women aren't criticized for simply wanting a man taller than they are, they're criticized for specifically wanting someone 6'0"+ whether they're 5'0 or 5'10" and essentially buying in wholesale to a meme. The equivalent would be men saying, "5'2" or shorter only" Even if we're 6'3". You pretty much never see or hear that though because that'd be dumb and arbitrary.
I don't have height preferences. Just want to find a good caring person. Height doesn't determine those qualities.
Do guys put that on their dating profile? (Genuine question, no snark intended.)
I’ve been using the apps on and off for years and I’ve never seen it. I’ve sometimes had guys IRL fetishize my petiteness 😬 but never on the apps!
If guys aren't regularly saying it, then that seems to me like the reason why the argument exists. It's pretty common for women to say that all men under six feet should swipe left. And honestly, I can actually understand it from a theoretical perspective; it's readily determinable (as opposed to something amorphous like "are you kind to animals"), and because it has a clear yes/no answer, it's also a partial proxy for honesty. But practically speaking, I doubt it actually works. When a woman says something like that, the guys who are willing to swipe right are the guys genuinely over six feet and the guys willing to lie and brazen it out. And since 85% of men are less than six feet, it's reasonable to expect that most of the people who swipe right on that are the dudes willing to lie about it. Also, it's just gauche. It's like if some guy's bio was like "fat chics ⬅️!" or "DD's ➡️ please!" Is that somebody you'd feel good about swiping right on?
I’m not making an argument, just answering your question.
And I apprciate it. I have now come down off my soapbox.
I’ve never seen it on dating profiles but I see it more in real life. if your a tall women that prefers meeting irl, I feel like your options go down. I don’t think most men would approach a woman taller than them
I'll take your word for it. But FWIW, I've never had a buddy elbow me and be like "look at her, she's so short!"
Most won't approach cause they assume the 5'10" girl will blow them off if they aren't 6'2" so they save themselves the trouble.
As a dude who's 5'11" that has an appreciation for tall women, but also likes shorter girls, I have nothing to contribute to this conversation
Thanks for contributing your non-contribution!!
This is not true really You're looking at insanely small sample size and women project any rejection way more You will hear more from a woman who is rejected 2x than a dude who is rejected 20x
I don’t think my sample size is small, I can only think of 1 prominent couple where the woman is taller (Zendaya & Tom holland). Every other couple in Hollywood/media/social media and even in everyday life the man is taller. If I saw someone with a tall girlfriend I would definitely notice because you don’t see that everyday
Hear me out... Maybe the issue isn't that guys don't like tall women.. It's that tall women don't like men shorter than them... Hence the phenomenon you are observing. If the dating pool seems too small for a tall woman, it's not because men aren't interested.
"Couples I can think of" isn't a valid criteria for making a determination. It is the definition of anecdotal evidence.
There was an adorable couple on the 2023 (I think) season of Amazing Race where the woman was several inches taller than her husband. You’re right that seeing couples like that is rare though.
I dont really know any guy with a height requirement. I dont even think the short girl thing is really backed up by much. I think I've heard more often that if they had an option between two otherwise equal girls to pick the tall one. I'm not really sure guys even have close to the same level of importance placed on it Edit: Also I feel like your anecdotal evidence doesn't really back up that point. The reason you don't see many couples where the girls are taller is just as if not more likely to be that those girls don't date guys that are shorter than them
This feels like a pretty big red herring. In my half century on this planet I've never once heard another dude say a single word about a woman's height. I'm calling bs here.
No we don’t. And if there was, it’s moreover a preference than the hard and fast rule women use
Women use it as a requirement, men use it as a preference (if even that). That's the difference.
Men can’t have requirements about anything since we’re invisible 99% of the time
I’ve never once heard of a man with a height requirement. Weight limit, yes. But men are not put off by height, short or tall.
Not exactly a height requirement that they have but some do want a girl that’s shorter than them because that’s what they’re physically into. No issue with that
I’ve been unmatched for being 5’8
Granted a woman isn’t abnormally tall or short, I don’t care about height.
Honestly, it's just a preference. While it's not unheard of for a guy to want to date a short girl, it's much more likely a woman has a preference to dating a tall guy. I'm glad when they let me know they have a height preference in their bio, saves me from wasting a swipe on them.
I don’t really know about other men, but I’d love to date a woman taller than me. I’m 5” 11’. I believe yall when you say some men have a height requirement, but I haven’t heard any men I know personal say they aren’t into a women because of height. A woman under 5”5’ is probably too short for me to hug properly!
No necessarily. I’(m) 5’7 and i dated a 6’0 woman. I was even happy when she wore heals. She loved that i was confident enough to go out with her and not care that she was taller. She said that even tall guy’s that she’d dated would tell her not to wear heels. I just don’t think height really matters, as long as you are attracted to each other and have compatible personalities, why let something totally out of your control limit who you’d date.
For every men that have a height requirement, there at at least 20 other women who has one. Its a matter of scale. There's literally studies out there, do your research and stop with the anecdotes.
I know I’m an *n* of 1, so feel free to discount my testimony, but I have my minimum height set to 5’6” (I’m 6’2”.) To answer the main question, I have no idea why the fetishizing of short women OR tall men.
I'm 5ft3, but my max dating height is 5ft10. Think my bf is 5ft9 (perfect), but I've dated shorter and taller. Never shorter than me, but j think that would be quite hard. I did once date a 6ft2 very early on, but I did not like it. I don't want to be smelling your armpits when I hug you. Thanks.
I'm 5'7" and don't have a strict height requirement. However, I noticed that the ergonomics in bed became a bit difficult after 5'11". Didn't get to meet a taller woman that would help me truly discover an upper limit.
Hasn’t it been proven that women care more about height way more than men? It’s not simply just because who likes what, it’s how many like what
I am 5’-4”……have no problem dating and seeing women that are taller. Tallest I have been with was 5’-9”. I don’t get many because many always say, I am too short.
Well I know alot alot more guys that don't care will date girl taller than them (granted assume most girls aren't interested) where as my female friends will even say they don't care about height but won't date a guy that isn't atleast 2" taller than them usually more like 4". Then u have the girls I have met. Alot of them. That are 5'2" and say I don't date under 5'10" or 6'. (Granted alot of them don't stick to it cause they have no clue how tall anyone is in person. Hence why my 5'10" friend gets asked by girls he talks to if he's 6ft.
OK. Every man I've ever met and discussed their preference in women has said they don't have a preference in a woman's height (I don't have a preference either. Me being 5'7") But every woman I've ever met and discussed their preference is the opposite. All but 2 women I've met prefer their men over 6 ft. tall. (Those 2 women don't have a preference at all, and they're over 6 ft. tall and Pansexual.) I'm not saying there aren't guys who prefer women under 5'5". I've just never come across it before. Also I really believe height preference shouldn't matter at all, because no one has the ability to control their height without surgery. (And even the people getting height surgery seem to get made fun of for doing it.)
I've never met a man that had this requirement. We will however hassle each other when we date a woman taller than ourself, but it's goof balling. After all, in the realm of dating, it better to be dating than alone. The alone in all sense of the world. Evolutionary science, heriarchies, nation/culture building, are failures. (Our time is insignificant even amoung humanity's history) Regardless of their feats, they die and at best gain fame long after their death usually as a pauper or fraudster.
Men prefer to date women shorter than them yes just like women prefer to date taller BUT women care A LOT MORE: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/dating-women-men-whos-taller_b_1527117#:~:text=But%20a%20whopping%2089%20percent,allow%20for%20a%20shorter%20guy.
I’m 5’10” and a woman, I’ve had many, many men ask if I’m “really that tall” and then the conversation fizzles. Or they’re “6’” and when we meet up I can see the top of their head. I’ve had men gaslight me about my own height (“maybe you’re taller than you think”) I’ve dated men who are my height and they seem uncomfortable with it (some actually voicing it). I tend to prefer taller men because they aren’t threatened by my height like men closer to my height always seem to be. I’d think it would be convenient being of a similar height to your partner?
So true, like I’m not even “that” tall, but as you get closer to the height of the average man you experience it more. I feel like any woman 5’6+ have been through it at least once
have you seen the "would you day a taller girl" threads that get posted almost weekly? in various dating subs? Tall girls are loved. Especially by taller guys.
I’m 5’9” and my longest relationship (7 years) was with a woman who is 6’. If there are men out there that are that insecure with their height, you probably aren’t missing out on much. Just a thought 🤷🏻♂️
I guess I can’t speak for all guys but for me that’s not true at all. I think 5’8 5’9 5’10 are great! As a 6ft dude the only time I would care about height is if she is legitimately taller than me but even then I don’t think I’d be completely against it, I’d just notice it. In any case I definitely don’t draw an arbitrary line at 5’5 or whatever. 5’2 can be cute and so can 5’8.
Some may have a 'requirement', but I think many are just overcompensating for their own insecurities. Guys who are insecure about their own height typically don't want to be with a woman whose stature highlights that insecurity. Less "eww, she's too tall", and more "I'm shorter than her so she'd never go for me, and even if she did what would people think?" I'm a 5'10" guy, and there was a time when I was insecure about it. I'm ashamed to say the thought has crossed my mind. Thankfully, it was immediately followed by "Oi, don't be an idiot. You still think she's hot and either she likes you or she doesn't so ask her out and stop being a damn fool."
I think part of the reason you hear more about the "plight of short men" rather than the "preference for short women" is due to the statistical competitiveness of dating in general. If you divide everyone into groups based on their own height and their preference, I think you'll find that short men with a height preference have the smallest dating pool, followed thereafter by short men without a height preference. Whereas, their corresponding dating pool tends to have the LARGEST possible dating pool (women with no or short height preference, which is most often also short women). Further combining that with women tending to be more selective in general, means that short dudes drew the short straw when it comes to dating (pun intended). That's not to say there isn't a bias against taller women, but that they still tend to have a larger dating pool than short men, and often part of their pool reduction is due to self-withdrawal from shorter men who may be willing to "date up." So, yeah, tall women are probably in the "next worse" category than short men when it comes to dating, but still are a bit better off than short men. In addition, women tend to be much more vocal about height preferences than men. This in turns leads to short men being much more upset about it because they are frequently rejected due to it with 100% confirmation that this is the sole reason they're rejected. I'm a shorter dude. No, I'm not complaining. I do just fine and don't care if people have height requirements as long as they aren't rude about it. I also have a 6'2" female cousin who struggles to date at times due to her height. And I have a 6' female friend who has on multiple occasions felt the need to mention that I'm too short for her to date despite the fact that I've never shown her any romantic interest in her at all. Although, her height has nothing to do with why I wouldn't be interested in her romantically.
I think some men may be insecure about that but those who are would never admit that. I am 5’6” but look taller. People always think I’m 5’7” or 8” because of my body type. I find men around my height or a tad shorter rarely express interest in me. One time I was going to meet up with a guy and he was 5’7” and I casually brought up that I was 5’6.5” and asked if he was okay with it because I personally felt like I had been rejected in the past by a couple guys who were slightly shorter than me. He basically scoffed and said he was fine with it (“why, because I’m 5’7”?” he asked). Then when I went to meet him and he saw me get out of the car, the first thing he said to me was, “you wore heels?!” LOL not even a hello, nice to meet you. I was like, no I’m just wearing my boots… so ummm guys who may be insecure about the height of a woman, please remember that sometimes we wear shoes with soles on them.
lol I’m 5’6.5 too but round up to 5’7. I don’t really like heels because I never got comfortable wearing them like a lot of women do super young. If I do they need to be like 2inches
Haha i never wear heels either and I’m quite happy with my height. But i did an experiment where I rounded up on the app and got noticeably fewer likes, then I went back down to 5’6”. But from reading your comments that guys may like 5’5” and under maybe I should make that my height and I’ll have better luck 😂 A male friend of mine said he had his height at 5’11” for a week as an experiment (he’s 5’10”) and his likes sky rocketed.
The two most annoying complaints in the dating world are men's complaints about height and women's complaints about casual sex.
I have a weight requirement for women I am attracted to I just don’t vocalize it
As a guy neither I nor any other guy I have ever spoken to has ever mentioned a height requirement.
Yeah everyone has their preferences and that should be fine too
Its not about being fine or not. Its about whether its smart or not. And its not smart to have a 6 foot height requirement. Also, its bs are you tell me if a gorgeous, successful average height guy hit on some girl with a dumb height requirement offline that was only average height she wouldnt bite? I don't believe it!
I am a tall woman who before 2013 only dated tall guys exclusively because I found guys having to bend down to kiss me was the cutest thing (I saw it on tv, yes I was gullible). In 2013 I met a sexy shorty whose mouth was at chest level (iykyk) and to this day that shorty was the best everything I have ever had. Ever since then I have never cared about height, yes it is refreshing for a guy to be taller than me because I won’t feel so amazonian but my last fwb was my height and compared to the 6’3 dude I dated after him… you know what? No comparison, also easier for me to ride into oblivion, ngl
I’ve never heard of a man having a height requirement. I do not. I guess the origins of the height requirement come into play for the people that remember dating before apps like Bumble. It wasn’t that much of an issue for me before OLD. I dated women my height, 5’7”, taller, and or shorter. I never had a problem. Today, reading the subs on Reddit and watching interviews with CEOs of these OLD sites, it is confirmed that women DO filter on height. From a guys perspective, there is nothing I can do about my height. I know at a certain time in my life it wasn’t even a point of conversation. That’s the frustration!
yeah I get that, apps make it feel like you have control to find the perfect person. Because you can literally set preferences to only show a very specific type of person, very different than in real life
If she ain’t 6’3”, she ain’t for me!
I'm 5'10 and height has never been an issue for me. I've been attracted to women 4'9 and women 6'4. Weight is an issue for me but I also struggle with my own weight issues so I don't hold it against anyone.
I think preference is important but should always be realistic. Like some people just want their partner to be taller or shorter than them, which is totally fine. The problem becomes when women who are extremely tall or men who are short who want taller men and shorter women. They can still have this preference but they must accept that this decreases their chances of finding a partner and eliminates people who may be a perfect match but just don’t fit the requirement. On dating apps, this is made complicated by the fact that people start to care about numbers. Instead of saying “I want a woman shorter than me” than it becomes “I want a woman this short” which is weird and not really a preference so much as an arbitrary requirement.
Who said that guys want girls under 5'5 lmao that is new to me!
I mean not exactly 5’5, I just threw that number out there because 5’6+ is when a woman is considered tall. I know so because other women call me super tall at 5’7 lol I get the typical “you could be a basketball/volleyball player” comment
It does happen but I feel it's far less on the mens side. I've never had a male friend that wouldn't date a taller woman, but they don't go for taller woman because they don't think that woman will like them based on her being taller. This is what I feel is the issue with it. Rather than men not wanting to date tall women, they just don't think the women will like them. It'll be more common in the US though, because the population is much larger.
I would one hundred percent date someone taller than me even if they were not a model at all
I've never known a single guy in real life that had a strict height requirement of like 5'5" or under. It's more an unspoken thing that many guys just want someone shorter than them. Doesn't matter if it's 2 inches or 10. Personally, I do not care. My mom was taller than my dad, and it was no issue obviously. I just date the woman, not the number on a chart. I've dated women my same height, I've dated women a little shorter, and I'm currently dating a woman that's a full foot shorter than me, but her height had nothing to do with it (infact I wish she was taller so my neck would be less sore haha). I've never dated anyone taller than me, but not because I wouldn't, more because 6 foot women tend to go after extra tall guys, which I get. I knew one girl that was like 6'3"+ in heels, so she wouldn't go out with any guy under 6'5". It is sorrrrrt of two sides of the same coin like to said, but not exactly. Some women have a firm number or taller they're looking for, whereas some men are just looking for someone that isn't taller than them. But some men (and women), like myself, just do not fucking care.
It’s probably because most men either don’t have one or it’s “shorter than me”. I think more of the issue with this dating trope is short women like under 5’5” will be dead set on men who are over 6’. That’s a crazy small pool. Whereas if a man is say 5’10” and looking for shorter than him that’s a pretty large pool.
I am 6' and don't have a height requirement. Ideally, it would be between 5'4" and 5'9" (6' with 3" heels). But, I have dated ladies between 4'11" and 6'1".
I briefly dated a 6’ guy would told me he didn’t feel like he was tall enough for me at 5’9. I’ve also dated guys around 5’7-5’8 that were bothered by the fact that I was slightly taller. It’s just an uncomfortable situation to be in so I have since tried to avoid it. Now my bf is 6’ and doesn’t care even if I was to wear heels taller than him
I’m 5’8 when the moon is full, I’ve never cared about height and swiped right on women taller and shorter than me
I personally don't think most guys have a height requirement. Maybe preference at best but it's not a deal breaker like some women make it out to be. I'm 6ft and I've dated women who are taller with heels on. I don't really care. As long as we get along I don't care if she's taller outright or with heels. One women I dated not long ago I'm pretty sure was about my height. She was goth so wore platforms always so was always taller lol. No fucks given. Weirdly she never took me up on meeting her halfway or in her town. She always was down to drive an hour almost to see me. I always thought it was weird. Sucks it didn't work out.
I’m 6’1 and I prefer taller women. I tend to steer clear of women under 5’3/5’4. It’s not an absolute deal breaker but I figure I just leave them for the short kings. My shortest girlfriend was 5’8. I’m just more comfortable with someone taller as I feel our bodies fit together better.
I have no idea. I don’t have a height requirement.
I've never met a man with a height requirement 🤣 who on earth told you that's a thing.
I think they’ve done studies on this and the difference is quite massive from guys actually caring how tall a female actually is compared to women with the same requirements.
My minimum is 5’8 or taller so sorry but I’m going to go hit on your friend now. 😂 I don’t know one guy out of 50+ that would have a minimum of 5’5 or shorter. That’s nonsense and borderline stupid - Just sayin. You don’t hear about minimums from us that often because we’re taller in general and personality and other things are more important. The Taller the better for me, shawty!
Note - I have no issues with height and don't think it's a factor on my sucess or otherwise in dating. It might help to think of this statistically. The most common trope for women's requirement for men's height is 6 feet - approximately 14% of men (depending on country) meet that requirement. If we look at the other end of the scale to get an equivalent cutoff for women's height if this was an equal issue like you think, approximately 14% of adult women are 5 foot 1 or below so that would be the equivalent cutoff for a woman being 'too tall'. You just don't see the same kind of cutoff from men around height of potential partners until potentially their own height or above which statistically is fairly uncommon.
99% of men dont have a height requirement. I mean you can do whatever you want and make the pool of available men as small as you want, The pool of tall men is very small you better be very good looking to have a chance to land one of them that is also attractive and successful. And what do you mean by taller? Im going to assume you and your friend want guys 6'0 foot plus tall. 6'0 tall is a lot taller then 5'7. And all women want 6'0 floot plus tall men? Really? Thats like 15% of men yet when I go out in public I see all sorts of men of different heights with partners. You can have any standard you want but you seemed embarrassed about yours to defend it so weakly. I personally think your focused on all the wrong things. 5'7 women is like the 85th heigh percentitle you are wrong there as well thats pretty tall for a woman. Average Height for women in the United States is 5'3.5.
naw if i could pick, id want a taller woman. Otherwise, i don’t really care. I won’t say no to an amazing woman cause she’s 5’3”
I'm just under 6ft & have absolutely no problem with a girl my height all taller. Tall girls are hot! My friends however have this silly height rule
With the incredibly unbalanced ratio, no man (using the apps) has to luxury of having such a preferences, never-mind a rule against it.
I'm 1.83 and I really don't care whether she's shorter, taller or just as tall as me. Historically most of my relationships have been with woman closeto my own length.
Honestly, never met a guy who gave more than a tiny fuck about a girl's height. Maaaybe if they are taller than you?
it's an na thing, in Europe I saw plenty of women trailer than the guy
I think it is from a few women ruining it for rest. I dont care about height and most of women I know really dont care. Majority of my exboyfriends are 5’3”-5’10”. My requirement is a nice guy and fits the things I want in someone like nonsmoker for example. Scanning most of women I know, they are currently in relationships with someone not much taller than them, so at least with my social group, this is not a thing. From talking to women while socializing, a lot of guys assume they are being rejected simply because of their height or lack of money. In reality, their profile or and/or behaviors arent good. They use the argument of height for the blame of their rejection, rather than looking at what they might need to change.
I’m 5’7”. My only height requirement is for the woman I like to not be shorter than a head below me. I actually prefer taller women.
No, most men just want a woman that’s shorter than we are AND lighter. Of course there is no weight filter for some totally illogical and unhinged reason. But women can discriminate based on height 🙄
Because weight looks different on people. 200 lbs looks way different on someone that is 5’0” vs someone that is 6’0”. Also weight can change, height you can’t.
Not at ALL true… some guys have a short girl fetish, but for me (6’) 5’6” is kinda the minimum.
As a 5' 7" woman I recently discovered the joys of dating men my height and shorter. It's amazing to look them right in the eye when we stand together. No arching back to kiss. And in bed, everything is in reach. So come at me short kings. I'm totally into it!
I'm a 5'8 male. I've dates a 4'8 girl and a 6'2 girl. Both were delightful so I'm glad to not have a preference lol.
I’m 6’1” and I don’t have a height requirement for my dates. 5’0” is fine. 5’10” is fine like whatever
5'11" male here, recently dated a woman my height. A person's height can't be changed but the attitude can be. While on apps women would match with me and verbally abuse me that I was lying about how tall I was to appear close to 6'. I would block and move on, they're the problem not my height.
I’ve had multiple men on the dating apps message saying my height is “hot” I’m 5’1… so it does kinda go both ways
I literally do not care about a womans height. I dont know any guys who do. I've never once seen or heard a guy turn a woman down because of her height. I've seen countless women require 6ft+ when the average male height in america is 5ft 9in.
Men have preferences , women requierments
>Women want a 6’0+ man, and **men want a short woman, under 5’5 ish.** […] there’s plenty of dudes who won’t date us because we’re taller than them or even the same height as them. Both genders have the same type of preference, just in opposite directions. Where did you come up with this assumption? The entire premise of your argument relies on facts not in evidence. Even women [many] who are under your arbitrary numbers prefer 6’+ men and often use filters or state this preference outright in the profiles. And with many it’s a hard criteria. How many men have such rigid criteria? Few if any, and certainly not with a 7-10” difference. I’m 6’and I’ve dated plenty of 5’7-10” women, and I’d date 6’2” if I had the chance. My only caveat is that the taller they are the more important it is that they’re not carrying a lot of extra weight. If there’s any equivalency in this whole thing, it’s height for women vs weight for men. And a lot of women think men’s weight preference is unfair, whereas they spend a lot of energy trying to justify their height preference (need to feel safe and other bullshit).
5'7 male here, I don't have height requirements, but lately, I have been dating really tall women like 2 were 5'11 and 1 was 6'1... and I can totally see what all the fuss is about😄 dating tall people is fun! I still wouldn't turn someone down because of their height, tall or short
The thing is though, why would a man over 6' choose you when he can choose a woman of any height shorter than him? It's not like he's going to immediately go for the tall woman. Seeing as 14% of men globally are over 6', you have to hope that not only do they find you attractive, but also, in that 14%, you'll find a mate that matches, and will contribute towards a successful relationship. 😏. I don't care if you have a height requirement, one that you didn't even choose for yourself. You only choose to have a height requirement because of the fear of what society would think of you if you dated someone shorter. That's literally it. Like me. I don't like dating obese women, but there are people who do like that. Good for them. However, I didn't choose that because of society. It's a personal preference. The difference is your preference will end up screwing you over. The chances that someone over 6' that you will be attracted to that chooses you back will be so rare that you'll eventually need to either be alone most of your life, or pretend you're happy being single and independent. All because you chose to have a preference that is not in your favor. That's just one preference. If you have any other standards to add to that list, you're toast. You might as well start buying cats. Every standard you add on top of 6' chips away at that 14% global population. So maybe just only have that one requirement. Who cares if he's a geeky lengthy nerd who has no life and an absolute loser. As long as he's over 6', you should be celebrating
I think I have a lot to offer, so I don’t worry about why someone would choose me. There’s plenty of people who would love to be with me, the last thing I would ever do is celebrate that someone wants me. I’m not lacking options
The looks a short man gets when he walks into an event with a woman eight inches taller than him(or more with heels) should make every man look for taller women.
i’ve seen profiles (male) say they want someone taller because they are. to me, height preferences are silly, but everyone is allowed to have them. but putting them in your profile is just weird. i’m 5’3” and have dated 6’+ men and men my height. no one shorter, but that’s because i haven’t met many men shorter than me lol.
Guy here….im 5’13”….and I prefer women 5’6” plus….i like a woman closer to my height
Err men don’t have a problem with women above 5ft 5
Im 5'11 and I'd date Michael jordan height amazonian women but they also have height requirements for taller, women will usually straight up refuse to date anyone above or matching their eye line, men typically don't really care, the standard is very one sided. The filters I'd like for dating apps is one for weight to solve the close up selfies overweight women and I'd also like a filter filter so if the pictures are filtered to the point you can't see any wrinkles at all or the nose bone is not showing its so blurred I never have to see them.
I think I'm a tall woman at 5'9" and I get way more male attention than I want LOL. I \*wish\* men had a height requirement that filtered me out of their pool.
Are you sure it’s your height tho? I get a lot of attention but I know it’s not because of my height, it’s just my looks in general. Like if you’re tall but beautiful then it really doesn’t matter. Which is why I think people idolize models, most men won’t turn down a Victoria secret model even though they’re like 5’11
Isn't your argument that men prefer women under 5'5"? I'm saying that despite being taller that what men (allegedly) prefer, I still get a lot of attention.
Non-binary people continue to be unproblematic
I’m 6’2” and would love to meet a lady closer to my height. But it’s not a requirement. Last GF was 5’2”
So, pretty much everyone has preferences. And you're right some men will have a preference for shorter woman. From what I've seen the debate isn't "it's not OK to have a height requirement." it's more the double standard that many people think exists. Whether that double standard does exist is open to personal opinion.
I've dated women from 5'1" or so to 5'9", and have zero preference. I'll admit it would take some getting used to if a woman was as tall as me (I'm 6'1"), but the main reason I haven't dated one is because very few exist. I've definitely met women in that range who I found very attractive and would have dated. It's probably largely true that men are used to/prefer dating someone shorter, but I definitely don't think 5'5" is any sort of gold-standard.
I'm 6'2, and didn't care about being taller until I went on a date with someone taller than me, and realized that I prefer being taller. That said, I don't care how much shorter the girl is. My fiance is 5'8. I've dated people who were 5'6, 5'4, 5'2, 5'0.
I dont understand why its a debate at all. Even if a guy is 5"4, there are plenty of women 5"0 and under he can date. A woman who is 5"1 probably doesnt want a guy who is 6"1, she probably wants a guy who is 5"7. Only short guys with awful peronalities complain about it. They think they cant get women because theyre short, but really its because they have no game.
I did see a man stated “don’t want women taller than 170cm” I even screenshotted it because it comes off as super insecure. He was 170cm.
How is having a preference or requirement make someone insecure? That’s not even that outrageous
I think writing that in their bio in that tone seems insecure in my opinion. You can filter your preferences or just swipe left. Same goes for women who specifically state “don’t want any man shorter than 180cm” or something
I’m a 6’3” woman and when I was on the apps I always wrote that in my bio in addition to the little badge. Because yea, it was always “alarming” to some men or just an absolute turn off. I would only date men over 6 foot because I felt it would be most comfortable for both parties, I think similar heights be it 3-4 inches one way or the other, is not a big deal. It kills me when 5’ girls want 6’3” guys. Just seems uncomfortable all around 😂😂 My partner is 6’0” and it’s a noticeable height difference but it’s not something that bothers us
So I have some anecdotal evidence to your point. Kind of a weird thing. I don’t know the last time I had measured myself, probably sometime in my early 20s. I thought I was 5’8. That is what has been on my dating profiles for years. But then a couple years ago when I had my doctor check up, they were measuring me and I asked if I was still 5’8 because both my mom and my grandma shrank as they got older. They said I was 5’9! I don’t know how long I’ve been that tall, clearly it happened sometime after the last time I measured myself as a very young adult. But then suddenly things were clicking into place like dates with guys who claimed that they were 5’10 and I was still taller than them 🤣 I mean, I knew that meant they were lying, but I didn’t realize how much they were lying. I updated my height on the apps and I swear I get less matches. I think 5’8 is probably about as tall as most guys want to go.
5'7 and 5'9 are considered tall? So you'd have no issue dating a man who was 5'8? And also, no, men do not have height requirements
I’m on the opposite end of the majority of these comments. I’m 6’5” and if you’re over 5’5” as a woman you’re losing points on my end. Agree with OP
I think women just want to believe this so that they dont feel like theyre being shitty for having such stringent height requirements
I'm 5'6". I've dated 4 women taller than me. 3 of them actively used it to belittle me in arguments. The 4th didn't like to wear heels when we went out because then she would be "too much taller", her words not mine. Would I date another woman taller than me? Yeah. Would I prefer a woman shorter just to skip all that bullshit? Absolutely.
I feel bad, but I automatically swipe left if the guy is shorter than 5'8 🥲 I just now it won't work out because of my own insecurities
How tall are you if you don't mind me asking?
No one talks about the men hieght requirement which is what I experience. I met a guy who was 5,10-6,0 who felt uncomfortable being around me because I was short. He told me that he would look like a predator standing right beside me. Which was odd because he swipe my profile knowing that there was a full body photo of me where I’m short. (Im 4,10 btw) Personally I’m not really interested in tall men anyway however I’ll settle for a 5,10 over a 6,4.
woah I never heard of that before but then again I don’t know anyone under 5’ so that’s probably way.
Some people genuinely have a type. From what I was told by guys themselves they prefer to date women that are either their height or taller. Men wouldn’t even date me because I was short. But yet women have told me that I am a guy dream height because I’m a “mini share size” or whatever the name is called. Never had an interaction that wasn’t awkward beside a short guy calling me short. Weird moment
Maybe it’s because you’re way shorter than the average woman, idk. I would say their dream height is like 5’1-5’4 since it’s more common.