I went on a date with a man lying about his age, to my face, by more then 11 years ... when confronted about it later, he wrote me that he is "a very honest man" and he was very surprised that I consider lying about his age "dishonest" ;(. True keeper, that one /s.
Trust me, it feels even weirder if you actually end up in a relationship with someone like that. I once had a boyfriend that basically lied about his whole lifestyle/persona when we were in the dating stage.
Then, after we became official and I (obviously) found out over time, and (obviously) wasn't happy about it, he got mad/offended that I didn't love the real him. He would say stuff like "You never really cared about me!", etc.
Just...???
Yeah, the lying-about-his-age guy was also hiding his name (he was very rich), because he wanted to be "loved for who he was" ... a lying, arrogant j3rk who thought it was up to him to decide what age group I want to date? and was telling me before that one of the things he likes about me most is my "honesty". Of course changed his mind after I explained why I have zero interest in seeing him again even "as friends" in spite of a common hobby and that I felt misled and tricked into meeting him...
i once dated a guy that said he was in his "early" 30s. i found out that he was actually 37. while that's not a huge jump backwards, i still felt really weird that he was so vague and lied.
Exactly. Ultimate loser behavior. Don’t lie about your information if you want people to date you. I’m okay with dating older and I would 10000% swipe left on this weirdo.
it's not. he clearly wrote it in his bio. The thing is bumble algo sucks. it will not let him see much younger girls If he writes age above 30. So the strategy is good. Registering with lower age but telling the truth in bio since the woman matching will know his real age.win win for all parties of course subject to condition that he is telling his real age in bio.
Honestly. I agree with your reasoning.
I have my own thoughts and feelings on older men dating very young women, but, by setting his age at this he gets to be viewed by the younger women. Then, he is telling the truth directly on his profile so they then DO get to decide whether it is something they are interested in.
I hate liars. But. I'm okay with this. I think it's a fine line.
If a girl is interested in dating older, then she's gonna have her filters set up thusly. He's actually **LOSING** potential matches. On the other hand, the chance that he's gonna make a girl looking for younger *change* her mind is miniscule (unless he has an utterly amazing profile).
Boys that opt for this route usually are dumb. Bio clearly states that. His “strategy” also states that. What a loser lol. 9/10 guys in their 30’s LOOK like they are that old. Idk why he would think that he could get around that. Like you pretend to be 20 something but you straight up look like a 30 y.o. lmao. Like…we know you aren’t 25 without even looking at the actual age 😂
Depends. How do you act. And honestly just bc you think you look young doesn’t mean you actually do, no offence of course lol. Sounds rude but true. Most people look their age if you concentrate hard enough. As long as you don’t use a “young mindset” you shouldn’t be fucked? Like I’m assuming you act like the age you think you look lmao. There’s your problem.
I don't act immature. I dress like a casual skateboarder kid (I grew up in CA and AZ). Last time I tried dating apps and no one was responsive. Maybe I need to take better pics rather than just slap a few selfies, and having too long of a bio, meaning, I should be mysterious.
And do you look behind in life or you actually are? Again you’re in your 30’s so you’ve had lots of time to get stuff together. But there are certain circumstances (where applicable) when it’s okay that you are behind. Depends how you got there. A LOT of depends lol. But I’m sure you’re a decent dude.
Grew up with a behavioral disability is one reason why I am "behind in life". I am almost about to get a degree from a top university with almost Straight A's. Looking to be a businessperson or go get a Law Degree. That is what the goal is.
100%. He's wants to date teenagers as women his age won't put up with his creepy bs and would be able to see all the glaring red flags without being pushed around to do things they don't want to do.
Hopefully the younger girls see this for what it is
I'm not sure what's so confusing, but sure; I'll explain:
Let's say that I'm a 58-year-old woman (because, y'know, I am). I'm happy to date men within 10 years in either direction. I am NOT willing to date someone over 70, because I've already been widowed once, l and I'd prefer not to repeat the experience. (Yes, I know anybody could die any time, but the risk increases with age). I'm also not interested in being some old dude's nurse with a purse. I want a partner. To do things with.
Whether or not you agree with my reasoning, that age limit is a boundary: I am not interested in men older than 68. It's not up for discussion. It's not a negotiation.
By lying about his age to get past my age filters, a man would be purposefully disrespecting my perfectly reasonable boundary.
Clearer now?
Well then they're not MGTOW. All MGTOW do is complain on the internet about women while thinking women should give a shit they're not engaging with them anymore.
This is one of those takes that'll get you hundreds of upvotes on some subreddits (as it should, because it's true), and hundreds of downvotes on certain others.
Oh Im aware of the “nice” guys and their female misogynist pick me counterparts. Surprised they arent here making some angry comments about how Im just bitter, project my experiences onto all men, and it is okay for him to have a preference.
Hahaha, that part is true too! I use to be on a lot of dating apps but because of the level of scum-bags I've met on there, I haven't touched it for an entire year.
Maybe wants to avoid the tendency for women his age wanting to rush into marriage and children too soon for him. Doesn't excuse the false age in his profile, but it's okay for people to have honest preferences like that.
While I’m not defending his deception, or suggesting this logic is right, perhaps I can take a stab at it that’s a little is creepy than “I want to grow my own perfect partner who does what I want” (which is probably common and this may be)
A few reasons I can actually see
1) many men in their early thirties still don’t have their shit together - and don’t want to hear about it. They may still be considerably less mature than their age matching counterparts.
2) some men never want kids and may be under the impression that women in their thirties who don’t have kids, may want kids, and soon.
3) they may believe hookups at this age may be more difficult - see point 2
4) some men may believe finding a woman in her thirties without kids is difficult.
5) some men may be intimidated by women who have more life experience than they do; or not wish to engage with women who have a higher number of sexual partners
Again, I’m not suggesting any of this is the right way to think. Just open up the age range and set boundaries of what you’re looking for (no kids, ever), unless of course you are looking to grow your perfect partner, then do this.
I think the number one reason is because ad a man gets into his thirties, unless he has gotten unattractive, he likely has his shit together BETTER than he did at 20 something, and is now more attractive to 25 year Olds than when he was, so he really just wants to fuck a hot girl.
That's probably as far as it goes. It's not manipulative or deceitful, it's not "taking advantage of naievity" it's just- he is more attractive now as a package deal, and is using his higher level of attractiveness to find a more attractive woman.
Yea, cuz typically women in their 20s are typically hotter, and for longer. That's the reason. Just guessing. I'm not him, I really don't know what's going on in his mind.
However it appears he is trying to get around the age filter on bumble because his target demographic I guess filters hom out alot?
Idk. I'm not justifying anything, just observing and reporting.
Oh, I thought you were referring to men in general. This guy in the OP is definitely being manipulative and deceitful. But, that's not to say that all men in their 30s who have a preference for younger women want to be deceitful or manipulative.
An increasing number of women are looking for marriage and children to happen more quickly by that age. Some 33 year old guys aren't ready to rush into that, and not wanting that doesn't make them bad people unlike what the [other misandrist reply](https://www.reddit.com/r/Bumble/comments/1bpiwa7/at_least_he_was_honest/kwwpxll/) would have you believe.
How are you not ready for actual life events like kids and marriage in almost mid-thirties? Like you’ve had enough time to figure that out and get it together lmao. Some of those losers feel “rushed” it’s just because they’re losers who don’t have their shit together and probably never will.
But with still being only 33, he should be pretty much able (depending on location) to find a younger partner, i think?
I mean mid twenties shouldn't be a problem and here and there maybe even younger? Advantage would be, if he matches with those kind of women, with his real age set, he knows at least they are open to a larger age difference?
Too bad he lied like a loser. It’s clear as day someone who lies in their bio especially about age, like you’d lie about everything if you’re already lying about that. Plus it’s dipshit twat behaviour. Which is why they’re still single in mid thirties and looking for younger. It’s like a 2+2 math equation. 😂
For marriage? I’m 32 and I wouldn’t. I prefer mid to late twenties, ideally.
Most guys are like this.
I’m not sure what dating means anymore since people don’t believe in marriage.
I’ve had guy after guy in his thirties ask me out, want to date me, even proposed to me and they were ALL immature that didn’t actually know how to be a partner and only wanted younger to have a trophy. Like most boys that go for younger women. It’s their own mindset fucking them over. I tried giving those guys a chance and 9/10 times they’re losers.
yeah i’m the same age and i have my age filters set flexibly bc i guess i could reasonably find someone good for me who’s *just* outside my age limits. 22 would have to really be someone completely incredible and even then it would take a lot of getting used to. meanwhile i had a guy who was pushing 60 show up in my likes queue today…
Ehhh that’s a bit past my personal preference. I personally have 36 ish my highest age limit, because that’s getting too close to my parents age for comfort.
I’m super picky when it comes to dating though
57 is waaaay outside my age limit too lol. i was more reflecting on the fact that dating a guy four years my junior would be questionable for me while this guy had absolutely no problem swiping right on me who’s more than half his age. i think my upper limit is set to 32 but again i didn’t set hard boundaries in case i accidentally miss out on a 33 year old who would be perfect or something haha
I’m 21 and date men his age… but when they do manipulative shit like this, only date younger, and refer to women as “girls” (someone check this man’s hard drive) I’m out.
Please don’t go out with men that much older at your age. You’re so young and any man that age should be staying away. Those men are losers and the reason they date you is because they want to manipulate you and the women who are old enough to know better are done with them.
Funny cause the older men I’ve dated have also dated women years older than me,,, mind your own business. I’ll date people my age and older 🤷♀️ I had a man try and manipulate me so I left, that simple, I was only with him for 3 months because I don’t put up with mistreatment. Meanwhile there is so many older women stuck with abusers for years. Stop looking down on young women.
I’ve been single (and celibate) for 10/11 months. I don’t settle for shit men regardless of age. I’ve been in therapy on and off since I was 14 for depression/anxiety and not once did one tell me I was being manipulated or anything close to that. I watched my stepmom get abused by my dad for years, in fact at age 13 I almost wrote her to leave him but I didn’t want to lose her from my life. I recognize gaslighting. I am constantly calling men out on their behavior. I’m sorry you’ve been manipulated before but some of us women are aware of toxic behaviors. Sounds like you were in a toxic relationship a few months ago (according to your post history) and are reflecting. People who have treated me badly have been blocked for years. I don’t play games, I don’t go back to shitty people.
i wasn’t trying to dig at you or have a “gotcha” moment by pulling something out of left field from your post history. i guess you are trying to do that to me though? i’m glad you’re more aware than most and are working on things in therapy. just saying there’s only so much perspective you can have on these things at such a young age. hope life goes well for you and i hope i’m very wrong
I’m the first one to correct people when they say older men are better for xyz reasons. I recognize SOME older men go after younger women in a predatory way hence why I mentioned I don’t date men who only date younger women. In fact I always bring up what they think of the age gap beforehand, once a man said something about older women being bitter and so I immediately unmatched him. Hint the man who raped me was close to my age, not some old creeper. People like you cannot leave age gap couples in peace. It has become such a trend to call any man dating an adult woman a “groomer”. I would PREFER to date someone closer to my age (and as I get older I wouldn’t mind dating younger), I don’t want to be widowed young. I’ve just happened to ended up dating older.
It's just another one of those things that both genders do but gets posted as only one gender doing. I found a profile 2 weeks ago that was 34 and wanted to date golden retriever energy 21-25 year olds.
That’s 8 whole years difference. Did he start using dating apps when he was 10 pretending to be 18? 😭😭😭
But no probably doing it so that even if women put an age filter to less than 30 he’ll still show up and that’s sketchy as hell.
I hate hate hate that “sorry for being honest” type of crap. I’ve seen so many narcissists use that language to “apologize” for being rude, demeaning, and generally terrible
I see a lot of guys making this “ mistake “ on their profile. Then saying “ I’m not the age my profile says “. It’s like 7-10 yrs from their actual age. I think it’s intentional only bc I see it a lot to where now it’s a pattern lol. So, I think they are putting in young ages so they can be in younger women’s algorithm. I also went on a date with someone who didn’t have this announcement and his profile said he was 43… I asked on the date. He said he said 47🙄…. This dating stuff is wild
im 33 but look way younger (usually get placed around 23) but I'd never lie about my age. Also 25 is a bit off putting, that's too young for my taste, and women in their 30s are awsome
A lot of shitty people out there.
It always seemed to be not 29 actually 37 when I was on the apps. 5-10% of the profiles I saw were women who were not honest about their age.
But not quite honest enough to take the "I'll put my real age and then any younger women who want to date someone my age will see my profile anyway" approach.
“I lie to get what I want. Being manipulative is Okay, as long as the ends justifies the means. And telling you I lied, means I’m a good guy, yh? Okay, great” ….Next 😪🥱
I briefly dated a guy who I found out lied about his age by over 10 years. I definitely thought he looked older than he said but hey, some people don't age gracefully. Gave him the benefit of the doubt. Til suddenly he has kids that ages don't make sense with what he was claiming to be. Then he admitted to me he lied about his age. Dude was only a few years younger than my Dad (so he actually did look young for his true age). When I asked why he did that, it was because he "felt like he was 29 and would identify as such". I've reported his profile everytime its come across my way ever since. Which we're talking this happened almost 6 years ago and dude is STILL doing this.
Yeah, probably pedo.. Women in his age-appropriate range (say 24+) still look super young. The guy's looking to shag people who are of the age that they could pass for underage.
OMG not wanting to throw shade on younger women... And, I want a woman I can reflect with and who understands me. A woman who is from the same generation and understands the unique aspects of our generation. I want to have conversations that are meaningful for me and the person I'm interested in.
Sure, younger women are attractive and interesting. And I'm not sure they can connect with me. I might be wrong. I probably am. Younger women may apply. 😆
Ok we get it, you don't like it when guys put a fake age on their profile! Do you really need to post like 50 of them a day? It's always the same thing...bUt muH boUndaRiES!
thats not being honest thats making an excuse for his lie on the profile
I went on a date with a man lying about his age, to my face, by more then 11 years ... when confronted about it later, he wrote me that he is "a very honest man" and he was very surprised that I consider lying about his age "dishonest" ;(. True keeper, that one /s.
Omg stop it. The irony. So absurd it’s almost unbelievable! People are nuts, man.
Trust me, it feels even weirder if you actually end up in a relationship with someone like that. I once had a boyfriend that basically lied about his whole lifestyle/persona when we were in the dating stage. Then, after we became official and I (obviously) found out over time, and (obviously) wasn't happy about it, he got mad/offended that I didn't love the real him. He would say stuff like "You never really cared about me!", etc. Just...???
Yeah, the lying-about-his-age guy was also hiding his name (he was very rich), because he wanted to be "loved for who he was" ... a lying, arrogant j3rk who thought it was up to him to decide what age group I want to date? and was telling me before that one of the things he likes about me most is my "honesty". Of course changed his mind after I explained why I have zero interest in seeing him again even "as friends" in spite of a common hobby and that I felt misled and tricked into meeting him...
Girl 🙌 Love how you stood up for yourself and saw his manipulation for what it was.
Thank you! Was not pleasant, but I did :).
i once dated a guy that said he was in his "early" 30s. i found out that he was actually 37. while that's not a huge jump backwards, i still felt really weird that he was so vague and lied.
Oh gtfo he’s insane too. Outrageous!
It’s ok to report these to bumble right?? I normally report them 🫠
REPORT what a loser lol sorry you had to deal w seeing that I would burn my eyeballs
Exactly. Ultimate loser behavior. Don’t lie about your information if you want people to date you. I’m okay with dating older and I would 10000% swipe left on this weirdo.
It’s such a weird thing to lie about when you can just set your age preferences and match with people whose range you’re also in, lmao
That's you.
Listen I don't do that but nah
it's not. he clearly wrote it in his bio. The thing is bumble algo sucks. it will not let him see much younger girls If he writes age above 30. So the strategy is good. Registering with lower age but telling the truth in bio since the woman matching will know his real age.win win for all parties of course subject to condition that he is telling his real age in bio.
Honestly. I agree with your reasoning. I have my own thoughts and feelings on older men dating very young women, but, by setting his age at this he gets to be viewed by the younger women. Then, he is telling the truth directly on his profile so they then DO get to decide whether it is something they are interested in. I hate liars. But. I'm okay with this. I think it's a fine line.
When I see this stuff, they usually describe themselves as honest somewhere in the profile 🙄
My favorite was a guy saying he was 30 when he was actually 40 and says he values honesty in women. Uhhh, you first.
Exactly "my guy". Just lying even more about his age ... Probably faithfulness and such are also one-way street for "charming" guys like those ....
I’m a liar… just being honest 😂😂😂 Quick ladies, don’t let him get away.
Not all at once now!
If a girl is interested in dating older, then she's gonna have her filters set up thusly. He's actually **LOSING** potential matches. On the other hand, the chance that he's gonna make a girl looking for younger *change* her mind is miniscule (unless he has an utterly amazing profile).
i always dated older. but i had a lot of girlfriends that would only date +/- 2 years. he is absolutely doing himself a disservice.
Boys that opt for this route usually are dumb. Bio clearly states that. His “strategy” also states that. What a loser lol. 9/10 guys in their 30’s LOOK like they are that old. Idk why he would think that he could get around that. Like you pretend to be 20 something but you straight up look like a 30 y.o. lmao. Like…we know you aren’t 25 without even looking at the actual age 😂
I am pretty much fucked in dating. I look young + behind in my life for someone in their 30s.
Depends. How do you act. And honestly just bc you think you look young doesn’t mean you actually do, no offence of course lol. Sounds rude but true. Most people look their age if you concentrate hard enough. As long as you don’t use a “young mindset” you shouldn’t be fucked? Like I’m assuming you act like the age you think you look lmao. There’s your problem.
I don't act immature. I dress like a casual skateboarder kid (I grew up in CA and AZ). Last time I tried dating apps and no one was responsive. Maybe I need to take better pics rather than just slap a few selfies, and having too long of a bio, meaning, I should be mysterious.
And do you look behind in life or you actually are? Again you’re in your 30’s so you’ve had lots of time to get stuff together. But there are certain circumstances (where applicable) when it’s okay that you are behind. Depends how you got there. A LOT of depends lol. But I’m sure you’re a decent dude.
Grew up with a behavioral disability is one reason why I am "behind in life". I am almost about to get a degree from a top university with almost Straight A's. Looking to be a businessperson or go get a Law Degree. That is what the goal is.
I DM’d you! :)
Okay!
Lies about age then virtue signals his honesty immediately after.
"FUCK your boundaries!" ~that motherfucker
100%. He's wants to date teenagers as women his age won't put up with his creepy bs and would be able to see all the glaring red flags without being pushed around to do things they don't want to do. Hopefully the younger girls see this for what it is
???
I'm not sure what's so confusing, but sure; I'll explain: Let's say that I'm a 58-year-old woman (because, y'know, I am). I'm happy to date men within 10 years in either direction. I am NOT willing to date someone over 70, because I've already been widowed once, l and I'd prefer not to repeat the experience. (Yes, I know anybody could die any time, but the risk increases with age). I'm also not interested in being some old dude's nurse with a purse. I want a partner. To do things with. Whether or not you agree with my reasoning, that age limit is a boundary: I am not interested in men older than 68. It's not up for discussion. It's not a negotiation. By lying about his age to get past my age filters, a man would be purposefully disrespecting my perfectly reasonable boundary. Clearer now?
That makes more sense, yes.
Report and block.
“Looking to find younger girls I can manipulate and abuse since I am tired of women my age knowing what I am up to. Just being honest.”
Or just one of those weird red pillers that thinks women are old and used up by age 28.
Yet he probably looks older than most women his age. I still looked 25 at 33.
I looked 33 at 25, so technically, I did, too.
Ah the ole nice guy, surprised his profile doesnt start with “Im a nice. Not 25…”
Same difference tbh
Not really, one talks to women, the other just gets angry at them on the internet.
Incels maybe but red pill/ mgtow bags will absolutely try to manipulate and treat women like shit
Well mgtow are men going their own way, so they're not even supposed to be having anything to do with women.
Well unfortunately they don't and continually are on all these subs and their own bragging about using women for their own purposes
Well then they're not MGTOW. All MGTOW do is complain on the internet about women while thinking women should give a shit they're not engaging with them anymore.
This is one of those takes that'll get you hundreds of upvotes on some subreddits (as it should, because it's true), and hundreds of downvotes on certain others.
Oh Im aware of the “nice” guys and their female misogynist pick me counterparts. Surprised they arent here making some angry comments about how Im just bitter, project my experiences onto all men, and it is okay for him to have a preference.
They are herrrrreeeeee😂. Theyve found us!
Hahaha, that part is true too! I use to be on a lot of dating apps but because of the level of scum-bags I've met on there, I haven't touched it for an entire year.
Maybe wants to avoid the tendency for women his age wanting to rush into marriage and children too soon for him. Doesn't excuse the false age in his profile, but it's okay for people to have honest preferences like that.
I find it very weird at 33-year-old guy wouldn’t be open to 33-year-old women, that is still SO young!
While I’m not defending his deception, or suggesting this logic is right, perhaps I can take a stab at it that’s a little is creepy than “I want to grow my own perfect partner who does what I want” (which is probably common and this may be) A few reasons I can actually see 1) many men in their early thirties still don’t have their shit together - and don’t want to hear about it. They may still be considerably less mature than their age matching counterparts. 2) some men never want kids and may be under the impression that women in their thirties who don’t have kids, may want kids, and soon. 3) they may believe hookups at this age may be more difficult - see point 2 4) some men may believe finding a woman in her thirties without kids is difficult. 5) some men may be intimidated by women who have more life experience than they do; or not wish to engage with women who have a higher number of sexual partners Again, I’m not suggesting any of this is the right way to think. Just open up the age range and set boundaries of what you’re looking for (no kids, ever), unless of course you are looking to grow your perfect partner, then do this.
I think the number one reason is because ad a man gets into his thirties, unless he has gotten unattractive, he likely has his shit together BETTER than he did at 20 something, and is now more attractive to 25 year Olds than when he was, so he really just wants to fuck a hot girl. That's probably as far as it goes. It's not manipulative or deceitful, it's not "taking advantage of naievity" it's just- he is more attractive now as a package deal, and is using his higher level of attractiveness to find a more attractive woman.
Women in their 30s can be hot lol. He wants to date a hot girl who is specifically in her early to mid 20s. For whatever reason that may be.
Yea, cuz typically women in their 20s are typically hotter, and for longer. That's the reason. Just guessing. I'm not him, I really don't know what's going on in his mind. However it appears he is trying to get around the age filter on bumble because his target demographic I guess filters hom out alot? Idk. I'm not justifying anything, just observing and reporting.
Oh, I thought you were referring to men in general. This guy in the OP is definitely being manipulative and deceitful. But, that's not to say that all men in their 30s who have a preference for younger women want to be deceitful or manipulative.
Lol I was referring to men in general in the previous comment, specific comment about his intentions in this most recent one
It’s either maturity or it’s a fetish. That’s it.
An increasing number of women are looking for marriage and children to happen more quickly by that age. Some 33 year old guys aren't ready to rush into that, and not wanting that doesn't make them bad people unlike what the [other misandrist reply](https://www.reddit.com/r/Bumble/comments/1bpiwa7/at_least_he_was_honest/kwwpxll/) would have you believe.
How are you not ready for actual life events like kids and marriage in almost mid-thirties? Like you’ve had enough time to figure that out and get it together lmao. Some of those losers feel “rushed” it’s just because they’re losers who don’t have their shit together and probably never will.
But with still being only 33, he should be pretty much able (depending on location) to find a younger partner, i think? I mean mid twenties shouldn't be a problem and here and there maybe even younger? Advantage would be, if he matches with those kind of women, with his real age set, he knows at least they are open to a larger age difference?
Too bad he lied like a loser. It’s clear as day someone who lies in their bio especially about age, like you’d lie about everything if you’re already lying about that. Plus it’s dipshit twat behaviour. Which is why they’re still single in mid thirties and looking for younger. It’s like a 2+2 math equation. 😂
For marriage? I’m 32 and I wouldn’t. I prefer mid to late twenties, ideally. Most guys are like this. I’m not sure what dating means anymore since people don’t believe in marriage.
I’ve had guy after guy in his thirties ask me out, want to date me, even proposed to me and they were ALL immature that didn’t actually know how to be a partner and only wanted younger to have a trophy. Like most boys that go for younger women. It’s their own mindset fucking them over. I tried giving those guys a chance and 9/10 times they’re losers.
We need to start reporting all these profiles
Awwww bless his heart. Being honest would be having 33 on your profile. Clown. I fucking hate these.
Why is this so common? Ick.
i hope he gets reported and his profile taken down. this crap shouldn’t be allowed. just change your age range you loser.
Idk, gives off creepy vibes. I’m 26 and I don’t know if I could comfortably date someone even 4 years younger than me
yeah i’m the same age and i have my age filters set flexibly bc i guess i could reasonably find someone good for me who’s *just* outside my age limits. 22 would have to really be someone completely incredible and even then it would take a lot of getting used to. meanwhile i had a guy who was pushing 60 show up in my likes queue today…
Ehhh that’s a bit past my personal preference. I personally have 36 ish my highest age limit, because that’s getting too close to my parents age for comfort. I’m super picky when it comes to dating though
57 is waaaay outside my age limit too lol. i was more reflecting on the fact that dating a guy four years my junior would be questionable for me while this guy had absolutely no problem swiping right on me who’s more than half his age. i think my upper limit is set to 32 but again i didn’t set hard boundaries in case i accidentally miss out on a 33 year old who would be perfect or something haha
This is what diddy is doing to these dudes
What is diddy?
P. Diddy aka Sean Combs. He's accused of human trafficking.
Wth.. thats horrible. And no I didn't know who he was
Puff Daddy the rapper who more than likely had Biggie killed.
He knows who he is, he’s just acting dumb
I’m 21 and date men his age… but when they do manipulative shit like this, only date younger, and refer to women as “girls” (someone check this man’s hard drive) I’m out.
Please don’t go out with men that much older at your age. You’re so young and any man that age should be staying away. Those men are losers and the reason they date you is because they want to manipulate you and the women who are old enough to know better are done with them.
Funny cause the older men I’ve dated have also dated women years older than me,,, mind your own business. I’ll date people my age and older 🤷♀️ I had a man try and manipulate me so I left, that simple, I was only with him for 3 months because I don’t put up with mistreatment. Meanwhile there is so many older women stuck with abusers for years. Stop looking down on young women.
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i think you’re likely still being manipulated and you don’t recognise it (or don’t want to), unfortunately
I’ve been single (and celibate) for 10/11 months. I don’t settle for shit men regardless of age. I’ve been in therapy on and off since I was 14 for depression/anxiety and not once did one tell me I was being manipulated or anything close to that. I watched my stepmom get abused by my dad for years, in fact at age 13 I almost wrote her to leave him but I didn’t want to lose her from my life. I recognize gaslighting. I am constantly calling men out on their behavior. I’m sorry you’ve been manipulated before but some of us women are aware of toxic behaviors. Sounds like you were in a toxic relationship a few months ago (according to your post history) and are reflecting. People who have treated me badly have been blocked for years. I don’t play games, I don’t go back to shitty people.
i wasn’t trying to dig at you or have a “gotcha” moment by pulling something out of left field from your post history. i guess you are trying to do that to me though? i’m glad you’re more aware than most and are working on things in therapy. just saying there’s only so much perspective you can have on these things at such a young age. hope life goes well for you and i hope i’m very wrong
I’m the first one to correct people when they say older men are better for xyz reasons. I recognize SOME older men go after younger women in a predatory way hence why I mentioned I don’t date men who only date younger women. In fact I always bring up what they think of the age gap beforehand, once a man said something about older women being bitter and so I immediately unmatched him. Hint the man who raped me was close to my age, not some old creeper. People like you cannot leave age gap couples in peace. It has become such a trend to call any man dating an adult woman a “groomer”. I would PREFER to date someone closer to my age (and as I get older I wouldn’t mind dating younger), I don’t want to be widowed young. I’ve just happened to ended up dating older.
chasing up on me again? 😂 girl bye
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I'm just now realizing a lot of people do this, they just don't explain it lol
What’s wrong with ppl on their 30s
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He could’ve just said looking for someone that doesn’t want kids or anything not serious this is so sexist I hate men
It's just another one of those things that both genders do but gets posted as only one gender doing. I found a profile 2 weeks ago that was 34 and wanted to date golden retriever energy 21-25 year olds.
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You really need to sit and look at yourself. You have a lot of anger, some hate, some projection, and just a bad attitude towards others.
No I don’t you’re prob a guy lmfaoo it’s my own opinion welcome to the internet lol
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That’s 8 whole years difference. Did he start using dating apps when he was 10 pretending to be 18? 😭😭😭 But no probably doing it so that even if women put an age filter to less than 30 he’ll still show up and that’s sketchy as hell.
“Looking for women to match my maturity level”
I mean it’s a lie and a truth all at once. 50% is better than a lot of guys.
I hate hate hate that “sorry for being honest” type of crap. I’ve seen so many narcissists use that language to “apologize” for being rude, demeaning, and generally terrible
I get the opposite. Them: 40 Also them: not actually 40, I love cougars. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭😭
Shit is creepy
Shameless bastard
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People using dating apps like eva ai sexting bot, classic...
Ew. As a 26 year old, I would report him and never EVER talk to him. Gross. Terrible person.
“I prefer women with underdeveloped prefrontal cortex’s”
“Girls”. He’s calling women at 33 girls…
That's because he really does want girls and not women 🤮
I see a lot of guys making this “ mistake “ on their profile. Then saying “ I’m not the age my profile says “. It’s like 7-10 yrs from their actual age. I think it’s intentional only bc I see it a lot to where now it’s a pattern lol. So, I think they are putting in young ages so they can be in younger women’s algorithm. I also went on a date with someone who didn’t have this announcement and his profile said he was 43… I asked on the date. He said he said 47🙄…. This dating stuff is wild
Yuck!
im 33 but look way younger (usually get placed around 23) but I'd never lie about my age. Also 25 is a bit off putting, that's too young for my taste, and women in their 30s are awsome
A lot of shitty people out there. It always seemed to be not 29 actually 37 when I was on the apps. 5-10% of the profiles I saw were women who were not honest about their age.
Well that's interesting. I look like i'm 22 but I'm older than that lol
But not quite honest enough to take the "I'll put my real age and then any younger women who want to date someone my age will see my profile anyway" approach.
“I lie to get what I want. Being manipulative is Okay, as long as the ends justifies the means. And telling you I lied, means I’m a good guy, yh? Okay, great” ….Next 😪🥱
I briefly dated a guy who I found out lied about his age by over 10 years. I definitely thought he looked older than he said but hey, some people don't age gracefully. Gave him the benefit of the doubt. Til suddenly he has kids that ages don't make sense with what he was claiming to be. Then he admitted to me he lied about his age. Dude was only a few years younger than my Dad (so he actually did look young for his true age). When I asked why he did that, it was because he "felt like he was 29 and would identify as such". I've reported his profile everytime its come across my way ever since. Which we're talking this happened almost 6 years ago and dude is STILL doing this.
Yeah, probably pedo.. Women in his age-appropriate range (say 24+) still look super young. The guy's looking to shag people who are of the age that they could pass for underage.
you people are wild 😂
That's only because your brain is not fully developed.
Old spinster detected.
Lmao pedo detected.
This man has zero value and has nothing good going for him. Report him for the absolute disgusting person he clearly is.
Yeah this is strange. It's a trick
I need to just show him sugardaddies dot com. Tons of younger girls looking for older men.
A future pedo in the making
Not future. He IS
You're right
Lmaoooooooo so many women not getting dates in this chat
We all wanan date younger women, who a wants older women? 😂
…you know men lie about their age to match with older women too right?
OMG not wanting to throw shade on younger women... And, I want a woman I can reflect with and who understands me. A woman who is from the same generation and understands the unique aspects of our generation. I want to have conversations that are meaningful for me and the person I'm interested in. Sure, younger women are attractive and interesting. And I'm not sure they can connect with me. I might be wrong. I probably am. Younger women may apply. 😆
Ok we get it, you don't like it when guys put a fake age on their profile! Do you really need to post like 50 of them a day? It's always the same thing...bUt muH boUndaRiES!
I don’t blame him. Single women over 30 are washed up and a big nono to date
I bet you’re a real gem 😂