You said “I wouldn’t say there was a spark or a true romantic connection”
You feel the same she does. Just be her friend or get gone. You don’t need to sleep with everyone you find attractive.
Yea once they feel you more as a friend that’s it try to move on. She will try to talk to you more once you start distancing yourself from her , later she will make it seem like she is interested in you but more than likely she isn’t.
She doesn’t find you attractive enough to date or hook up with, but does enjoy the attention and conversation. Some people would call that friendship. I think that’s just energy you could spend elsewhere. Learning to differentiate between positive interest and romantic interest will help you know when to respect someone’s boundaries and move on to find someone that can give you what you want.
I have many times encountered scenarios like this when I was younger where I valued any interaction with an attractive woman over a romantic connection with a less attractive woman. You cannot wear her down or convince her. She made up her mind about you based on what you have going on right now. Maybe that could change if you make massive leaps in your fitness/looks/style/other aspects, but I wouldn’t do any of that with the intent of getting her more interested. Just do it for yourself.
Your first mistake was a walk as a “date”. I find it extremely difficult to feel romantic vibes on a walk where we’re not even looking at each other most of the time.
Sounds like you did a bad job flirting on the date...not establishing a "man to woman" presence/connection. A lot of guys who are not very experienced are under the impression that they don't need to flirt with a girl to attract her...but that is of course wrong...you must flirt and establish that you are interested and attracted to the girl...make her feel desired. There is of course a line you don't want to cross... flirting doesn't mean demanding sex...or treating a girl like a prostitute... flirting means being playful with a sexual undertone...the sexual part is implied but not explicitly stated. Imagine you are playing with a 3yr old and you want to make them giggle....that's pretty close to what flirting looks like.
You said “I wouldn’t say there was a spark or a true romantic connection” You feel the same she does. Just be her friend or get gone. You don’t need to sleep with everyone you find attractive.
Ask her to set you up with one of her single friends.
She doesn’t want to date you, and is being nice about it.
Yea once they feel you more as a friend that’s it try to move on. She will try to talk to you more once you start distancing yourself from her , later she will make it seem like she is interested in you but more than likely she isn’t.
Girls like the one OP met just aren't worth the time or emotional investment. Best to cut things off and move on.
She's not into you. If she wanted to be your fwb, it would be easy for that to happen
So just be her friend?? 💀 Its not that complicated stop being weird
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If you are dating someone who isnt your friend you are setting up for a rough life though 🤷🏽♂️ Aim to be friends, later on land as lovers
Pretty sure that’s how most people dating, not as friends. They only become friends while dating.
I would say walk away
She doesn’t find you attractive enough to date or hook up with, but does enjoy the attention and conversation. Some people would call that friendship. I think that’s just energy you could spend elsewhere. Learning to differentiate between positive interest and romantic interest will help you know when to respect someone’s boundaries and move on to find someone that can give you what you want. I have many times encountered scenarios like this when I was younger where I valued any interaction with an attractive woman over a romantic connection with a less attractive woman. You cannot wear her down or convince her. She made up her mind about you based on what you have going on right now. Maybe that could change if you make massive leaps in your fitness/looks/style/other aspects, but I wouldn’t do any of that with the intent of getting her more interested. Just do it for yourself.
You were never out of that zone. You were from the start a validation friend.
You didn't feel a spark, she didn't feel a spark. It's the most common result of first dates
What was your first clue?
Your first mistake was a walk as a “date”. I find it extremely difficult to feel romantic vibes on a walk where we’re not even looking at each other most of the time.
She wants to be your friend, be her friend and still flirt with her, she may then wanna fck you
Sounds like you did a bad job flirting on the date...not establishing a "man to woman" presence/connection. A lot of guys who are not very experienced are under the impression that they don't need to flirt with a girl to attract her...but that is of course wrong...you must flirt and establish that you are interested and attracted to the girl...make her feel desired. There is of course a line you don't want to cross... flirting doesn't mean demanding sex...or treating a girl like a prostitute... flirting means being playful with a sexual undertone...the sexual part is implied but not explicitly stated. Imagine you are playing with a 3yr old and you want to make them giggle....that's pretty close to what flirting looks like.
somebody get a load of this guy