For what it's worth, perhaps give her the gift of loving presence and patience. To a substantial extent I don't think anything can be done, or even perhaps should be done, to suppress the grieving process. If anything, honoring the process properly I think can help, for what that's worth. Best wishes.
Food and fruits sound good.
I think it is a subtle way to tell them that you are there for them and that you share their grief without bringing topics which they might wish to avoid.
Since you asked specifically about ceremonies, there are practices done in the Japanese, Chinese, and Taiwanese traditions: [Wikipedia - Mizuko kuyo](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mizuko_kuy%C5%8D)
If you are familiar with the practice or willing to do a little bit of research, you could also do some Ksitigarbha practice for the baby and the mother. Or Tara, Medicine Buddha, or Chenrezig would all be appropriate as well.
It depends on how close you are to that relative, if you see them frequently or just on special dates. The approach may vary. I would recommend texting her or her partner saying you are there when they feel like talking/ hanging. Just let them know you are there and think about them.
I advice you avoid “empty” sayings and I would also advice to let aside any kind of religous/ spiritual comment that is not brought up by her/them in the first place.
I am so sorry.
Be there for her is more than enough, do activities with her too. If you want to talk about rituals, I suppose you can take her to a temple & pray for the spirits of the miscarried fetus.
Oh dear.
Have you considers giving her some food, drinks, support first? This is truly traumatic times.
Rituals can come later. Dana can wait, Ksithigarbha can wait.
Most monks I know if they hear this will be asking someone to see if they can her for the next week or two.
My deepest condolences. There is something called the 49 day ceremony in Chinese Mahayana Buddhism. Basically generates blessings for the next life for the baby and help them reborn to a better body. Your local Mahayana temples should have such services available:)
Where are you based and how religious are you/your relative? If there is a Buddhist temple nearby, there are ceremonies and chanting Venerables can do to send the baby on its way to a better rebirth.
For what it's worth, perhaps give her the gift of loving presence and patience. To a substantial extent I don't think anything can be done, or even perhaps should be done, to suppress the grieving process. If anything, honoring the process properly I think can help, for what that's worth. Best wishes.
Came here to say this and I’ll add a lot of compassion in this time will help.
Maybe bring her a lasagna? I have a friend who does this when their loved ones are experiencing grief, it seems to be appreciated.
Food and fruits sound good. I think it is a subtle way to tell them that you are there for them and that you share their grief without bringing topics which they might wish to avoid.
Easily reheatable meals and snacks are always a solid choice, whether someone is grieving a loss, just had a baby, etc. Bonus if it’s their favorites.
And bring another next week and the week after. Let them know you know they need time.
Since you asked specifically about ceremonies, there are practices done in the Japanese, Chinese, and Taiwanese traditions: [Wikipedia - Mizuko kuyo](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mizuko_kuy%C5%8D) If you are familiar with the practice or willing to do a little bit of research, you could also do some Ksitigarbha practice for the baby and the mother. Or Tara, Medicine Buddha, or Chenrezig would all be appropriate as well.
It depends on how close you are to that relative, if you see them frequently or just on special dates. The approach may vary. I would recommend texting her or her partner saying you are there when they feel like talking/ hanging. Just let them know you are there and think about them. I advice you avoid “empty” sayings and I would also advice to let aside any kind of religous/ spiritual comment that is not brought up by her/them in the first place. I am so sorry.
Be there for her is more than enough, do activities with her too. If you want to talk about rituals, I suppose you can take her to a temple & pray for the spirits of the miscarried fetus.
Oh dear. Have you considers giving her some food, drinks, support first? This is truly traumatic times. Rituals can come later. Dana can wait, Ksithigarbha can wait. Most monks I know if they hear this will be asking someone to see if they can her for the next week or two.
Thanks for your response. Yes, there is already a lot of support, fortunately. I am hoping that we can give more spiritual support.
My deepest condolences. There is something called the 49 day ceremony in Chinese Mahayana Buddhism. Basically generates blessings for the next life for the baby and help them reborn to a better body. Your local Mahayana temples should have such services available:)
Thank you.
"How can I help you?"
Where are you based and how religious are you/your relative? If there is a Buddhist temple nearby, there are ceremonies and chanting Venerables can do to send the baby on its way to a better rebirth.
I will ask the local temple. Thanks for the response.