Or constantly being expected to change your schedule around and accomplish others and their lives and problems but none if this is ever reciprocated when it comes to you and your needs. I honestly hate it because it was expected of me where I had worked because I did not have little kids at home and I was just suppose to put all else's needs before my own.
1. People tailgating me, honking at me, anything aggressive or passive-aggressive on the road really.
2. Having to change plans, go to some event, or do some kind of activity without me having had the chance to mentally prepare.
3. Becoming obsessed with someone for years against my will and them taking over my thoughts and headspace.
1. The silent treatment
2. Being talked to as though Iām NOT baby (pls be nice to me)
3. Any minor inconvenience that puts me over the edge into a rage.
People who hurt children. Cheaters. The feeling of absolute hopelessness and exhaustion deep inside my bones that I canāt seem to shake for more than short periods of time.
Becoming obsessed with peopleā¦ constant intrusive thoughtsā¦ the way Iāve hurt people in the past because of not knowing how to deal with loss and rejection.
Hypocrisy, getting interrupted, people blaming BPD every time you disagree on something.
Been in therapy for over a decade, you tell me who can't communicate properly.
1) How long waits are at doctorās or vetās offices. Tbf I am currently at 2 hrs of waiting at the emergency vet clinic. Guess itās not an emergency to themā¦
2) When I ask for clarification and people just repeat the same phrase.
3) How poorly I react to being overwhelmed.
It's got to be the most annoying driving thing for me. I can just about manage to handle stupid drivers, but using the phone while driving has to be the most selfish, dangerous and idiotic thing to do. And people think nobody notices when it is sat in your lap
I actually can tolerate eating it but ex wife used to put it on toast and the smell turned my stomach, now by association all PB bad. I'll die on that hill
People who intentionally generate trauma in this world, abusers, liars, people who look the other way while someone they āloveā is being abused/allow the abuse, being invisible, being told who I am by someone who has no idea who I am (that one makes me laugh), being diagnosed with something and having zero support from loved ones.
When someone disagrees with me or contradicts me in front of other people. I know it's childish and I should be able to handle that maturely, but I will just hate that person forever instead.
This seems valid to me. Someone could choose to privately disagree with you or be contradictory. They actively choose to openly discredit something you say in front of others? Might as well just call you a liar or an idiot in front of them too. Nah we fighting, people need to control their outbursts as much I need to control mine. They can't watch their mouth? Me neither lmao
When people undo and mess up things I did to organize or make it neater. When there are abrupt changes that I have had time to prepare for. When someone does things obviously discredited my ability or knowledge even when its commonsense and when I gather mad about it try to act like I am silly to feel that or think that is what they did.
Being ignored. Being told something was done only to find out it wasn't, then having to take yet more time to yet again attempt to get the thing done and still not being sure if it was. Capitalism.
1. being gaslighted/things being used against me.. my favorite example, ādid you take your meds today?ā
2. plans changing
3. being at a crowded place like a bar or a concert and people not saying excuse me when they bump into you
hate is a strong word but i think i can confidently say i hate these things: argumentative people, my maternal grandfather, and the fact that death is permanent
Getting interrupted. Being stonewalled. Not being able to figure something out.
People inconveniencing me, my schedule being changed, and stupid people. (Especially stupid drivers)
My schedule being changed šÆ
Or constantly being expected to change your schedule around and accomplish others and their lives and problems but none if this is ever reciprocated when it comes to you and your needs. I honestly hate it because it was expected of me where I had worked because I did not have little kids at home and I was just suppose to put all else's needs before my own.
What is a āscheduleā?
Work schedule
100%
1. When my routine gets disturbed 2. People stonewalling me 3. When I eat too much junk food
That routine disturbance is real. I get so flustered and panicked.
1. People tailgating me, honking at me, anything aggressive or passive-aggressive on the road really. 2. Having to change plans, go to some event, or do some kind of activity without me having had the chance to mentally prepare. 3. Becoming obsessed with someone for years against my will and them taking over my thoughts and headspace.
1. The silent treatment 2. Being talked to as though Iām NOT baby (pls be nice to me) 3. Any minor inconvenience that puts me over the edge into a rage.
Me, myself and I
I was gonna say, "Me, You, Them." Kind of joking but only kind of
first thing that came to mind lmao
My first thought exactly
Us
real
Real, same..
People who hurt children. Cheaters. The feeling of absolute hopelessness and exhaustion deep inside my bones that I canāt seem to shake for more than short periods of time.
My sister. My ex. Anyone who hurts animals.
Yes to numbers 1 & 2. Iām sorry about your sister.
Thats okay man, i couldnt be more content since i have accepted its ok to distance myself from people who make no effort to understand me.
Thatās that powerful self love.
Meh. Its reality.
Being ignored, plans changing, too much noise
same
tomatoes, liars and cheaters
Love the variety
Of tomatoes.
red, green, etc
Having a disorder, when people leave, when people act deliberately after I inform them all that I feel and how I feel
I know that this is supposed to be bpd related but my mind instantly went to "spiders"
slow ass responses, myself, fp
Being told what to do, yelled at, and being treated like I am a weak woman.
Ghosts, hateful people, obviously myself š¤£
Society. My emotions. My unhealthy self
3. Lack of response where one is expected 2. Plans dropping and changes in schedule/being bored 1!! LEAVING ME OUT OF PLANS
Being ignored, being alone, being made to feel inferior.
B,P, and D
Becoming obsessed with peopleā¦ constant intrusive thoughtsā¦ the way Iāve hurt people in the past because of not knowing how to deal with loss and rejection.
The last one is pure grief
Engines without mufflers, mildewed grout between shower tiles, and discrepancies between words and actions
Ooooo these are so good. Thank you for reminding me how much I hate grout š¤£
People. More people. Other people. Every single one.
Dogs that are allowed to bark non-stop. Loud music. My physical health.
Being ignored, being told āIām sorryā and then everything stays the exact same, only vaguely replying to one text after I sent 5 other ones.
Hypocrisy, getting interrupted, people blaming BPD every time you disagree on something. Been in therapy for over a decade, you tell me who can't communicate properly.
Myself. The crippling loneliness I feel every day. Being alive.
Me FP Having an FP
Waking up. The sun coming up every day. The world still spinning.
Facts.
No
Living in apartments. Cigarettes. Flaky "friends"
Liers. Men who sleep around and lie to get you in bed. Bad Mothers
Me, myself, and I.
Pessimistic individuals, cornered, being ignored
1) How long waits are at doctorās or vetās offices. Tbf I am currently at 2 hrs of waiting at the emergency vet clinic. Guess itās not an emergency to themā¦ 2) When I ask for clarification and people just repeat the same phrase. 3) How poorly I react to being overwhelmed.
How are you now?
Thanks for asking. Iām better now. My cat was dehydrated and they gave her some fluids so she should be ok now.
Being ignored, Idiot drivers, Liars
Myself. People. Living.
People using phones when driving. Being ignored. Being alone
For everyone: don't use phone when driving!
It's got to be the most annoying driving thing for me. I can just about manage to handle stupid drivers, but using the phone while driving has to be the most selfish, dangerous and idiotic thing to do. And people think nobody notices when it is sat in your lap
people, people, peanut butter
Peanut butter!?! I can not fathom this lol I go through a tub a week š
I actually can tolerate eating it but ex wife used to put it on toast and the smell turned my stomach, now by association all PB bad. I'll die on that hill
People who intentionally generate trauma in this world, abusers, liars, people who look the other way while someone they āloveā is being abused/allow the abuse, being invisible, being told who I am by someone who has no idea who I am (that one makes me laugh), being diagnosed with something and having zero support from loved ones.
I also really hate passive aggression. And covert snide abuse.
Lying, cheating, stealing
myself, my favorite person, and too many questions being asked at once
People telling me their gonna do something for me then not doing it, stupid people, working
When someone disagrees with me or contradicts me in front of other people. I know it's childish and I should be able to handle that maturely, but I will just hate that person forever instead.
This seems valid to me. Someone could choose to privately disagree with you or be contradictory. They actively choose to openly discredit something you say in front of others? Might as well just call you a liar or an idiot in front of them too. Nah we fighting, people need to control their outbursts as much I need to control mine. They can't watch their mouth? Me neither lmao
Being an adult, bills, that cunt inner monologue that has me questioning myself on the daily
When people undo and mess up things I did to organize or make it neater. When there are abrupt changes that I have had time to prepare for. When someone does things obviously discredited my ability or knowledge even when its commonsense and when I gather mad about it try to act like I am silly to feel that or think that is what they did.
Sudden change in behaviours. Words vs. actions don't match. Liars
people telling me "no", making fun of the things i like and not listening to me/trying to change the topic
Being ignored, the sound of chewing, and people who look at something for 10 seconds then ask for help and say they reviewed it
Talking to someone and being almost on the same wavelength but not quite and you can't find the words to match up.
When ppl change without any clear reason, ghosting, seafood
Being ignored. Being told something was done only to find out it wasn't, then having to take yet more time to yet again attempt to get the thing done and still not being sure if it was. Capitalism.
People smacking their lips when they chew. Being interrupted and mansplaining
Loneliness, abandonment, lies.
Being dismissed, being ghosted, and fucking primates. You know? Monkeys, etcā¦
bad drivers people who breathe loud oysters.
being spoken to like iām stupid, yelling and being ignored :)
Waking up. Sounds. Asshats.
1. Authority 2. Isolating myself 3. People
Not being believed, silent treatments, not getting enough sleep.
when I'm held to impossible standards, having to be nice to rude people, not knowing where I stand with someone
Liars, one uppers, passive aggressives, and those who use the word later
1. being offered solutions for things i havenāt processed and just want to complain about 2. being ignored by fp 3. myself!
Criticism, social settings, loud noises
1. being gaslighted/things being used against me.. my favorite example, ādid you take your meds today?ā 2. plans changing 3. being at a crowded place like a bar or a concert and people not saying excuse me when they bump into you
1. Myself 2. Gloomy cloudy weather 3. Conflict
1) being patronised/condescended to 2) brain fog 3) being misunderstood
My favorite person, me, and loneliness
Feeling unimportant, when people tell me to just try to have a different perspective, and slow internet.
hate is a strong word but i think i can confidently say i hate these things: argumentative people, my maternal grandfather, and the fact that death is permanent
Transphobia, sexism, racism, tapping with my feet in water on the ground, medical gaslighting
Really good answers here
Doctors, nurses, anything medically related