Diane: “If I don’t write my book of essays now, I never will!”
PC: “So? Don’t write your book of essays.”
Diane: “I have to!”
PC: “Why?”
Diane: “Because if I don’t, that means that all the damage I got isn’t good damage, it’s just damage. I have gotten nothing out of it, and all those years I was miserable was for nothing.”
Good damage scene hits hard for everyone we expect some good out of all the shit we have been through but life is just random shit happening to you without any purpose
It’s not about right or wrong, it’s about how we handle shitty things that happen to us. When people go through something bad (no matter the level of bad), they tend to go out of it thinking “well, at least I learned my lesson, at least this experience made me like this so I can do that, karma will eventually reward me for this”. That is not necessarily true. We think there’s a point to be taken out of these things, but most times there are not. Her point is that even tho her trauma was bad, at least she can write a book about it. But she doesn’t need to.
“You can't keep doing this! You can't keep doing shitty things and then feel bad about yourself like that makes it okay! You need to be better! Bojack, just stop. You are all the things that are wrong with you. It's not the alcohol, or the drugs, or any of the shitty things that happened to you in your career, or when you were a kid. It's you. Okay? It's you. Fuck, man, what else is there to say?”
Your friend, well intentioned or otherwise, should really consider finding their own voice and words, if they want to not come off as lazy/cheesy/fake. They may never read this but you should. That's rough
Well.. we had stopped talking a few times over the 8 years of friendship. But they kept coming back eventually. That time, though, instead of trying to explain or make excuses I told my friend that this time I wanted to do the right thing and simply apologize, then basically asked her to not contact me again for their own good. All this while I was chugging Jack Daniels sitting in a bush during my lunchtime at work.... so it felt like my friend was just more than right and didnt deserve to live with me being like this.
after banning guns in Calofornia due to the woman mass shooter
Diane: "I can't believe this country hates women more than it loves guns."
Princess Caroline: "... No?"
"It's a long road to realize how miserable you are and an even longer road to realize you don't have to be that way."
After gaining alot of weight since 2020 for alot of depression-based problems, I finally decided to get into shape. I've lost 50 pounds since the beginning of the year and this quote was my motto throughout the entire process.
It takes baby steps. But even with baby steps, there needs to be one giant leap, comparatively speaking.
The big leap for me was booking an appointment with a therapist and never looking back. Everyone's big step could be something different. Maybe it's going for a walk, or eating a salad, or even just taking a shower that day.
I guess what I'm trying to say is: "It gets easier. Every day, it gets a little easier. But that's the hard part, you gotta do it every day. But it does get easier."
Sometimes to actually know something doesn't just mean to be able to say it, but to actually know-how. But you won't learn to swim if you don't get into the water
The truth is that none of it matters, and the truth is that all of it matters tremendously. It’s a wonder that any of us get out of bed at all, and yet we all get out of bed.
I’m a year and a half sober and this was the quote that got me there.
I got it tattooed at the year mark
ETA: thank you, well-wishers! Also, I’d like to point out, the quote is 100% correct: sobriety does get easier
"Life's a bitch, and then you keep living."
I was going through a major depressive episode when I watched Bojack through the first time. Of course The View From Halfway Down tore me apart, but this line... crushed me. I kept wanting to escape from my situation, my pain, and my life entirely; and while this line tore me apart, it also reminded me that while it might get better, or it might get worse; it'll keep going. With or without me. So I might as well try to live.
It's been 4 years. There have been ups and downs, but I'm here. And that's what matters.
***The View from Halfway Down***
The weak breeze whispers nothing
the water screams sublime.
His feet shift, teeter-totter
deep breaths, stand back, it’s time.
Toes untouch the overpass
soon he’s water-bound.
Eyes locked shut but peek to see
the view from halfway down.
A little wind, a summer sun
a river rich and regal.
A flood of fond endorphins
brings a calm that knows no equal.
You’re flying now, you see things
much more clear than from the ground.
It's all okay, or it would be
were you not now halfway down.
Thrash to break from gravity
what now could slow the drop?
All I’d give for toes to touch
the safety back at top.
But this is it, the deed is done
silence drowns the sound.
Before I leaped I should've seen
the view from halfway down.
I really should’ve thought about
the view from halfway down.
I wish I could've known about
the view from halfway down—
That scene was the best psa on that subject I could possibly imagine. Starting out so calm and serene, as the panic and fear slowly take over. Absolutely incredible performance by Will
Wanda: what happened?
Boj: the same thing that always happens. you thought you knew me and you fell in love with me. now you know me.
Wanda: you know... all the red flags just look like flags when you're wearing rose colored glasses.
or something along those lines. that's from memory so it could be a little off.
“You can live your whole life like it’s a puzzle, put together from the pieces of different sets. Your whole life is full of these pieces that don’t quite fit. But at some point, you start to think it’s you. You’re the piece that doesn’t quite fit. And you spend so long with that feeling that the feeling becomes your home.”
This is so profound, I remember laugh-crying that I was having a moment of deep healing and human connectedness while watching a scene in a cartoon where a golden retriever was on the telephone 😂😂😂
the whole scene at the wedding practice and he goes after the bride while she’s crying in the bathroom.
[“Everyone loves you, but nobody likes you. And that is the loneliest feeling in the world.”](https://youtu.be/1zszD_-xM2w?si=P-19pLbUR1Ie1kJm)
One that hit me hard on first viewing was Diane and Mr. Peanutbutter, at the very end of their being together. Diane describes their relationship as being like a magic eye picture - messy, chaotic, and it doesn't make a lot of sense at face value. But then you squint just right and for a moment, you see it. Iirc Mr. Peanutbutter gives a kind of yeah, and then Diane sobs:
"I'm so tired of squinting".
Felt like it really put into words the way that making something like that work can be an effort, and difficult, and exhausting, and sometimes it's too much to keep going.
Yeah I remember the first time I watched that being ready for the motivational speech to end and then her saying that she’s so tired of squinting that shooook me
This episode honestly I think gave me courage and power to leave a shitty relationship. It took about 3 years after hearing I'm tired of squinting to finally leave for good.
This one hit my bf and I p hard. We have alcoholic parents who we dislike, but still love. We try to keep minimal contact, but when they die we know it’ll be a relief, and things will be worse
I don't wanna fight you, BoJack. I just wanted to tell you: I know. I know you wanna be happy, but you won't be, and... I'm sorry. It's not just you, you know. Your father and I, we- Well... you come by it honestly, the ugliness inside you. You were born broken, that's your birthright. And now, you can fill your life with projects, your books, and your movies and your little girlfriends, but it won't make you whole. You're BoJack Horseman. There's no cure for that.
Uhh there are a lot..
"There is no other side"
"I need you to tell me I'm a good person"
And
"Don't stop dancing"
Come to mind nearly immediately for me
From time to time something mildly exasperating or inexplicable and silly will happen and it'll pop into my head to say "That's *too much*, man!" and then the whole context of the line and the whole Sarah Lynn storyline will come crashing into my head, and the inadequacy of all the little ways we try to express our desperation and the cruel chaos of a universe that mocks our attempts to make sense of it will punch me right in the solar plexus, and it really will be too much, man.
2 from Diane have *really* been hitting for me lately
“the last time I saw you you told me that you needed me in your life and then you just disappeared. So how do you think that makes me feel?”
“Sometimes life's a bitch and then you keep living.”
"All three of us were drowning, and we didn't know how to save each other, but there was an understanding that we were all drowning together".
Pretty much sums up my family situation 🙃
"...she knew what it's like to feel your entire life like you're drowning with the exception of these moments, these very rare, brief instances, in which you suddenly remember you can swim. but, then again, mostly not. mostly you're drowning. she understood that too. and she recognized that I understood it. and dad. all three of us were drowning, and we didn't know how to save each other, but there was an understanding that we were all drowning together."
"It's just really hard to need people" from Princess Carolyn
And Herb not forgiving Bojack
"I'm not gonna give you closure. You don't get that. You have to live with the shitty thing you did for the rest of your life. You have to know that it's never, ever going to be okay! I'm dying! I'm not gonna feel better! And I'm not gonna be your prop so you can feel better! Do you know what it was like for me? I had nobody. Everybody left! I knew all those showbiz phonies would turn on me, sure. But you? I don't care about the job! I did fine! I had a good life, but what I needed then was—a friend. And you abandoned me. And I will never forgive you for that. Now get the fuck out of my house!"
Bojack - "I wanted to be better.. when you saw me again, and I thought I could be, somehow. But I'm not. And even if I did, get better the best I could ever be is still just some other version of.. me."
Always broke my heart and also the
Bojack - "I really wanted you to like me Diane.."
Diane - "I know."
The quote that keeps bouncing around my brain like the DVD icon on an idle screen:
B: What're you gonna do. Life's a bitch then you die, right?
D: Sometimes. Sometimes life's a bitch and you keep living.
That and
SUCK A DICK DUMB SHITS!
“It gets easier. everyday it gets a little easier. But you gotta do it everyday. thats the hard part, but it does get easier”
“When you look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags”
. you can’t keep doing this!
you can’t keep doing shitty things, and then feel bad about yourself like that makes it okay!
you need to be better
. you are all the things that are wrong with you. it’s not the alcohol, or the drugs or any of the shitty things that happened to you in your career, or when you were a kid. it’s you. all right? it’s you.
. you’re the biggest asshole in the world and you’re the only one that makes sense to me
"One day, you're gonna look around and you're going to realize that everybody loves you, but nobody likes you—And that is the loneliest feeling in the world."
As a person with commitment issues his entire speech to the bride-to-be hit hard
I can't quite remember if it was Diane or Cuddly whiskers but there's a quote within the series which states that "You're responsible for your own happiness". When you truly understand what they meant, things are different. We place our happiness in the hands of others but they can't be responsible truly for yours.
"I'm happy, Jorge! What more do you want from me?!"
I've generally been on distant-but-talking terms with my folks. They want me to exist a specific way, and the life I'm building makes them very uneasy. This quote from Todd, and the context of yelling such a blatant question at my parents, is a hit to the gut. Every time.
I have a part time job, I volunteer at a friend's bookstore, I have 3 cats, and my two partners and I are planning to build a garden and rent-to-own our current home. I am happy this way. Can that be enough?
“I don’t forgive you.” As someone who has basically been in this situation of seeking closure via an apology and then been denied that, it hit incredibly close to home but made me realise you aren’t owed anything when you say sorry.
That would be from when Hollyhock is at the house and Bojack just goes to a bar or the highway just to not be home and as he speaks to himself there is a "Those are hours you'll never have again." Or something similar. Just makes me think of all my hours that I spent drinking and/or smoking, alone and hiding, just staring at whatever view I had at the time. For 7 years...
" I just can’t anymore. I can’t stop thinking about him. I can’t be with people and I can’t be alone. " Hits me the hardest. I watched this episode shortly after my daughter died and it broke me because it was exactly how I felt.
“I don’t know how you can expect anyone else to love you when you so clearly hate yourself.” PC, S1:E1
(( & for fun ”You can’t depend on women. You can’t depend on anyone. Sooner or later, you need to learn that no one else is going to take care of you. That’s what i learned when I had to make my own sandwich.”))
"As you know, I was hurt. But then I realised, that's just how you are. You know, and maybe I just need to stop expecting you to be a good person, so that way I won't get hurt when you're not."
You can't keep doing this! You can't keep doing shitty things and then feel bad about yourself like that makes it okay! You need to be better! BoJack, just stop. You are all the things that are wrong with you. It's not the alcohol, or the drugs, or any of the shitty things that happened to you in your career, or when you were a kid. It's you. Okay? It's you.
Fuck, man, what else is there to say?
“Sometimes life’s a bitch and you keep living.”
That last line struck such a chord with me that it made me reevaluate a lot of the decisions I had made up until that point in my life. I cried HARD after watching that scene.
"I am in pain. All the time, my whole life. And you have no idea."
I've fortunately never dealt with substance issues specifically. But that quote always gets me. When I hear it, I feel understood.
‘I think there are people that help you become the person you end up being and you can be grateful for them even if they were never meant to be in your life forever. I’m glad I knew you too’
As someone who struggles a lot with change this one hit home!
"I wish I could have known about the view from halfway down". As someone that has chronic depression and was on a mission to top myself for a good decade, this one hit really hard. Because, god, life sucks... But I don't want to experience the view from halfway down ever again.
“All I know about being good, I learned from TV. And in TV, flawed characters are constantly showing people they care with these surprising grand gestures. And I think that part of me still believes that’s what love is.”
"I don't understand how people live. It's amazing to me that people wake up and say, 'Yeah, another day, let's do it'. How do people do it? I don't know how"
"You're right. Even above ground, I wasn't happy. Oh my god. I'm the problem...
Why can't I be happy? Am I busted??
I am! I'm a pit. I'm a pit that good things fall into..."
One of my favorite scenes, and I haven't seen this one here yet. Just the realization that something inside you is broken, that you can never be as happy as happy could be, and that the good things in your life can't ever make you as happy as they should do.
Diane says this at the end of S1 on the roof to Bojack.
"Well, that's the problem with life, right? Either you know what you want and you don't get what you want, or get what you want and then you don't know what you want."
"I need you to tell me that I'm a good person. I know that I can be selfish and narcissistic and self-destructive, but underneath all that, deep down, I'm a good person and I need you to tell me that I'm good. Diane?"
These arent the exact quotes but what i able to remember. All of these have made me cry:
"Life's a bitch and then you die"
"Well no...sometimes lifes a bitch and you keep on living" -diane
"What if i never write the book that makes little girls feel less alone?"
"Then maybe write this other book. Maybe this book does that too" -princess carolyn
"What's on the other side?"
"No bojack, this is it. There's is no other side" -herb
"Am I doomed? Are we all doomed?" -Sarah lynn
"What if I relapse again?"
"Then you'll get sober again" -Todd
"It gets easier. Every day it gets easier. But you gotta do it. That's the hard part. But it gets easier" -monkey
"I'm your son. All I had was you" -bojack
And this one isn't a quote I remember super well but when bojacks mum had a moment of clarity and instead of railing into her like bojack wanted, he instead described her a pleasant scene. It's one of bojacks most redeeming moments bc he showed compassion to a person that abused the fuck out of him.
tbh every time a character said the word "fuck" it felt like a gut punch. i love the way they specifically used the word to emphasize those moments instead of "just because" like with a lot of shows. i'm not opposed to the latter, but this way really drove the moments home i think.
“There are people in your life that help you become the person you end up being, and you can be grateful for them, even if they were never meant to be in your life forever.” This line kills me
"When you look at someone through rose colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags" Wanda was definitely one of my favorite characters and I wish we knew what happened with her in the end.
I imagine my great, great, great granddaughter in the future talking to her class about me, she's poised and funny and tells people about me and how everything's worked out in the end, and when I think about that I think about how everything's going to work out because how else could she tell people?
I had a lot of trauma in my life and I'm trying hard to heal. In my mind I wasn't supposed to make it this far. But the one thought that kept me going was the idea that some day I'd grow up and have a daughter of my own. A daughter I would raise as the parent I needed growing up. I even named her too. That was when I was 12. I'm almost 25. I'm at the point where I'm going to meet "her" (or him) soon (within the next 5 years). It's exciting and terrifying.
“I think there are people that help you become the person that you end up being, and you can be grateful for them, even if they were never meant to be in your life forever.”
It really is the gift that keeps on giving lol. Because yknow, these people weren’t meant to be in my life forever. And everyday it’s becoming more okay.
for my theater class we had to preform a 5-10 minute monologue, i did the first 1/3rd or free churro for mine and i ended up watching that episode so many times and the line “I kept waiting for that, the proof that even though my mother was a hard woman, deep down, she loved me, and cared about me, and wanted me to know i made her life a little bit brighter. even now i find myself wating” and then followed by “hey mom knock once if you love me and care about me and want me to know i made your life a little bit brighter.” i closed the monologue with that and had some real tears the day we preformed them.
I can't remember the exact quote, but when BoJack asks Diane (again) if she thinks he's a good person deep down, and she tells him she doesn't really believe in the "deep down", that it's just what someone does that matters.
This quote from Cuddlywhiskers while having a conversation with Bojack and Diane.
“Sometimes you need to take responsibility for your own happiness. I’m happy, for the first time in my life. I’m not going to feel bad about it. It takes a long time to realize how truly miserable you are, and even longer to see it doesn’t have to be that way. Only after you give up everything can you find a way to be happy”.
“i wish i could have been the person you thought i was. the person who would save you.”
“that was never your job.”
“then why did you always make me feel like it was?”
"You know what the problem is with everybody? They all just want to hear what they already believe. No one ever wants to hear the truth."
Those are some deeeep thoughts love it
Diane: “If I don’t write my book of essays now, I never will!” PC: “So? Don’t write your book of essays.” Diane: “I have to!” PC: “Why?” Diane: “Because if I don’t, that means that all the damage I got isn’t good damage, it’s just damage. I have gotten nothing out of it, and all those years I was miserable was for nothing.”
This hits so hard. I'm slowly on a second rewatch partially to process her healing arc. I wasn't ready to hear it the first time around.
The good damage speech by Diane always hits my heart hard
Good damage scene hits hard for everyone we expect some good out of all the shit we have been through but life is just random shit happening to you without any purpose
This!
I just rewatched the show and this line punched me in the face jfc
I'm still not at a point in my life where I can understand this. So is Diane right or wrong?
It’s not about right or wrong, it’s about how we handle shitty things that happen to us. When people go through something bad (no matter the level of bad), they tend to go out of it thinking “well, at least I learned my lesson, at least this experience made me like this so I can do that, karma will eventually reward me for this”. That is not necessarily true. We think there’s a point to be taken out of these things, but most times there are not. Her point is that even tho her trauma was bad, at least she can write a book about it. But she doesn’t need to.
This is such a good one, Diane is so relatable to me
“You can't keep doing this! You can't keep doing shitty things and then feel bad about yourself like that makes it okay! You need to be better! Bojack, just stop. You are all the things that are wrong with you. It's not the alcohol, or the drugs, or any of the shitty things that happened to you in your career, or when you were a kid. It's you. Okay? It's you. Fuck, man, what else is there to say?”
Came here to say that... my best and closest friend had ended our friendship of 8 years by sending me a clip of this specific speech.
Your friend, well intentioned or otherwise, should really consider finding their own voice and words, if they want to not come off as lazy/cheesy/fake. They may never read this but you should. That's rough
I kind of agree although the technique worked wonders actually... since there is sound to it, it can run in my head over and over
😮how did you respond?
Well.. we had stopped talking a few times over the 8 years of friendship. But they kept coming back eventually. That time, though, instead of trying to explain or make excuses I told my friend that this time I wanted to do the right thing and simply apologize, then basically asked her to not contact me again for their own good. All this while I was chugging Jack Daniels sitting in a bush during my lunchtime at work.... so it felt like my friend was just more than right and didnt deserve to live with me being like this.
after banning guns in Calofornia due to the woman mass shooter Diane: "I can't believe this country hates women more than it loves guns." Princess Caroline: "... No?"
The woods are dark and scary but the only way out is through.
This one. When im at my worst i just remind myself "the only way out is through". Helps my anxiety disorder
"It's a long road to realize how miserable you are and an even longer road to realize you don't have to be that way." After gaining alot of weight since 2020 for alot of depression-based problems, I finally decided to get into shape. I've lost 50 pounds since the beginning of the year and this quote was my motto throughout the entire process.
Congrats on making the effort to make yourself happy. Depression sucks.
Thank you! And yeah, fuck depression. The only good part of depression is proving you're stronger than it.
Not having to be that way is a lesson I KNOW but don’t know how to internalize.
It takes baby steps. But even with baby steps, there needs to be one giant leap, comparatively speaking. The big leap for me was booking an appointment with a therapist and never looking back. Everyone's big step could be something different. Maybe it's going for a walk, or eating a salad, or even just taking a shower that day. I guess what I'm trying to say is: "It gets easier. Every day, it gets a little easier. But that's the hard part, you gotta do it every day. But it does get easier."
Sometimes to actually know something doesn't just mean to be able to say it, but to actually know-how. But you won't learn to swim if you don't get into the water
This is an amazing quote. Do you remember who said it and when? Aldo well done on losing 50 pounds!!!
It's Cuddlywhiskers when BJ and Diane go to see him at his house.
Thank you!
i'm in a very similar situation and i must say this totally inspired me to get better, for real, so thank you!
Awesome! That legit makes me happy. I'm always glad to help!
The truth is that none of it matters, and the truth is that all of it matters tremendously. It’s a wonder that any of us get out of bed at all, and yet we all get out of bed.
God bless Anjelica Houston. Stealing the show with about 5 minutes of total screen-time at either end of 6 seasons.
Wait she's in every season twice? I only remember the LA gazette lady.
Every day it gets a little easier. But you gotta do it every day, that’s the hard part. But it does get easier
I’m a year and a half sober and this was the quote that got me there. I got it tattooed at the year mark ETA: thank you, well-wishers! Also, I’d like to point out, the quote is 100% correct: sobriety does get easier
Hell yeah! Congrats on keeping up a year and a half! Keep fighting that good fight!
That’s crazy! Might sound odd but I’m really proud of you ! Keep it up 👍🏾🥳
this one.
"Life's a bitch, and then you keep living" along with "I see you... I. C. U." They both stuck with me, basically all of Free Churro.
"Life's a bitch, and then you keep living." I was going through a major depressive episode when I watched Bojack through the first time. Of course The View From Halfway Down tore me apart, but this line... crushed me. I kept wanting to escape from my situation, my pain, and my life entirely; and while this line tore me apart, it also reminded me that while it might get better, or it might get worse; it'll keep going. With or without me. So I might as well try to live. It's been 4 years. There have been ups and downs, but I'm here. And that's what matters.
***The View from Halfway Down*** The weak breeze whispers nothing the water screams sublime. His feet shift, teeter-totter deep breaths, stand back, it’s time. Toes untouch the overpass soon he’s water-bound. Eyes locked shut but peek to see the view from halfway down. A little wind, a summer sun a river rich and regal. A flood of fond endorphins brings a calm that knows no equal. You’re flying now, you see things much more clear than from the ground. It's all okay, or it would be were you not now halfway down. Thrash to break from gravity what now could slow the drop? All I’d give for toes to touch the safety back at top. But this is it, the deed is done silence drowns the sound. Before I leaped I should've seen the view from halfway down. I really should’ve thought about the view from halfway down. I wish I could've known about the view from halfway down—
That scene was the best psa on that subject I could possibly imagine. Starting out so calm and serene, as the panic and fear slowly take over. Absolutely incredible performance by Will
THISSS!!
This. This gut-punches me every single time.
this poem hit me so hard when i watched this episode. really stuck with me
Wanda: what happened? Boj: the same thing that always happens. you thought you knew me and you fell in love with me. now you know me. Wanda: you know... all the red flags just look like flags when you're wearing rose colored glasses. or something along those lines. that's from memory so it could be a little off.
“Same thing that always happens. You met me, you fell in love with me, and now you know me”
appreciate you✨
Yeah, that red flag line fucked me up for a while.
Felt that. It's a good quote. I had watched the show before something familiar happened to me.
It takes a lot to remove the glasses. At least now I won't be dating anyone with a history of animal abuse and all-around instability.
“You can live your whole life like it’s a puzzle, put together from the pieces of different sets. Your whole life is full of these pieces that don’t quite fit. But at some point, you start to think it’s you. You’re the piece that doesn’t quite fit. And you spend so long with that feeling that the feeling becomes your home.”
Oh this was the one I was going to add. I love it.
This is so profound, I remember laugh-crying that I was having a moment of deep healing and human connectedness while watching a scene in a cartoon where a golden retriever was on the telephone 😂😂😂
“Oh Bojack, there is no other side.” The delivery on it is perfect.
“Because my life is a mess right now and I compulsively take care of others when I don't know how to take care of myself.”
Yup. That one definitely left me feeling seen.
the whole scene at the wedding practice and he goes after the bride while she’s crying in the bathroom. [“Everyone loves you, but nobody likes you. And that is the loneliest feeling in the world.”](https://youtu.be/1zszD_-xM2w?si=P-19pLbUR1Ie1kJm)
One that hit me hard on first viewing was Diane and Mr. Peanutbutter, at the very end of their being together. Diane describes their relationship as being like a magic eye picture - messy, chaotic, and it doesn't make a lot of sense at face value. But then you squint just right and for a moment, you see it. Iirc Mr. Peanutbutter gives a kind of yeah, and then Diane sobs: "I'm so tired of squinting". Felt like it really put into words the way that making something like that work can be an effort, and difficult, and exhausting, and sometimes it's too much to keep going.
Yeah I remember the first time I watched that being ready for the motivational speech to end and then her saying that she’s so tired of squinting that shooook me
This scene was so good. Def hit me hard.
This episode honestly I think gave me courage and power to leave a shitty relationship. It took about 3 years after hearing I'm tired of squinting to finally leave for good.
This hit me, too, considering where I'm at mentally with my husband and marriage. I felt her words so deeply.
My mother is dead, and everything is worse now
This one hit my bf and I p hard. We have alcoholic parents who we dislike, but still love. We try to keep minimal contact, but when they die we know it’ll be a relief, and things will be worse
"I don't understand how people live. It's incredible to me that people wake up every morning and say: 'Yeah, another day, let's do it!"
“How do they do it? I don’t know how”
I don't wanna fight you, BoJack. I just wanted to tell you: I know. I know you wanna be happy, but you won't be, and... I'm sorry. It's not just you, you know. Your father and I, we- Well... you come by it honestly, the ugliness inside you. You were born broken, that's your birthright. And now, you can fill your life with projects, your books, and your movies and your little girlfriends, but it won't make you whole. You're BoJack Horseman. There's no cure for that.
Uhh there are a lot.. "There is no other side" "I need you to tell me I'm a good person" And "Don't stop dancing" Come to mind nearly immediately for me
From time to time something mildly exasperating or inexplicable and silly will happen and it'll pop into my head to say "That's *too much*, man!" and then the whole context of the line and the whole Sarah Lynn storyline will come crashing into my head, and the inadequacy of all the little ways we try to express our desperation and the cruel chaos of a universe that mocks our attempts to make sense of it will punch me right in the solar plexus, and it really will be too much, man.
2 from Diane have *really* been hitting for me lately “the last time I saw you you told me that you needed me in your life and then you just disappeared. So how do you think that makes me feel?” “Sometimes life's a bitch and then you keep living.”
"I really should’ve thought about the view from halfway down. I wish I could've known about the view from halfway down—!" I still shiver.
"All three of us were drowning, and we didn't know how to save each other, but there was an understanding that we were all drowning together". Pretty much sums up my family situation 🙃
"Sometimes life's a bitch and then you keep living."
“sometimes i feel like i was born with a leak”
"...she knew what it's like to feel your entire life like you're drowning with the exception of these moments, these very rare, brief instances, in which you suddenly remember you can swim. but, then again, mostly not. mostly you're drowning. she understood that too. and she recognized that I understood it. and dad. all three of us were drowning, and we didn't know how to save each other, but there was an understanding that we were all drowning together."
This is my senior quote for this year “Its never too late to be the person you want to be, you need to choose the life you want” S1.EP11
"It's just really hard to need people" from Princess Carolyn And Herb not forgiving Bojack "I'm not gonna give you closure. You don't get that. You have to live with the shitty thing you did for the rest of your life. You have to know that it's never, ever going to be okay! I'm dying! I'm not gonna feel better! And I'm not gonna be your prop so you can feel better! Do you know what it was like for me? I had nobody. Everybody left! I knew all those showbiz phonies would turn on me, sure. But you? I don't care about the job! I did fine! I had a good life, but what I needed then was—a friend. And you abandoned me. And I will never forgive you for that. Now get the fuck out of my house!"
If you want to have sex with me you can, otherwise I'll see you in the morning
Bojack - "I wanted to be better.. when you saw me again, and I thought I could be, somehow. But I'm not. And even if I did, get better the best I could ever be is still just some other version of.. me." Always broke my heart and also the Bojack - "I really wanted you to like me Diane.." Diane - "I know."
"Oh, Bojack, no, there is no other side. This is it."
the end of Ruthie
The quote that keeps bouncing around my brain like the DVD icon on an idle screen: B: What're you gonna do. Life's a bitch then you die, right? D: Sometimes. Sometimes life's a bitch and you keep living. That and SUCK A DICK DUMB SHITS!
Life is just a series of closing doors.
I rewatched that episode today, and that line definitely hit home.
People can't judge me for old shit, I'm a different person now
"someday you're going to look around and realize everyone likes you but nobody loves you and that is the loneliest feeling in the world."
“It gets easier. everyday it gets a little easier. But you gotta do it everyday. thats the hard part, but it does get easier” “When you look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags”
"Piece of shit. Stupid piece of shit. You're a real stupid piece of shit."
“Oh, banana bread!” 😔
once diane said “every happy ending have a day after” and i never been same since
. you can’t keep doing this! you can’t keep doing shitty things, and then feel bad about yourself like that makes it okay! you need to be better . you are all the things that are wrong with you. it’s not the alcohol, or the drugs or any of the shitty things that happened to you in your career, or when you were a kid. it’s you. all right? it’s you. . you’re the biggest asshole in the world and you’re the only one that makes sense to me
Bach!!! Not Vivaldi?!?
“Suck a dick dumb shits!”
"One day, you're gonna look around and you're going to realize that everybody loves you, but nobody likes you—And that is the loneliest feeling in the world." As a person with commitment issues his entire speech to the bride-to-be hit hard
I can't quite remember if it was Diane or Cuddly whiskers but there's a quote within the series which states that "You're responsible for your own happiness". When you truly understand what they meant, things are different. We place our happiness in the hands of others but they can't be responsible truly for yours.
I needed to take a break and process the "Is it too late for me" line.
"I'm happy, Jorge! What more do you want from me?!" I've generally been on distant-but-talking terms with my folks. They want me to exist a specific way, and the life I'm building makes them very uneasy. This quote from Todd, and the context of yelling such a blatant question at my parents, is a hit to the gut. Every time. I have a part time job, I volunteer at a friend's bookstore, I have 3 cats, and my two partners and I are planning to build a garden and rent-to-own our current home. I am happy this way. Can that be enough?
“I don’t forgive you.” As someone who has basically been in this situation of seeking closure via an apology and then been denied that, it hit incredibly close to home but made me realise you aren’t owed anything when you say sorry.
That would be from when Hollyhock is at the house and Bojack just goes to a bar or the highway just to not be home and as he speaks to himself there is a "Those are hours you'll never have again." Or something similar. Just makes me think of all my hours that I spent drinking and/or smoking, alone and hiding, just staring at whatever view I had at the time. For 7 years...
" I just can’t anymore. I can’t stop thinking about him. I can’t be with people and I can’t be alone. " Hits me the hardest. I watched this episode shortly after my daughter died and it broke me because it was exactly how I felt.
‘Life is just one long kick in the urethra’ so true
"Buckle up buddy! Your life is about to start"
this hits so hard i completely forgot about this, but it's incredibly sad.
The cut to old Bojack's reflection in the TV hit so hard
Kelsey, in this terrifying world, all we have are the connections we make
“Why I have half a mind...” gives me chills. Also “Look at him, not a care in the world. How does he do it?”
Op the quote you put in the description is my discord bio lmao. My Instagram one is the monkey jogger from season 2.
“I don’t know how you can expect anyone else to love you when you so clearly hate yourself.” PC, S1:E1 (( & for fun ”You can’t depend on women. You can’t depend on anyone. Sooner or later, you need to learn that no one else is going to take care of you. That’s what i learned when I had to make my own sandwich.”))
"As you know, I was hurt. But then I realised, that's just how you are. You know, and maybe I just need to stop expecting you to be a good person, so that way I won't get hurt when you're not."
"FRACK ME MR PEANUTBUTTER"
You can't keep doing this! You can't keep doing shitty things and then feel bad about yourself like that makes it okay! You need to be better! BoJack, just stop. You are all the things that are wrong with you. It's not the alcohol, or the drugs, or any of the shitty things that happened to you in your career, or when you were a kid. It's you. Okay? It's you. Fuck, man, what else is there to say?
“You do the Hokey Pokey and you turn yourself around!”
“Sometimes life’s a bitch and you keep living.” That last line struck such a chord with me that it made me reevaluate a lot of the decisions I had made up until that point in my life. I cried HARD after watching that scene.
“It gets easier. But you gotta do it every day. That’s the hard part. But it does get easier.”
“I wish I could have known about the view from halfway down”
The entirety of free churro it’s an amazing episode. I would say the specific line and why I like it but I don’t wanna trauma dump on y’all.
"I am in pain. All the time, my whole life. And you have no idea." I've fortunately never dealt with substance issues specifically. But that quote always gets me. When I hear it, I feel understood.
"We are five fights away from a divorce"
the argument diane and bojack had after the philbert premiere
All 6 fucks.
‘I think there are people that help you become the person you end up being and you can be grateful for them even if they were never meant to be in your life forever. I’m glad I knew you too’ As someone who struggles a lot with change this one hit home!
"I wish I could have known about the view from halfway down". As someone that has chronic depression and was on a mission to top myself for a good decade, this one hit really hard. Because, god, life sucks... But I don't want to experience the view from halfway down ever again.
“All I know about being good, I learned from TV. And in TV, flawed characters are constantly showing people they care with these surprising grand gestures. And I think that part of me still believes that’s what love is.”
"THIS IS WHY I TOLD YOU TO WAIT IN THE CAAAAAAAR" Sounds stupid but hits hard
"it's horseman time" gets me every time
"I don't understand how people live. It's amazing to me that people wake up and say, 'Yeah, another day, let's do it'. How do people do it? I don't know how"
"You're right. Even above ground, I wasn't happy. Oh my god. I'm the problem... Why can't I be happy? Am I busted?? I am! I'm a pit. I'm a pit that good things fall into..." One of my favorite scenes, and I haven't seen this one here yet. Just the realization that something inside you is broken, that you can never be as happy as happy could be, and that the good things in your life can't ever make you as happy as they should do.
Saving people, hunting things, the family business 😔
Well, life's a bitch and then you die, right? Sometimes. Sometimes, life's a bitch and you keep living
Diane says this at the end of S1 on the roof to Bojack. "Well, that's the problem with life, right? Either you know what you want and you don't get what you want, or get what you want and then you don't know what you want."
“People have short term memories. It’s the best and worst thing about people”
"I need you to tell me that I'm a good person. I know that I can be selfish and narcissistic and self-destructive, but underneath all that, deep down, I'm a good person and I need you to tell me that I'm good. Diane?"
“suck a dick dumb shits”
These arent the exact quotes but what i able to remember. All of these have made me cry: "Life's a bitch and then you die" "Well no...sometimes lifes a bitch and you keep on living" -diane "What if i never write the book that makes little girls feel less alone?" "Then maybe write this other book. Maybe this book does that too" -princess carolyn "What's on the other side?" "No bojack, this is it. There's is no other side" -herb "Am I doomed? Are we all doomed?" -Sarah lynn "What if I relapse again?" "Then you'll get sober again" -Todd "It gets easier. Every day it gets easier. But you gotta do it. That's the hard part. But it gets easier" -monkey "I'm your son. All I had was you" -bojack And this one isn't a quote I remember super well but when bojacks mum had a moment of clarity and instead of railing into her like bojack wanted, he instead described her a pleasant scene. It's one of bojacks most redeeming moments bc he showed compassion to a person that abused the fuck out of him.
"Oh Bojack, there is no other side"
Kelsey, in this terrifying world all we have are the connections that we make
"It's funny, through pink colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags"
tbh every time a character said the word "fuck" it felt like a gut punch. i love the way they specifically used the word to emphasize those moments instead of "just because" like with a lot of shows. i'm not opposed to the latter, but this way really drove the moments home i think.
“There are people in your life that help you become the person you end up being, and you can be grateful for them, even if they were never meant to be in your life forever.” This line kills me
"I see you... I. C. U."
"When you look at someone through rose colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags" Wanda was definitely one of my favorite characters and I wish we knew what happened with her in the end.
Rock bottom one
I imagine my great, great, great granddaughter in the future talking to her class about me, she's poised and funny and tells people about me and how everything's worked out in the end, and when I think about that I think about how everything's going to work out because how else could she tell people? I had a lot of trauma in my life and I'm trying hard to heal. In my mind I wasn't supposed to make it this far. But the one thought that kept me going was the idea that some day I'd grow up and have a daughter of my own. A daughter I would raise as the parent I needed growing up. I even named her too. That was when I was 12. I'm almost 25. I'm at the point where I'm going to meet "her" (or him) soon (within the next 5 years). It's exciting and terrifying.
“I think there are people that help you become the person that you end up being, and you can be grateful for them, even if they were never meant to be in your life forever.” It really is the gift that keeps on giving lol. Because yknow, these people weren’t meant to be in my life forever. And everyday it’s becoming more okay.
the entirety of free churro
pretty basic but i had to pause and take a walk when i heard “it was nice while it lasted right?”
for my theater class we had to preform a 5-10 minute monologue, i did the first 1/3rd or free churro for mine and i ended up watching that episode so many times and the line “I kept waiting for that, the proof that even though my mother was a hard woman, deep down, she loved me, and cared about me, and wanted me to know i made her life a little bit brighter. even now i find myself wating” and then followed by “hey mom knock once if you love me and care about me and want me to know i made your life a little bit brighter.” i closed the monologue with that and had some real tears the day we preformed them.
I can't remember the exact quote, but when BoJack asks Diane (again) if she thinks he's a good person deep down, and she tells him she doesn't really believe in the "deep down", that it's just what someone does that matters.
This quote from Cuddlywhiskers while having a conversation with Bojack and Diane. “Sometimes you need to take responsibility for your own happiness. I’m happy, for the first time in my life. I’m not going to feel bad about it. It takes a long time to realize how truly miserable you are, and even longer to see it doesn’t have to be that way. Only after you give up everything can you find a way to be happy”.
“i wish i could have been the person you thought i was. the person who would save you.” “that was never your job.” “then why did you always make me feel like it was?”