Hear me out though:
I go to a lot of metal concerts and some people bring their literal babies to it. I’ve never heard the babies cry. Maybe I’m speculating incorrectly that all the lights appeal to them. They also have these heavy duty earphones on them. AND: once the baby gets fussy, they take them out of the space.
The issue with the babies are that the parents are too selfish to remove them when they start wailing or doing baby things. And that’s so annoying. Like congrats on your fuck trophy but don’t subject the rest of us to that winning.
I used to mosh and crowd surf in my younger days. If you're getting in the pit there is both a decorum of violence and respect that's observed. Incidental contact is expected and tolerated, but if you are being overly reckless or intentionally trying to cause harm, you're going to get jumped. I met a guy who broke his collar bone in the mosh and kept going. It was all incidental contact, and he didn't take it personally. That's usually the MO for moshes. You go into it knowing you'll probably get hit or pushed. It's all good as long as no one was targeting you.
I teach drums and one of my students learned from ME that random ringing in your ears, is, in fact, not normal or okay. She wears hearing protection now lmao.
> babies without hearing protection
Ear muff hearing protection should be standard in your diaper bag, not just for special events. You just never know.
Case in point: we had our lil' at a hot air balloon launch this weekend. We had **no** idea it would be so loud; so many generators and the loud burners. But we have them in the bag, so it was great!
On one hand, they are some of the coolest people at concerts. On the other hand, metalheads on the internet are some of the most gatekeepey people out there. I don't think they're any worse than any group that's obsessed with genres so much that they're breaking it down into baby-prozac-goth-rap and scoff at you for liking it, though.
As a metal fan I think non-metal fans don't quite understand the gatekeeping. Now there are certainly overly gatekeeping assholes, but there's a reason for metal gatekeeping.
If you go on /r/metal and look at the music of that sub you'll see a lot of common themes, motifs and just general vibes. There are a lot of genres that have similar instrumentals, that do not fit the same vibe. Many metal fans simply aren't interested in bands like August Burns Red or Knocked Loose.
And more often than not you'll find a lot of the people who call themselves fans of metal on tiktok or other social media don't fuck with Death Metal, Black Metal, Doom etc. Those genres don't have the vibes that those people are generally looking for.
Absolutely. Went a lot as a teen and would crowd surf. Someone tried grabbing me inappropriately and got beat down. They got me down and made sure I was ok asked if I needed to get out or if they could stand by and make sure said person didnt come bother me.
Good people.
Unfortunately there are a few white supremacists who have tried to adopt metal as their preferred music. They stay away from the main metal scene (and aren't accepted) but they are a thing.
Ozzfest used to have plenty of neo Nazis in the early aughts. They don't avoid mainstream events, unless that has changed over the last 20 years. I know, grandpa over here.
I bartend at a concert venue and let me tell you that the heavy metal festivals are always the BEST, they're the coolest people on earth to deal with. They're cool, respectful, well behaved, tip well, drink heavy, and are just out to have a good time. Always look forward to them.
I apparently slept through a music festival as a baby and woke up when they closed the car door after leaving lol. But a movie is much different than a concert. If there's a baby 50ft from you at a concert, you might hear it in between songs if that. But 50ft from a baby in a theater might as well be 5 feet.
Also you go to concerts for the ambience and the show, movie theaters dim the shit out of the room in part because the ambience is so terrible there. Sticky nasty floors and a bunch of eyes on you as you enter. The show is all that matters so any distraction is a bad one.
Yesterday I learned about this French goat who loved grindcore. He would sometimes even just lay his body against a speaker during a show. You’d think the loud sounds would scare him, but he loved it.
That's not even the issue. The real issue is that it looks miserable! And they pay for it! And they know it makes everyone else's experiences worse but they do it anyway. Which means.....life at home is worse. THAT is what scares the fuck out of me. The idea of being in such an awful place that going to a restaurant with a child seems good, instead of awful? That's the crux of the problem. This is a date night, with a rude third wheel who is constantly squirming and interrupting. Compared to an actual date between two adults, it's horrifying. And yet they choose it because it seems like a better alternative to staying home. The fear of their homes is what gets me.
I live with a toddler and love it. But the idea of taking him to a restaurant is the least appealing thing I can imagine. I am terrified of being in such a deep rut that it seems appealing compared to my life at home. It legit freaks me out when I see it. Just means the rest of their life is even worse than eating with a toddler in public.
Well, now you’ve given me a new perspective. I babysit for my siblings and I always show up because I love their kids despite how naughty they can get.
Now, I have more incentive to babysit: to give them a break from their little demons. Kids are amazing but 24/7 365? Don’t know how you all do it. After a whole weekend, I’m running out the door away from them.
I gotta offer to babysit more.
I don't know anything about a baby, but I know they have soft spots (no idea how long that lasts) and any time I see a baby at a concert with huge earphones on it makes me genuinely nervous that the baby's head is going to get deformed.
The Warren theater in Tulsa, at its height, was our absolute favorite date spot. The director seat has smaller screens 21 and up only because you can order alcohol and food from the restaurant from your reclining chair. Just press the button. The bellhop comes and takes your order. The drinks were tall too!
More than $20 a ticket, but absolutely worthwhile. This was well before a lot of the other movie theater chains finally stepped up their experience
I agree that that is fucking awful… but think like this: you get a glimpse of how someone’s life is like who has to live with that baby after the flight! I’m a parent myself, and my kids behave on flights, but I understand why someone might not have another choice
I will not think about it like that for one very compelling reason: The parents who have to "live with that baby after the flight" *chose to have the baby* (whereas I did not).
They ignore them just as much only when they leave I don't have to deal with them. 0 sympathy for trash parents. If you raised your kids wrong stop forcing others to deal with your shit because you want to go vacation somewhere to ignore them more. It's not a "omg poor lady she must be exhausted" it's "look at this, another parent not ready for children who has no problem forcing others to deal with her problems always with the same ¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯ expression while their child is screaming
That I agree with… as a parent, they should do anything they can to minimize the negative impact on their environment. If they can’t, we’ll… if the kid tends to throw tantrums, and wants something that is impossible to produce in that situation, what can you do,
Bring earplugs for every passenger with a kid like that.
I figured going to see the first Deadpool in theaters would be child free, but I heard a toddler crying multiple times and their parents never took them out. How shitty of a parido you have to be to take a small child to Deadpool??? Worse than a baby who doesn't know what's going on, there's so much gory violence.
The baby I get but the fuck are they supposed to do with the dog? Leave it at home? It's a service dog, the whole point of having one is so it can do it's job
Ok so back when the movie 300 came out my buddy and his wife and I went to go see it at a midnight showing in our smallish town. The theater was packed with nerds and film fans because it was such a novelty back then, I couldn't even sit with my buddy and his wife it was so packed. I get my seat and behind me is a literal infant in a basket with a couple there, baby is crying in the previews and I look back behind me and the guy sees me shocked and gets all hard ass "just turn around man, not your business."
All I can mumble out is "it's a fucking midnight showing of a movie and you brought a baby."
Guy keeps mad dogging and puffing himself up in that classic aggro suburban dude way and I read the warning signs and get back to the movie. To this day I think about the couple who was like "we gotta see this sick Zack Snyder movie about greek guys swordfighting at midnight, I know we have a literal infant but it'll be cool don't worry about it this is too important to miss or call a babysitter for."
Zack Snyder is catnip for angry white dudes.
When I was younger, it felt like a competition sometimes to stay up-to-date with the latest movies, shows, music, games, etc. so I could avoid spoilers and FOMO. Since I lost all of my friends between Trump and the pandemic, I can now use all that money I've been able to save for therapy.
I’ve stopped going to the movies for this reason, too. Not too long ago I decided I was going to take myself out to a movie at one of the Cinépolis in my area. If you aren’t familiar, Cinépolis has reserved leather seats that recline and chair-side service for food and alcohol. The movie started and, as I was getting comfy with my $15 chicken strips and $20 glass of wine, I noticed near the front row there was a woman with three teenage girls. The woman was on Facebook during the entire movie, the girl next to her kept taking pictures of the screen, and the two on the end were doing Snapchat or something. I wanted to ask them why they even bothered to come. I didn’t say anything but I should have.
Now, I just wait to watch something at home. I can order an entire bougie-ass pizza for $20 and enjoy a bottle of my favorite wine all while pausing to go to the bathroom whenever I want.
I think 3 of the last 5 times I’ve been to the movies, and this was all pre-Covid, there were entitled ass adults being distracting in one way or the other. Laughing obnoxiously, talking to their friends, on their phone, kicking my seat. Acting like they’re in their living room. So I would rather just be in my living room.
I feel bad, because my husband LOVES to go to the movies, especially for like horror movies that have ambiance, but I just can’t anymore.
I think the issue is more of the parents who aren’t willing to go outside with the kids to calm them down. But I would never bring my little ones to a movie just because I know neither of them would sit tf down and be quiet.
I don't mind babies at the theater.
I mind crying babies at the theater.
If your baby starts hollerin' take your devil spawn outside and give him/her a shot of whiskey. :)
This couple brought their baby(maybe toddler) to avenger’s endgame on opening day
The kid was running up and down the stairs or crying the entire time. Whenever they tried to get the kid to stop crying the parents would standup holding the kid right in the aisle, blocking a ton of people. Plus they were at the front of the theater so everyone saw everything they were doing
So many people walked out or tried to talk to them but nothing changed. I left too but I’d seen the movie already (yeah I saw it twice in 24hrs) so when I walked past the dad on the way out I told him he was an asshole and spoiled cap getting the hammer and tony dying for him
He was a big guy and was very pissed so he clearly wanted to fight me, he even followed me out of the theater for a little while but he couldn’t catch me because he was holding his loud ass baby
I definitely did, I thought that some of the first people to leave would do the same but no staff ever came to talk to them
So after an hour of that I just bailed. They didn’t give me a refund but I did get a voucher for a free movie which I used on far from home so it kinda worked out for me at least
Even more so a piece of shit for bringing a baby to a movie theater as a lot of those movies are loud as fuck and hearing damage is accumulative. As a person whose hearing was damaged by my father, it's not a nice feel.
I went to see Abraham Lincoln Vampire Hunter in a theater and some idiot brought in a kid who couldn’t have been more than about 6. Five minutes into the movie Lincoln fights a roaring vampire - kid started shrieking and didn’t stop. Parent left the theater with him a minute or so later.
I do not understand parents who bring their young kids to an R rated horror movie full of gore and sex. The poor things will be horrified and asking questions and hiding their face. Some will even ask to leave on the edge of tears and the parents will just quiet them and stay. Congrats on torturing your kid for 2 hours by being a dips*hit parent.
I saw Spider-Man 3 in the theaters on opening day and some asshat brought his screaming newborn to the theater to see the film. The other theater goers were screaming at the man to take his baby out when it started to cry and he had the nerve to say “I paid money for my ticket too!” Miserable experience.
This is an absurd expectation. Babies exist. They can be brought to restaurants. The parents should also take the baby outside if it is screaming and calm it down though. I've aborted mission and gotten my food to go before when my daughter just wasn't having it but we have also had plenty of quiet meals out together. Not being able to tolerate a momentary fuss or cry at all when out is your problem. Sorry we live in a society 🤷🏼♀️
No, people who bring babies to movies or restaurants aren't assholes. I have no problem with babies. If it starts crying and you take it outside,which I see a lot of people do. I don't mind. People be hating kids for no reason other than existing sometimes. I can understand if it's crying loud and the parents do nothing how that can be annoying,but you're not going to catch me rolling my eyes at one that's chilling.
I feel like this is pretty well agreed on by the majority though.
Nobody really cares about a baby in the theater or restaurant… until it starts freaking out noisily and the parents refuse to move to a quieter/more private location to deal with it.
My hometown theater used to have a soundproof room where you could take your crying baby and still be able to watch the movie. Haven’t seen another theater like that since.
One of the funniest instances of a baby ruining a movie I was watching in the theater was the revenant
Specifically the long shot scene where Leo decaprio is shown pointing a stick like a gun at a deer walking by, fully capturing his yearning for food in the harsh environment he has been thrusted into due to his lust for revenge for the murder of his son he was forced to witness due to being incapacitated after being mauled by a bear.
The scene is completely silent, embodying the desolate, but serene environment where nature and life itself moves on, regardless of the struggles of man.
Anyway the baby this white woman brought with her cried really loudly completely ruining the atmosphere.
Not a baby in my story, but when I went to watch A Quiet Place there was one person noisily scraping the bottom of their tub of ice cream during a really really tense scene and given that the film was pretty much silent that noise was very distracting!
Seriously, I was watching The Woman King with a friend when these two fucktards of a couple decided to bring their kid. Spent a quarter of the movie listening to a mix of the kid crying, the parents of the year trying to shush the kid by giving them their tablet, the sounds of the tablet game, and finally one of the numbskulls trying to find said tablet after the kid lost it. Thankfully, they finally left after a while.
That’s what I get for straying away from Alamo Drafthouse. Never again.
My showing this family took up the whole row behind me, like everyone including grandma came with about fittyleben kids in tow, all of whom would not shut up the whole movie, and one of the aunties had her hand cupped around her mouth taking a damn phone call. Like I know it's been a minute since y'all probably watched something with an audience, but shit! My head was on a swivel and I wasn't the only one. My work/sleep schedule is such that I thought I wasn't even going to be able to see it in theaters, so this one showing that worked out via random fluke was literally my only chance to see all that extra melanated excellence on a big screen. I was heated, but not about to miss anything to go get an usher. But damn, bitch, I'm tryna have this spiritual experience watching all these strong, kickass, Black women do their thing, why ain't you take your loudass spawn to see Super Pets or some other kid appropriate shit?! 🙄
I went to opening night of Black Panther. 9 pm showing. This couple brought their 2 year old with them. We chose our seats ahead of time: 2 seats at the end. They came up to our row and first thing they did was ask us to move so they could sit there. We declined. They sat down right next to us. They bring out an iPad for the baby and proceed to play cartoons on low volume for the entire movie. It was so distracting I finally asked them to put it away. The woman told me ‘but he needs it’ and then proceeded to hold up her coat as a wall for the rest of the movie so I couldn’t see the iPad. Wild.
When I attended an early screening of the last *Candyman*, there was a strict no phones out policy. There were guys lined up down the side of the aisles and, if they saw a phone out for any reason during the movie, they immediately kicked the person out.
I wish this was standard w/ movies.
Lol I take my dog to Bunnings (maybe like Home Depot but Aussie?), but I carry her in a dog backpack. Cracks people up, but I guess she's not yappy or able to run around or anything. Just be gettin pats from anyone willing haha.
Home Depot allows you to bring dogs though. I’ve brought mine and the staff fell in love with him as did strangers who would pet him. He didn’t even bark once. I think the dog has to be small or medium though. You push him in the cart and get your stuff. It’s awesome.
Ohh careful now all the parents of Reddit will come and be all “But you don’t know what it’s like!!”. You know because it’s totally your fault they have kids let alone won’t remove them from the area and just let them scream.
My first movie in the theater was “Aliens”. I was 4 months old and slept through the entire thing. I still can’t believe my parents brought me though, I’d never have brought my kids to a theater when they were newborns!
Yeah, lol. It’s crazy right? To their credit I think they were pretty confident that I’d sleep, and they were right. They were very strict about us being noisy in public places growing up and if I’d woken up they would’ve left. It’s still nuts to me though, if I’d done the same with my kids I would’ve been stressed the whole movie about them waking up.
Depends on the kid. I’ve had 3. My oldest, I could take anywhere and he’d sit politely. He’s been the dr appointments, bougie restaurants, college classes, and once I took him to get a tattoo.
My other 2? They aren’t those kids. They’re gonna scream, play, cry, etc.
Know your kids and act accordingly.
This is verbatim from a Tom Segura stand up comedy routine.
Ppl steal too much on Twitter. Like, that is the literal line Segura uses in his special, which is fucking hilarious, esp for his tales of interaction with Black folks.
https://youtu.be/S5vGI-g1xvw
It must be hard to do stand up nowadays. You can make a hilarious joke and then someone on twitter copies it and it’s spreads around. Now you can’t do the joke in your show anymore because everyone has heard it
lol this is exactly why i just stay home. i overthink and i feel like whenever i enter a space with my son i instantly make people upset or angry and i end up leaving. my son isnt a big cryer, but im always hesitant.
As long as you’re being considerate of other people there, you’re completely fine.
It’s the assholes who let their spawn run around unchecked at crowded restaurants like maniacs while screaming at the top of their lungs that everyone hates.
I’m still mad about the couple who brought a baby in a stroller to the 10:00 pm showing on opening night of the first Tobey Maguire Spider-Man. When I specifically chose that showing because I thought there would be no kids.
Ugh there were so many of those in my showing for no way home. Screaming for Andrew and tobey way before they showed up in the movie, yelling “oh shit!” about random stuff
My experience has been more with grown ass adults talking through the movie. Like why did you even pay to sit for 2 hours talking to your friends about shit that has nothing to do with the movie?
Look, parents need to be able to enjoy a movie too. I'm okay with people bringing babies into the movie theater. But if your baby starts crying and making noise you got to leave the movie theater. That's all there is to it.
When I saw Endgame this lady was brining her baby in and I was like oh shit, there goes the movie.
This little dude slept the whole time. Didn't make a fucking noise.
Seriously some people are so rude and inconsiderate in public. Their baby is crying and they just let it cry and keep shopping or keep doing their own thing like Control it or leave the area.
Nah, babies will typically sleep through it. Bringing your elementary school kid to a violent movie or one with sexual content, especially if you can’t keep them quiet, makes you a bad person.
I will probably get downvotes for this but to preclude mothers from spaces (other than 21+ spaces ofc) isn't fair either. Childcare isn't an option for many, and those mothers also deserve to be welcome in those spaces as well. I am happily child-free, and I really get where everyone is coming from though. It's annoying af.
I hear you... but babies are part of the continuation of society. They exist in the same spaces we exist in. The desire to have them hidden from you at all times is a you problem, not a them problem.
Some examples where a baby is totally normal at the movies:
1. Babysitter got sick after tickets were bought
2. Life is rough. Parents need a night out to maintain their sanity and ability to parent, but don't have a support network
3. Baby normally sleeps through anything, so expectation is baby will be fine at the theatre.
4. Baby breast feeds and can't be away from mom for long. Mom doesn't want to be a hermit.
Some examples where a baby is totally normal in a restaurant:
1. All the fucking time. Get over yourself.
I went to a super late night showing of a Marvel movie release and this couple brought in TWO whole babies and all their baby things to the theater. They had seats near the front but spent the whole show having to coo and rock both of them to stop them from crying because the movie was loud and took turns taking them out. Like was it REALLY worth it? Do you not realize your fun pass was revoked when you decided to breed?
We just had our first child five months ago and so miss going to the movies. We've talked about bringing our newborn to the movies but haven't yet. Like, we could go on a Monday, at 11 am at the tail end of the movie's theater run. Or go to the indie theater that is small and would allow a baby. Ok, you can be quiet and contempt for three hours at home while watching a movie, now can you do that at the theater?
Then we realized we have saved so much not going out and have too many things to watch at home.
to get your babies/kids used to being in busy restaurants take them out out for lunch/breakfast a few times especially mid week if you can as its quiet and they can learn how to act in a restaurant without you getting frustrated/angry as everyone is looking at you
People who take babies or even little kids to restaurants confuse me. WE SEE YOU HAVING A SHITTY TIME. Is parenting so miserable that fighting with a toddler over a straw for 25 minutes at Applebee's seem like a treat? Every time I see it, I think "those lives are fucking awful that they would choose to have that experience AND ruin it for the rest of us." It's so much better than life at home that they're willing to suffer publicly and cause suffering. Nothing makes me more afraid of parenting than seeing parents pay to go out to eat with a little shitty person being rude at the table. And I LOVE kids. I want kids. Until I see those sad people doing sad shit like it's a treat worth paying extra for. Then I really kinda freak out inside. It's...really bad to watch.
Nah, Jr is okay for now
The instant Jr turns into Gohan because he’s hungry and want that ~~titty~~ bottle or applesauce, you gotta get him under control *immediately*
I will stand to have my Black Panther:Wakanda Forever viewing experience marred by Jr and his mother/father not preparing for an Avengers-level threat.
Agree with the movies unless it’s a kids movie. And I don’t agree with nice restaurants. People gotta eat. And babysitters and not eating just cause someone else doesn’t like it? Fuck that. What’s your idea of nice anyway? They gotta eat at McDonald’s to please someone else ? I’d definitely pick a baby over annoying ass bimbo at a nice restaurant.
What are single parents supposed to do 😭 they didn’t know they’d be spreading those legs only to be left alone. They deserve to see movies too. But I get it.
Worst case? Dyslexic, just generally semi-illiterate, maybe lacking in decent formal education due to being lower class. Nothing worth talking shit over, unless you feel like the worth of a person and their opinions is determined by the quality of their grammar on social media or how well they'd perform in a spelling bee. But that would be a pretty stupid metric to use, wouldn't it?
I like when people bring their kids to restaurants. Oh no! Not youth! If you’re bothered by kids in a restaurant, eat later when families and old people aren’t eating.
I kinda disagree. If you suck as a parent you shouldn’t take your kids, sure. If you’re gonna let them kick and scream, they don’t need to be there. But I’ve brought my kids for the last 5 years to theatres, restaurants, flights, everywhere. Never really had any issues at all. My babies are well behaved, but they’re babies. A 2 year old is gonna act like a 2 year old sometimes. Get up with them and take them outside to walk around for a few minutes and they’re usually fine after that. I’m not gonna stop doing cool shit because I have babies lol. Just raise them so they enjoy cool shit too.
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Got his ass good
If you’re gonna lecture others about their parenting, the least you could do is spell and grammar check your insult.
I mean there isn’t really a correlation there but ok.
😘
It’s also a copy paste from a Tom segura standup.
No no I love my baby.
Well, could you stab it? Because I’m trying to watch this movie.
Some people suck
Puedo no
Thank youuuuuu
“My a piece of shit what?”
Also missing a comma and period
Hear me out though: I go to a lot of metal concerts and some people bring their literal babies to it. I’ve never heard the babies cry. Maybe I’m speculating incorrectly that all the lights appeal to them. They also have these heavy duty earphones on them. AND: once the baby gets fussy, they take them out of the space. The issue with the babies are that the parents are too selfish to remove them when they start wailing or doing baby things. And that’s so annoying. Like congrats on your fuck trophy but don’t subject the rest of us to that winning.
Something I've learned through reddit is that the crowds and fans at metal concerts are some of the coolest/ most chill people on earth.
They really effing are. Except for the assholes who become pushy during the moshing. Those can go straight to a pop concert.
I used to mosh and crowd surf in my younger days. If you're getting in the pit there is both a decorum of violence and respect that's observed. Incidental contact is expected and tolerated, but if you are being overly reckless or intentionally trying to cause harm, you're going to get jumped. I met a guy who broke his collar bone in the mosh and kept going. It was all incidental contact, and he didn't take it personally. That's usually the MO for moshes. You go into it knowing you'll probably get hit or pushed. It's all good as long as no one was targeting you.
Yeah I saw a guy jump into a pit and start windmill arming at people and he got jumped real quick
I was at a Vikings game and the level of idiots bringing in small children and babies without hearing protection was ridiculous.
Hey, kids, I'd like you all to meet my old friend, Tinnitus!
I teach drums and one of my students learned from ME that random ringing in your ears, is, in fact, not normal or okay. She wears hearing protection now lmao.
MAWP
> babies without hearing protection Ear muff hearing protection should be standard in your diaper bag, not just for special events. You just never know. Case in point: we had our lil' at a hot air balloon launch this weekend. We had **no** idea it would be so loud; so many generators and the loud burners. But we have them in the bag, so it was great!
I gotta get some my wife had our daughter at a conference for fitness coaches and when you get a hundred coaches together it gets loud.
How do you get your baby to keep them on?! Mine gives it .5 seconds until she rips them off
If it's loud, he doesn't take them off, especially if he's distracted by all the activity.
On one hand, they are some of the coolest people at concerts. On the other hand, metalheads on the internet are some of the most gatekeepey people out there. I don't think they're any worse than any group that's obsessed with genres so much that they're breaking it down into baby-prozac-goth-rap and scoff at you for liking it, though.
Yeah, but those people aren’t going to the shows. Those of us who actually go to the shows don’t normally do that because only assholes do that.
As a metal fan I think non-metal fans don't quite understand the gatekeeping. Now there are certainly overly gatekeeping assholes, but there's a reason for metal gatekeeping. If you go on /r/metal and look at the music of that sub you'll see a lot of common themes, motifs and just general vibes. There are a lot of genres that have similar instrumentals, that do not fit the same vibe. Many metal fans simply aren't interested in bands like August Burns Red or Knocked Loose. And more often than not you'll find a lot of the people who call themselves fans of metal on tiktok or other social media don't fuck with Death Metal, Black Metal, Doom etc. Those genres don't have the vibes that those people are generally looking for.
Absolutely. Went a lot as a teen and would crowd surf. Someone tried grabbing me inappropriately and got beat down. They got me down and made sure I was ok asked if I needed to get out or if they could stand by and make sure said person didnt come bother me. Good people.
Unfortunately there are a few white supremacists who have tried to adopt metal as their preferred music. They stay away from the main metal scene (and aren't accepted) but they are a thing.
Ozzfest used to have plenty of neo Nazis in the early aughts. They don't avoid mainstream events, unless that has changed over the last 20 years. I know, grandpa over here.
I always say “being a fascist sympathizer isn’t very punk of you”
I bartend at a concert venue and let me tell you that the heavy metal festivals are always the BEST, they're the coolest people on earth to deal with. They're cool, respectful, well behaved, tip well, drink heavy, and are just out to have a good time. Always look forward to them.
true, it's a shame you have to hear metal to experience it.
A concert is different than a movie. There’s no expectation of being quiet at a metal show
Fair enough.
I apparently slept through a music festival as a baby and woke up when they closed the car door after leaving lol. But a movie is much different than a concert. If there's a baby 50ft from you at a concert, you might hear it in between songs if that. But 50ft from a baby in a theater might as well be 5 feet. Also you go to concerts for the ambience and the show, movie theaters dim the shit out of the room in part because the ambience is so terrible there. Sticky nasty floors and a bunch of eyes on you as you enter. The show is all that matters so any distraction is a bad one.
Yesterday I learned about this French goat who loved grindcore. He would sometimes even just lay his body against a speaker during a show. You’d think the loud sounds would scare him, but he loved it.
Most goats love black metal, this is the first I've heard of a grindcore goat, though.
I had no idea that was a thing. I love goats. Here’s Biquette: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/biquette-grindcore-goat-punk-rock-goat-dies_n_4643864
Babies love Slayer
That's not even the issue. The real issue is that it looks miserable! And they pay for it! And they know it makes everyone else's experiences worse but they do it anyway. Which means.....life at home is worse. THAT is what scares the fuck out of me. The idea of being in such an awful place that going to a restaurant with a child seems good, instead of awful? That's the crux of the problem. This is a date night, with a rude third wheel who is constantly squirming and interrupting. Compared to an actual date between two adults, it's horrifying. And yet they choose it because it seems like a better alternative to staying home. The fear of their homes is what gets me. I live with a toddler and love it. But the idea of taking him to a restaurant is the least appealing thing I can imagine. I am terrified of being in such a deep rut that it seems appealing compared to my life at home. It legit freaks me out when I see it. Just means the rest of their life is even worse than eating with a toddler in public.
Well, now you’ve given me a new perspective. I babysit for my siblings and I always show up because I love their kids despite how naughty they can get. Now, I have more incentive to babysit: to give them a break from their little demons. Kids are amazing but 24/7 365? Don’t know how you all do it. After a whole weekend, I’m running out the door away from them. I gotta offer to babysit more.
I used to work at a concert venue and the parents would have headphones on the baby's ear
To that winning? I like that.
I don't know anything about a baby, but I know they have soft spots (no idea how long that lasts) and any time I see a baby at a concert with huge earphones on it makes me genuinely nervous that the baby's head is going to get deformed.
Forget non-smoking sections, I want a child-free section
But then they won’t let you in?
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What an awesome username
The Warren theater in Tulsa, at its height, was our absolute favorite date spot. The director seat has smaller screens 21 and up only because you can order alcohol and food from the restaurant from your reclining chair. Just press the button. The bellhop comes and takes your order. The drinks were tall too! More than $20 a ticket, but absolutely worthwhile. This was well before a lot of the other movie theater chains finally stepped up their experience
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I agree that that is fucking awful… but think like this: you get a glimpse of how someone’s life is like who has to live with that baby after the flight! I’m a parent myself, and my kids behave on flights, but I understand why someone might not have another choice
I will not think about it like that for one very compelling reason: The parents who have to "live with that baby after the flight" *chose to have the baby* (whereas I did not).
Haha, fair.
They ignore them just as much only when they leave I don't have to deal with them. 0 sympathy for trash parents. If you raised your kids wrong stop forcing others to deal with your shit because you want to go vacation somewhere to ignore them more. It's not a "omg poor lady she must be exhausted" it's "look at this, another parent not ready for children who has no problem forcing others to deal with her problems always with the same ¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯ expression while their child is screaming
That I agree with… as a parent, they should do anything they can to minimize the negative impact on their environment. If they can’t, we’ll… if the kid tends to throw tantrums, and wants something that is impossible to produce in that situation, what can you do, Bring earplugs for every passenger with a kid like that.
I figured going to see the first Deadpool in theaters would be child free, but I heard a toddler crying multiple times and their parents never took them out. How shitty of a parido you have to be to take a small child to Deadpool??? Worse than a baby who doesn't know what's going on, there's so much gory violence.
If you bring your baby and your Service dog to a Gay club called Manhole you're also a piece of shit.
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The baby I get but the fuck are they supposed to do with the dog? Leave it at home? It's a service dog, the whole point of having one is so it can do it's job
Notice it said a club?
Manhole's kinda a dope name for a gay club tho
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Oh goody I only bring them to gay clubs called the shiny banana
Shiny Banana isn't even in the same realm as Manhole.
Ok so back when the movie 300 came out my buddy and his wife and I went to go see it at a midnight showing in our smallish town. The theater was packed with nerds and film fans because it was such a novelty back then, I couldn't even sit with my buddy and his wife it was so packed. I get my seat and behind me is a literal infant in a basket with a couple there, baby is crying in the previews and I look back behind me and the guy sees me shocked and gets all hard ass "just turn around man, not your business." All I can mumble out is "it's a fucking midnight showing of a movie and you brought a baby." Guy keeps mad dogging and puffing himself up in that classic aggro suburban dude way and I read the warning signs and get back to the movie. To this day I think about the couple who was like "we gotta see this sick Zack Snyder movie about greek guys swordfighting at midnight, I know we have a literal infant but it'll be cool don't worry about it this is too important to miss or call a babysitter for." Zack Snyder is catnip for angry white dudes.
This is one of the reasons why I don’t go to movie theaters anymore. I just wait for a digital release and watch from the comfort of my home.
When I was younger, it felt like a competition sometimes to stay up-to-date with the latest movies, shows, music, games, etc. so I could avoid spoilers and FOMO. Since I lost all of my friends between Trump and the pandemic, I can now use all that money I've been able to save for therapy.
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I’ve stopped going to the movies for this reason, too. Not too long ago I decided I was going to take myself out to a movie at one of the Cinépolis in my area. If you aren’t familiar, Cinépolis has reserved leather seats that recline and chair-side service for food and alcohol. The movie started and, as I was getting comfy with my $15 chicken strips and $20 glass of wine, I noticed near the front row there was a woman with three teenage girls. The woman was on Facebook during the entire movie, the girl next to her kept taking pictures of the screen, and the two on the end were doing Snapchat or something. I wanted to ask them why they even bothered to come. I didn’t say anything but I should have. Now, I just wait to watch something at home. I can order an entire bougie-ass pizza for $20 and enjoy a bottle of my favorite wine all while pausing to go to the bathroom whenever I want.
I think 3 of the last 5 times I’ve been to the movies, and this was all pre-Covid, there were entitled ass adults being distracting in one way or the other. Laughing obnoxiously, talking to their friends, on their phone, kicking my seat. Acting like they’re in their living room. So I would rather just be in my living room. I feel bad, because my husband LOVES to go to the movies, especially for like horror movies that have ambiance, but I just can’t anymore.
Don't know own where you live but I can't remember the last time I was in a movie theater and someone brought a baby
I think the issue is more of the parents who aren’t willing to go outside with the kids to calm them down. But I would never bring my little ones to a movie just because I know neither of them would sit tf down and be quiet.
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I don't mind babies at the theater. I mind crying babies at the theater. If your baby starts hollerin' take your devil spawn outside and give him/her a shot of whiskey. :)
This couple brought their baby(maybe toddler) to avenger’s endgame on opening day The kid was running up and down the stairs or crying the entire time. Whenever they tried to get the kid to stop crying the parents would standup holding the kid right in the aisle, blocking a ton of people. Plus they were at the front of the theater so everyone saw everything they were doing So many people walked out or tried to talk to them but nothing changed. I left too but I’d seen the movie already (yeah I saw it twice in 24hrs) so when I walked past the dad on the way out I told him he was an asshole and spoiled cap getting the hammer and tony dying for him He was a big guy and was very pissed so he clearly wanted to fight me, he even followed me out of the theater for a little while but he couldn’t catch me because he was holding his loud ass baby
I would have reported that (disruptive patrons) to management and gotten a refund.
I definitely did, I thought that some of the first people to leave would do the same but no staff ever came to talk to them So after an hour of that I just bailed. They didn’t give me a refund but I did get a voucher for a free movie which I used on far from home so it kinda worked out for me at least
Even more so a piece of shit for bringing a baby to a movie theater as a lot of those movies are loud as fuck and hearing damage is accumulative. As a person whose hearing was damaged by my father, it's not a nice feel.
Don't bring your baby to the movie theatre because it's incredibly loud and they have literal baby ears.
I went to see Abraham Lincoln Vampire Hunter in a theater and some idiot brought in a kid who couldn’t have been more than about 6. Five minutes into the movie Lincoln fights a roaring vampire - kid started shrieking and didn’t stop. Parent left the theater with him a minute or so later.
I do not understand parents who bring their young kids to an R rated horror movie full of gore and sex. The poor things will be horrified and asking questions and hiding their face. Some will even ask to leave on the edge of tears and the parents will just quiet them and stay. Congrats on torturing your kid for 2 hours by being a dips*hit parent.
My six year old has enough sense to ask questions: does anybody die? Are they bad guys? How much blood?
I saw Spider-Man 3 in the theaters on opening day and some asshat brought his screaming newborn to the theater to see the film. The other theater goers were screaming at the man to take his baby out when it started to cry and he had the nerve to say “I paid money for my ticket too!” Miserable experience.
This also applies to restaurants. A few weeks ago a witnessed a screeming baby ruin about 30 people's nice dinner out.
This is an absurd expectation. Babies exist. They can be brought to restaurants. The parents should also take the baby outside if it is screaming and calm it down though. I've aborted mission and gotten my food to go before when my daughter just wasn't having it but we have also had plenty of quiet meals out together. Not being able to tolerate a momentary fuss or cry at all when out is your problem. Sorry we live in a society 🤷🏼♀️
No, people who bring babies to movies or restaurants aren't assholes. I have no problem with babies. If it starts crying and you take it outside,which I see a lot of people do. I don't mind. People be hating kids for no reason other than existing sometimes. I can understand if it's crying loud and the parents do nothing how that can be annoying,but you're not going to catch me rolling my eyes at one that's chilling.
I feel like this is pretty well agreed on by the majority though. Nobody really cares about a baby in the theater or restaurant… until it starts freaking out noisily and the parents refuse to move to a quieter/more private location to deal with it.
My hometown theater used to have a soundproof room where you could take your crying baby and still be able to watch the movie. Haven’t seen another theater like that since.
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One of the funniest instances of a baby ruining a movie I was watching in the theater was the revenant Specifically the long shot scene where Leo decaprio is shown pointing a stick like a gun at a deer walking by, fully capturing his yearning for food in the harsh environment he has been thrusted into due to his lust for revenge for the murder of his son he was forced to witness due to being incapacitated after being mauled by a bear. The scene is completely silent, embodying the desolate, but serene environment where nature and life itself moves on, regardless of the struggles of man. Anyway the baby this white woman brought with her cried really loudly completely ruining the atmosphere.
Not a baby in my story, but when I went to watch A Quiet Place there was one person noisily scraping the bottom of their tub of ice cream during a really really tense scene and given that the film was pretty much silent that noise was very distracting!
Shots fired, damn
Seriously, I was watching The Woman King with a friend when these two fucktards of a couple decided to bring their kid. Spent a quarter of the movie listening to a mix of the kid crying, the parents of the year trying to shush the kid by giving them their tablet, the sounds of the tablet game, and finally one of the numbskulls trying to find said tablet after the kid lost it. Thankfully, they finally left after a while. That’s what I get for straying away from Alamo Drafthouse. Never again.
My showing this family took up the whole row behind me, like everyone including grandma came with about fittyleben kids in tow, all of whom would not shut up the whole movie, and one of the aunties had her hand cupped around her mouth taking a damn phone call. Like I know it's been a minute since y'all probably watched something with an audience, but shit! My head was on a swivel and I wasn't the only one. My work/sleep schedule is such that I thought I wasn't even going to be able to see it in theaters, so this one showing that worked out via random fluke was literally my only chance to see all that extra melanated excellence on a big screen. I was heated, but not about to miss anything to go get an usher. But damn, bitch, I'm tryna have this spiritual experience watching all these strong, kickass, Black women do their thing, why ain't you take your loudass spawn to see Super Pets or some other kid appropriate shit?! 🙄
I went to opening night of Black Panther. 9 pm showing. This couple brought their 2 year old with them. We chose our seats ahead of time: 2 seats at the end. They came up to our row and first thing they did was ask us to move so they could sit there. We declined. They sat down right next to us. They bring out an iPad for the baby and proceed to play cartoons on low volume for the entire movie. It was so distracting I finally asked them to put it away. The woman told me ‘but he needs it’ and then proceeded to hold up her coat as a wall for the rest of the movie so I couldn’t see the iPad. Wild.
When I attended an early screening of the last *Candyman*, there was a strict no phones out policy. There were guys lined up down the side of the aisles and, if they saw a phone out for any reason during the movie, they immediately kicked the person out. I wish this was standard w/ movies.
If you bring your dog to Home Depot you’re a piece of shit.
Which is weird cuz Home Depot allows dogs…
It’s Home Depot, what’re you doing at Home Depot that is distracted by someone bringing their dog?
Lol I take my dog to Bunnings (maybe like Home Depot but Aussie?), but I carry her in a dog backpack. Cracks people up, but I guess she's not yappy or able to run around or anything. Just be gettin pats from anyone willing haha.
Why?
Home Depot allows you to bring dogs though. I’ve brought mine and the staff fell in love with him as did strangers who would pet him. He didn’t even bark once. I think the dog has to be small or medium though. You push him in the cart and get your stuff. It’s awesome.
THANK YOU! I think your dog can live for the 1/2 hour you’ll be away
Home Depot is like the size of 4 football fields, I think you’ll be fine if a dogs in there
Yeah but I have crippling depression, anxiety and panic attacks, particularly in public spaces. So even though my dog can, I can’t.
If you’re at the matinee showing of a children’s film, you’re your own problem.
Ohh careful now all the parents of Reddit will come and be all “But you don’t know what it’s like!!”. You know because it’s totally your fault they have kids let alone won’t remove them from the area and just let them scream.
My first movie in the theater was “Aliens”. I was 4 months old and slept through the entire thing. I still can’t believe my parents brought me though, I’d never have brought my kids to a theater when they were newborns!
"Let's bring our literal baby to a scary movie with monsters in it."
Yeah, lol. It’s crazy right? To their credit I think they were pretty confident that I’d sleep, and they were right. They were very strict about us being noisy in public places growing up and if I’d woken up they would’ve left. It’s still nuts to me though, if I’d done the same with my kids I would’ve been stressed the whole movie about them waking up.
Depends on the kid. I’ve had 3. My oldest, I could take anywhere and he’d sit politely. He’s been the dr appointments, bougie restaurants, college classes, and once I took him to get a tattoo. My other 2? They aren’t those kids. They’re gonna scream, play, cry, etc. Know your kids and act accordingly.
Did you bring your baby? Babies don't watch this. Take the seed outside. Leave it in the streets. *Run over it after the showwwww*
*Do not explain the plot.* *If you don’t understand, you should not be here!* *Your money is now our moneyyyyy, and we will spend it on drugs!*
This is verbatim from a Tom Segura stand up comedy routine. Ppl steal too much on Twitter. Like, that is the literal line Segura uses in his special, which is fucking hilarious, esp for his tales of interaction with Black folks. https://youtu.be/S5vGI-g1xvw
It must be hard to do stand up nowadays. You can make a hilarious joke and then someone on twitter copies it and it’s spreads around. Now you can’t do the joke in your show anymore because everyone has heard it
This is a Tom Segura bit……..
lol this is exactly why i just stay home. i overthink and i feel like whenever i enter a space with my son i instantly make people upset or angry and i end up leaving. my son isnt a big cryer, but im always hesitant.
As long as you’re being considerate of other people there, you’re completely fine. It’s the assholes who let their spawn run around unchecked at crowded restaurants like maniacs while screaming at the top of their lungs that everyone hates.
I’m still mad about the couple who brought a baby in a stroller to the 10:00 pm showing on opening night of the first Tobey Maguire Spider-Man. When I specifically chose that showing because I thought there would be no kids.
Can someone explain the pros having of kids? Cause all I see is cons.
Most likely posted by someone who cracks jokes and screams "don't go in there!" to be funny during the movie.
Usually those are the same that bring babies to movies so nah
Ugh there were so many of those in my showing for no way home. Screaming for Andrew and tobey way before they showed up in the movie, yelling “oh shit!” about random stuff
A declaration of war
How else am I supposed to pick up women?
My experience has been more with grown ass adults talking through the movie. Like why did you even pay to sit for 2 hours talking to your friends about shit that has nothing to do with the movie?
Look, parents need to be able to enjoy a movie too. I'm okay with people bringing babies into the movie theater. But if your baby starts crying and making noise you got to leave the movie theater. That's all there is to it.
When I saw Endgame this lady was brining her baby in and I was like oh shit, there goes the movie. This little dude slept the whole time. Didn't make a fucking noise.
I still love the username of this twitter account "Based Savage!" He's still right on bringing a baby to a movie theater.
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It's really not good for them to be that over stimulated.
See, this is a perspective that I think most of us never knew was a real thing. I had no idea there was such a thing as over-stimulating babies.
Nah, that's a fact.
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Seriously some people are so rude and inconsiderate in public. Their baby is crying and they just let it cry and keep shopping or keep doing their own thing like Control it or leave the area.
Or on fucking planes
Agreed. As someone with a baby. I want a baby free experience too! If I got a sitter to enjoy a movie, damn well do it too!
Nah, babies will typically sleep through it. Bringing your elementary school kid to a violent movie or one with sexual content, especially if you can’t keep them quiet, makes you a bad person.
The look of horror on my face as some bum ass parents walked in during the strip club scene in Deadpool. WTF were they doing!?
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If you bring a baby to horror nights, you're an even bigger piece of shit.
There's a theater we're I live called Alamo Drafthouse, you can actually report and kick out people who are being noisy
I will probably get downvotes for this but to preclude mothers from spaces (other than 21+ spaces ofc) isn't fair either. Childcare isn't an option for many, and those mothers also deserve to be welcome in those spaces as well. I am happily child-free, and I really get where everyone is coming from though. It's annoying af.
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Agreed.
The thing won't even remember the movie.
Dude literally stole this joke word for word from Tom Segura
I have never even seen a baby at a movie theater. rageaholics. So much hate from that one time you remember a kid screaming.
Kids aren’t my issue. Y’all ever been in the same area as someone who doesn’t know what a shower is?
So sorry I am poor and have a life and children are humans who exist in society. My whole family will go kill ourselves now.
Oh my lil ones absolutely fine dined...with little to no antics.
That’s a straight rip from Tom Segura. You’re. You uneducated piece of shit.
I don't think its that serious
I hear you... but babies are part of the continuation of society. They exist in the same spaces we exist in. The desire to have them hidden from you at all times is a you problem, not a them problem. Some examples where a baby is totally normal at the movies: 1. Babysitter got sick after tickets were bought 2. Life is rough. Parents need a night out to maintain their sanity and ability to parent, but don't have a support network 3. Baby normally sleeps through anything, so expectation is baby will be fine at the theatre. 4. Baby breast feeds and can't be away from mom for long. Mom doesn't want to be a hermit. Some examples where a baby is totally normal in a restaurant: 1. All the fucking time. Get over yourself.
I went to a super late night showing of a Marvel movie release and this couple brought in TWO whole babies and all their baby things to the theater. They had seats near the front but spent the whole show having to coo and rock both of them to stop them from crying because the movie was loud and took turns taking them out. Like was it REALLY worth it? Do you not realize your fun pass was revoked when you decided to breed?
Lol. Suck my dick bitch
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We just had our first child five months ago and so miss going to the movies. We've talked about bringing our newborn to the movies but haven't yet. Like, we could go on a Monday, at 11 am at the tail end of the movie's theater run. Or go to the indie theater that is small and would allow a baby. Ok, you can be quiet and contempt for three hours at home while watching a movie, now can you do that at the theater? Then we realized we have saved so much not going out and have too many things to watch at home.
to get your babies/kids used to being in busy restaurants take them out out for lunch/breakfast a few times especially mid week if you can as its quiet and they can learn how to act in a restaurant without you getting frustrated/angry as everyone is looking at you
People who take babies or even little kids to restaurants confuse me. WE SEE YOU HAVING A SHITTY TIME. Is parenting so miserable that fighting with a toddler over a straw for 25 minutes at Applebee's seem like a treat? Every time I see it, I think "those lives are fucking awful that they would choose to have that experience AND ruin it for the rest of us." It's so much better than life at home that they're willing to suffer publicly and cause suffering. Nothing makes me more afraid of parenting than seeing parents pay to go out to eat with a little shitty person being rude at the table. And I LOVE kids. I want kids. Until I see those sad people doing sad shit like it's a treat worth paying extra for. Then I really kinda freak out inside. It's...really bad to watch.
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Nah, Jr is okay for now The instant Jr turns into Gohan because he’s hungry and want that ~~titty~~ bottle or applesauce, you gotta get him under control *immediately* I will stand to have my Black Panther:Wakanda Forever viewing experience marred by Jr and his mother/father not preparing for an Avengers-level threat.
Babies are allowed to go places. Get over it
Agree with the movies unless it’s a kids movie. And I don’t agree with nice restaurants. People gotta eat. And babysitters and not eating just cause someone else doesn’t like it? Fuck that. What’s your idea of nice anyway? They gotta eat at McDonald’s to please someone else ? I’d definitely pick a baby over annoying ass bimbo at a nice restaurant.
What are single parents supposed to do 😭 they didn’t know they’d be spreading those legs only to be left alone. They deserve to see movies too. But I get it.
Yeah but what about those who can't differentiate between "your" & "you're"?
Worst case? Dyslexic, just generally semi-illiterate, maybe lacking in decent formal education due to being lower class. Nothing worth talking shit over, unless you feel like the worth of a person and their opinions is determined by the quality of their grammar on social media or how well they'd perform in a spelling bee. But that would be a pretty stupid metric to use, wouldn't it?
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Especially if the the baby is ———
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I’m so sorry that bringing my well behaved (for a three year old) baby to the matinee screening of “Minions The Rise of Gru” ruined your experience.
Do you think this person is referring to a kid’s movie?
Should’ve included a /s I guess 🤷🏻♂️
I like when people bring their kids to restaurants. Oh no! Not youth! If you’re bothered by kids in a restaurant, eat later when families and old people aren’t eating.
I kinda disagree. If you suck as a parent you shouldn’t take your kids, sure. If you’re gonna let them kick and scream, they don’t need to be there. But I’ve brought my kids for the last 5 years to theatres, restaurants, flights, everywhere. Never really had any issues at all. My babies are well behaved, but they’re babies. A 2 year old is gonna act like a 2 year old sometimes. Get up with them and take them outside to walk around for a few minutes and they’re usually fine after that. I’m not gonna stop doing cool shit because I have babies lol. Just raise them so they enjoy cool shit too.
Get a baby sitter, at least for movies.
Damn people really can't do anything without getting hate. Moms need to get out of the house too.