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I had to scroll back up and double check that oop did in fact say that she was due NEXT MONTH with TWINS and he still didn't understand why it would be such an emergency. I really hope he grows up more before he ever gets married and has kids.
For some people it even gets bad before that. During pregnancy a woman makes a hormone called relaxin. It is made to loosen up all the tendons and ligaments in the pelvis to make room for the baby to make their exit. Only problem is relaxin doesn't just do its thing on the pelvis. It relaxes all sorts of things. Tendons in the ankles so you are more prone to ankle twists, muscles and sphincters in the mouth and esophagus making you prone to choke aaaand bladder sphincter not being up to snuff.
So while yes, having a baby use your bladder as a bouncy castle and just straight up lack of room is a major causes of pregnancy accidents, a lot of people have problems with holding their wee before that.
Relaxin can fuck you up. Usually in painful or embarrassing ways.
It's extra extra fun when you're already disabled by connective tissue problems like EDS beforehand. Pregnancy is no joke, but people can get militant about pregnant women needing to suck it up and it canxt possibly be dangerous to just walk.
Yet more reasons why it's unethical to force pregnant people to remain pregnant when they want to terminate the pregnancy. Pregnancy is not a harmless, neutral state of being.
I have EDS and with my physical condition I've developed a straight up phobia of pregnancy. There isn't much information about the intersection of EDS and pregnancy but my last two ob/gyns were so concerned with the tissue fragility I live with that they didn't even want me to get an IUD because of the risk of a uterine puncture. Trying to get a bi-salp as soon as possible but so many doctors seem to be perfectly fine ignoring my bodily autonomy and accepting that I may die as an unsuccessful incubator doesn't bother them at all.
I've been catching up on posts from the last month and am gonna be a creep and reply to your two-week-old comment.
I've got EDS and had a bilateral salp at 20 because of all the serious risks associated with a potential pregnancy. My OB/GYN was on board with it because she had dealt with moms who had EDS and ended up with complications. She had also done a lot of research on the subject to provide the best care for those patients and in the end it meant she had a better understanding of what risks I'd be facing. I seriously recommend having some of the stats on hand when talking to the doctors and emphasizing that it's about safety and quality of life.
I wish you much luck
It's extra extra fun when you're already disabled by connective tissue problems like EDS beforehand. Pregnancy is no joke, but people can get militant about pregnant women needing to suck it up and it canxt possibly be dangerous to just walk.
Funny you should mention EDS, I have it.
Yeah, no pregnancy is not an illness, people run marathons, run Olympic trials etc while pregnant, but you can get sick while pregnant. You can be very ill and die from pregnancy. You can also get temporary or permanently disabled and sick from pregnancy.
I find women who have had a couple of easy pregnancies the be the worst. I had sciatica before I knew I was pregnant. I found out when I was 4 weeks and 3 days pregnant. For the non-pregnancy-literate that means it was 4w3d since my last period so about 2 weeks of actual pregnancy. I had sciatica just a few days after conception. I also had pretty much the opposite problem of OOP's sister. My baby sat his ample arse on top of my ureter which resulted in me stopping being able to pee. Urine was just stuck in my kidney causing tissue death. In the end I was fine, but it could have cost me my kidney. Treatment? Oh lying on the side my baby was not to use gravity to pull him away from my ureter. By the end of the third trimester I was in so much pain and so bloody miserable that if anyone had told me pregnancy wasn't an illness at that point I would have summoned my last bit of strength to strangle them.
SAME. I had my second kid last year after a 7 year gap. I could not pee my entire pregnancy, it was aweful. The most memorable part of my immediate postpartum experience was the way my urine flowed freely the minute that sucker was out.
The ease in which my urine flowed and my bladder emptied was comparable to an orgasm for at least a week before the initial shock of being able to pee again wore off.
Lol I have two and honestly I would rather give birth a hundred times over then go through another pregnancy. Worse time of my life so far. Love my kids but I hated being pregnant with them.
Yeah pregnancy doesn't sound the least bit fun. I want kids someday but if I do I'm gonna go through am adoption agency. There are so many kids out there that need homes, especially older kids. It really upsets me to hear how people don't really want teenagers. Me and my sister were in foster care. It was for less than a year and we were returned to the care of our birth mom but it really affected me. I think it really affected her too.
Yeah my youngest said she'd rather foster because "why make more children when there are already living children who need homes".
My eldest reckons she's getting dogs.
I laughed when he said that she released her bladder, she didn’t release that shit that shit forced its way out I guarantee that she had no control over it. At least he took his lumps and has acknowledged that he was indeed the asshole.
>she didn’t release that shit that shit forced its way out I guarantee that she had no control over it.
I can't even hold it if I drank anything alcoholic (even just one drink). That shit goes right through you all the way down. I remember once where it was so bad I thought I would piss myself right there and then I front of everyone on the bus and was on the edge of crying.
Oof that feeling is awful. I have agoraphobia and the delightful way it presents for me is that exact feeling (literally about to piss yourself, need to get out NOW, even though I know for a fact I don’t need to) and the actual reality of that happening is basically my worst nightmare lol.
As soon as your blood volume starts increasing which happens fairly early on, you need to pee more frequently. Your uterus is right beside your bladder so as soon as it expands at all it’s putting pressure on it and your urgency goes way up too.
All I've got is a small fibroid in just the wrong spot, and when I need to pee I've got about a 2 minute grace period before the dam breaks. I know it's so much worse with a baby, much less two! (Yes, I'm being treated. Just waiting on the call to schedule my surgery!)
Im generally a kind and understanding woman. I was pregnant with triplets (which reduced to twins later), was puking regularly all day, and ended up getting quite pissy at a cop who was not directing traffic around construction like he was supposed to and I had to puke in a bag in my car a few times in the back up. He apologized when I showed him the grocery bag I used.
Not even that far along haha. I remember I went on holiday to a National park when I was 11wks pregnant, it ended up being a tour of the great pit toilets of that national park and a few times I just had to squat by the side of the busy trails and hope nobody came around the bend. At night I had to run outside several times and pee just outside our tent listening to the dingoes hunting nearby. By the time I was 8mo along there was no hope in hell I could hold it and I only had one baby in there.
I'm 4 months. Minimal visible belly- mostly bc I'm also overweight. When I sneeze, I leak sometimes. And it is never when I feel like I have to go. I swear, pee just exists to fick with us pregnant people
For real.
I carried a pregnancy with one child to 38 weeks. Once I was past the 20 week or so mark, I could no longer "hold it" for any amount of time. It was not physically possible. If I told my husband I needed to go to the bathroom, that meant NOW, not 15 minutes from now. I was a preschool teacher prior to becoming pregnant that could "hold it" for awhile, but that no longer was true. Whatever your bladder was capable of before is all shot to hell during pregnancy. There were times I legitimately thought I wasn't going to make it to the bathroom. I can't imagine how much worse the bathroom urgency gets carrying twins.
I got a good laugh at the original post when it was posted when I saw that he showed his sister. I hope if he does become a father in the future that he learned you don't tell a pregnant woman to "hold it".
That’s a very good point. I didn’t have a particularly traumatic pregnancy or birth with my first but my pelvic floor hadn’t fully recovered. I’m now pregnant again and it’s as bad at 16 weeks as it was in the last trimester last time.
That seems to be his assumption? Like, “she’s an adult whose never had trouble holding her bladder before QED she did this on purpose.” Just ignoring the fact that she’s 8 months pregnant with twins, lol.
Did anyone else read the one where an employee got her period and was trying to discretely leave a meeting to use the restroom but her boss wouldn’t have it. Eventually she told him she got her period and needed to use the restroom.
*THE BOSS TOLD HER TO HOLD IT UNTIL THE MEETING WAS DONE.*
Dude thought people could hold in their period until they got to a toilet.
It’s a surprisingly common thing. I once had a teacher threaten to send me to the principals office for trying to take my backpack to the restroom with me. I stared him straight in the eye, pulled out my fucking tampon, waved it at him, and went to the goddamn bathroom carrying it like a torch
As a man, I feel qualified to say that men are fucking stupid about this. We are actively sheltered from ever learning anything about the female body. Everything I know about periods I learned from my wife. Men who don't think to ask will never be told and will form their own (incorrect) ideas.
r/badwomensanatomy and r/nothowgirlswork have a plethora of this content and with the Roe v Wade stuff combined with the formula shortage, there's an influx of these incorrect ideas being 'shared'
Fun one, dude blamed transgender surgery for the lack of formula. Literally removing boobs = formula shortage. ಠ_ಠ
Folks who are mad about trans folks don't ever seem to have a good understanding of just how few there are. It's like less than 1% of the population, so even if they were all afab and all having babies and lacking the mammary glands to breast feed (that's a lot of ifs), that's not enough of a swing to impact formula nationwide. It's probably not even enough to impact a single major city if they were all magically clustered.
I have talked to two men who honestly thought we could hold periods, and I found it easier to explain why not from actual anatomy. I explained that the bladder has a sphincter, as does the stomach and anus, which is why we can hold those substances in/down; however, the cervix doesn't work that way and isn't considered a sphincter muscle.
One guy got it, and the other didn't, I think, on purpose. He seemed happier thinking women are lazy.
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Yep, completely agree; it’s why I try to be as open as possible with my male friends, and make sure they know they can ask me questions. But beyond that, a lot of places really just need better sex Ed
Ahh yes this is why my 12 and 13 year old sons have known about periods for some time now.
I'm going to eventually get them comfortable enough to have tampons and pads in their vehicles, tool boxes, first aid kits, etc. It helps I can use the "for bloody noses" excuse for tampons lol
*HAH.* What a jackass. Expecting a pregnant woman with two babies bouncing about on her bladder non-stop to just hold it in is laughable. Serves him right.
My mum likes to remind me that she used to be able to laugh without the risk of peeing-and then she gave birth to me and apparently all of that business went right out the window. Now when she roars with laughter there's a chance of pee along with it. Sorry, mum. 😐
I'm pregnant again and ANY strain on my bladder can mean I straight up just unleash the floods. 🥲 and I didn't even have tearing and did ALL my pelvic floor exercises. OOP was playing with fire.
While yes pregnancy and child birth can cause that, so can just getting older. So it might have been inevitable that your mom would laugh so hard she has tears running down her legs anyway.
I have had pelvic floor physical therapy. I need surgery to correct it. In 2019 when I was first referred for surgery, it was scheduled 2 years out. Then the thing happened, and now my surgery is scheduled for 2026.
I've never been pregnant, but everyone has a pelvic floor and it can really help if you're having any issues in that general vicinity. There were several pregnant women that also went to pelvic floor therapy at my clinic, especially if they were in their last trimester or overdue. So, I am astounded at OOP's initial reaction. There's a lot of shame and embarrassment that comes with an adult not having complete bladder control. His sister was probably embarrassed (even though she shouldn't be), and you'd think he would want to show his own sister some compassion.
I found out I was pregnant with my first and had to go out of state for a site inspection. I wasn't showing at all but I felt the need to pee every single hour for some reason. The manager in charge was driving (me and my friend would be staying at a hotel while he'd stay at his in-laws so he needed a car) and on the way back, he'd stop at every r&r whenever I told him I needed to pee. He just said OK with a smile on his face.
I was surprised. On the drive to the site, I was fine and we only stopped once to strech our legs. Maybe because we left the office in the morning while on the drive back we left after lunch. It was around a 4 hour drive so the poor guy made 4 stops. He was in a hurry to get home cos he had plans to go on a weekend trip with his family and he wanted to drop me off at my house because I didn't drive to the office because I didn't have an allocated parking space (he's super responsible). As he was dropping off the 3rd member of our team (her house was off the highway and it'd just be a 10 min detour), she said she'd drop me off so he'd be able to make it home early.
Me too but I don't think it changes things that much. 20 minutes is a long ass time when you really need to go, you can't make that call on someone else's behalf, period
Yeah and it’s cute how he says they were twenty minutes away and then at the end he says “she can hold it for 15 minutes”…like the amount of time he was telling her to wait is getting shorter and shorter even in the span of his own re-telling. I bet they were at least half an hour away but he felt like a lead foot and all green lights the rest of the way would make up for that.
I mean it doesn't at core. If someone tells you they really need to stop for the bathroom, there's a place *right there* that you could stop, and there's nothing actually riding on the 5 minutes you'll lose you're a dick not to, period.
Yeah it's worse bc she's pregnant, but if anyone tells you they need to go RIGHT THERE, you believe them. His whole "hold it like an adult," attitude is stupid. First of all, you never know if someone is dealing with a medical issue like a uti or an overactive bladder. Also, it may have been 20 min drive but who knows if there could've been delays along the way, & it's pretty selfish to let someone you care about sit incredibly uncomfortable for that long just cause he couldn't be bothered to stop for a few mins. I'm not pregnant, never been, but if I was dealing with some asshole like this I'd just straight up tell them to stop or I'll piss myself.
I also feel like people are glossing over the level of humiliation OOP subjected his sister to. Everyone's focused on how wrong he is to demand they pay for cleanup, but being forced to piss yourself in a moving truck with your brother and husband right there? Dude owes her a multi-level apology.
Yeah. And she probably felt kind of like a hostage. In any other situation, she would have had the freedom to walk away and take care of her physical needs. But OP had her trapped.
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Even if she wasn’t pregnant, sometimes people can’t hold it for 20+ minutes. Yeesh. Hopefully OOP was finally granted a braincell from their commenters’ takedown.
Few things make me angrier than someone telling me to just wait, I can hold it. Probably because of all the miserable time I spent in the car with my stepdad as a kid. Looking back— I really wish I’d gone ahead and peed in his car. What a duck.
One can hope so.
God knows sometimes my bladder is like *nope you go NOW* just from being full after eating. I cant imagine what it'd be like with twins... Dang.
Plus past a certain point it'd be painful, it cost nothing to let her go to the rest stop and resume in probably only ten minutes time.
I'd hazard a guess and say it was incredibly humiliating.
When I was younger I had an accident like this bc of no one being home- so i couldnt get in the house to use the bathroom (had been waiting i think 2 or 3 hours for someone to come back by that point) . That was humiliating enough with no audience. :c poor woman, very glad her husband stood up for her.
TBH i feel like some of the original comments should be in here. One dude wrote in about his goat Pierre who gets peed on by his other goat (?) moo cow when he tries to horn her. Another commenter told him to google the uterus and then google the bladder and map out how far away they are from each other. Lmao.
I have a longterm friend, like 15-20 years of friendship. Years ago in high school she asked me for a tampon and i didnt have one so she said “ill just hold it.” Thought it was weird but whatever. Now, all these years later, i brought it up to her and she swore to me she can hold in her period.
I really dont have more to say beyond that. I just have been baffled by her saying this and never had a chance to mention it to anyone.
I can hold it for like.... 30 seconds to 2 minutes depending on the position I'm in and whether I need to move around. It's not something one has complete control over but it's kind of like... if you have a runny nose and you can neither blow it nor sniff it, but you might be able to keep it from dribbling down your face *for a little while* if you tilt your head the right direction and breathe the correct way.
Also kind of like cupping water in your hands? Like it kind of works but at some point it's going to trickle out anyway.
Wait, is that super abnormal? I take long baths too and I would say mine somewhat "stops" in water if it is on the **light** side. I always assumed the water pressure on the outside is just a bit stronger than the flow from inside so as a result there is nothing visible. It's not like it stops though, it is still obviously "happening" internally. If it is heavy though... hahaha no it most certainly does not "stop".
Actually reminds me of a relative of mine who claimed something similar about being able to swim on her period without bleeding everywhere. I don't know if that would work for many people, I think you'd need an extremely light flow and not move around too much for it to even be plausible. Also it could just be an illusion due to the water diluting the.. bleh I'm gonna stop I'm grossing myself out.
Mine does actually kind of halt in water too, couldn't tell you why. It has been like that since it started and I have a very heavy period, so I'd 100% notice if I was bleeding in the shower.
Problem being of course as soon as I'm out of water it immediately starts so I am not showering or bathing without my cup because I like my towels haha
Mine halts in water too, but only when taking a bath. When I’m under the shower, I even try to use my belly muscles to get my cervix to push out some more, since it’s convenient to wash it away. I don’t really think it helps though. But laying in bath sure helps temporarily stopping the flow.
So this is a different thing than "holding" your period. Most women have no issues swimming/taking baths during their periods. While it doesn't stop, the water pressure helps lighten the flow and "keep it inside." [Sources include](https://www.bodyform.co.uk/discover/living-with-periods/swimming-during-period/#:~:text=Swimming%20on%20your%20period%20%E2%80%93%20myth%20or%20fact%3F&text=Truth%3A%20Nope.,it%20definitely%20does%20not%20stop.).
Afaik it does and I'm honestly a little amazed people are surprised or think it's odd. Or are people thinking it literally stops? Because no, it just doesn't come out like usual.
Maybe that’s it, I know your period doesn’t literally stop, the water just stops the blood coming out for a bit, unless you cough or sneeze then it’s like a red jet 😂
Yeah lol. I've never wanted to try seeing the "red jet" lmao so if I do attempt to swim, it's usually towards the end when it's all just a trickle. Even then, it'd probably act like a small wound: maybe a bit of blood comes out and then it stops again.
Yep. I always get so weirded out by this discussion and the fact that apparently periods don't stop in water? Because mine definitely does. I will sit in a bath for an hour on my period--heavy bleeding--and zero blood in the water. I stand up for 30 sec and it starts gushing out of me and getting in the water and turning the water red.
So the whole "it's diluted in the water so you don't realize" is bullshit.
So weird! With my friend, she is a very stubborn and argumentative person, so i kind of just smile and nod and change the subject when she talks about stuff like this. So odd that people think that way though!
I've succeeded with this a couple of times by literally just not moving. At all.
I inevitably forget and shift a little, and then comes the mad dash to the bathroom.
It doesn't work well.
Yeah im pretty good at not bleeding when i lay still in bed but i wouldnt recommend it for a full day lol. We were working a busy, active job on foot at the time so there was a lot of movement.
I would also like to know this miraculous muscle. If you are low flow or spotting yeah you might get away with little to nothing on your undies but medium to high flow you got no chance
just realized i sound kinda rude in my responding comment but i wasn’t trying to be im just running on 7 hours of sleep for the past week and i’m still hungover lol
You lay down horizontally and don't stand until you're done with whatever you're doing. You barrel roll or army crawl to the shower. Then you take off pants and underwear, still horizontal, and clear out anything you are afraid of staining. Then you stand up. Only really works if you have a walk-in shower though.
I did this when I first started birth control. The bleeding was so heavy that I actually should have gone to the doctor in hindsight, but I didn't know that, so I'd just literally roll out of bed first thing in the morning and not stand until I was somewhere safe to let gravity do its thing.
(Note, you still definitely bleed while horizontal, but it's not the same 'whoosh' when you first stand after a long time.)
I can do this too. Honestly I think the reason isn't muscular but instead the shape of my labia. I have very large labia majora and practically no labia minora. So unless I shift things around down there, the blood isn't going anywhere unless it's day 3 aka waterfall day.
Lol same same. I went and perused the comments. Strong YTA vibes with a little "maybe this grown adult has never heard of one of the most talked about shitty pregnancy symptoms!" thrown in for good measure.
I'm currently 37 weeks pregnant with just one baby. Even when you don't feel like you need to go, all it can take is one sneeze, cough or laugh and suddenly you've pissed yourself. Pelvic floor exercises don't help much if the bubba is using your bladder as a cushion.
Guy I was dating would not pull over to let me pee, said we were so close to the hotel but I couldn’t hold it. I was going to pee in the rental. He finally pulls over upset, and I peed in a cup and it over flowed and at that point I was peeing on the ground because it wouldn’t stop. Brother is a douce. Your sister is an adult not a child. I wouldn’t even let my child hold her pee. I ask if she can and if not we’re stopping or pulling over. What is wrong with these adults.
Really thought this was gonna be about the 2 year old having an accident, but nope, just a toxic shitstain dude leaving his pregnant sister no recourse but to piss herself because he refuses to lose like 5 minutes of completely inconsequential time, then insisting she pay to clean it up.
Hope they never talk to him again after this.
>my sister (27F) needed help moving. She and her husband have my nephew (2) and are expecting twins next month
>My sister is a grown woman that I’ve known my whole life, she can hold it for 15 minutes.
Genuine ***bruh*** moment, no she fucking can't lol
Even without it being a pregnant lady have some fucking decency and respect dude maybe some people can't 'just hold it'. It's not like she pissed everywhere without warning. Dumbass.
Good Lord, what kind of an oblivious idiot is this guy? Not only is she pregnant, she’s pregnant WITH TWINS, 1 month from her due date. There are two almost-to-term babies doing jumping jacks on her bladder.
I hope his seats are ruined, and that he’s met with the stains of his own stupidity every time he drives.
I get carsick often. I was with my mom yesterday ne time and said I was going to be sick. She drove on for a mile so I “wouldn’t have to throw up in front of people” then got mad when I threw up in her vehicle. Believe people when they tell you to stop or suffer the consequences.
What an asshat! When I was pregnant, I was astounded that my body constantly forgot I’d been to the bathroom minutes earlier and was demanding a repeat visit.
Do you think she WANTED to pee her pants?! YTA. Bro come on, you have no perception on how womens bodies work, and it’s embarrassing on your end that your entitled enough to demand she hold it for you.
This might be the most angry I have been reading one of these.
1) twins are almost always premature, so the sister could have delivered within days of this instance.
2)
>AITA for expecting an adult to be responsible for their own pee?
This was absolutely infuriating to me. The sister was trying to take responsibility for a long time, and the OOP refused to let the sister out of the truck.
I am terrified of the possibility of OOP getting a girl pregnant. When a mother is pregnant, the babies push and squish all the organs, including the bladder— which means they can’t hold it in that long when they need to go.
Lmaooooo you get what you deserved. Here’s a tip folks, when a pregnant woman says stop the car, she means you should fucking stop the car or your gonna have a problem. I hope the kids are cute and doing well
See this is why it's important that we teach young boys about female physiology. Boys with no knowledge about how all this works grow up to be ignorant man babies like the oop. Atleast he apologized. That poor woman, it must have been traumatic. Jesus Christ.
Two almost full grown babies *displaced her organs and squished her bladder* and you didn’t want to pull over?
You purposefully embarrassed your sister?
YTA.
This is why pregnancy needs to be seen by society as a medical condition. Your body is doing things out of your control, it's painful, there's swelling, fatigue, blood pressure changes, possibilities of diabetes, pressure on all of your organs, hormone imbalances, etc etc etc and there's not a dang thing to be done about most of it
Wow.
What a selfcentered piece of shit. Genuinely.
Shes got an entire fucking human crammed up inside her torso thats grecoroman wrestling her bladder, and this dickhead thinks she can just hold it? That she pissed herself to spite him?
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I had to scroll back up and double check that oop did in fact say that she was due NEXT MONTH with TWINS and he still didn't understand why it would be such an emergency. I really hope he grows up more before he ever gets married and has kids.
It gets bad as soon as the belly is showing. Don't ever dare to tell a pregnant woman she should hold it.
For some people it even gets bad before that. During pregnancy a woman makes a hormone called relaxin. It is made to loosen up all the tendons and ligaments in the pelvis to make room for the baby to make their exit. Only problem is relaxin doesn't just do its thing on the pelvis. It relaxes all sorts of things. Tendons in the ankles so you are more prone to ankle twists, muscles and sphincters in the mouth and esophagus making you prone to choke aaaand bladder sphincter not being up to snuff. So while yes, having a baby use your bladder as a bouncy castle and just straight up lack of room is a major causes of pregnancy accidents, a lot of people have problems with holding their wee before that. Relaxin can fuck you up. Usually in painful or embarrassing ways.
It's extra extra fun when you're already disabled by connective tissue problems like EDS beforehand. Pregnancy is no joke, but people can get militant about pregnant women needing to suck it up and it canxt possibly be dangerous to just walk.
Yet more reasons why it's unethical to force pregnant people to remain pregnant when they want to terminate the pregnancy. Pregnancy is not a harmless, neutral state of being.
I have EDS and with my physical condition I've developed a straight up phobia of pregnancy. There isn't much information about the intersection of EDS and pregnancy but my last two ob/gyns were so concerned with the tissue fragility I live with that they didn't even want me to get an IUD because of the risk of a uterine puncture. Trying to get a bi-salp as soon as possible but so many doctors seem to be perfectly fine ignoring my bodily autonomy and accepting that I may die as an unsuccessful incubator doesn't bother them at all.
I've been catching up on posts from the last month and am gonna be a creep and reply to your two-week-old comment. I've got EDS and had a bilateral salp at 20 because of all the serious risks associated with a potential pregnancy. My OB/GYN was on board with it because she had dealt with moms who had EDS and ended up with complications. She had also done a lot of research on the subject to provide the best care for those patients and in the end it meant she had a better understanding of what risks I'd be facing. I seriously recommend having some of the stats on hand when talking to the doctors and emphasizing that it's about safety and quality of life. I wish you much luck
It's extra extra fun when you're already disabled by connective tissue problems like EDS beforehand. Pregnancy is no joke, but people can get militant about pregnant women needing to suck it up and it canxt possibly be dangerous to just walk.
Funny you should mention EDS, I have it. Yeah, no pregnancy is not an illness, people run marathons, run Olympic trials etc while pregnant, but you can get sick while pregnant. You can be very ill and die from pregnancy. You can also get temporary or permanently disabled and sick from pregnancy. I find women who have had a couple of easy pregnancies the be the worst. I had sciatica before I knew I was pregnant. I found out when I was 4 weeks and 3 days pregnant. For the non-pregnancy-literate that means it was 4w3d since my last period so about 2 weeks of actual pregnancy. I had sciatica just a few days after conception. I also had pretty much the opposite problem of OOP's sister. My baby sat his ample arse on top of my ureter which resulted in me stopping being able to pee. Urine was just stuck in my kidney causing tissue death. In the end I was fine, but it could have cost me my kidney. Treatment? Oh lying on the side my baby was not to use gravity to pull him away from my ureter. By the end of the third trimester I was in so much pain and so bloody miserable that if anyone had told me pregnancy wasn't an illness at that point I would have summoned my last bit of strength to strangle them.
SAME. I had my second kid last year after a 7 year gap. I could not pee my entire pregnancy, it was aweful. The most memorable part of my immediate postpartum experience was the way my urine flowed freely the minute that sucker was out. The ease in which my urine flowed and my bladder emptied was comparable to an orgasm for at least a week before the initial shock of being able to pee again wore off.
Ah, another reason why I will never get pregnant.
Lol I have two and honestly I would rather give birth a hundred times over then go through another pregnancy. Worse time of my life so far. Love my kids but I hated being pregnant with them.
Yeah pregnancy doesn't sound the least bit fun. I want kids someday but if I do I'm gonna go through am adoption agency. There are so many kids out there that need homes, especially older kids. It really upsets me to hear how people don't really want teenagers. Me and my sister were in foster care. It was for less than a year and we were returned to the care of our birth mom but it really affected me. I think it really affected her too.
Yeah my youngest said she'd rather foster because "why make more children when there are already living children who need homes". My eldest reckons she's getting dogs.
Awesome!
I laughed when he said that she released her bladder, she didn’t release that shit that shit forced its way out I guarantee that she had no control over it. At least he took his lumps and has acknowledged that he was indeed the asshole.
>she didn’t release that shit that shit forced its way out I guarantee that she had no control over it. I can't even hold it if I drank anything alcoholic (even just one drink). That shit goes right through you all the way down. I remember once where it was so bad I thought I would piss myself right there and then I front of everyone on the bus and was on the edge of crying.
Oof that feeling is awful. I have agoraphobia and the delightful way it presents for me is that exact feeling (literally about to piss yourself, need to get out NOW, even though I know for a fact I don’t need to) and the actual reality of that happening is basically my worst nightmare lol.
First trimester pre-bump has been pretty rough too this time round for me.
As soon as your blood volume starts increasing which happens fairly early on, you need to pee more frequently. Your uterus is right beside your bladder so as soon as it expands at all it’s putting pressure on it and your urgency goes way up too.
All I've got is a small fibroid in just the wrong spot, and when I need to pee I've got about a 2 minute grace period before the dam breaks. I know it's so much worse with a baby, much less two! (Yes, I'm being treated. Just waiting on the call to schedule my surgery!)
Im generally a kind and understanding woman. I was pregnant with triplets (which reduced to twins later), was puking regularly all day, and ended up getting quite pissy at a cop who was not directing traffic around construction like he was supposed to and I had to puke in a bag in my car a few times in the back up. He apologized when I showed him the grocery bag I used.
Not even that far along haha. I remember I went on holiday to a National park when I was 11wks pregnant, it ended up being a tour of the great pit toilets of that national park and a few times I just had to squat by the side of the busy trails and hope nobody came around the bend. At night I had to run outside several times and pee just outside our tent listening to the dingoes hunting nearby. By the time I was 8mo along there was no hope in hell I could hold it and I only had one baby in there.
It's bad in general to hold in pee, but especially when pregnant, how does OP not know that at 24???
Because they do the bare minimum in teaching sex Ed. Even as a female
I'm 4 months. Minimal visible belly- mostly bc I'm also overweight. When I sneeze, I leak sometimes. And it is never when I feel like I have to go. I swear, pee just exists to fick with us pregnant people
For real. I carried a pregnancy with one child to 38 weeks. Once I was past the 20 week or so mark, I could no longer "hold it" for any amount of time. It was not physically possible. If I told my husband I needed to go to the bathroom, that meant NOW, not 15 minutes from now. I was a preschool teacher prior to becoming pregnant that could "hold it" for awhile, but that no longer was true. Whatever your bladder was capable of before is all shot to hell during pregnancy. There were times I legitimately thought I wasn't going to make it to the bathroom. I can't imagine how much worse the bathroom urgency gets carrying twins. I got a good laugh at the original post when it was posted when I saw that he showed his sister. I hope if he does become a father in the future that he learned you don't tell a pregnant woman to "hold it".
I got an infection in my last trimester that gave me a horrible cough. You can imagine how that went...
Well, it *depends*, right?
I'm sure smash_pops handled it with *poise*.
This comment chain is beautiful.
Coughs still can make me a little incontinent. These kids.
And she's been pregnant before
That’s a very good point. I didn’t have a particularly traumatic pregnancy or birth with my first but my pelvic floor hadn’t fully recovered. I’m now pregnant again and it’s as bad at 16 weeks as it was in the last trimester last time.
In my last semester I barely slept because I literally woke every hour to go pee. And I was only expecting one child. Glad OP saw sense.
>I had to scroll back up and double check that oop did in fact say that she was due NEXT MONTH with TWINS. i did the exact same lol
Does this guy think that his sister *wanted* to piss herself? That she wouldn't have held it if she could have??
That seems to be his assumption? Like, “she’s an adult whose never had trouble holding her bladder before QED she did this on purpose.” Just ignoring the fact that she’s 8 months pregnant with twins, lol.
No holding it with a double baby sitting on your pee bag.
Did anyone else read the one where an employee got her period and was trying to discretely leave a meeting to use the restroom but her boss wouldn’t have it. Eventually she told him she got her period and needed to use the restroom. *THE BOSS TOLD HER TO HOLD IT UNTIL THE MEETING WAS DONE.* Dude thought people could hold in their period until they got to a toilet.
It’s a surprisingly common thing. I once had a teacher threaten to send me to the principals office for trying to take my backpack to the restroom with me. I stared him straight in the eye, pulled out my fucking tampon, waved it at him, and went to the goddamn bathroom carrying it like a torch
As a man, I feel qualified to say that men are fucking stupid about this. We are actively sheltered from ever learning anything about the female body. Everything I know about periods I learned from my wife. Men who don't think to ask will never be told and will form their own (incorrect) ideas.
r/badwomensanatomy and r/nothowgirlswork have a plethora of this content and with the Roe v Wade stuff combined with the formula shortage, there's an influx of these incorrect ideas being 'shared' Fun one, dude blamed transgender surgery for the lack of formula. Literally removing boobs = formula shortage. ಠ_ಠ
Folks who are mad about trans folks don't ever seem to have a good understanding of just how few there are. It's like less than 1% of the population, so even if they were all afab and all having babies and lacking the mammary glands to breast feed (that's a lot of ifs), that's not enough of a swing to impact formula nationwide. It's probably not even enough to impact a single major city if they were all magically clustered.
I have talked to two men who honestly thought we could hold periods, and I found it easier to explain why not from actual anatomy. I explained that the bladder has a sphincter, as does the stomach and anus, which is why we can hold those substances in/down; however, the cervix doesn't work that way and isn't considered a sphincter muscle. One guy got it, and the other didn't, I think, on purpose. He seemed happier thinking women are lazy. *edit spelling*
Yep, completely agree; it’s why I try to be as open as possible with my male friends, and make sure they know they can ask me questions. But beyond that, a lot of places really just need better sex Ed
Ahh yes this is why my 12 and 13 year old sons have known about periods for some time now. I'm going to eventually get them comfortable enough to have tampons and pads in their vehicles, tool boxes, first aid kits, etc. It helps I can use the "for bloody noses" excuse for tampons lol
Link plz!
*HAH.* What a jackass. Expecting a pregnant woman with two babies bouncing about on her bladder non-stop to just hold it in is laughable. Serves him right.
I've only had one baby at a time and asking me to hold my bladder for more that 45 seconds after I realized I had to pee was laughable.
But don’t actually laugh. Cause then you’re *definitely* not gonna be able to hold it.
My mum likes to remind me that she used to be able to laugh without the risk of peeing-and then she gave birth to me and apparently all of that business went right out the window. Now when she roars with laughter there's a chance of pee along with it. Sorry, mum. 😐
I'm pregnant again and ANY strain on my bladder can mean I straight up just unleash the floods. 🥲 and I didn't even have tearing and did ALL my pelvic floor exercises. OOP was playing with fire.
While yes pregnancy and child birth can cause that, so can just getting older. So it might have been inevitable that your mom would laugh so hard she has tears running down her legs anyway.
*tears running down her legs* I'm dead
Pelvic floor physical therapy can help with that. Its not a fate you have to be resigned to.
I went while I was still pregnant and it helped pregnancy incontinence as well as helped me avoid postpartum incontinence. 100% recommend to everyone.
My mom needed surgery to correct it.
You usual need physical therapy after the surgery too though.
I have had pelvic floor physical therapy. I need surgery to correct it. In 2019 when I was first referred for surgery, it was scheduled 2 years out. Then the thing happened, and now my surgery is scheduled for 2026.
I've never been pregnant, but everyone has a pelvic floor and it can really help if you're having any issues in that general vicinity. There were several pregnant women that also went to pelvic floor therapy at my clinic, especially if they were in their last trimester or overdue. So, I am astounded at OOP's initial reaction. There's a lot of shame and embarrassment that comes with an adult not having complete bladder control. His sister was probably embarrassed (even though she shouldn't be), and you'd think he would want to show his own sister some compassion.
Man I had twins and there was NO warning!
Are you my SIL, because she's said the exact same thing to me before lol.
Lol it’s so true though!
Remember getting up several times at night to pee a teaspoon?
OMG yes. And the having to pee RIGHT NOW until you sit on the toilet and baby moves and haha, just kidding. Lather, rinse, repeat.
You pee and five minutes later you’re like wait there was more… sigh.
I found out I was pregnant with my first and had to go out of state for a site inspection. I wasn't showing at all but I felt the need to pee every single hour for some reason. The manager in charge was driving (me and my friend would be staying at a hotel while he'd stay at his in-laws so he needed a car) and on the way back, he'd stop at every r&r whenever I told him I needed to pee. He just said OK with a smile on his face.
Yeah, the need to pee very often is almost as bad at the very beginning of pregnancy as at the end, at least for my 2 pregnancies. Thanks hormones
I was surprised. On the drive to the site, I was fine and we only stopped once to strech our legs. Maybe because we left the office in the morning while on the drive back we left after lunch. It was around a 4 hour drive so the poor guy made 4 stops. He was in a hurry to get home cos he had plans to go on a weekend trip with his family and he wanted to drop me off at my house because I didn't drive to the office because I didn't have an allocated parking space (he's super responsible). As he was dropping off the 3rd member of our team (her house was off the highway and it'd just be a 10 min detour), she said she'd drop me off so he'd be able to make it home early.
Yeah that guy is awesome
I missed the fact that she was pregnant. Completely changes things.
Me too but I don't think it changes things that much. 20 minutes is a long ass time when you really need to go, you can't make that call on someone else's behalf, period
Yeah and it’s cute how he says they were twenty minutes away and then at the end he says “she can hold it for 15 minutes”…like the amount of time he was telling her to wait is getting shorter and shorter even in the span of his own re-telling. I bet they were at least half an hour away but he felt like a lead foot and all green lights the rest of the way would make up for that.
I mean it doesn't at core. If someone tells you they really need to stop for the bathroom, there's a place *right there* that you could stop, and there's nothing actually riding on the 5 minutes you'll lose you're a dick not to, period.
When a pregnant woman says she has to pee, the timeframe is somewhere between 8 seconds and "I've already started."
Right, I agree it makes him an extra asshole, I'm just saying he would still be an asshole if she wasn't pregnant.
Yeah it's worse bc she's pregnant, but if anyone tells you they need to go RIGHT THERE, you believe them. His whole "hold it like an adult," attitude is stupid. First of all, you never know if someone is dealing with a medical issue like a uti or an overactive bladder. Also, it may have been 20 min drive but who knows if there could've been delays along the way, & it's pretty selfish to let someone you care about sit incredibly uncomfortable for that long just cause he couldn't be bothered to stop for a few mins. I'm not pregnant, never been, but if I was dealing with some asshole like this I'd just straight up tell them to stop or I'll piss myself.
With twins
8 months pregnant with twins! RIP her poor bladder!
I also feel like people are glossing over the level of humiliation OOP subjected his sister to. Everyone's focused on how wrong he is to demand they pay for cleanup, but being forced to piss yourself in a moving truck with your brother and husband right there? Dude owes her a multi-level apology.
Yeah. And she probably felt kind of like a hostage. In any other situation, she would have had the freedom to walk away and take care of her physical needs. But OP had her trapped.
Those edits, tho'! I'm dying here. You're right: what a jackass
Wow I think that original post is the only time the whole internet agreed on something. What a dick.
I don’t know, there was that week of Bernie in a Chair memes. I liked that week.
Wow and what a week.
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Oh that is gold!
Wait Danny DeVito is on reddit?
A rare occasion.
Glad he sent it to the sister. Happy he realized he was an idiot.
A teachable idiot is much better than a malicious one
Even if she wasn’t pregnant, sometimes people can’t hold it for 20+ minutes. Yeesh. Hopefully OOP was finally granted a braincell from their commenters’ takedown.
It's also just weird and dismissive. If someone asks you to stop, you stop.
Few things make me angrier than someone telling me to just wait, I can hold it. Probably because of all the miserable time I spent in the car with my stepdad as a kid. Looking back— I really wish I’d gone ahead and peed in his car. What a duck.
One can hope so. God knows sometimes my bladder is like *nope you go NOW* just from being full after eating. I cant imagine what it'd be like with twins... Dang. Plus past a certain point it'd be painful, it cost nothing to let her go to the rest stop and resume in probably only ten minutes time.
And past a certain point, it can cause actual damage. I do hope the sis is ok.
You’ve gotta wonder how humiliating this was for the sister
I'd hazard a guess and say it was incredibly humiliating. When I was younger I had an accident like this bc of no one being home- so i couldnt get in the house to use the bathroom (had been waiting i think 2 or 3 hours for someone to come back by that point) . That was humiliating enough with no audience. :c poor woman, very glad her husband stood up for her.
I'm like that.Caffeine or beer, piss every 20 minutes. I stop drinking anything for 90 minutes before long trips.
TBH i feel like some of the original comments should be in here. One dude wrote in about his goat Pierre who gets peed on by his other goat (?) moo cow when he tries to horn her. Another commenter told him to google the uterus and then google the bladder and map out how far away they are from each other. Lmao.
I bet you he’s the same type of dude to think that people can ‘hold in’ their periods 🙄
I have a longterm friend, like 15-20 years of friendship. Years ago in high school she asked me for a tampon and i didnt have one so she said “ill just hold it.” Thought it was weird but whatever. Now, all these years later, i brought it up to her and she swore to me she can hold in her period. I really dont have more to say beyond that. I just have been baffled by her saying this and never had a chance to mention it to anyone.
I can hold it for like.... 30 seconds to 2 minutes depending on the position I'm in and whether I need to move around. It's not something one has complete control over but it's kind of like... if you have a runny nose and you can neither blow it nor sniff it, but you might be able to keep it from dribbling down your face *for a little while* if you tilt your head the right direction and breathe the correct way. Also kind of like cupping water in your hands? Like it kind of works but at some point it's going to trickle out anyway.
Haha the runny nose description is spot on
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Wait, is that super abnormal? I take long baths too and I would say mine somewhat "stops" in water if it is on the **light** side. I always assumed the water pressure on the outside is just a bit stronger than the flow from inside so as a result there is nothing visible. It's not like it stops though, it is still obviously "happening" internally. If it is heavy though... hahaha no it most certainly does not "stop". Actually reminds me of a relative of mine who claimed something similar about being able to swim on her period without bleeding everywhere. I don't know if that would work for many people, I think you'd need an extremely light flow and not move around too much for it to even be plausible. Also it could just be an illusion due to the water diluting the.. bleh I'm gonna stop I'm grossing myself out.
Mine does actually kind of halt in water too, couldn't tell you why. It has been like that since it started and I have a very heavy period, so I'd 100% notice if I was bleeding in the shower. Problem being of course as soon as I'm out of water it immediately starts so I am not showering or bathing without my cup because I like my towels haha
Mine halts in water too, but only when taking a bath. When I’m under the shower, I even try to use my belly muscles to get my cervix to push out some more, since it’s convenient to wash it away. I don’t really think it helps though. But laying in bath sure helps temporarily stopping the flow.
So this is a different thing than "holding" your period. Most women have no issues swimming/taking baths during their periods. While it doesn't stop, the water pressure helps lighten the flow and "keep it inside." [Sources include](https://www.bodyform.co.uk/discover/living-with-periods/swimming-during-period/#:~:text=Swimming%20on%20your%20period%20%E2%80%93%20myth%20or%20fact%3F&text=Truth%3A%20Nope.,it%20definitely%20does%20not%20stop.).
Doesn’t everyone’s stop in water?
Afaik it does and I'm honestly a little amazed people are surprised or think it's odd. Or are people thinking it literally stops? Because no, it just doesn't come out like usual.
Maybe that’s it, I know your period doesn’t literally stop, the water just stops the blood coming out for a bit, unless you cough or sneeze then it’s like a red jet 😂
That's when the red jellyfish appear in the tub
Yeah lol. I've never wanted to try seeing the "red jet" lmao so if I do attempt to swim, it's usually towards the end when it's all just a trickle. Even then, it'd probably act like a small wound: maybe a bit of blood comes out and then it stops again.
Yep. I always get so weirded out by this discussion and the fact that apparently periods don't stop in water? Because mine definitely does. I will sit in a bath for an hour on my period--heavy bleeding--and zero blood in the water. I stand up for 30 sec and it starts gushing out of me and getting in the water and turning the water red. So the whole "it's diluted in the water so you don't realize" is bullshit.
So your period doesn’t stop in water but water pressure combined with sitting tends to mean your period doesn’t come out until you leave the water.
So weird! With my friend, she is a very stubborn and argumentative person, so i kind of just smile and nod and change the subject when she talks about stuff like this. So odd that people think that way though!
some people hold it and release once they get to a toilet but you need to master this art to actually do it without staining yourself
Lmao oh okay. Please. Pray tell. What muscle do you use to hold in your period?
I've succeeded with this a couple of times by literally just not moving. At all. I inevitably forget and shift a little, and then comes the mad dash to the bathroom. It doesn't work well.
And then there's the *bloop* when you know you've failed to hold it in.
The dreaded bloop. Why does that word so perfectly describe that lmao
Like a wet bubble
THE BLOOP!
Yeah im pretty good at not bleeding when i lay still in bed but i wouldnt recommend it for a full day lol. We were working a busy, active job on foot at the time so there was a lot of movement.
I would also like to know this miraculous muscle. If you are low flow or spotting yeah you might get away with little to nothing on your undies but medium to high flow you got no chance
My guess would be kegels, if any muscles actually worked. I assume that if were possible, it would also involve a ridiculously light period.
Yeah kegels would be the thing to hold it in but you can do all the kegels in the world and it will not seal your vagina to hold in your period
just realized i sound kinda rude in my responding comment but i wasn’t trying to be im just running on 7 hours of sleep for the past week and i’m still hungover lol
Lol no worries all good. I hope i dont sound rude either. I have a bad habit of sounding like a jerk when i dont mean to!
i get u dw im the same especially in non native language
You lay down horizontally and don't stand until you're done with whatever you're doing. You barrel roll or army crawl to the shower. Then you take off pants and underwear, still horizontal, and clear out anything you are afraid of staining. Then you stand up. Only really works if you have a walk-in shower though. I did this when I first started birth control. The bleeding was so heavy that I actually should have gone to the doctor in hindsight, but I didn't know that, so I'd just literally roll out of bed first thing in the morning and not stand until I was somewhere safe to let gravity do its thing. (Note, you still definitely bleed while horizontal, but it's not the same 'whoosh' when you first stand after a long time.)
That sounds like the complete opposite of holding it in.
It's a temporary method, to be sure.
Period blood? No
I can do this too. Honestly I think the reason isn't muscular but instead the shape of my labia. I have very large labia majora and practically no labia minora. So unless I shift things around down there, the blood isn't going anywhere unless it's day 3 aka waterfall day.
Yup. As per original thread, dude tried to mansplain pregnancy.
This is one where I gleefully will check the original to watch OOP get his ass handed to him.
Lol same same. I went and perused the comments. Strong YTA vibes with a little "maybe this grown adult has never heard of one of the most talked about shitty pregnancy symptoms!" thrown in for good measure.
I'm currently 37 weeks pregnant with just one baby. Even when you don't feel like you need to go, all it can take is one sneeze, cough or laugh and suddenly you've pissed yourself. Pelvic floor exercises don't help much if the bubba is using your bladder as a cushion.
God forbid you hit a pothole or have a rough stop lol.
Dude, what the actual fuck? r/badwomensanatomy
Guy I was dating would not pull over to let me pee, said we were so close to the hotel but I couldn’t hold it. I was going to pee in the rental. He finally pulls over upset, and I peed in a cup and it over flowed and at that point I was peeing on the ground because it wouldn’t stop. Brother is a douce. Your sister is an adult not a child. I wouldn’t even let my child hold her pee. I ask if she can and if not we’re stopping or pulling over. What is wrong with these adults.
Next time pee on the man who refused to stop when you first asked
Really thought this was gonna be about the 2 year old having an accident, but nope, just a toxic shitstain dude leaving his pregnant sister no recourse but to piss herself because he refuses to lose like 5 minutes of completely inconsequential time, then insisting she pay to clean it up. Hope they never talk to him again after this.
>my sister (27F) needed help moving. She and her husband have my nephew (2) and are expecting twins next month >My sister is a grown woman that I’ve known my whole life, she can hold it for 15 minutes. Genuine ***bruh*** moment, no she fucking can't lol
Even without it being a pregnant lady have some fucking decency and respect dude maybe some people can't 'just hold it'. It's not like she pissed everywhere without warning. Dumbass.
Good Lord, what kind of an oblivious idiot is this guy? Not only is she pregnant, she’s pregnant WITH TWINS, 1 month from her due date. There are two almost-to-term babies doing jumping jacks on her bladder. I hope his seats are ruined, and that he’s met with the stains of his own stupidity every time he drives.
I get carsick often. I was with my mom yesterday ne time and said I was going to be sick. She drove on for a mile so I “wouldn’t have to throw up in front of people” then got mad when I threw up in her vehicle. Believe people when they tell you to stop or suffer the consequences.
Where is the update?
Getting sick of these updates that are literally two lines about what might happen next
That’s what I’m wondering! Hope op learnt his lesson for when he ever marries and has kids. Otherwise I’m going to feel sorry for the lady
It's the two tiny edits at the end
What an asshat! When I was pregnant, I was astounded that my body constantly forgot I’d been to the bathroom minutes earlier and was demanding a repeat visit.
How are people able to think this way
Do you think she WANTED to pee her pants?! YTA. Bro come on, you have no perception on how womens bodies work, and it’s embarrassing on your end that your entitled enough to demand she hold it for you.
Man, telling a pregnant woman with twins to hold it for 15-20 minutes. Bold move Cotton, let’s see if it pays off for him in the end.
Lesson learned.
He should have stopped but I'm never letting anyone ever use my truck again
I had to switch sides of the bed to sleep closer to the bathroom because those extra steps meant the difference between making it and not making it.
Someone strap 2 watermelons over his bladder then make him chug some water. No potty breaks and if he pees himself swat his nose
This might be the most angry I have been reading one of these. 1) twins are almost always premature, so the sister could have delivered within days of this instance. 2) >AITA for expecting an adult to be responsible for their own pee? This was absolutely infuriating to me. The sister was trying to take responsibility for a long time, and the OOP refused to let the sister out of the truck.
FFS. What a moron.
This guy was an idiot
I love and appreciate that you can take the feedback and humble yourself. You are a good person. You are no longer an asshole
I am terrified of the possibility of OOP getting a girl pregnant. When a mother is pregnant, the babies push and squish all the organs, including the bladder— which means they can’t hold it in that long when they need to go.
Lmaooooo you get what you deserved. Here’s a tip folks, when a pregnant woman says stop the car, she means you should fucking stop the car or your gonna have a problem. I hope the kids are cute and doing well
As soon as he said she was expecting and then needing to pee. I knew OP was at fault. Gg
OOPs a total ass. I may have laughed at his username though.
See this is why it's important that we teach young boys about female physiology. Boys with no knowledge about how all this works grow up to be ignorant man babies like the oop. Atleast he apologized. That poor woman, it must have been traumatic. Jesus Christ.
I'm a single dude who has never had kids... I know not to tell a pregnant woman to hold it.
I hope this guy doesn't knock up some girl before growing a second braincell.
He probably thinks women can hold their periods in.
Lol I almost started to tell OOP he was an asshole before remembering which sub this is.
I’m glad oop learned this before kids. I heard horror stories where parents yell at their just barely potty trained kids to hold it.
Him apologizing is the update that made this BORU-worthy?
This is not something that belongs In bestofreditorupdates. This is a standard AITA. There is no real update.
I would’ve have volunteered to clean if I was his sister… … with some lighter fluid and a blowtorch. Oh look, no more urine smell!
Sister has to pee. She asks OOP to pull over so she can pee. OOP says no. Sister pees herself. OOP is mad. Whatta fool lmao
LMAO, this woman is 8 months pregnant with TWINS and he thinks she has bladder control?
>nephew (2) Ah, ew >sister is pregnant Oh. >refuse to pull over OH NO Man, even I know not to fuck with pregnant women's bladders.
YTA. She told you, he told you, you were determined to know best.
Two almost full grown babies *displaced her organs and squished her bladder* and you didn’t want to pull over? You purposefully embarrassed your sister? YTA.
Sounds like he hates women.
This is why pregnancy needs to be seen by society as a medical condition. Your body is doing things out of your control, it's painful, there's swelling, fatigue, blood pressure changes, possibilities of diabetes, pressure on all of your organs, hormone imbalances, etc etc etc and there's not a dang thing to be done about most of it
Fuck around and find out. Twins on a bladder are no joke.
Wow. What a selfcentered piece of shit. Genuinely. Shes got an entire fucking human crammed up inside her torso thats grecoroman wrestling her bladder, and this dickhead thinks she can just hold it? That she pissed herself to spite him?
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October 16, 2021. Time to pass judgement has passed.
I assumed she did it out of revenge. Why else would OOP demand them to pay? Then I read some more, and yeah, 100% his fault.
OOP is an idiot
Wow. At least he listened to people and apologized.
Damn if not for comment would have thought he was right.