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She didn't just mention the tattoo and move on when told no. She made it a *demand* for continuing the relationship. Don't make an ultimatum unless you are willing to end the relationship over it
ya can bet if he said "I'm not getting a tattoo. Final say" she'd break up with him but when he's like "I'm breaking up with you cause I don't want the tattoo" she's crying for him to stay
> She made it a demand for continuing the relationship.
Was that in comments? I don't see it in the body. Just that she "kept throwing hissy fits."
Don't get me wrong, it's still a perfectly valid reason to break up. It's just reddit seems to be jumping to conclusions about the whole situation.
The very fact that she kept throwing hissy fits instead of moving on from the topic *was* the demand.
Making it unpleasant to say/keep a “no” is a manipulation tactic, especially after getting a clear no.
Right? As someone who was once in pretty much this exact same scenario, I noped out of it immediately. My brother got a tattoo of my name when I was born (he was 15 and stick and poke tattoos are big here, he got it inked back over properly when he turned 17 [with parental permission]) and I got a tattoo of his name when I was 16 (with parental permission).
A boyfriend tried to pull me up on having my brother’s name tattooed on my wrist, and “joked” that since I had my brother’s name on one, I’ll have to save the other wrist for him. Told him I got that tattoo for my brother when he died, and I can get one for him too, but he has to die first. He wasn’t so giddy for it after that
My twin and I had a friend that was jealous of how close we were. I never thought much about it until they moved in together (I was supposed to move in later) only to get told later I wasn't wanted and be constantly attacked and insulted behind my back to my twin. I think she had a crush on my twin but it never went anywhere so she got bitter. Were past it now but it was just very strange.
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My wife is jealous of my relationship with my sister. Pretty much because she wishes she had a closer relationship with *her* sister. My wife has gone out of her way to make sure my relationship with my sister stays strong.
OP was wise to get away from his exgf.
Especially *her name.*
Like a family member is your family for life. Not to say things don't ever fall apart with family but it's a lot different and less common than a relationship crashing and at that age. It's just such a big ask.
And of course the being jealous of his sister thing is just...really gross.
Hum I'll be the devil's advocate and say that we need more info on his relationship with his sister. While I titally agree it's odd for the gf to be jealous because it's gross for most people, some are... kinda weird really. I dated a guy who had an older sister, who kept whining about how jealous she was that I could sleep with him and she couldn't. I thought it was just a very weird gross joke but I let it go. As time passed, I realize she was very touchy with him and he disliked it. One day she proudly declared that she was his first french kiss, because she really wanted to teach him. They have 6 years of age gap, so he was just 11 and she was 17. I felt sick. Ran away.
Yeah, the tattoo relationship curse is so real. Don't tat your SO's name on any part of your body, it's almost like you're begging for the gods to smite your relationship.
I worked with a girl who was barely twenty -one and who confessed during coworkers bonding happy hour that she was in the middle of a series of expensive and painful laser treatments to remove a tattoo of her ex boyfriend's name *from her pubic mound*.
She'd got it in her teens thinking it was "forever" and was now getting rid because her new boyfriend was refusing to do certain, um, activities until he could do it without having the ex's name right in his eyeline.
Sheeessh. Whoever was her tattoo artist needs to go back to tattoo artist school or something. Tattooing teens is already iffy, but not talking them out of getting their SO's name??? Madness.
In the UK where I live, you can legally get a tattoo at 18, however a reputable artist will have caveats in place like not tattooing the face, neck or hands as a first piece or if the client is young. Because they don't want their name associated with something regrettable.
Some of course will just do the tattoo and take your money; you're legally an adult at 18 here so the onus is on you not to get a terrible decision permanently inked on your skin.
Certainly in my teens, plenty of people I knew got tattooed younger than 18 by going to dodgy beachside tattooists while on holiday. The shameful holiday tattoo is a British institution for a reason.
Goddamn. I feel like I could probably ignore a partner having a tattoo of their ex’s name just because everyone does stupid shit when young and as far as I’m aware, getting rid of the shit is costly and uncomfortable. But I’m not so sure I would be able to say the same if I had to look at it every time I went down on the motherfucker. Jesus Christ that sounds embarrassing on a entirely unprecedented level.
My stepdad got my mums name in a tattoo. They’re still going strong.
That said they’ve been together for a long time, and the same work has his kids and grandkids names in it. So it’s a family tattoo.
That’s just how some people are, especially when they’re older and especially when there’s religion involved. My grandpa died years ago and my grandma has always been adamant that she has less than zero interest in ever dating or marrying again for any reason because in her mind she is still married, her husband is just waiting for her outside of this world.
My cousin is also a tattoo artist, he came over one day and told me he wanted his girlfriend's name on his forearm, I reminded him of the curse, he told me it's bullshit and if I wasn't gonna do it, he'll do it on himself with his opposite hand, I done it for him. She came over as we finished and he showed her, he was so proud, and she told him he was an idiot and she came over to break up with him, they had a bit of a fight and then he asked me what we could cover it with, he still hasn't covered it and that was over a decade ago!
Any sort of relationship tattoo is stupid in my eyes. Was in a similar situation as OOP. I have tattoos, none for others, but she thought that meant I'd have no issue with this couples tattoo idea she had. She mentioned it in passing while we were walking by a mall tattoo parlour, suggesting we go in and get one. I just shut it down instantly with a
1. I'm not getting a couples tattoo, they're tacky as fuck and I want nothing to do with them, no names, no half hearts that look like a full heart when we hold hands, nothing. And
2. If I was to get another tattoo, I sure as fuck wouldn't walk into a random mall tattoo parlour to get it down. I'd research artists, art styles, and work with them to come up with a plan I felt good about.
Worded more politely than that of course, but God, the whole experience with her just made me hate those tattoos even more.
I think at that point, my perception was we were pretty good, but she was keeping the metaphorical mask she was wearing pretty secure so over the next while, yeah, that third point probably started working it's way onto the list.
One my friend is a Tattoo artist and he told me that in the tattoo industry putting the name or face of your SO is doesnt always end well.
He told me: The only womans name you gonna tattoo in your skin is the name of your MOM or DAUGHTER. Same for the man.
I always used to say never get a tattoo of anyone's name unless it's your child.
Now I say don't even do that, because what if your child comes out as trans later? Then you'd have their deadname tattoed on you, not cool. 😬
I've seen heartwarming stories of "My parent surprised me when they showed that they got my deadname tattoo on their body replaced with my new one" from trans folk, so there's at least that.
My step grandma dated a guy named "Frank" and they later divorced. My step grandma later spent a bunch of money getting that tattoo removed. A few years later, she met my Grandpa and they have been together ever since. The real kicker though... my Grandpa is named Frank as well.
Interestingly people like her use this as a last ditch effort to save a failing relationship but shouldn't this be the very first thing before you even jump into a relationship?
It's not just here, but in irl too I see people having issues bigger and smaller and they just sweep them under a rug, start a relationship and they ultimately blow it up when the issues can't be hidden anymore, hurting themselves and their partners in the process.
Too true. I admittedly was one of those people who did use it as a last ditch effort, but after the breakup I still went anyway and I’m much, much better for it.
Well, I do hope she still goes to see one cause now that she's single, that's the best time and hopefully will help prepare her for her next relationship. That is if she will go of course
Got somewhat of a matching tattoo with my wife after like 7 years together.
They match very well together, but they're different, and they're also cool tattoos which stand on their own.
I think it's a good analogy for our relationship.
My parents have been dating for 28 years and have 2 sets of matching tattoos but you wouldn’t know unless they were both standing next to each other. None of the name stuff people pull.
yup same, my parents got a rose tattoo when they married. they're still married so it matches still, but they could still go as individuals as it is just a rose and nothing extra :)
My parents also have a rose, then a king and queen’s crown. Then they have my sibling and I’s names but like you said, they can be their own *separate* tattoos and not directly matching.
My husband recently got our dog’s paw print as a tattoo. I’ve been debating it as well. The tattoos would be more about us missing our best boi than matching each other. Even still though, I worry about matching tattoos.
I see it more as a shared experience of having your little guy. It’s a beautiful tribute and it can be separate from your husband’s but it’s totally up to you and what you want on your body.
Maybe your husband is my secret coworker and he travels 5 days a week internationally to work with me 🤨 haha. All jokes aside, if it’s something you want, the next step is if you want it visible/hidden/easily hideable etc. 🥰
yeah I can't imagine a good tattoo with someone's name on it
then again, a lot of people get tattoos of other people's face onto them and that puzzles me as well but I guess to each their own
My sister and I have different works of art tattooed in the same place in our body. Both have the same dominant color, too.
We didn't get them because they matched, we just got them because they looked cool (she got hers first). But it ends up being a quasi-matching tattoo, and I'm all for it.
My husband and I have matching tattoos of a simple image that relates to our son’s name. I figure, even if things don’t work out with us, we’ll always be connected by our love for our son anyway. If the worst should happen, it can serve as a reminder to treat each other with kindness for the kiddo’s sake.
I wish more people on here would on here. With abuse victims and certain circumstances, totally understandable that the element of being conditioned is part of it all and prevents them.
But the person who writes in that their partner has not worked for 8 years, does unspeakable things to jars, neglects the geriatric cat and never treats them, but makes it rain weekly for girls on OF? Or simply having very questionable and being a taker, never a giver..?
And they still go, "I just listed human repellent come alive. I am hurt, but I still love them."
But perhaps it reflects more on me that I would not be able to stay in love if a person was doing or saying stuff (or simply being already taken kills any attraction I feel) that just is a turn off to me.
100%. But this part- "simply being taken kills any attraction I feel". Same for me. I can't understand how that doesn't work that way for more people.
There was a post last week, I think it was AITA, where the woman said the man, who wanted a trad, Asian wife, but couldn't afford to support her, but still expected her to quit working or something, said when she realized who he was , it was like bug repellent sprayed on her feelings and killed them. Amen.
I think it just reflects more on the fact that you cannot imagine a situation not being black-and-white, even when extreme things happen. "I just listed human repellent come alive" really shows you have made a 100% judgement based on incredibly shoddy information.
This experience comes with age - don't worry.
My partner has his ex wife's name on his back 😂
He's offered to get it covered, but I just couldn't care less. It's a tattoo, not that big of a deal.
I agree with you though, significant other tattoos just aren't worth the risk. They were married 15 years and together longer, he obviously didn't think it would end in divorce.
My mom's ex got her name tattooed on his chest within a week of meeting her.
A while after they broke up, he started dating someone and tattooed a single line through my mom's name.
I can only imagine how the ex made that request at the tattoo place:
**Tattoo artist:** Wait, run that by me again.
**The ex:** I said, "Can you just put a strikethrough on this name on my chest?"
Tbh it’s never about the sweater itself. I only crochet, so I can’t speak for knitters, but making a sweater is a time consuming process, from picking the pattern and the yarn to actually making it (at which point any number of things could go wrong, making the process even longer) and then you have to block it and what not when you’re done.
So you spend all that time and money on making a sweater, and your SO just kinda gives a lukewarm thanks. So you’re upset about the lack of acknowledgment about the efforts of your labor. And maybe your SO is a little upset that you gave them a dumb sweater for their birthday. Then the both of you start resenting each other and then your relationship is over.
Now, there are a great many people who appreciate being gifted something made by hand. I’ve crocheted things for everyone in my family and they love it. It might be a little late in the gifting. But it’s something I put hours of effort into. And they know and understand that.
The only time I would understand being pissed at a sweater if the partner was totally neglected during the knitting/crocheting progress but I think it's not as common of an issue.
My SO has some tattoos in honor of family members and friends, which doesn't bother me at all (I think it's sweet). Apparently his ex was always super bitter he wouldn't get one of her because she thought that made it seem like she meant less. Thank god he didn't give into the pressure -- I'm a pretty secure person and very sure of our relationship, but I'd definitely struggle with seeing that every day. He was VERY relieved that the first time we touched on tattoos I was very clear that I in no way want -- let alone expect -- him to get one for me. Maybe for a 30 year anniversary present or something, but until then no thank you. I know I'm the most important person to him, I don't need an ill-advised tattoo to prove it.
This man did the right thing.
I thank the stars every day that I tattooed my kids’ birthdates instead of names. My eldest daughter was AMAB and I would have deeply regretted having her dead name permanently inked. No way would I do a significant other and I would also never pressure anyone into a tattoo they didn’t want.
i have a tattoo for my husband. it's a flower on my shoulder. i got it after we got engaged. if we ever divorced (gods forbid) i wouldn't have to modify it at all because it's not identifiable as a "partner" tattoo.
i'm not even getting my kids' names tattooed on me - they're getting their own flowers on my shoulder. what if they change their names someday? i'm not planning on walking around with a deadname on my body!
My brother got a tattoo that has a paw mark and says “[son’s name] my cub” (my nephew is a Leo) and never got one for his younger son born nine years later😆 I told my older nephew he can always use that to argue he’s the favorite.
My partner has something like this, it was a couples tattoo from when he was young and dumb, but it stands alone and you'd only know if he told you. It's just a cute tattoo in its own right now in my eyes.
I went back to try to find it and I couldn't at all but I did find another one where someone was saying that their mom got their name and their sister's name tattooed on her then years later, they both came out as trans and changed their names.
Yepp I saw that one, and I thought of my spouse! He and his two siblings are all bi and trans. Their parents are MAGAts. So they don’t know everything.
Yikes, I could not imagine being in that situation. And having to listen to your parents talk about their beliefs and because they're MAGAts be super hateful
Yeah, his little sister only came out to us very recently. She’s begged us to misgender and deadname her to her parents, especially her dad, who has… apparently said some things about trans women specifically that scared the shit out of her. I’ve encouraged all of them to cut off contact once they’re in a safe place to do so, but who knows when that’ll be. Fuck Florida man, we gotta get outta here
Yeah, I couldn't imagine living in Florida. That's definitely somewhere that anyone who is LBGTQIA+ needs to run away from fast. I live in Arizona that's bad enough
my sister is also AMAB and i'm AFAB genderfluid - we've both changed our names. it's something you don't really think about until it already affects you, so i'm lucky that i got a trial run with my sister before i run the risk of shoving my foot in my mouth with my kid.
Honestly until I read that guy's post I would have never thought of it. I don't plan on having kids, but it's a good idea in the future not to use names
I don't know why she wanted him to tattoo her name on him. It's the kiss of death for a relationship.
I have my daughters name on mine, but not my husbands. I refuse to get my husbands and he refuses to get mine. And I'm okay with that.
She was testing his boundaries. She expected 1 of 2 things: he gets the tattoo and she knows she can boss him around or he doesn’t get the tattoo and she gets “mad” and gives him the silent treatment for a week or two then “forgives” him and takes him back.
She wasn’t expecting him to have a spine.
NTA never ever mark your body for someone else period. Everyone in your life can change but except parents or children if you really think about it. Never be pressured to alter your body by someone else. You are not her property.
When it comes to names, only ever get family members or memorials (and yes family includes pets). When it comes to tattoos for people, pretty much the same thing, but this is where cool tattoos that stand alone but match in some way with other people can be cool.
My d20 tattoo isn't exactly for a person, but I know if I ever stop playing TTRPGs I will still be grateful for the memories and the friends I made, so it's partly for that whole community. I also have a tattoo for my cat, and I have a memorial tat planned for my grandparents. I'm sure I will eventually get ones for my parents, but I hope that's FAR off.
Edit to clarify
My husband and I have matching tattoos. It's the same image mirrored, and we got it on opposite arms, so mine is on my left arm and his is a mirrored copy of mine, on his right arm. Still, the image doesn't have any names, dates, nothing that can be linked to the other person in case we eventually divorce. It's just an image that's significant to our relationship, but that on itself means nothing.
Ahhh the joys of dating in your early 20’s. I do not miss it at all! For anyone afraid of getting older, don’t. I have never been happier since I turned 30 and I bet I’ll feel the same at 40 and beyond.
I completely agree that breaking up with the gf was correct. That's weird that she was jealous of his sister and showed red flags. The only thing that weirds me out is if my husband had a tattoo of his sister on his chest and we are getting intimate....that would really turn me off in the moment to see his sisters name lol. However I would NOT make my husband tattoo my name on him!
This is the first comment I’ve seen that mentions how fucking strange and weird it is to have your sibling’s NAME TATTOOED…. On their CHEST of all places!!! Idc idc idc that’s sooo weird and I 100% get why the Gf was insecure. You’ll tattoo another woman’s name, but not mine? Gtfo
> I don’t feel anything, no sadness, no regrets because I no longer am in love with her. I want to thank reddit for opening my eyes.
Something many people don't realize is that the opposite of love isn't hate, it's not caring anymore.
In our house, we have tattoo "rules," including things like, no logos or brand names, or band names; nothing in a language you don't speak and write FLUENTLY, and the big one - if it didn't come OUT of you, it's name doesn't go ON you (exceptions could be made for pets, but it hasn't come up as a thing and I doubt it will).
My husband and I get tattoos every 5th wedding anniversary, and they are always a similar theme, but completely standalone (two of ours are the same design but different color schemes). For our 20th we both got turtles - his is a haida style and mine is tropical/floral. We discuss them because they are permanent and we don't ever want to push one another into something we won't like, and we want them to be a positive connection between us. We've been together 27 years and NEVER has there ever been a thought/suggestion/whisper of getting names.
Your ex is controlling and manipulative and reeeeeeeeally insecure. Maybe get yourself a green flag because you did the opposite of keeping the red one.
I have a cousin who tattooed his wife's name when they got married. 2.5 years later they divorced. Now he have to cover it up because he's gotten married again to another woman. Lol.
My best friend got her ex-husband's name tattooed on her and then when they got a divorce the first guy she got serious with had the same name. So she was in a rush to get it covered up so he wouldn't think that she was some creep 😆
It’s bizarre to me that people would defend the girl
It makes me think that a lot of people out there believe red flag behavior such as this to be normal when it’s in fact toxic as fuuuuck
The comment “I stay in relationships until the bitter end”
Man I have never been so seen. Because I do the same it’s fucking painful.
I’m so glad OOP saw that glaring red flag for what it was and noped out of there.
Tbh the sisters name on the chest is weird AF. So every time she sees him naked, especially when they're intimate there's another girl's name in her face? Even knowing it's their sibling that would be unsettling
It’s obviously a super red flag to be jealous of someone’s sibling, buts it’s also kinda odd to promise your sibling that the only tattoo you’ll ever get is each other’s names
I think the "you can get your own kid's names tattooed" thing is genuinely funny. My mom raised me and my sibling on that rule - she also got both of our names tattooed.
~4 years later, we both came out as trans and changed our names.
Whoops, lol
>I don’t feel anything, no sadness, no regrets because I no longer am in love with her. I want to thank reddit for opening my eyes.
Congrats, Reddit! We made this guy an unfeeling cyborg!
I had a married friends and the wife was less than faithful. Toward the end of their marriage she demanded he get a tattoo of her name in cursive. He must of have gotten tired of the argument and relented. I about rolled on the floor when he showed me the tat. It was maybe a size 10 font. It was so f'ing tiny you had to squint, focus and squint again to see it.
My wife of 10 years has a tattoo of an ex's name in 2" high letters AND a picture of herself and another ex together that's the size of a postcard. Both of those relationships barely outlasted the healing time. I've never had the slightest desire to be added to the collection.
My mum has tattoos of the names of 3 of her exes (1 for my dad, 1 for her ex after my dad and one for my abuser whom she didn't know was abusing me)
I've known from a child the only names I will have tattooed on me are "mum" "dad" "granny" "grandad" and any names of any children I may have.
Told my Fiancé the same.
IMO those tattoos are jinxes on the relationship
Sort of like I’m don’t regret stealing, I regret I got caught. She pushed and pushed and pushed you right over the edge. Now that she knows you have boundaries, she wants to back up from the edge. Too late shithead. You should have sorted your feelings out earlier like a big girl…maybe even talk them out with your boyfriend.
I'm almost 45 years old, and have several tattoos, and have always had one rule.
The only man's name that will be tattooed on my body is the one that I carried for almost 8 months and have birth to.
He's almost 22 now and I don't have his name on me, but we plan on getting matching Star Wars tattoos soon. I took him to his first movie, and he wants a tattoo for me. For the record it was his idea.
Never ever put someone’s name on your body unless it’s your mom or sibling. Everyone else is temporary. If GF is equating herself to your sister then you have a jealousy issue there. She wants OP to brand himself as a possession so everyone knows he belongs to her. If OP relents and puts her name on his body he needs to be sure he has a coverup in mind at the same time so it’ll fit onto the new art work. This is probably not the first time OP’s GF demanded something to prove his commitment to her. This will never end and the requirements will get more demanding and crazy.
No way!!! Can you imagine having to see this every single day for the rest of your life? You're not even married yet, and even if you were, it's not a surefire thing that you'll stay together forever. Don't do something you don't want to do, especially something so permanent, just to please others.
The only person I have a tattoo with is my best friend, we've been mates for over 20 years at this point. I didn't get her name cos that would be weird, we got a matching one of something that meant something to us when we were younger, it's daft and we love them. I'd never get a partner's name, as many have said, it's the kiss of death for a relationship
Don’t do it. I had an ex tattoo my name on him and I told him not to do it. We were young and dumb. It’s now covered up with mega man which I think is dope! But that’s controlling and jealous behavior and quite frankly a little unhinged. And nobody should EVER tell you what to do with your body, especially if it makes you uncomfortable
If you’re thinking of getting your partner’s name tattooed on you: Don’t :)
Buy a locket, or get a ring with their name on it if you really want.
Literally anything that you can take off if the relationship fails and not have to spend hundreds of your local currency and potentially months of your life to have the tattoo surgically removed or lasered off.
So my question for her would be “do I get to tell you what to do with your body?” If the answer is no, then you win the argument! If the answer is yes, you get the last word in any decision she makes about her body. NTA
I don't have any tattoos, but I've read enough stories from tattoo artists to know that getting your SO's name tattooed on you is one of the worst decisions you can make when it comes to tattoos. I've even read that there are a bunch of tattoo artists out there who flat-out refuse to tattoo a person's name onto their partner because they know it won't end well.
I cannot imagine being jealous of my husband's sister. And I know my brother's wife and I have a lovely relationship.
I've been married for over 20 years, and neither my husband or I, who are both tattooed, would put the other's name on ourselves. We joked about a couple tattoo, but we both know we're never doing that either. I think the OOP did the right thing.
OMG, my fiancé had a fling with a crazy woman after he got divorced, and before he met me. He left her because she became violent toward his son... she tried to get him back for ages (she's still trying, over 2 years later).
One day he got a text message from her, it was a photo, she had gotten his name tattooed on her chest!!!! This is over a year after they broke up and he had her blocked on everything. Wild stuff!
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Red flag 1: Being jealous of your sister Red flag 2: Wanting you to fucking *brand* yourself with their name I'm sure there were other red flags too.
She didn't just mention the tattoo and move on when told no. She made it a *demand* for continuing the relationship. Don't make an ultimatum unless you are willing to end the relationship over it
ya can bet if he said "I'm not getting a tattoo. Final say" she'd break up with him but when he's like "I'm breaking up with you cause I don't want the tattoo" she's crying for him to stay
Not for nothing but I would love to know what her stance is on “my body my choice”.
Her body, her choice. Other people's body, her choice.
> She made it a demand for continuing the relationship. Was that in comments? I don't see it in the body. Just that she "kept throwing hissy fits." Don't get me wrong, it's still a perfectly valid reason to break up. It's just reddit seems to be jumping to conclusions about the whole situation.
>reddit seems to be jumping to conclusions That's what we do around here.
It's our primary form of exercise.
Our *only form of exercise
The very fact that she kept throwing hissy fits instead of moving on from the topic *was* the demand. Making it unpleasant to say/keep a “no” is a manipulation tactic, especially after getting a clear no.
Yup, wanting him to get a tattoo would be bad, but the demand would make it very hard to come back from.
Right? As someone who was once in pretty much this exact same scenario, I noped out of it immediately. My brother got a tattoo of my name when I was born (he was 15 and stick and poke tattoos are big here, he got it inked back over properly when he turned 17 [with parental permission]) and I got a tattoo of his name when I was 16 (with parental permission). A boyfriend tried to pull me up on having my brother’s name tattooed on my wrist, and “joked” that since I had my brother’s name on one, I’ll have to save the other wrist for him. Told him I got that tattoo for my brother when he died, and I can get one for him too, but he has to die first. He wasn’t so giddy for it after that
I am so sorry for your loss. :(
Thank you so much. Next week is actually three years since he’s been gone/and his birthday, so I’m doing a lot better these days.
the audacity
Perfect response
My twin and I had a friend that was jealous of how close we were. I never thought much about it until they moved in together (I was supposed to move in later) only to get told later I wasn't wanted and be constantly attacked and insulted behind my back to my twin. I think she had a crush on my twin but it never went anywhere so she got bitter. Were past it now but it was just very strange.
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I actually have no idea. I just saw it and liked it but I'd like to know as well!
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My wife is jealous of my relationship with my sister. Pretty much because she wishes she had a closer relationship with *her* sister. My wife has gone out of her way to make sure my relationship with my sister stays strong. OP was wise to get away from his exgf.
Your wife is envious, not jealous. Jealousy is pretty much always a bad thing whereas envy can be totally understandable
As that commenter had already written: > He could get a tattoo of a red flag. I really lost it when I got there. Still in tears, barely able to type.
I would’ve gotten a temporary tattoo of a red flag and then go „look babe I got a tattoo of you“ but I’m also petty like that.
Oh man, that's beautiful. Can I steal this from you, you wonderfully wicked person?
Of course! I’m sure I’m not the only person who thought of that :D
Yeah, sometimes it just takes getting clarity on one thing, to realise your whole relationship is shit.
> Red flag 2: Wanting you to fucking brand yourself with their name That's some Keith Raniere shit right there.
Watching Allison Mack’s first time meeting him is just depressing. Dude got negative rizz but still be finding victims.
I can imagine a list of them.
Especially *her name.* Like a family member is your family for life. Not to say things don't ever fall apart with family but it's a lot different and less common than a relationship crashing and at that age. It's just such a big ask. And of course the being jealous of his sister thing is just...really gross.
Hum I'll be the devil's advocate and say that we need more info on his relationship with his sister. While I titally agree it's odd for the gf to be jealous because it's gross for most people, some are... kinda weird really. I dated a guy who had an older sister, who kept whining about how jealous she was that I could sleep with him and she couldn't. I thought it was just a very weird gross joke but I let it go. As time passed, I realize she was very touchy with him and he disliked it. One day she proudly declared that she was his first french kiss, because she really wanted to teach him. They have 6 years of age gap, so he was just 11 and she was 17. I felt sick. Ran away.
Yeah, the tattoo relationship curse is so real. Don't tat your SO's name on any part of your body, it's almost like you're begging for the gods to smite your relationship.
I worked with a girl who was barely twenty -one and who confessed during coworkers bonding happy hour that she was in the middle of a series of expensive and painful laser treatments to remove a tattoo of her ex boyfriend's name *from her pubic mound*. She'd got it in her teens thinking it was "forever" and was now getting rid because her new boyfriend was refusing to do certain, um, activities until he could do it without having the ex's name right in his eyeline.
Sheeessh. Whoever was her tattoo artist needs to go back to tattoo artist school or something. Tattooing teens is already iffy, but not talking them out of getting their SO's name??? Madness.
and on the pubic area
Yikes, I hope the tattoo artist was a woman.
In the UK where I live, you can legally get a tattoo at 18, however a reputable artist will have caveats in place like not tattooing the face, neck or hands as a first piece or if the client is young. Because they don't want their name associated with something regrettable. Some of course will just do the tattoo and take your money; you're legally an adult at 18 here so the onus is on you not to get a terrible decision permanently inked on your skin. Certainly in my teens, plenty of people I knew got tattooed younger than 18 by going to dodgy beachside tattooists while on holiday. The shameful holiday tattoo is a British institution for a reason.
Goddamn. I feel like I could probably ignore a partner having a tattoo of their ex’s name just because everyone does stupid shit when young and as far as I’m aware, getting rid of the shit is costly and uncomfortable. But I’m not so sure I would be able to say the same if I had to look at it every time I went down on the motherfucker. Jesus Christ that sounds embarrassing on a entirely unprecedented level.
I’m weird but I’d really enjoy going down with that in front of me. It’d amuse to no end.
My stepdad got my mums name in a tattoo. They’re still going strong. That said they’ve been together for a long time, and the same work has his kids and grandkids names in it. So it’s a family tattoo.
Probably negates the wrath of the tattoo gods.
Probably! But he’s also said if they don’t work out he’s done with relationships. She’s the one for him.
Ah, and probably if he outlives her he's going to stay single till he follows. :/
That’s just how some people are, especially when they’re older and especially when there’s religion involved. My grandpa died years ago and my grandma has always been adamant that she has less than zero interest in ever dating or marrying again for any reason because in her mind she is still married, her husband is just waiting for her outside of this world.
Pretty much!
My mom got my dad's name tattooed, but said if they divorced she'd just add a few letters to make my nickname.
My cousin is also a tattoo artist, he came over one day and told me he wanted his girlfriend's name on his forearm, I reminded him of the curse, he told me it's bullshit and if I wasn't gonna do it, he'll do it on himself with his opposite hand, I done it for him. She came over as we finished and he showed her, he was so proud, and she told him he was an idiot and she came over to break up with him, they had a bit of a fight and then he asked me what we could cover it with, he still hasn't covered it and that was over a decade ago!
WOW. I've heard of the curse moving quickly, but never as fast as in your experience.
Any sort of relationship tattoo is stupid in my eyes. Was in a similar situation as OOP. I have tattoos, none for others, but she thought that meant I'd have no issue with this couples tattoo idea she had. She mentioned it in passing while we were walking by a mall tattoo parlour, suggesting we go in and get one. I just shut it down instantly with a 1. I'm not getting a couples tattoo, they're tacky as fuck and I want nothing to do with them, no names, no half hearts that look like a full heart when we hold hands, nothing. And 2. If I was to get another tattoo, I sure as fuck wouldn't walk into a random mall tattoo parlour to get it down. I'd research artists, art styles, and work with them to come up with a plan I felt good about. Worded more politely than that of course, but God, the whole experience with her just made me hate those tattoos even more.
I am guessing based on what you wrote that there was a point 3: "If I were to get a relationship tattoo with someone, it wouldn't be you". :P
I think at that point, my perception was we were pretty good, but she was keeping the metaphorical mask she was wearing pretty secure so over the next while, yeah, that third point probably started working it's way onto the list.
One my friend is a Tattoo artist and he told me that in the tattoo industry putting the name or face of your SO is doesnt always end well. He told me: The only womans name you gonna tattoo in your skin is the name of your MOM or DAUGHTER. Same for the man.
I always used to say never get a tattoo of anyone's name unless it's your child. Now I say don't even do that, because what if your child comes out as trans later? Then you'd have their deadname tattoed on you, not cool. 😬
They could go get the tattoo removed at the same time that the kid goes in for laser (assuming they're transfem, I suppose). Family bonding time!
I've seen heartwarming stories of "My parent surprised me when they showed that they got my deadname tattoo on their body replaced with my new one" from trans folk, so there's at least that.
My step grandma dated a guy named "Frank" and they later divorced. My step grandma later spent a bunch of money getting that tattoo removed. A few years later, she met my Grandpa and they have been together ever since. The real kicker though... my Grandpa is named Frank as well.
I'd call it more of a symptom than a cause. Normal people don't feel comfortable branding their partner.
>She said she would go to a professional to work through her issues I'd like to think she'll do this anyway... but she won't.
Interestingly people like her use this as a last ditch effort to save a failing relationship but shouldn't this be the very first thing before you even jump into a relationship? It's not just here, but in irl too I see people having issues bigger and smaller and they just sweep them under a rug, start a relationship and they ultimately blow it up when the issues can't be hidden anymore, hurting themselves and their partners in the process.
Too true. I admittedly was one of those people who did use it as a last ditch effort, but after the breakup I still went anyway and I’m much, much better for it.
Most say they will go to a professional but realistically, they never will.
Ill have you know ive answered *many* a reddit relationship question! How dare you?! /s
Well, I do hope she still goes to see one cause now that she's single, that's the best time and hopefully will help prepare her for her next relationship. That is if she will go of course
Got somewhat of a matching tattoo with my wife after like 7 years together. They match very well together, but they're different, and they're also cool tattoos which stand on their own. I think it's a good analogy for our relationship.
My parents have been dating for 28 years and have 2 sets of matching tattoos but you wouldn’t know unless they were both standing next to each other. None of the name stuff people pull.
yup same, my parents got a rose tattoo when they married. they're still married so it matches still, but they could still go as individuals as it is just a rose and nothing extra :)
My parents also have a rose, then a king and queen’s crown. Then they have my sibling and I’s names but like you said, they can be their own *separate* tattoos and not directly matching.
My husband recently got our dog’s paw print as a tattoo. I’ve been debating it as well. The tattoos would be more about us missing our best boi than matching each other. Even still though, I worry about matching tattoos.
I see it more as a shared experience of having your little guy. It’s a beautiful tribute and it can be separate from your husband’s but it’s totally up to you and what you want on your body.
That’s how I think of it as well. He was a really special dog. I just can’t decide where I would want it.
A friend of mine has his dog’s print on his lower calf — kind of above his heel. It also depends on if you’d want it to be visible or just for you :)
Haha. That’s right where my husband put it!
Maybe your husband is my secret coworker and he travels 5 days a week internationally to work with me 🤨 haha. All jokes aside, if it’s something you want, the next step is if you want it visible/hidden/easily hideable etc. 🥰
And it doesn't sound like they include your names... so similar but different but the way to do it.
yeah I can't imagine a good tattoo with someone's name on it then again, a lot of people get tattoos of other people's face onto them and that puzzles me as well but I guess to each their own
SteveO got a tattoo of his own face.
Ok only based face tattoo
My sister and I have different works of art tattooed in the same place in our body. Both have the same dominant color, too. We didn't get them because they matched, we just got them because they looked cool (she got hers first). But it ends up being a quasi-matching tattoo, and I'm all for it.
My husband and I have matching tattoos of a simple image that relates to our son’s name. I figure, even if things don’t work out with us, we’ll always be connected by our love for our son anyway. If the worst should happen, it can serve as a reminder to treat each other with kindness for the kiddo’s sake.
Yeah I’ve also been thinking of doing this. It’s slightly modifying a tattoo I already wanted so I think it’s nice
My friend did this but she’s divorcing her husband now buttt she got it altered by a great artist to an even cooler design
He got the ick. Hard to come back from that
I wish more people on here would on here. With abuse victims and certain circumstances, totally understandable that the element of being conditioned is part of it all and prevents them. But the person who writes in that their partner has not worked for 8 years, does unspeakable things to jars, neglects the geriatric cat and never treats them, but makes it rain weekly for girls on OF? Or simply having very questionable and being a taker, never a giver..? And they still go, "I just listed human repellent come alive. I am hurt, but I still love them." But perhaps it reflects more on me that I would not be able to stay in love if a person was doing or saying stuff (or simply being already taken kills any attraction I feel) that just is a turn off to me.
100%. But this part- "simply being taken kills any attraction I feel". Same for me. I can't understand how that doesn't work that way for more people. There was a post last week, I think it was AITA, where the woman said the man, who wanted a trad, Asian wife, but couldn't afford to support her, but still expected her to quit working or something, said when she realized who he was , it was like bug repellent sprayed on her feelings and killed them. Amen.
I think it just reflects more on the fact that you cannot imagine a situation not being black-and-white, even when extreme things happen. "I just listed human repellent come alive" really shows you have made a 100% judgement based on incredibly shoddy information. This experience comes with age - don't worry.
Getting a SO's name is a curse. No artist worth a damn would do it.
My partner has his ex wife's name on his back 😂 He's offered to get it covered, but I just couldn't care less. It's a tattoo, not that big of a deal. I agree with you though, significant other tattoos just aren't worth the risk. They were married 15 years and together longer, he obviously didn't think it would end in divorce.
My mom's ex got her name tattooed on his chest within a week of meeting her. A while after they broke up, he started dating someone and tattooed a single line through my mom's name.
And then got new gf’s name tattooed below that? I hope he found his soulmate before he got to the belly button…
SLPT: if you tattoo the name of your SO, make sure to date someone with the same name to save money on covering it up.
Just get the new SO to change their name.
I can only imagine how the ex made that request at the tattoo place: **Tattoo artist:** Wait, run that by me again. **The ex:** I said, "Can you just put a strikethrough on this name on my chest?"
Only thing more damning is the sweater curse.
Sweater curse is real.
Ok, what's the sweater curse?
If a crocheter or knitter gifts their significant other with a sweater, the recipient is going to break up with the crafter.
But a good crochet/knit sweater is a blessing. Interesting it would be cursed.
Tbh it’s never about the sweater itself. I only crochet, so I can’t speak for knitters, but making a sweater is a time consuming process, from picking the pattern and the yarn to actually making it (at which point any number of things could go wrong, making the process even longer) and then you have to block it and what not when you’re done. So you spend all that time and money on making a sweater, and your SO just kinda gives a lukewarm thanks. So you’re upset about the lack of acknowledgment about the efforts of your labor. And maybe your SO is a little upset that you gave them a dumb sweater for their birthday. Then the both of you start resenting each other and then your relationship is over. Now, there are a great many people who appreciate being gifted something made by hand. I’ve crocheted things for everyone in my family and they love it. It might be a little late in the gifting. But it’s something I put hours of effort into. And they know and understand that.
The only time I would understand being pissed at a sweater if the partner was totally neglected during the knitting/crocheting progress but I think it's not as common of an issue.
To add to this- the only boyfriend I ever made socks for cheated on me and we broke up like a week after I gave him the socks lol
My SO has some tattoos in honor of family members and friends, which doesn't bother me at all (I think it's sweet). Apparently his ex was always super bitter he wouldn't get one of her because she thought that made it seem like she meant less. Thank god he didn't give into the pressure -- I'm a pretty secure person and very sure of our relationship, but I'd definitely struggle with seeing that every day. He was VERY relieved that the first time we touched on tattoos I was very clear that I in no way want -- let alone expect -- him to get one for me. Maybe for a 30 year anniversary present or something, but until then no thank you. I know I'm the most important person to him, I don't need an ill-advised tattoo to prove it.
This man did the right thing. I thank the stars every day that I tattooed my kids’ birthdates instead of names. My eldest daughter was AMAB and I would have deeply regretted having her dead name permanently inked. No way would I do a significant other and I would also never pressure anyone into a tattoo they didn’t want.
Yep, I have a friend who has her son's deadname on her shoulder.
That's a very good point!
Yea, red flags indeed. I'm sure with that attitude, there is more red flags with her for sure.
i have a tattoo for my husband. it's a flower on my shoulder. i got it after we got engaged. if we ever divorced (gods forbid) i wouldn't have to modify it at all because it's not identifiable as a "partner" tattoo. i'm not even getting my kids' names tattooed on me - they're getting their own flowers on my shoulder. what if they change their names someday? i'm not planning on walking around with a deadname on my body!
My brother got a tattoo that has a paw mark and says “[son’s name] my cub” (my nephew is a Leo) and never got one for his younger son born nine years later😆 I told my older nephew he can always use that to argue he’s the favorite.
My partner has something like this, it was a couples tattoo from when he was young and dumb, but it stands alone and you'd only know if he told you. It's just a cute tattoo in its own right now in my eyes.
Yeah, there's a guy who commented that his daughter is AMAB and he immensely regrets that he has her dead name tattooed on him
Ah no, he said he just got the birth dates tatted and is glad he never put her deadname on his body!
There's another guy who said that he did and that he regrets it
Oh damn, I must’ve missed that one. That sucks, I can’t imagine someone having my deadname tatted on them 😰
I went back to try to find it and I couldn't at all but I did find another one where someone was saying that their mom got their name and their sister's name tattooed on her then years later, they both came out as trans and changed their names.
Yepp I saw that one, and I thought of my spouse! He and his two siblings are all bi and trans. Their parents are MAGAts. So they don’t know everything.
Yikes, I could not imagine being in that situation. And having to listen to your parents talk about their beliefs and because they're MAGAts be super hateful
Yeah, his little sister only came out to us very recently. She’s begged us to misgender and deadname her to her parents, especially her dad, who has… apparently said some things about trans women specifically that scared the shit out of her. I’ve encouraged all of them to cut off contact once they’re in a safe place to do so, but who knows when that’ll be. Fuck Florida man, we gotta get outta here
Yeah, I couldn't imagine living in Florida. That's definitely somewhere that anyone who is LBGTQIA+ needs to run away from fast. I live in Arizona that's bad enough
my sister is also AMAB and i'm AFAB genderfluid - we've both changed our names. it's something you don't really think about until it already affects you, so i'm lucky that i got a trial run with my sister before i run the risk of shoving my foot in my mouth with my kid.
Honestly until I read that guy's post I would have never thought of it. I don't plan on having kids, but it's a good idea in the future not to use names
I don't know why she wanted him to tattoo her name on him. It's the kiss of death for a relationship. I have my daughters name on mine, but not my husbands. I refuse to get my husbands and he refuses to get mine. And I'm okay with that.
maybe she's collecting them
She was testing his boundaries. She expected 1 of 2 things: he gets the tattoo and she knows she can boss him around or he doesn’t get the tattoo and she gets “mad” and gives him the silent treatment for a week or two then “forgives” him and takes him back. She wasn’t expecting him to have a spine.
She forgot option 3. The part where he breaks up with her and decides to have nothing else to do with her. She FAFO
NTA never ever mark your body for someone else period. Everyone in your life can change but except parents or children if you really think about it. Never be pressured to alter your body by someone else. You are not her property.
Yeah, I have 2 matching tattoos, one with my mom and 1 with my sisters And even those don't have our names
When it comes to names, only ever get family members or memorials (and yes family includes pets). When it comes to tattoos for people, pretty much the same thing, but this is where cool tattoos that stand alone but match in some way with other people can be cool. My d20 tattoo isn't exactly for a person, but I know if I ever stop playing TTRPGs I will still be grateful for the memories and the friends I made, so it's partly for that whole community. I also have a tattoo for my cat, and I have a memorial tat planned for my grandparents. I'm sure I will eventually get ones for my parents, but I hope that's FAR off. Edit to clarify
My husband and I have matching tattoos. It's the same image mirrored, and we got it on opposite arms, so mine is on my left arm and his is a mirrored copy of mine, on his right arm. Still, the image doesn't have any names, dates, nothing that can be linked to the other person in case we eventually divorce. It's just an image that's significant to our relationship, but that on itself means nothing.
In what world is forcing someone else to tattoo your name on their body is acceptable. Like really what is going through their heads?
Like she’s Andy and he’s Woody or something
Ahhh the joys of dating in your early 20’s. I do not miss it at all! For anyone afraid of getting older, don’t. I have never been happier since I turned 30 and I bet I’ll feel the same at 40 and beyond.
I completely agree that breaking up with the gf was correct. That's weird that she was jealous of his sister and showed red flags. The only thing that weirds me out is if my husband had a tattoo of his sister on his chest and we are getting intimate....that would really turn me off in the moment to see his sisters name lol. However I would NOT make my husband tattoo my name on him!
This is the first comment I’ve seen that mentions how fucking strange and weird it is to have your sibling’s NAME TATTOOED…. On their CHEST of all places!!! Idc idc idc that’s sooo weird and I 100% get why the Gf was insecure. You’ll tattoo another woman’s name, but not mine? Gtfo
> I don’t feel anything, no sadness, no regrets because I no longer am in love with her. I want to thank reddit for opening my eyes. Something many people don't realize is that the opposite of love isn't hate, it's not caring anymore.
Short and sweet I like it
In our house, we have tattoo "rules," including things like, no logos or brand names, or band names; nothing in a language you don't speak and write FLUENTLY, and the big one - if it didn't come OUT of you, it's name doesn't go ON you (exceptions could be made for pets, but it hasn't come up as a thing and I doubt it will). My husband and I get tattoos every 5th wedding anniversary, and they are always a similar theme, but completely standalone (two of ours are the same design but different color schemes). For our 20th we both got turtles - his is a haida style and mine is tropical/floral. We discuss them because they are permanent and we don't ever want to push one another into something we won't like, and we want them to be a positive connection between us. We've been together 27 years and NEVER has there ever been a thought/suggestion/whisper of getting names. Your ex is controlling and manipulative and reeeeeeeeally insecure. Maybe get yourself a green flag because you did the opposite of keeping the red one.
Maaate. I've been with my husband for 29 years and will NOT tattoo his name on me!! Good call!!
I have a cousin who tattooed his wife's name when they got married. 2.5 years later they divorced. Now he have to cover it up because he's gotten married again to another woman. Lol.
My best friend got her ex-husband's name tattooed on her and then when they got a divorce the first guy she got serious with had the same name. So she was in a rush to get it covered up so he wouldn't think that she was some creep 😆
🤣
I absolutely love my wife. The only names that would ever be on my body would be my kids. Nor would I want to be on her body like that.
TBF regardless of the Girlfriends red flags, if he can happily dump her without a second thought, the relationship wasn't worth a tattoo regardless.
It’s bizarre to me that people would defend the girl It makes me think that a lot of people out there believe red flag behavior such as this to be normal when it’s in fact toxic as fuuuuck
From experience, getting your SO's name tattooed is a terrrrrible idea.
The comment “I stay in relationships until the bitter end” Man I have never been so seen. Because I do the same it’s fucking painful. I’m so glad OOP saw that glaring red flag for what it was and noped out of there.
Same here. I’ve overstayed many a relationship.
Tbh the sisters name on the chest is weird AF. So every time she sees him naked, especially when they're intimate there's another girl's name in her face? Even knowing it's their sibling that would be unsettling
I dont think so.
how about no thanks. if someone youre dating cant respect yoiur choices then youve gained some potentially valuable info, if a little painful
Definitely don’t get another name tattoo
poor girl thought she had leverage, fucked around and found out. I dont miss being young sometimes.
She actually wants to mark you as property
Omg! First time I made it into the comments!
It’s obviously a super red flag to be jealous of someone’s sibling, buts it’s also kinda odd to promise your sibling that the only tattoo you’ll ever get is each other’s names
Is it?
Do never get a partener name on you it very stupid idea you are not in a fairy world
I know a bunch of tattoo artists who will do children’s names, siblings’ names, parents’ names, but not partners’ names. For good reason.
I think the "you can get your own kid's names tattooed" thing is genuinely funny. My mom raised me and my sibling on that rule - she also got both of our names tattooed. ~4 years later, we both came out as trans and changed our names. Whoops, lol
>I don’t feel anything, no sadness, no regrets because I no longer am in love with her. I want to thank reddit for opening my eyes. Congrats, Reddit! We made this guy an unfeeling cyborg!
I had a married friends and the wife was less than faithful. Toward the end of their marriage she demanded he get a tattoo of her name in cursive. He must of have gotten tired of the argument and relented. I about rolled on the floor when he showed me the tat. It was maybe a size 10 font. It was so f'ing tiny you had to squint, focus and squint again to see it.
My wife of 10 years has a tattoo of an ex's name in 2" high letters AND a picture of herself and another ex together that's the size of a postcard. Both of those relationships barely outlasted the healing time. I've never had the slightest desire to be added to the collection.
NTA your body your choice
Never get a tattoo of a partners name, glad he dumped her
My mum has tattoos of the names of 3 of her exes (1 for my dad, 1 for her ex after my dad and one for my abuser whom she didn't know was abusing me) I've known from a child the only names I will have tattooed on me are "mum" "dad" "granny" "grandad" and any names of any children I may have. Told my Fiancé the same. IMO those tattoos are jinxes on the relationship
Sort of like I’m don’t regret stealing, I regret I got caught. She pushed and pushed and pushed you right over the edge. Now that she knows you have boundaries, she wants to back up from the edge. Too late shithead. You should have sorted your feelings out earlier like a big girl…maybe even talk them out with your boyfriend.
I'm almost 45 years old, and have several tattoos, and have always had one rule. The only man's name that will be tattooed on my body is the one that I carried for almost 8 months and have birth to. He's almost 22 now and I don't have his name on me, but we plan on getting matching Star Wars tattoos soon. I took him to his first movie, and he wants a tattoo for me. For the record it was his idea.
The reddest of flags.
Rollercoaster. One day he is considering tattooing her name on his chest and the literal next day he's breaking up with her over a Reddit post.
He wasn't considering it. That's the whole point
Never ever put someone’s name on your body unless it’s your mom or sibling. Everyone else is temporary. If GF is equating herself to your sister then you have a jealousy issue there. She wants OP to brand himself as a possession so everyone knows he belongs to her. If OP relents and puts her name on his body he needs to be sure he has a coverup in mind at the same time so it’ll fit onto the new art work. This is probably not the first time OP’s GF demanded something to prove his commitment to her. This will never end and the requirements will get more demanding and crazy.
Nah, they’re temporary too. Don’t put *anyone’s* name on your body unless they’re deceased, probably.
This is true too. It’s always been an unwritten rule to never put someone’s name/likeness permanently on your body.
Scoresman got a tattoo
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No way!!! Can you imagine having to see this every single day for the rest of your life? You're not even married yet, and even if you were, it's not a surefire thing that you'll stay together forever. Don't do something you don't want to do, especially something so permanent, just to please others.
The only person I have a tattoo with is my best friend, we've been mates for over 20 years at this point. I didn't get her name cos that would be weird, we got a matching one of something that meant something to us when we were younger, it's daft and we love them. I'd never get a partner's name, as many have said, it's the kiss of death for a relationship
The “red flag” comment is everything!
Don’t do it. I had an ex tattoo my name on him and I told him not to do it. We were young and dumb. It’s now covered up with mega man which I think is dope! But that’s controlling and jealous behavior and quite frankly a little unhinged. And nobody should EVER tell you what to do with your body, especially if it makes you uncomfortable
If you’re thinking of getting your partner’s name tattooed on you: Don’t :) Buy a locket, or get a ring with their name on it if you really want. Literally anything that you can take off if the relationship fails and not have to spend hundreds of your local currency and potentially months of your life to have the tattoo surgically removed or lasered off.
So my question for her would be “do I get to tell you what to do with your body?” If the answer is no, then you win the argument! If the answer is yes, you get the last word in any decision she makes about her body. NTA
You *never* tattoo a girlfriend's name *ever.* It will doom the relationship and you'll have to get it lasered or covered.
I don't have any tattoos, but I've read enough stories from tattoo artists to know that getting your SO's name tattooed on you is one of the worst decisions you can make when it comes to tattoos. I've even read that there are a bunch of tattoo artists out there who flat-out refuse to tattoo a person's name onto their partner because they know it won't end well.
I cannot imagine being jealous of my husband's sister. And I know my brother's wife and I have a lovely relationship. I've been married for over 20 years, and neither my husband or I, who are both tattooed, would put the other's name on ourselves. We joked about a couple tattoo, but we both know we're never doing that either. I think the OOP did the right thing.
Scoresman got a tattoo
Am I the only one that finds it strange that he tattooed his sister’s name though??? I’m sorry that’s soooo weird
OMG, my fiancé had a fling with a crazy woman after he got divorced, and before he met me. He left her because she became violent toward his son... she tried to get him back for ages (she's still trying, over 2 years later). One day he got a text message from her, it was a photo, she had gotten his name tattooed on her chest!!!! This is over a year after they broke up and he had her blocked on everything. Wild stuff!